Hennesseyyyy and Misogynyyyy (part two)

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
If you know what I'm saying, so so.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Shameless, if you know what I'm sitting, so shameless, if
you know what I'm saying, so shamous, so shameless, so so.

Speaker 3 (00:21):
So stemless, if you know what I'm saying, so.

Speaker 2 (00:27):
Shameless, if you know what I'm saying, so shameless, if
you know what I'm saying, so shameless, if you know.

Speaker 1 (00:42):
What I'm saying. Come back months later.

Speaker 3 (00:48):
Yeah, it was a minute after. It wasn't I say to.

Speaker 1 (00:50):
You about her? You saw her, but she's like, yo,
that kirt that was crazy.

Speaker 4 (00:53):
Whoa she said, she didn't go. She didn't take it serious.
She didn't think I was gonna see her. And that
Leena still on her name. I never dropped. The lean
is still there.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
So you got so you've got six hundred out there.

Speaker 4 (01:05):
It's there, like if I wanted to pursue it, if
I wanted to like go like I have to go
through a whole situation for account Garnish for the six hundred,
you know, but it was the principal. It was the principal,
and it was I did it also for the plot.

Speaker 3 (01:21):
Sometimes you got to do it for the plot. But
you know what I lied, I did tell a lot.
There's only one nigga in this world that owe me money.
And don't worry. I'm gonna get my I'm gonna get
my through bread or through petty. I didn't give him ship.
He owes me money, Dad, it's my sperm. Donor he

(01:43):
owe me money. He owed me like ten bands? Actually,
so yeah, isn't it in the court. No, this is
this is outside of the course. This is this is
some other ship off the books. Yeah, this is off
the books. He on me like ten bands. So I
sent that. I sent the nice nasty email a couple
of weeks ago and let him know that stop playing
with me. I'm slowly getting my bread bag. Books is crazy,

(02:05):
I'm slowly getting my bread bag.

Speaker 5 (02:07):
Owe me money? He's calling me right now? That's crazy.

Speaker 3 (02:10):
What who owe you money? I'm not going to say, obviously,
how much? How much? Are you A lot more than
a birthday gift?

Speaker 1 (02:20):
Is he calling? Is he calling you about the money?
It's more than that. It's more than twenty bus not
a lot more, but more than that.

Speaker 3 (02:27):
And I can't get a birth calling at bitches could
get four hundred dollars for a boot. People that owe
you money could get tens of thousands of dollars and
I can't get a fucking birthday.

Speaker 4 (02:38):
Okay, you know how much bread you gotta have to
get something? Nigga to owe you twenty something thousand, and
you keep hotting.

Speaker 6 (02:46):
No, no, no, he said, He said, the nigga is
calling answer right now.

Speaker 3 (02:52):
He didn't even try.

Speaker 6 (02:55):
JOm, I'm watching you trying. I've seen what's going on.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
That make me sick that the nigga don't want to
get me a birthday gift because I'm ony I fuck
with you. This is not it.

Speaker 4 (03:07):
But I'm just telling you, like honestly, if I find
out you're gonna admit somebody owe you twenty something thousand
dollars right now and my.

Speaker 3 (03:13):
Birthday, I guess is nothing. It's nothing, bro. It could
be a hat, it could be a parasit. I don't
even want that specific like.

Speaker 5 (03:21):
I rejected a zeone right now, Like the nigga was
not calling me like yo, I gotta get right now.
He's calling an excuse. It's called about something else. So
what are you going to do about this? I'm gonna
get the bread, but it's just a matter of It
was ironic that we were having this conversation talk about.

Speaker 3 (03:39):
I'm sorry, my bad, not a fact.

Speaker 1 (03:42):
Put it like that.

Speaker 5 (03:42):
I know he's good for because he owed me more
than that and he already paid me like half, you
know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
So it's just taking some time and.

Speaker 3 (03:47):
I can't get a birthday gift. Doges, I'm not letting.

Speaker 1 (03:52):
His goal, But Dodge, you don't. Did you get to
something his birthday?

Speaker 3 (03:56):
He didn't ask.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
Don't beg Dodge, just beneath you.

Speaker 3 (03:58):
I'm not begging. I'm asking questions. I didn't beg for shit.
I didn't say please please, that's begging. I'm just asking questions.
I'm just like, damn, that's crazy what you want for
your birthday. First of all, I'm the best gift giver
in the world. I'm a gifter. I give amazing gifts
to people. Like that is something that I have always

(04:18):
been known for. Like I listen and pay attention to
things that people like, and I buy them things like
I do this ship all the time. But also I
mostly do it for girls, just to be very honest,
Like I buy gifts for women way more than I'll
buy gifts for a guy.

Speaker 1 (04:35):
That speech I feel not said the same thing. That's
that's that's trash.

Speaker 3 (04:40):
Great gift giver.

Speaker 1 (04:42):
I ain't feeling it.

Speaker 3 (04:43):
I feel you got to see envy again.

Speaker 1 (04:45):
No cool, it's just like, yo, Damn I turned fifty.

Speaker 4 (04:48):
I couldn't get nothing like damn hay fifties Like damn,
that's a monu mental moment, like you couldn't.

Speaker 1 (04:54):
But then you're begging for shit for that.

Speaker 3 (04:55):
I didn't beg.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
I never been begging, like literally beg.

Speaker 3 (04:59):
This is not begging. You're doing that question. I just asked.

Speaker 1 (05:03):
Questions just pass.

Speaker 6 (05:06):
You ain't even think to get the nigga nothing, So
you didn't get nobody any anything for their birthday in here.

Speaker 4 (05:10):
Me no, but she really isn't going on as you
ain't give me a yo, yo, bro, what I got engaged?

Speaker 1 (05:21):
I was there fifty nothing, But you're really going hard
for a presentation.

Speaker 3 (05:27):
Why the fuck are you making this about you? Because
I didn't even say about you. Look at I never
said a goddamn word about you.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
That's my friend. You can't do that.

Speaker 3 (05:37):
That's your friend. That's a man's him.

Speaker 1 (05:41):
What you're doing now.

Speaker 2 (05:44):
Right?

Speaker 1 (05:46):
How they do bro? Bringing in the back of Tron's
pictures just looking look at.

Speaker 3 (05:55):
Nah because that's so crazy. It's like, oh, that's the excuse,
Like this is my friend. I thought I was your
friend too.

Speaker 1 (06:00):
I didn't know what are you?

Speaker 3 (06:03):
Okay, it's my birthday. I'm gonna do it all the
fuck I want to do today.

Speaker 4 (06:07):
It's a young lady saying that women don't have to
be accountable.

Speaker 1 (06:12):
Who's that right here? Women?

Speaker 7 (06:15):
Nowadays, we don't have to be held accountable because we're
doing everything. My god, I'm sorry if we're doing everything.
We're doing everything. Let's say Sarah's perfect specimen. You pay
all your own bills, run your own business, you pay
your own payroom, got employee, You've got your business about you.
You know how to cook, you know how to clean,

(06:35):
and I hire them.

Speaker 3 (06:36):
But if you have to do it yourself, it's true.

Speaker 7 (06:38):
I know, if maids fell u upon it of the earth,
you know them by their names. But the outsource or not,
you're doing everything.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
Okay.

Speaker 7 (06:45):
So in that sense, if I'm coming into a new
relationship and I already do everything, and I'm used to
doing everything, and you don't take anything off my plate
as far as doing everything, even if that means you're
not paying for the outsourcing of me to Hey, girl,
can you come over and do that thing you do
when you're in my house and when you leave it's clean,
like man, Okay, then what is the point of you?
Why do I have to be held accountable to somebody

(07:05):
who's not changing my life? And why when I follow
your leave if I don't feel like you're going anywhere.

Speaker 3 (07:10):
So now men don't know how.

Speaker 7 (07:12):
Men don't know how to leave because I don't have
anyone who will follow.

Speaker 3 (07:14):
But I'm not having anyone.

Speaker 7 (07:15):
Who follow because I'm not exhibiting the leadership qualities, but
because you're not giving me an opportunity. But because I
don't know how to be a man, because I was
probably only raised by my mom, and my mom doesn't
know how to be a man, because it takes a
man to raise a man. And it's like this, it's
this never ending story of now I can't be a
leader because she won't let me lead her because she
saw her mom work three jobs and she knows how
to do everything all by herself. And here I come
as the man, and I don't know how to be a.

Speaker 3 (07:37):
Man because I was raised by my mom.

Speaker 7 (07:39):
And now that I'm raised by my mom, and I'm
being a man, and I don't have any leadership qualities
because I've never let anybody. But now I also don't
have the wherewithal to take on any of the things
off of your plate. And I feel like I'm not
taking those things off my plate. So you don't see
me as a leader, and you continue to go in
your masculine and you continue to do all the things,
and you do live your life according to I don't

(08:00):
need you, but I want you, And that's a good
place to live, because should you be dependent on anybody, No,
But I feel like the power dynamic of all the
things that happen is because women. We don't let men lead,
and men they don't want to be leaders. The beautiful
part about surrendering to you man, or submitting to a
man who's led by the right thing, is if this thing.

Speaker 1 (08:18):
Goes down, it's not my fault. I'm not the fact.

Speaker 7 (08:20):
I'm not the gap.

Speaker 3 (08:21):
That's the fact I did not lead us into detripate.

Speaker 7 (08:23):
Feminism is a scam.

Speaker 3 (08:25):
Feminism is a scam.

Speaker 7 (08:26):
I do not want to be an independent I want
to be so codependent. I need my husband. I want
my husband. I want to follow his lead. That's how
God created me. He created me in a way to follow,
He created.

Speaker 3 (08:36):
Me as a help me.

Speaker 7 (08:37):
He created me as an opposite to Adam Right, if
women could be a woman, If women.

Speaker 4 (08:43):
This literally sounds like just horrible. Mandy take that. She
just keeps talking and just says all of this shit.
You know, you think about it, It's like, what the
fuck is you talking about? What does any of the
fuck you just said have to do it being held accountable?

Speaker 3 (08:57):
And nothing has anything to do with being held in heath.
But what I'm noticing from just seeing this, she just
seems like a woman that is codependent on her husband,
and she's trying to like preach the gospel of what
it should look like when.

Speaker 4 (09:14):
It goes down with you next to me, you're not
doing your job, because that is in a woman's nature
to see the shit that could be left right. And
if you just sit there and it's like, well, what
wasn't my fault you chose to do that? You not
doing your job. You are a helpmate. You are supposed
to be help navigate like, yeah, I got the power

(09:36):
behind the engine. But you notice all the bullshit your
it's clouds over there. That's why y'all so fucking annoying.
And this is exactly why women are annoying, because when
niggas got a plan, y'all always notice the bullshit in
the plan on a snake in the grass over there.

Speaker 1 (09:50):
Hey, the nigga be like, oh fuck, I got it.

Speaker 3 (09:53):
But just like.

Speaker 4 (09:55):
Kids, when we talk to our kids, they hate when
we say it, but they hear you. They hear you.

