"The more we can claim and own our wins, the more we’re able to create even more success. It’s about shifting our mindset and letting ourselves celebrate, even the small ones." — Amy Ahlers
If you’re ready to step into 2025 with a clear mind and an open heart, let me introduce you to one of the most transformative exercises I do every year: The Year-End Completion Ritual.
I discovered this process over 10 years ago from the incredible Amy Ahlers, and it completely changed how I approach the end of the year. Back in 2019, I had the honor of interviewing Amy about this ritual, and I’ve been practicing it ever since—always on the solstice.
Why the solstice? For me, it’s a powerful time to pause, reflect, and create space for what’s next. This ritual shifts my mindset and helps me feel grounded as I ease into the slow, intentional planning for the year ahead—a process that unfolds over the next six weeks.
Here’s a step-by-step guide to try it for yourself.
Start by looking back on the year that’s wrapping up. Use your calendar or journal to jog your memory and make two lists:
Some things might show up in both lists, and that’s okay. For example, a challenging life transition might feel like both a loss and an accomplishment.
Now, take those wins and go deeper. Ask yourself:
This step is all about honoring your growth. As women, we’re often so quick to skip over our successes. But this is your chance to pause, reflect, and truly celebrate yourself.
This part can feel heavy, but it’s so freeing. Amy introduced me to the Perspective Scale, a tool to process emotions and reframe our mindset.
Here’s how it works:
The goal isn’t to force positivity—it’s to create authentic shifts in perspective.
Reflect on what this year taught you. Write down 3-5 lessons in a way that feels empowering.
Instead of: “I never trust my gut instinct and it gets me in trouble,” try:
“When I trust my gut instinct, I make better decisions.”
This small shift reframes your lesson as an opportunity for growth rather than self-criticism.
The final step is a simple but powerful ritual to close out the year:
Write it down, read it out loud, and feel the weight of unfinished business lift off your shoulders.
Every year, I walk into this process feeling a little overwhelmed and walk out with a sense of clarity, peace, and readiness for what’s next.
This isn’t about rushing to set resolutions or forcing yourself into the “new year, new you” mindset by January 1. It’s about honoring where you’ve been so you can step into the future with intention.
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