I Didnt Marry Her..She Married ME! (part one)

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
If you know what I'm saying, so so shameless, if
you know what I'm sitting, dude, so shameless, if you
know what I'm saying, so shamous, so shameless, so so
so shameless.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
If you know what I'm saying, so.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
Shameless, if you know what I'm saying, so shameless, if
you know what I'm saying, so shameless, if you know
what I'm saying, so shameless.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
For a year, I've asked you to bring stuff in here.

Speaker 3 (00:50):
Then a minute I put something out you like your
where's mind? At what point do you get tired of asking?

Speaker 2 (00:55):
Motherfuckers? And you said, all right, I accept where you
put it, where you lift it. I'm wrong, I don't
really fully understand.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
Yeah, Like the man walks in here with snacks juice. Now,
because I told him he don't drink water, he comes
in here with water. He'll never ask you.

Speaker 2 (01:11):
Why don't you just feel the fridge? For who? Why
would I? This is not my son. We talk about you. Listen,
listen to him, let him to just let him. Now
I'm talking about you. Yes, you could just feel the fridge.

Speaker 4 (01:24):
Yeah, you shouldn't come here and feel his fridge because
you be here, you be eating the ship.

Speaker 2 (01:29):
Not here. You don't eat nothing nothing here. I ate
one time.

Speaker 4 (01:32):
Your mom's cook oh, matter of fact, and you've cooked
me breakfast like two or three times last summer.

Speaker 5 (01:37):
So you'll cook, you cook your cousin breakfast, but you
won't go to the movies.

Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah, if I'm eating, that's just like if I'm in
the house and I'm about to eat, I'm trying to
offer whoever's here.

Speaker 5 (01:47):
That's true how I heard the story.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
Don't try to do that. Don't try to do that.

Speaker 3 (01:51):
It's not like, but we're not gonna make plans to
go on a date together.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
I don't care what y'all say. A doing it? What?

Speaker 3 (01:58):
Why are you looking at me like that? Me and
Troum go out most time. We're taking both cars.

Speaker 6 (02:04):
It's not getting his car, that makes sense.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
Like, I'll meet you there. I'm not gonna be a
passenger ship there like this, I'll be a passenger in
my car.

Speaker 6 (02:17):
I'm actually with you in the movie thing like, yeah,
I'm never going to the movie, but just one other dude.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
It's got two of us. Yeah, it's gotta be better.

Speaker 3 (02:26):
You would I have you've gone to the movies with
one other Nigga and y'all sat next to each other
and ship popcorn.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
Google the same ship.

Speaker 5 (02:41):
We took separate cars. We watched the movie What About
was a while.

Speaker 3 (02:45):
It was like, no, what is that?

Speaker 6 (02:57):
That's the separate cars thing? Though I don't get that
like I do. That doesn't make sense, especially we're parking
around here. Listen, i'ma leave my carpart. I will be
a passenger, not my car. I would act like I
got somewhere else to go. I'm not driving you back.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
She's not saying driving mercenary.

Speaker 3 (03:19):
No, absolutely not all right enough for these conversations because
I'm really not as home before because I come across
Welcome back to So Shameless, y'all. Y'all already hear the
guys are in the building. I know most of the
ladies in the No Shamegang already exited. They said, all right,
Dodger is in here. I'll be I'll see y'all.

Speaker 2 (03:39):
Leader. It is I DJ Trump. What's happening? DJ Trauma yesterday? Yes, sir,
what's good, bro? How you feeling I'm feeling good man,
feeling good. Good day. And finally, I've been waiting for

(03:59):
this moment for long time. Y'all. Okay, every week I
have to sit here and be berated, maybe be careful.
But as I know she's in she's around here somewhere, Dodge.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
You know, you could just click on the discord the
links in there. You could just join the zoom because
I know she's watching. Because her husband, Drew aka Gunner,
I named him.

Speaker 2 (04:28):
That nobody hold you Gunn no more. Some people in
the heart.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
Yeah, they still call you Gunna has joined us for
a conversation.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
Now.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
The reason I wanted to have this conversation with me
Trump and Drew is because.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
First of all, how you doing. I'm good. I'm sure
how you feel? You don't feel like a little bit.
She was crying on the at the wedding.

Speaker 3 (04:54):
Nigga had to wrinkle face them. They feel like a
little girl up there crying in front of all your
friends and family weeping.

Speaker 2 (05:06):
It is what it is. It's family, his friends. You
gotta be vulnerable around them. Were you crying because she
was marrying Dodge? Yeah, that's one. That's one. Gosh, that's one.
Text textile text me, what you're.

Speaker 3 (05:22):
Crying because you're marrying a woman who doesn't cook for
you in the summer doesn't want to suck you, dick,
like I can understand, I will crying for you.

Speaker 2 (05:34):
You're a friend that's gonna going too hard. I'm going
too hard. But what it is?

Speaker 3 (05:43):
What what is that feeling? Like I guess it's elation,
But what is that feeling?

Speaker 2 (05:47):
Definitely elation, But right before I was nervous. I was nervous.
Look at his hands.

Speaker 5 (05:52):
Nervous thinking about it again, But like I was nervous
that whole day. Then as I'm as I'm sitting at
the top of the steps, I'm like, I'm good, I
got this come around the corner. It's like when once
I heard everybody starts celebrating me. That's when the like
emotions started coming through. I'm like, oh shit, I'm gon
cry and I'm looking away from everybody now and I'm
talking to my man's Dave.

Speaker 2 (06:13):
Like, yeah, I'm crying on this one. I'm ana crying.
So I kept saying to him when during the vows.

Speaker 5 (06:22):
No, it was when I walked up to the altar.

Speaker 2 (06:27):
Yeah, we're at the altar.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
He has his back turn, so we all walk in right,
So basically he's facing the pulpit.