Speaker 1 (10:02):
Men do the same thing. We hate when.

Speaker 4 (10:04):
Y'all do it to us, but we hear you. You
understand what I'm saying. So if you just sit there,
have me go. Look, you're supposed to be the leader.
You're supposed to know, and I crashed that shit, bitch.
Why you ain't telling me that was a boulder right there.
You've seen it, you've seen the baller.

Speaker 3 (10:20):
Yeah, that sounds kind of crazy.

Speaker 1 (10:22):
Yeah to me, I didn't like that.

Speaker 6 (10:23):
She already was looking to point the blame like she
didn't even happen yet. She already like, I don't even
know what happened. I don't know how the boat went
off course. It could have been pirates. I just know
it's not my fauld and I don't like that in
the party.

Speaker 1 (10:37):
And guess what yesterday? To me, the same.

Speaker 4 (10:44):
Man that grew up without the dad in the crib
and he don't know how to be a man because
he didn't have a leader. Guess what, he had a
daughter too. She don't know how to be a wife either.
She don't know how to be a partner either. These
people make all these points about men this and men
that bitch your head.

Speaker 3 (11:04):
No, either, you ain't know how Your moms ain't know
how to be a wife.

Speaker 1 (11:08):
Neither. Just grew up how to be a baby moms.

Speaker 3 (11:11):
That's because you've seen that what you'll talk about, we
grew up in the same space.

Speaker 1 (11:18):
That's why you want to internet.

Speaker 4 (11:19):
Talking this nonsense and not directing the car because you
don't even know how to do it.

Speaker 1 (11:27):
No turn up, turn up, turn up, no turn up,
you do it again.

Speaker 6 (11:39):
No, no, no, no, no, no. Toy is right because when
women's no no, when women talk about this stuff with
men and about how they come up and stuff, they
only talk about one side of it. They don't talk
about the other side of it.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
Was speaking to.

Speaker 3 (11:53):
You're not you're not bugging because there are so many
women that don't understand what it takes not only to
be a wife, but just to be a fucking good partner,
Like you don't know what it takes because you ain't
see it either. You don't have no positive examples. You
don't have no positive examples. But somehow you know all
the answers and you want to ring and you want

(12:15):
all of these different things. But y'all don't know how
to be the people that you claim that you want
to be so bad it is what it is. And
my god, if you clip this, please please please let
them know. I'm not one of y'allband my husband, my husband,

(12:37):
my husband. You don't say shit to me. Those are
sliding in my fucking and acting me like what do
you know? What now?

Speaker 1 (12:46):
Ron? What you think about this?

Speaker 3 (12:47):
I love it when it's my birthday.

Speaker 5 (12:50):
First of all, you got you made a great point, Tyr.
And second all like it sounds like, surety, it's talking
about somebody in particular or her situations in particular. But
it's like, if those are the type of men that
you meeting she's married, and the type of man that
you have been involved with, then I'm not surprised because

(13:11):
if you take that stance of I'm not taking no.

Speaker 1 (13:14):
Accountability, that sounds crazy.

Speaker 5 (13:16):
That says a lot about you and what you bring
into the table in a healthy relationship. So how can
you be in a healthy relationship with a healthy strong
man if you're not healthy. You expect so much out
of other people that you not bringing to the table
with yourself. And I'm saying this, I don't know, shorty,
but that's what it sounds like if you start off
a conversation with like, I shouldn't take any accountability, you

(13:39):
know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (13:40):
It's just the craziest part of it is just to
be very honest, and it's not about accountability. It's about
the fact that you want to be able to dictate
and you don't want not even that beyond wanting to dictate.
What it sounds like to me is she's the type
of person that feels like she did so much, so

(14:04):
she has to do nothing and you have to contribute nothing.
And because these are the things that women have to
do as single women, this is the same thing that
everybody has to do when you're single. Everybody pays bills,
everybody has to cook and clean and da da da,
Like you don't get no awards for that. And I
do understand what she's saying. When you do have a partner,

(14:26):
then the responsibilities do need to be split, and it
shouldn't be everything on you. But then that also comes
down to discernment. Why would you choose a partner that
has no intention of helping you? Why would it still
all be one hundred percent on me if I'm not
single anymore. That goes into your choosing your discernment, And

(14:47):
that's a different situation. You're literally wanting to lay in
a bed with a red flag. That's not There's no
way that I can spend a life or even have
a life with somebody that is not going to help
take things off my plate. But that's supposed to go
without saying.

Speaker 1 (15:02):
Can't take it a step further.

Speaker 5 (15:03):
I agree with you everything you said, But even if
you are doing everything everything in the situation, like with
your kids, right, your kids, you don't expect them to
contribute that much, especially when they're small. But that doesn't
mean that you shouldn't have accountability. I was listening to
this good interview matter of fact with Charlamagne. He was
talking about, like, yo, you should normalize apologizing to your

(15:24):
kids absolutely when necessary. Sometimes that's accountability. You could be like,
you know what I was wrong in this situation. I
shouldn't have said that did this. That's crazy. It's like, Yo,
that's accountability. Just because I've paid for everything and do
everything doesn't mean that I can't be a decent human
being and admit where I made a mistake. You know
what I mean.

Speaker 3 (15:42):
It doesn't mean I have only answers. It doesn't mean
I'm always right.

Speaker 1 (15:46):
That's crazy.

Speaker 4 (15:47):
You know, mister let Go always says, you know, women
and children, Yeah, women and children. We always argue with
him about it, women and children. We be like, Yo,
that's the nut shit that you've been saying. But he's
trying to prove it. She's trying to move and it
reminds me of the things we said. These men want

(16:09):
to want women to be their mothers. I'm not your moms, right,
you want this man to be your father? Like, Yo,
You're still gonna have responsibilities. You still got to add
to the situation. You still got to be a responsible,
dope ass partner, pay attention to what the man needs
in this. I understand, you know, we spoke about the
situation with me being protective on the beach, right. I

(16:33):
understand the primal nature of a man that's supposed to
protect provide all of that, But y'all gotta have one too.

Speaker 1 (16:41):
Y'all can't just go to bed.

Speaker 4 (16:43):
Once you get a man, you just sleep in the
fetal position and he just guides.

Speaker 3 (16:47):
You and everything is calm and cool because he got it.

Speaker 1 (16:50):
What the fuck is we talking about it?

Speaker 3 (16:52):
Yeah, that's kind of crazy.

Speaker 1 (16:53):
I'm saying, Yo, Ladies, wake the fuck up.

Speaker 4 (16:56):
And men also, the men that's out there that yo,
y'all suppose to be a bonus to each other. Bro
supposed to take pride in that. You're supposed to take
pride in adding to.

Speaker 1 (17:07):
Your partner's life. Like, what the fuck are we talking about? Yeah?

Speaker 6 (17:12):
Yeah, like we were saying, I don't like the language,
like the whole Like you're supposed to take this off
my plate. It's like, we're supposed to do this together,
and we're supposed to take we're supposed to combine our place.
Actually it's not just the one person or one side
doing something. We're supposed to come together. And I think,
you know, a lot of that be lost in the language.

Speaker 3 (17:28):
No niggas be losing the plot. And that's the problem,
like they have. Everybody is unrealistic. They have unrealistic views
about relationships. They have unrealistic views about family. And that's
what happens when you have a generation that's raised off
of the Internet. Like it's like it's like niggas don't
remember before then. They don't remember how shit used to
work before then, and they have no positive examples of

(17:51):
what used to happen before then. And I also think
that a lot of our favorites growing up have turned
turned out to be such disgusting human beings that we
don't see certain positive examples of love and family anymore.
Like I will die on this hill. The Cosby Show

(18:11):
was one of my favorite shows, hands down. When I
was a kid, I aspired to be like the Huxtables.
I've always wanted that the house, the kids, the father,
and the wife, and they have they both have their
own careers, and they have their own lives, and they
have their own friends, and yet they still come together
they do things for each other. I would never forget

(18:32):
the episode when he was like when when when Elvin
was like, so you bring him coffee? And she was
like like, oh you serve him? Serve shit?

Speaker 1 (18:41):
Are you crazy?

Speaker 3 (18:42):
Like but these are the things that I that I've
always That was my example of what I thought a
healthy marriage was. Even when I think about the like
the My Wife and Kids and the Bernie Max Show,
like there is that air of humor, there's their air
of comedy, but there's still that space for like love,
and it's still that space for us leaning on each other.

(19:05):
And we don't always have all the right answers, but
we're figuring it out and we're going through it together.
But we don't have that anymore. Everybody's discombobulated. There's no
more real like R and B love songs. Niggas is
not sliding down the wall, it's singing in the rain
no more, Like where is the live? Like everybody legitimately
hates each other, but you want to be together. Like

(19:28):
when are we gonna turn this toxicity off and actually
start being a community again? Because it irritates my fucking soul.

Speaker 4 (19:36):
It's not gonna happen. The world is driven by drama,
social media.

Speaker 3 (19:41):
It's nasty.

Speaker 4 (19:42):
We're talking about every single app, every single song, all
of the television, all of the media. We are being
programmed to be excited. Our dopamine levels rise. Yeah, when
we see drama, when we see negativity, regardless of whether
we want to respond to it or not.

Speaker 1 (20:03):
Those are the things that get us going.

Speaker 3 (20:05):
Is the drum, It gets the people, the islands.

Speaker 1 (20:08):
It started with the No, it started with the scandal.

Speaker 3 (20:10):
No, don't do Love Island because Love Island really used
to be about love. This season is a little different. Listen,
they lost the plot.

Speaker 4 (20:16):
Listen listen the scandal to the Real Housewives, to the
Love Island and the Too Hot for the Island whatever.
It's these all things that get us going, get the
ladies going, get the people going. The Twitter, the X,
the Instagram, the snapchat, the YouTube.

Speaker 1 (20:34):
We're all looking for the thing we can argue with,
the thing that gets out Doper mean, level's going and
that's what's raising society right now.

Speaker 4 (20:43):
The funny thing is is that I saw a post
the other day and it said growing up, I was
a NAS fan. I don't recall hating everything and everyone
affiliated with jay Z or Dipset.

Speaker 1 (20:55):
Remember jay Z and Dipson both had beef.

Speaker 4 (20:57):
Nagaya didn't hate the whole of Rough Riders for the
Locks Dissing Beans album. I didn't even dislike Jada like
they was just beefing. Yeah, this era of fan is
weirder than the rappers their fans of and that was Philly.
The Boss shout out to Philly. I'm gonna have them
on the show one day, especially if we go virtual.

(21:17):
But that's how invested we are in the negativity and
how it has really changed.

Speaker 1 (21:23):
Everything about how we consume and how we behave.

Speaker 4 (21:26):
Like just imagine all these people that hate, hate, hate,
hate hate Drake right now.

Speaker 1 (21:30):
I know yesterday he's like, yes, let's talk about it.
What did that miss?

