The Jaye Spot Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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let's get started now. Listen you all, I want to
start with this foolery like this, and I say, Lord, please,
don't ever let me come across the man that.

Speaker 3 (02:06):
Put it on me like this that I'm still.

Speaker 2 (02:09):
Clowning after twenty two years of us being broken up. Please,
Lord please, If he got some thank thing like that's
gonna make me act like that, I don't want it. Now, Jay,
what are you talking about? Who are you talking about?
I am talking about Vivicar Fox. Listen you all the
way Vivicar Fox keeps having fifty cents name in her

(02:32):
mouth after all of these years of them being broken up.

Speaker 3 (02:36):
Listen, I don't want it.

Speaker 2 (02:39):
If I don't want no thank thing like that, that's
gonna have me talking about you twenty four years, twenty five,
thirty years after you don't kick me to the curb
or I done kick you to the curve.

Speaker 3 (02:49):
However they broke up. I don't wanna have nothing.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
Listen, lord, I don't want no thank thing that's gonna
have me acting like that now.

Speaker 3 (02:57):
I don't know if you all can relate to me. Listen.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
It's clear that after all of these years, now she
could listen, Vivica A Fox, I love you. You could
say whatever you want to say, but that man put
that thank than on you, and you still are having
flashbacks and you are still remembering. You know, you still remember,
and it's like every time she wake up, she get

(03:23):
a sensation, she like, oh fifty fifty. That's why she
keeps talking about them. Because if somebody scarved me like
that and it didn't have anything to do with that
dang thing, trust I will never mention that brother's name again.

Speaker 3 (03:37):
Never.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
But if you did me like that and then he
put that thank thank like like, then you will have
no choice but to listen. Good, listen, Can we just look,
Come on, y'all, come a little closer, because I want
us to have an honest conversation tonight.

Speaker 3 (03:53):
Now.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
Listen, if man or woman the thank thing is for either,
or if somebody.

Speaker 3 (04:00):
He put that think thing on you, and it's that good. Listen.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
It don't matter what they've done to you, you're still
gonna talk about it now. It can listen, drop an
amen in the comments.

Speaker 3 (04:12):
Listen.

Speaker 2 (04:13):
And that's the type of thing thing I don't want.
So if your think thing is that good, you can
keep that foolishness to yourself. Okay, you can keep that
foolishness to yourself, baby, because I don't want to be
up here acting like that. Sixty years old and I'm
still tripping out over some thank thing that I got
when I was.

Speaker 3 (04:33):
In my forties. I don't listen.

Speaker 2 (04:36):
I don't want it. I don't want it. So all
these guys happen. Yeah, he gonna put it on you. No, no, no, no, no, no,
you could keep it, keep it because see listen, at
this point in the game where I'm I don't have no.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
Time to be acting crazy over some thank thing. I
really don't. I have more productive things to do with.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
My time than to sit here and se fast out
because I'm reminiscing over the time where he knocked my
understanding out. I look, look, no, I don't have and
you know I really you all I really sympathize with
Vivoca A. Fox because you know, it has to be hard,

(05:17):
like in all of these years, she has not found
anybody else to come, not that she hasn't had any options,
but she hasn't had anybody to come and put another
thing thing on a like that so that she can
forget about fifty cents, thank thing.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
So she ain't had.

Speaker 2 (05:36):
Nobody knock her out and just make her lose control
like fifty cent did. That's why she keep talking about him.
And again she did write Vivica Fox got on here
and she said, listen, she would tell her younger self
to not date fifty cent again or date any rappers. Listen,
she had you know, she tried to clean it up

(05:57):
at the end. That's why she threw in there and
don't date no other don't date no rappers. But this
is really you all about fifty cent. It's really about
fifty cent. So again, if a dude come and you
know you got that's what you have to check.

Speaker 3 (06:11):
They references you are.

Speaker 2 (06:12):
You have to check their references and see how the ex.

Speaker 3 (06:17):
You gotta see how the X is acting.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
Because if the X is acting crazy, then nine times
out of ten the thank thank is real good, and
I don't want to have I don't want to I
don't wanna have no parts of it because I just
you know, you can't shake those people that's still feeding
for somebody's think thing. You can't shake those people. Those
people they just like the flu of pneumonia. You know,
it take a whole for it to go away. So

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I'm saying it takes a while for people to get
over these folks with this good thank thing.

Speaker 3 (06:48):
And again, I just don't.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
Want to be in the midst of that type of foolery,
you know what I'm saying, Because again, I have too
much to do in my life. I don't have time
to be wasting, you know, spazzing out over some good
thing things.

Speaker 3 (07:06):
So again, you can bring the mediocre.

Speaker 2 (07:09):
I'll take the poor condition or the mediocre because you
know why now you may be saying, oh my god, Jay,
what in the world, Because at least I won't be
acting like Vivica Fox when it's over with, I won't
be acting like that. Y'all know I'm telling the truth. Listen,
That's the only reason why she keeps saying something about him,

(07:30):
because she wants to, you know, she reminiscing her mind
may not be reminiscent, so to speak, but I promise
you miss Pearley is definitely her and just saying fifty fifty,
that's what it's, that's what it's doing. So listen, fifty gone,

(07:51):
gone over there and tap up for old time sake,
so that she can keep your name out her out
her mouth, because that's the only way that she gonna
stop talking about.

Speaker 3 (08:00):
If you go ahead on over there and tap and
tap that.

Speaker 2 (08:03):
Real quick, then she you know, she she well, but
don't put it.

Speaker 3 (08:07):
Listen, give it, do it bad.

Speaker 2 (08:10):
So then therefore you can erase all of the desire
that she have for you to knock a upside down,
So you know, don't go over there and show out.

Speaker 3 (08:18):
See that's the thing, y'all. I keep trying to tell y'all.
You all are up.

Speaker 2 (08:23):
In here single or you're dating, and you just seeing people,
and y'all putting on y'all best.

Speaker 3 (08:30):
Moves, and now you can't get rid of these folks.
Fifty cent.

Speaker 2 (08:34):
Don't went in there and don't put on his best moves.
Now he can't shake Vivica Fox.

Speaker 3 (08:39):
Now he can't.

Speaker 2 (08:40):
He can't get rid of her even though they are
no longer together. Hey man, this woman still talks about
him to this day. Now, let me see if anybody's
gonna be honest. Do you all have anybody that it's
been a long time and you've broken up with them,

(09:00):
but you they put.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
That thing thing on you so bad.

Speaker 2 (09:03):
You still seeing stars, You still reminiscent over the time
that you've had with them, and it has been umpteen
years ago, but you still cannot shake what they did
to you.

Speaker 3 (09:17):
Do you have Is it anybody that is willing to
admit you know? Jay?

Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yeah, you ain't lying. You ain't lying. That girl she
sucked my understanding. And I ain't been right ever since
that girl sucked my understand.

Speaker 3 (09:34):
I ain't been right, Jay, I ain't.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
Been right since that man he set up there and
he just knocked it from the bottom to the top.
I have not been right. I'm not even gonna lie
to you. I haven't been right since they did that.
Because again, for me, if it's like that, I don't
want it.

Speaker 3 (09:52):
I don't want it. I don't want it at all.

Speaker 2 (09:55):
You can keep you can keep all of that, Jay,
Why do you want them to keep on all of that?
Because I have more productive things to do with my time.
I don't have time in my life to devote to
going through good thank thing withdrawals. I just don't listen
you all. I don't want any parts of it. I

(10:16):
don't want any parts of any good thank thing withdraws.

Speaker 3 (10:20):
I like where I am in life.

Speaker 2 (10:22):
I like I just want to focus on what it
is that I have to do. See, because when the
good thing thing phase ends, now.

Speaker 3 (10:31):
That's when people go crazy.

Speaker 2 (10:33):
That's why you have these people out here spassing out.
It's not because of oh well they did this particular
thing to them. No, it's just the withdrawal.

Speaker 3 (10:44):
It's just like being a drug addict.

Speaker 2 (10:47):
And now you're going through the with Your body is
going through the withdrawals because you no longer are getting
that thank thing. So now you don't know how to act.
Now it's messing you up. You know why, because you
are going through thank thing withdrawal.

Speaker 3 (11:09):
So again, if it's that good, you can keep it.

Speaker 2 (11:13):
I want to talk to your exes. I want to
talk to your last two exes, and I want to
see who's still messing with you, who's still what ex
is still texting you?

Speaker 3 (11:22):
Being here?

Speaker 2 (11:23):
Because you know why because that's gonna tell me what's
going on. They not texting you to see how you doing.
They're texting you to see if you're gonna come on
over there and put that thing on them, and if
you got it like that again, I don't listen. I
want nothing to do with that cedric. You're saying, why
are you telling all my business? You like, honestly, yep, Listen,

(11:46):
y'all you all know I am not lying when that
thank thing is good.

Speaker 3 (11:51):
No, I'm gonna say this.

Speaker 2 (11:52):
When the thank thing is exceptional, it has you talking
about it twenty years after y'all do'n broke up. So
that's the problem with fifty cent and Vivica Fox, and
it's her problem because clearly fifty cent has you know
it wasn't you know, the the thank thing wasn't off
the chart for him like it was for her. So

(12:14):
because she keeps mentioning him. So listen, Vivca, if you
play nice, you know, he might come over there. But
then he like, nah, because see I see how she doing.
Now it's been twenty two years and she's still acting
like she's still acting up like this. He's like, I
can't go over there and give her no shot, because
if I give a shot, you know, then it's gonna

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rev up.

Speaker 3 (12:36):
Even more craziness.

Speaker 2 (12:38):
And I'm not gonna know what to do because this
is she's still acting like this after twenty two years. Again,
keep that good thing thing, you keep it. Listen, you
can keep it, and all and listen and all that
you have to offer, you can keep all that, because
again it's not it's not worth you know, all of

(12:59):
the pain.

Speaker 3 (13:00):
That you're gonna listen. It's too distracting. Just get you some.

Speaker 2 (13:04):
Mediocre thank thing and you know call it, you know,
go ahead on the call of the day.

Speaker 3 (13:09):
Because again with this good thank thing.

Speaker 2 (13:11):
This exceptional thingk thing I should say, when you get it,
when it's exceptional, you start acting crazy.

Speaker 3 (13:19):
So, Vivica, I am so so sorry that you are
still still dealing with this.

Speaker 2 (13:26):
I'm really sorry that you know it's just not working
out for you. But I don't know, you gotta, I
don't know, maybe try to rose to Some people say
that the rolls, you know, I don't.

Speaker 3 (13:37):
I don't really know what the teller.

Speaker 2 (13:39):
But at this point I just feel bad for her,
because Jay, why you feel bad for her? Because clearly
she's still longing for this man, and like he has
absolutely no chill, Like he could care less, He could
care less how she feels, what she wan't any he

(14:00):
could care less about that. So that's why I'm just like, yeah,
this brother right here. So that's why she'll be saying,
you know, well.

Speaker 3 (14:10):
I don't date fifty cent. Don't dating now other rappers?
Mm hmmm mm hmmm.

Speaker 2 (14:16):
You are listen, miss Vivica, all due respect, please leave
fifty cent alone because he, you know, he's trying to
move on with his life. He you know, he acting good.
He you know, he got hisself together. He don't need
you coming up in here raining on his parade. I'm
sure he don't. You know, done turned a couple of
other folks out, you know, so he don't need you.

(14:36):
You know, don't be don't be sitting up the player
hating because that, you know, that sound real haterish. When
you was like, oh, downdate fifty cent and downdate no
more rappers, m Vivoca, that that sound a little haterish.

Speaker 3 (14:52):
I'm gonna be honest, I see you are. I'm honest.