Speaker 5 (06:35):
Well, at first, I'm facing everybody. So I'm seeing the
groomsman and the bridesmiths come in. Then I had to
turn around before Dodge gets up there. And then at
a certain point they teld me, okay, turn around so
you can see once she's like coming down the aisle.

Speaker 2 (06:48):
Yeah, that's yeah, that's now. He was crying before he turns.
Ifore he turned around, you just seeing him sitting here
like and I knew, but.

Speaker 3 (07:00):
I guess this is a feeling. First of all, you
engaged with how long?

Speaker 2 (07:05):
Two years? Two years years?

Speaker 3 (07:06):
Most of that two years you're planning the wedding, yeah, right,
or if she's planning the wedding.

Speaker 2 (07:14):
At one time I called her bridezilla. M do you
did you think she was No? She wasn't. She was cool.

Speaker 5 (07:20):
She she You only did that because of that one.

Speaker 2 (07:23):
Instant, because we didn't get to do our TikTok dance. Yeah,
that's what it is. What's it? What's that process? Like?

Speaker 3 (07:30):
Two years leading up to it? You know what's happening.
You know there's ups and downs. What was it like
for you, especially supporting somebody that's basically running the show
doing everything.

Speaker 5 (07:43):
I mean, for me, it was pretty easy because she
was planning most of the things.

Speaker 2 (07:49):
She was on your ass. At the reception though, she
was like, yo, why are you over Why are you
over there? I told you I don't people coming up
talk to her. She's like, don't talk to me, talk
to him. Talk to him. Yo, I'm sitting there like
taking care of other problems. Yeah, yeah, that is what
it is.

Speaker 5 (08:06):
But the two years up to it, it was easy
for me. But she'd come to me certain times for like, hey,
we need to sit down and playing this, that and
the third, and I'm all right, whatever, sit down.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
Why would you marry Dodge with all people? Why not? What?
She don't yell at you? Yeah, I'm sure. I'm not
even looking at the stream. I'm not even at the screen.
I'm not shout out to the no Shame game. I
know they're in here, and I know all of.

Speaker 3 (08:37):
Her little diapers, the Dodgers diapers, are going to be
in here doing what they do.

Speaker 2 (08:42):
And that's cool. But I have questions. What about Dodge
made you say I want to be with Why you
making it sound so bad? And she anything like she
says that she doesn't talk to you the way she
talks to us. What's she like at home. What about
her made you say, yo, you know what? Life? She's life.

Speaker 5 (09:05):
She's as goofy and free as I am.

Speaker 2 (09:07):
That's really it. Like half the ship I do at home.

Speaker 5 (09:12):
You think I'm just like Parker Bro, and she lets
me get away with it. But she's also really goofy herself.
She doesn't show it here a lot, but you know.

Speaker 2 (09:20):
I seen her change since you've been together.

Speaker 3 (09:23):
I would think that she used to be way more
stressed out. I can't speak for that, because well, I
remember times when she would say that.

Speaker 2 (09:31):
You would tell her you need to sit down. Oh,
lay down, I'll take care of this. I'll take care
of that. What made you be that kind of guy? Like?
Because a lot of times I just be laying in
the bed while she's going, well, wife, you're going through it.
I'd be like, man, close the door. It all works
out like well.

Speaker 5 (09:51):
With Dodge, she's very emotional, right, so at certain times
you gotta see that she's thinking out of a motion.
You're not logic. I'm like, Bro, just like, you can't
do it now, just sit down. I don't like it's
too much for you. Sit down, I'll do it.

Speaker 2 (10:07):
Like how hard is that?

Speaker 4 (10:09):
Nah?

Speaker 3 (10:09):
But you're really logical, You're you're very what's what's your
drumming of? Wow, that's right. Your birthday was last week.
That's why we couldn't record.

Speaker 2 (10:20):
Damn.

Speaker 3 (10:20):
I wish my damn about this. I would just never mind.

Speaker 2 (10:28):
This is. We're warming up, y'all. We're warming up.

Speaker 3 (10:30):
I'm trying to figure out my pacing here because I
you know, I've been shady.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
Let's say I was super shady.

Speaker 3 (10:36):
I'm trying to calm down because I got to see
this woman next week, and I already know she's gonna
come in here swinging.

Speaker 2 (10:41):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (10:42):
She can definitely beat me, So trying to take it easy.
You don't want to know not here, I thought. I
I scolded myself after the show yesterday, like, Yo, why
are you giving the petty moments? I worked hard at
not giving in to petty moments? And I found myself

(11:03):
giving in the petty moments yesterday, right, especially things that
really don't bother me. So scholded myself because I've been
a good guy for a couple of years now, so
you shouldn't have went that far. But oh well, shit happens.
Fuck him anyway, Trump, that's sir, the reason I brought
you all here. Me and Trump are also engaged. Trump

(11:24):
for about twelve thirteen years, me for I think one
one and a half, which is four years in family terms.
All of them are like, so right, all of them
is like, so, when are y'all gett married?

Speaker 2 (11:39):
When a y'all get married? When ya got We're not,
We're just gonna be engaged forever. Leave it alone. I
like this, I like saying, yeah, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (11:48):
Sorry, baby, I know she's in here, like wow, really yeah,
that's because you was shooting shots at me in the
chat yesterday. The engagement process, Trump, what stops you from
pulling the trigger, from starting to make plans you getting married?

Speaker 2 (12:06):
Yeah, Like, it's been a while. I'm sure people have asked,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 6 (12:10):
So it's funny because my family doesn't ask anymore. Her
family doesn't ask anymore. It's only the people that we
haven't seen in a while. When you run into people like, hey,
when's the day you know what I mean, what are
you talking about?

Speaker 2 (12:22):
Like, oh, that day? I know that's uncomfortable to ask.
I mean, it's not the only reason why it's not uncomfortable.
Because we're both on the same page, me and her
on the same page. Really cool.