Speaker 6 (21:34):
By the way, those song number one record coming? Just
want to sorry, I just want to put it out there.
Are he's gonna pass Michael Jackson for the record. I
just wanted to say it.

Speaker 1 (21:45):
He's sad. When I had a thirty three year old cousin.

Speaker 3 (21:48):
Don't do that because you was years you was You
was like you you have to like see eu the
eye with your cousin.

Speaker 1 (21:57):
I wasn't like this.

Speaker 3 (21:58):
I was told you was in here dissecting lyrics and like,
y'all really hear the.

Speaker 1 (22:05):
Song, but.

Speaker 3 (22:09):
Has a diaper? Nigga, you called yourself tajo. You told
the story like as if you was really Drake Man's
in the club in Miami, and that nigga did not
he don't know you that nigga happened to look shine
the light Shine. He looked up and like, yeah, Drake,

(22:32):
he's seen me in the club. Out of here.

Speaker 1 (22:37):
That wasn't even my video that.

Speaker 3 (22:40):
And you see talking cash Ship Like yeah, she said
that to me and I posted it.

Speaker 1 (22:47):
Listen. It was a great moment for New York. It's
a great moment for the click.

Speaker 3 (22:53):
But you're not see you trying to do I see.
I'm here for you, fave.

Speaker 1 (22:59):
So you're better than You're not on Twitter. Yes you're not.

Speaker 3 (23:02):
I'm not on Twitter.

Speaker 1 (23:03):
This nigga had the owl. It is avvy line. You
had the owl. Never ad no point stop it. Oh
you have they you have the owl on your name
on the discord on discord you had you see how
you tried to do that right there. It's the same thing.
Why did anybody in the discord need to know that
you Drake fan? Mag Why.

Speaker 3 (23:28):
My name on the discord shows that I'm a Rick
and Morty fan. So when you were a fan, you
were a fan.

Speaker 1 (23:33):
It's a funny fact. Is that wrong with being a fan?

Speaker 4 (23:40):
We spoke about on the Heart Soul. I'm not sure
if we spoke about this on this show yesterday. Did
we speak about this on the show or when you
said I had a horrible take on Twitter?

Speaker 1 (23:48):
We spoke about that with Courtney, right, Yeah, we speak
about it here. I don't think the quote was what
the quote? What is the quote?

Speaker 4 (24:02):
A woman said, meeting guys in their thirties with no
kids is actually one of the biggest green flags for me.
I responded, Actually, that might be a red flag because niggas,
what I said, niggas at that once they get to

(24:25):
a certain age that it might they might be master
manipulators or scared of commitment. Them niggas is the ultra
players by the time they become and I was talking
about late thirties, definitely like early thirties, talking about late thirties,
them niggas have created cemeteries of broken hearts and women

(24:47):
broken relationships as soon as they got too close.

Speaker 1 (24:49):
Nope, I'm out of here. No, nope, nope, because.

Speaker 4 (24:52):
What else have you been doing for the last twenty years?
That's my point yesterday said nigga, fuck out of here.

Speaker 3 (25:01):
I'm with faith. It's a big fuck out of here.
Why Because I think that what that shows to me
or what that would say to me as a woman,
is that you have discernment that you are not the
type of person that is like quick to just you
don't jump into things that last a lifetime fast. That

(25:22):
you will probably take your time and you really vet situations,
or you probably have dated people that you realize that
there's no real longevity in this, and then you'll be
willing to go and start over with somebody else. I
think that's a better flex. Like I actually think that
the worst flex ever is if you're in your thirties
and not only do you have kids, but you have

(25:43):
multiple kids by multiple people. I'm judging you crazy. So
you just got mad broken homes around here, and you
just okay with that and then you're trying to holler
at somebody new. That is the ultimate walking red flag.
To me, I'm so sorry. I completely disagree.

Speaker 5 (25:59):
Without throwing my friends under the bus. I know niggas
that's above that age that don't have kids, and it's
definitely a red flag because it's like you ain't never
committed to nothing.

Speaker 1 (26:11):
It's almost like.

Speaker 3 (26:12):
Kids don't bring commitment. That's why we got broken homes.

Speaker 5 (26:15):
But I'm telling you that I know these niggas, they
don't commit to something. So it's like you might not
have never had a long term committed you never lived
with a woman, You've never been that serious enough where
y'all could even have had a baby, you know what
I mean, Not that you couldn't have a oops or
something like.

Speaker 1 (26:33):
That, but.

Speaker 5 (26:35):
There's a different side to that coin, you know what
I mean. And it's also kind of like the no
credit versus bad credit situation, Like sometimes no credit is
worse almost all because I don't know what you're gonna do,
at least if you if there's a man that has kids,
you know whether or not he's a good dad, whether
he's a good co parent, whether he's responsible, you know

(26:55):
how he his relationship was with that woman. These niggas
is just loose and you don't know what they want
to do when it comes time to start a family.

Speaker 3 (27:04):
They loose, but they not loose enough to just have
kids running the fuck around.

Speaker 1 (27:07):
They loose enough to never have kids and never do
nothing with you. That's that's a good thing.

Speaker 3 (27:14):
Well, because I don't want to want a nigga.

Speaker 1 (27:18):
I don't want a nigga if you're looking for something.

Speaker 3 (27:20):
If I'm looking for something serious and then nothing serious matriculates.
I feel even better because I walked away from this
situation without a baby, because you're not just dumping babies
in everybody, Like do you know how easy it is
to get pregnant? So that means that you've been out
here for let's say you've been fucking since you fifteen,
You've been out here for fifteen years fucking and you
ain't never you ain't never impregnated nothing, nigga, that's given

(27:44):
me self control? That's given. That says self control to me.
That means that you're not just dumping your baby batter
in everybody. That's given that you have control over yourself
and your body. And you know what's going to happen
niggas with mad kids to me is you have no
fucking self control. You are weakling like you just giving
everybody babies. You just spreading your fucking genes across the

(28:08):
whole Try state. And that shit is not cool. That shiit?
Like what looks better? What is a red flag? Like,
let's flip it. And I don't want to move the
gold post, but I would like to flip it. A
woman that got three kids by three different niggas in
her thirties, a woman that got one kid, I mean
they got three kids by one nigga, or a woman
that don't have no kids at all, which is the

(28:29):
biggest green flag between those three different. Why is it different.

Speaker 4 (28:34):
I think it's different because men and women behave differently.

Speaker 1 (28:40):
Women to women believe in niggas. They put faith in niggas, right, so.

Speaker 3 (28:45):
They don't look at the inn.

Speaker 4 (28:48):
Just because she she had three baby dads don't mean
that she didn't believe the first nigga was good.

Speaker 1 (28:53):
Stay didn't mean she didn't believe. Did it again? Did
she be lying? She might be stupid, but that don't
mean that she's a flag.

Speaker 4 (29:03):
But the niggas that got the three baby mothers is
the nigga that kept dipping on bitches. He kept dipping
on pitches, like nigga, you never felt the commit never
like you just doing that. But the same way with
trauma is saying like, yo, we've been around these niggas
and I'm not even talking about the same people I'm
talking about. I've been I know how men think, I
know how they behave. And even the niggas that try

(29:25):
to act like they're the stand up niggas, I be
knowing they shit, I know what they're doing behind closed
doors in front. I know a lot of niggas that
show up like they did the good guy and again
once you know their whole story, like, nigga, you ain't
kill you, nigga, you are mask. You got the massacre
behind you with dead bodies, and it's like, you can't

(29:47):
act like that now when I know that you should
have on this bitch. You shouldn't have should on this bitch.
You shouldn't have bit, you should on this bitch.

Speaker 1 (29:54):
You can't. You can't just beat a good guy, bro.
You got to accept who you really are. But y'all
don't be knowing that.

Speaker 4 (29:59):
Yeah, I'll be thinking, this nigga is just the stand
up guy he was in school.

Speaker 1 (30:02):
He just paid.

Speaker 4 (30:03):
Attention to think he was just very careful. You think
this nigga wasn't fucking twenty years. Guess how many bodies
he got and how many people he shouting on and
how many hearts he broke in that twenty years.

Speaker 1 (30:16):
You think this is a nigga that you think is
a green flag.

Speaker 3 (30:18):
No, all right, so this bigg never.

Speaker 1 (30:19):
Had a relationship. This nigga never had nothing that he com.

Speaker 3 (30:23):
Backed to different to me, that's different, right. So there,
when I was single, there the way that I looked
at red flags and green flags was this, have you
ever been in a long term relationship if you're after
a certain age. If your answer is no, you're a
red flag.

Speaker 1 (30:40):
What's the age?

Speaker 3 (30:42):
Honestly, mid thirties, if you've reached the if you got
to thirty five, if you've never been into one long
term relationship, that's a red flag for me. If you
made it to thirty five and you've never proposed to anybody,
or even have already been divorced, that's a red flag
for me. I don't think kids are the red flag.
I think that I don't think kids are the determinate

(31:04):
factor of the red flag. I think the longevity of
relationships for me is more of a red flag than children,
because I think quiet as it's kept, children are more
of a commitment in my eyes. The partners. Well, I'm
a woman sitting here, you guys, a woman, and think

(31:27):
listen to the niggas, niggas, no niggas, y'all.

Speaker 1 (31:31):
Keep trying to learn, y'all. Okay, y'all, be yo, y'all.

Speaker 3 (31:35):
Women want me to be you want me to think
like a nigga and be a woman, or you want
me to be a woman and think like a woman.
I'm listening.

Speaker 1 (31:43):
They can't listen. They can't They have to like do
this other ship.

Speaker 4 (31:49):
And the thing is, is y'all really be wanting us
to understand y'all y'all want us to think like y'all.

Speaker 1 (31:53):
Don't y'all want us.

Speaker 4 (31:54):
To behave y'all be one, y'all get mad at us
for not doing this the way you would have done it.

Speaker 1 (31:58):
No, y'all do it all the time telling against it.

Speaker 3 (32:04):
I'm not arguing against it. That's not that. That's not
what I'm saying at all. I completely understand what you're
saying in your point of view of how you're looking
at things, being that you're friends with these types of
men and the behavior that they that they emulate show right,
I agree with that, But I'm telling you from the
mind of a woman, I would not take kids not

(32:25):
having kids as a red flag. I would take not
having or ever having a serious relationship as more of
a red flag because I think that kids are more
of a commitment. Does that make sense, Yeah, I'm not.

Speaker 1 (32:39):
I'm not against you, but I don't think that that's
I think that that's a parallel thing. Okay, I don't
think it's one over the other. So you've been trying
to say something.

Speaker 5 (32:46):
Now I understand what you're saying, Dodge, but it's a
little left turn from from the original conversation. Vigual conversation
is about.

Speaker 3 (32:55):
You want a beer beer? Why would you fucking showed
the chair yesterday? You wear it all.

