Ms. Vee and The Crew Podcast

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:10):
Come on in the room.

Speaker 2 (00:14):
You better come on in the room. We want to
talk to you and we want you to talk back.
And in order to do that, you got to come
in the room.

Speaker 3 (00:36):
Come on in the room, y'all the room.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
I promise you want to getting better and better. You
keep on doing that, You're gonna have it perfected. You're
getting the right I promise you. They say, keep on
doing it until you get it right.

Speaker 3 (00:51):
You know what.

Speaker 1 (00:52):
We back today and I know you excited to be.

Speaker 3 (00:55):
I'm always excited.

Speaker 4 (00:56):
I know it.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
I know it. I don't know how you keep that
bubbly brown going all the time five, but you do it,
and you do it to perfection. We can come back tonight.
We got some stuff we just want to talk about
share with you. It's all we can do. We can
challenge your thinking, you can challenge jobs. We can hopefully
we can just get on on accord and just see
what we're talking about. Well, if what you give them something,

(01:20):
you want to share something to day, you got something
fresh on your mind.

Speaker 2 (01:24):
I just want to encourage you guys today as we're
moving into this holiday season, I want you to take
time for yourself. Make sure you check your mental health,
make sure you breathe real good, and make sure you rest.
Is it okay if I share a part of a
newsletter that I wrote wrote for my church.

Speaker 3 (01:44):
I wrote a church.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
I write in a newsletter every three weeks, and at
one point the Lord gave me it's time to rest.

Speaker 3 (01:52):
So we need to rest because the world is so busy.

Speaker 2 (01:54):
People are scared, all the immigration things going on and life.
Life is happening so fast. So I just want to
share that with It says time to rest. As I
reflect on resting, and I'm reminded that taking time to
rest doesn't always mean sleeping the day away. Finding time
to rest requires one to let go of the struggles

(02:15):
of the day, release the thoughts of tomorrow, and forget
what needs to be done in a moment. In order
to properly rest, Peace and tranquility has to be your friend,
knowing that in the moment of rest, time and days
are the only thing that comes to an end their
solemness and resting. In the world, we are taught to

(02:35):
be go get us. We hear the cliches all the time.
The early bird catches the worm, and don't put off
tomorrow what you can do today. Yet today is the
day you vowed to rest and take time for yourself.
Even Jesus Christ, who has the power to heal, deliverystore
and set the captive free all day and every day,
knew the importance of rest.

Speaker 3 (02:57):
If you are.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
Anything like me, you some times find it hard to rest.
All my life in my mind and my body was
in survival mode, creating a form of anxiousness within. I
used to think resting was for the lazy. I often
been reminded of the scripture if a man doesn't work,
you don't need, so working to eat was the model

(03:18):
I later learned if I was willing to work and
do my share, of that scripture then pertain to me.
Now that I'm seasoned, I know that God will provide
all my needs according to his riches in glory, and
I'm gonna jump down to here while resting. I trust
God to take care of my storms in my life.
Rest and refreshes my thoughts and give me the opportunity
to sit with Christ and hear him tell me all

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about me, just as he did the Samaritan woman. It's
also a time for me to hear my assignments. How
can I encourage my family to stop and breathe. If
I don't me finding time to rest is not always
about me, but it's example to be followed.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
It's time to rest, everybody. Will you join me?

Speaker 1 (04:01):
I told you that's one of the things and gifts
that you got. I was telling some young people. You know,
everybody got at least one gift. And that's a gift
you can do and you didn't even have to study,
go to school or anything for it is just a
gift that was you was born with. And if you
can perfect the gift that God has given you, he

(04:21):
said you can make money and you won't even have
to work.

Speaker 3 (04:24):
Ah.

Speaker 1 (04:25):
So looking forward to that point yours, some people says
a lot of them, you know. Some people say have one,
some people have two, some have five. And it's one
thing I looked at it. If you think about it,
the one that had won, he didn't do nothing with it,
so he took it. So whatever you got, you ought
to use it. So if writing is one of your gifts,
and you know it's a talent that you do it

(04:46):
without even thinking, and you don't and things just started
to come into you, it could be a gift that
just is in just m Yes, yes, and you need
to use him more often. You have the platform, you
have place to do it. Share some of you are
writing with with the people's out in the audience and
let them see the gift that God has given you,

(05:07):
so that not only you can benefit from it, but
from a platform others will too. M today, I wanted
to start off real briefly, and everything we talk about
is gonna be quick fast and challenge wanders thinking, because
you know she's a deep thinker. So every now and
then I have to get our because it's a couple
of things we talked about on here all the time,

(05:27):
and I don't know if people remember. Sometimes we'll refresh
it so that we can bring it back to you.
But I was talking with a young lady and she's
and I asked her what came to my mind while
I was sleeping. It says why get married? And I said,
when I go to the podcast, I'm gonna ask Wander
because I think it's a challenging conversation and me and
he can have a good conversation because she's pretty challenging,

(05:51):
you know now. And then she kind of liked that
debatable argument sometimes, so I figured, I said, I'm gonna
I'm gonna see what she can bring to the table
because I want to ask, so, why get married?

Speaker 2 (06:04):
Okay, So if you want to answer too, you can
call in that seven zero eight two two three eight
ninety five three. Why get married? This is Intellectual Radio
dot Com. Call us and talk to mss V and me.
Why get married?

Speaker 3 (06:22):
You get married? That's you just threw me on the
spot to this.

Speaker 2 (06:26):
Well, marriage is a covenant, marriage is a partnership, marriage
is love, marriage is convenient, and marriage is it is unique.

Speaker 3 (06:36):
It's got somebody to cover you.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
So I think when you get married, you get married
for all those reasons, not just simply for love.

Speaker 3 (06:44):
Because you can love a cat, you ain't gonna marry that.

Speaker 2 (06:47):
But you want somebody that that that balances you out.

Speaker 3 (06:52):
You want some a partnership.

Speaker 5 (06:54):
You want.

Speaker 2 (06:56):
Somebody that's one hundred percent in you, one hundred percent
in you. You know how to if you can, you
can argue and fight fair, and you can have somebody
who can share the load. There's a lot of loads
and and and as being single, I've been both single
and married, so you know, as a single woman you
carry a lot of load.

Speaker 3 (07:14):
It's not saying that you can't do it.

Speaker 2 (07:16):
And it's not saying that you can't be independent, because
I was that, but it's sometimes sometimes it makes the
load easier when you're married, because sometimes you you gotta
make sure you married the right one because not all
the time I've been there and my load.

Speaker 1 (07:30):
It's a lot of things in that because you find
out if that be the case, then why are there's
so many divorces? I mean, if you thought of all
of those things before you got married, and you married
for all those reasons, why is the divorce rote to hid? Secondly,
if I mean it's it's a lot of things with
this married thing, and then you're saying that it's a covenant.
I can be one hundred percent agreement with you, but

(07:52):
now here you are, you're talking to somebody don't even
know nothing about the covenant. They don't know nothing about
the word and what it says and what to do.
Then how do you tell tell them about marriage and
what the reasons and why you should get marriage and
all these different things. So that that's one, and then
how is it that I got a friend of mine
him and this girl was shocked for when I tell

(08:13):
you years years years as long as I knew. They
was shocking. But all of a sudden they decided we're
gonna get married. When they got married, they didn't stay together.
Over here.