Speaker 6 (12:36):
I got down on one knee and I'm committed to her.
She's committed to me, and that's what matters. Everything else
is just formalities. And honestly, you know, I don't know
what it is for her, but for me, it's just
overwhelming and like we still got life, still goes on,
Like after you propose, you still got life, and you
still got shit to deal with. And it's overwhelming to

(12:57):
plan a wedding, And for us, it would be in
multiple states, you.

Speaker 2 (13:01):
Know what I mean. So because her family's in New Orleans,
you're in Brooklyn.

Speaker 6 (13:06):
Right, and so we're talking about doing the ceremony in
one place, a party here. The party would be a
big party. She has a huge family. It would involve
traveling and everything. So again I'm just speaking for me.
For me, it's like there's never been a moment where
you're like, all right, let's do it. It's like it

(13:27):
seems overwhelming, you know what I mean. So it's like,
all right, I'll think about that tomorrow and then you know,
just keep kicking it down the street, you know what
I mean.

Speaker 5 (13:38):
Question about that we did ours in dr By that
end day, it's our wedding. So like, we understand if
you can't make it, so why did you just like
plan wherever y'all want to plan it? Whatever family comes engine.

Speaker 2 (13:52):
So we thought about that.

Speaker 6 (13:53):
We actually have this resort that we like in Jamaica
and we were gonna do it there. The good and
the bad thing is it's an adults only resort and
that was a deal breaker for me. I can't not
have my kids yet, you know what I mean, Like
Molly would be pissed.

Speaker 2 (14:08):
You know what I mean, trying to get married hedonism.

Speaker 6 (14:11):
No, it wasn't you, No, it was yeah secrets. So
we go there a lot. We love it there and
we got a great relationship with the people there. We
went and did a walk through and everything. Then it
was like ship, I don't mind if other people's kids
can't come, but yeah, Molly gotta be there, you know
what I mean. So you know we would still look
at look into a destination wedding.

Speaker 2 (14:33):
But I'm not gonna speaking as destiny. You know, you
got a mic in the States, you know the mic
is right there.

Speaker 3 (14:38):
Yeah, because you leaning over around over the back of
the couch, do you not know how this works.

Speaker 2 (14:46):
Let me fix is a Uh the MIC's good? Uh,
it sounds good. Your wife hitting me up like, no,
I can't hear my husband speak to dick. God. Sorry,
I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

Speaker 6 (15:08):
Speak I'm sorry, My bad.

Speaker 2 (15:11):
You came on this podcast. You're telling me you're dick
bigger than mine. Hold on, hold on, please can't fix
his mic? Time the wire. You had to know that
it was one day you're here.

Speaker 5 (15:24):
Speak for me, Drew, yep again, might check one two,
one two, Okay.

Speaker 2 (15:31):
Yeah that mic is we be wilding out.

Speaker 3 (15:36):
Yeah, so you had to know that smoke was here.
It's going around the room to worry about it. I mean,
I'm open for smoke too. If anybody wants something, if
anybody wants some energy, I'm here.

Speaker 2 (15:46):
I'm right here in front of y'all. Just do what
y'all do. We can have fun. You yourself. That's what
I do. But I'm used to that it doesn't bother
if it comes from me. You know what I'm saying, the.

Speaker 6 (15:57):
Biggest thing for me about wanting to get married, and
this may sound superficial, but I'm tired of referring to
her as my fiance.

Speaker 2 (16:04):
You know what I mean. I just want to be like, oh,
it's my wife, just go get married at the court house.

Speaker 6 (16:08):
And that's probably something so and we were going to
do that anyway, but then still have after the war
ceremony could be well, yeah, so we'll probably do that
like soon and just do that.

Speaker 3 (16:21):
Is anything stopping you besides the druma besides the wedding
the actual wedding drama? Is there anything that has For instance,
I was going to get me some fish.

Speaker 2 (16:35):
What is it?

Speaker 3 (16:35):
A fish and vegetable? Salmon and vegetables. Today, let's see
my homegirl. She's living on the corner right. I haven't
seen her thirty years something like that, maybe something like that.
It's definitely over twenty years. And she's like, yeah, I'm married.
I'm like, yo, how is it? You know what I'm saying,
I'm engaged.

Speaker 2 (16:50):
She's like, eh, I love an artist response.

Speaker 3 (16:59):
I'm like, wow, what's going on? She's like, yeah, you know,
we kind of I was like, oh, it's kind of
back in the situationship vibes like you don't know. She's like, yeah,
was talking about it while we're waiting for our fish
to get done. And she's like she knew from when
she was engaged that she wasn't super gun ho about
getting married, but she was already there, and she said

(17:21):
they got married and by the time they left the
Justice of the Peace they had an argument outside of it.
I don't know, I don't know what the justice is.

Speaker 6 (17:30):
That's what the court where you can get married. Council's journey. Okay, yeah,
she said.

Speaker 3 (17:37):
By the time she left, they had an argument outside,
a big argument outside of Justice of the Peace, and
she was like, that's kind of been their relationship, never
gotten married.

Speaker 5 (17:48):
She could us said I don't at any point.

Speaker 3 (17:50):
How do you do that though, Like if you're engaged,
they know but you've already asked, or you've already said yes.

Speaker 2 (17:57):
But you already knew it was starting to go downhill.
So that's that's what I'm asking.

Speaker 3 (18:00):
Is there anything else, like, say, with me and my wife,
me and my fiance, we're two different people.

Speaker 2 (18:10):
I'm super hustle, you know what I mean. Like every
move that I make is hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle.