Speaker 5 (33:03):
It's about Tahoe's homegirl. Need to listen to Tahoe, Like
you we standing next to these niggas. You're trying to
tell me which one of my friends in my friend
circle you think is a red flat vers green flighter.
And I know these niggas. I can tell you what
what patterns to look for. So you trying to tell
me what patterns you look for and I'm like, nah,
that's not always that's the one nigga one is going

(33:25):
to be one hundred percent accurate.

Speaker 1 (33:27):
Obviously, you know what I mean.

Speaker 5 (33:29):
But what Tahoe is saying is like, yo, listen to niggas.
When we're talking about niggas, we're talking about all friends,
were talking about all pair of group. We understand which
of these niggas you should look out for, and which
of these niggas is actually good people?

Speaker 3 (33:43):
And that's what Drew said, he want to be or too.
And that's the crazy thing, Like, I just think that I,
if I was single and childless and looking for a relationship,
I would rather be with a man that did not
have children as well.

Speaker 5 (34:01):
Yeah, I understand that that's but that's a preference thing.
But when she's saying that's a red flag, Yeah, I'm sorry,
it's a green flag to not have kids, and Tahoe
is like, well, it could be a red flag.

Speaker 1 (34:13):
Actually, all I'm saying is.

Speaker 5 (34:15):
Neither one is going to be one hundred percent, but
you should definitely give some consideration to the other side
of the Tahoe saying like, because yeah, there's that other side. Well,
it could be a red flag, not green flag. That's
all I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (34:29):
Yeah, no, I know, I totally understand. And one thing,
one thing you can say about me, Tahoe before you
have this whole yell, listen to men shit. Whenever in
the past I have men issues, did I not call you,
call me and did I not ask you questions and
ask you explain to me from the male yeah, from
the male perspective, and then I would move accordingly, Like

(34:51):
I listen to the men in my life that are
important because I feel like I trust their judgment, and
I do see your side of it. I don't think
that you're wrong at all. But this is just my
woman brain. I would just be like, kids, Uh, that's
not that big of a deal. How many girlfriends have
you had? That's what I want to know. Like when
niggas pull up and be like, yo, I never had

(35:13):
a serious relationship in my life and you twenty eight? Whoa, whoa?
Are you crazy? Yeah? Sometimes you know there's something wrong
with you.

Speaker 5 (35:21):
You too far going too you don't even know how
to be in a relationship, right.

Speaker 1 (35:25):
Yeah, I got a different one, y'all.

Speaker 4 (35:26):
This one's gonna be good, and I think we probably
gonna probably gonna be one more after this and.

Speaker 1 (35:31):
We've done right. I want to hear what y'all gotta
think about this. I really do. I'm excited about it. Actually,
I've been saving this for weeks.

Speaker 3 (35:41):
I'm described Okay.

Speaker 8 (35:45):
My wife is allowed to have male friends, she is
not allowed to make ends.

Speaker 1 (35:51):
While in relationship. To me, Let's be clear, I'm not
a secure I'm just logical.

Speaker 8 (35:58):
Any male friends that she has before me fine, like
their grandfather in that they've been.

Speaker 1 (36:03):
Emotionally vetted or like they passed the background check.

Speaker 8 (36:07):
The new male friends, I mean while we're dated, why,
like what possible scenario requires for you?

Speaker 1 (36:14):
That's their companionship. You matter my work. That's not a friend,
Like that's a coworker. I'm the bosman. You met him
at the gym. That's that's a red flag wearing under armor.
You know, I trust her on you don't trust.

Speaker 8 (36:29):
Men like doing men things or their names like Sean
or Tyree's or I say old bad in text and
was finding Instagram stories with the fiery mougment like at
one forty seven am, like, it's not about jealousy, it's
about peace. I'm not paranoid, but I'm just experience. So yeah,

(36:49):
she can have guy friends.

Speaker 1 (36:52):
He's so crazy.

Speaker 6 (36:53):
I'm kind of roll over a little bit, super roller.
I'm rolling with him, super rolling. I'm gon keep it
a being, I'm rolling with him.

Speaker 4 (37:00):
Go ahead, Gosh, tell us how we're stopping you from
having fun because you met a guy and he's fire
and he's gonna give us get you a birthday gift for.

Speaker 1 (37:12):
I ain't getting her birthday gifts.

Speaker 4 (37:13):
Go ahead, tell us how we're bugging why you need
this new nigga around.

Speaker 3 (37:20):
Okay, I'm trying to figure out how toxic I want
to be right now. Yeah, shut up, Andrew. Okay, I
don't disagree. I'm gonna period like there's no but I

(37:40):
don't disagree. Period end of the sentence.

Speaker 1 (37:42):
Race.

Speaker 3 (37:44):
However, however, Comma, I will say that in in my
line of work, well, I don't. I don't even know
if it's just mine. I think that there are certain
industries where it's so much easier to build friendships through work. Yes,

(38:10):
but he said stop. I said, however, Comma, there are
instances in which coworkers can become friends. We start off
as coworkers, and depending on the industry in which you work,
and you can develop a bond, develop a friendship, understand
that you might like the same things that are not

(38:32):
and it can still be very strictly platonic. And because
of that, and because I'm and I'm literally just using
myself as an example and my job and working in
a new state where I did not have any friends,
a lot of the friends that I do have in Jersey.
It started because of work, because we had we built

(38:56):
a bond over work and over like just hanging out
in classrooms and and going out to the bar after
work and decompressing, and and then we became friends over time.
So because of that and that alone, I don't know
how I feel about it.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
Trump.

Speaker 4 (39:11):
I will say this, there's a point that you were
making earlier about putting your fiance.

Speaker 1 (39:15):
First, right Dodge.

Speaker 4 (39:20):
You may meet a person at work, and y'all got cool,
that is a coworker. Once you leave that job site,
he is either our friend or he remains a coworker.

Speaker 1 (39:37):
You don't. You don't just go off and you start
dipping off with this new nigga to the bars.

Speaker 4 (39:43):
And he's bringing his wife to the crib.

Speaker 1 (39:49):
Now our friends.

Speaker 4 (39:52):
No, you're just not making a new nigga friend and
you're just hanging out telling me, Yo.

Speaker 1 (39:56):
I'm with this nigga Byron with Darryl. What do you
mean why?

Speaker 3 (40:03):
And I understand that, like I'm not. I can't argue
against that because I do understand the logic of that
thought process. So that's what I'm not trying to I'm
not trying to build an argument here, but Also, that's
not our friend, Like that is my friend that you
now know. You were introduced to him as my coworker,
but now after three years, this is my dead ass

(40:26):
friend and you know that this is my friend. But
that doesn't mean that if we go all we go
to a happy hour after work or niggas is like whatever, Like,
I don't want you to feel like me and my friend.

Speaker 1 (40:40):
You and darylre going on dates. We got him.

Speaker 3 (40:44):
It's not a date unless I'm unless.

Speaker 1 (40:47):
Did you know that the happy hours started a six?

Speaker 3 (40:50):
It's not try it?

Speaker 4 (40:52):
But what if we left work together then y'all went
somewhere y'all went on a date where y'all.

Speaker 1 (40:58):
Going out together.

Speaker 3 (40:59):
This the reason why what if a bunch of us
go and everybody leave and in me and Darryl staying,
I'm cheating.

Speaker 1 (41:09):
That's cheating because we still have everybody agreed to leave.
We paid the tab.

Speaker 4 (41:15):
Oh yeah, me and Daryl are gonna hang out.

Speaker 1 (41:19):
Bring your happy ass home. You was a happy hour
for your happy ass home.

Speaker 3 (41:24):
I think that also for me, No, you're not bugging.
I think that also for me. What like, what makes
it inappropriate is if I'm attracted to that person. That's
what makes it inappropriate for me. If I'm not attracted
to you, then for me, it's still platon I know,
I know what you're gonna say, and I'm not against.

(41:45):
Like I said, I'm not arguing aside, but I'm personally
thinking about. Since I've been working, I've made three male friends.
One what are the others? One is under me. One
we used to work together because we worked on the

(42:06):
same team. So my class was here, his class was here,
and my other homegirl class was here, and the three
of us as the three seventh grade homeroom teachers, we
became really close because I was their grade team lead
and we had like we became really close. One of
them you're gonna meet tomorrow, right, and another one another one.

(42:27):
The only reason why you're not gonna meet him tomorrow
is because he's out of town. These are like the bros,
like I fucking love these niggas, and then like they
in their own right have helped me get through tough
days at work, and then from that we've actually developed
friendships and bonds. I'm not attracted to any of them,
and not to throw their business out, two out of

(42:49):
three of them are white. I don't want these white men.
But these is my friend These is the homies. Bro,
I don't give a fuck. These are the motherfucking homies.
You can't tell me nothing, then these are the bros.
These are my friends.

Speaker 1 (43:03):
And for that white friends exactly coworkers.

Speaker 3 (43:09):
Because now we're because we're friends now because we have
elevated past friendship, I mean past coworkers. You go out
with him, don't call him a guy. That's respectful. But
to answer your question, you answer to answer your question,
all three of them in separate occasions. Yes, I have
gone to have drinks with them after work. I have

(43:29):
spoken to them on the phone late night, not late night,
because y'all know I'll be sleep by ten. Late night
for me is.

Speaker 5 (43:34):
Still it's still coworkers. It gets into the friends school.
If y'all don't work together.

Speaker 3 (43:39):
We don't work together no more. These are my friends.
I don't have no type of attraction to these niggas,
nothing like that. And from my point of view, from
the conversations and the reporter we've had, they don't have
any attraction to me either. I don't And just thinking
about those three people, keeping these three people in the
back of my head, I'm like, I did make three

(44:00):
male friends since I've been in a relationship, and I
would never want my husband to feel this type of
way because when I say, these is really just my friends,
really just my friends.

Speaker 4 (44:09):
You just lucked up with somebody that don't care about nothing.
But I guarantee you right now, I'm not even bringing
her into this because y'all gonna be like, well, that's
your relationship.

Speaker 3 (44:17):
No, but some people just care and.

Speaker 4 (44:19):
People at work and y'all just going out together in
all types of shit.

Speaker 1 (44:22):
Ahead Trump to say what you guys.

Speaker 5 (44:23):
In When I first heard the dude in the clip,
I was like, absolutely, I'm on board. I agree with him,
and I still agree with him in theory, but now
that I'm thinking about it, I disagree in reality because what, like,
what does friends? How do friends happen? Friends usually happen

(44:43):
organically from spending time with somebody. You don't be like, hey,
I'm going to be friends with you and make a decision.
It just happens. And it happens often with coworkers because
you're around them all the time and you get to
know somebody, you'll be like yo, I fox with you,
and you meet real people and on a professional Let
if I have a professional relationship with somebody that I

(45:04):
met after I've been with my shorty and I end
up wucking with this person on some real life shit,
why can't be a friend to that person?

Speaker 1 (45:12):
Obviously, there gotta be boundaries that.

