无论你是否意识到这一点，你的人生里一定会遇到黑暗人格的人；无论你是否承认，他们都在影响你的生活，影响整个世界，在政治、商业、职场、各种组织社群、家庭、友谊之中制造无数的问题和创伤。
黑暗人格者，这个词听起来非常像遥远的虚构人物，只在惊悚的罪案片里出现。但其实他们真实、普遍地存在我们的身边。我们熟悉的“自恋人格”和“反社会/变态人格”，以及我们不太熟悉的“马基雅维利人格”，都属于黑暗人格。在父权社会里，每十个人里就有可能有一个黑暗人格。而我们大多数人对此没有足够的了解，也没有足够的保护自己和朋友/家人不受他们伤害的知识。
本期海马星球请来心理咨询师李双双，介绍了黑暗人格的性格特征和行为模式。了解这些特征和行为模式，虽然并不能让我们成为鉴定黑暗人格的专业人员，但却有助于我们去鉴别什么是有毒的行为模式，帮助我们保护和疗愈自我、帮助她人，最终一点点瓦解男权社会的有毒框架。
一些关键词和人名：
《翦商：殷周之变与华夏新生》by 李硕
《如何不喜欢一个人》by 杰克森·麦肯锡
《It’s Not You》by Ramani Durvascula, 研究自恋者和自恋型虐待的心理学家
自恋者的15个特征：需要自恋供给、以自我为中心、一致的不一致性、烦躁不安、妄想性浮夸、不断变化的面具、特权感、对不安全感的过度补偿、无法接受哪怕最温和的批评和反馈、自我管理的无能、支配她人的需要、缺乏同理心、鄙视他人、投射自己的羞耻感、非常有魅力
研究变态人格的两位专家：Robert D Hare和Craig S Neumann
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