Speaker 3 (08:22):
They divorced ownership. You you you you don't really own it.

Speaker 2 (08:26):
You leasing to buy, and when you owned it, you
want to change the rules. When he was leasing or
she was leasing, it was good. I don't own this.
I can do my own thing. Now we in ownership
and we gotta join account here and we got to
put this and that together and think. But it wasn't
the same company. It wasn't the same agreement. The agreement changed.

(08:48):
You know, if you go to renaissenting and you buy
something on lay away or something like that, you don't
own it, it's still there's you can miss one payment,
they can come take it back. He can stop doing
something one time and leave. Now that I own it,
I'm gonna because you can, because you're gonna take care
of everyone.

Speaker 3 (09:04):
It's theirs. But now that I own it, I'm gonna
do what I want to do with it.

Speaker 2 (09:08):
I'm gonna do I wanna do my couch. I'm gonna
turn it the stove as high as I want to
turn it on. I'm gonna put as many clothes as
I want you in the dry I own it.

Speaker 1 (09:18):
So the man tell you that. He said, I don't
want to get married, no more. I done been married.
I don't want to get married. The woman said, I
agree with you. I don't want it either. But down
the road, she says, you know what, I want to
get married.

Speaker 2 (09:31):
I don't.

Speaker 3 (09:32):
So what should she do? She should never got in
the house with him.

Speaker 2 (09:35):
Wait we got some wait, wait, wait, we got some
people that responding over you because I'm gonna try.

Speaker 3 (09:42):
To move this over y'all.

Speaker 1 (09:43):
So there with me.

Speaker 3 (09:47):
I gotta read.

Speaker 1 (09:47):
I can't read like that, but now you block it.

Speaker 3 (09:51):
So God be the glory grace.

Speaker 2 (09:53):
He said, if you are going to burn, you may
as well get married, because otherwise you will before unicating.
Did y'all say say you never supposed to get a
divorce unless a situation of adoltri from.

Speaker 3 (10:05):
Ed the party.

Speaker 2 (10:07):
In today's society, people have focus on what God set
aside for her husband and wife and said leave your
father it's the bore down here and mother and cling
to your wife. So they set that part aside. They
not thinking about all of that. I believe that too.
They ain't taste cleaning.

Speaker 3 (10:28):
I'm not doing that. But yeah, what you see.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
Yeah I I I when you when you tell me
what the words that you can't argue with that the
word don't change. That's one thing about it that don't change.
It stays the same. But the problem is now we've
gone by to establish our own righteousness and not the
righteousness of God.

Speaker 4 (10:48):
Yep.

Speaker 1 (10:48):
So when you start to do in your own thing,
it's what feels good to you, what I want, what
I need, what I got to have. And whenever you
start that, you headed for destruction. But that's why we
want to know why very few people want to marry it.
It's like, uh, I want I want to dress, I
want the cake, I want the entertainment, I want all
that stuff. And after this is over with, now you

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headed to the vorce court.

Speaker 2 (11:12):
And a lot of times people just want a roommate.
They don't really want to wife. They want a roommate
because if I got a roommate, we want fifty to
fifty we're.

Speaker 3 (11:19):
Gonna have if you leave or I leave it.

Speaker 2 (11:22):
But it don't it don't mean nothing because I still
got my own. So a lot of times they we
think they want partnership and you think they in love
with you, but they just need some help right now.
And once they know on their feet they got enough help,
it's all over.

Speaker 1 (11:36):
Well, if you tell, if you, if you tell me
in the door. That's why I always say, you have
to make your intentions clear and you can't. I always say,
do not mess with people's feeling in their money. Because
if a man gave you some money and you told him, now, look,
ain't nothing to me and you and I think we
went on that before, ain't nothing between us. So if

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you give me this money, what you're gonna do. You
gonna take it or you're gonna say not, don't give
it to me.

Speaker 2 (12:02):
I'm gonna tell him not to give it to me
in the beginning, But if he keep on insistent.

Speaker 3 (12:06):
You gonna.

Speaker 1 (12:10):
Said, well, but you still ain't getting uh. Yeah, Because
I'm like if I if I tell you that it's
nothing and you keep on wanting to bless me, that's
what I'm thinking.

Speaker 3 (12:22):
It is a blessing. It's a blessing.

Speaker 1 (12:23):
You can't get it to me.

Speaker 3 (12:25):
Yeah, Okay, then you say, come in office and talk
to me.

Speaker 1 (12:30):
But that's why I say, when you start messing with
people's feeling in their money, and you you had it
for destruction.

Speaker 2 (12:36):
You are, And then I think you have to listen
to your own heart. You know in your heart that
there's red flags or there's something about this person that's
not in a line with you. We see it all
the time, but we tend to ignore men and women
tend to ignore certain things. You know, you don't want
your woman dressing this provocative in this kind of way,
but still you accept it. And then when you get

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married to her, you don't want to you're gonna tell
how to Well, that's forgotten you here. So you know,
if you don't want her dress like that in the beginning,
don't accept it right away. Don't that's not for you.
And don't be with somebody because everybody else says good
for you, and you know it ain't good for you.
Follow your own heart and not the words of others.
I and my instance, at one point I follow some

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advice from people and they weren't even doing better than me,
you know, And.

Speaker 1 (13:27):
So you don't think that peoples that's doing bad could
give you good advice.

Speaker 2 (13:31):
I ain't saying doing bad. I'm talking about in relationship.

Speaker 1 (13:35):
Okay, do you think a person that's single can't give
good advice to a person that merrit I'm.

Speaker 3 (13:40):
Not gonna say that you can give me womanly advice.

Speaker 2 (13:44):
No, if you ain't did it and you ain't been
through it and you ain't walk no, no type of
shoes in that or either shocked up or something you can't.

Speaker 3 (13:53):
No, you know what.

Speaker 1 (13:55):
And now that would definitely be a phone call. That
would have to be a phone call. Somebody should call it.
You know, they say, put that in there and say
it because there are some things you don't have to
walk through. The note it's some stuff you ain't got
to go through. Tell hey, I mean, it's it's some
stuff where you know what I'm saying, I don't believe
that I ain't got to do. I ain't got to

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be on drug to tell nobody you know what, you
don't need to be on them.

Speaker 2 (14:20):
I mean, if you looking at me and you saying,
you see I'm going through Yeah, you can talk about that,
but you can't talk about marriage in general to me.

Speaker 1 (14:28):
You got a person ain't never been married. Hey, I
find that most I find that most women's maybe men's too,
but but I know women's most women have even a
desire that they want to at least be married once
and they want a baby. You know what I'm saying,
at least once.

Speaker 2 (14:49):
Most some of these women out here and I say,
I don't want no kids name wrong.

