In today’s episode, we’re talking about something so many people ask—What if I’m bad at connection? What if I don’t know how to connect? If you’ve ever felt disconnected or unsure how to build meaningful relationships, you’re not alone. We’ll walk through the developmental roots of connection, how it’s learned, and what you can do if it wasn’t modeled for you growing up.
We’ll also explore what real connection looks like in relationships—especially for couples healing after betrayal. You’ll learn why connection isn’t always natural but can absolutely be developed. So if you’ve been wondering if there’s hope to feel truly seen and known by others, stick with us. There’s good news ahead.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🔹 Why most of us start off as bad connectors—and how to get better at it
🔹 How early attachment patterns influence your ability to connect as an adult
🔹 Why connection requires courage, vulnerability, and practice
🔹 The difference between performing connection and real connection
🔹 Simple steps to build deeper, more authentic relationships
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If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out myCourageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection. Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
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