Speaker 3 (18:16):
Right, she wants you, she want a vacation, she wants
to you know what I mean. She likes sleep, sex,
and food. She likes, you know what I mean, sleep,
sex and food, that's what she likes. I like getting money,
Like I think I put money before all those things.
There'll be days when I don't eat because I'm trying
to hustle, you know what I mean. And so if
I was to think about the things that scare me

(18:40):
about it is if we're the two individuals that can
do that together when we both have different drives, different
things that you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 6 (18:50):
So I could relate to that because we're two totally
different people and we've had some rough patches, we've been
through therapy, and it was at one point, probably after
they engagement, where I was like, we probably need to
work out some of these rough patches before we walk
down now. But for one, we've worked it out, and
two it's like we're work in progress, like it's always

(19:11):
gonna be some issues, but I definitely know that this
is my person, you know what I mean. I've gotten
past that phase where you're like wondering like that it's
just gonna be a good fit, Like you know, we
know we love each other, but are we gonna last.
It's just gonna be good I've gotten past that. I'm like,
this is my person and we're gonna work it out.
So I can see that being a problem or being

(19:34):
like make you kind of push things off, procrastinated a
little bit on planning a wedding. That's not the case anymore.
I don't know if it was at some point, but yeah,
definitely not now.

Speaker 3 (19:45):
So what about you, Drew as a man, Regardless of
obviously you and Dodge are best friends, I think like
the way she talks about you and what I've seen.

Speaker 2 (19:55):
Y'all got, y'all got a great vibe to you, right, But.

Speaker 3 (19:58):
As a man, were there any things just as an
engaged man or as a single man about to get
engaged that is like that kind of was stopping you
or you know, plaguing you about being with somebody for
the rest of your life.

Speaker 2 (20:16):
Is that something that you could talk about here? I
don't know. Yeah, but you gotta go home there. Yeah No.

Speaker 5 (20:20):
When Troum was talking and he was talking about all that,
I'm thinking the way I think about it, If there's
certain things that annoy me about Dodge, I say and
think like is.

Speaker 2 (20:29):
It really that serious? Like, like do you really give
a fuck that much?

Speaker 5 (20:32):
To like if like, I don't know, for me, I
leave socks everywhere, and if Dodge was sitting think like,
is it really that much a problem? I could just
pick up the fucking socks. It's not that big a
problem to say no. And that's just how I approach
everything about her, not saying there's not much I don't
like about her, but the little things that may be
like why the fuck you do that? I think about it, like,

(20:53):
isn't that serious?

Speaker 2 (20:54):
Nah?

Speaker 5 (20:55):
Fucking and I just leave it alone because it's not
that serious.

Speaker 3 (20:58):
Do you compartmentalize? Do either one of y'all compartmentalize your
bothers with your girl? Like do you pack them away?
Like like he's saying, like it's not necessari me that
shit isn't. I respond because I don't like to compartmentalize.
I like to let it out because that way, I'm
not living with it. I'm not sleeping with it. I'm
not looking at her with that ship in my eye.

Speaker 2 (21:19):
Right. So if she's like, oh, you're right there, you
get this side.

Speaker 6 (21:22):
What's the problem We argue about this? Like I let
the ship out. I'm big on picking my battles. It
gotta be like so half the time you pussy. Sorry,
half the time I'm smart. Okay, you keep using that word.

Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yeah, yeah, I would like to have sex tonight, So
I'm not about to. Yeah, I'm in a good space.

Speaker 6 (21:43):
I haven't got nothing to prove. And you know, it's
just like being out on the streets. Call me pussy
all you want. I'm not gonna be out here doing
the ship that niggas got that don't have nothing to lose.

Speaker 2 (21:52):
What's gonna do? You know what I mean? Like, I'm good,
So I definitely learned to pick my battles.

Speaker 6 (21:56):
And to your point, Drew, like I always think, you know,
we spoke about this, like the eighty twenty rule, like
it's always gonna be twenty percent of a person where
it may not be a right fit for you, might
be a little annoying, but as long as that eighty
is strong, it's like you're not gonna find the perfect
and no matter how perfect it is, it's gonna be

(22:18):
something that's gonna bother you, you know what I mean. Something,
So it's like me definitely good. Actually I don't know,
so I'm gonna pick my battles. I'll speak up if
it's something that like a right, I gotta like, I
can't allow this to continue. Sometimes you gotta nip it
in the butt, right, So it's not like a precedence

(22:38):
for your relationship, you know what I mean. But if
it's some little shit, I'd just be like, I'll just
chuck it up.

Speaker 2 (22:43):
You know. That's how she is. She's so dope at
everything else. You know. I'll let her slide with that,
you know what I mean. And I hope she gives
me the same grace, you know what I mean. I
hope she gives me. I don't know your wife like that.
I don't make that noise. I didn't mean to make it. Sorry, man,
I didn't mean to make it.

Speaker 3 (23:02):
I definitely consider anytime I'm bothered the fact that other
people gonna bother me too.

Speaker 2 (23:10):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 3 (23:12):
I think the amount of time you've been with somebody also.
How long you've been with Dods six years? Right, sure
something like that.

Speaker 2 (23:20):
You don't know.

Speaker 3 (23:24):
Five years six right? So yeah, right, it's five right?
You y'all met the year after me and ten they
got together. I think time also matters, the amount of
time you've been with somebody. It's like, you're gonna really
throw this away over this argument or you know what
I'm saying, or you know whatever misunderstanding there this there's

(23:45):
a level of intentionality that comes with fixing a relationship
or fixing an issue that you gotta want the ship
to be okay. Other than other than that, Yes, she
cursed me out in my Texas?

Speaker 2 (23:58):
Is that her? No, damn, she's producing from the back.
His mic math far away, his mic is off, Yo,
Yesterday's here. Relax.

Speaker 3 (24:14):
There's a level of intentionality for me when it comes
to saying, all right, this is the person that I
want to be with. You can't just keep this argument.
You can't just keep these negative feelings like you gotta
deal with it. You gotta deal with it.

Speaker 2 (24:27):
So yeah, and then every woman's annoying.

