Fyreside Chat Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
I promise not to leave the throne to the fireside
where conversations get heat it. I am your host and
your lioness system be here with you today, on this
November second, twenty twenty five. So grateful to be here

(00:22):
today the Spider. What's all going on in the world today, Guys,
we have to be encouraged. I do want to just
say thank you to everybody who faithfully listens and join
in to view my show. I really really appreciate it.
I started out very nervous and did not believe that

(00:49):
I could do this consistently due to my hearing and
parent But God is good and here I am past
fifty some shows already, and I am excited about what's
to come. I would like to take some time and
acknowledge the fact that, you know, we're in a crisis

(01:13):
with the loss of Snap benefits, and I like to
be aware relatable on all those things, and just let
the listeners know that you're not alone. You know, we're
all in this together. Everybody is trying to make it
and survive, and we have to do our just do

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We'll be a concern one for another and for our neighbors. Okay,
so make sure you check on somebody if you got
two three lows extra bread, check on your neighbor see
if they need bread. Amen. So I'm very excited to
be here today and I wanted to share a resource

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for those that because I too have been a recipient
of Snap benefits and I know what it's like when
you're used to stocking up your fridge and having you know,
your groceries done for the whole month. Thank you for joining,
Missus Stewart. So happy to see you in the chat today,
So glad I can count on you. So yeah, So

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I wanted to give a resource guys, and I'm just
trying to get to it from. It's the d h
AS website and I'm having some trouble accessing it. But
it should be WWWDHS dot State, dot I L dot

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U S and you should be able to go on
there and find your local food pantry backcounty. And I've
said obtained some information on there as to how you
could go about getting support and getting groceries and your refrigerator. Amen.
So I just didn't want to be one that, you know,

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talk about the Lord and talk about God and never
present resources that He has put here in the earth
for us to take advantage of. So yes, I'm excited
today about this topic entitled love t k oh Now
the way things come to me. It's weird because I

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was working and I ended up hearing the lyrics to
the song, and compaired with that was memories and glances
of the times where I had suffered. According to mister
Teddy Pendergraph, pendergraphs, I love TKO so I know that

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in times past I have I have stress that being
a lioness, I advocate for a kings and I stand
with children that I also call cubs and serve them
at a capacity where I show them love and breathe

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life back into them. Hello, heiled, thank you for joining
the chat. Yes, he came right on in and said,
we have to step out on faith and making our
money work for us, as in making good investment for
food and more. Absolutely, I agree with you wholeheartedly. This

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is definitely a faith hour, and you're ahead of me
circause I was getting there to say you better start
exercise of your faith. If you a believer, you already
know what time it is. And if you practice exercise
of your faith on the regular, then you're not new
to this you true, it is, this is what we do.
The just shall live by faith. But with that at

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before I launch off into this content on this evening,
I know that before I read his comment, I was
saying that we have to get to the point where
we get tired of roller coaster rise, we get tired
of cycles, We get tired of the same old thing

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happening over and over again, and then never stop to assess,
Wait a minute, where is this coming from? Why am
I going through this? How did this happen to me?
Sometimes we have to walk backwards. We gotta take we
gotta walk it back to see what door got opened
along the way, what decision did we make to end
up in the situation that we're in. And sometimes we're

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so busy with life and going through life that we
don't stop to assess and think about the things that
we have inflicted upon ourselves. So I just wanted to
say that I want to give a scripture today to
address those of us that I worried. And I know

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I'm kind of starting off a little bit all over
the place because this phone I got is not doing
what I wanted to do. But I'm aa floa with it.
So I wanted to give the scripture for warriors, and
you know those of us that sometimes we just can't

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help it. You trying to figure out where my next
meal gonna come from, how am I gonna make it
through the rest of the month, and so forth. Okay,
So I'm gonna read Matthew, Saint Matthew, chapter six, verse
twenty five through thirty three. It's very important if you
do not read your Bible, if you don't know the scripture.

