The Jaye Spot Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Into the J Spot, replacing your G Spot every Thursday
from six to seven, giving you real relationship talk, real
relationship drama with the best night of your life. Your
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Speaker 2 (00:27):
Good evening, good evening, Good evening, and welcome to the
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we are sprinting in relationships and families, one conversation at
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Speaker 3 (02:02):
And here's the thing, guys, listen.

Speaker 2 (02:05):
Next week is the holiday Thanksgiving. WHOA my favorite time
of yes, actually my favorite holidays, so you know, I'll
look forward to just getting my I want to say,
my eat them. I'm trying to figure out do I
really eat crazy around Thanksgiving?

Speaker 3 (02:21):
I'm not really sure, but we can.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
We'll discuss that later on in the show as I
think about what I want to tell y'all I eat.
But guys, listen our first listen, our first hot topic.
You all. It is so much going on in the news,
especially right here in Chicago. It is so much foolishness

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going on here. So let's just get into it. Let's
get into what has happened a few days ago. I
want to know what you guys think about that. How
do you feel I'm talking about the young lady, the
young mother and her kids that were jumped by a
group of kids. You heard me, a group of kids

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jumped this mother and her her kids as they were
on their way, you know, home. What do you all
think about that? Like when I tell you for those
First of all, let me just say this, I have
not seen the video.

Speaker 3 (03:23):
I have not watched the video because I.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
Just I don't have the heart you all to watch
that type of stuff. But I have watched the news.
I've been reading the reports, I've seen the interviews, and
when I tell you all, this is downright disgusting, It's
down I'm so so so so disappointed, so disappointed, Like
I what, like, I don't know, I'm I'm at a

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loss for words you are, because I don't know. How
do you explain something like that happening? Like seriously, like
how do we explain that?

Speaker 3 (03:59):
I mean, I know.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
There's a lot of fingers being pointed the parents.

Speaker 3 (04:04):
The school, this, the that.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
But when you think about the amount of kids that
was there that jumped that woman, that thought that that
was okay, that thought that that was the right ideal.
To me, something bigger is going on, Something deeper is

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going on than us just pointing the finger at the parents.
Do I say that they should be held accountable for
what their kids did, Yes, they should because the kids
are minors. Do I think that some punishment should come
the kids way as well? Yes?

Speaker 3 (04:51):
I do.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
However, you all, ou'll be honest, Like I'm torn, I
don't know what to say would be a feasible punishment. Now,
I will say this of some of you adults are
really are really really shameful the what you are saying

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about these kids. I've seen comments with adults saying, oh, yeah,
it would have been some coffins out there. It would
have been, oh, we would listen, their families would be
wearing T shirts and stuff like that, like come on,
like adults like I I don't get it.

Speaker 3 (05:36):
I truly don't get it.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
And I'll say this, Do I think that those kids
are remorseful? I don't think because the one little girl
that they showed, listen how she was keeping her trying,
doing her best to fight. She was fighting back a smirk,
the smirk that she had on her face because looking
at that little girl, she was not sorry at all.

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And for the adults around her to coach her into
an apology, I feel like that that was unnecessary because
here's the deal. Nobody had to coach her behind to
be out there to be a part of throwing fights
and kicks and punches and jumping on that lady. Nobody

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had to coach her into doing that because it's what
she wanted to do, So nobody should have to coach
her to saying the right thing to apologize. And so
I thought that that was some bs right there. I
didn't I would not have like no and being a mother,
and you're accused of something that disrespectful. First of all,

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let's talk about disrespecting elders. Can we just start there.
You have the audacity to put your hands on a
grown woman like never in the history of never them
back in the day, would you ever think, would we
ever think about raising our hands to an adult and
then think you gonna live to tell about it. You

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ain't got to worry about the neighborhood of getting you
because your mama and your grandmama and your daddy they
were going to light into your behind.

Speaker 3 (07:24):
You wouldn't have had to.

Speaker 2 (07:25):
Worry about strangers threatening you. Which again I'm.

Speaker 3 (07:31):
Not condoning that.

Speaker 2 (07:33):
I'm not saying that these kids should be threatened or
harmed by any adults outside of the adult that gave
birth to them. Their mother. Yes, I do think that
they mothers and their fathers need to put some hands on.

Speaker 3 (07:49):
Yes, I do.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
I think some kids need to be strung, pulled up,
snatched up. Yes, I do. Jay, How you gonna see
that's a what the problem is? No, that's what the
problem is right there.

Speaker 3 (08:05):
The parents.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
You got them so scared to do anything to their kids.
And look at what they're doing. These folks are just
running them up outside, just doing whatever it is that
they want to do. And you know, I'm gonna be
honest with you all. When I thought about this, I said,
when I look at it, it's something bigger going on

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at play here you are, and I just think that
it's again, just think about it. All of these kids,
all of these kids thought that that was a good
ideal for them to jump these people. They all thought
it was a good ideal. How do you all not

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the first person? Listen, you tend the tenth person? Think
about it like this, really think about it. You see
eight and that people jumping two or three people. What
makes you as the fifth person thinks that it's okay
to join in? What makes what makes you as the
ninth person and say, oh yeah, I'm gonna get me

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some of this? What makes you as the fifteenth person? Oh,
I'm gonna go ahead and get me some of that.

Speaker 3 (09:18):
You see what I'm saying. You see why I'm going
with this.

Speaker 2 (09:21):
What made all those kids think that, Yeah, this is
a good idea, This is a good ideal, This is
a good ideal to do this.

Speaker 3 (09:32):
To these people? I don't I don't understand.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
The only thing that I can say is, listen, you
all these kids are possessed. These kids got the devil
in them. That is, that's the only thing that I
can think of that will cause that many to be
on one accord for such evilness. It's a spirit, It's

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an evil spirit. And people, listen, you can say what
you want to say, that's an evil because again, think
about it, just think about the mindset. You can say, yeah,
you know, it's the kids and it's they parents, and again, yes,
accountability and responsibility needs to be had with the family,
with the parents.

Speaker 3 (10:21):
I'm not saying that that is not true.

Speaker 2 (10:24):
What I'm saying, though, the bigger picture is look at
this the mind, the mind, What in your your heart
what made you think that that was okay? Like you
look at a person like for me, I couldn't even
look at the video. I haven't seen the video, and

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I don't desire to see the video, but I can't
even watch the video. But these kids were able to
not only watch this, but participate with this. What's going on?

Speaker 3 (11:03):
Where?

Speaker 2 (11:04):
What's going on with their hearts? What's going on with
their minds? What are they thinking about? What are they it? Again,
it's a spirit, It's a spirit, It's something. It has
to be something in the food. And again, for those
of you that would want to have the nerve to say, Jay,

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I know you not. You're not trying to take up
for them. I am not taking up for anybody. I'm
trying to figure out, how do we get all of
this foolishness? How do you get all these kids to
be on this foolishness at one time? That's what I'm
trying to understand. How do you get how do you

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get all of that at one time? How do you
get all of these kids to think that that foolishness,
what they did to that woman and her family, how
did they think that that was okay? Somebody explained that
to me. That's what I'm trying to figure out. How
do you think that that is okay, because it's not

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it's not normal, it's not cute. But enough of them
got together and felt like doing that crazy ish was
a good idea.

Speaker 3 (12:23):
And for me again, I think that Listen, you.

Speaker 2 (12:28):
Are I don't know if you all believe in demons
and devils, but I do. And you all witnessed it firsthand.
You witnessed it first hand. You saw those them children
of the I'm not gonna say children of the Corn.
You saw the children of the hood, and you saw
what they did. You saw what they did just like

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all them kids from the Children of the Corn. Go
back and watch some of these Oh listen, rose Mary's baby,
all these kids born with six sixty six in the
back of their head and crazy like that. And it's
so it's it's so shameful because they've taken prayer in
anything religious, they've taken that out of the schools, right,

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So it's against the law. You can't have your kids
praying in school. They can't pray, they can't do any
of those type of things in school because it's against
the law. They don't teach unless they go to like
a parochial school. But if they go to a non
parochial school. Then there's no praying in there. There's no religion,

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there's no talking about God, there's no talking about any
of that. However, because it's oh, we well, we don't
want to offend each if we don't want to offend
Now watch this, Listen to this. They don't want to
offend people because of the different religions and this and that.
You don't want to offend them, but you will expose

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them to this foolish you all will up and I'm
getting so mad. Look, you all will expose them to
the foolery. Identify why I feel like I'm a kite.
I identify with a bird. You you all will expose

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them to that, the system, the government that they all
expose them to. That, Oh why I got two mommies
and I have two daddies. But you won't expose them
to God. You won't expose them to praying. You won't
expose them to any of that because it's it's it's

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it's a sensitive matter. Or ever.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
You know, we don't want to confuse each other.

Speaker 2 (14:42):
You know, we don't want to confuse them because what
they practice at school, you know they may not Well
you listen, you don't say that you don't want to
confuse them, because they have no problem with confusing them
with all these agendas. And I'm just gonna say it
like that, with all these so that's definitely not the case.

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So the world doesn't care about pushing all this evil stuff.
But then when it comes back and it shows out
like it just did the other day here in Chicago
with those kids jumping that woman and her.

Speaker 3 (15:19):
Kids, it shows up.

Speaker 2 (15:23):
So you all are breeding this negativity in these kids
and then wondering why they act the way they do. Yes, again,
it's some stuff at home. It's a lot to do
with at home. Two parents. You do not get off.
You do not get a get out of jail free card.

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You do not because guess what, a lot of you
all have no ideal on what your child is up to.
I will say that again, a lot of you all
have no idea what you your child or children are
up to. You know why, because you're still out here
trying to rip and run somewhere, You trying to turn up,

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you trying to find the next dude, You're trying to
find the next chick, And meanwhile your children out out
here running a muck and see from the comments that
I'm reading, you all you better get your kids because
everybody not playing with your kids. Everybody not playing with
your kids. Everybody they're not concerned whether these kids or are,

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whether they're kids or not. These people, a lot of
these adults are seeing you ran up on the right,
wrong one, because run up on the wrong one and
it's gonna be a whole different story. And this is
adults talking about harming or the harm that they would
do to a kid. So you all that have kids, listen,

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stop trusting these folks. You need to know what they're
up to. And I don't understand for me. First, can
we do this? Can we Why do your kids need
a phone? If? If you to me, in today's society,
I would not feel comfortable with my kid going to

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school by themselves on public transportation. Oh god, no, we're
not even gonna talk about the situation that just happened
the other It's always something going on on this public
transportation as of lately, these trains in these buses are
not how they used to be.