Speaker 3 (24:29):
I tried to tell yesterday that this nigga had the
nerve to tell me, oh, this one doesn't take accountability.

Speaker 2 (24:37):
I said, Bro, when you find the one that.

Speaker 3 (24:41):
Does throw a bag over her head and drag her
back to the United States of America, you're not.

Speaker 2 (24:49):
Gonna find it.

Speaker 3 (24:54):
Completely left. You're not gonna fight, bro. That's what they do.
They get asked like you, they catch feelings about your feelings.
You got to go through all different types of walls
before you get to the point of understanding.

Speaker 2 (25:08):
You ever go to bed mad? What you ever go
to bed bed mad?

Speaker 5 (25:12):
That you made a rule to try not to go
to bed mad each other? Hell, we talk about it.

Speaker 2 (25:18):
Do you that's what do you mean? You just don't
try to resolve before we go to bed. Trying to
resolve before we go to bed, both of y'all all
the time? That's tough. Trump. You ever go to bed mad?

(25:38):
That's all the time? I really go to bed mad?
Is like if I try to get something and she
fell asleep on me, I'm like, that's just like not
a real angry.

Speaker 5 (25:47):
I don't just flip to the other side of the
bed facing that way. I'm facing this way.

Speaker 3 (25:55):
Damn, that's a real issue. In the told you she
won't be wandering? Sorry, confirmed it?

Speaker 2 (26:01):
Trump? How long do you stay mad at your girl?
How long can you stay mad? You know it's funny.
I don't stay mad.

Speaker 6 (26:11):
I'm good for like, give me like ten fifteen minutes usually,
I'm good an hour usually and I calm down.

Speaker 2 (26:18):
I'll go think about it.

Speaker 6 (26:19):
Whatever I get, I get mad and stay mad because
she's mad.

Speaker 2 (26:24):
You know what I mean?

Speaker 6 (26:25):
I'm like you mad at this shit, you know what
I mean? Like that should make me fucking man. And
so that's the problem that we had, you know what
I mean. So we haven't really had that problem as
much lately. And again it's all about like understanding.

Speaker 2 (26:41):
Damn, you're going through a battle of mad with a virgo.
They could keep her anger. It could keep some anger
a virgo could keep.

Speaker 3 (26:49):
Could just be mad just because now it's just because
I'm because I was mad. I'm just gonna be mad
until you do something about it. You're just mad, Like Yo,
that was six days ago. You're still mad, just as
mad today as you want six days ago. Like this
is Betty now, because you can't keep you can't still
be mad.

Speaker 6 (27:04):
And that's why I said we're so different. Like I'll
go out, I'll spend the hour think about it, think
of all right, what could I have done differently?

Speaker 2 (27:12):
This? That?

Speaker 6 (27:13):
And the third come back? It's like she ain't put
no thought into mind.

Speaker 2 (27:19):
Side.

Speaker 6 (27:20):
It's like, yo, she got more points, hasn't changed her.
It could be the next day, I could new information
could surface. It doesn't matter. Whatever I was mad, I'm
gonna stay mad until I ain't no more and could be.

Speaker 2 (27:33):
Six days old. That's one thing I don't like.

Speaker 3 (27:37):
Is when time goes by and you think, okay, let's talk,
we're gonna make up, and they come at you with
more reasons.

Speaker 2 (27:47):
Why they're right.

Speaker 5 (27:48):
Took me, took me thirty days to come up with
this perfect answer, and he just fucked it all.

Speaker 2 (27:53):
He just tripled down on some shit, tripled down like
you didn't want to make up, you just wanted to
be more right. Yo, that's mad annoying.

Speaker 6 (28:01):
One more thing that make me mad If I apologize,
I'm not apologizing because I think I was wrong or anything.
I'm just apologizing for the peace. And she'll take that
apologize and double down on how right she was. I'll
be like that should have made me mad because I'm like,
I'm not really apologizing. I'm just apologizing to keep the peace.

(28:24):
Like we could agree to disagree. That's my thing, Like
we don't have to understand each other, but we could
agree to disagree. Right, you may never understand my viewpoint.
So if I do that, because you know, as a
human being, it takes a lot to be in an argument,
to be in a fight, and then be like, you
know what I'm gonna just be the bigger person, so

(28:46):
that when you're the bigger person, and then that person
just like and it's like nigga, I try to extend
the Olive bridge and this is what I get That
should have.

Speaker 2 (28:57):
Made me mad.

Speaker 3 (28:58):
I'm gonna give the more real And this might be
because I'm petty. I don't like if I apologize and
you don't find something to apologize about.

Speaker 2 (29:06):
Nick, apologize back, you had a part in this.

Speaker 3 (29:09):
I'm coming, Like I said, I'm olive branching you, but
I'm going halfway across the lake.

Speaker 2 (29:14):
You have to come. Have you meet me in the middle. Exactly.

Speaker 3 (29:17):
No, they'd be like, no, pass it over here past
the Olive branch. I can't reach it, and that's it.
I don't like one way apologies and a relationship. We
both need to take accountability for where we got the
other person fucked up, and we move on right.

Speaker 2 (29:33):
Oftentimes the arguments dissipate though there is no solution, and
I've heard that isn't a good thing. Like if I
go I will go to bit mad.

Speaker 3 (29:46):
But because I'm not really good at holding on the anger,
I wake up not mad, or I wake up like
that was bullshit. Good morning, how you feeling you all right,
We'll get something to eat and that's it. We just
go off and that's it. Like I'm not even thinking
about it no more, you know what I'm saying. Do
y'all find that to be something that's is that bad?

Speaker 6 (30:04):
So it's funny, you know, in my you know, I'll
be on these YouTube rabbit holes and I found I
don't know if y'all heard of the Gotman Institute, but.

Speaker 2 (30:13):
They you what, the Godman man like milk. You know
what's probably.