Speaker 3 (14:54):
You know what. That's a lot of a lot of
one of the kid without the men. And a lot of.

Speaker 1 (14:59):
Them say stuff and they don't really know you know
what I'm saying, just like I just said, because you
know I'm saying because a lot of time, you know
what I'm saying is a lot of times this is
what I'm talking about when it comes to the word,
when it comes to if you want to look at
the word of God, because he said, you are not
your own and sometimes the things you desire is not

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even what's best for you. They have I have bout
stuff in the minute I got it out the store.
Why did you get that? You know you didn't want that.

Speaker 3 (15:29):
You didn't want you didn't follow your own heart.

Speaker 1 (15:30):
Your first I followed it because it told me.

Speaker 3 (15:33):
That on your ego, that's gonna look good on you.

Speaker 1 (15:38):
I'm telling you, you don't even know what's best for you.
But to see he said, pray over everything and we don't.
If it looks.

Speaker 2 (15:45):
Good, it smelled good, it must be good. Ain't always
to get you look good, smell good, don't taste like nothing.

Speaker 1 (15:56):
That's what I'm saying. But see, your eyes can deceive you.
That's why you have to That's why he said, don't
lean to your own understanding, because the way you look
at some stuff is not what he have.

Speaker 3 (16:07):
That's it.

Speaker 1 (16:08):
And that's why I say, most of the time we
are doing stuff that we want. When it comes to like, Okay,
I want to shock, but it's but is that the
right way to do it?

Speaker 3 (16:16):
Is that the right thing to do.

Speaker 2 (16:18):
I don't believe shacking is the right thing for it,
because I because you're not gonna put me out, I'm
gonna tell you.

Speaker 3 (16:25):
And if I'm gonna come and stay with you, I'm not.
I'm not gonna lose my roof on my head. You
ain't putting me out.

Speaker 2 (16:31):
And only way I'm gonna live with you is I'm
married to you.

Speaker 1 (16:34):
Well, just recently and I and and ain't gonna I'm
not gonna do it. But just recently I had to
get up and try to make it in that blizzard
and that snowstorm, and when I got up that morning
and I was trying to get out to the bus.
I was like, Lord, it would be really nice if
I had a husband right now, if he could drop
me off and come back to work and pick me up.

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In that moment, you will be amazed to how many
people can make a calculated decision to go get a man. Yeah,
in that moment, in that moment, you is in a
in a in a moment right there that you just
won't somebody not he ain't even gotta work, just just
get just come get me and come back and get me.

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You ain't even got you ain't even got to pay
for it. And so at that moment you can make
some really bad decisions. I have something, something can be
happening at that moment, and instead of you not lean
into what you're thinking, not following through because I tell people,
every day ain't every day ain't gonna be the same.

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There's gonna be some sunshine, it's gonna be some rain.
But if you can just endure, you'll be amazed what
you can hold out through.

Speaker 2 (17:46):
I mean, because you you said, Lord, be good to
have a man, and he's sitting that man right to you,
and that man do just what you ask God for
him to take you to work and nothing else.

Speaker 3 (17:57):
Boy, it wasn't I'm telling.

Speaker 1 (17:59):
You you can make a bad decision by just one
bad one bad day, one bad day.

Speaker 3 (18:05):
And that was a bad day.

Speaker 1 (18:06):
And and I'm like, I was like, Lord, I could
just use a man right now to just just drop
me off the work and can pick me up car
won when I get in it.

Speaker 2 (18:15):
Like Ambassador will I said, these men don't have with
the families anymore.

Speaker 3 (18:21):
Don't do that anymore.

Speaker 1 (18:23):
I mean, you know, you know what I'm saying, these things,
it's not real no more. You know what I'm saying.
That's my marriage is not even an option anymore. These
we have gone, and we have gone went way way
in left field. We are not doing none of this
stuff that's been established. It was a blueprint, it's already
been made, already told you what to do, how to
do it, when to do it, who to do it with.

Speaker 2 (18:45):
But marriages are weddings are so beautiful? Yeah, I know,
he's so.

Speaker 3 (18:52):
Yeah, we're just living that one moment over and over
in time.

Speaker 1 (18:58):
It's beautiful and that's what it is. And a lot
of times and who wouldn't want it? I never had it, though,
but you wouldn't want it.

Speaker 2 (19:05):
I mean you want that, but I don't know you
do want to wed it. I wanted to wed and
we had ended up. I haven't won a couple of
years ago in the house and it was cute because
I never had one. But if I had that, I
went to the city hall and I don't even remember
the judge named it memory.

Speaker 3 (19:23):
No, I don't.

Speaker 2 (19:25):
Hey, gang, we talking about why get married. If you
want to chime in, you can chime me in on
a chat, or you can call us at seven zero
eight two two three eight nine five three. You are
talking with ms V and me at Intellectual Radio dot Com.

Speaker 3 (19:40):
Come on in, Come on.

Speaker 1 (19:41):
In and talk about this married thing, because you know,
I'm it's and we got some other stuff that we
wanted to talk about. But that has just been on
me so heavy because I see people's something. No, but
you know I'm over for stuff. You know, I keep
my I keep my I keep my lines over.

Speaker 3 (19:57):
So you're gonna get married anytime soon?

Speaker 4 (20:01):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (20:02):
I don't want to say yeah because I don't see nothing.

Speaker 3 (20:05):
Not that I don't see none, not that well.

Speaker 2 (20:08):
You know her daughter has this thing where she what's
the name of it, sip and mix, mix and match,
miss mix and match going on soon right where the
single men and the single women of all ages can
get together and find them a partner.

Speaker 3 (20:26):
So that's your Q.

Speaker 1 (20:28):
Yeah, i'd already know. Ain't nobody gonna be there for me?

Speaker 2 (20:34):
See how negative she is, that's why she ain't got married.
Stay positive.

Speaker 1 (20:40):
I already know. You gotta he had to come with
he gotta be made not perfect. But you know, it's
a lot of stuff comes along with that. Nope, nope,
learn take yourself to work.

Speaker 3 (20:58):
Don't understand it, and you.

Speaker 1 (21:01):
Definitely yeah, you know what, But you know there's one
thing that I'll be talking and a lot of stuff
I just be talking. But one thing I do know,
and I'm and I ain't gonna never ever disagree with
that is it was meant for the be too. I mean,
if that's that's, that's the way it was meant. And

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any two times we say anything else, I'm sure you
you ain't got sure I'm a single and sure I'm good.
But I know how it's supposed to be. I know
the plan, and the plan was for it to be too,
because when he sent him out. He sent him out
into And anybody know that when you get with somebody

(21:43):
and they to write somebody, they helped make you complete.

Speaker 3 (21:46):
You're not complete by yourself.

Speaker 1 (21:48):
It's like a it's like a it's like a hand
and a glove.

Speaker 3 (21:53):
The Shanda said.

Speaker 2 (21:55):
Shanda said, you get married because you want somebody to
permanently dust the.

Speaker 3 (21:59):
Snow off your cock.