Speaker 2 (14:55):
It sounded a little haterish, and I just you know,
hope that she does.

Speaker 3 (15:00):
A little bit better. Hey, Preddy Tasha, Hey Tea Cook.
How you guys doing, But let me know, drop in
the comments, am I line? If they got some good
thank than listen you.

Speaker 2 (15:12):
It has you holding on to a relationship, whether it's
the relationship is still actually in progress between the both
of you all, or whether that relationship is just in
one's mind when they got that good thank thing and
I put it up. Look, have you over there? Just
like Lord?

Speaker 3 (15:33):
I know I should leave him alone. Lord, I know.

Speaker 2 (15:36):
I shouldn't even be over here mess with this man.
I know, I know I shouldn't be over here, but
I can't seem to let him go.

Speaker 3 (15:43):
I don't know what. Listen, you can stop right there,
You can stop with the I don't know why.

Speaker 2 (15:48):
You know exactly why you can't let that man go.
The Lord know why you won't let.

Speaker 3 (15:55):
That man go. See you don't want to go to
the Lord and tell him.

Speaker 2 (15:58):
Lord, you know I can't let this man go because
all the nasty, filthy things that he.

Speaker 3 (16:03):
Do to me. And you know, Lord, you know, Lord,
I'm gona tell you I like it, and I like
it a lot.

Speaker 2 (16:09):
See, you're not gonna tell the Lord that you like
all these little filthy things that this man is over
here doing to you. That's why you can't let him go.
You're not gonna tell the Lord that you love when
this girl slurp your soul. And that's why you over
there a stalking her. And you know she's back with
her baby daddy, and y'all be getting mad.

Speaker 3 (16:26):
All she's back on her baby daddy.

Speaker 2 (16:29):
No, he probably slurping a little bit better. But you
like the way she slurped your soul? Now you over
here mad. That's why a lot of these got Listen.
I'm gonna tell y'all, I got the secret to this.

Speaker 3 (16:40):
All of these guys that are over here that's saying out,
what's the purpose of the ain't a single mother? You know?
They they listen, listen, I'm gonna tell y'all what happened.
Come on, y'all. I'mnna tell y'all.

Speaker 2 (16:53):
See all the little the five dudes that said that
they you shouldn't be dating a single mother and all
this and baby ma all this.

Speaker 3 (17:00):
I'm gonna tell y'all what happen.

Speaker 2 (17:01):
I'm gonna tell y'all exactly why they have a problem
with single mothers because a single mother slurped his soul away, okay,
and then she went back to her baby daddy, and
he beg mad. See now because he over there with
listens the same thing like it's just saying with with
Vivica Fox. Now he over there going through withdrawls because

(17:24):
he knows that the way she she slurped him to sleep.
Now she back over there slurping he baby daddy to sleep,
and now he beg mad. So now he figured like, oh,
women ain't got baby daddy. Say no, just say the
baby mama that slurped your soul away, and you haven't
gotten over it. That's why you're saying, don't single mothers

(17:47):
are not nothing you Oh, don't date single mothers.

Speaker 3 (17:49):
Don't date single women's. That's the same.

Speaker 2 (17:51):
That sounds just as crazy as the generalization that Vivica
Fox made, Oh don't date no rappers.

Speaker 3 (17:58):
Well, oh, rappers ain't from the streets.

Speaker 2 (18:00):
Now a lot of them probably are, but all of
them now, so it's not fair to generalize all rappers
because you steal over that fiending over fifty cent them.
Other rappers then asks you to put them in that ish.
They didn't just like fellas if you've dealt with a
baby mama and she donne slurped your soul away, and
now she left and she went back to her baby

(18:22):
daddy or she found a new baby daddy. And it
wasn't you now y'all big mad because you want her
to come back and slurp your soul. But she's gone. Listen, listen,
bro hang it up, big dog. She gone, She gone.
That may have been the best slurp of your life,
that may be, but she's gone and she not coming back.

(18:45):
So now you found out that she will she back
with her baby daddy, now all of a sudden. Now see, yeah,
that's all they be doing, just trying to you know,
it just didn't work out. It didn't work out for
whatever reason. But see people came take that. People can't
take the fact that you not somebody else's cup of tea.

(19:05):
We gotta get all crazy and and get to bashing
and all this. No, big dog, you just what Listen.
You just didn't do it for her. You just did
not do it for her. And we gotta be okay
with that. We gotta be okay. We we not everybody's
cup of tea. So miss Vivica and anybody else that

(19:28):
is in position that you know they don't have that
good thing thing on them, and you just you gotta
quiet the voices, because the voices in your head just
be like, who call them? Let me do something you
cause you you can't control it. You cannot control the
thoughts like who oh, I'm about to go crazy over
it if I don't get a piece of this man.
If I don't get a piece of this woman, I

(19:50):
would go crazy over here. You all, you gotta talk
to somebody, and y'all gotta be honest and admit when
y'all go to talk to these people a shrink, you
gotta talk to somebody up here so they can help
help you to figure out. And you may listen, you
may need to go to Thank Thank Anonymous. You may
have to. You may have to go to thank Thank Anonymous.

(20:11):
And when you all go there, you gotta be honest
with these folks. You gotta let them know. Listen, no,
I'm not here because I'm trying to get over some
alcohol or some drugs and nothing. You know, even though
this feels like this is an alcohol or a drug,
but this man is a drug to me, you know,
this man tossed me back, you know. Doctor, This man

(20:35):
tossed me back some awful you know, and the doctor's
looking like, well, are you old? Yes, yes, I'm listen,
I'm okay. But mss Pearley ain't. She ain't been tossed
back like that since this man. And I'm just trying
to come to grips because you know, I haven't come
across anybody else that's been able to toss me back

(20:58):
like that.

Speaker 3 (20:59):
You have.

Speaker 2 (21:00):
I have to be honest with these people so that
they can help you. They may be able to help you,
not focus on having your think thing tossed back like that.

Speaker 3 (21:11):
Now.

Speaker 2 (21:11):
I will admit it probably won't happen after, you know, overnight,
But you all really really need to consider talking to
some professionals before you get on here and start doing
like Vivica Fox just did.

Speaker 3 (21:25):
Because when I tell you, I.

Speaker 2 (21:27):
Was secondhand embarrassed when she mentioned fifty cent name, I
was just like, now, listen, I was ready for somebody
else's name to come up.

Speaker 3 (21:36):
I really was Cedric.

Speaker 2 (21:38):
You're saying they both admitted that they loved each other, though, see,
and I can respect that, Cujac, but this ain't about
love This is not about love whatsoever. This is about
her missing and her still going through withdraws of that
think thing, and this miss Vivica A. Fox is a

(21:59):
prime example in a good testament.

Speaker 3 (22:03):
Of why you should avoid.

Speaker 2 (22:05):
What she should have been saying is avoid that exceptional
think thing.

Speaker 3 (22:09):
Don't just say on fifty cent.

Speaker 2 (22:12):
You need to avoid people that have this exceptional thank
thing if you not gonna be with them, and if
they if you're not their person and they're not your.

Speaker 3 (22:23):
Person, avoid these people.

Speaker 2 (22:26):
Avoid them, because if you don't, you're gonna be sitting
up here wishing on a star twenty two years later,
twenty five years later, you're gonna be wishing on the star,
wishing that you could just go back and see what
can you do to just get a fix of that
person just one more time, and that you know you
just want one for the role because you was not ready.

Speaker 3 (22:49):
I don't want it. No serve, no serve, don't come
over here.

Speaker 2 (22:54):
Let me tell you your resume, your thank thing, resume
will not be needed over here, because again, if it
got her acting like that, I don't want it. Any
woman that's seeing Vivica Fox's interview, listen, don't avoid him
fifty cent because Vivica fox A she told you to

(23:15):
avoid him.

Speaker 3 (23:16):
Avoid him because you don't want to be acting like
she out there acting.

Speaker 2 (23:20):
That's why you should avoid him, because if he got
thak thing to make her act like that, there's a
chance that he could have you acting the same way.

Speaker 3 (23:30):
And if you don't want that in your.

Speaker 2 (23:32):
Life, you know what, maybe a good thing to just,
you know, to go ahead on, let it go. You
know you like listen, I'm gonna go ahead on, you
know what, I think she might be right. I think
she might be right. I'm gonna go ahead on and
tip past that thing. I'm gonna go head on because
you don't have to make a believer out of me.

(23:53):
I believe her the way she up here acting see me,
I believe her. I believe her.

Speaker 3 (23:58):
I believe everything she's saying.

Speaker 2 (24:01):
I believe everything that she not saying because I'm looking
at how she's acting. And again, if his thing thing
go how you acting like that, you might want to
avoid it. Fellas if her thing thing will have you
acting like that, you might want to avoid it. Because again,

(24:23):
at this day in time, who really has time to
be sitting up here going through withdraws after twenty two years?
Who got time? Hey Ronda, how you doing off of YouTube?

Speaker 3 (24:36):
Hey Baddy? Who got time to be going through withdrawal?

Speaker 2 (24:40):
Over some thank than Again, I personally don't, so if
you got exceptional think thing, you could keep that moving,
keep it moving, because I listen, I don't need those
type of problems in my life.

Speaker 3 (24:55):
Hey, Marie's how you doing?

Speaker 2 (24:57):
I don't need good thank thing issues, So listen and
miss Vivica Fox, we are definitely, you know, keeping you
lifted and hoping that whatever this man did to you,
you can go and talk to somebody else, so you know,
talk to somebody so that they can help you sort
out what's going on with him, so that you can
finally kind of put it to rest, because at this point,

(25:19):
like I'm just secondhand embarrassed for you know, his name
to be come keep coming up in her conversations, you know,
in that type of light.

Speaker 3 (25:29):
That's just me. I'm just saying. I'm like when she
said fifty, so I'm like, oh, oh Lord, I'm like,
oh Lord, there you go again, Oh Lord, oh Lord.
And then you know he he just as petty as
he can be, So I would just leave it alone.
Now listen, speaking of leaving it alone, you all, it

(25:51):
has happened. It has happened, and what Jay, what it listening?
You all?

Speaker 2 (26:00):
An alleged affair And I don't know if I have
to keep saying a legend because they just went the
court for it, but I'm gonna say it anyway. An
alleged affair cost a TikToker, miss Brene Canard over a
million dollars after her now husband, his ex wife sued

(26:26):
Brenee Canard over alienation of affection.

Speaker 3 (26:31):
So basically his listen, let's just break it down.

Speaker 2 (26:35):
Basically, Brene Canard, she stole old girl's husband. An old
girl sued her and won. Oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah,
oh yeah. The side check got sued and the wife, well,

(26:55):
now ex wife won.

Speaker 3 (26:58):
What do you all think about that? Now here's the thing.

Speaker 2 (27:01):
I looked it up and it's only about it's only
six states. It's about six states that still have that
alienation of affection law on the books.

Speaker 3 (27:15):
It's only six states. So she sued and she was.

Speaker 2 (27:18):
In North Carolina and she won. So here are the
sixth US states that currently that Listen, if your spouse
is out entertaining, somebody else and that person that person. Listen,
Now here's the thing. The alienation of affection. Your person
didn't go on their own. They were seduced. They were

(27:41):
lured out.

Speaker 3 (27:42):
Of the marriage.