Speaker 3 (17:36):
But parents, we gotta do better.

Speaker 2 (17:41):
We have to do better.

Speaker 3 (17:43):
If it is possible, if you.

Speaker 2 (17:47):
Are able to get around, why I just can't see
myself trusting my kid to walk to school by themselves.
I couldn't trust. I can't see trust putting them on
public transportation by themself. Look at what just happened to
the woman and her kids. She walking her kids and
they still don't care. So what do you do? How

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do you handle this situation? What is the appropriate thing
that should be done? How should this situation be handled?
Because again, just looking at it, I'm just like god like,
I wouldn't know, just being on both ends of it,
just looking at it from both spectrums. What if that

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was somebody in my family? How would I feel? How
would I want that situation to be handled? If my
family member was the victim? How would I want How
would I feel if my family member was the perpetrator?

Speaker 3 (18:49):
How would I feel? I know one thing?

Speaker 2 (18:52):
As a mother, I'm not sitting up there condoning this ish.
If I looked at you, show me the video, and
I saw my child getting and and and and behaving
like that, oh, it's gonna be some furniture moving up
in there between me and my child up and wherever

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I'm at now, I'm gonna be in trouble because you're
not gonna put me to no open dog on shame.

Speaker 3 (19:20):
That's what you you.

Speaker 2 (19:20):
That's what you're not gonna do. When you leave here,
you represent me. But I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna
tell you like this, A lot of these kids, they
are doing whatever it is that they want to do
on these phones because they have these phones. They create

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these groups and they plan and they link up. And
this is the result of all these kids having phones
and having social media and their parents are not monitoring
what they are doing. If your child has social media,
you should be their friend on social media. You should

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be inspecting their phones and figuring. You should have the
past word. Oh Jay, that's doing too much. I trust
my child. I don't.

Speaker 3 (20:15):
I don't. I don't.

Speaker 2 (20:18):
It's too much trust. And guess what, Look at what
your kids is out there doing. You trust them? No,
you just don't want the hassle and the responsibility of
actually parenting and checking up on what your kids are doing.
Because I know it's a lot. I know it's a lot.

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You got multiple kids, You gotta work, you gotta do
all of this. Don't nobody got time to be doing
no random checks, studies, phones and up. You better make time.
You better make time, because listen, if you don't, the
world gonna make the world gonna make you make time.
God forbid, something happen to you because they're out here

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in all this devilment and all this foolishness. And then
something happened to your kid. And then the first thing
you want to say, fok you that she ain't never
Oh wait a minute, now, ma'am. Have you seen her
social media? Have you seen what she out here saying
and doing? You all are not paying attention to what

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your kids are out here doing. Listen, you gotta go
back to the old school. There is no privacy. Stop
the privacy in your house. Okay, I want my kids
they own a honor roll, and hey, it don't matter,
it don't matter. Here's the thing, especially if you know
you used to be a mess. That's the same blood

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that runs through your kid's veins. Okay, it's easy, the
little girl will saying again. The lady was like, tell
them what kind of grades you get? I get a's
and b and I'm gonna girl bad. Okay, Look, look,
I'm like I was not for all that baby five

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stuff because had I been to mother, O would have
popped up right, Raan't look you was Look, you was
out there cussing that woman out and you had you
had your full voice. Don't come in with that little
baby five voice, because we already know what that party
mouth for yours is capable of doing. It's capable of
cussing grown folks out. So sit up here and have

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a conversation. And you hear when these people talking to you.
But we soa we wanna side with our kids. My
kids ain't My kids ain't never they ain't hey hey, hey,
hey hey, we're gonna stop that. I'm gonna say, look now,
I don't think that my child would do that. However,

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let me see because I listen, it's some spirit, because
I know that man can be a spirit sometimes.

Speaker 3 (22:56):
Okay, So I'm.

Speaker 2 (22:57):
Not gonna put it listen, I'm gonna put it past you. Okay,
So let's just look and see. But you all, you
have to get in these kids social media. You gotta
get in it. Listen any account that they have all
the cell phone tech. First of all, y'all, let them
keep the phone just they listen. Some of them be

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glued to the act. You talk about getting me warm.
Let me see an eight year old, an eight through
a six, fifteen year old, sixteen year old on the phone,
and ain't nobody got no job?

Speaker 3 (23:33):
Whoa listen?

Speaker 2 (23:35):
Look mm hmm, now I'm being told you too old
fashion these kids. That's that's what the problem is. That's
what the problem is. You know why, because don't nobody
want to be all fashion? Everybody want to be their
kid friends. I'm not your kid friend. Okay, I'm not
the friend. I'm not the friend. I'm an auntie that

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will clown. Okay, so I on you, so don't we're
not we're not friends. No, it's a time and place
for everything. But you all are letting y'all kids just
run them up and do whatever it is that they
want to do, and there is no accountability, no accountability.

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Now again, how do we handle this situation that these people,
these kids, these listen, these possessed little demons, because again
that's exactly what it was, these possessed little demons that
got out there and did this to this woman. These kids, listen,

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they needed exercise. I'm gonna tell you what they need
to be doing. Okay, First of all, y'all need to
get them in somebody's church.

Speaker 3 (24:46):
They need to be in that. Listen, we go back
to the old school.

Speaker 2 (24:49):
Have them in church and listen when the church doors
open every day, had them up. Listen, you, I'm telling
you gotta get them in a room, not these new
these new churches where you know the pastor flying in
on a bentley. No, you gotta get them in one
of them churches that believe in praying, that believe in rebuking.

Speaker 3 (25:10):
These little kids.

Speaker 2 (25:11):
Listen, they had them down there on their knees from
Tuesday to Sunday night. Take them home, wash them up,
get them for school, and bring them back. That's all
their life needs to be consistent of is just being
in church. Listen, you sit up at church long enough, baby,
You up in the Tuesday, Tuesday for prayer, Wednsday for

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Bible study, Thursday for quiet practice, Friday for prayer, Saturday,
you serving somebody Sunday for listen. They not gonna have
a chance and they not gonna have a chance to
do nothing else. You know why, because you gonna know
where they at. You picking them up, and you having
responsibility of where they are. Take those phones, letting them

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have access to everything. Some of these kids they got
the latest iPhone what they need? What do you need
an iPhone seventy five for? What for?

Speaker 3 (26:12):
What?

Speaker 2 (26:13):
When you are ten years old, what does your child
need an iPhone seventy five for? They got the little iPhone, watch,
the iPhone glasses, what do what do they need all
that for? Are they are they working on some type
of project or something for their job?

Speaker 3 (26:31):
Like, I don't understand what.

Speaker 2 (26:34):
Do they need all those high tech gadgets for. Please
help me understand what do they need that stuff for?
They should just have a basic little phone.

Speaker 3 (26:46):
If you're the.

Speaker 2 (26:46):
Type of parent that say, you know what, Jay, my
kid has a phone just because of exactly what happened
to the woman in her kids the other day, That's
why my child had as a phone, so that I
can keep in contact with them. I can respect that,
But you do know that they have these little phones,

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the little cube phones that all they do is ring.
They can't take no pictures on it, they can't take
they can't be on social media with any it's the
phone is for emergencies. So for those parents that say
that that's the reason that they have their kids with
the phone, let's stop it. Because if it was you

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would not be spending two thousand dollars for a phone
just so that you can say, oh, well they got it,
because you just want to make sure when my kid
is safe. You know, no, no, they got phones that
cost thirty nine dollars.

Speaker 3 (27:46):
But see, y'all gonna be too.

Speaker 2 (27:47):
You know, your kids gonna walk around with their lip
poked out and they gonna have a problem.

Speaker 3 (27:52):
With the phone. Here's the thing. You either take it
or you don't. The choice is yours.

Speaker 2 (27:59):
If you don't like this phone right here, that it's
only for emergencies, then you won't have it. But I, Philip,
feel like, listen, you need to go back to the
old school. Listen.

Speaker 3 (28:12):
We wasn't in there on the phone all day long.
You couldn't.

Speaker 2 (28:16):
You wasn't gonna do that. You were not gonna be
up in there on your.

Speaker 3 (28:21):
Mama phone all day long.

Speaker 2 (28:23):
I don't pay Listen, this is my phone bill, because baby,
they will tell you in a minute who paying the bills? Okay,
they will tell you. You're not gonna be tying up my
phone line. Parents, if your kids have a phone, let
me ask this. Do you all let them keep the
phones in their rooms at night? Or I trust them

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when they're up in that sleep. I don't I don't
trust them. I look, I can trust you if I
see you just like this, And even then I don't
trust you all the way because I don't have my
good specs in so I don't trust them. Start taking
those phones, start looking and seeing what your kids are
up to, because you will be surprised to learn the

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other side of your child. See a lot of us
only know the side that our kids show to us,
and they're only gonna show They're gonna show you their best.
You trust me.

Speaker 3 (29:26):
My son is twenty twenty seven, and.

Speaker 2 (29:30):
I say, listen, we would talk and I say, you know,
I ain't caught you doing nothing. He didn't get in trouble,
I said, but that's just because I don't know. You know,
you never get you not never got caught.

Speaker 3 (29:45):
But would I put oh anything past him?

Speaker 2 (29:49):
No?

Speaker 3 (29:50):
Because see, his mama was slick and his daddy was
kind of slow.

Speaker 2 (29:54):
You know, so I know right there, slick and slow
don't really match. Okay, Sli, Because I got away, because
I got away.

Speaker 3 (30:03):
With a lot of stuff, because I was.

Speaker 2 (30:04):
The kid that got good grades and all this and that,
and you know, listen, I was tight with mine, but
was a listen, was a big devil. Now not out
here fighting, disrespecting grown folks and all this, not that.
But I was a spirit, nevertheless within my own rights,

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doing things that I know I had no business doing
and didn't get caught every because I kept a tight
I kept a tight ship.

Speaker 3 (30:35):
Everything was in order.

Speaker 2 (30:37):
So sister fans never knew that this one over here
that she had a demon. Okay, but she had a demon.

Speaker 3 (30:44):
And so when I.