Speaker 1 (22:01):
Girl, I ain't gonna tell. I ain't gonna tell no stiry.
That ain't no bad idea to come here, get this snow,
take that garbage out, Come in here and sit yourself
down and do what I say. Do I like, do
what you I know, I don't really know.

Speaker 3 (22:17):
It's gonna be why you get married?

Speaker 2 (22:21):
Why do you get married? Why do people get married? Oh,
that's so funny, that's true.

Speaker 5 (22:31):
I think people get married now, why do they get married?
I think we need to go back to the old
ways why we used to get married.

Speaker 4 (22:40):
But now I don't know that many people get married
no more.

Speaker 2 (22:45):
I hate to say.

Speaker 5 (22:46):
I did see one of my daughter's little friends got married,
and I was like, oh, I thought it was so sweet,
and her parents are still together, and I thought, I think, now,
so many men, what's hard for me is I hear
a lot of men come here and talk and have
these conversations.

Speaker 3 (23:03):
And they make me think of whoa nobody should marry you.

Speaker 5 (23:06):
Unfortunately, the how men, I think it seems to have changed.

Speaker 3 (23:11):
But I think marriages.

Speaker 4 (23:14):
First off, if you're.

Speaker 5 (23:15):
Gonna have children, it would be nice to have them
raised in a two parent household, So that's one. And
then I think the companionship and the I think we
don't see it much anymore, but that the growing and
building together, the foundation of the best things of a

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woman and the best things of a man come together
when they when they're together. And it's good for our
children to see the unions and how we can build
and grow together.

Speaker 3 (23:46):
And so the why I've.

Speaker 4 (23:50):
Heard so much of the negative it's like my hair
can't even think.

Speaker 1 (23:52):
Of that is that is that is. I believe that's
the plan, and I believe once we steal from the
plan is when we get all this chaos. I asked
a question at the conference, and I said, and maybe
it was an incomplete question as I thought about it,
because I asked them. I said, if you could get sex,

(24:14):
security or money out of the three, which one would
you get? Now?

Speaker 3 (24:20):
We had a whole lot of scenes, you know, a
lot of.

Speaker 1 (24:24):
Seniors in that group.

Speaker 3 (24:25):
And what was the answer? Money? Sex?

Speaker 1 (24:29):
Oh yeah, And then they said sex. These singers was
like no, and they said, the women ain't got.

Speaker 3 (24:38):
No problem money, security or sex? Which one would you want? Yeah,
I told.

Speaker 1 (24:44):
Him, I said, maybe I should have put love in
them too, miss love to do it.

Speaker 5 (24:50):
I think when you just said the operative word, why
they would not have said loved. The senors know they've
been done the love route already. They already know that
that's the But.

Speaker 1 (25:00):
You know, some of them was saying, well, about two
of them said security because they said they you know,
they had a husband and how he was so good
and how he made sure everything was working and how
they didn't have to worry about anything. And then another
woman clapped back and said, but if you got the money,
you can buy all the security you need. So I mean,
it was it was. I mean it was really a

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very entertaining to listen and think and you know, see
even to see how.

Speaker 3 (25:26):
Seniors think and think.

Speaker 1 (25:29):
And most of them said it was money and we
and and I was sending because if you got love,
maybe you will get all the.

Speaker 3 (25:37):
Other you know, what I'm saying, been in love before,
I ain't get all that.

Speaker 5 (25:40):
The show right before you was there's two twins that
were on the show right before you, and they asked
something similar the benefits of being married and why women
now are being with They said they know so many
women who are with bumbs, so like choosing not not
to have the money to have the companionship. Yeah, so

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is there a section of women that are like that
that care more about the companionship than him having money.

Speaker 3 (26:11):
I used to say, having a piece of man is
better than having no man out.

Speaker 1 (26:14):
She was just trying to make a few dollars that
when she didn't mean that. She was just no bag,
no game. That's just song, they know, and nobody's trying
to do all that.

Speaker 3 (26:28):
But but we was.

Speaker 1 (26:29):
It was really interesting because you know we do just
call you notice you know that great debate and you
love hearing that, hearing how people's thinking. Because some of
them said sex They didn't care if the man they
give them a dime. They just want some good sex.
And you will be amazed at the mindset of certain
cause you saying to yourself, is that what after you

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get through with two seconds or two minutes of what
then what?

Speaker 3 (26:55):
Because they might have had a lot of starch, throw
it up.

Speaker 1 (27:01):
I'm like, all of these things has some flaws in it.
That's why you have to say, do what God has
called you.

Speaker 2 (27:08):
Joanne said, you should have asked for wisdom like Solomon.

Speaker 1 (27:11):
But even him, you think about Solomon, then we ain't
gonna even get into that.

Speaker 3 (27:15):
But you think about Solomon.

Speaker 1 (27:16):
He up there got too smart, because we can get
too smart for our own d you know, I mean,
he's sitting up there. Eden gave him and he was like,
actually one of my favorites because when he first became king,
he didn't.

Speaker 3 (27:30):
Ask for a lot of stuff.

Speaker 1 (27:32):
He said, Lord, just give me a mind and give
me a good judgment and wisdom so I know how
to treat your peoples. And God said, wow, I'm so
pleased with what you said. But because you said that,
I'm gonna give you everything. You got it all. And
then he got smart, Well, I don't have to fight.
I'm gonna marry every woman in the terrortory. I'm gonna

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marry his king daughter. I'm gonna marry his king. And
all of these women he married, they came in with
their own gods.

Speaker 3 (28:01):
They came in with their own idols. They came in.

Speaker 1 (28:04):
So now you're bringing all this stuff under your roof,
and that is you better believe that's what's going on.
A lot.

Speaker 3 (28:11):
Now we see something and.

Speaker 1 (28:16):
I'm telling you because of your thinking and you're getting
too smart. It ain't your way, this ain't your body,
this ain't your life, and you have to sell you.
Tell me what you want me to do. And those
people they say, anoint my ear so that I can
hear right, anoint my feet so I can walk right.
Anoy my hands so I can do the hands that

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you have called me to do. So if we have
to get to a point where it's not about us,
we gotta get this picture, gotta.

Speaker 2 (28:42):
Get bigger, and marriage ought to be his way.

Speaker 1 (28:47):
And that's why I'm and I just be talking a
lot of times about what I ain't gonna do and
what I ain't gonna do.

Speaker 3 (28:52):
Who knows you get the right?

Speaker 1 (28:53):
Man?

Speaker 3 (28:54):
I told you I'll be walking in. I'll be in
the first.

Speaker 4 (29:00):
So what's your answer to that?

Speaker 1 (29:02):
Ms V to what? Why you know what?

Speaker 3 (29:06):
That's what?

Speaker 1 (29:06):
When I was it woke me up in the middle
of the night because I'm messing myself. Now we have
gotten because it started off with a level that I wrote.
And when I because I was supposed to write this
letter for a class I'm taking. And when I wrote
the letter, it said. The letter was, you know we
have we have gotten away from the real thing and
the real deals and what matters in life. And I'm
gonna tell you it's God's way when he started and

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and and that's why old as I am, it's some
stuff is my what they call it is, it's my
principles and some stuff you stand on. And if I
have to live single all the time, then I'll just
be single.