Speaker 2 (27:43):
Even though you know, when you look at it, I'm like, Okay,
at the end of the day, that person still made
the decision to step out. But alienation, the person your
spouse has to be lured out by someone else, and
that breaks up you go home, that breaks up your marriage.
Alienation of affection. So now they're not doing what they

(28:06):
used to do with you. They're now entertaining and doing
that somewhere else. So yeah, So in essence, a side
chick was sued by the wife because the side chick
stole the wife's husband. And now the side chick is
no longer the side chick. The side chick is the
new wife, which for me, I'm like, wait a minute,

(28:28):
whom minute, Wait a minute, Like my sister.

Speaker 3 (28:31):
Say you lie to me, You are lying to me,
So wait a minute. I'm gonna marry.

Speaker 2 (28:37):
You after I stole you from your wife, and now
I'm gonna turn around and marry you. What now, I
don't know about you all, but I'm a firm believer
in that boomerang coming back around. If he was double

(28:57):
dipping with you on his wife, that clearly they were happy.
Because with the alienation of affection, you have to prove
that the person broke up your marriage.

Speaker 3 (29:12):
So clearly the ex wife was able to prove that.
You know, we were happy. We were in a good state.

Speaker 2 (29:21):
Before this husand came over here sniffing behind my husband.

Speaker 3 (29:27):
We were in a good place. Clearly she was able
to prove that.

Speaker 2 (29:32):
So they were in a good place, and you stole
this woman's husband, she has every right to suit. Now
my question is if you live in one of these
six states, and let me just tell you so.

Speaker 3 (29:48):
The states, and here's what it is.

Speaker 2 (29:51):
Currently six US states that currently allow alienation of affection.
That's Hawaii. Wait a minut, No, they say it says Illinois.
I gotta this is what AI is telling me. So
I'm gonna have to double check because if I remember correctly,
Illinois was not on that. But according to this online Sourcewaii, Illinois, Mississippi,

(30:16):
New Mexico, North Carolina, North Carolina, South Dakota, in Utah,
this legal claim allows a spouse to sue a third
party for intentionally interfering with their marriage leading to the

(30:36):
loss of affection. Most other states have abolished this cause
of action, with Indiana being the first to band it
in nineteen thirty five. So again, the states are currently Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi,
New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota, and Utah. So if

(30:58):
you are married in any of those six states and
you have someone intentionally interfering with your marriage, you can
sue them for alienation of affection. But I just don't know,
like how I would feel about that, Like, I don't know,
and I kind of want to know what was the

(31:20):
wife's thought process behind doing that. Because the only reason
why I'm saying what was her thought process?

Speaker 3 (31:26):
Because yes, this.

Speaker 2 (31:29):
Woman came in and you know she she you know,
she came after your husband, She came strong after him,
and she actually she eventually got him.

Speaker 3 (31:40):
But didn't he have to go?

Speaker 2 (31:43):
Didn't I'm not listen, before you all go, jay, she
actually got a whoa. I'm not condoning this at all.
I'm not so before we go jumping off off, I'm
not condoning. All I'm saying is didn't he participate? Didn't

(32:04):
he know that he was married as well?

Speaker 3 (32:07):
So you know.

Speaker 2 (32:10):
You still went so yes, even though this huzzy set
a trap for your man, he still walked into the
trap willingly.

Speaker 3 (32:21):
So I don't know.

Speaker 2 (32:22):
Would you also here we're here in Illinois, would anybody
a married couple, would you take advantage if this were
to happen? Would you ever take advantage of suing someone
for alienation of affection?

Speaker 3 (32:35):
Because again, this.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
Young lady in North Carolina, she won over a over
a million dollars for her alienation of affection lawsuit, so
you know, and of course the little chick that you know,
which is now the new wife she's talking had she
been doing? First of all, let me tell y'all something
I despise.

Speaker 3 (32:59):
I truly this mis when some women say.

Speaker 2 (33:04):
If she would have been if she would have been
doing what she's supposed to do for him? Wait, how
you know what she's supposed to be doing for her husband?
Stay out the folks, marriage, stay out of people. How
do you know what she doing and what's she not doing? Well,
clearly she ain't doing something right. He over here with me,
because you easy, he ain't kicking up all that does

(33:25):
with you? That he kicking up at home with her?
So like I don't. Again, it's just all both parties
are involved. Both parties to me, have fault in this matter.
It's not only little miss Hussy, but the husband as well,
because I feel like, you know, yeah, you got the
suit against the other woman, but what what type of

(33:51):
re you know, what type of what type of recourse
does the ex husband have? Like what type of punishment
does he get? Did you get a night size alimony
from them?

Speaker 3 (34:02):
Or child? Well?

Speaker 2 (34:02):
I don't know, like what was the recourse? Wouldn't me
in Illinois being married, would I?

Speaker 3 (34:11):
I don't. I'm not gonna say yes, and I'm not
gonna say no.

Speaker 2 (34:15):
I just have to see how I feel about my
marriage and the spouse at that time, Like I would
have to see how I feel. So I'm I'm gonna
have to table how I feel about it, because you
never know until you're in that situation. So I'm like,
I don't know what this young lady was going through. Cedric,

(34:36):
you're saying Illinois isn't one. I kind of thought that too,
because I did compare some other some other sources. But
according to this source, it said that Illinois is. But
I think that they stopped in Illinois. Some years ago.
But Illinois, we're gonna put it's a possibility because you know, listen,
all you all these online sources don't always be right.

(34:57):
That's why you have to always check it. But according
to this one. But we're gonna just a mint ILLINOI
we're gonna put an asterisk by Illinois. But it's six
states and this young lady, she was in North Carolina
and she did win for the alienation of affection? So again,

(35:18):
would you be brave enough to sue.

Speaker 3 (35:22):
Someone for taking your spouse? Would you?

Speaker 2 (35:26):
Would you be brave enough if you lived in one
of those states? Would you be brave enough to sue
the side? Hit the side chick? Would you be brave
enough to sue the side dude? If somebody stepped in
and swooped up your boot? Ronda is saying, singing, she
was a.

Speaker 3 (35:45):
Friend of mine, she left with my man.

Speaker 2 (35:49):
She lie your dirty and wait ooh see Ronda, listen,
the foolery is real over here.

Speaker 3 (35:55):
Ronda.

Speaker 2 (35:55):
See you know, you get me caught up in this
singing and I have to, you know, start asking for
offering up in here because you said she was a friend,
she was a friend of mine, This dirty way But
now here's the thing. The husband was the Side Chicks
content creating manager, so they did work together and they

(36:20):
had a close relationship. So that's kind of how that
whole thing started. According to the sources that were seeing,
that's kind of how those two got together. And then
you know, she was able to she was able to
put that Hucci Cuci woman's juice on this woman's husband. Baby,

(36:40):
she's slang them big old, she slag them big nasty. Well,
this is a family program, so I'm not gonna say
what she's slang, but y'all look up the picture. Her
name Brene Karnar. She slang them them some big nasty.
Look them things look like they ain't.

Speaker 3 (36:57):
Well. Nevertheless, I'm not gonna just bash. I'm not gonna just.

Speaker 2 (37:01):
Bash little miss homewreckerd because her dusty looking little husband too.
I'm like, so, looking at the new couple together, looking
at them together, A young lady that sued, you know,
in one good job. I'm glad that you stood up
for yourself. I'm glad that you brought this thing out

(37:22):
to the forefront, and I'm glad that justice would served
for you because I'm sure that that was a very
traumatic experience, you know. And again, here's the thing. Let's
be honest. Nobody wants to be cheated on. Nobody wants
to have their home torn up by somebody else, especially

(37:43):
if you like you don't even know that y'all not happy.
But this is where I'm just like, man, yo, like,
we have to do a better job with checking in
with each other because I don't think that a lot
of people check the temperature of their relationships. They don't
check the temperature of the marriage.

Speaker 3 (38:05):
Say what you mean by checking the temperature, Let's just
check in with each other. We a lot of times
we focus on how we feel. Oh, I know I'm
not happy or I'm happy, but hey, hey, hey, hey,
hey hey, you.

Speaker 2 (38:22):
Gotta check in with your partner too. You gotta make
sure they're good as well. You gotta make sure that
if you're happy, they're happy. Like again, we focus a
lot on how we feel, but we have to, you know,
extend that olive branch and kind of check in from
time to time and make sure the person that we're

(38:45):
with our husband, our wives, boyfriend, girlfriend.

Speaker 3 (38:49):
We gotta make sure that each person is happy.

Speaker 2 (38:51):
Because again, you sitting up here walking around, baby, just
like everything is all good, and guess what, he goes
mourning queen and about five other chicks. He goet mourning
beautiful about twenty other women and then she over there
she receiving cash ops from seven different dudes. See look, look,

(39:14):
see it's already too much going on. So you thinking
you happy? He thinking you know, because everybody spends a
lot of time in their own world, but we don't
really spend a lot of time checking wood in with
each other making sure that we are happy, Like we
gotta make sure that we are at our partners are happy,

(39:38):
making sure your husband happy, making sure that they're taking
up taking care of and when these conversations do come about,
or however you decide to do it, you know, it's
the time to be honest. Like if some stuff ain't
working right, if you're not happy about some ish, that's the.

Speaker 3 (39:57):
Time to communicate it.

Speaker 2 (39:58):
But I don't feel like a lot of people spend
enough time doing that. So it's like, if you not
the type of person to check in with your partner
before going and giving your attention to someone else, try
checking in first, Like try it's because it's oh, that's
the easiest thing to do.

Speaker 3 (40:19):
The easiest thing to do is.

Speaker 2 (40:21):
We can get mad at our person or be upset
or disappointed or pushed back from them, and then go
and get with somebody else.

Speaker 3 (40:31):
You know why, because it's easier.

Speaker 2 (40:33):
It's you know, a lot of people have a hard
time trying to dig through and tackle the hard parts
of the relationship, so it's almost easier. Oh man, I
ain't trying to go through all love with her. I
ain't trying to sit up here and be doing all
this arguing with her. I ain't trying to well why.

Speaker 3 (40:50):
First of all, that's the problem, right, that everything shouldn't
be an argument.

Speaker 2 (40:56):
We should be able to communicate without it coming to
be in an argument. Fellas, if she want to talk, listen.
We know that you all hate that word, ladies. And
if you don't know this, listen. A man hates this
is his dreaded face. He hates this phrase.

Speaker 3 (41:16):
We need to talk, Oh.

Speaker 2 (41:18):
Baby, that's just like telling him he gotta go to listen.
So please don't say listen. That is now Fellas, if
I'm lying, say say jay no, you got this from wrong.
But that we need to talk is the kiss of death. Baby,
men hate hearing. Baby, we need to talk. Wait, listen, listen,

(41:42):
you be better off just going into whatever it is
that you have to say. Therefore they're not you know,
they're not on guard because the moment you tell a
lot of these men, a lot of these men that
we need to talk first of all, that either jump
to the defense or that not listen, they immediately immediately.

Speaker 3 (42:06):
Tune you out.

Speaker 2 (42:07):
But if you just go right into it or find something,
find another way to let them talk, let them know
that you need to talk instead of saying we need
to talk, then you'll be somewhere. But you start off
that phrase, babe, we need to talk. I need to
talk to you. Up baby, he just that man done,

(42:30):
just shut down, and you can you can pretty much
hang it up. You can pretty much hang it up
because this man, I'm gonna tell you, this man has
checked out the moment you say we need to talk,
So you have to find another way to say it.
Like I say, for me, I feel like, just you
wanna talk, Just go right into telling them what's going on.

(42:52):
So therefore he's not on the defense. He like, oh,
you know she wanted to talk. Oh oh, now you
get to tell them about you know, how you feeling
of what's going on, but that bebe we need to talk.
Oh honey, you will never you listen, I promise you this,
that day will never come.

Speaker 3 (43:12):
When they come back and follow up.