Speaker 6 (30:23):
Is the last things a therapist. It's a husband and
wife therapist g O. T.

Speaker 2 (30:29):
T M. A N.

Speaker 6 (30:31):
Gotman Institute, and they have a bunch of videos on
YouTube and they are super dope, like on point with
being helpful with techniques and stuff. You know, everybody should
go to therapy, but there's things that you could do
outside of therapy, you know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (30:45):
Right?

Speaker 6 (30:46):
So I watched these videos and one of the good
points he was, like most arguments, there is no resolution,
There is no right wrong, and there is no concrete resolution.
It's just a matter of And that's why I'm big
on agree to disagree, Like there's you know, sometimes you
just move on, Like, Okay, it's just.

Speaker 5 (31:05):
Simply understanding both sides of the situation.

Speaker 6 (31:08):
Yeah, And you don't even have to really understand it.
It's just sometimes it just it is what it is.
Tomorrow's another day. We'll be fine, you know what I mean.
You know, so, I got a question, Yeah for the room.

Speaker 2 (31:20):
I'm sorry, Drew under the bus. Do you tell your
wife any everything? Do you always tell the truth to
your except for when that lie play?

Speaker 3 (31:34):
No, I'm dead ass? Do you always tell the truth
for the most part? Are there things that you would
like to say or things you don't feel comfortable talking
to her about?

Speaker 2 (31:51):
Mm?

Speaker 6 (31:51):
So good question, Like, I will always tell the truth
about I can't think of any time I haven't told
the truth. I may not your truth. So, and here's
the thing, this may not. This goes across the board,
just with people in general besides her, like, I may
not always divulge in my core how I'm feeling, like

(32:13):
to the exact t you know what I mean, I'll
it's because it's a part of picking battles. It's like,
all right, if I really tell you how annoyed I am,
it's just going to start an argument. So I might
not tell you that this has really bothered me, you know.

Speaker 2 (32:29):
What I mean.

Speaker 6 (32:30):
You might approach it differently though, or I might be like,
you know, I might approach it that has bothered me,
but not as I might not lead on as much
as it really is. But I feel like I do
that across the board. And I don't know, you could
call it being fake or whatever, but I call it like, listen,
I'm just I'm not trying to go back and forth
with anybody but everything that I'm feeling, Like, some times

(32:50):
it's just not worth it.

Speaker 2 (32:51):
It just ain't that serious.

Speaker 6 (32:52):
Like, you know, my thoughts are my thoughts, and I
don't need to share my inner thoughts exactly to the
tea with everybody. Sometimes it's just not productive, you know
what I mean?

Speaker 2 (33:02):
Do you take that your wife would want it? You
want you to?

Speaker 6 (33:06):
No, because I think I share enough where I'm not
hiding anything. I'm not lying of anything, I'm not asking
my feelings. But it's like again, like I don't think
that you need to really be like go into full
depth about every little thing that that bothers you. That's
my true I agree with.

Speaker 2 (33:25):
You. Don't say everything, no, not exactly. Why are you
looking at the screen, Bro, look at me, look at
the screen. Off. You want me to undo the zoom
so you can be yourself.

Speaker 5 (33:36):
At the Screen's not going to go thinking?

Speaker 2 (33:39):
I was thinking, No, you looked at the screen. I
seen you.

Speaker 3 (33:41):
I'm right, I'm looking at you. You look at the screen.
I can't look up you can you be yourself too?

Speaker 2 (33:46):
Are you scared? No? No, but no no, there aren't
much I don't dodge. So m h. I mean you
know our lifestyle, Yes, it is kind of as a
guy who's single ready to mingle, he definitely lies. When

(34:07):
you're dealing with a woman, say that you're you've got
you've been with her right saying your past relationships were
you one hundred percent honest with them about everything that
you were feeling in the beginning until it became not good?
What does that mean? So when I when I go.

Speaker 4 (34:24):
Into relationship, I usually try to go in with my
best foot forward. So I try to be as honest
and transparent as possible. And what I learned is that
kind of like what trauma is saying, you gotta pick
your battles one and everything don't need to be said right.
Like I'm different, I get annoyed about stuff that most
regular people don't get annoyed about. So and I have

(34:46):
to know that about myself. So I can't always say
every single thing because sometimes I'm tripping. Sometimes it's just
a me thing, and I gotta check myself with that.
So going into it, I used to try to be like, yo,
I don't want to your points how, I don't want
to hold it. I don't want to live with it.
I just want to say it. It comes to my mind.
I want to say it. But then how it's received,

(35:09):
how it comes off, that's more important than what I
actually meant. So I spent months and sometimes years in
relationships fighting against intent.

Speaker 2 (35:19):
Versus what I actually feel.

Speaker 4 (35:20):
Right, I could feel and think one thing, but how
I'm presenting it, how it's presented, how I'm saying it,
how I'm making somebody feel, it's different.

Speaker 2 (35:27):
So now I'm not being heard on what I'm.

Speaker 4 (35:29):
Said, She's not being understood, and we both are hurting
each other in the midst of me trying to just
quote be honest.

Speaker 5 (35:37):
But that's not a good partner, Like you said that,
because like that's how me and Dodge talk. Like if
I feel a certain way, we'll sit and talk about it.
You're like, all right, I see you feel this way,
and we'll have a conversation about it. Whether she agrees
with me or not, she hears me, and then either
we move past it, or if it's something that needs
to be not fixed but adjusted or be mindful of,

(36:00):
we do that. But if I go and to dodge
something and the first thing she just do is dismiss
it or get angry like yesterday's past relationships, that's that's
not a good partner.

Speaker 2 (36:11):
It's really not. I have a tendency to do that.

Speaker 3 (36:14):
You want to know why, because I can admit that
I'm not always the best partner.

Speaker 2 (36:19):
But are you working on it?