Speaker 2 (30:45):
Became a mother, I was like, well, wait a minute.
Now this blood runs through the one that I gave
birth to. So now that's one of two things. He
gonna be good like his mother, or he gonna be
getting caught like his daddy.

Speaker 3 (31:01):
You know.

Speaker 2 (31:02):
So he was. He was, He kind of caught. He
kind of took after me because he didn't get caught
doing much. But I did give him this disclaimer. I said,
here's the deal. I know you a cool dude, you cool,
you got everything together, I said, but let me just
say this. If you do something and they lock you

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up and you did it, you gonna be there, because
that's what my mama told us. You get anybody getting
locked up and you really and you did it. You
gonna stay there, okay, So just make sure in everything
you do you have an understanding.

Speaker 3 (31:48):
You got it. So when we left the house, we
had an understanding on what the sister what she expected.

Speaker 2 (31:55):
So listen, you do your foolishness accordingly, ain't gonna do.
That was no law breaking, that was gonna happen because
that's what she said, you know, But she ain't say,
you know, we're going out there freaking on them boys
and stuff.

Speaker 3 (32:07):
She ain't say all that, baby, So listen that.

Speaker 2 (32:10):
That Okay, y'all know what I'm saying. But you out
here doing all of this crazy stuff. When I tell you,
these kids are on another level, these kids are on
another level. Vo.

Speaker 3 (32:29):
These kids are on a whole new level. And it's so.

Speaker 2 (32:34):
Sad and it's so disheartening, and it's just like when
you hear about this happening to this kid and that kid,
when we see when we think about what just happened
yesterday with those kids jumping that lady and her kids,
these kids are cutting their own live spand off. You

(32:57):
cannot do that type of stuff and then think you
gonna live to day. I'm like, God, if you don't
believe in the Bible and in Jesus, and I don't
got nothing.

Speaker 3 (33:07):
Look that's between that's on you.

Speaker 2 (33:09):
But I'm gonna tell you what I believe and what
I see and what I'm observing. These kids are cutting
their own lifespan off because of what they are doing.
Please teach your children, Teach your children. Stop letting these
games raise them, stop letting the TV raism, Stop letting

(33:31):
these kids be on these phones and listen when they
do something, let them get take accountability for it. Do
I think physical harm should be done to those kids
by adults?

Speaker 3 (33:50):
No, I don't.

Speaker 2 (33:52):
Do I think that those kids should go to an
adult jail. I don't. I do think that maybe they
need First of all, they definitely, Okay, let me just start.

Speaker 3 (34:06):
Let me just tell you.

Speaker 2 (34:07):
My opinion and what I think should happen. First, by now,
they should have been got rearranged by their parents. That's
the first thing that should have already happened. And each
time I see it on the news, I'm gonna get
mad all over again, and I'm about to tell this
whole house up with you in it.

Speaker 3 (34:26):
That's the first thing.

Speaker 2 (34:28):
The second thing I think that they need to be
analyzed psychologically, by a psychologist and a psychiatrist some of
these kids. Listen, you need to get the priests up
in there. You need to get the pasted up in there.
Whatever you got to do, whoever, you gotta get in
there to numb yodo reiki out of your kids all

(34:50):
that foolishness, because it's something deeper than that. It's something
deeper and you it's up to you as the parent
to get to the root of what foolishness is going
on with your child. But it's definitely some psychological evaluations

(35:12):
need to take place. Yeah, Jay, I hear all that,
But what type of punishment, Because these kids need to
be punished. What type of punishment are you talking about?
That's let's get to that. These kids cannot get away
what you are absolutely right, and I'm never saying that
these kids should not be punished for what they did.
So what do I think? I think that they should

(35:34):
go to some type of boot camp? Listen, Send them
away to a boarding schooler some somewhere where there's going
to be some strict structure. Do it for about send
them away for about three to six months. Get listen,
send them to a military boot camp facility something where
there will be no sweets and no laughing, no, no,

(35:58):
all that good time gap that's gonna be on palls
until we reprogram you. So each child, their timeframe will
vary or vary on how long it takes to reprogram
them demons, because they still at a pretty young age
where a lot of them can be saved, a lot
of them can be reprogrammed. But to let them jest, Oh,

(36:22):
where they gonna get suspended for a week? I think
not Oh, where they're gonna get suspended for the rest
of the school year. And what is what is suspending
them gonna do? Suspending them is not gonna do nothing
but get a more time to go out there and
jump on somebody else. So suspending them and there is

(36:43):
no plan, no no action, is not.

Speaker 3 (36:46):
Gonna do anything.

Speaker 2 (36:47):
So I'm not for suspending them unless you sending them
to a facility.

Speaker 3 (36:53):
Again, I'm not saying jail.

Speaker 2 (36:57):
Thank God nobody was unlived in this situation, Thank God
for that. But I do feel bad for the family
and they are definitely gonna need psychological help as.

Speaker 3 (37:10):
Well, because that's you know, that's horrifying.

Speaker 2 (37:13):
So I'm sure they all are suffering with PTSD after
dealing with something like this, But how do we prevent
this from happening? You all these kids? It's look, these
kids are just out of control, a whole bunch of them.
Listen this stuff that happened the other day, and guess what.

(37:36):
They come back the next day and these kids are
still bullying kids in school. They still jumping people every day.
People getting jumped today, getting jumped yesterday. It ain't stopped.
You think because this made the world wide news, you
think that this donna stop these hell raisers.

Speaker 3 (37:55):
It has not. It has not because.

Speaker 2 (37:59):
They know they see they see the glamor the videos
being glamorized of them doing the deed. But they need
to make the punishment go viral as well. See, that's
the only way that this is gonna stop as well,
is because we're sitting up here, people are sharing the

(38:22):
video and the kids like, I'm finna go, I'm finna
beat that, We're finna go viral. Rostis let the punishment
go viral as well. See, because a lot of people,
a lot of these kids know that they can do
this and get away.

Speaker 3 (38:40):
That you think they worried.

Speaker 2 (38:41):
About being suspended or being expelled, They don't care about that,
and I think that the parents need to be held
financially responsible as well.

Speaker 3 (38:52):
So I was doing some research and it.

Speaker 2 (38:55):
Was some of the the articles that I was seeing
in interviews are saying that the mother is going to
sue the parents, as she should, as she should, as
she should.

Speaker 3 (39:09):
Jay the parents didn't have anything to do with it.

Speaker 2 (39:11):
That's the problem.

Speaker 3 (39:13):
That's the problem. That is the problem.

Speaker 2 (39:16):
And if you are a parent that you are working hard,
I mean I sympathize with that, but again, at the
end of the day, you have to put some other
measures in place so that your children are accounted for
and they are doing the right thing and they are
not left to rip in roam by themselves. Because that

(39:40):
was too many kids out there by theirselves, no parents
come to pick them up. What what kind of foolishness.
We have to do better. We have to do better.
But dropping the comments, you all, besides, listen it's something negative.

(40:01):
If you're gonna say something to harm them as an
as an adult, don't, don't drop that comment. Just don't.
If you're saying something about, oh, we're gonna it's gonna
be coffins and T shirts, and do not, do not
drop that type of message because I don't support or
condone that because again, at the end of the day, yes,

(40:24):
they did something very heinous and very disrespectful and very brutal.
But I'm still not comfortable with saying, adults, should you know,
handle a y, you know, handle a kid like that,

(40:44):
and then oh, they wasn't acting like no kids. So
I'm gonna treat I understand that, but I'm still I'm
still torn on that part. I'm still struggling with the
part where I'm gonna be okay with somebody, you know,
an adult, saying what they would do.

Speaker 3 (41:05):
To harm a kid. I'm not okay with that.

Speaker 2 (41:08):
I'm not comfortable with that, so I'm not gonna say that.
I just think that there are some other things that
need to be in place. But again, I do think
that the parents should be held accountable for.

Speaker 3 (41:23):
Their kids actions.

Speaker 2 (41:25):
I do think that, and you know, listen, sue them civilly,
prosecute them if you got to prosecute the parents criminally,
because the kids are kids. Listen, do what you gotta do.
But some lessons have to be learned. It's listen, it's
some rough justice that has to take place in this situation.

(41:47):
But parents if you have parents, parents, if you have kids,
please check your kids' phones. Please see what your kids
are up to, because it's they're planning evil little things
like this. Look at their social media.

Speaker 3 (42:04):
Listen.

Speaker 2 (42:05):
Heck, most of them don't even need to be on
social media. That's why the stuff that they get into
at home and then they take it to school and
then they finish it there. Take these phones. These kids
don't If your kid don't have no phone, they don't
have a way to be in no foolishness unless they're
being bullied. So now that leads to another issue. What

(42:29):
are these schools going to do about bullying? Because that's
a serious issue that is being that's not being addressed.
And I can tell you this from years ago when
my son was in grammar school and he was being bullied.

Speaker 3 (42:47):
Now listen, I will say, listen.

Speaker 2 (42:49):
I'm up there every day dropping him off, and I'm
just like like the mother did, I'll be dog gone
if I'm right here with my kid because he's a
little two little game bangle lit boys in the area.
You know, you know how they've been trying to recruit
them at an early age. You either gonna join us,
not over here. Not over here, partner, We're not gonna
do that. But I'm telling the school, telling the principal,

(43:14):
so trying to get some parent teacher conferences. Of course
that ain't gonna happen. Listen, you go listen, you be
better off. You have a better chance of being your
hair turning blonde without dyeing it. Then getting one of
these parents up here for a parent teacher conference. Depending
on what area in the hoods you live in, you

(43:35):
have it. Listen, Ray, Charles had a better chance of
die permit your hair without burning you. Then you got
for those parents to come up there to the school
for a parent teacher conference. But I went up there
to the school and I had a parent teacher confer
where it was just a parent with the principal conference

(43:57):
because the parents never showed up. And the tea the
principal told me this. I saw it was a black
woman principal. I swear she told me. She was like, well,
you you just gonna have to enroll your son in
some type of self defense class or something like that.

(44:19):
I'm like, wait a minute, what you telling me to
enroll my son in a self defense class? Because these
these little demoning, these little demons that you got in
this school and they parents don't care about them, and

(44:41):
they out here disrupting the neighborhood. And these the boy,
the little boys, they were neighborhood disruptors. And the principal
told me, she was like, yeah, that's what I had
to do for my son. You know, I told him
once he enrolled in self defense, he didn't have a prom.