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Let this be a scripture that you can meditate on.
This passage of scripture that you can read and meditate
on while we walking out this challenge, this crisis right now. Okay, Now,
these are the words of read coming from Jesus. I
want you to consider this. Okay. So in Matthew chapter six,

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verse twenty five, it's where I'm gonna start. It said, therefore,
I tell you, do not worry about your life what
you will eat or drink, or about your body, what
you will wear. It's not life more than food in
the body, more than clothes. Look at the birds of

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the air, he say, Look at the birds of the air.
Pay attention to it. They do not sow or reap
or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father
feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they can?
Any one of you by worrying add a single hour

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to your life. I just want to focus on the
fact that the birds get up every day. They don't
have they pantry stored up, they don't have a cabinets,
and they freeze afore. But yet somehow they eat every
day and got the nerve to sing every morning. It
went on to say, and verse twenty eight, and why

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do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of
the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet
I tell you that not even Solomon and all his splendor,
was dressed like one of these. Woo. If that is
how God clothed the grass of the field, which is
here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will
he not much more clothe you, oh ye of little faith.

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So do not worry saying what you're gonna eat, and
what you're gonna drink, or what you're gonna wear. For
the pagans run after all these things. And your heavenly
Father knows that you need them. He know that you
need them before you ask him. But He tell us
to seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness,
and all these things will be given unto you. The

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title of that passage of scripture is called don't worry. Yes,
take no thought. That's right, that's the original word. How
you doing. It's the young So yeah, we are not
supposed to be worriers. We are a people of faith.
If the birds can get up every day and eat,

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and the flowers are beautiful, they didn't ask to be
the color that they are, or it's beautiful as they are,
but they are. So we thank God that it may
not be a link card that you can go to
the store and stock up your rigerbrator. However, it is
food in the land and it will make it to

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your doorstep. It will make it to your doorstep. Use
your resources, tap into their website. I gave you, and
I'll put it. I'll put it in my page. Okay,
So into the topic on today, okay, entitle love t

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k oh. Now, what's very interesting about this is, you know,
growing up, we hear a lot of stuff and we
don't know what that's what. We don't know what it means.
Were listening to songs and were watching our drunk uncles
and aunties crying they drink, and we wondering what is happening?
You know what they crying about? What is they singing about?
You know what I mean? So we are in this world,

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living these experiences, and many times we'll go through a
journey called life and we'll not take the time to,
like I said earlier, assess what is happening? What is
going on? Why is my life like this? So I
was working and I heard the lyrics to this song guys,

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and it was hilarious to me. It was so funny.
I you know, it wasn't because the way Teddy Penigrat seing.
It's like, oh my god, are you a right sir?
Like like are you you cool? Because you just you
really hurting. So I was looking at that and I

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begin to mirror it was a mirror reflection to my
own life. And many times we don't pay attention to
the open doors that or the way we grow up,
or the way our foundation of love was laid or
not laid. That we sometimes have the tendency to experiment

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with our heart and experiment with this very powerful force
called love. And I'm trying to keep my eyes on
my notes, so I can stay on track, guys, and
I won't run ahead of myself. Right, So let's deal
with the fact that love is a powerful emotion, y'all.

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It is very powerful. It is defined as an intense
feeling of deep affect. It was also translated as weakness.
God is love, according to First John four eight. So
love is powerful. It comes from God, So it's very powerful.
He created us in love, He created us to love

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and be love, and so it's a it's an innate nature. Hi, Julia,
thank you for joining, sweetie. It's a it's in us
to want to be loved. It's in us to crave
it and desire to give it and receive it. That's
a part of who we are. We supposed to crave that,
We supposed a desire to be loved. Right. So the

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late Teddy pendograph saying the song love TKO. If we
be honest, you know most of us have felt that
love tko at some point in our life. Right. We
have felt it somewhere on our journey, and it taught
us what love was not. Right, So we're gonna we're
gonna all of y'all in the chat. I know some

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of y'all old school like me, like grew up around
the old school music where you heard this song growing up.
You heard this song growing up called love Tko by
Mster Sir the late Teddy Pendergrass. Right, So you know,

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I want y'all to understand something, right, you know, we
none of us are exempt from life. I don't care
where you come from. I don't care how good you
think you being. I don't care how much you try
to dot all your eyes across all your tea's. You
are not exempt from living life experiences. You're not. You're not.