Speaker 2 (43:13):
With you and tell you, okay, baby said you wanted
to talk, let's sit down and talk. That's almost never
gonna happen, never allmost never, almost never. So if you
got some you want to say, just say it. But
a lot of times, you all, it's easier to go

(43:36):
out and find somebody else. It's easier to you know,
to do the behind the scene things. It's easier to
have somebody else to entertain somebody else opposed to work
on whatever it is that your issue is with your person.

Speaker 3 (43:54):
It's almost easier to do that, which is.

Speaker 2 (43:57):
Why I believe a lot of people, you know, they
definitely go for the cheating because again, it's easier to
do that.

Speaker 3 (44:04):
It's easier to go and just.

Speaker 2 (44:07):
Bring somebody else in opposed to having a conversation with
your person.

Speaker 3 (44:12):
So let's try that on.

Speaker 2 (44:14):
Let's you know, again, try checking in, checking the temperature
with your people and see how they're doing. Again, it's
when you're in a relationship, both people feelings matter, both
so you checking in and you know how you feel. Okay,
I'm feeling good. You know I'm excited. But you gotta
make sure he okay over here. You gotta make sure

(44:37):
she okay over here. You gotta both make sure that
you are both okay. But when it comes to this baby,
this alienation of affection, yes baby, this chick, yes maybe
girl sure did went and sat and and sue the
side chick as successfully one over a million dollars. Allegedly,

(44:59):
she won this case of alienation of affection against the
side chick in North Carolina.

Speaker 3 (45:06):
Now listen, you are this next.

Speaker 2 (45:10):
Look Now, this is just some craziness. I'm hoping that
this is an AI video. I really hope it is,
because it's just not that deep. But the video is
this boyfriend. He a young dude, a dude.

Speaker 3 (45:23):
He loses it, He loses the piece of Listen.

Speaker 2 (45:30):
You know how we'd be like, Lord, I thank you
for my health and my strength. Close me in my
right mind, the half of right mind that he had.
He lost it when his girlfriend revealed that her body
count was forty two.

Speaker 3 (45:44):
Now this is a younger.

Speaker 2 (45:45):
I think she was like nineteen, and she said, you know,
she was playing a game with her friend and they
were on live and they were talking about body counts,
and she revealed that her body count was forty two,

(46:05):
and baby, this is her boyfriend heard it and he
told the whole house up. He tore that house up,
and they ended up having to call the police because
he was showing out and clowning because.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
He found out that her body count was forty two.

Speaker 2 (46:24):
And he was like, you know, calling her all kinds
of names and stuff like that. Now my thes is,
first of all, people please stop do it, like, please stop.

Speaker 3 (46:38):
All your personal.

Speaker 2 (46:40):
Business is not everybody's business. It's not the whole world's business.
It's like, yes, you are young right now, and I'm
all for listen, being young and living the moment, but
you gotta understand that one day, hopefully you will have

(47:00):
a family, you have a professional life, and you don't
want all of your you know, your young antics, I
will say, or your dirty laundry preventing you from moving
up and making certain moves in life. Everything is not
meant to be revealed on social media. Everything is not

(47:25):
meant to be talked about. Like, I'm not saying you
should be well forty two and nineteen and twenty.

Speaker 3 (47:35):
That's a lot. That's a lot. I'm not gonna lie.
That's a lot.

Speaker 2 (47:41):
If I was an auntie or I might listen, I
would be wanting to have a conversation and wanting to
know honey, listen.

Speaker 3 (47:50):
Okay, if you.

Speaker 2 (47:51):
Keep having friendly who ha, it's not gonna be worth much,
you know, so you know, pass it out sporadically. Don't
go giving it all away like it doesn't mean anything.
People say it don't mean anything because they want you
to not value yourself so that they can get it.

Speaker 3 (48:14):
And use you up and beat you up and just
leave you in poor condition. That's just like when you.

Speaker 2 (48:18):
Let somebody use your car and they know it ain't
their What do people do when they you let them
use your car?

Speaker 3 (48:25):
They run it to the ground, They'll.

Speaker 2 (48:28):
Drive all through potholes and all through at it because
why because it's not theirs and they don't care.

Speaker 3 (48:36):
But when they get their car they treat it differently.
That's the same thing. I'm not listen.

Speaker 2 (48:43):
That's the same thing with your pocket books, babies.

Speaker 3 (48:48):
You got to you gotta listen.

Speaker 2 (48:50):
You gotta keep that thing, and you gotta keep that
thing in good condition, and don't be letting everybody get
a turn and see what's going on with you, because listen,
these dude listen. At this point you're gonna be listen.
You darned your dog on it. Darned if you do,

(49:11):
you got dog on darned. If you don't jay what
you mean by that, you darned. If you sleep with them,
you're darned. If you don't listen, you be better off
just keeping it to yourself and let them talk and
do listen. If they gonna cheat, they're gonna cheat, whether
you're giving it to them or not. That's just free game.

(49:31):
They're gonna cheat whether or not you give it to
them or not. So my thing is, just save yourself
the body count, save yourself, the soul tie. Just keep
it to yourself because if they're gonna cheat, they're gonna
step out.

Speaker 3 (49:44):
They're gonna do it whether you give it to them
or not. But also it speaks to a bigger issue
your self worth.

Speaker 2 (49:56):
Like some of these some of these young gers, like
and I'm not even gonna say young girls, some people period,
because you hear a lot of older women and a
lot of or a lot of seasoned women saying the
same thing.

Speaker 3 (50:13):
Oh, I'm liberated. I'm I'm you know, I'm I'm liberated.
So I'm gonna Okay, there's nothing wrong with being liberated.

Speaker 2 (50:24):
But like at the end of the day, we listen.
Let's not make it seem like that thing cannot listen.
Some of these dudes trying to put a black eye
on that thing. They listen, They trying to they listen,
They trying to knock the catalytic converter out.

Speaker 3 (50:40):
Okay, a your thing, Okay, forty two, that's too much,
too much, too much. If I was your mother, close
them a right mind, I would be y'all, no, I
would listen.

Speaker 2 (51:01):
I would be trying to ship you off to a
monastery or something. I would be trying to ship you
off to come become a nun or something. I would
be listening. Listen, sisters, but back this one right here.
She done had enough jangle lang to last her a lifetime.
I need you all to convert her because she got listen,

(51:22):
she got enough jangle lan, and she never get another
jangle lang in her life. She ain't missing out on
nothing because she done already.

Speaker 3 (51:30):
Had forty two jangle langs.

Speaker 2 (51:32):
She ain't missing out on jack. So listen, can you
all get her and work with her? Were gonna need
you to work. We're gonna need them to work with you, baby,
because that's too much. To me, that says a lot
about how you feel about yourself, your self worth. When

(51:55):
I hear young ladies carrying on now some of you
are saying, Jay, you stretching it with that, young ladies,
I'm gonna call that young lady because.

Speaker 3 (52:07):
That's a lot.

Speaker 2 (52:09):
That's a lot, And you know, I get sad a
lot when I see some of this stuff. So that's
why I'm hoping that this was an AI generated video.

Speaker 3 (52:21):
I'm hoping that it was.

Speaker 2 (52:23):
But when you hear those kind of numbers, I'm just like, God, like,
what's going like for me?

Speaker 3 (52:32):
I instantly think about what's happening at home?

Speaker 2 (52:36):
Something had to me that signals some type of side,
some type of childhood trauma has taken place in this
young lady's life. That to me, that's the first thing
that I think of. Now, some people may go to
that chick, she's just an age. No no no, no,

(52:57):
no no no no no.

Speaker 3 (52:58):
To me, that's something has happened.

Speaker 2 (53:03):
Something happened to her when she was a kid and
this is a byproduct of something happening to her. Randa
is saying, yes, he has some responsibility in as well.
Forty two is way too many at nineteen. It's a lot,
a lot. But again, instead of me thinking that you

(53:25):
know she's, you know she's, she's the age word to
me that clearly says something has something has happened, because.

Speaker 3 (53:36):
You don't just how do you rack up?

Speaker 2 (53:39):
You got more bodies, You got more bodies on you,
then you have life, then you've been on this earth.

Speaker 3 (53:46):
That ain't that? Ain't that? Ain't that ain't cool?

Speaker 2 (53:50):
I hate the narrative, and I know hate is a
strong word, but it's heartbreaking to hear when you hear
a lot of the younger ladies out here and they
don't want to talk to women that are older than
them because they feel like women that are older than

(54:13):
them out they just hating because they all and they
washed up. And I just feel sad when I hear that,
because I'm just like, yo, So you don't have an auntie,
a grandma, a mother.

Speaker 3 (54:30):
You don't there's no woman in your life that you can.

Speaker 2 (54:34):
Call on that's gonna love on you, that's gonna nurture you.
That's gonna tell you the right thing to do. Here's
the thing, the right thing to do. It, don't it's
not always going be pretty.

Speaker 3 (54:50):
You're not gonna always wanna hear.

Speaker 2 (54:53):
And this is what a lot of the Listen, if
any young ladies in young people period under the sound
of my voice, listen, when a person, an older person
is giving you game, stop looking at it as though
they hating on you for what.

Speaker 3 (55:11):
Why would somebody older?

Speaker 2 (55:12):
Why would a older woman hate on a younger woman
because an old or older dude is saying, oh, yeah,
because these old me and her age don't don't want
them and this and that. Well, they're entitled to feel
that way. But for me, I think that that's a
mental illness because how are you an older dude and

(55:33):
you totally despise women your age because oh, because they
bitter and they've been through all that, Then what are
you like? I So that'll come later on in this conversation,
but I hope that young ladies can find older because
you needed, Like, I can't even imagine not having the

(55:59):
older women that I had in my life coming up
as support as examples. I couldn't imagine not having my
grandmother not having my aunts, not having my mom, not
having you know, all the other women that were close,
and I could not imagine not having those type of

(56:24):
healthy examples for women, not having those type of examples
on how I should carry myself as a woman, how
I should carry myself as a lady. A lot of
that is missing today because a lot of the young
ladies feel.

Speaker 3 (56:42):
Like older women are hating on them.

Speaker 2 (56:46):
And again, it's heartbreaking to hear that because I'm just like, man,
you know, to me, that says you don't even have
anybody in your family that you can confide in that
if something it happened to you, like, nobody's out there
to listen to you, nobody is out there to understand

(57:08):
you and.

Speaker 3 (57:08):
Try to help you and put you on the right path.

Speaker 2 (57:10):
Let me say this, young ladies, older women are not
jealous of you. I mean they're not Like I was, listen,
there are some exceptions again to every rule, because if
you come across an older woman that is not happy
about where she is in her life, then you could

(57:34):
get some static from that type of older woman.

Speaker 3 (57:37):
But I want to say, for the most.

Speaker 2 (57:39):
Part, older women are not jealous of younger women.

Speaker 3 (57:46):
A lot of older women.

Speaker 2 (57:47):
Are trying to put you up on game and trying
to instilling you some things because they see the path
that you're going down. So had you listen to someone
that was older telling you, baby, this probably ain't the mm.
You living too fast, baby, you going too fast, you

(58:07):
doing too much, slow down, honey, you wouldn't have forty
two bodies at nineteen had you been listening to an
older woman that was trying to tell you something.

Speaker 3 (58:21):
But instead you want to look at it, or you
want to let.

Speaker 2 (58:24):
Social media influence you, and you want to let these
posts influence you and make you feel as dull. Older
women have some type of vendetta against young women. And
I just want to say that, like that's not true.
Like I love listen me, I want to talk to listen.

(58:46):
My niece is my listen. I talked to listen. I
got I have a son, but my my baby nieces,
my baby girls from other mothers, they.