Speaker 3 (29:40):
But he said that, do.

Speaker 1 (29:41):
You know that when he Adam, Eve won nowhere around
he had did everything he had, called them, named him,
gave him stuff, called the animals to him and said,
Adam name them before Eve even got there, and so
and so the thing up there when he come to me,
when whatever man comes.

Speaker 3 (30:03):
He should come already.

Speaker 1 (30:04):
But everything everything you are already have it when he comes.
And when I walk in, it's set set. And when
he called him into question, he did not ask Eve
where you at? Because I didn't tell you. I didn't
give you the rules. I didn't give you all of
the regulations. I gave it to Adam and he said

(30:25):
where are you? And then just like now me and
said that woman, Just like now, that woman you gave me,
she had messed. And then we can get back to
the roots, knowing that you is worth it because God

(30:47):
had put everything there before you even got there. He
figured that by the time the man comes, you ain't
gonna have to do nothing. But baby, just that be
the glue that hold him together. Come on, I know it.

Speaker 3 (30:57):
Come.

Speaker 1 (30:58):
And so when he comes, when he find you, he'll
find his glue and now everything a fall in place
with it. He'll be able to flow, He'll be able
to work, work and don't mind. He'll be able to
love you and will a pure hard. He'll be able
to trust you in it, feeds you and take care
of you, and he'll have pleasure in doing it.

Speaker 3 (31:18):
You gotta have the right one for that story.

Speaker 4 (31:21):
Someone don't know that.

Speaker 1 (31:23):
And that's why I say when it comes to marriage,
because this story is the one that's in the world.
But how many of them know the word? And that's
what the problem is. You trying to live something that
you don't know. Go to the word That's why I
say you can teach something that you don't know if
you know the word, because it ain't what vonn say is.

Speaker 3 (31:41):
What the words say.

Speaker 1 (31:43):
So when you're talking about the word, I don't have
to I don't have to be doing it. I have
to teach it. Somebody told me that, how could you
teach me something that you don't do yourself?

Speaker 3 (31:52):
Because you know how they say preach.

Speaker 1 (31:54):
Don't trying to tell me if you ain't doing it.
But at the end of the day, if I'm telling
you what the word says, not me, I'm I'm only
the male man. I'm just deliving it. I don't know
what's inside your mail. I don't know what's what it's saying.
But I'm telling you what the words say. So when
the word said that when when he when he created
the man was right, he had everything, he had, all

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the animals, he had, all the everything had been in
place every and then he just put him to sleep
and said come forth.

Speaker 5 (32:24):
Now I've heard a man say on the show, on
the show, on the show, that women came and messed
it up for men, and.

Speaker 3 (32:33):
You know what to do that?

Speaker 1 (32:35):
And you know what, that just goes back to when
it gotam said, it's a woman.

Speaker 3 (32:40):
You gave me that.

Speaker 1 (32:40):
Now I asked that. That blaming have not never changed.
They're gonna blame you, but at the end of the
day you have to.

Speaker 3 (32:49):
Be But still I'm sorry, even though.

Speaker 1 (32:53):
Already went to the top of the mountain.

Speaker 3 (32:57):
Even though the woman.

Speaker 2 (33:00):
Stuff first or whatever. As a head, that's why a
man is supposed to be the head of the house. So
he should have spoke up. He should have said, look, woman,
you know what God told us. He should have spoke up,
but he kept his mouth shut. And that's what they
do in marriages. They keep their mouth shut. I ain't
gonna say nothing. I'm just gonna let him fall on
they face. Oh I'm gonna let you do it, and
I ain't gonna say nothing.

Speaker 3 (33:20):
Then guess what.

Speaker 2 (33:21):
Your marriage then fell all the way apart because you
ain't say nothing. Communication is everything, and that's why they
fall into the vorce.

Speaker 1 (33:28):
I agree if we and if you don't get it right,
or expect for you to change twices in the middle
of the screen, you gotta get it right. For you
even start you tell you know whoever you want to
find out your purpose because when you dating, when you
when i'm when I see a guy. First of all,
he walk up to me, I started looking and seeing
and see marriagement material. It's he the kind of man
that I would want to spend the rest of my

(33:48):
life with. And I don't even know him, but I
started evaluating it right at the door when he open
his mouth and say, hey, how you doing okay? Talking
pretty right? Let me take thee Let me take you home.
You gotta car, you know, well, I got I can't
stay out late. I gotta get up a go to
work and one got job. So you know you is

(34:09):
doing some purposes hunting as he talking and making the conversation.
You know, we ain't trying to go no bed, you know,
especially at this age.

Speaker 2 (34:17):
Now you know you know them ladies at that workshop
said that I'm not she said, She said, how all
you have to be for you not desire your sex?

Speaker 3 (34:25):
She said, I ain't dead yet, so they don't don't
be talking about.

Speaker 1 (34:30):
It this No.

Speaker 3 (34:31):
I know you.

Speaker 1 (34:32):
I'm telling you, and you love to hear that that
fire is still burning and and on it and the
only problem meals, sometimes the fire is burning, that just
nobody to put it out, And that is and that's
the sayings because men don't want to go through the
work or don't want to go through. And then and
a lot of us as women says, we gotta be honest.
We don't guy what this? Women leave stuff and I

(34:54):
want to do and you can't. No, No that see
that's what depending. Yeah, you know all that stuff. No,
bring that down a notch. Because if you have a
man he's trying to be a man, you let him.
You let him. I wanted want but my husband he
was one he worked in construction doing good. But at
what point when you fall? Now, if I ain't got

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I ain't have no choice. I have to step up.
But a lot of women's is not stepping up because
they won't to a lot of these women are stepping
up because if I don't, I ain't gonna eat. If
I don't, my kids can't can't make it. If I don't,
we gonna be in a shelter. So a lot of
women didn't have no choice. And once you open that
door and they had them choices, it's.

Speaker 3 (35:36):
Hard to bring them back down.

Speaker 2 (35:38):
Now.

Speaker 5 (35:38):
It's hard because when they are afraid, if they let
go and just let you, they don't they can't they
face the consequences and.

Speaker 1 (35:47):
Some consequences coming with it.

Speaker 3 (35:49):
And the man is the foundation.

Speaker 1 (35:51):
I heard Pastor Evans said, the foundation don't have to
be pretty, but it got to be strong.

Speaker 3 (35:57):
And that's what we got.

Speaker 2 (35:58):
Now.

Speaker 1 (35:58):
We ain't got no foundations. And if we do, they pretty.

Speaker 3 (36:01):
They the man has.

Speaker 1 (36:03):
Pretty in your house. They nails better. They in the
They in the saloon, and faster than you. They they
is dressed and they impressed. They got everything to the teeth.
They shopping more on you. So I mean, it don't
have to be pretty, but it gotta be strong. Be strong,
and we and we and women's need and looking for

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strong foundations.