Speaker 3 (36:20):
Always? I think I continuously try? But that I think
I continuously try. Right, I as critical as I am
of everybody else. I think I'm twice as critical as myself.
And the fact that I shoot off quick leaves me room.
I'm always like, have to examine that. Why you went
off so hard? Did you go too hard? Where did
that come from? You know what I'm saying? Was it

(36:42):
a better way to communicate it?

Speaker 2 (36:44):
You feel me? But a lot of times, and I'm
not sure if I said this on hard to sof
if I said this on this shore, if I just
said this on wherever I examine people too much, I
have a tendency of figuring people out. So I'll make

(37:05):
a folder of your ways. The way you are, the
things you do. You interact with phone right right when
I interact with them, however with me, whether however I
perceive them to be, that's your that's your prototype in
my head, right, But I do it so much that
now when I see.

Speaker 3 (37:23):
You do it again, I get annoyed that you're doing
that thing. So now you could just be being yourself,
and it annoys me because I've figured you out.

Speaker 2 (37:34):
You understand what I'm saying.

Speaker 5 (37:36):
But if you figure them out, shouldn't should be able
to know whether it's.

Speaker 2 (37:39):
Just haven't gotten that good? I'm still chapping GBT one.
I haven't gotten.

Speaker 5 (37:43):
You know what I haven't gotten whether that's that's who
she is as a prison or she's just.

Speaker 3 (37:49):
And that's the that is a continuous battle in myself
is realizing you mad at somebody for being them.

Speaker 2 (37:57):
This is them.

Speaker 3 (37:58):
You know that you can't change person from being a person.
What you're doing is blaming them for being them because
you anticipated this, right. I was having a conversation with
Dodger the other day and she was like, you know
her so well, but you still have it. You don't
know how to avoid the things you know she's going

(38:21):
to do, or the reactions. You know she's gonna have
to a situation.

Speaker 5 (38:26):
So you'll do something knowing she's going to react this way,
still do it anyway.

Speaker 2 (38:29):
And wait for the reaction and then reaction. This is crazy.

Speaker 3 (38:36):
And so when I just told me, she's like friend, right,
and she's telling me about it, and I'm thinking about it,
like that's exactly what I did.

Speaker 2 (38:42):
I dug a hole and covered it with a carpet
and was like, yo.

Speaker 3 (38:47):
Come over here for a second. Knowing she's going to
fall into the hole. You understand what I'm saying, knowing and.

Speaker 5 (38:53):
Getting mad, Why the fuck you fall in this hole?

Speaker 2 (38:55):
Right?

Speaker 3 (38:56):
And So for my so I realized that that's a
problem that I have that I kind of I don't
want to say start the issues when I know I
can avoid them, or I just haven't figured her out to.

Speaker 2 (39:12):
A point where I know how to avoid it. I
just kind of anticipated.

Speaker 3 (39:18):
And so through the anticipation, patient I get anxious because
I know what's gonna happen, and.

Speaker 2 (39:23):
So I'm double ready to fight because I knew you
was gonna do that. I knew you was gonna do
that instead of figuring out how not to have to fight.
That's know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (39:35):
There's a click that we played yesterday on this podcast.
I'm gonna play it again because it's also about why
men lie right and the way we learn not to
tell the truth. I don't know, hopefully it comes up.
I know Instagram don't like me all the time.

Speaker 2 (39:57):
Let me see, a woman is like, tell me the truth.

Speaker 7 (40:02):
And then you tell them a truth and they don't
like that truth and they get really upset about that truth.
And as a woman, because we're motivated to not upset people,
they actually think that if you know how upset I
am about what's true for you, you will change what's
true for you. I really think that. But you guys
are smarter than that because it's been true for you

(40:24):
for a long time, and there were no problems until
you told her.

Speaker 2 (40:27):
I told you, Now there's problem.

Speaker 7 (40:29):
Now there's a problem. There was no problem before I
was out loud about it.

Speaker 2 (40:32):
There's no problem at all.

Speaker 7 (40:33):
And really honest men, just stop telling the truth because
it's not worth it. My conclusion is humans were born liars.
I've seen horses life, seen dogs life, and I've seen
oh absolutely yes natrue lies. So yeah, if you want honesty,
you have to always have the reward of the honesty

(40:54):
be greater than the cost of the honesty. It doesn't
mean you have to have no cost. You don't have
to pretend to be fine, but it has to be
you know what you can tell. I don't like that,
and I'm a little afraid it means I won't.

Speaker 2 (41:05):
Get it what I need.

Speaker 7 (41:06):
But you get a thousand points for telling me that.

Speaker 2 (41:10):
We're trained in a Pavlovian way. Like you asked for
the truth, we give the truth. Then you get mad.

Speaker 7 (41:15):
So then we're like, okay, well obviously telling the truth
is not a good idea.

Speaker 2 (41:18):
Yes, and then you start backtracking and she goes, well,
now you're lying, yes, yes.

Speaker 6 (41:22):
And then you're reading more trouble and you're like, I
gotta go.

Speaker 2 (41:25):
Yeah again, Yeah I get it. Yeah, absolutely.

Speaker 6 (41:29):
Is this an experience goes back to I experienced this
a lot, probably more when I was single. Like yesterday said,
I approach a relationship trying to be as honest as
possible until you realize, like, all right, you can't really
handle the truth. The ideal relationship it is just you
accept me for who I am and how I am
and all my you know, quirkiness things about me, you

(41:54):
know what I mean. That would be fucking the most ideal,
perfect relationship. I would love to be completely honest about
everything that I do, thing that I am, and how
I'm feeling. So if you enter a situation like that
hoping for the best, but then eventually you got to
scale back, all right, this didn't work.

Speaker 2 (42:09):
All right? You know people can't handle the truth. That's true.

Speaker 5 (42:16):
At one of my jobs, I realize a lot of
the guys they lie just to get pussy.