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So we already we know. Ain't nobody perfect and all
that stuff. We all make mistakes. We got that right, right,
So let me walk through these lyrics, yall. It's not funny.
I'm gonna go through them as fast as I possibly
can because I'm aware of the time. So mister Pendergrass, y'all,
this is what he said, he said, looking back over

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the years, I guess I've shed some tears, told myself
time and time again. This time I'm gonna win. But
another fight. Things ain't right. I'm losing again. It takes
a food to lose twice and start all over again.
He say, I think I better let it go. Looks

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like another love TKO. Now, as I was reading these lyrics, right,
I thought about how sometimes we find ourselves in the
ring and in the battle with love, and most of
the time it's because we think we know how to
handle it. But can I tell you that love is

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for responsible people. You gotta know how to handle love,
and if you don't, it's there to teach you how
to handle it. Because being quote unquote in love. Okay,
as I described earlier that in some translations, it was
translated that love was also a weakness. You ever been

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so in love that you was weak for a person
I'm talking about. We see it all the time, and
what we say is that the person stupid. We'll say, Oh,
she's stupid, he's stupid. I wouldn't take that off of her.
I wouldn't take that off of him. Well, it's too late,
too little, too late. Once you are all the way
in love, baby. One thing he said in this thing

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he said in his lyrics, he said, I tell her
to take control of love, and love took control of me.
We heard s w V say I got so weak
in the knees that I could out listen, love would
do that. It's a powerful force. It's nothing to be
played with. It really is not. And when we enter

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into it ignorantly in it experience it, somebody gonna get hurt,
somebody gonna get knocked out. But what got me was
him saying, time and time again he thought he was

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gonna win. Now later on, I'm gonna unpack some of
the reasons why we end up on our back when
we're dealing with the powerful force called love, while we
end up on our back, while we end up flat
on our back, and did get up again? Determine you

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just gonna make it work. You just gonna make a
person love you. You just gonna find a way to
control this. Dad. You can't control it. You cannot control
being loved and what it turns into. It's really insecurity
because you can't make somebody love you. Remember that song

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saying I can't make you love me. Yeah, it's very true.
You cannot make a person love you. You cannot. So
the more I read these lyrics, it reminded me that
the way that the songwriters and the singers can sing

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about love, it can make love look very dangerous, right.
It can make love look very dangerous, and we go
through life, many of us, we'll go through life afraid
of the real thing when it comes because you played
with it for so long and the result of it

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resulted in what feels like a technical knockout. Now, this
was funny to me, and it wasn't funny when I
looked at the technical knockout. And why is it called
a technical knockout? It's called a technical knockout because it

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occurs when a referee, a doctor, or a fighter's corner
determines that a fighter cannot safely continue a match. How
many times have we looked at people fatigued in relationships
that was not for them, fatigued with love, trying to

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love somebody that's not for them, or don't want to
love them back, and you keep going, and then it's
like you'll get down and have a crime moment with
your girls and and start having a fit and saying, oh,
it's over. I'm tired of this, Ninja or whatever, or
I'm over her man, it's over this and that, And

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you have those crime moments where you're down, but you
ain't out yet. You ain't got enough, so you're gonna
get back in there again. And go for another round.
You're gonna go for another round and hopes that this
time I ain't going to do something else and hopefully
I'm gonna get a different result. And it don't work

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like that. It just don't work like that. You know,
we'll go from bond stuff to you know, giving excessively.
You ever seen people that want to be loved so
bad they willing to do anything to get it. It's
like they in love with the thought of it. They're
hopeless romantic. They want it to work so bad. They