Speaker 3 (58:56):
Call me and we talk. We talk. Because here's the thing,
I'm the voice.

Speaker 2 (59:03):
I'm just gonna sit back and I can listen because
I'm not mom.

Speaker 3 (59:08):
But I can give you that good game.

Speaker 2 (59:11):
I can tell you listen this not and again and
when I talk with my young babies.

Speaker 3 (59:18):
You know, I got young babies from a mother's you know.

Speaker 2 (59:20):
They is like all over, like they just all over
because I love them, and I will just say this, listen,
I'll listen to where they.

Speaker 3 (59:29):
Are and I let them. I don't know that I
refer to.

Speaker 2 (59:32):
Them as you knew people, because they knew like you
knew people.

Speaker 3 (59:36):
You all do things differently.

Speaker 2 (59:38):
And I understand where they are today, and I also
understand what was going on yesterday.

Speaker 3 (59:45):
And I say, now, listen.

Speaker 2 (59:47):
If you do this, it ain't gonna work out too
well for you. You know, to mom, it's fun today,
But when you go to reaping the repercussions of your actions,
that's when you're gonna find out you shouldn't have done that,
dumbsh So I'm gonna just put it on out there
and you make your decision, and you choose you wisely.

Speaker 3 (01:00:09):
Now here's the thing.

Speaker 2 (01:00:11):
When you go out there, and if you mess up,
I'm gonna still be here now, but I cannot promise
you that I'm not gonna say I told you so
now that I will let him know.

Speaker 3 (01:00:21):
I'm not gonna promise.

Speaker 2 (01:00:22):
You that I didn't say I told you so because listen,
I'm petty. Okay, they know all listen, they know they Auntie,
the friend, the god Auntie. They know I'm petty. So
we're gonna have that petty conversation. But if you're a
young lady and you don't feel or you don't have

(01:00:46):
any woman, older woman that you look up to, my
heart goes out to you, and I'm hoping that you can, you.

Speaker 3 (01:00:56):
Know, find listen and box me.

Speaker 2 (01:00:59):
I'll talk to you because I you know, like, I
want you all to like, I want everybody to win.
And when I hear and see stuff like this, especially
with the way that the world is, with every you know,
young women being exploited. In the music, in the videos,
everything is about, you know, wrecking up these bodies. So

(01:01:22):
everything that these young women have to see today tells
them to go give it away. You are listen, what
you have is nothing special? Young ladies, they are lying
to you. They are lying to you. You are special
and you deserve to be treated special. But it starts

(01:01:43):
with you first, because if you don't respect yourself, then
nobody else is gonna respect you.

Speaker 3 (01:01:50):
Yes, he can get mad if.

Speaker 2 (01:01:52):
Oh well, oh oh so you trying to oh so
you ain't giving that, well, why you ain't giving up?

Speaker 3 (01:01:57):
You not did it before? Because it's mine, and I
decide that I'm not giving it up.

Speaker 2 (01:02:01):
No, Mom, I don't want to do it no more.
I don't want to do it to you. I don't
wanna do it to nobody because it's man. Oh oh,
that's bogus. Listen, listen, let him go ahead on because
guess what he gonna go anyway.

Speaker 3 (01:02:14):
He's whether you do it to him or not.

Speaker 2 (01:02:16):
You can't keep these listen, giving that thank thing ain't
gonna keep these people around. Let ain't het that it's
not gonna keep people around. Ain't he is not jealous
because you giving this old Listen, my auntie, God rest
us all. My oh, my lord, my auntie. She used
to tell us, listen, y'all better not be sitting up here,

(01:02:38):
going around with these old men, letting these old men
jug the you thump out of you. That's what Auntie
told us. You let these old men jug yo youth
thup out of you. I didn't want my youth to
be jugged up out of me. So I'm just like,
you know what, what ain't he was saying was long?
So we went on everything that my auntie was saying, listen,

(01:02:59):
and well you'll refer to that ish today because she
was right. You let this old, these old men you know,
and listen, young ladies, y'all see him. Y'all see the
old the same older man that's sitting up here saying, oh.

Speaker 3 (01:03:15):
Yeah, I don't date no woman in my age.

Speaker 2 (01:03:18):
Yeah, because she listen, she see through all that high
cholesterol and high blood pressure. She see through all that. Now,
someonem probably the cause of you having a high blood pressure,
high cholesterol, but she see through all of that bull junkie,
Young ladies, any older man that you hear specifically saying

(01:03:40):
he doesn't date older women, that he don't date women
his age, to me, that's a red flag because to me,
that says that he skulped you out simply because of
your age.

Speaker 3 (01:03:56):
If if a man and a one are young older
man and a.

Speaker 2 (01:04:00):
Younger woman, if they organically just met and this is
somebody that you know, he just somehow was attracted to,
then I would say, okay, you know, I guess.

Speaker 3 (01:04:13):
But for older men.

Speaker 2 (01:04:14):
That specifically specifically target and go after younger women, I
think it's something wrong there. And there's a guy. He
posted on social media. He said this, and this made
so much sense. He said, you'll never see a forty
year old man looking for friends amongst eighteen year old boys.

(01:04:38):
He see them as kids. But somehow, when it comes
to girls, suddenly she's mature and she's wifey material.

Speaker 3 (01:04:48):
Make it make sense. I feel like.

Speaker 2 (01:04:51):
This man, he's summed it up perfectly. He summed it
up perfectly again. He said, you'll never see a forty
year old man looking to be friends with an eighteen
year old boy. Right, but he cause because he sees

(01:05:11):
an eighteen year old boy as a friend. And think
about it, that's really a true statement.

Speaker 3 (01:05:18):
How many forty year.

Speaker 2 (01:05:19):
Old men do you see hanging out with eighteen year
old boys? They don't because they feel like they're kids.
But when it comes to the girls, suddenly an eighteen
year old girl is mature and she's wifey material. So
the eighteen year old boy, he not gonna make friends

(01:05:40):
with the eighteen year old boy. He's not gonna hang
out with the eighteen year old boy because he feels
like the eighteen year old boy is immature and he's young,
and he doesn't have anything in common with that eighteen
year old boy. Right, So how do you have something
in common with an eighteen year old girl?

Speaker 3 (01:06:01):
How make that make sense?

Speaker 2 (01:06:03):
Yes, young girls mature faster than young boys, but she
has not matured enough to.

Speaker 3 (01:06:09):
Be able to deal with a forty year old man.

Speaker 2 (01:06:13):
So again for me and for you, you old dogs
that's out here, you know, draining these young girls youth.
And trust me, promise you ain't no hate. Listen, Ain't
no hate over here. Ain't no hate. I'm petty, but
I'm not a hater. Big difference, petty, but no hate.
You old dogs that's out here.

Speaker 3 (01:06:35):
Sirking on these girls and just manipulating them out of
their youth. Shame on you.

Speaker 2 (01:06:44):
I just hope that you don't have daughters, that some
old son of a gun your age come and do
the same thing that you're doing to these young girls.
I hope that you don't have somebody out there praying
on your dom, because that's exactly what a lot of
these men, these older men, are doing. They are praying

(01:07:06):
on these young women. And that's so unfair, it's so unfortunate.
It's like, you gotta watch your because listen, let.

Speaker 3 (01:07:14):
Me have had a daughter and you bring Obama my
age home or older or in my age range.

Speaker 2 (01:07:26):
I'm a poison him. That's what you never gonna see
him again. You're gonna be thinking that you got ghosted. Yes,
because he'd done met his maker. He done went home,
and he done had a sugar attack. You know why,
because I pour pumped all his insulin medicine out.

Speaker 3 (01:07:44):
You not gonna come over here with all that old foolishness.
You're not. You're not gonna come. Listen. Cougars is our
cougar is an our. Listen.

Speaker 2 (01:07:56):
I I like your son. He grown enough to make it. Oh,
yes he is, Yes he is.

Speaker 3 (01:08:02):
Baby. I will run you over, do not. I don't
play it.

Speaker 2 (01:08:05):
Listen, come over, listen, mess with any of mine, and
I'm gonna look. Okay, you gonna be like dang jay.
Now why you have to flip? Because I told you
to stay over there, but you thought it was You
thought it was.

Speaker 3 (01:08:18):
Easy over here. Now look what happened to you?

Speaker 2 (01:08:20):
Because I'm told you don't come over here sniffing around
nobody over here in this camp. But you thought it
was sweet. Now look what happened to you. See now
you upside down. Now you need a feeding tube, and
you need help because you upside down because I told
you to keep that bull junkie over there, and you
thought it was sweet coming over here messing with these

(01:08:41):
young people in my life.

Speaker 3 (01:08:42):
We're not gonna be doing it again. Is that hate?

Speaker 2 (01:08:46):
That's not hate, that's just wanting you to stay over there,
and don't nobody got time for this. So young ladies,
listen forty two bodies too much? Forty two listen too much.

Speaker 3 (01:09:02):
If you don't have.

Speaker 2 (01:09:06):
An older woman in your life, man, please try to
find one like and I really, you know, maybe listen,
maybe go to a church, but listen.

Speaker 3 (01:09:18):
Now, you gotta be careful.

Speaker 2 (01:09:19):
Look, okay, you gotta be careful because everybody that's in
these churches, ay o the Lord. Okay, so you gotta
be very careful. But then you gotta be careful for
the sheep that's outside. You just gotta be so careful.
And that's why I'm just like, man, I just hate
it's just so much. I'm like, it's really heartbreaking that

(01:09:40):
our people are young people. Our young ladies are like this. Jay,
you keep saying young ladies. Yes, they are young ladies,
yet you listen, okay, just because they they hoo hih
them been a little bit too friendly. You know, I
don't want to put them you know, I still don't
want to call them up out their name because they
still young and we want to try to get to the.

Speaker 3 (01:10:04):
Bottom of why they're like that.

Speaker 2 (01:10:09):
But again, I don't believe that a young woman that
young having a body count like that. I don't think
I know that there's some childhood trauma associated with that.
And then there was another video where the young lady,
she was like, she a beautiful young princess and she's like,

(01:10:35):
she loves to, you know, have you know, be involved
in train like activities.

Speaker 3 (01:10:43):
That's what she's about. She's like, she loves that.

Speaker 2 (01:10:46):
And I'm just like, as I'm looking at her and
as I'm looking at her talk, I'm just like, again,
my heart is just melting to pieces because I'm just like, God,
what happened to you? Nobody protect you? That's what I
instantly think. Nobody protected you. Now this has been a custom,

(01:11:07):
so instead of you being the victim, now you've changed
that that type of situation around and now you feel
like it's something that you're willingly embracing. But it's so again,
it's so heartbreaking because you know, our young ladies are

(01:11:29):
out here suffering and they're being taken advantage of and
there's nobody there to protect them. Society is pitting us
against each other. So society is making young ladies think
that older women, seasoned women are hating on them. So therefore,
if something happens now, you feel like you have to

(01:11:51):
keep everything to yourself because I ain't gonna go over
here because they ain't gonna be doing nothing. But hey,
let's say, let me say this, Correction is not hating you. Listen,
you knew people under the sound of my voice. Stop
thinking that correction is hating. The Bible say whom he
loveth he correcteth. So if you're being corrected, then that

(01:12:16):
means somebody is taking an interest in you and they
care about you because they see that you are on
the wrong path and they want you to get on
the right path. So they're taking their time and trying
to redirect you in the right way. So stop thinking
that just because somebody is saying something against your behavior

(01:12:38):
and you don't like it, stop thinking that at all.

Speaker 3 (01:12:41):
Correction is not hate. Correction is just that correction.