Speaker 3 (45:01):
Anymore.

Speaker 2 (45:03):
And I said, ma'am, will all due respect, what type
of solution is that? I don't understand because it's not
about being afraid. You shouldn't have to be subjected to
this type of foolish is your kid should not have

(45:25):
to be subjected to that. So, to make a long
story short, at Jay, how did you end up dealing
with it? Well, I just took him oufter school because
I said, here's the thing, and this is why I
say I'm touring because I knew.

Speaker 3 (45:37):
I said, I was.

Speaker 2 (45:38):
At the point where, you know what, touch my son
again and I'm gonna kick yo. So I was at
that point, yes, as an adult, because I'm just like,
I see what is going on.

Speaker 3 (45:51):
So thankfully, and you know, here's the deal.

Speaker 2 (45:53):
I understand every parent is not in position to transfer
their kids and do all of that soul. Look, I
don't you know, I don't know, but that's just what
I did. I transferred him out of a school. Matter
of fact, I transferred him out of the Chicago public

(46:13):
school system period, and from third grade on he was
in a private school. So I paid for education from
third grade all the way through college. So I've been
paying tuition since he was in third grade because I
believed in investing in my son, and thankfully I had
the you know, I had the disposable income to be

(46:34):
able to do so. Because here's the thing, here's what
I don't understand. And I would tell my son this
all the time. We go dropping him off and were
riding through the hood. How were you parked? How do
you have a big fancy escalade or the newest bins
and you dropping your child off in these raggedy dumps

(46:56):
of these public schools, and you riding up and these
found automobiles and you dropping your child off at this
stupid death trap. You, I'm like, that's parents. When I
look at parents like that, I'd be live your whole yo.
You are part of what your child's problem is. You

(47:18):
are a part of what your problem, your child's problem
is because how do you go how do you do that?
How do you invest all that money in that type
of car? Note? You got money to pay tuition downside
that car? Get you a little Listen, my son and

(47:39):
I we used to laugh all the time at my car.
I said, I'm gonna ride the roll of the car
off this Corolla. I'm gonna ride it off until all
the letters fall off the car. I'm not getting another
car because I'm going to invest that money instead of
paying a car note, I'm gonna pay tuition. And that's

(48:00):
what I did. That is what I did. And thankfully,
you know, listen, got a nice you know, got some
nice should support, so you know, it all worked out
for me. But everybody doesn't have that story. So what
does a parent do in that situation when they don't

(48:22):
have the ability or they don't have the resources to
move their kids out the environment. You shouldn't have to move,
you shouldn't have to go through all of that. These
kids should be taught to go to school, sit down
and get your lesson and leave people alone.

Speaker 3 (48:43):
That's what needs to be taught.

Speaker 2 (48:45):
They need to bring some out and I don't know,
I don't have any school aged kids, so I don't
know if they have any anti bullying curriculum in the schools,
but if they don't, they definitely need to invest in that.

Speaker 3 (49:00):
They definitely do, and then.

Speaker 2 (49:02):
Listen for those kids, because I don't believe that every
kid can be helped and every kid can be saved.
I'm never gonna tell you that some kids have been
exposed to so much that they are doomed before they
even start. Jay, how you gonna say that about a kid?

Speaker 3 (49:22):
That truth, I believe. I will say it again.

Speaker 2 (49:24):
I don't think that all kids can be saved because
some of them are already rotten to the core. They're
born into it, these spirits. That's a number of things.
So I'm never gonna say all kids can be saved,
but I do think a vast majority of them can

(49:46):
be saved if some proper protocol and procedures are put
into place. But what happened to that woman and that
her kids the other day, that's unacceptable. It's unacceptable, and listen.
I don't know about you all, and maybe I've missed it,
but I haven't heard nothing. I haven't heard anything from
this slew Footed mayor of the City of Chicago.

Speaker 3 (50:08):
What does he have to say about this?

Speaker 2 (50:12):
What does that popbelly governor of Illinois have to say
about this foolishness, because they got something to say about
all listen, and then your immigrants and we're gonna talk
about us. Hey, hey, I'm just saying, make other issues
pressed in as well, since you're out there dealing with
social issues and social matters. Touch on this, mister mayor.

(50:36):
Touch on this, miss the governor. And while y'all touching
on it, unhand some of that money out them purse
strings and redirect some of that money until into the
schools in the hoods so that they can get the
proper resources that they need, because we all know that
these schools in the hood are underfund are undefunded. I

(51:00):
already know that they underfunded under everything. Only thing that
they got a lot of is violence. But then y'all
want to act like y'all, oh, well, we don't, we
don't know what's going on. Y'all know what's going on
over there, because y'all specifically it's specifically set up that way,
it's specifically set up.

Speaker 3 (51:20):
But I've looked.

Speaker 2 (51:22):
Something has to be done, Okay, Now, I have talked
and got that part off my chest. Now, let me
tell y'all, let's get into the foolery, because I've already
been out, have been deep long enough. But I felt
like that needed to be talked about because it's some
changes that really, really really need to take place, and

(51:43):
that was just an important issue that was just definitely
it was. It was definitely disturbing, and I'm just hoping
that some things are done about that.

Speaker 3 (51:55):
Now.

Speaker 2 (51:55):
Speaking of things being done at that, now, what do
you all think about? Look, ladies, Thanksgiving is coming up,
you know, Christmas is coming up, and listen, this is
the romantic proposing season and.

Speaker 3 (52:14):
Things of that nature.

Speaker 2 (52:16):
So, ladies, if your man bought you a ring that
was worth forty nine ninety nine from Walmart and he
proposes to you with that forty nine ninety nine ring,
what say?

Speaker 3 (52:35):
Ye?

Speaker 2 (52:35):
What are you doing?

Speaker 3 (52:36):
How were you answering?

Speaker 2 (52:38):
Are you? Are you answering?

Speaker 3 (52:40):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (52:40):
Hold, I feel like I've said solo, y'ah, sorry, held up?
What are you doing? I was?

Speaker 3 (52:45):
Why are you going to tell me? I look low?
Forty nine ninety nine?

Speaker 2 (52:50):
Are you accepting the proposal? Are you accepting the ring?

Speaker 3 (52:54):
Forty nine ninety nine.

Speaker 2 (52:57):
For your engagement ring? Are you are you accepting it?
Are you happy? Are you like, oh my god, I
don't care about the ring goes forty.

Speaker 3 (53:07):
How do you feel?

Speaker 2 (53:08):
What are you? What are you doing?

Speaker 3 (53:09):
You accepting it?

Speaker 2 (53:10):
Or are you like? Listen, I don't know who sent
you over here and why you playing these type of
games with me? But you better go ahead. You better
go and ask somebody. Would you have that type of
attitude about it?

Speaker 3 (53:26):
Or would you say?

Speaker 2 (53:27):
You know what? Listen, Jay, the ring is not important.
Just as long as I got my men, I got
my man, I got my men, I got my man.
Or is the ring important? Forty nine ninety nine? Now,
I'm gonna be honest with you all. Don't come to
me with no forty nine ninety nine ring.

Speaker 3 (53:46):
Just don't do not.

Speaker 2 (53:48):
I'm not even gonna sit up there and lie like that.
Don't come to me with no forty nine ninety nine ring,
Just don't. You're not.

Speaker 3 (53:57):
Here's the thing I and I am like, I'm the.

Speaker 2 (54:00):
Most I'm not a materialistic person. I'm really not. But
you're not gonna come to me with the ring value
that the amount of coffee that I drink a week.
You're not you're no, no, no.

Speaker 3 (54:21):
No to me.

Speaker 2 (54:22):
That would say to me, that's saying no effort. I
would prefer for you not to get me a ring,
and let's do something you know that's gonna impact us
as a unit before you give me a forty nine
dollars ring, Like, let's do something else symbolic like, we

(54:44):
can do something else, but you're not do not You're
not gonna low ball me with no forty nine ninety
nine ring. And I'm not asking that he breaks the bank.
But come on, you being good and grown at this
age and at forty nine ninety nine, it is the
best that you can do for a ring. We shouldn't
be getting married. We should not. It's some other things

(55:07):
that need to be worked on before getting married. But
again the ring, Let's do something else, like we to
be honest, I really don't even need a ring. I
really don't. You don't have to give me a ring.

Speaker 3 (55:20):
Let's listen, Can we go half on this land?

Speaker 2 (55:23):
What we got? Can we go ahead on get this property?
Can we do this? Can we It's it's so many
other things that that money can be used for. But
I just don't believe, don't compliment. Don't play in my
face with a forty nine ninety nine ring. Just don't

(55:44):
do not. You would be better off just bringing some
roses and some nice and then just proposing like that
without without a ring.

Speaker 3 (55:53):
But do not insult me.

Speaker 2 (55:55):
With with with no no crackerjack.

Speaker 3 (55:58):
Listen, I'm ball. Listen.

Speaker 2 (56:00):
I get gift cards valued more than forty nine ninety nine.
I get those for Christmas daily basis. Listen, I drink
more than forty nine ninety nine worth a coffee in
a week.

Speaker 3 (56:11):
You're not gonna do that.

Speaker 2 (56:14):
You are not forty nine ninety nine, and especially if
he a coffee drinking too. So I'm like, listen, we
both for we throw forty nine ninety nine by w Instead,
we're gonna spend more than forty nine ninety nine on drinking,
drinking coffee and eating out. We've already spent that by Wednesday.
To me at this point where I'm at okay. But

(56:39):
now listen, you got the dude that that's forty nine
ninety nine, that's what's in his range, that's what his
pockets can buy.

Speaker 3 (56:54):
You accept it. You accept it.

Speaker 2 (56:57):
So every person in situation, it's different. Everybody is used
to something different. But what I'm saying for me, you're
not gonna take me back, Like I don't feel like
i wanna drop down from where I'm currently at. If
I'm drinking fifty dollars worth of coffee, you're not gonna
come to me with no fifty dollars ring. We're just

(57:20):
not gonna do it. But again, I don't need a
ring because I'm not a materialistic person. So I'm looking
at it just off the sheer value. Get something else
that's gonna be valuable, that's going to help our future.
Do something like give me some stocks something. Listen, I

(57:42):
bought you this stock, this here. Do something. But it
doesn't have to be like I'm open for unconventional ways,
you know.