Speaker 5 (45:13):
Got to be respect, And it would be great if
they're in a relationship also and we could all be friends.
Like one thing you said, toy, he's our friend, Like
he's not. I respect that because there has to be
some type of you gotta know, my shorty, y'all have
to have some type of good cordial relationship. We don't
all have to hang out together all the time. But yeah,
if you're my friend, you gotta be on good terms

(45:35):
with my shortage exactly.

Speaker 3 (45:36):
And I agree. One of them helped me move where
we moved to, say, like when we moved to the
new spot, like he was one of the main people, Like, yo,
you moving, you need help? What you need that or not?
Because that's really my friend. And just thinking about it,
like there's no world where I would be like me
and him are not friends anymore because I met him
after drew or whatever, Like I just think that that's

(45:59):
messed up and that puts me in a box because
I'm with this person forever, so I'm never gonna make
another male friend in life. That's crazy.

Speaker 5 (46:07):
People come into your life for all types of reasons
at different times, and you're gonna meet friends throughout the
course of your life. Yesterday, what you guys.

Speaker 6 (46:14):
Said, I think that in theory of it, I think
was funny because I think as guys, we just don't
want our girls.

Speaker 1 (46:23):
We just don't want to go around other niggas. I
know me.

Speaker 6 (46:26):
Let me speak all the guys me personally, when I
have a girl, I really love my person that much,
I just don't I don't want.

Speaker 1 (46:32):
I don't want around niggas. I don't want to. I'm
just stingy. That's me personally.

Speaker 3 (46:37):
I'm obsessive.

Speaker 6 (46:38):
No no, no, no, I'm not possessed master no no, no no,
because I'm a person that I don't care if you
go out with your friends or hang out or shth
like that.

Speaker 1 (46:46):
Just new niggas, like extra new niggas. It's like, ah,
that's tough.

Speaker 3 (46:53):
Really you did you.

Speaker 1 (46:55):
Hear what I said? I don't like extra niggas. I
don't care if you're gay in.

Speaker 5 (47:00):
The middle, but if he's married, you actually like him
and his wife and y'all are all friends.

Speaker 1 (47:07):
Okay, that's cool.

Speaker 6 (47:08):
No, no, no, because you because your wife element, that's a
different dynamic.

Speaker 1 (47:11):
I could, I could.

Speaker 3 (47:14):
I'm the type of person you gotta worry about me
more with the girls the niggas. You gotta worry about
me with the niggas. But but my new homegirls. I
probably tried to so.

Speaker 5 (47:25):
And the reason why I asked yes to those question
those questions is like, do you view this person as
a threat? Yeah, And you got to break it down
to really understand your feelings, why you feel this way.
If you if you say that you're not being what's
the word you said, and break it down, break down
your feelings and really.

Speaker 1 (47:41):
Try to find out you said.

Speaker 6 (47:44):
Why am I way? It's not I think y'all. I
understand that I don't like extra men. I don't care
under no. I mean, you've said this, I've said this before.
It just sounds funny, but I'm one dead serious about that.
I don't want I just don't like extra niggas. I
like the niggas that I know. And then again, if
I've build relationships with you know, if I have friends,
I have relationships with people, then cool, but reverse how

(48:06):
you feeling you can I'm like, but I will say
that I'm not I'm not going to like stifle the situation.
I'm not going to be a dick or I'm not
going to like topple over your like your friendships and stuff.
I'm not going to do that like I can just
you know, between me and you, I'll be.

Speaker 4 (48:20):
Like yesterday, but you got a new job this year.
You excel at your job. You're very well known and
populate your job. There's no woman at your job that
you would consider a friend at this point.

Speaker 1 (48:34):
Mmmmm mmmm. That's a good question. Clean it up. That's
a good no. I can't you talk about about the
schools this year?

Speaker 3 (48:50):
Right? Friends? You're new?

Speaker 1 (48:54):
Yes, I would say if.

Speaker 4 (48:56):
You was in a relationship right now, you wouldn't consider
Dodge your friends.

Speaker 1 (49:00):
I would consider that your friend.

Speaker 3 (49:02):
Right And I met you after I met my nigga,
So you can't be my faith no more according to
your logic, because you're a random nigga.

Speaker 1 (49:10):
So it's hard to be to put that on her.

Speaker 4 (49:12):
I mean, they would look crazy for her to consider
him a friend.

Speaker 1 (49:15):
Then under these.

Speaker 3 (49:16):
Guys, if we decided when we leave here and we
walk down No Avenue together, if I'm like, yo, yesterday,
let's go grab a drink real quickly on a date
we're dating out. So what's the difference?

Speaker 6 (49:30):
Listen, I told you I'm bugged out. I said I
started this. I started with this is just me. I
didn't say that I was. I was on the money.
I'm not here to be on the money.

Speaker 3 (49:43):
Right, And and that's what I'm saying, Like, I understand
the logic of the thought process, but I just think
that it's just an unfair thought process because not everybody
is attracted to everybody. Not everybody want to fuck with everybody.
Some people are just there's something about them that they
just develop a friendship of rapport. And that's just what

(50:06):
it is. Oh damn whatever. My man just walked in
here looking good.

Speaker 1 (50:13):
Oh ship, Yeah, oh surety?

Speaker 4 (50:15):
Some bread to make her of the hat that you
make me with from a gate.

Speaker 3 (50:21):
A gope A got a g a p yeah a
got unconditional. Yes, my homegirl she makes buy your hats.

Speaker 1 (50:28):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (50:29):
And she tried to send me some hats and I
was like, no, I gotta I'm buying those.

Speaker 3 (50:32):
You're not going, Oh, she's so amazing.

Speaker 1 (50:36):
Black business is what I was telling you. That's just
watch it.

Speaker 4 (50:40):
And I know that you're a new company and you
need the bread to get into production and all that.

Speaker 1 (50:45):
Now I'm send you the bread, but I forgot to
send the bread. Yeah, it's not like you know what
I mean.

Speaker 3 (50:51):
I love that, I love I love I love when
my people connected. That's like my fake co parent.

Speaker 1 (50:56):
That's part of school. Mother, that's fucking ship. You know.

Speaker 4 (51:00):
You get so many d ms and I gotta remember.
But yeah, I'm changing my stance. M hm, Yo, life
is too short, and like what do we know? When
she said that I can never make another male friend forever,
Like how insecure you got to be? And I definitely
don't want to be in a relationship with my ladies

(51:20):
that insecure.

Speaker 1 (51:24):
But move on, just keep it going. I was drinking.
Yeah I got you, so, yeah I understand, no for sure.

Speaker 5 (51:38):
Yeah yeah, I'm actually with new friends of fire, especially
new friends at this age, because almost nine out of
ten they're going to add some type of value to
your life some way, you.

Speaker 1 (51:49):
Know what I mean?

Speaker 5 (51:50):
Because why you make a new friends are you're making
better decisions as as the.

Speaker 1 (51:53):
Friends that you choose, you know what I mean, making them.

Speaker 4 (51:55):
For a reason, not just it's not just proximity. Like
when you're younger, you made friends because they live on
your blog, it was in your class whatever. You you
work a lot a lot of people. You don't be
friends with all of them. And it was the people
that you what you like, the way they think you like,
the way they act, the way they present themself. You
know that you walk into a room with them, they're
going to represent you well, you know when you call
them friend. So I kind of do get that. I

(52:18):
just think that men, as yesterday said, are very leary
about dicks.

Speaker 3 (52:24):
Of course, just niggas is dicks around.

Speaker 1 (52:26):
Why is this dick around you? Got bad intentions? What
is this dick around you? What are you doing around
this dick so much?

Speaker 4 (52:33):
And you're just going out with this dick and you're
drinking with this dick and you're just cool with this.

Speaker 1 (52:37):
Dick like that's yeah, it's just weird. That's true, because
we know niggas problem. It's weird. That's the way we
look at it. And many times, why is this nigga
got a dick? The person that you bring it out,
why they.

Speaker 6 (52:49):
Got a dick right, And many times I've been the
guy on the other side of that, I've been the
friend going out with the person. I've been that guy.
So that's why I'm even more like because I know
me this conversation.

Speaker 1 (52:58):
Have a very short, very short conversation, very sure. Just
just want to know. If you like somebody.

Speaker 4 (53:07):
And they've expressed that they're not interested, they're all single,
Are you differend?

Speaker 1 (53:12):
Are you still differend?

Speaker 3 (53:13):
Absolutely?

Speaker 4 (53:16):
Yes, trump Wait again, if you like somebody, you express
interest in somebody.

Speaker 1 (53:20):
You expressed interests, right, y'all are in the.

Speaker 4 (53:22):
Same social circle, so you're around them, you express interest,
you're trying to fuck with them, but.

Speaker 1 (53:26):
They told you they're not interested. Are you a differend?
Now you could be.

Speaker 5 (53:33):
That's your decision, and it really depends on if you're
crushed or if you could control your attraction and keep
a platonic.

Speaker 4 (53:41):
I've literally told these women, I'm not your friend. I'm
trying to fuck I will fuck I'm telling you I
like you, we're cool, we're homies, but I will fuck you.
There is a difference. When you're my friend. I'm not
trying to fuck you. I have no intentions to that other.
And I don't ever want you to get it twisted
because if you need it, call me, I will be there.

Speaker 1 (54:02):
My friends can't call me like yo, I need it.
You know what I'm saying. No, if you come laying
to bed with me, I'm gonna your butt. You know
what I'm saying. Josh need a place to stay, She's
gonna lay in the bad I'm gonna sit on it.
I'm as sleeping right on this little ass couch right here,
my legs up like this. I'm glad because I'm not

(54:22):
just you come on with lay down. I feel good.
You need to come here? Yeah? What that was creepy?

Speaker 3 (54:32):
No, y'all, that's what I'm saying. Niggas are mad creepy
like honestly for me because I am not. I'm more
of a safeio sexual than anything else. If I like you,
I like you because of the person that you are.
So if you're not interested in me, that does not
make you a bad person. That doesn't make you a
person that I'm still not interested in having conversations with.

(54:53):
So I don't understand why I can't still be cool
with you. For me, I'm your friends on me, I'm
in the friend zone. I'm in the box. I'm stay
in my box. But I still like you as a person,
cause you know what.

Speaker 4 (55:04):
I don't like about that is because a lot of times,
especially with me in the past, I've had women keep
bringing up that I curved him.

Speaker 3 (55:14):
Because they probably because a lot of women not used
to being curved.

Speaker 4 (55:16):
Yo, stop bringing up Yeah you know, I tried to
talk to him, but he thought he was too good
or some ship like that.

Speaker 1 (55:21):
Just a little YO. Why you keep doing that.

Speaker 3 (55:26):
Because they're not used to it, And it's fine, he
wasn't her.

Speaker 1 (55:31):
I like your friend. Your friend looked better than you.

Speaker 3 (55:35):
Your friend was the one you weren't And that's okay.

Speaker 1 (55:38):
Saying with you on my deck, I'm on your friend.
It it's not gonna work.