Speaker 2 (01:12:47):
We can't listen, you can't correct nobody on nothing, because listen,
even these older folks don't want to be corrected. Get
your all behind somewhere and get yourself.

Speaker 3 (01:12:58):
Together like serious. So you should not be out here
acting like these young people. You have to listen. Where
is the example?

Speaker 2 (01:13:08):
You look at these people on these social media and
on these reality shows, and they're out here acting, some
of them worse than the new people. And listen, it's
a something. A couple of them ole of saul jump
over these tables. And I said to myself, now, I
know as soon as them cameras start rolling, she's somewhere

(01:13:31):
trying to take an epsisol bath for she got.

Speaker 3 (01:13:34):
She puting some pain patches on her knees, on her back.

Speaker 2 (01:13:37):
On that, you know, because at a certain age, listen,
I already know what's heard on you. I can look
at you until yep, yep, her spine is hurting, her
l seven is hurting. You know, you know her torso her,
you know her scapulous hurt.

Speaker 3 (01:13:54):
I could tell what's hurt on you, you know.

Speaker 2 (01:13:56):
Because the way you are up here acting a cloud,
I know some hurting on you.

Speaker 3 (01:14:01):
Young ladies.

Speaker 2 (01:14:04):
Find you a reasonable older lady, but you need you
an auntie that you can trust. You need a grandmother,
a sister, somebody that you can trust. And again, I
think a good signist let you know if they you

(01:14:24):
can trust them, is if they're telling you something of value,
if they're giving you some information.

Speaker 3 (01:14:32):
Now, you may not always like it.

Speaker 2 (01:14:34):
Again, you may not always like the information that you're getting.
But if a person is taking their time out to
tell you something of value, you know, just sometimes just
slow down and listen, because a lot of you all
are just.

Speaker 3 (01:14:52):
Moving so fast, living so fast. It's just like, oo, child,
what's the rush? Like?

Speaker 2 (01:14:58):
When again you hear young lady forty, you know, nineteen
with forty two bodies, you're just.

Speaker 3 (01:15:04):
Like, well, dang, like, I mean, we're like, girl, what
were you like? Shoot you going? Like? Are you going somewhere?
Is this a race? Is it a marathon?

Speaker 2 (01:15:18):
Like? What possessed you to do that? But again, I
think that a lot of the times it comes from
because it's some childhood trauma and some things have not
been addressed and now you're acting out in a way

(01:15:39):
that you know, in an intimate way that because you're
trying to mask the hurt from what happened to you
in your childhood. So you all just kind of be
mindful of that because again, it's so much going on
with it.

Speaker 3 (01:15:55):
And please, fellas, don't take this ish lightly. Again. If
you are with and you know you see some signs like.

Speaker 2 (01:16:04):
That, you know you gotta sometimes those are not the
chicks that you can be in a relationship with.

Speaker 3 (01:16:11):
And young ladies, I'm not saying this to bash you.

Speaker 2 (01:16:14):
I'm saying it because there's no reason for you to
get with this guy and then you destroy him in
your season of you know, dysfunction because you're hurting. So
you haven't even healed from those things that are you
know that you've been through. So you're not gonna do

(01:16:34):
anything but come and destroy something or somebody that's in
your life.

Speaker 3 (01:16:40):
Until you heal what your issue is, you're.

Speaker 2 (01:16:45):
Gonna break somebody that comes into your life, and vice
versa with a man that's not healed, a young man,
older man. If you're not healed, you're gonna break whatever
comes into your path.

Speaker 3 (01:16:58):
So sometimes you know, we gotta just take a you know,
to just.

Speaker 2 (01:17:02):
Take a chill and work on what's going on here
and what's going on here and until we know that
we're in a good place and we're not making toxic decisions,
then would be a good time to move on. But
as long as you're making toxic decisions and reckless decisions
about your own self, your own body, don't.

Speaker 3 (01:17:26):
Go trying to get in a relationship with anybody.

Speaker 2 (01:17:29):
And please, please, please please do not be having no
kids in these type of situations. Lord, have mercy.

Speaker 3 (01:17:37):
You are a.

Speaker 2 (01:17:38):
Lot of times you all have these kids in these
toxic stages and you end up damaging the kids. So
he'll talk to some people, but listen, this this I'm liberated. Listen,
find some other ways to be liberated in getting you know,

(01:17:58):
running your running, your your body count up should not
be considered liberating. Find something else, Listen, make a million dollars,
make five hundred dollars, making a form of business. It's
so many other different things that can be done to
that will be liberating opposed to you living recklessly and

(01:18:22):
not as market saying I'm sorry, as Cedric saying, knowing
your inner worth. If you're not knowing your inner worth,
then you're going to behave in this type of behaving
this type of way, and then you're gonna think that
when people say something against that behavior, you're gonna think

(01:18:42):
that they're hating.

Speaker 3 (01:18:44):
They're not hating.

Speaker 2 (01:18:45):
They're just trying to get you on the right path
because they see that you are making a lot of
making a lot of moves that's not really gonna work
out well for you in your future. So definitely again
and be mindful on that young people.

Speaker 3 (01:19:02):
Older people, most older people are not hating on you.

Speaker 2 (01:19:06):
When they are trying to correct you or trying to
show you a better way or tell you a better way.
You're not being hated all and it will behoove you
to listen to some of this. And then young ladies especially,
please be mindful of it.

Speaker 3 (01:19:21):
Again. Be mindful and.

Speaker 2 (01:19:24):
Be aware of these older dudes that only target going
after younger women.

Speaker 3 (01:19:32):
They're going after younger women for a.

Speaker 2 (01:19:35):
Reason, and you old dudes, that's with these young dudes,
young chicks, they with you for a reason, and it's
not because oh they see so old.

Speaker 3 (01:19:45):
Oh yeah he can yet they look the same the same, uh,
the same feeling that you have.

Speaker 2 (01:19:54):
Against women your age. These young chicks feel the same
way about you. But you can offer her or something
that maybe these other guys can and it's not it's
not the schlong dong okay, because you know, listen, they
getting these younger ones out there, and listen they turning
these them younger ones. They turn these young girls upside down.
So all this stuff that you're old behind you ain't

(01:20:17):
got nothing on these young boys. The only thing that
you can offer this young chick that she want to
be with you for is for what you can do
for her. And that's the only reason why you want
to be with her is because you want to be
with her, you know, because you want to take advantage
of her and use and suck up her good youth,

(01:20:38):
and then you put her out there when you feel
like she too old. Now she she got old, she
washed up. Be young, ladies, be mindful these dudes. Are
she washed up? She washed up? Be mindful of dudes
that talk like that, because again, to me, that will simple.

(01:20:58):
You don't have any good intentions towards me, So you
not with me for me. You're with me because of
my age, and you're looking to either control me, manipulate me,
or just you listen, use you up and then toss
you back out there.

Speaker 3 (01:21:19):
So be very mindful. Like I said, it's a lot.

Speaker 2 (01:21:22):
Of toxic messages and unhealthy scenarios that are being and agendas,
unhealthy agendas that are being pushed, and we're pitting each
other against each other, like you know people that are
talking like that, like just.

Speaker 3 (01:21:42):
Go get some help, Go heal and go get some help.

Speaker 2 (01:21:45):
Because again, like the man said, if you are a
forty year old dude, and if you will not go
out and make friends and find eighteen year old young
boys to be friends.

Speaker 3 (01:21:56):
With and hang out with because you feel like they're.

Speaker 2 (01:21:59):
Too immature, why would you go out and find an
eighteen year old girl and then you say she's mature
and she's wifey material. You see the you see the
you see the hypocrisy in that. It don't it don't
make sense, So make it make sense. But again, people
have the right to choose whatever it is that they

(01:22:22):
want to choose.

Speaker 3 (01:22:23):
But I look back and I say, you know what, some.

Speaker 2 (01:22:26):
People have some unhealthy choices and some unhealthy tastes, you know,
when it comes to their relationships and what they're trying
to pursue once they get to a certain point. But again,
an older man, sir, you need to be with somebody your.

Speaker 3 (01:22:45):
Own age, you really do. You're really in a shame
on you again, you all.

Speaker 2 (01:22:53):
For those that say, oh older women, you know, you know,
you may say, oh she's you older and you bitter, and.

Speaker 3 (01:23:02):
Honey, do this look like the face of somebody better.

Speaker 2 (01:23:05):
I just love young people and I don't want to
see young girls being taken advantage of. That's the part.
I just don't want to see that happen. And I
know it's a lot of stuff that goes on in
our communities that are not talked about. I know it's
a lot of molestation, it's a lot of incests. It's

(01:23:25):
a lot of things that are going on in our community,
and people sweep that ish under the rug. This stuff
is happening to these young girls, a lot of these
young and listen, and your boys too, So you have
to be you have to be mindful because when they
turn out a certain way. Again, all that's the first
thing I think of is what happened to that baby?

(01:23:47):
What happened to them when they were younger. And a
lot of times, listen, you can I'm willing to bet
on this. You talk to some of these young people
that got all of these and it's just doing all
this reckless stuff, and talk to him and let's go
back to the beginning. I can almost guarantee you something

(01:24:09):
happened to them early on in life and that's why
they are where they are. So instead of exploiting these
young ladies, old man, don't do that, don't we.

Speaker 3 (01:24:20):
I mean, we're not doing.

Speaker 2 (01:24:22):
Anything but destroying our communities because you're taking advantage of
somebody that something has already, something toxic and something horrific
has happened to them. And now they're in their coping,
they're trying to cope with what's going on or what
doesn't happen. Jay, I know you're not sitting up there justifying.
I'm not justifying ish, I'm trying to explain why they

(01:24:45):
doing what they doing. Why you need to be grown
You're good and grown behind. Should not be over there
sniffing trying to say, oh we'll shoot, let me get
a piece, let me get a piece of that.

Speaker 3 (01:24:57):
You should not shame on you, you old doll.

Speaker 2 (01:25:00):
You ooh, you need to be like mister he down
on top of me, you all dog. If you over
there taking advantage of these young girls and you know
all of this crazy stuff is going on with them,
may yo think thing fall off before you even get
to enjoy any pleasure. Ooh, may yo old thing thing

(01:25:21):
just fall off and you don't get to even complete
the complete the do because you over there doing wrong,
your old geezer. Now, speaking of old geezers, you are
tonight we're talking about should women propose? That's right? And

(01:25:42):
to listen two thousand and twenty five. You may say, Jay, listen,
get with the program. We're doing something new over here.

Speaker 3 (01:25:51):
Looks and all that all. Listen.

Speaker 2 (01:25:53):
Y'all want to be new independent women. Y'all want to
do this this new stuff. But yeah, you won't traditional values. Listen, Listen, listen, listen. Okay, yes, yes,
I look before we get I'm I'm so, I'm so
sick of some of these dudes. It's a lot of dudes.

(01:26:15):
It's about five to ten of them throughout the whole
social media stratosphere. And some men actually feel that because
women want to make the same amount or be paid
their worth in the workplace, that if they're desiring that,

(01:26:38):
then women should Then what's the problem with you stepping
up and asking a man to marry you. What's the
problem with you being the bread winner? What's the problem?
Way so, and I didn't understand and I still don't.
I don't understand soul fellas. If a woman is doing
the same exact job that a man is doing, is

(01:27:02):
it fair that she make less than he makes and
you all are doing the same job. Now, some guys,
some men would jump on my posts and say, see
that's that feminism stuff. I'm not a feminist. I'm really not.
I'm an equal opportunity trash talker. I'm gonna talk some
trash a little bit this direction, I'm gonna talk a

(01:27:23):
little trash that direction, and we're gonna all just talk
some trash together.