Speaker 3 (57:54):
So I'm not.

Speaker 2 (57:57):
The ring.

Speaker 3 (57:58):
It doesn't like that's.

Speaker 2 (58:00):
Oh he looking because if you know me, then he
would know that. Yeah, I mean, she she'll I know
she'll like it, but she'll be fine if I got
her something. That's that's how in tune he is with me,
because he knows what I like, and then I'm in

(58:21):
tune with him.

Speaker 3 (58:22):
I know what he likes.

Speaker 2 (58:24):
So but for people the forty nine dollars, if that's
where you are then that's where you are. If you
a person say listen, I don't who I don't be
drinking all that and no coffee like that. Listen, when
I get coffee and drinking and eat out like that,
it's a once in a while splurge. Take that forty
nine ninety nine ring, take it and build and run

(58:47):
with it. So I'm not saying everybody should be turning
that forty nine dollars ring down it. Just look at
where you are, look at what you're doing and what
you got going on. Look at what they're doing, what
they got going on. And if it makes sense to
accept the forty nine ninety nine ring, accept it. But

(59:07):
if it doesn't make sense, then you know, listen, move around. Now.
I know I'm probably getting a little slack off of that,
and it's okay because again I said, I'm not a
materialistic person, but you're not going to undervalue me and say, oh, well,
forty nine dollars and you were not doing that forty
nine dollars the forty nine ninety nine ring. This brother,

(59:30):
he probably don't have no car and this is all
he can afford. Take the ring. Take it because he
loves you. Take it again.

Speaker 3 (59:42):
You don't have to. I don't need a ring.

Speaker 2 (59:45):
To be shown that you love me because I want
to see. I'm looking at how you treated me and
how our relationship is going, and I gauge how how
much love is there between how depending upon how the
relationship is. So that's where I placed the value for

(01:00:08):
the relationship and how you know the tone for the relationship,
how things are between us. But for me, I'm just
like I wouldn't I'm not gonna do. Don't bring no
forty nine don't you. Don't you bring no forty nine
dollar ring over here, because I will definitely be asking
you who sent you? Did your big brother send you

(01:00:29):
over here? Well, let me tell you something. Go back
and send your big brother and make sure he has
a grown man ring. Don't come over here with that
look smith, I look, I'm like, man, give me that ring.
I'll swallow that ring and.

Speaker 3 (01:00:43):
Burp it up.

Speaker 2 (01:00:43):
This look little hebble, little stone, look, get look, not
gonna do it, not gonna do it. But again for
the man that this is all he can afford. I'm
not telling her to turn this down. You accept it
and then you build from it and you do better.

Speaker 3 (01:01:08):
That's that part.

Speaker 2 (01:01:09):
You take it and you build from it and you
do better. Now listen speaking of building and doing better.
So we had a lady, she posts. She says, a
man telling a woman that if she acts like a wife,
then he will marry her. What do you guys think
about that? And first of all, what is acting like

(01:01:33):
a wife? Fellas? Tell me what is that? What do
you want a woman to act like a wife? Does
that make you want to marry her? And what is
acting like a wife? Does acting like a wife means that?
Maybe she's cooking for you? Or is it some What
does acting like a wife mean to men? Because I

(01:01:55):
know for a woman and I want to hear from
you fellas, so drop it in the comments.

Speaker 3 (01:01:59):
Let me know what does acting like a wife mean?
And do you all want to see women.

Speaker 2 (01:02:08):
Acting like a wife, because if she's acting like a wife,
then that will compel you to want to marry her.
So from just as a woman thinking of it and
listening to it and my opinion, and I want to
know what the fellas say, So fellas, drop it in

(01:02:29):
the comments. Let me know what does acting like a
wife mean? But when I hear acting like a wife,
I would think that acting like a wife means that
he's looking for someone to take care of him, like
possibly cook for him, do his laundry, and just make

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sure his household things are together and he's taken care
of That to me would seem like acting like a wife.
But fellas, again, I want to know what you all
think acting like a wife means. What does acting like
a wife mean to you all, fellas?

Speaker 3 (01:03:09):
What does that mean?

Speaker 2 (01:03:11):
And is that is there some validity to the statement
when the young lady says, she says that a man
telling a woman to act that if she acts like
a wife, then he will marry her. And just on
looking from a woman's perspective, he listen, that's to me,

(01:03:33):
that's just some bs. A man listen, he knows if
you don't have to act like nothing, you just have
to be that chick. If you're not that chick, then
these are the This is the stuff that men tell
women that are not their person. This is the string
This is the string along stuff, because these are blanket statements.

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As a lot of times that a man will say,
act like a wife, and then guess what we'll do.
We'll go and start cooking form and cleaning and doing
all this other stuff, but in his mind, that's not
what his ideal of acting like a wife is. So
it's like, if you ever notice, ladies, if a man
ever tells you that, follow up with it, what does

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acting like a wife mean?

Speaker 3 (01:04:23):
What does that mean?

Speaker 2 (01:04:24):
And see what kind of response you get to it,
because a lot of times that statement is just a
huff and fluff statement. That is a statement, that's a
string along statement that's to keep you dangling on. He's
still out the search and he still has not found
his person, honey, and he is content with you being

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there because you are something for him to do. So
he's going to continue to do you as long as
you allow him to. He's gonna continue to He's gonna
continue to do you until you say, you know what, listen,
I'm done, and I'm going to move on like I'm done.

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I'm done. Don't know ultimatums, no getting mad, no any
of that. Just be done and you have to move on.
But that is definitely a string along statement that men
make when again, you're not their person. They will tell
you anything to sing you off, but they're not going

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to be adamant and just say you know what, you're
not the one for me. They are almost never gonna
tell you that. They're never gonna tell you that until
they find what they're looking for.

Speaker 3 (01:05:48):
Then they don't care.

Speaker 2 (01:05:49):
At that point, they have no use for you anymore
because they've already found who they're looking for.

Speaker 3 (01:05:56):
So when you get that.

Speaker 2 (01:05:59):
You know, yeah, you know, you gotta show me you
more of a wife. You gotta show me that you
can be a wife. And I think that that's some
huff and fluff. But fellas, if you want to drop
in the comments, let me know so that I can
let the ladies know. What do you think about that?
Is there some truth to that? Will a man? Will

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that prompt a man to want to marry a woman
if she starts to act like a wife. And if
she does start acting like a wife, what does acting
like a wife means? What does that look like to men?
Because I know what it looks like to a woman.
We know what it looks like and what it sounds

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like to us. But when you all say that, what
does that actually mean? What are you actually looking for
when you say you want her to act like a wife?
And a lot of times the fellas are not going
to be specific about that. Because they don't know. A
lot of times I don't think that they know. Again,

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I just think that that's a tactic to string you along,
keep you holding on. Because he didn't say he won't
marry you. Here, he's telling you what his false desires
are before he would even consider you. Ladies, listen, trust me,

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take it from somebody that have been lied to blade
all listen, all as a bull junkie, that is a
string along. It's a string along tactic. Okay from my opinion,
But I want the fellas to drop in the comments
what they think and what does this mean? And we

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can get into that. But listen, speaking of get into that.
And I feel like I can feel her on this
and I definitely feel bad for her. As Vivicar Fox,
She's says that her biggest career regret y'all ready, drum

(01:08:08):
rope please, her biggest career regret is not having any kids.
Oh my god. I felt that in my gut when
I read that. I'm just like, oh.

Speaker 3 (01:08:22):
My god, Like it's so crazy.

Speaker 2 (01:08:26):
It's like, you go and you build all this stuff,
you have this amazing career and you never had any babies.

Speaker 3 (01:08:35):
Oh my god.

Speaker 2 (01:08:37):
Listen, despite how these cartoon characters are out here trying
to clown women for having babies or you know, clown
and baby mamas.

Speaker 3 (01:08:48):
Listen, let me tell you something.

Speaker 2 (01:08:50):
I will be a baby mama all day long, all
day strong, before I be a woman that have got
up there and said, you know what, make this very statement.
My biggest regret was not having any kids. Listen, because ladies,
father time, listen. We only have a designated amount of

(01:09:13):
time to have a baby. You do, so don't listen,
and don't I don't want to hear you all saying, oh, what,
Jenny had a baby in her fifties and and such
and such he had a baby when she was fifty five.
You don't have their money. It is high risk. Do

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you have the doctors and the teams that is needed
to ensure that you and your geriatric baby, because that's
exactly what it will be considered a geriatric pregnancy, and
those are often high risk pregnancies. Like they say, after
thirty five, they say, dad, listen, your chances of being

(01:09:59):
a high risk pregnancy it increases.

Speaker 3 (01:10:02):
And what does that mean?

Speaker 2 (01:10:03):
That means that your chance of having complications or complications
for the baby, it is greater the older a woman gets,
so listen. So, yes, I know career is important, and listen,
the grind is in there. But I will say this,
listen to what Viverka Fox just said, because here it is,

(01:10:25):
she's sixty or sixty something and she regrets not having kids.
Now all the money in the world, she'll never get
to experience childbirths unless she's one of those women that's
willing to, you know, risk her life going through all
these you know, crazy procedures to have a child. But

(01:10:49):
it's like, at sixty years old, who's trying to sit
up there and deal with crying babies and changing papers
when you got ya own other issues going on if
minnopause hasn't kicked in. Because if minnopause has kicked in,
then the deal is done.

Speaker 3 (01:11:11):
It's a no go.

Speaker 2 (01:11:14):
No kids will be coming up out of there. And
I often feel bad for women that don't have kids.
If you've made the choice to not have kids, then
that's one thing she's not missing out on anything because
she's like, listen, I never wanted to have them jokers,
no way. So that woman, this conversation is not for her.

(01:11:36):
I'm talking to the women that did everything right, listen,
you went to school like they told you to, You got.

Speaker 3 (01:11:44):
The degrees, you did this, you did that, but.

Speaker 2 (01:11:50):
You never had kids and your heart desire is to
have kids, and that window of opportunity is closing. What
do we tell what do you tell a woman that
wants to have kids and she's single and her window

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of opportunity is narrowing. Let's talk about that we've never
That's a conversation that needs.

Speaker 3 (01:12:19):
To be had because it's real.

Speaker 2 (01:12:25):
Like fellas they can, they can, they can.