Speaker 5 (55:41):
So what if there's like you can have a good
friendship with somebody that you are attracted to, but at
some point, y'all realize you're not going to be good together.
Sometimes sometimes an attraction can keep friends together, like sometimes
that keep people in touch.

Speaker 3 (56:00):
I don't want ugly ass friends. I don't want to
be around ugly people like I want to consistently find
myself around attractive people, whether you're my friend or not,
because you're my friend and I might have a friend
for you. Like I want to be around attractive people.

Speaker 4 (56:14):
I'm sorry to be attractive. That doesn't mean I'm attracted
to you.

Speaker 3 (56:19):
Yes, you got to hear both sides.

Speaker 6 (56:21):
You can think somebody's attractive, but you don't have to
be attracted to them yourself.

Speaker 1 (56:24):
Right.

Speaker 3 (56:25):
Honestly, I think that most of the people that I
keep in my circle are very attractive. That don't mean
I want to have sex with you, But that also
don't mean that you're not fine. I even think my
white homeboys, I think they are cute as shit. I
don't want to fuck them, but but they're attractive to me.

Speaker 1 (56:44):
They're attractive. Yes, yes, you can see that they you
can acknowledge it. You would hook.

Speaker 4 (56:49):
Somebody up with them, absolutely, But if y'all in the
same room to get it, there's sexual tension that too much.

Speaker 1 (56:58):
I want that, damn you be looking good. No, No
is different than attractive, This is what I'm saying. So
it is different, but it has change though.

Speaker 5 (57:08):
Why I'm trying to think you could if somebody is attractive,
you could not be attracted to them today, but tomorrow
when situations change and your relationship status changes.

Speaker 1 (57:20):
No, it's you, respectfully that you yo. This attraction to
me is like instant, Like when I see you.

Speaker 3 (57:30):
I'm like, it's like feral. It's just like, yeah, it's
just like.

Speaker 4 (57:36):
Nobody never grew in you. Yeah, I guess. But it
isn't about I guess. I think, Sapio, it would be
the thing. It would be like some type of mental
connection that we had. I looked past their looks, like
they could looking, but it wasn't the looks that got me.

Speaker 1 (57:51):
For whatever reason.

Speaker 4 (57:52):
We just built something that's like and now I see
them for something else attracted to that. It isn't that
they walked in one day and they had the skirt
on and skirt on.

Speaker 5 (58:00):
I was like, I'm saying, sometimes the energy could change.
Like you meet somebody, be in a relationship, you're in
a relationship, we're both attractive people. You ain't looking at
each other like that, and then they break up. A
couple months later, you break up, your energy might shift
a little bit and that person might be attractive to
you because your energy to each other has changed.

Speaker 1 (58:22):
A little bit.

Speaker 3 (58:24):
I don't know. I've never I don't think that. I
think that in my lifetime, I have been very limited
in having like a straight attraction to somebody, like everything
has built for me, like there's always been a grow
I don't I can't recall many people. I'm just like,
oh my god, I just want to jump your bones.

(58:46):
I'm anti you, just like what am I don't get
away from me.

Speaker 1 (58:51):
Niggas always trying to talk to me.

Speaker 4 (58:52):
You you had the booty your whole life, so you've
probably just anti like niggas for mad long and probably girls.

Speaker 1 (58:59):
So that whole looking at a.

Speaker 4 (59:00):
Nigga like ooh I want him probably was just like
get away, yeah, and that that's just been your thing.

Speaker 1 (59:06):
You feel me all right?

Speaker 4 (59:07):
Last thing, last thing you'll know y'all going out for
your birthday and some shit is going on by the way,
trave what's Updraf, How you doing man? Thank you for
sending me topics and thank you for anybody that I
robbed your topics out of the discord draft says Nope,
we can't be friends. To me, that's the same as
saying no to a proposal.

Speaker 1 (59:26):
The relationship is over.

Speaker 4 (59:30):
It's not the same social circle though, the same social
circle we're around here, not just gonna be the dickhead,
you know, icing her out. I've had that though, Like
I told a curve the girl and now she's mean
to me all the time and she's just like, yo,
why And then I.

Speaker 1 (59:47):
Asked her why you're always so mean?

Speaker 4 (59:51):
I mean, I told you I liked you and you
didn't want to, so like, why would you expect it
to be nice to you?

Speaker 1 (59:56):
And I'm like, you kind of a bitch.

Speaker 9 (01:00:01):
Guess I had to fuck you because you liked me.
I had to, you know what I'm saying? Or else?
What was we talking about? I did say she looked
like a dog.

Speaker 1 (01:00:13):
Though a dog, well she called me a word what breed? Huh?
It wasn't a pug, so you know what I mean.

Speaker 4 (01:00:25):
Anyway, last topic, tell me I look like a canine
and we're fighting, and the silence children grow into silent adults.

Speaker 8 (01:00:37):
You told me the other day that you feel like
kids should.

Speaker 1 (01:00:40):
Disrespect their parents. Let me put that in context. How
many of you guys in this room would like.

Speaker 10 (01:00:46):
To raise your children to be strong minded, independent thinking,
ambitious cad or adults. Right, Well, if you were going
to instill that, part of that is confidence, part of
that is voice, part of that is knowing I have value.
And when you teach your child, dad, I'm talking five six,
seventeen nineteen, the first place they practice voice is on you, guys.

Speaker 1 (01:01:06):
Correct.

Speaker 10 (01:01:06):
And when I was a kid, my mother I had
two brothers. My mother would say, Elle, go do the dishes,
and I would be like, why didn't you ask one
of them?

Speaker 1 (01:01:13):
And that would get me popped.

Speaker 10 (01:01:14):
But if you're teaching your child to be confident, to
be strong, to be to value their voice, they should
ask those kinds of questions and it allows you to parent.
Though we confuse respect for silence, and I think that's
a problem. If I say go paint the house and
the child says, yes, ma'am, it goes painting, we think, oh,
that's such a respectful child. But that same child, if

(01:01:38):
some strong willed seventeen year old kid in high school
says let's go to skip school, they're gonna say yes, sir.
Like we have to teach them to question why.

Speaker 1 (01:01:47):
Am I painting?

Speaker 10 (01:01:47):
That.

Speaker 1 (01:01:48):
I should understand the context of the life that.

Speaker 10 (01:01:50):
I live in.

Speaker 3 (01:01:51):
You know when I grew up that clip.

Speaker 4 (01:01:53):
Yeah, I definitely well, not even growing up. Even as
a parent, I've been on some Mom, you gotta respect
your parents. Certain things is just inappropriate for you to
say to your parents. But hearing this, and I think
about sorry to your white friends. The way white people

(01:02:19):
are out here and the way their parents raise them,
they don't raise them with that fair shit. A lot
of times, a lot of times generally, right, they don't
raise them with that fair shit. You see their kids
running all over the place and saying fuck you, mom,
and they just do whatever the fun they want.

Speaker 1 (01:02:37):
But they grow up thinking they could take over the world.

Speaker 4 (01:02:40):
They don't have those checks that black parents put on
their children, saying hey, you have to move this way
or else or else again.

Speaker 1 (01:02:48):
And so I'm wondering if that's a toxic thing or not.

Speaker 4 (01:02:51):
When I watched this clip, I'm trying to understand and
raising our children wrong.

Speaker 3 (01:02:58):
I appreciate as perspective. And that clip actually made me
buy his book because I was very interested in what
he was saying. I think that I'm at that point
in parenton where I resonate a lot with what he said,
because I have this tenacious six year old that has
all these thoughts and feelings and emotions, and she says
all these things, and there are so many times that

(01:03:21):
me and Andrew are just like sitting on a couch
and she says something or does something and we look
at each other and we like, Yo, if that was me,
my mother would have slept this shit out of me
fifteen minutes, like before I even breathed to say that.
But I do also, I'm also thinking about some of
the insecurities that I grew up with, and thinking about

(01:03:42):
some of the times and my teens and in my
early twenties where I was afraid to speak up for myself.
I was afraid to say anything, so I kind of
just kind of went with the flow and kind of
like succumb to peer pressure. So there's two sides to this.
And the worst part is there is no rule book
in parenting. There is no one size fits all. We're

(01:04:04):
all just winging it. We're all just trying to do
the best that we can to not raise fucking assholes.
So there is no I don't know, but I what
I'm trying to do is I'm trying to foster a
space where my kid can be confident enough to tell
me what she thinks and how she feels, but also

(01:04:26):
instilling that there is a line, there is a boundary,
so there is gonna be no fuck you, mom. That
shit is never that shit's never happening, right, And even
sometimes when she says certain things, I might wait, pause,
reframe that, because it's not that what you're saying is wrong,
But I need you to know that when you're speaking

(01:04:46):
to me, you can't speak to me the way that
you speak to your friends. So you might have a
right thought process, but you need to kind of reframe
that when you're speaking to me and when you're when
you're dealing with me as your mom. But I think
that there's also a lot of truth in what he says,
because if we shut our kids down and we turn
their voices off, who do they get that practice with

(01:05:10):
And when are they gonna find the ability to stand
up for themselves. That doesn't happen through osmosis. That happens
through practice. And I'm just trying not to raise a dickhead,
so that that's all I'm trying to do every day.
I just don't want to raise asshole, But I also
don't want to raise no punk wrong what you got.

Speaker 5 (01:05:30):
I agree with him with his sentiments, but I ain't
gonna tolerate disrespect that's the thing, Like it's okay to
give for a kid, to give some pushback and to
question certain things. I invite the questions I've said on
this podcast before, Like I explain things to my child.
I explain why I'm asking you to do something, why

(01:05:52):
I'm telling you to do something, And for me, that
builds trust because there's gonna be a time where I
don't got time to explain this.

Speaker 1 (01:05:59):
Shit to you.

Speaker 5 (01:06:00):
Yo, just do what I say. But I've explained so
much to you that now you trust me. You trust
my intentions because I want you to understand why you're
doing things, because there's going to come a time where
you're going to have to make decisions on your own,
and I need you to understand why you make these
decisions and understand your judgment, Like your judgment is super important.

(01:06:21):
If I'm just doing it making all decisions for you,
you're not growing up learning any type of discernment, you
know what I mean. So now I believe in what
he's saying wholeheartedly, except for the disrespect.

Speaker 1 (01:06:32):
Like it doesn't have to be disrespectful, you know what
I mean.

Speaker 3 (01:06:34):
Disrespect is subjective because when we were growing up, if
your mom asked you to do something and you said
why or why do I have to do that? And
their eyes that was automatically disrespectful. But that's not technically disrespectful.
I'm just asking a question, right, So then I think
that it comes a point where you have to explain

(01:06:55):
what exactly is disrespect what exactly is going too far,
and then moving from there, because there's a lot of
things that black people especially think is automatically disrespectful. Like
if a kid is uncomfortable around a certain family member
and they walk in the house and see this family
member and they don't speak to them. Some people is like, oh,

(01:07:16):
that's disrespectful. You got to speak because that's an adult,
and da da da, and not understanding like why you
don't want to speak to this person? What is the energy?
What's the vibe that you're getting? But back in the day,
it's disrespectful, off rip, no matter what the fuck the
situation is, how dare you not speak to an adult?
How dare you not you know, act in this certain

(01:07:37):
way or or or behave in a certain manner. So
we have to identify what is disrespect Let.