Speaker 3 (01:27:28):
But when you're talking about.

Speaker 2 (01:27:29):
The workplace, if she's doing the same job that you're doing,
she should get paid the same amount. If she's doing
a better job than you are, then she should be
making more money than you. That's just point blank because
if listen the other people, because we as black people,
we got a problem with other people make more money

(01:27:50):
than us and they're doing the same exact job, or
we're doing a better job, but we not.

Speaker 3 (01:27:56):
Making the same money because of the colorided skin.

Speaker 2 (01:27:59):
The next time you speak against a woman making less
money than you because you're a woman, just think about that, listen.

Speaker 3 (01:28:07):
I don't like when.

Speaker 2 (01:28:08):
Other people make money more money than me because of
the color of my skin. So I shouldn't be on
that type of foolish bandwagon saying that women should not
be making the same amount of money that men make
if they're doing the same exact job.

Speaker 3 (01:28:24):
Okay, I'm done with that today.

Speaker 2 (01:28:28):
Do you all still believe in the institute of marriage
or is that jay that's so played out?

Speaker 3 (01:28:38):
Like marriage?

Speaker 2 (01:28:40):
You know, I see so many posts marriage. What does
marriage benefit me?

Speaker 3 (01:28:44):
In? What marriage doesn't benefit anybody? Sir? Who hurts you?

Speaker 2 (01:28:51):
That's always the first thing that I say. I think again,
always when I hear I don't know why, when I
hear negative, I always think that somebody has hurt them
because a person that's happy don't go to the like

(01:29:12):
the negative is not your first stop. Like it's really
not your first stop, Like it really, it really isn't.
It's it really is not. It's not the first stop.
But I'm just like, you know, who hurt you? But
do you all still believe in the institute of marriage?

(01:29:33):
Or is that in today's society? Is it played out?
Is it no longer worth getting married? Because see, here's
the deal. I would say that marriage again, when we're
looking at the Institute of Marriage institute, it's a business.

(01:29:54):
So a lot of us we get caught up in
the you know, all especially women. We you know, listen
the wedding day and you know, oh my god, my
dress is gonna be this way, and I'm gonna have
all these people here and this amount of people gonna
do this and this, and you know, that's what a
lot of us get focused on.

Speaker 3 (01:30:15):
But we're not really focusing on the work that it's
gonna take to put in to that marriage.

Speaker 2 (01:30:28):
So it's just like, Okay, we we're down for it
for the day, But then after that, what happens after that?
Are we still excited after after the vows and when
we when we've taken off the dress, are we still
excited about that?

Speaker 3 (01:30:44):
Are we ready to put in the work?

Speaker 2 (01:30:46):
And I think a lot of times a lot of
people are not ready to put in the work We're going,
you know, we like the ceremony and we like the
ideal of the marriage, but are we to put in
the work knowing that again, you know, man, it's it's
gonna be. It's it's gonna It's a lot going on

(01:31:08):
over here, you know, it's a lot to deal with,
and you know it gotta be discussed. Like we got
a lot going on over here, and people are not
talking about it because again we're looking forward to that day. Baby,
That day has us captivated and we listen, we gone

(01:31:29):
from there the wedding day. But after that, when the
eyelashes come off, the wigs come off, everything come off,
are we still believing in those vows and what we
said before the people? Because again, when you accept that,

(01:31:52):
it's just like okay, here we are. But I think
if a lot of people really just really focus on
what marriage really is opposed to just that day, I think,
to be honest, I think a lot of people would
not get married because they will realize that it's a

(01:32:13):
lot of work. And if you're not prepared to do
the work, Jay, what kind of work being there for you?
Like listen, being there for your spouse, being women, being
a helpmate, building this ish together like we are we're one,
like my favorite singer Rip Frankie Beverly, we are one.

Speaker 3 (01:32:34):
We are one.

Speaker 2 (01:32:35):
But it's like today it seems like people don't go
into marriages thinking we are one.

Speaker 3 (01:32:40):
I'm gonna do my own thing i'm'a whoom.

Speaker 2 (01:32:43):
Wait, you gotta stay single, stay single until you get
that issh out your system.

Speaker 3 (01:32:49):
But here's the thing. Should women propose to men? Fellas?
Are you a man?

Speaker 2 (01:32:57):
Would you accept the proposal from a woman she got
down on one knee?

Speaker 3 (01:33:07):
Babe? You my man, and I love you. And we
been going through this thing, you know, I know we
been going back and forth at everything, but I feel
like we finally in a good place. Would you be
my husband? Fellas?

Speaker 2 (01:33:24):
Would you accept that? Would you want a woman to
propose to you? And would you accept that said proposal?
If a woman proposed to you, would you accept that? Now, ladies, listen, Jay,
get what the teme. It's twenty and twenty five. Don't
come talking to all that. Okay, I'm gonna talk it anyway.

(01:33:48):
I'm gonna talk it anyway. And this is just my opinion.
My called the wedding off opinion.

Speaker 3 (01:33:59):
That's it. You know. I did, listen, I didn't.

Speaker 2 (01:34:02):
I didn't make it because I looked and I said,
oh shoot at you know, and I had to change
in mind. So I backed I backed on up, I
backed that eighteen wheeler up, and I said, oh no,
not today satan. Not today, you won't be. And it's
not because I don't believe in marriage. I just didn't
believe in that particular partnership.

Speaker 3 (01:34:24):
So I you know, did myself and him a favorite
and I just you know, just listen.

Speaker 2 (01:34:29):
I just like the little engine that could this. This
engine couldn't.

Speaker 3 (01:34:34):
So this engine just went on because this engine already looked.

Speaker 2 (01:34:37):
Listen, I'm gonna tell you like this. And I was honest.
I said, you know, okay, here's the thing. Are you
gonna listen? Nope, I'm gonna talk. See I was still
talking back, and I knew I was gonna talk back.
I said, oh yeah, this brother right here, I'm not
listening to him. I'm not I'm talking back. I'm gonna
be the head over everything. And I knew at that

(01:34:59):
point all those things, I'm just like, you not ready
to be a wife? You not you trying? You trying
to go in there. I was gonna put my foot down.
He was gonna have my baby, you know what I'm saying.
So all listen all that crazy ish, I'm just like,
you know, just talking, running off at the mouth, just

(01:35:21):
and I say, you know what, this is not gonna.

Speaker 3 (01:35:24):
Be fair to do. I'm not. I can't do this
like I'm not, I'm not gonna do this.

Speaker 2 (01:35:31):
So that's why I was just like, you know, this
particular set up, it wasn't it wasn't for me, And
it was the best decision that I ever made because
you know, then he was able to live his truth.
And we'll talk about that. We'll talk about that bull

(01:35:55):
junkie another time. But he was able to live his truth.
So now I'm figuring that he's happy. But again, marriage
is very serious and it's very sacred, and I just
feel like, and again, correct me if I'm wrong, Ladies
shine in, But I just look at it like this

(01:36:16):
that if I'm asking him to marry me, he didn't
choose me. I chose him, and that's not the way
for me. It's already out of order.

Speaker 3 (01:36:32):
Now.

Speaker 2 (01:36:32):
There have been some women through the years and said,
jay I have now this one particular lady, she was like,
jay I, I mean, I propose to my husband and
we're still married today.

Speaker 3 (01:36:47):
She might be married, but he's just existed. Baby.

Speaker 2 (01:36:52):
He walks through life just like he listened. He don't
have an opinion. He don't have And I'm not saying
that that will happen in all situations. Is just this
particular situation that comes to mind. For a lady that
told me that she asked her husband to marry her
and they're still married. Yeah, you chose him, But I

(01:37:14):
think that he gives off the vibes and he gives
off the looks, and my petty opinion that if he
could go back to the day where she asked him
to marry her, he would say, no, that's just the
vibes that I get.

Speaker 3 (01:37:28):
But again, I'm petty.

Speaker 2 (01:37:31):
That's in my petty Now, I'm not saying humble, that's
in my petty opinion. That's what I think Lawan is saying.
I don't think I would feel the same. I understand
that times and times and things have changed. But a
woman asking a man, uh so that's coming from a man.
Leawan is saying, while he not on board with a

(01:37:53):
woman asking a man to marry him again, I just
think that he didn't to me that would say he
didn't choose me. If you have to ask him, you're
choosing him, but he's not choosing you. So some fellas
may say, what Jay, A man want to feel like

(01:38:15):
he's chosen as well. Where you're chosen, because if she
accepts the proposal, then you've been chosen as well. But
it's to me that sets the tone for the whole relationship.
It sets the tone for the marriage, because here's the thing.
If I propose to a man, I'm gonna want him

(01:38:39):
to take my last name. I'm gonna want to get
him pregnant, and I'm gonna want him to have my baby.
Since we change in roles, I mean, like you putting
me in position to be the head ladies, it doesn't
take all of that, in my petty opinion, it doesn't

(01:39:02):
take all of that.

Speaker 3 (01:39:03):
If it's you.

Speaker 2 (01:39:04):
Getting antsy about listen, it's been a year, two years,
and he hasn't asked you to marry him. And then
you go and you talk with your girls, and you
all have this bright idea. Girl, I'm just gonna ask
him to marry me, don't you Listen?

Speaker 3 (01:39:21):
Listen, listen, listen.

Speaker 2 (01:39:24):
And some people, some men that are on board with this,
they gonna, you know, they gonna come, you know, they
gonna come for me. It's okay, come listen. Make sure
you come for the women in your family too when
you come over here.

Speaker 3 (01:39:35):
But when you ask him to marry you because you're
antsy after two three years. To me, that's saying he
didn't choose you, like you're not the one for him.
He hasn't found his person.

Speaker 2 (01:39:54):
Because here's what I know about men, once they find
their person. If you are there person, I promise you
you're gonna know it. You're not gonna be having to
ask yourself any questions. You're not gonna have to go
through all of these type of strings as far as
proposing to him, because if you are his person, a

(01:40:15):
man that when you are his person and he is locked.

Speaker 3 (01:40:18):
In with you.

Speaker 2 (01:40:23):
And he is team you, he's not going to risk
letting you get away. He's not gonna risk somebody coming
and scooping you up because you his good thing and
he wanna hold on to you.

Speaker 3 (01:40:39):
He's not gonna risk that.

Speaker 2 (01:40:41):
So you're never gonna have to worry about being in
position of proposing to the man that has chosen you,
because he's gonna choose you, and he's going to wipe
you if he chooses you. But if he doesn't choose
you and you propose to him, he didn't choose you. Lawan,

(01:41:05):
you're saying, don't get the don't get the brother pregnant
with your last name. That's exactly what's happening. That's exactly
what's happening. I'm gonna do it to him. He ain't
doing it to me, you know, see all that kind
of stuff, like I'm gonna be the head of the house.
You're gonna have to listen to me. You're gonna have
to do everything that I say to do if I propose,

(01:41:26):
because again, you put me in position to take on
that leadership role, and so in petty fashion, I'm not
gonna have do anything.

Speaker 3 (01:41:35):
Now, some people are saying, CJ. It don't have to
be all like that.

Speaker 2 (01:41:38):
Women proposed to men all the time and then they
still take the lead.

Speaker 3 (01:41:45):
But is the man it's his role being.

Speaker 2 (01:41:51):
Emasculated when the woman proposes and he accepts. Is he
being a masculator or are you one of those people
that say, no, Jay, he's not being emasculated. She saw
something he she wonted, and she went after it me
and like that me and want to be feeling me

(01:42:12):
and want to feel special too. This is a little
bit more than feeling special like this is this is
to me, in my opinion, this is changing the trajectory
of the marriage and of the relationship and the order
of things. Oh please, don't tell me you are all

(01:42:32):
on all those gender roles. A man is the husband,
a woman is the wife, and a man is supposed
to choose his wife. And if he has not chosen you,
then you are not the one that he's checking for.