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go on for all these rounds, and each and every round,
you know, we throwing clothes out the window and burning
up stuff. And then look up and you be like,
I just know, I just know all gonna well, she
ain't back with him, or he ain't back with her.
You know, I've been her. I speak from a place

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of experience, y'all, because you know we do. We talk
over people's head and we quote scriptures and were deep.
It was spiritual. But don't want to come all the
way down and look folks in the eyes and address
them where they live for real, Right, So I'm moving
on with these lyrics. It's funny to me y'all. I

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was cracking up because I could see myself while I
was reading these lyrics. He say, he took all the
bumps and the bruises of all the things of a
two time loser just trying to hold on. He said,
the faith is gone. It's just another sad song. So

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this is why, can I tell you why most women
have decided that, you know what, it's just gonna be
me and God, I ain't open it in my heart
up to another man to love me or I'm not
here for it. Because after I went down the first time,

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some of us, we go down, you supposed to get
back up with some sense, man or woman, it doesn't matter,
man or woman. You supposed to get back up with
a little bit more sense than what you had before
he went down there. But sometimes we think I'm gonna
control this thing. I'm gonna make you love me. You gonna, yes,

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you are, I'm gonna you know what I'm gonna do.
Let me let me find something else to do that
that that that that that'll make you wanna love me
right and and and and it's not gonna happen because
it ain't in them. It's just not there. It's just
not there. So he took the the bumps and the

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bruises and all the things of a two time loser.
He say, try to hold on. Faith is gone, just
another sad song. I did all that for none. I
want another round. I said, I want gonna do it
no more. And I did it anyway. I said I
wan't gonna let hur him back in, but I did
it anyway. I said I wasn't gonna forgive them for
if they cheated again. I did it anyway. I said,
I won't gonna do this no more, and I did

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it anyway. And you did it anyway because when you
went down, who is that? When you went down, then
you didn't learn no sense. I can't tell you how
many times he go back to jail. I ain't taking

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them back. He can't go back to jail. I ain't
writing no letters. I ain't going to see you. I'm
done with him, because you know what all that and baby, No,
soon as he get a number, you the first one
going to get your envelopes, a box of I've been there,
done that. I've been there and done that. Thinking that
that was the thing to do. He said, you try

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to take control of love and love to control of him.
You ever been with love to control of you? It
just took you over. I've seen women so in love
baby with alcoholics, crackheads. I don't care. It's like to
believe that God is love. He's the manufacturer of love.

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God is the manufacturer of love. He created it. But
yet we feel like we can handle this powerful force
without him. We feel like that, and we get so
lost up in it. Were taking all these low power

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power and going down on our back not knowing, Wait
a minute's love really knocking me out? Is it? Is
this really love that's putting me on my back? Or
am I blaming it on love? Because I've been irresponsible? Well?
Who I gave my love too? And who I gave

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my heart too? I was irresponsible in my chooser and
the result of that was I ended up with that
TKO that loved knockout. I ended up on my back.
I ended up down there. Do you not know that
you could be in a state of delirium? What you say?

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What you say, Tony, get what we wanted and lost
what we had. Oh my goodness, that's good. That's real good.
That's real good. My mother in a faith? Damn it
because she would say, you got what you wanted and
then didn't want what you got. It's crazy. Is it

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knocking me out? Jay? It's not love putting us on
our back. It's the poor decisions appsbolutely absolutely, so let
me turn this real quick. I'm Atturney real quick because
he got down in the verse where he said I'm

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tired of being beat up by love. And I thought
about that because remember God is the manufactorer of love.
So if he's the manufacturer of love and he take
us the First Corinthians thirteen, I got to go there.
That's my favorite chapter with love. It's a measuring stick

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to help you to measure if you really in doubt
is this love? Is it love? Or is it my
decisions I'm making irresponsibly about love that's knocking me out.
You know, if he was alive, I wish I could
have that conversation with him, like love didn't beat you
up like that? You know what beat you up like that?