Speaker 1 (01:07:43):
Me ask you a question. Yeah, yesterday, I know, yes,
can you.

Speaker 3 (01:07:46):
Scroll down on the chat.

Speaker 1 (01:07:47):
I want to see spare the rod, spoil the child?

Speaker 3 (01:07:51):
Right, Yes, that's.

Speaker 4 (01:07:52):
Always been a thing. Spare the rod, spoil the child. Yes,
that's basically a black thing.

Speaker 1 (01:07:57):
Right.

Speaker 3 (01:07:57):
I would assume I don't know non about nobody else.

Speaker 1 (01:07:59):
So is that just completely wrong? Now?

Speaker 4 (01:08:03):
Because you know what they sent me a mean today
or some ship. She's always she says that, you know,
every day I opened it up. Bro, she doesn't send
me all of this today.

Speaker 3 (01:08:13):
That's love. I just want you to last.

Speaker 1 (01:08:15):
It's just all the time here we go.

Speaker 11 (01:08:17):
Oh but as a millennial parent, I'm gonna cust.

Speaker 1 (01:08:20):
Your ass out.

Speaker 3 (01:08:20):
All yo, I love this video.

Speaker 11 (01:08:22):
I have to cuss you out because our gentle parent.
And since I don't beat your ass, that's the next step,
Like that's the you know what I'm saying, because think
about it.

Speaker 1 (01:08:31):
Think about it.

Speaker 11 (01:08:32):
Our our grandparents beat the fuck out of our parents, right,
just beating the ship out of their ass, right, our
parents beat the shit out of us. Not as bad
as our grandparents, but it was just you know.

Speaker 1 (01:08:46):
They know we got it. We ain't no stranger the
whoopings now us.

Speaker 8 (01:08:50):
We don't.

Speaker 11 (01:08:50):
We don't hit our kids like that we don't be
beating the ass like that, but you gonna get cussed
the fuck out. You gonna get cussed out. And I
just feel like that's the next logical step in parenting evolution,
because I might give you a little pop, a couple taps,
you know what I'm saying, But we ain't footing on
whooping our kids. We ain't burning calories. If this ain't
no cardio session to beat my ass.

Speaker 1 (01:09:12):
Take a break, smoke a cigarette, call her friends.

Speaker 11 (01:09:14):
Oh my god, girl, I tried to kill him, come
back and beat my ass again.

Speaker 1 (01:09:18):
But I gotta cuss you out. I'm gonna cuss.

Speaker 5 (01:09:20):
You out because sometimes I want to whoop you.

Speaker 10 (01:09:22):
I want I ain't perfect.

Speaker 3 (01:09:24):
Sometimes I want to.

Speaker 1 (01:09:25):
Get in that ass. But like since I since I
know I'm not, since.

Speaker 11 (01:09:28):
I really really know I shouldn't, I got I gotta
give you the tongue lashing of a motherfucking lifetime. While
you talk to him like that, while you talk to
the baby like that, he's so.

Speaker 1 (01:09:37):
Sweet, fuck that, I got to. I gotta talk to
him like that.

Speaker 5 (01:09:40):
I have to because now.

Speaker 11 (01:09:42):
Times out of ten, I'm not gonna touch him. Now
times out of ten, I'm not gonna put my hands
on them. So I gotta I gotta shut the fuck.
I'm gonna sit the fuck down, gotta talk to him
like that, and I gotta look at him like that
because he has to feel in his heart he has
to believe I'm gonna whoop his ass. Our grandparents killed,
Our parents parents whooped us until we thought they was

(01:10:02):
gonna kill us. Now we cuss out our kids till
they think we gonna whoop them.

Speaker 1 (01:10:08):
You know, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 11 (01:10:09):
It's just a that's just just now. I don't know
what the next generation. I don't know what our kids'
kids is gonna tell. They might start over shout.

Speaker 1 (01:10:22):
Yo.

Speaker 3 (01:10:22):
I love that video and it made me feel guilty
how much I resonated with that because I'm just like, damn,
I don't I don't want to be cussing my kid
out either, but I don't want to whoop your ass.
But this nigga's gonna fucking listen like these new kids,
they don't fucking like. I'm literally at the stage in

(01:10:43):
parenting where I'm going crazy. Like last Monday when I
left here, Drew was like, Yo, I could actually pick
Parker up from camp I ain't get home to nine o'clock.
I was avoiding that little nigga like I was literally
I needed a man. I didn't want to see or
talk to my kid. I needed a minute because she
pissed me off so bad over the entire weekend. And

(01:11:06):
I don't want to curse you out, but I also
don't want to whoop you. I'm tired of the punishments.
What am I supposed to do?

Speaker 1 (01:11:13):
Like?

Speaker 3 (01:11:13):
At what point?

Speaker 10 (01:11:14):
Though?

Speaker 3 (01:11:14):
It's like, Yo, set the fuck down and shut that?
Can you shut the fuck up? Can you just chill?
Can you not run from point A to point B
and run into the same fucking every day. No, I know,
I'm serious.

Speaker 1 (01:11:29):
No, I know, I know.

Speaker 3 (01:11:30):
I'm telling y'all, I'm really no, no, no, no, this is
not a group check. Conversation is a real conversation. I'm
very dead ass. I am at an impasse because I
have a child that is hyperactive. I have a child
whose body moves faster than her brain. Do you know
how frustrating that is? Sometimes?

Speaker 1 (01:11:51):
Do you know how.

Speaker 3 (01:11:52):
Frustrating it is to talk to your kid and before
you have sentence finished, they already taken off down the hallway.
My kid falls or scrapes or hurts something every single
every day and I'm not even I'm not playing. She
will run into the same wall every day, Like, Yo, Parker,
can you walk? I am looking Parker. Can you chill?

(01:12:17):
Bab can you have a seat? Can you just and
it just.

Speaker 1 (01:12:22):
Since be everywhere? Have had?

Speaker 3 (01:12:25):
Oh, I'm going to like that's the like, that's my
next step. But the issue that I have with that
is to get her tested for something that I noticed
she has. I have to be prepared for the next thing,
which is probably gonna be either therapy or medication. Due

(01:12:46):
is therapy or medication depending on where she is. I
don't know if I agree with medicaiding a six year old,
so it's definitely gonna be therapy.

Speaker 1 (01:12:55):
I have a problem with you not wanting to medicate
a six year old, But I do have a stance where.

Speaker 4 (01:13:02):
That ADHD affects them in school and their social progress
going forward, you know what I mean. It's a lot
to the to the way that they behave that comes
out later. Right now, she's just running around, She's got
to let anyergy.

Speaker 3 (01:13:14):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:13:16):
I was really an A plus student for most of
my life until that shit really started. Kicking my ass
and I couldn't focus, and so we don't want it
to wait until it gets to that point where she's suffering.

Speaker 1 (01:13:29):
And you're mad because she's bringing home grades.

Speaker 4 (01:13:31):
And you know, you know she's smarter than this, right,
I mean to address it as soon as possible, And
I can just speak that from personal experience, because who
knows what my life would look like if you if
I had the attention you know what I mean that
that given to that issue when I needed it.

Speaker 3 (01:13:48):
But I think also, and this also goes into the
other video, what I'm also grappling with is the things
that Parker does that stresses me out. It triggers me,
It triggers my overstimulation. And this is honest, Like I'm
gonna I'm gonna have like a really raw, honest conversation
with y'all that I literally just have with my friends.
And the conversation is that I think that I'm jealous

(01:14:13):
of my child. And I think that I'm jealous of
my child because the thing there's another chair. I think
that I'm jealous of my child because of the things
that she does are the same exact things that I

(01:14:34):
used to do. So I see a lot of me
and her, so I think that I'm undiagnosed as well.
But then that's the part that bothers me because I'm like, yo,
I would have got my ass by now, but I'm
not doing it. And it's like, am I doing something wrong?
Or am I doing something right? Did my parents have
the right idea or it is my idea right? So yeah,

(01:14:56):
so I am. I am fucking confused most of the time.

Speaker 1 (01:15:00):
You love this clip.

Speaker 3 (01:15:01):
I love the clip because I'm not a I'm not
a Whooper.

Speaker 1 (01:15:05):
That's not in me.

Speaker 3 (01:15:07):
I will cry too.

Speaker 5 (01:15:09):
I think it's a good thing that you see signs
of yourself, because don't you can't you figure out, like
what what would I have responded to when I was
a child.

Speaker 3 (01:15:19):
And that's why I'm a talker, right, and that's why
I try to like talk and like like to to
to to level with her. But I'm also a human
and I lose patience because at this point I'm having
the same conversation every day, every day, same time every day.
Me and Parker have the same argument every morning, seven o'clock,
same argument every day. Nigga, Why am I still having

(01:15:42):
this conversation with you? You're You're far from stupid. You
understand what you're supposed to do. You're just going against it.
And God forbid if I remind you what you're supposed
to do. Now you're stomping around the house and it's simple.
Ship Ta hold So she said I don't have This
is why I only have one nigga because this is

(01:16:03):
a lot.

Speaker 1 (01:16:04):
Yeah, but you're asking a six year old to have
the foresight.

Speaker 3 (01:16:07):
Of I'm asking a six year old. No, no, you,
but you know because I can ask her.

Speaker 4 (01:16:15):
You told me yeah, oh yeah, I forgot I was
doing that again on my bad. Yeah you did tell
me that. But I'm not thinking the foresight. You're asking
me to have foresight. No, I'm just doing shit. The
world is very smaller.

Speaker 3 (01:16:25):
I don't want you to have you know, ship You
can ask Park and when you wake up, what are
you supposed to do? Step by step she can tell
you and she will literally do the opposite. She can
tell you what she's supposed to do because she knows
what she's supposed to do. You know how fucking frustrating
that is. This nigga, wake herself up, she can make

(01:16:45):
her own breakfast. She'll get herself dressed, and she'll sit
at the table waiting to go to camp. Did you
brush your teeth? No, but you know you're supposed to
brush your teeth, right, Yeah, you're gonna do it. Nigga,
gets your yung mouth out of here, go brush your
nasty ass tea.

Speaker 1 (01:17:05):
I remember the other things. Where's the credit?

Speaker 3 (01:17:08):
The credit for what?

Speaker 1 (01:17:10):
Remembering? The other? Ship that you told me to do?
I tell you.

Speaker 3 (01:17:15):
The part that you don't understand. I don't tell her
to do.

Speaker 1 (01:17:18):
She said she she has a list of things that
she knows.

Speaker 3 (01:17:21):
You know, I said she, there's a list of things
that she knows to do. She knows she's supposed to do.
I don't have to tell but I don't tell her ship.
I don't wake her up and say, Parker, go make
yourself breakfast, go get dressed.