(01:42:52):
It's just as simple as that. You can call it
gender role, you can call it tradition.

Speaker 3 (01:42:57):
Listen.

Speaker 2 (01:42:58):
Some people would be like, listen, how you gonna how
you gonna say that? H Also, oh so, now y'all
wanna have tradition, but you had a baby out of wetlock.

Speaker 3 (01:43:10):
But that ain't tradition.

Speaker 2 (01:43:14):
Listen, true as that may be, you had a baby
out of wetlock. So what are you so? Is she
not supposed to grow? Is she just supposed to say, oh, well,
I've had a baby out of wetlock. Let me just
make all bad. Let me just keep on making decisions
that are not writing, that are out of order, or

(01:43:36):
do you say, you know, man, yeah, I done had
that bag.

Speaker 3 (01:43:39):
Let me go ahead on and get my ISSU together.

Speaker 2 (01:43:41):
You know, I can't be out here popping out these
babies like this, and I ain't got no husband.

Speaker 3 (01:43:46):
I'm not nobody's wife. Let me go ahead on and
get it together.

Speaker 2 (01:43:50):
See that's the problem with some of you are some
of you all get stuck, and then you think that
people are supposed to get stuck. I'm not even gonna
say having a baby out of web lock is a
bad decision because some women have intentionally chose to do that.
So if you're making a decision out of order, does

(01:44:11):
that mean that you have to live your entire life
out of order? Or do you get to say, Okay,
you know what, it's some things that I did that
I want to tighten up on. Let me go ahead
and tighten up on that, because now you know better,
you do better, you're older, you're wise, or whatever whatever
it is.

Speaker 3 (01:44:32):
You don't have to stay on the same path of.

Speaker 2 (01:44:36):
Making decisions that are not conducive to your well being.

Speaker 3 (01:44:40):
In your better future, you get a chance to change.

Speaker 2 (01:44:43):
Do not let these folks sit up here and make
you feel bad because, oh, yeah, I had a baby
out of wet lock. So what am I supposed to
keep having babies out of wet lock?

Speaker 3 (01:44:54):
Am I not? Am I not entitled to make better decision?

Speaker 2 (01:45:00):
Oh well, why you didn't make a better decision before
you had the baby, because that was the It was
a decision that I chose to make that out a
baby at that time. And I don't owe you not,
not one god dang gonna explanation, but I'm gonna give
it to you, cause you're pressing me.

Speaker 3 (01:45:19):
Because you're stressing me, and you're ticking me on.

Speaker 2 (01:45:23):
Why oh oh what y'all can't stand the heat when
it's in Listen, nobody cares about that because she popped
the baby out. The baby's douengrown on up and they
live in their own best life, and we live in
our best lives.

Speaker 3 (01:45:37):
Somebody say, hey man to that.

Speaker 2 (01:45:39):
So yes, so now, yes, she had a baby out
of wedlock and that.

Speaker 3 (01:45:44):
Was not in order.

Speaker 2 (01:45:45):
So now she gonna took care of her responsibility and
now she's back in order. Hey man, we gonna do that. Yes,
she was out of order. Now she back in order.
So yes, she can get her husband.

Speaker 3 (01:45:58):
To propose to her because now she.

Speaker 2 (01:46:01):
Has made the decision to live in order. So whatever
she did before she wanted to be in order, now
she back. So just cause you out of order and
you made decisions out of order in the past does
not mean that you cannot get yourself together.

Speaker 3 (01:46:17):
That's why it's called getting yourself together.

Speaker 2 (01:46:20):
Some people got got it messed up, like having a
baby out of way, Like I'm not condoning it, not
condoning it at all, but I'm not gonna condemn it
and make it seem like, oh, that's just the biggest
fall from grace.

Speaker 3 (01:46:34):
You done have the baby.

Speaker 2 (01:46:35):
And I'm not saying it because I yes, I had
a baby out of way, like my baby is twenty
seven years It don't matter how old they are.

Speaker 3 (01:46:43):
Still a bag. Yes, yes, you know why cause I
chose to. Like R.

Speaker 2 (01:46:48):
Kelly was saying, keeping on it deall love, nobody has
to know. But then I said, you know what, i'm'a
go ahead, let me quit playing, let me get myself together,
and now I get back in order, and now here
I am. So that's why I can tell you you
can get back in order and you can get yourself together,
and you don't have to listen to what these people

(01:47:10):
are saying you. If the man did not choose you,
if he's not proposing to you, he didn't choose you,
He didn't choose you, and that's just that he did
not choose you.

Speaker 3 (01:47:23):
So if you getting down on one knee.

Speaker 2 (01:47:26):
And you asking this man to marry, you always think
in the back of because you're gonna always be thinking
in the back of your mind. Dad, why didn't he
ask me? Because you were not the one? But he
accepted because you put him on the spotlight. And some
men not gonna tell you, you know, because they don't want
to break your heart.

Speaker 3 (01:47:44):
They don't want to mess up they good thing.

Speaker 2 (01:47:46):
But guess what, he's still gonna be out there looking
for who is for him? kJ is saying, yup, she
should if she deemed him perfect for her.

Speaker 3 (01:47:58):
I've been saying this for over twenty ten years.

Speaker 2 (01:48:01):
Women do ninety eight point nine nine percent of men do,
but proposed to a man. So kJ, I think that
that's just your opinion, because the other men on here
are saying that they don't want the woman to propose
to them. Because again, if you wanted her to propose
to you, why didn't you propose? If she was the

(01:48:22):
woman for you, why don't you propose? If she's that
woman for you. It's just like, why would you not propose?
Like if she's that chick for you proposed? Lavia Hey,
miss Vera, how you doing, She says, but that is
not God's way, and then she said, amen, yeah, we

(01:48:42):
gotta get stuff in order, like we're not doing the
right thing and people are so scared, you know. She
also said, you don't have to stay in the past.

Speaker 3 (01:48:52):
You don't.

Speaker 2 (01:48:53):
But the way social media has things set up, they
have it like if you make the wrong decision, you
gotta keep making the wrong decisions. If you living on,
you've done things that have not been in order, like
oh now you oh you gotta just stay out of order.
What kind of foolishness is that. That's why I'm so

(01:49:13):
glad you all are not God, because these folks will
have you living Listen, keep on riding the foolery train.
They gonna have you on the foolish train for the
rest of your life because you scared to pick yourself
up and make better decisions. Especially with this social media today,
the way they are dragging single mothers through the ringer baby,

(01:49:39):
you will think that oh, once a single oh.

Speaker 3 (01:49:42):
I just gotta be there.

Speaker 2 (01:49:43):
I got Like that's the biggest fall from grace, Like
you can't have a kid or some kids and then decide, Okay,
I'm gonna get myself together. I don't care how many
kids it is. Now, I can get my At any point,
I can decide to get off the foolish train and
get myself together and now start doing what is best

(01:50:06):
for me and start.

Speaker 3 (01:50:07):
Making better decisions.

Speaker 2 (01:50:09):
At any point, you can do that at any point,
fellas you've been out here popping off all these kids,
with all these chicks. At any point, you can get
up and say, you know what.

Speaker 3 (01:50:21):
I'm doing.

Speaker 2 (01:50:22):
I'm done making these foolish decisions. I'm gonna get on
up and I'm gonna do better. I'm gonna do better
by my kids, and I'm gonna get myself together. And
guess what, I'm gonna get me a wife that ain't
naw one of my baby mamas. But guess what I'm
gonna propose to her? Because I saw wife and her

(01:50:42):
Why you didn't see, Why you didn't why you didn't hide?

Speaker 3 (01:50:44):
Why you're to marry with nothing nail? When them chicks
that you had kids with, it's easy because he didn't
see any of them as a wife. Now, why wait
and take all of that time you got to ask
them people that?

Speaker 2 (01:50:58):
Why do it take you that long to figure out
what you want and where you are.

Speaker 3 (01:51:03):
Why do it take that long?

Speaker 2 (01:51:07):
You don't have to ride the foolish train forever. Okay,
So if you've made foolish decisions, at any point you
can say, Okay, I'm back, I got myself together, I'm
gonna start playing these games. I ain't need for to
be out here playing these games like this. I'm gonna
go ahead on and get myself together. And at any
time you can get yourself together. You don't have to

(01:51:29):
worry about what these people are saying. But ladies, listen,
if this man does not propose to you.

Speaker 3 (01:51:40):
You are not who he checking for.

Speaker 2 (01:51:42):
I don't care how many kids you don't hear for him,
I don't care how long you've been with him. If
he does not propose to you, he is not checking
for you. You are not You are not the one.
You are not the one. Because again, when a man
finds somebody that he won't that he don't won't let
it get to get away, he's going to have you.

(01:52:06):
He's going to show you that he wants you in
his life. That's hands down. You ain't gotta ask Google, Chat,
GPT or Gemini. The man gonna show should should should
women propose?

Speaker 3 (01:52:19):
No, you should not. No.

Speaker 2 (01:52:24):
Oh why are you giving me? You single and you
giving our bathroom? That's that CDC. That's the problem. That's
why y'all ain't gonna never get married. Say what you wan't,
say what you will.

Speaker 3 (01:52:38):
Ladies, if you want to know that that man has
shows you, let him propose, let him take the lead.
And if you don't like where things are going, then again.

Speaker 2 (01:52:54):
This is a conversation that you gotta have with him,
and maybe it's time for you to exit.

Speaker 3 (01:52:58):
Ms.

Speaker 2 (01:52:58):
Vera said, I when a man finds a wife, he
finds a good thing, absolutely, and I'm gonna finish it
off and obtain a favor with the Lord. That's what
he does. But we trying to find the good things.
We're not the hunters women, we are not the hunters.

Speaker 3 (01:53:15):
So let these men do what they're gonna do. And again,
if it's not moving in your direction, you just not
the woman for him.

Speaker 2 (01:53:27):
And I don't say that I'm not seeing it in
a callous way.

Speaker 3 (01:53:31):
I'm not seeing it in a hard way.

Speaker 2 (01:53:33):
I'm just saying it in a way where we can
receive it so that we don't be putting ourselves in
position to keep wasting all of this time, because it's like, again,
why am I.

Speaker 3 (01:53:43):
Finna sit up here and keep on having all these men?
This man all his babies and he ain't proposing to me.

Speaker 2 (01:53:50):
That's just like the young lady Jane Aiko, one of
these new young ladies. She spent ten years with this
dude and had two babies by him, and he just
broke up with her because she wanted to get married
and he said she's not wifey material, but he gave
her two babies, but she was not wifey material, so

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they broke up after ten years. Don't let that be
your story, and if it is, don't let it continue
to be your story. You gotta take control of your
life and your future. Don't go pressing this man, giving this.

Speaker 3 (01:54:29):
Man no ultimatum, because guess what if you was who
he wanted, he would have you. Should women propose to me?
And and my petty opinion, absolutely not.

Speaker 2 (01:54:45):
But at the end of the day, do what works
best for you but me and mine. If he don't
find me worthy enough to ask me, Jay, will you
marry me?

Speaker 3 (01:54:54):
Then guess what. I'm cool over here.

Speaker 2 (01:54:56):
I'm cool over here on this happy, abundant making better
decisions trained gods.

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Speaker 3 (01:55:25):
Peace up. Good night you guys, good night, good night,
goodnight ladies.

Speaker 2 (01:55:29):
Don't you dare get on your knees and ask this
man to marry you better.

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