Speaker 2 (36:26):
You gotta be able to depend on them. You gotta
be able. They gotta be able to hold you up.
And if they're not holding you up, they holding somebody's space.
That's what they're doing. You don't hold nobody else's space. Now,
move along, move on, Move move along. Joanne said, miss
me something else.

Speaker 1 (36:45):
I love her, But you know what, it is just
something and it ain't that. It's just that, you know,
I've been around and and and falling down, made a
whole lot of mistakes and you know, a lot of
stuff can't go back and change, but you have to brush.
You know, said when you fall down, it ain't nothing
wrong with falling down, because that's life, and that's you know,

(37:07):
a lot of time we say I'm the press, I
had a bet. No, that's life. I'm having a bad day.
It don't rain always, and it don't sun no shine always.
But there's lessons. You call this a teaching moment because
now when I get up, I'm supposed to get a better, strong,
grand wiser. So I've did a lot of getting up,
and now if I don't try to stick with just
trying to be on no word, because life is life.

(37:30):
But when you want to start talking about I don't
know what I'm talking about, you got to go to
the word because it's lost of I don't know, but
it's in the word. And if we was to and
if we want to want to.

Speaker 2 (37:39):
Get it right, we got to go back to Most
of the times there's one partner that's in the word
and the other one that's not. They're not always when
they say not equally, Yo, you can say it's in
the word all day. They ain't in the word. They
don't know the word. So you just talking out of
your mind.

Speaker 1 (37:55):
But it also says that the woman can cover him
one one can cover the other. So you if you
is strong enough and and I'm gonna how much work
is we willing to put in? That's another thing, because
I even know for myself sometimes you can put so
much and you like, yeah, I mean I'm done. How

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much work is we putting? Is we willing to put in?
Like a divorce, how much did you put in?

Speaker 3 (38:20):
Well?

Speaker 1 (38:20):
How much did you invest before you gave up? I
I know you can you can say I can't do
no more because sometimes you say I've given you the
best years of my life, and you don't want to
say that. You don't want to get to the point
that you've given somebody all of your good years and
now you're going downhill and you're trying to get the
rest of them to somebody when not you can't hang
from no shine to lives.

Speaker 3 (38:41):
Now.

Speaker 1 (38:43):
You can forget that now and some stuff that you've
made of you.

Speaker 3 (38:46):
You ain't you feeling out?

Speaker 1 (38:48):
You ain't Finela, wear no STI letters no more baby,
They would say, we say, way, I'm in the bed.
Are you ain't gonna do none of that? Pat? And
then everything's trying to say in the vitamins, and you
ain't trying to do nothing now, so you don't want
to mess around and give And you say, well, then

(39:09):
how do you figure it? Because I don't think that,
I don't think and I don't believe. I don't remember
the word that in the New Testament did tell you
about getting a rental?

Speaker 3 (39:18):
If you want to get a divorce most decree.

Speaker 1 (39:22):
Yeah, but you know, at the end of the day,
you want to make sure you've put up a good fight,
you know, because if you stood in front of because
I believe that that's why when people shocking, they can stay,
but when they get married they can't. Because what you
stand before God and his congregation and the preacher and
the preacher, and you said I do until death do

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us part. It has no not only been you. You
did that as a covenant and as a contract and
as a witness unto God. And it becomes now more
powerful when you were shocking that you didn't put that
in the whether while you were shocking.

Speaker 3 (40:00):
Nothing to you.

Speaker 2 (40:00):
You haven't make you ain't making love, You having sex
on the devil.

Speaker 3 (40:06):
That's it. He got you.

Speaker 2 (40:08):
So he said, God said you should be married. And
I said, you ain't got to get married. I said,
I'm gonna give you all riches and faming everything.

Speaker 3 (40:15):
You won't just live together. Just keep doing it like this.
Raise those kids, make them bastard children.

Speaker 2 (40:21):
I'm saying for real. But God said, I want you
to have a home. I want you to have a partner.
I want you to have love and all that other stuff.
So he already got you. So what's the purpose? Now
you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (40:34):
So when you get married, he's trying to fight you.
He still cared.

Speaker 2 (40:37):
Well, he still go into that marriage with you trying
to fight his way through. Is up to you, like
you said, to stay strong in it, to work, to
trust God in, and to put.

Speaker 3 (40:48):
The work in.

Speaker 1 (40:48):
Put the work in. I know of it. A lot
of times I do talk a lot of crazy stuff,
you know, I don't want to know.

Speaker 3 (40:54):
I don't know, But that was good stuff. I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (40:56):
I do believe without anything is better than one and
if and I'm not saying that because I said it,
That's what the word said. Even Sulomon said that if
if one is cold, the other can woman up.

Speaker 3 (41:16):
I'm telling you.

Speaker 1 (41:17):
So, there are some things that it was meant to
be and it's meant to be a too, And it
means like I say, you got a hand and you
have a glove. It can fit and it's supposed to
be snug, and it's supposed to be where he's That's
why he says, leave everybody else out and you come
together and be one.

Speaker 3 (41:35):
You know, because you like.

Speaker 1 (41:36):
I asked a question if the mother don't like, if
the wife don't like the mother, would you still do
it now? Obviously, I think that you ought to want
to have an agreement where the two can get along,
because it'll leave out some friction between the man in
the middle. It ought to be like that. But at
the end of the day, he has to be he

(41:58):
supposed to be clean to his wife. And I'll never
I wish somebody marry my son. I'll pay a couple
of day.

Speaker 5 (42:04):
Must oh, okay, I got one. You said a couple
of months ago marriage.

Speaker 1 (42:14):
If they said, they said, yeah, we'll do it.

Speaker 5 (42:21):
Now he do.

Speaker 2 (42:22):
Oh that sounds like that, yeah, yeah, so so yeah.
And if you you what did they she married and said?
Can I move in with you?

Speaker 5 (42:33):
Lord?

Speaker 1 (42:35):
One of you?

Speaker 3 (42:35):
Enough?

Speaker 1 (42:36):
Two of you? Oh God, that's what I'm gonna help
you with your rent.

Speaker 2 (42:43):
Do you think parents should like if newly wads first
get married to help them start off? You think they
should let the mary the married people stay together. You
think they're ready for marriage if they have to live
with their parents when they first get married. If you
finda get married and you got to move with me,
you should never got married till.

Speaker 3 (43:02):
You had got your place.

Speaker 1 (43:02):
Ain't no need you ain't no one of y'all shouldn't
got a place before you start.

Speaker 3 (43:06):
To get married.

Speaker 1 (43:06):
Ain't no need of you getting married and then you
got to come to stay with your mama.

Speaker 5 (43:10):
No, y'all y'all combined and still trying.

Speaker 3 (43:16):
To save money for their house.

Speaker 1 (43:17):
Yeah, but you should have saved it before you got married.
You should have been working on that plan before you
got married. No, you shouldn't have to be coming and
and and inconvenient nobody else. You're gonna inconvenience somebody else
cause be cause you want to get your right.

Speaker 3 (43:35):
No.