Speaker 1 (01:17:33):
You know I'm not. I don't she the list. She
might not remember everything.

Speaker 3 (01:17:39):
She's going for going.

Speaker 1 (01:17:43):
Her mind.

Speaker 3 (01:17:44):
I remember you not what is I do?

Speaker 4 (01:17:46):
So her mind is going, And yeah, she might know
the list, but her mind is going. So she's doing
one thing and she might have forgot to do the
other because she's doing the next thing. She's trying to
remember to do this, That's what ADHD is.

Speaker 3 (01:17:58):
There's no way you could tell me that you wake
up in the morning, you go in the bathroom to pee,
you get dressed, you eat breakfast, you sit the fuck down,
and you forgot to brush it. You forgot how to fuck?
You forget something you'll do every day.

Speaker 1 (01:18:14):
She forgot because she had to remember to put the
clothes on and do the other. Ship is not just a.

Speaker 3 (01:18:20):
Part of your your Isn't it just a part of
your your your ship? Like, isn't that something that you
just do? Like you gotta remember you was already in
the bathroom, my nigga, you was already there. How to
fuck you leave out of there doing the thing that
you're supposed to do in there. You're supposed to piss,
wash your face, brush your teeth, get dressed.

Speaker 2 (01:18:38):
Is it me?

Speaker 5 (01:18:38):
I'm kind of with your because it's like you gotta
be like, all right, well you did all these other
things and give us some pops for that. Like, yo,
you did everything even if I specifically ask you to
do these things.

Speaker 1 (01:18:49):
These are things that you needed to do.

Speaker 3 (01:18:51):
And that's why I hit up my therapist last week
and said, I need to come back. I need to
talk to you, because I'm about to lose my ship
because if she not do another thing that she's supposed
to do, I'm.

Speaker 5 (01:18:59):
Going The thing is, she's only six. You gotta give
her some great and even when she's ten, there's gonna
be things that ten year olds do that you just
gotta let her grow out of it and get to
the next phase.

Speaker 1 (01:19:12):
You know what I mean? Do you have the same
parents in style? You and Drew? Hell no, what's the
difference between your parents and style and his parents and style?

Speaker 3 (01:19:18):
He's authoritative?

Speaker 1 (01:19:20):
Give me more, give me a clip, m he's what's
the difference between.

Speaker 4 (01:19:24):
Your parents and style and your husband's parents, parents and style.

Speaker 3 (01:19:28):
He's not a talker. He's not gonna sit there and
he's not gonna have conversation. He's not gonna level with you.
It's very much I said what I said, Get it
the fuck done?

Speaker 1 (01:19:36):
Period? Does she do it?

Speaker 3 (01:19:38):
Sometimes?

Speaker 1 (01:19:39):
So she doesn't listen to him just as much as
she doesn't listen to you.

Speaker 3 (01:19:42):
No, she doesn't listen to me way more than she
doesn't listen to him.

Speaker 1 (01:19:44):
So what's the difference between your parents and style that
you don't think?

Speaker 3 (01:19:46):
I think I coddle more in what way because I
think I'm more empathetic to me. No, I think I
think that I'm more in pathetic because I see her
and me so and yes, you're right. I when she

(01:20:10):
does things, I remember doing similar things, so I don't.
I don't blow up. I try to, like I sit down,
I'm gonna talk you through it. I'm gonna explain it
to you. I'm gonna get to your level. I'm gonna
have mad patience. But when that patience wear off, I'm
gonna explode him. On the other hand, he's not coddling

(01:20:31):
like I am. He's very much I said what I said, boom,
and then he the minute you don't do it, he explodes.
So he's more explosive and I'm more calm. But when
I explode, I explode more than he does because he
has more patience. I don't know. It's weird, babe. How
would you explain it?

Speaker 1 (01:20:51):
This is a Mica over there, he'll hear you.

Speaker 3 (01:20:56):
Can you for one second? He gets on my fucking
nerves like she is like she, but then you know
what she also does. She she won't talk to him
about things, so it'll be the two of us sitting
right here and she will want something or need something,
and she'll walk right past the nigga and come straight

(01:21:16):
to me. I'm just like, your father's.

Speaker 1 (01:21:18):
Right there, Mommy, your mommy energy, and that's a good thing.

Speaker 4 (01:21:22):
I was speaking to my lady about this, parenting styles
really matters with the way children.

Speaker 1 (01:21:32):
Respond to you.

Speaker 4 (01:21:33):
Yes, it really does, right, And I was like, Yo,
my sons fuck with you more than they fuck with me,
and your daughters fuck with me more than with you.

Speaker 1 (01:21:44):
I'm in the crib.

Speaker 4 (01:21:46):
I tell them to do some shit, but the way
that I talk to them, they're more likely to do it,
do it right, whatever, gather, We're ready for the next thing.
It isn't as annoying.

Speaker 1 (01:21:58):
It isn't like they're like, all right, we got something
to do with do it the way she do it.

Speaker 4 (01:22:02):
It's like Drew very authoritative, very big mama's house, like
I will shoot.

Speaker 1 (01:22:08):
You if you don't get it done. Y'all take you
the fuck out.

Speaker 4 (01:22:12):
And they dragged their feet right and said they do
it half ass whatever, and I'm like, maybe you should
work on your parenting style.

Speaker 3 (01:22:22):
I can't be authoritative, and.

Speaker 1 (01:22:23):
I'm gonna keep it real with you.

Speaker 4 (01:22:25):
We wound up having a moment, she said something to
me that kind of bothered me a little bit. I
didn't say nothing to her about it yet, and I
don't think she's in here no more. She might be,
but she said, you're telling me about the way I
talked to my kids. I talked to me, and I
was like, too, I ain't like that, bro. I didn't

(01:22:48):
address it in the moment because we was talking about
something else and we're gonna revisit that another later day.
But we in this together, right, Just win as convenient?
You know what I'm saying, Yo, I'm here with you
or am I some additive? And this is the thing
that these guys talk about with step parents all the time,

(01:23:09):
where they were like, Yo, you are never you know
what I mean? This is you're there as an additive
to the main thing. Nigga, you are not even the
Cali Greens. You're the Coast Law. You know what I'm saying, right,
But Yeah, parenting styles really does matter with the way
that you raise your kids and the way that you

(01:23:29):
touch your kids. And I think that's what this whole
conversation was about.

Speaker 1 (01:23:33):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:23:34):
I think traum really has one of the best parenting
styles that I've seen. But I also think it works
for you to be that way. You're not confrontational, you're
not a mean person. You're not like a aggressive.

Speaker 1 (01:23:47):
You know what I mean type of guy.

Speaker 4 (01:23:49):
And you also have one of the sweetest, two of
the sweetest children that I've ever seen, both.

Speaker 3 (01:23:54):
Of them, gentle kids. Park a thug.

Speaker 1 (01:23:58):
When she gets that thug from somewhere, a veteran? Where
do you think she gets it from? You think that
she just came out like that.

Speaker 4 (01:24:04):
No, she listened to you, curse and do whatever the
fuck and and she married herself.

Speaker 1 (01:24:09):
You say, oh, you see you and her?

Speaker 4 (01:24:10):
Where you how you think she got it?

Speaker 3 (01:24:14):
I have allegedly thirty six years of this. You just
you just got here, nigga?

Speaker 1 (01:24:18):
Why are you so every day? Why are you so
when you're just doing nothing? She's paying attention to that.

Speaker 3 (01:24:24):
That shit irritates my soul. She told me yesterday she
want to be a YouTuber. I said, not in my house.
But then I also thought about it.

Speaker 1 (01:24:30):
I'm just like, fuck you doing it in your house.
I'm doing it.

Speaker 3 (01:24:33):
I was like, you can do it as a hobby.
I said you could. I said you could do it
as a hobby. You gotta have a career. You can
do whatever you want as a hobby. This is a hobby, hobby, lobby.

Speaker 4 (01:24:42):
You better let her off just using the energy she
got in the personality got and turned it into something.

Speaker 1 (01:24:47):
She fuck around and be bigger than all of us.

Speaker 3 (01:24:48):
I don't want. I don't want to do that to
my kid.

Speaker 1 (01:24:51):
She wants to do it, and it's already gonna happen.

Speaker 3 (01:24:54):
I'm scared to bring her here because I feel like
the day that I have to bring her here, she's
gonna be like, can I podcast too?

Speaker 10 (01:24:59):
Can I?

Speaker 1 (01:25:00):
She's gonna do that.

Speaker 3 (01:25:01):
And she's gonna say some real dope ship too.

Speaker 1 (01:25:03):
She's good to do that. Anyway, We've been here for
almost three hours.

Speaker 4 (01:25:08):
I really want to say thank y'all to everybody's gonna say,
please send Dodge all the birthday wishes, Okay, all of
you diapers a gift.

Speaker 3 (01:25:23):
I don't want to give some strangers. I want to
give some my real friends.

Speaker 4 (01:25:27):
Thank you Drew that you're here with us, but also
thank you for just being a great husband.

Speaker 1 (01:25:31):
And shout out to Drew man God get a lot
of credit in here. Shout out my man. Andrew man
to deal with her.

Speaker 3 (01:25:39):
I don't understand why y'all think that he every week.
I don't want to say, like, why is it never
shout out to me? Y'all don't know the ship that
I go through in this house. Y'all don't know the
ship that he do because he don't talk. That's not fair.
Y'all have no idea.

Speaker 1 (01:25:53):
This is crazy about him. Why would we need to
shout you out here? We're talking about him because you
praise the nigg old time tell us some bullshit. Throw
him under the bus. I thought to under the bus, like, yo,
get with the.

Speaker 3 (01:26:04):
Program, see, because he don't do that type of ship
he do annoying.

Speaker 1 (01:26:10):
I love that love that.

Speaker 3 (01:26:13):
No, I'm just saying Drew just doing he's doing annoying
ship like it's just.

Speaker 2 (01:26:19):
Up?

Speaker 1 (01:26:19):
Was crazy right?

Speaker 8 (01:26:21):
And there?

Speaker 1 (01:26:21):
Can we get the funk out of here?

Speaker 2 (01:26:22):
Hot?

Speaker 1 (01:26:22):
I went to the A C that going please even
that beer got one man.

Speaker 3 (01:26:26):
Fast, mad fast, all types of condensations going on.

Speaker 1 (01:26:30):
You just mad? You ain't getting one? No, I don't
drink beer.

Speaker 3 (01:26:33):
Oh you better than us?

Speaker 1 (01:26:34):
Hurts my stomach. Huh my stomach. People early when I
said that message, how you got quiet?

Speaker 3 (01:26:40):
That says ship out, you make an Annoys.

Speaker 1 (01:26:50):
Gang shout out to the game. Yeah yeah, yeahs yo, yes,
what's your problem? No, what's your problem? You know what?
He was trying it over there. You was trying.

Speaker 7 (01:27:06):
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