Speaker 3 (01:12:28):
Slang that dong and slung that dong.

Speaker 2 (01:12:31):
For a long time and they could just pop kids anywhere,
But ladies, it's not so for us.

Speaker 3 (01:12:42):
Like our window it winds down.

Speaker 2 (01:12:47):
And if you are a woman that you know, you
look around like Vivica Fox just did, and she looks
around and she's like, man, you know, I've accomplished all
of this, but my biggest regret is not having any kids.
I wish I would have had kids when I had

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the chance. But a lot of times, you know, the
demands of the career and we don't want the change,
all the changes and things like that that our bodies
go through. Because let's be honest, in her field of acting.

Speaker 3 (01:13:24):
You know everything is real.

Speaker 2 (01:13:25):
You gain weight and you know you have a baby,
and a woman her body goes.

Speaker 3 (01:13:30):
Through all kinds of changes.

Speaker 2 (01:13:32):
Some women never bounce back. Some women look like they've
never had any kids. Some women go up under the
knife to get all that surgery to look like they've
never had kids. Whatever the case is, If being a
mother is important to you, I think that that should

(01:13:53):
be put on your Listen. We make all these lists,
but you need to put in motherhood in there somewhere. Now, Jay,
I want to be a mother, but I.

Speaker 3 (01:14:07):
Don't have a partner.

Speaker 2 (01:14:11):
I'm not married, and I'm not seeing anybody consistently. What
do I do? I can't tell y'all because listen, this
is when the petty sided me because I told you
I do I am. I am kind of petty, so
I you know, you know, in box me and box me,

(01:14:33):
and I'll tell you. But I can't openly just say
the bad things that are because it's it's it's you know,
it'll be some lowdown stuff. It'll be, but I'm just
like you know what, Listen, Listen, Sometimes you gotta do
what you need to do to get what you Listen
and I'm it looks nothing that I'm talking about is

(01:14:54):
illegal or trust me, nothing is nothing is nothing bad.
However orally some people may frown upon it, but you know,
at the end of the day, you know, a discussion
can be had with some po Listen. It's plenty of
dudes out there, you know. I'm just it's plenty of

(01:15:15):
dudes that will knock you up with no recourse. Like
I'm just like, oh, but I wouldna have a f Listen.
And I'm not saying go out and just have a
random baby or have a oops baby.

Speaker 3 (01:15:26):
Or anything like that. I'm not saying that.

Speaker 2 (01:15:30):
What I am saying is if your window an opportunity
is closing in like this, you got some choices that
you gotta make because once those eggs are depleted.

Speaker 3 (01:15:49):
And minopause and all that other.

Speaker 2 (01:15:52):
Foolishness kicks in, your chance is your chance is over. Yes,
you can always adopt. There are plenty of kids out
there that need to be adopted. That will always remain
an option. But for a woman that said, you know

(01:16:13):
what I want to experience having a kid. I want
to know what it's like to give birth. I want
to know what it's like to be pregnant. I want
to know what it's like to feel the kid kick
and all this and that, you know, I want to
feel well.

Speaker 3 (01:16:30):
First, I'm gonna tell you one thing.

Speaker 2 (01:16:32):
You not missing out on that actual delivery part. That
foolishness right there that you listen, you can just bly
if you could just go from being pregnant to having
the baby with no pain, then then it would be
a great experience. But those hours where you you tussle
and get them jokers here, hmm, that's a force to

(01:16:57):
be wrecking with. But I will will say, you know, listen,
motherhood is a beautiful thing. Motherhood is very important, and
I you know, I it's been one of the joys.
Like I'm glad that I had my son when I did,
I really am, like I just you know, I am,

(01:17:21):
you know, because it was it was just a perfect
age because it's just like you know, now I still,
you know, get to enjoy hang it out with him
as an adult because I'm like, I'm not you know what.

Speaker 3 (01:17:33):
You know.

Speaker 2 (01:17:34):
Listen, Now, I do get tired you all about six o'clock.
Ain't no tell them what I will start saying and
doing after six pm, because you know, I shut down.

Speaker 3 (01:17:43):
I tell my.

Speaker 2 (01:17:44):
Family my business hours are five forty five am to
about five pm Central Standard time. Anything after that, I
can't promise you what you gonna get. You. You may
get the best of me, you may get the worst
of me, but I don't know. But it's gonna be
something in between until we reset the next day.

Speaker 3 (01:18:03):
Because it's mandatory that I reset.

Speaker 2 (01:18:05):
I have to. But being a mom has been a
great it's it's been a great experience. I love being
a mom. I love being an aunt, you know, a
great aunt like I love. You know, I love kids.
I love not I never wanted a whole bunch of

(01:18:27):
them because you know why, because I would be in
an orange jumpsuit. Because I'm gonna tell you why, Jay
I thought you say you love kids, I do. But
helping them jokers at home with that homework, let me
tell you see, that's where you can get in trouble
at you can actually get some it can it can
be some jail time coming along with trying to help

(01:18:50):
some of these kids at home with this homework.

Speaker 3 (01:18:53):
You know, because they'll come. I know, I'm my teaching.

Speaker 2 (01:19:01):
Said, we cant Hey, hey, now I'm ready to tell
the whole listen, I'm about to tell the whole house up.

Speaker 3 (01:19:07):
Okay, tell the.

Speaker 2 (01:19:08):
Whole house up, because I'm trying to tell you how
to do the math, and you telling me.

Speaker 3 (01:19:13):
What the teacher said.

Speaker 2 (01:19:14):
I said it put your god dog on fingers up
and this is how you can take one. Listen, I'm
about to put it down. I'm about to snatch his
whole wrist off, just trying to teach him to put
the fingers. My teacher did say, my teacher show us that. Well,
why don't you ask your teacher if your teacher shows you.

Speaker 3 (01:19:36):
How to do it?

Speaker 2 (01:19:37):
Why are you about to make my blood pressure high?
Because you telling me what the dog on teacher did say.
That's why you are. That's why I knew I was
not a candidate for more kids.

Speaker 3 (01:19:52):
I knew I saw, I saw my future. I saw
this just like this, and I have we have to
be walking down.

Speaker 2 (01:19:59):
Why what's she do what she do to them kids?
She told the whole she.

Speaker 3 (01:20:03):
Put all of them out. She put all of them out,
or she left she left them all in there.

Speaker 2 (01:20:09):
Well, what were they doing? They were sitting down at
the home at the table doing homework, and she left
and she did not come back until the next day.
How do you leave your kids? And because I was
tired of this one asking me for the math, this
one asking me for the spelling, this one was asking
me how to tie his shoes, this one up in

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here playing the drums. That's why I left, because it
was too much going on at one god dog on time,
and I wasn't gonna be able to do it. I
wasn't gonna be responsible for what I said to these kids.
So now I get to give all of that to
my nieces and my nephews and great nieces and great nephews.

(01:20:54):
I mean, cause these listens, these people are constantly pupping
out kids. So it's always it's always some activity going on,
so you know, there's never a shortage of babies going on.

Speaker 3 (01:21:06):
But for those that.

Speaker 2 (01:21:09):
Want kids, you know, again, I just you know, I
hope that you get your heart's desire, because again, I
know how much it means to me to be a mom,
and I just think that if you desire to be
a mother, then I hope that you know you definitely

(01:21:30):
get your heart's desire. Now, listen, you are speaking of
hearts desires, yes, yes, yes you are.

Speaker 3 (01:21:38):
It is that time of year.

Speaker 2 (01:21:42):
What time, Jay, It's the holiday season, guys, Thanksgiving. Can
you all believe Thanksgiving is next week? It is next
dog one week. Are y'all done shopping? Do y'all have
y'all stuff? I don't have my stuff? You are. I
have not been able to find the hams that I need.

(01:22:06):
It's a mess. It is a mess. But tonight you
are we are talking about what not to do on Thanksgiving.
Now you may think, Jay, we don't why we listen?
You all know that we have some people that we
are related to, or some friends and family, you know,

(01:22:28):
some friends. They need to know what and what not
to do. So first of all, if you are hosting Thanksgiving,
if you are hosting the dinner, first of all, let's
just say this first Thanksgiving, let's just truly think about

(01:22:49):
what it is. I know what this whole significant of
it means, as far as for the United States and
all this other stuff, but these you know, the is crooked,
you know, and amongst some other things have.

Speaker 3 (01:23:03):
Come and done.

Speaker 2 (01:23:05):
But Thanksgiving to me is just that Thanksgiving. Like I'm
thankful that we've made it to this point of the year.
I'm especially thankful this year because last year around this time.

(01:23:26):
When I tell you, last year nearly took me.

Speaker 3 (01:23:31):
Oh ut out, No, lie.

Speaker 2 (01:23:36):
Last year was so so, so so rough for my family,
and I like, we literally lost my uncle the day
before Thanksgiving. We're up in there cooking and we get
to so I'm like, we lost my nephew in July,
lost my aunt, like we lost a.

Speaker 3 (01:23:59):
Friend in May.

Speaker 2 (01:24:00):
It was so much going on last year that I'm
just thankful to be in this place this year with
the fraction of my right mind because I never heard
all of it. But the you know, the fraction that

(01:24:21):
I do have, I'm thankful for that, and I'm thankful
for my family. So for me, Thanksgiving is one of
my favorite holidays because again, I just like to just reflect,
like to reflect and be thankful. So if you're the
person that's hosting Thanksgiving, first of all, let's try to.

Speaker 3 (01:24:44):
Eliminate the stress.

Speaker 2 (01:24:47):
Like people go out, it's not they have to have
the perfect turkey, they have to have the perfect ham
and the perfect everything. Nothing is per like, So stop
stressing yourself over perfection.

Speaker 3 (01:25:06):
Okay, Like, just be.

Speaker 2 (01:25:09):
Thankful for what you have, be thankful for your family,
be thankful that you all are together. Hold on one second.
I got sorry, I'm here, y'ad.

Speaker 3 (01:25:25):
But be thankful for that.

Speaker 2 (01:25:28):
Now, if you are hosting, listen, here's some tips to
not stress out. Like the first thing, prepare as much
as you can before Thanksgiving Day because some people, listen,
just wait to Thanksgiving Day and then they just get
up and start cooking everything.

Speaker 3 (01:25:44):
Do like listen like my family what we do.