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Your lack of self love is what caused you to
be down that knocked out like that. It wasn't love
at all, at least not the form of it we
think it is. So we get back in the match
with it again. You ever see people? Yes, it Minstana

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the fruits of love. Real love is when two people
are fighting together. That's right. It ain't supposed to be
one sided. And do you not know that's the most
heaviest baby. If you want to be heavy and fatigued
and tie and woe out, try give it your heart
to somebody that don't want your heart, don't want your love.

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They don't want you like that. But you just working
and working and working it because you think I'm gonna
earn it. I'm gonna earn it. But this is what
I will say before I forget to say this. S
see Winers Honey and bb Wine as they got the
song called addictive love. Let me tell you some God's

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love and self love is the anchor to keep you
from suffering from a TKO. Self love in God's love
is the anchor that keep you from a technical knockout
of love knockout. As they say, God's love is addictive.

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You know some people, you wonder, people with God fanatics
know they know that their anchor in his love. I
know that He's going to love me no matter what.
He's gonna love me through the good times, through the
bad times, through my mess ups, through my wrong doings,
through my poor choices. God's love is addictive, and once

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you experience his love, no other love is unmatched. It
is unmatched. He is the manufactorer of love when you
don't have self love, because most of us are from
self hate. So quick testimony. I'm gonna telling myself because

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that's what I love to do. I always give myself permission,
and I like the transparency because it just helps bring
things to life. Right. So let's just say, I'm gonna
take myself from for example, I'm gonna walk it back.
I'm gonna walk it back, and I'm gonna talk about

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growing up there. I'm gonna walk it back. So growing
up as a dark, skinny little girl, I was not
It was not a popular thing to be dark, and
it still ain't, to be honest with y'all, we still
deal with colorisms today. And when I talk to light

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of people and they be like, for real, oh my god,
I didn't know, I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I've been
around forever. So colorism. I begin to deal with that
at a very young age. You know, they say that
the first five years of a child's life, it's when
the brain is developed. So everything that goes as why

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the first five years of your child's life, you need
to be very careful what you do, the environment you
raising me in, the stuff that they see and watch
on TV. All of that they brain it's like a
sponge in the first five years of their life. So
in the first five years of my life as a
little young chocolate girl, the first thing I learned was

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that my skin complexion was not desirable. That's the first
thing I learned. And I'm just walking it back to
the door that I believe open to self hate. So imagine,
and I'm talking about self love. Imagine my first experience
with my identity growing up was the fact that I
learned that my skin complexion was not desirable. It was

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not something that was deemed to be attractive, pretty, none
of that, none of that. So imagine imagine that set
me up for self hate and alone the way it intensified,
and it intensified, and I begin to see it on
TV and I'll be seeing another places. So now now

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at the roots their self hate. I don't love the
skin of man. So am I expected to grow up
and expect for a gentleman, a man or whoever to
love me more than I love me? Is some of
the tkos coming from the lack of the fact that

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you don't love yourself enough. You won't deal with the
size of you that you hate, You won't deal with
the self hate, you won't deal with the things that
you won't like about yourself, but then would force somebody
else to like it and love it. That ain't fair,
is it? It is not so. I was already starting

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out my life at a disadvantage, believing what was told
to me. I was already starting out at a disadvantage,
believing that, oh, if I can't get it off of this,
then I gotta find another way to earn love. You
see that. So a lot of my tkls I'm just

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speaking from personal experience, came from a lack of self
love and the fact that somehow it was deeply rooted
inside of me that you know, chocolate ain't in and
you you gotta, you know, work extra harder, you gotta,
you know, really earn its love you say you want
from a relationship because mea want somebody else. Well, I

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tell you this today, baby, I'm in love with this
cholate today. You can't tell me nothing today Today, you
can't tell me nothing about chocolate. Okay, I love everything
about me now. But I'm just giving an example of
how we don't pay attention to how we set ourself
up for a TKO when we don't love ourself correctly

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and we put the responsibility on somebody else who love
us more than us. Baby, that TKO is inevitable. Okay,
so it said, the TKO happens when the fighter is
too hurt to continue. Some of us need to tap out.