Speaker 1 (43:35):
No, that's the plan that you should have been clean
to your wife, not your mama. Oh you know, and
that's a lot of that stuff. Well, I want to
stay with me because I want to stay out of trouble.
Not at least all that stuff that's ain't That ain't
the way it's supposed to be.

Speaker 2 (43:49):
It's not because after a certain age, they should at
least want to be on their own.

Speaker 1 (43:53):
They want to even if we got the struggle, baby,
we're gonna struggle together. Yes, we're gonna do it together.
We're gonna fight this role together.

Speaker 3 (43:59):
That's why.

Speaker 1 (44:00):
That's why you coming together and to become one.

Speaker 2 (44:03):
And it don't even when you're going through situations and
you know, you could be in down moments and financial
trouble anything, but if you're doing it with somebody, it
doesn't seem as hard because you got two people trying
to reach the same goal, two people trying to work together,
two people communicating strategy strategies, so it don't seem so hard.

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Even if it is hard, it don't seem as hard
because you got help.

Speaker 1 (44:30):
I agree, I agree, I agree. But you know, sometimes
now and maybe it's because we not doing it right
or whatever. You know, when you get married, you feel
like you've got shackles on you, you got you know,
something holding you down. Yeah, I know, it's a lot
of those things where I know, if I'm into my
own self that that's a lot of reasons why I
don't want to get married.

Speaker 2 (44:51):
But then those the things you talk about prior to
time or not, those are things you be yourself. Ain't
no shackles, ain't no change, gonna hold me down, Ain't
no shackles. Because if you're doing things out of respect
for the other, your partner, it shouldn't be no reason
why I gotta you, gotta keep drawing me back in
when I'm trying to get out there.

Speaker 5 (45:08):
It should be that you know, tied down to be here.
That I think when you find the right person.

Speaker 3 (45:13):
It doesn't feel she.

Speaker 2 (45:14):
Doesn't feel like because when you you feel shackled, that
doesn't mean they don't trust you.

Speaker 3 (45:18):
And why you're gonna marry me? You know you ain't
trust me.

Speaker 2 (45:21):
You knew I stayed out till two o'clock in the
morning when it got with you and you said that
was okay. Now you want me in the bed next
to you. You shouldn't have let me stake.

Speaker 1 (45:28):
That was a question the other day is do you
think that you and your husband is married but you
sleep in two different rooms?

Speaker 3 (45:35):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (45:35):
I do that sometimes when it's snow well, only because
I get caught.

Speaker 4 (45:39):
I get hot and he gets he stay cold, and
I will.

Speaker 3 (45:43):
I need air.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
That was one of the girls said on the uh
she's like because she was saying that, you know that. No,
it's it's it's perfectly fine for to be married in
two different rooms and you and the ladies that work
were like, no way, no way, you're gonna be and
you're gonna be laying right in with me with all
my snowing and stink everything. You're gonna be laying right.

Speaker 3 (46:05):
That works for them.

Speaker 4 (46:06):
I think, yeah, each TJ all.

Speaker 1 (46:09):
Right, But I you know all the many years, there's
no way no body can sleeping in the bed with
me I have.

Speaker 2 (46:16):
I was going through that Paramint pol stuff. I was
so hot I have to air conditioning on in the
winter time. And a fan's like, I cannot with you.

Speaker 1 (46:24):
I can't.

Speaker 3 (46:26):
He would have putter, make up the bed and put
extra I have a problem. You're going to the next
room because I need.

Speaker 1 (46:34):
This app exactly.

Speaker 3 (46:37):
That's how I feel some days. I really just need
the air.

Speaker 5 (46:40):
You coldly quiet, it's not.

Speaker 1 (46:44):
It's out of here.

Speaker 2 (46:46):
So it's reasons why you and then you don't got
to snug up there in the house with you. You
know what I'm saying, because sometimes they sit on the
couch and fall asleep, and then.

Speaker 3 (46:55):
I might as well say, you didn't wake me up
to go to bed. I need that bed to myself.

Speaker 2 (47:01):
So it's not like it's bad or we are you know,
none of that stuff. It's just sometimes you just want
that freedom.

Speaker 1 (47:07):
Yeah, I don't know, you know, ain't nobody in mind?
But I said, but I said, if it was one, Yeah,
I know, but if if I was one, I don't
think it nobody could be in a bed with me.
I'm so used to now having the whole you know,
bed and twisting and turnning, and you know, I'm just
so used to it now. So I don't know. Getting

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you retraining myself at this age, it ain't gonna be easy.

Speaker 3 (47:32):
Then it gotta move on over. Oh you ain't gonna
move that far?

Speaker 1 (47:36):
You start touching your back, move that far? Yeah, massage
me to sleep, and yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3 (47:44):
You ain't going that far. You ain't. You'll get used
to real fasts.

Speaker 2 (47:47):
I know.

Speaker 1 (47:48):
I mean, I just I just now just wish that
specially our young people's that's coming up, the one that's younger,
because you know, we talking. But most of us older women,
we ain't raising that much, saying, you know, we ain't
doing all that, But I don't know.

Speaker 3 (48:04):
I better for yourself.

Speaker 5 (48:07):
I'm just saying, do you think what people are raising
their children to want to get married? I was thinking
about this with my daughters. I was like, I never
really sat down and talked about that with I was like, oh,
I never talked about that enough. I guess it really. Actually,
I was really wondering because I would love to see

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as I watch my children's friends get married, I was like,
I would love to have that experience with them.

Speaker 4 (48:33):
I was like, I never really talked about that.

Speaker 2 (48:35):
Yeah, I would love to see my kids in a
healthy marriage. Yeah, you don't really talk about it and
you just let them make their own decisions and go
with the flow. But maybe those are conversations that should
be had more than I you know, because we don't
really as they get to a certain age, you don't.
You try not to be all up in their business,

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so you don't talk about it that much.

Speaker 3 (48:59):
But maybe it should be some conversation.

Speaker 2 (49:01):
Maybe they won't make the bad decisions that they do make.

Speaker 5 (49:05):
I don't know, and they're still making relationship decisions having
children and doing those other things, so we don't have
those conversas.

Speaker 4 (49:15):
And I really thought about it.

Speaker 5 (49:16):
I was like, maybe I want to do something different
with my younger son, my older my other daughter. I
don't is that era of a point of being too late?
But right now they're forming opinions based on social media
and things like that. I don't like that either. I
should want to have some say so.

Speaker 2 (49:31):
So it's never too late. Though, it's never too late.
They're gonna make mistakes, just like we've made mistakes. They
gonna go through channels and changes like we have. But
it's never too late. Because even some of the things
my mom said to me right before her pass and
still ring truth for me today, and I think about
it now, even as an older person, you think about

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it and you go get my spirited quick and saying, oh.

Speaker 3 (49:55):
Mama, want to did that or she said this?

Speaker 2 (49:57):
Even when I sang that time at Christian Greater Rock
for I said you gonna sing one day, I said.

Speaker 3 (50:02):
Oh no, I ain't.

Speaker 2 (50:03):
I ain't doing that. I end up doing it, and
I always think about that. So and now I got
this thing that I want to sing. Even though I
came back I used to know how and I stopped
so certain things you put into their spirit, even if
they're older, it sticks.