Speaker 2 (01:25:48):
We do a pot luck style Thanksgiving dinner, which means
that we are all responsible for bringing our dish or
our dishes. Now, here's what you are not to do
when we're talking about bringing your dishes. I have a
ding ding ding on what you should not do. This

(01:26:09):
is very important. Thanksgiving is not the time to experiment. Okay,
it is not Jay what you mean by experiment. Thanksgiving
is not the time to say, you know what, I
think I want to make the dressing this year. The

(01:26:29):
devil is a liar. Okay, you make the dressing on
East do you make it on some other day? You
make the dressing for your birthday? Do not get in
the kitchen and decide you want to make the dressing.
The devil is a liar. Okay, if you are not
the person that's designated to make the dressing. Don't. We're not.

(01:26:53):
You're not gonna experiment on us. Okay, So stick to
whatever dish you can make.

Speaker 3 (01:27:01):
Stick to the dish that people like from you.

Speaker 2 (01:27:06):
Don't go trying to get anti pearls peach cobbler recipe
and then you want to experiment on us for Thanksgiving. No, no,
you should have gave us anti pearls peach cobbler for
Groundhogs Day.

Speaker 3 (01:27:24):
We're not gonna do this on Thanksgiving.

Speaker 2 (01:27:26):
No, we are not.

Speaker 3 (01:27:28):
You Stick to what you are famous for. Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:27:31):
Stick to what is popping in your life. Do not
come over here with these other Oh I saw this
on No, we reject you right now. You and your
science experiment will not come in this kitchen.

Speaker 3 (01:27:48):
If you know.

Speaker 2 (01:27:51):
That nobody ever.

Speaker 3 (01:27:54):
Asks ask you.

Speaker 2 (01:27:57):
To make anything, it's probably because you can't cook or
your food is nasty. I'm just gonna. I had to
say it you all. I had to say it. If
at any point during the year nobody asks you to
make anything, ever, they always be like, won't you stop

(01:28:17):
and get some juice? Won't you stop and get the
cranberry sauce? Won't you stop and get some paper plates?
If you are always on paper plate duty or paper
cups or you know, the juice and the pop duty.
You probably can't cook, beloved, or your food is nast Okay,
I'm just we listen. We have to say this now

(01:28:40):
so that you can know what not to do because
we're gonna have a great Thanksgiving. So don't go up
in there trying to cook. And you know your people
really don't mess with your food. Okay, so it's so
let me just say it, so nobody in your family
have to tell you.

Speaker 3 (01:29:00):
How about that.

Speaker 2 (01:29:00):
Let me just tell you what's the signs that you
can't cook. So just so that your people don't have
to hurt your feelings, I'm gonna go ahead. I'm gonna
tell you, and I'm not gonna hurt your feelings, but
i'm gonna tell you would love why you are on
that duty you can't cook, or they just your food
just just be nasty. And if they just tell you, baby,

(01:29:22):
just come, then you you don't even choose the right
type of pops. You just you just don't do.

Speaker 3 (01:29:29):
Any of that right.

Speaker 2 (01:29:30):
But you are a good guest and they glad to
have you over, so just be thankful for that. If
you are the person that's hosting, Be flexible and expect
the unexpected. Make sure everybody feel welcome, even if you

(01:29:53):
got somebody that show up at your house that wasn't abided.
But we but but but but but but.

Speaker 3 (01:29:59):
I have a lo disclaimer for that.

Speaker 2 (01:30:02):
You all do not come bringing everybody to these people house.
If you were invited to dinner, be thankful that you
got an invitation. The right thing to do is to
ask the host, can you bring somebody with you? Don't
just if I invited, you don't just show up with

(01:30:26):
everybody else, because I may need to make sure that
it's enough food, which and you know, I always think
is always wise to cook more food because I hate
when people don't when people are not able to eat.
I hate when people, you know, hold over food and
treat people bad over food.

Speaker 3 (01:30:46):
I just it does something to me.

Speaker 2 (01:30:49):
So we don't want to you know, monitor and police
monitor and be you know, parole officer and you know,
jail guard the food and ever. But it would be
nice that if you were invited somewhere, especially if you're
a single person and you want to bring a little

(01:31:10):
friend with you. As the host, is it okay? I
want to bring my little friend with me, is it okay?
That's always a thing the night, the right thing to do.
And then when you are being invited somewhere, bring something
other than your appetite. Please bring something, Bring up hot
even if they say they don't need anything, bring something anyway.

(01:31:34):
It's just proper etiquette, like don't show up to anybody's
place unannounced, I mean, and empty handed, even if it
is family, you still want to always bring something. Adults
should be bringing something. Adults should not be walking to

(01:31:55):
my dinnam house just with an appetite. Look, now, come on,
come on now, look now, you ate all while you
was a kid, madea tied to you madea tied Are
you coming over there without listen? And then you bring
and you leave, You come empty handed, but you leave

(01:32:16):
with all these to go trades, and then your guests
leave with to go trades, and then you haven't brought anything.

Speaker 3 (01:32:23):
That ain't right.

Speaker 2 (01:32:25):
That's what we're not gonna be doing. We're not gonna
be doing this on Thanksgiving. We're not gonna be showing
up to people house with uninvited guests and we didn't
ask the hosts can we bring somebody. We're not gonna
be doing that. We're not gonna show up to people's
houses empty handed and then leave with a.

Speaker 3 (01:32:48):
Lot of food. We're not doing that.

Speaker 2 (01:32:51):
We are not doing that now when you talk about listen, Jay,
were not doing that. What if you are in a
situation and you're invited to dinner but it's somebody that
you really don't wanna be around, like you you know

(01:33:13):
because listen again, something looks it.

Speaker 3 (01:33:15):
People.

Speaker 2 (01:33:16):
Some people are just funny acting. Okay, some people just
funny and they invite you knowing that they listen.

Speaker 3 (01:33:22):
I don't know why people do this.

Speaker 2 (01:33:24):
People that know they don't like other people in their
house or in their space. You all stop hosting things.
We know that you have a nice house. Okay, we
know that, but stop inviting people over. And you really
don't be wanting people over in your space. Stop inviting
people because we can feel the vibes in the air.

Speaker 3 (01:33:45):
It's uncomfortable. Leave us alone.

Speaker 2 (01:33:48):
We want to stay where we can be and be comfortable.
Stop hosting Thanksgiving dinner. If you thinking that they gonna
mess up your marble floors or your marble on a counter,
stop hosting it. Just just go somewhere else, or you
be the guest to somebody else's house, but stop hosting things.

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And you know you don't. You don't like people in
your house like that, but you having it so that
you can show off your house. But then when people
get over there, you make them feel uncomfortable.

Speaker 3 (01:34:19):
Don't host, do not host.

Speaker 2 (01:34:21):
And if you have been invited to that person's house,
y'all know that person that invite people over that really
don't be wanting people over for Thanksgiving, but they know
that they just upgraded they TV and they got the fireplace,
they got the new fireplace and all this other stuff
and they got that done and they want to show everybody.

Speaker 3 (01:34:43):
You're not gonna stress us out.

Speaker 2 (01:34:44):
Don't just don't you all? If y'all know it's that person, now,
don't set yourself up for it.

Speaker 3 (01:34:49):
Just don't go.

Speaker 2 (01:34:50):
To these folks house. How do you decline it? I'm sorry,
you know what, I already made other plans this year.
That's an easy way to say say it, so that
you don't hurt people feeling like I'm sorry, I already
made plans or I you know, I you know, I
got other arrangements this year, or whatever it is. But
don't put yourself in that situation, because life is too

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short to be sitting up in these people fancy beautiful
house being uncomfortable.

Speaker 3 (01:35:16):
I'm like, I can't.

Speaker 2 (01:35:17):
I don't even feel comfortable to eat my greens and
my ham, and I want to take my pants to
loose and just get comfortable. I can't even get comfortable
because she sitting up here, the hole. She sit up
here looking so intense, looking like somebody gonna drop something
on Look, why you got us over here? You will
not have me feeling prisoner and like I'm being held

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prisoner in your house. My food can't even digest under
all that stress and under that pressure. You know, the
ham and the chilling's everything, you just sit right here.
It can't digest because you.

Speaker 3 (01:35:50):
Own some foolishness.

Speaker 2 (01:35:52):
I cannot enjoy my meal because you own some foolishness.

Speaker 3 (01:35:55):
You stressing me out.

Speaker 2 (01:35:56):
You have my whole digestive system stressed out because you
keep looking over here, looking at us, thinking we're gonna
drop some pop or something on your rug. Why would
you have us over here? So avoid those people's houses
by any means necessary. Now, look with your kids. We

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all love the kids. Okay, we love the babies. We
do we do. But some of you all need to
stay home and just cook for your kids because some
of you all have kids that are not trained for outside, Jay,
what you mean trained them?

Speaker 3 (01:36:38):
Kids?

Speaker 2 (01:36:38):
Them ain't dogs. Listen, you still have to teach and
train kids, Jay, what you mean about teaching and training kids?
What we are not going to do on Thanksgiving is
have our kids. And you know the one you know,

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the kids that we're talking about, the kids that like
to touch on everything. They r wipe, they nose, and
then they come and rub it all over your couch
and they run all through the house because you know,
it's a new space and a new environment and it
just you know, listen, it's something about being in a
new environment that just get these little jokers round up

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and baby, you got them running through them folks house
like they in a jungle gym. And then you gonna
sit there and you gonna act like.

Speaker 3 (01:37:34):
You don't hear them running.

Speaker 2 (01:37:37):
No, no, no, no, no, some break.

Speaker 3 (01:37:42):
That's when you know, then you jump up.

Speaker 2 (01:37:45):
But meanwhile your kids are up in there doing soup
flexes and somersaults off these people couch, they brand new
white fluffy couch. Your kids is up and there doing somersaults. Listen,
the little one is up and there slin you know,
just strangling the little dog, the little teacup dog. Little

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two year old over there, just strangling the little dog.
The dog tryumph to get away from your kid. Look,
we're not doing that this Thanksgiving. We not. You're gonna
have a talk with your Listen. Here's how you know
you stay at home with your kids for Thanksgiving. If
your kids run through your house and jump and get

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all on your furniture and stuff, and you don't have
a problem with that, you need to.

Speaker 3 (01:38:34):
Stay at home.