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Because even Teddy Penograd's got to a point where he said,
I think I better let it go. You gotta know
when to let it go. See that medicinal say, I
was rejected from the wound, so I battled with dying
to be loved when God was saying, let me show
you what real love is. Wow. But he allowed me

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to keep searching for it, only to come back full circle.
See that, because He's the manufacturer of love, and we
cannot love responsibly without that blueprint he lay before. It's
what I'm getting ready to read, or else we'll ea
it up loving selfishly. And love is not selfish. It
is absolutely not selfish. So he said that in a

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fight in a fight with a boxer. The TKO can
happen when a fighter is too hurt. He is too
hurt to continue. It's taking too much punishment without fighting back.
How much you willing to take? Or it is stopped
by their corner or ringside physician. How many loved ones

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in our life be like leave go He beating you,
she cheating, she's stealing, she abuses to keep. Whatever the
case may be, leave, run, leave. How many they represent
the physicians at the ringside, they represent the physicians and

(34:02):
the different ones on the side of the rope saying
that's enough. You can't take no more, that's enough. It's
time to throw on a towel. It's time for you
to quit. It's time for you to walk away. It's
doing too much damage to where it's looking like punishment.
And I'm down on my back and I can't get up.
I want to get up, but I can't because I'm

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so weak for this thing that I love, just like
an addiction. Just like an addiction, we want people to
stop drinking. Oh, they stop, but they didn't. They love it,
so it's like they just it's a weakness they in
love with and it's a weakness, and we have to
pray for our loved ones that they come out. So

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I touched on some things, and I said, why do
we experience a love tea? Oh I'm gonna give us, yes, minister,
throw in the towel. Somebody please, I can't take another hint.
My god, Jodasy said, Baby, I'm thinking, see when we

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learn to be real with ourself. Oh, it on, it's
not that bad. I sitting down here, It's not that bad. Yeah,
the world is searching for uh transparency, Amen, minister. I'm
all about telling the truth and keeping it. A buck
wanted I sitting down here, baby a hell and sellout.

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You done lost weight? You didn't gain weight. Child, You
walking around looking like a pluck bird and still won't
tap out. Even Teddy Pittigrast's had no sense to say, hey,
I think I better let this go. Baby. I'd have
been down on my back more to listen more times

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to what I can count. I DIDNE tried to take
control of it. I've tried everything I know. I tried
to control the situation. I tried to love someone into
loving me, and it didn't work. I tried giving of
everything I had to the point where I'm exhausted that

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and I still end up losing in the end, I
end up losing me all the more. And a truth
be told until I love me. Until I love me,
I can forget about ever really being loved correctly. It's
not gonna happen. So why do we experience a love TKO?

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Why do we experience that? Here? I have a few
I'm gonna go over real quick, six six of them
not being anchored in God's love, the one who created
it and made the manufacture of love. You're not anchored
in that. You don't know that he loved you, and
you have to practice learn how to love him back.

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Number two you not anchoring self love. You don't love self.
Just talked about that. Number three excessive heartbreak. Repeatedly getting
your heart broke over and over again without healing will
keep you with a TKO, because how you gonna ever
get up? And every time you raise up a leg,
you getting knocked down again. Number four trying to earn it?

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You trying to earn it? Baby? You about Valentine's Day?
Give birthday gifts sweet as they give Christmas gifts gifts
for no reason. You know you done did everything trying
to earn it. You're not gonna earn it. I do this,
and you know you will hear people say that, girl,
I did this, or man, I did this, I did that,

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I brought a car, I got a best wig, I
did this, I keep a nails done. I don't know
what it is. You don't love yourself enough. And let
me tell you, I'm not gonna get ahead of myself. Okay.
So it says it's trying to earn okay, and trusting
those who are unworthy of it is how you can
end up with a TKO and trusting those that's unworthy

