We all make assumptions and judgments of others - but did you know there is a bias we have in our judgements?
This bias shows up in all of our relationships and it can create an opposition and divide in places we actually want empathy and compassion.
In this episode we explore the Fundamental Attribution Bias, how it impacts our relationships and what to do about it.
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Key topics covered in this episode
The purpose of relationships, how this has shifted over generations
Relationships and wellbeing: The Havard Adult Development Study
Making assumptions about others
Filling in the blanks and mind-reading
199. Mindset traps to be aware of (cognitive distortions that might be holding you back in motherhood and life)
Perception is a projection, how our judgements and assumptions can reflect our own struggles and opinions
The Fundamental Attribution Bias
How we judge the action of others vs how we judge: character or circumstance
The me vs them mentality (or Us vs Them)
Examples of it in marriage
62. My husband put the groceries away wrong, he doesn’t care about me (love languages and expectations in marriage)
Awareness and empathy
84. How parenting with empathy can transform your relationship
85. When empathy is hard in marriage and friendships
Accepting the hard parts of ourselves
162. Think the best of me, or not. Allowing the hard and awesome in ourselves and in our lives.
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FULL TRANSCRIPT
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Hey guys, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and counselor from simple on purpose.ca Welcome to the simple on purpose podcast. I want to give you a heads up right away this podcast will retire for the summer. So just a heads up. Our summer starts at the end of June. I encourage you in those months to use the archives, we have over five years of episodes on all of the topics. So if you want to be intentional about listening to them, I suggest you use the Spotify playlists and define those, you can go to simple on purpose.ca and click listen. You'll find the links to the playlist we've got them on different topics like habit change mom on purpose, life on purpose, minimalism emotions, they're all there for you check them out. And this summer also follow along with a simple Saturday's email. If you aren't a subscriber, I definitely encourage you to join that that is just a really like, warm and cozy place that I love to be with you guys. It comes out every two weeks, so it's not gonna overwhelm your inbox. And I like to share some simple and purposes, purpose thoughts, some posts you might like. And that's actually where you guys gave me this nickname, your nerdy girlfriend. So it's a really great space to be. I'll link that in the show notes as well. Let's get into today's episode this month, we're talking about relationships. What is the purpose of a relationship? Is it to support your survival, emotional support, to entertain you to find love to find connection. This has definitely changed over the years of purpose of a relationship, especially if you look in the context of a marriage. It used to be about survival for a woman to be under the care of a man that was the world that was the culture unfortunately, it still is in some places. But even friends and communities, there was a need for support and survival, there was a need to do things together. So it is a more modern concept that our relationships are there to entertain us to make us feel loved to feel connected and seen and valued for the better and the worst, right, and that's a whole other topic. But we all know that we are a social species. And maybe some of us feel that it is definitely true, that relationships are important to us to our to our well being.