Speaker 2 (01:38:36):
You need to stay at home because other people don't
like that.

Speaker 3 (01:38:42):
You can't.

Speaker 2 (01:38:42):
You cannot let them just jump on people's furniture like
they at fly Zone or jump zone if they want
to do all that jump and let them know, it's
a time in a place for all of that, and
we don't do that at people's houses. Like every you
don't jump on furniture. That's just what they told us

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back in the day.

Speaker 3 (01:39:04):
Coming up.

Speaker 2 (01:39:05):
I don't know, maybe you all the new people, y'all
let people these kids jump on your furniture.

Speaker 3 (01:39:11):
Listen, quiet as kept.

Speaker 2 (01:39:13):
We wasn't even allowed in the front room where the
furniture was all we could do when we were little.
It's like listening like they had a gun line. You
couldn't cross that gun line.

Speaker 3 (01:39:25):
Bass.

Speaker 2 (01:39:26):
All you could do is look and peep through, peep
through and look at the living room and just wonder
how the furniture felt. Oh, it looked like it's soft,
It looked like it's you.

Speaker 3 (01:39:40):
It looked real Yeah, they kept it real nice.

Speaker 2 (01:39:43):
You know why, because they kept your behind up out
of there. It was against the law. It was long
back then. Kids did not go in the front room.
And tell me if I'm lying, just say, Jay, you
ain't like.

Speaker 3 (01:40:00):
Kids did not go in.

Speaker 2 (01:40:03):
The front room where the furniture was, wherever they if
they had furniture in the dining room, the living room,
wherever it was, kids were not allowed. We had to
just sit there and look at the furniture like this.

Speaker 3 (01:40:17):
Oh that's nice.

Speaker 2 (01:40:19):
We look at this, and we looking at it at
this way. But going there if you want to. Only
time you were able to go in there is if
your mama your daddy called you in there. They were
sitting in there and they called you and they wanted
you to do something. And now any other time you
move real slow if they in the room wanted to kitchen.

(01:40:40):
But if they're in the front room and they call you, oh,
that's your chance to get baby. You done came up
in this world. That's your chance to get up in there.
You run up in the real fast.

Speaker 3 (01:40:49):
And then what you do.

Speaker 2 (01:40:50):
You get there and you rubbing on the couch, but
you low key doing it, or your mama sitting on
the couch, and so then you put your hand on
the couch like you you're so attentive and you listening
so to what your mama saying, but you just want
to feel the furniture and what they tell you. Get
your hands off my furniture. If you get a stain

(01:41:11):
on my if you get a stain on my furniture,
I'm gonna put a stain on your Oh listen, And
you know you didn't want no stain. You didn't want
no stain on your because them stains, baby, them, them
them stains meant weps that that means that they was
getting that good cord was gonna be hitting your behind.
So if you got those kids that you just let
them be free. And they're just like free agents and

(01:41:35):
they can do whatever it is that.

Speaker 3 (01:41:37):
They want to do.

Speaker 2 (01:41:39):
You may want to stay at home. You really may
want to do that. You you don't want to bring
your kids up in there and messing these kids these
people houses up and let them rip and run all
through the house. Next thing we're not doing. Listen, Okay,

(01:42:00):
these plates. We gotta talk about this.

Speaker 3 (01:42:02):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:42:03):
How many plates are appropriate to be packed and taken
after dinner is done?

Speaker 3 (01:42:10):
How many?

Speaker 2 (01:42:11):
Because again, you cannot be that person that came to
the dinner and you didn't show up with anything. If
you are that person, you should be ashamed of yourself
for even wanting to take something, unless.

Speaker 3 (01:42:30):
Unless the host insists that you take something.

Speaker 2 (01:42:33):
But if the host did not give it to you,
then don't go in there and help yourself to.

Speaker 3 (01:42:41):
Any plates.

Speaker 2 (01:42:43):
So the rule is, if you didn't bring anything, you shouldn't.

Speaker 3 (01:42:46):
Be taking anything.

Speaker 2 (01:42:48):
Don't pack, no to go place or anything unless the
host acts you to. If you got all your kids,
it's listen, do not go packing dinner for Friday. That's
unless the host tell you. Listen. Make sure you take
something for all the kids. We got enough left. You
could take whatever you need, whatever you wanna take, then

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you take it. Those are the only times when you
should be packing, like you crazy, But if the host
does not tell you to do that, then don't do that.
If dinner is still being served, and like you got
there early and you got some other stops to make,
then you eat and you socialized and you leave empty handed.

(01:43:30):
But now, if you're a person that listen, you don't
contribute it a lot, then I would be like, Okay,
well I'm just gonna take a play to go.

Speaker 3 (01:43:38):
I feel like that's proper protocol.

Speaker 2 (01:43:41):
You can do that. But what we're not gonna do
is get in here and stack these places they have
or or Sheila came and you know Kevin didn't want
to come, but then guess what if Sheila didn't bring
nothing and fixed nothing. Shela not taking old play home
for ken Jay? How you gonna not? Now you know
that's wrong. Now you know she should be able to
take a play home. I'm just saying, how of y'd

(01:44:04):
decide to roll? But go according to the host discretion.
Don't just go up in there and fix it how
you want to fix it. Listen, avoid these family dramas.

Speaker 3 (01:44:19):
Listen.

Speaker 2 (01:44:20):
If you know that you cannot hold yo liquor, don't
drink at the don't drink at the Thanksgiving dinner. Don't
drink before the Thanksgiving dinner. You wait till you get
your behind at home and then you liqu her out.
But do not go ruining everybody's Thanksgiving dinner because you

(01:44:42):
can't hold your liquor. Now you ready to fight everybody
that's there because you don't drunk them spirits. Don't be
that person. Don't be that family member that ruins Thanksgiving
dinner for your family because again you can't hold your liquor.
Don't don't don't listen. Don't be Uncle Rufus that come

(01:45:08):
every year he come listen drink drinking at seagrums gin
the drinking what they call it the bumpy face drinking
that old cheap liquor. And now you get up here.
Now you cussing everybody out, cussing all the kids out,
cussing listen. Oh, don't let his ex wife come up
and there. Look you all keep them exes. Look now

(01:45:31):
you know, look some people are messy. Do not be
going to these exes family the Oh and you know
he not'm moved on with somebody else. We are not
doing that. Oh, he ain't got to invite me. His
mama invited me, and I'm still I'm still I'm still
I'm still cool with Ms.

Speaker 3 (01:45:50):
Rause.

Speaker 2 (01:45:51):
So I'm going over there because she invited me. Stay
your tacking behind at home, Stay yo tacky trifling behind
at home. You are not the girlfriend anymore. Some people
love to go stirring up some drama. Stay from these
people house. Yes, you and Miss ross A still friends,
and you can go over and see Miss ross the

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next day, but don't go over there and you know
your ex gonna be there with his new person, because
you know it ain't gonna be nothing but a bunch
of mess and you just as messy as Miss ross is.
So stay from out of the folks house. Stay from
over these exes houses during the holiday, especially especially when

(01:46:36):
you know that they have moved on and they have
new people in their life.

Speaker 3 (01:46:42):
Stay out of these people's face. It's an you.

Speaker 2 (01:46:47):
I ain't going over that for him.

Speaker 3 (01:46:48):
I still be talking to his mama.

Speaker 2 (01:46:51):
Me and his mama still be okay, we not seeing
you can't still hang with his mama.

Speaker 3 (01:46:56):
Thanksgiving just ain't the.

Speaker 2 (01:46:58):
Day to do it, especially when you know her son
gonna be there with his new boo. What Ms Ross
still call me her daughter in law, but you not
a daughter in law because his son showse somebody else.

Speaker 3 (01:47:10):
So listen, stop with that foolishness.

Speaker 2 (01:47:13):
Wake up, listen, stop with that delusional mess. Her son
has moved on. You and her need to do the
same thing. You all need to move on. He has
showed somebody else. But do not be going to these
folks houses knowing that you're fnna start up some mess,
knowing that these people do moved on, and you going

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over there starting up some mess because the ex is there.

Speaker 3 (01:47:40):
You know the ex is there.

Speaker 2 (01:47:41):
You know the ex is bringing his bringing his new person,
or if you still cool with his sisters or his auntie,
the whole fan. It don't matter who you cool with.
Go with your family. Thanksgiving is a time for family.
You are no longer a part of the family. I am,
I am, I'm still partly. I'll talk to your sister
all the time, but you're not with the person that

(01:48:05):
made you family, which is their brother or son or gresson,
and you're not with them. So let these folks enjoy
time with their family and you go find you some
business somewhere else, because I can promise you the only
reason why you going over there is because you're single.
Now you gonna go over there and.

Speaker 3 (01:48:26):
Try to tear up they stuff and see if they holiday.

Speaker 2 (01:48:28):
But if you got your own new boo, then you
will not be thinking about going over your ex's house
because you already got your own thing going on. But guys, look,
those are just some of the things. Were not gonna
be cussing each other out. We're not gonna be clowning.
We're not gonna be doing any of that. If you
can't cook again, do not try to cook on Thanksgiving.

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This is not the day to experiment with that. Let
the professionals do it. You can cook the next the
day after, from Friday to the day before for Christmas Eve,
you can experiment on anything with that and we will
be the judge of how you do, and we'll let
you know if you've been inducted and if it's safe
for you to cook for Christmas. But until then, do not,

(01:49:14):
I repeat, do not go experimenting with recipes for Thanksgiving.
Don't go over packing this your ish from people houses.
Do not take your kids to these folks house if
your kids are not trained, if they don't know how
to sit down and not be running through these folks
house like.

Speaker 3 (01:49:32):
They at jump Zone. Do not take your kids.

Speaker 2 (01:49:35):
You just have you a nice little simple dinner at
home and let your kids run and.

Speaker 3 (01:49:40):
Tear or continue to tear up your stuff.

Speaker 2 (01:49:42):
But do not take these kids to these people's houses. Guys, listen,
I hope that you all have an amazing Thanksgiving. Enjoy
your family, enjoy just togetherness, Enjoy being with each other. Again,
it's not how big the turk years, it's not about
the turkey, it's not about the hem. It's about sharing

(01:50:04):
and being thankful for life and being thankful for family.
So take care of yourselves and each other. Have a
happy Thanksgiving you all until next time. PSA good night
you guys, but enjoy your Thanksgiving.

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