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of your love and your heart, and you're gonna trust
them anyway. Six lack of a healthy foundation of love.
And that's what I said, and that's what Melister Tony's
was just talking about when he say he was suffering
from abandonment from a child, from wanting to be loved,
from the wound. When you're not self aware and you

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walking around here, you steady experiencing TKO love tkos. Every
time you turn around, you on your back and say
love beating you up. You think that's love doing that.
That's not love doing that to you. That's not that's
love irresponsibly on your end or somebody else's doing that
to you. So let's talk about what love, love actually is,

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because God is a manufacturer. Like I said at First
CORINTHI is four through seven. It tell us what love is,
and it telling what was not. Oh, love is what
love do es? Well, what is it? What love not doing?
What love not doing? Love is patient, love is kind
dun Now, if you can listen to these things, and
I'm saying and you're looking at your experience, use this

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as a measuring stick. I don't care this chapter, this
love chapter relationally when it comes to your children, not
just towards somebody else, but towards yourself. This is a
good measuring stick to determine am I walking in love
for real? Or am I being love for real? Because
real love will make you thrive. You're not gonna stay

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down there. You're gonna go through things. Yeah, we go
through things with our kids. We love them. We go
through things with our children. We go through things and
we persevere because we love them. I'm not talking about
where it's reciprocal and we both I'm talking about when
it's down on your back, when you just down there,
you ain't thriving. Like I said, you lose a weight,

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your health falling out. Everything is a negative negative. It's taken,
it's taken. It's taken. It's taken, and it's not giving anything.
Love is patient, it is kind. It does not any
It does not boast, It is not proud, It does
not dishonor others. It is not self seeking. That's another

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thing too. You have been with somebody's everything is all
about them all the time. Carrie comes first, Minister says
before love, whatever a man loves, he takes care of.
I believe that. I believe that it is not easily anger,
just a ticket time bomb. You know. I was in
a relationship like that. And I don't gotta call no names,

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but no blame, be no shame, baby. That man was
a ticket time bomb. I mean boo, he explode on
the spot. I was constantly called out my name, constantly
dishonor disrespect. How did you think that was love? No,
that was an opportunity for me to discover, like I

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just said, walking backwards to see, wait a minute, I
miss something. Nobody better not put it today. And I
do mean that love does not delight in evil. It
don't delight in evil. It rejoices with the truth. So
it's a problem that you take happiness and seeing bad

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things happen to me. That's not love. It said, it
rejoices with the truth. Every time I tell the truth,
it is a fight. I'm telling the truth. But it's
a fight. Why is it a fight? Because it's not love.
It always always, always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and

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always persevers. The next verse says, love never fail. And
I did a TikTok about that. That said, love don't
fail because it's gonna accomplish what it came to do.
And maybe, just maybe that love came to teach you
how to love you. That's what it did for me.
I can't speak for everybody else, but love came and talks.

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The V says the V you gonna love you. You gonna
love you. You're gonna love yourself. You're gonna learn how
to sit with the parts of you that don't really
love yourself like that. You're gonna learn. You're gonna learn

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how to sit with yourself. So I say to you today,
if you suffer from a t ko, if you down
on your back, if you down on your back, this girl.
Oh Jesus, if you down on your back and you
going through all these ain't nothing changing you not thriving.

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You won't thrive because you're in a ring. You're in
a losing battle. First of all, you're in a losing battle.
You don't have to be teddy pinograds. Well, he say
he tied again, beat up by love? He say he
tired again, beat up by love. He tired of it.
But love is not beating him up. The situation he's

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in that he's calling love is beating him up. You
will not earn love from somebody that don't want to
love you. You will not be loved more than you love you,
or you mess around to make a god out of them.
So if you find yourself on your back, I want
you to check those two things. The manufacturer God, God,

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somewhere I need you to help me to stewart this
thing called love because you created it and somewhere in it,
I'm missing it. I'm missing the mark. I'm missing it. God,
show me this I love and another thing we do.
We invest time and so instead of us getting up
and saying, hey, this is not right, I need to

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get it together. God, I need you to help me this.
I need to thrive. Instead of us doing that, we'll
think about, well, I did this, I did that. I've
been with them fifty hundred thousand years. And because I've
been with them fifty hundred thousand years, it's only right
for me to stay in it. No, it's not. It's not.