Speaker 3 (50:17):
It sticks. They like they ain't listening, but they listening.

Speaker 1 (50:21):
Amen. That's one thing I say and I and I'm
gonna stick to that. I don't care what, how how
old it is, I don't care what. You don't stop talking.
And it's just and and I know mine, I hear.
I can hear them right now, said Mama. Know she
talks too much. I know they saying I know they saying.

Speaker 3 (50:40):
Yeah, I know they're saying it.

Speaker 1 (50:41):
But at the end of the day, I told them all,
I'm like a radio. You can turn me off, but
you turn me back on. I'm to still be talking.
I'm you just got it because you don't even realize
it's just what one to just say it sometimes just
keep speaking, just keep talking, and you don't never know
when it's gonna click because you thinking is going out
of this ear, out of that ear. But baby, you

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keep it talking. Something gonna hit on good ground. Because
they say you can throw seeds like you a planet.
You keep throwing some seeds, yep, he said, some may
fall on the rock, some on the throwing some may
fall in the path and the birds eat it. But
you keep on throwing. It's gonna fland on some good ground.
And then when it comes up, you may not even

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see it. You don't see the seed when it's on there,
but you do see when it comes up. So all
you got to do is keep throwing the seed. And
he's saying, you throw the seed, but another one gonna
come alone and water it, and only God gonna give
the increase. So all you do keep on throwing the seed.
Oh you don't want to hear me, I'm gonna talk more.

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You want me the same one verse. I'm feeling the
same too.

Speaker 3 (51:46):
Oh no, I'm just kidding.

Speaker 1 (51:50):
I'm telling you that's exactly what you gotta do. You
don't want to hear it. I'm gonna give it more,
give you more. You're gonna get mad, you'll get glad.
I mean, you just have to keep doing it because
that I know it works. It may and you don't
know when, you don't know why, you don't know how
all you do is Lord, I keep knowing it just
what you told me to do. You told me to

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train them up. You told me to just do it,
and they will not depart from it. So all I'm
doing is doing what you told me to do. I'm
like hes a guy, turned my face to the wall
because I want to tune everybody else.

Speaker 3 (52:22):
Up to give me some more time, give me some
more time.

Speaker 1 (52:25):
I gotta talk about it. I gotta get it through.
And you never know when the seed is gonna land.
You just gotta keep doing it and you and the
more you do it, the more happy you will get.
They may be mad, but you getting to feel so
good because some things is not even for them to
get it for you. I'm speaking it, but you didn't
need it. I needed it when the old people say,

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I'm whooping you because and I and I've lived long
enough to know that. It's some times you say no
and you want to say yeah, but you know what's
best and you saying no, Well, I think I know
what's best, and I'm trying to do the right thing.

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I'm trying to make the right decisions and sometimes it doesn't.

Speaker 3 (53:10):
But it's one thing I've learned.

Speaker 1 (53:12):
Even when I tell you something and you do it
and it was wrong, I take the blame. I'll stand
in the gap. But when you do against my will
something I told you don't do and you get caught
up in it, that's nobody fault with yours. So I
think that's just the way the Lord said. If I
keep doing what the Lord told me to do, it
don't come I right, come on, he's covering me. But

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now when he give me my permissive willing and I
make some bad decisions, Lord, just don't throw it on
me too bad. But yeah, and it and and we
said all the time, that is what I believe. And
I can end it with with with my last thought
and then one that can give hers And I believe

(53:57):
it's because we're dealing with young people's and I think
it's not really the young people's fault, it's ours. Because
he told when he when he told, he told Josh,
he said, what I want you to do is I
got some stones and I want you to take them
over and then put them on the other side and
make an altar over there. And and he said, well,
what am I doing that for? He said, because the

(54:20):
generation after you gonna say why you did it, and
you can tell them because this is how we made
it over, this, how we come this, how we got over.
And now we have stopped talking and they'll stopped listening.
You got to get back to the point that I'm
throwing my sea, whether you catch it or not. I'm
putting this How we got over I some I asked
some older peoples didn't have no education, I ain't had

(54:42):
no background, they ain't have no finance, but they made it.
Ask me how they made it because they knew they
held on to what was true and it didn't change.
And that was the word of God. And until you started,
until we get back to that parents talking standing their ground,
meaning what they say, I said it, I'm and while
you why because I said so. And if you don't

(55:03):
get back to that, we losing them giving them what
they want. Know that what you want, baby, it's it's minds.
As long as you in this house, my rude stand,
I'm the only king in this castle. I'm the only
chief in this kitchen. Ain't nothing moving. That's I say,
it's gonna move. And when I move, you move, just
like that. And until we get back to some some
platforms like that, and they said, well, this is a

(55:25):
new day, this is a new time. No, baby, God
don't change. And if he don't change, the world, don't change.
And if the world don't change. I ain't changing, and
you and now all my kids have grown now ain't
I ain't gotta do it now. But they and I
probably gave him some stuff they probably didn't need. And
you don't never know.

Speaker 3 (55:45):
That's why you just keep on throwing the seed.

Speaker 1 (55:48):
And all you sees ain't gonna be good seed, but
you gonna mess around and get a good one.

Speaker 5 (55:53):
But I agree with you because a lot of times
I'll think of things that I did with my children.

Speaker 4 (55:58):
I know that that comes from my father.

Speaker 5 (56:00):
My father told me that, and I'm doing things my father,
and I remember really thanking my father for raising me
to the way to be able to pass these things
on to my children, the different ways that he taught us.
But they go on to be adults, and you want
them to have the seeds there that when they have
to make their own decisions, they have something to go on,

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some foundations.

Speaker 4 (56:24):
Some what sprouts out is based on that seed.

Speaker 3 (56:28):
You plan it. Yes, then you can be like this.

Speaker 1 (56:31):
So I said, I'm fighting a fight, but my back
is against the wall, and you will be able to
come out strong, because he said, when you weak, I'll
make you strong. But you cannot get that if you
don't know what the words say. Adam, Adam did your
word to go ahead?

Speaker 3 (56:48):
You did good.

Speaker 2 (56:49):
I'm just I'm just saying listening. I just say, like
you said, keep on talking, keep on talking. I always
say that parents need to be retrained. You know, when
I was coming up, they had parents or classes and
stuff like that. They don't have them like that anymore.
They just think parents know it all. We don't come
with a manual. We don't come with no not. The
only thing we come with is the word of God.

(57:13):
And then you can get that everywhere. You can go
to the hotel and get it, you know. So we
just need to just keep on talking, keep on communicating,
and keep on looking out for each other because it
does take a community. It does take a village, not
just to raise the kids, but take a village to
help the parents.

Speaker 3 (57:31):
We all need to help one another.

Speaker 2 (57:33):
So just keep on talking to your kids, keep on
talking to your husbands.

Speaker 3 (57:37):
Communication is everything. Love on each other, y'all, have.

Speaker 1 (57:41):
A good one.

Speaker 3 (57:43):
We love y'all. Shalam.