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You don't have to live your life laying on your back.
My spiritual father used to say, if I can get
these women off their back and standing on their feet,
they'll be some powerful When I tell you, I have
come through so many things that now that I know
what it's feeling like to be completely whole and standing
up on my two feet strong without being knocked out
again over and over and over and over and over

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and over again. Now that I have experienced wholeness as
a woman, it can stand all the way up. Baby.
I refuse to ever suffer another t KO. I refuse
to ever, in the name of love say oh, I'm
down for the count. It's not gonna They ain't gonna
work for this version of me at all. It's not

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happen there at all. I ain't playing about me at all.
And that's how you have to be to avoid crying
in your drink and singing these sad songs and all this. No,
that ain't what it is. First start with God and
start with yourself, and you can set yourself up for

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success with your heart, because your heart, anyway, it's deceitfully wicked.
That's why they say it's a thin lap between love
and Hey. You ever see somebody's spouse come home blow
their brains out? You're like I thought they was in love. No,
we cannot love responsibly without God tempering it and showing
us how as I just read in ub scriptures, No,

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you gotta let God work it in you, because you
can really do have love for real, But you got
to learn how to steward right. You got to listen
to somebody. So I just wanted to stop by today.
I thought that was hilarious, the song, the lyrics, it
was funny, but it was relatable because we go into
a lot of things ignorantly and don't know what we're doing,

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and we end up biting off more than what we
can chew. And in the end were making said love
songs and crying and I drink about about the kill
ourself and all that that ain't God handle love responsibly.
It's for mature, responsible people. And I don't care where
you found yourself in it. It doesn't matter where you
found yourself in it. It ain't ever too late to

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go back and assess where did I let this go wrong?
Within myself? It ain't about perfection. It's not about perfection.
It's about striving. It's about you being able to assess
the situation and say, hey, is it me that need
to change? If I'm on the end of not receiving
love and not doing I supposed to do with it?

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Is it me? Or is this this person that keeps
me on my back and I'm yearning to thrive and
get up and stand on my two feet. It's very possible. Choose,
you choose, You choose, You choose you love? You love God?

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He the only one that say love him with all
our hearts, soul, man strength. We can't give that to
perse imperfect individual. You can't love people with all of
your heart. You cannot do that. God is the only one.
And pretty soon he gets jealous and he will start
messing with it because he like, wait a minute, now,

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now you ain't got none be bound down doing all that?
Now you know there's only one God, and I'm a
jealous one. So just be careful with your heart guarded
with diligence, because out of it flows the issues of life.
We human beings. We got more issues and tissue. We
can't afford to be trying to love nobody with all
our heart no way, you know, Temper that thing. Get

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a hold of yourself, Analyze yourself, and ask God to
give you the strength to get up. And when I
get up this time, God, I'm gonna focus on you,
and I'm gonna focus on me, and I'm gonna let
you allow me to attract something healthy to myself once
I become healthy and no longer have to suffer from
a TKO. So I just wanted to share that with y'all.

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Thank you for joining me today on the Fireside Chat.
Until next week, look forward to the next week. I'm
gonna have my sisters on here, Brenda and Julia. They're
gonna be coming on here, y'all. It's gonna be so good.
Stay tuned, get ready. By God, it's gonna be powerful.
I can feel it already. I'm so excited to have

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them on. I just know they getting ready to pour.
And I hope everybody be in attendance that desire to
you know, hear some encouragement in this dark hour we
liveing in. Yes, until next time, it's your Lioness Queen
Sister b right here on Intellectual Radio dot Com. Have
a wonderful rest of your evening and be blessed. She's

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as power that big the county garden whinner others didn't
want to grow. She's my Gina, she's my fifty and
my facey. It don't matter. I'm gonna play the role