Speaker 2 (42:23):
M literally, but.

Speaker 5 (42:25):
Yeah, but like why you got a lot to get pussy,
Like pussy? Ain't that to me?

Speaker 2 (42:29):
Pussy? Ain't that strong? Bro?

Speaker 5 (42:30):
Like you can get pussy, just be honest, you can anybody.

Speaker 2 (42:35):
They can't. Niggas cannot get box. Niggas is too pressed
over getting box. They live.

Speaker 5 (42:41):
They lied to get the box. They don't lie to
to be in a relationship. They lie to get the box.

Speaker 2 (42:46):
I feel like lying to get the boxes cheating, it's sitting,
but every nigga does it. It's what do you think?
What do you think your representative is? It's a lie.
Your representative is a lie. That's not who you really are.

Speaker 1 (42:59):
You.

Speaker 2 (43:00):
If you're posing as this person and you don't do that,
don't don't point over there, don't point. You're posing as
this person to get to where you gotta get and
then after it, the facade slowly fades away. But that
is a lie. That's why relationships don't last.

Speaker 5 (43:22):
I've always been a person like I will never do
something that I'm not going to keep up. Like I
have this one homeboy that he used to buy mad
gifts for his girls. But if that's not if you're
not going to keep that up, why would you even
start that way?

Speaker 2 (43:37):
I'm not gonna do that. I can't.

Speaker 3 (43:39):
Are they girls that he already got the box from
before he gets that's truck.

Speaker 5 (43:45):
But that's I mean the same thing as lying. You
lying being this kind of person, but you're not. Then
once you get the box, you start a relationship maybe,
and then it slowly starts to dwindle down, like, oh,
you don't do this no more, you don't do this
I'm not gonna I'm not gonna do back up. I'm
gonna beat myself. No, no, not that important to me yesterday,

(44:06):
What was you gonna say?

Speaker 2 (44:08):
I agree with you.

Speaker 4 (44:09):
It's just not that deep to lie about it. I
feel like once you start happening to change who you
are just to get the box, I feel like, it's.

Speaker 2 (44:15):
What do y'all mean? Lie though?

Speaker 3 (44:18):
Like because every nigga, every person does it. To be honest,
Women played play the representative game as well.

Speaker 2 (44:25):
Bro.

Speaker 3 (44:26):
They act like they cool with some ship. They know
they want to try to change you. Later they know
that they're not cool with it, and then slowly but surely,
they start telling you or getting annoyed by certain ship
you do with.

Speaker 2 (44:37):
Why he posts your ship in SoundCloud? You know you
need to get you get a job, like you know
a rapper? You know that we met. There's a voice
I just not you. I know he wasn't your boy.

(44:59):
I know you boy.

Speaker 3 (45:00):
That's his first name. His first name was? What was
your first name? My picture in Discord today?

Speaker 2 (45:10):
Right, it was boy yesterday? It was boy yesterday? Right?
Zo boy? Why you eight?

Speaker 3 (45:17):
That was just my group name and college Zoo boy.
I think he was part of a frid or something.
All right, Yeah, I don't.

Speaker 2 (45:28):
Know why people say people don't lie. Y'all all lie.
Everybody lies. I feel like every single one of us
lies for this, But I feel like some women who's
gonna wear platform shoes to the wedding?

Speaker 5 (45:42):
I definitely was that was jokes because.

Speaker 2 (45:47):
I wanted to lie. That's a lie. It's not your jokes.

Speaker 5 (45:51):
It was all about the joke. And Dodge knows me,
so I would have done it just to be.

Speaker 2 (45:55):
Fun, hilarious. She walked up and you look at notud
have been mad for me, and she would have loved it.
She would like what the fuck she would have been?
I would have been crying. But whatich I gonna say that? Oh?
I was gonna say that.

Speaker 6 (46:10):
I feel like, and you know, I hate to say
shit like this without any woman over here to say
not today, but I feel like some women like to
be lied to. Like that's definitely that ninety eight percent. Yeah,
it's like the other two percent like women And.

Speaker 2 (46:29):
No, that's true.

Speaker 4 (46:30):
Yeah, because women, women would date niggas with fake jewelry
in the second No.

Speaker 2 (46:35):
I said this on the show yesterday.

Speaker 3 (46:37):
Nothing dries up the pussy like honesty, right, you lied
to what chicks? Shit be soaking wet the minute you
tell some sort of honesty that doesn't align with where
they want to be or something like that. But it
get dried up, dried up as motherfuckers arrod desert.

Speaker 2 (46:53):
Quick and find a pussy that doesn't dry up? Yeah,
how you gonna find it?

Speaker 3 (46:57):
Because you're talking about the people at your job. You
gotta you gotta wait till you're ready to give it
to you. But you talk about the people at your job.
A lot of niggas out here is not getting pussy.
A lot of niggas is angry at women because they
do not have the access they perceive.

Speaker 2 (47:12):
Other men to have.

Speaker 3 (47:13):
They don't have the game, they don't have the materials,
they don't have none of that, and so they get
mad at the women, try to tear the women down
because they feel like resentment towards them for not getting
no pussy.

Speaker 5 (47:28):
But that's why you gotta date somebody on your level?

Speaker 2 (47:30):
What level is these niggas on? You broke another broke pitch?
The broke chicks don't just because you broke broke. The athletes, well,
that's because they're pretty. I'm just saying, come on, there's
some there's something, there's some hit us out here. You
could just that's not crazy what you're saying right now.
You gotta pick anything, like some good quality women that

(47:54):
like broke me. Start with some hood reds.

Speaker 5 (47:56):
You know you're probably not as good looking as you
think you are and you broke bro Come on such
as that. The broke bitches getting the athletes stay bad bitches,
they look good. The nigga that's not getting the bad
bitch ugly lower standards.

Speaker 3 (48:12):
This is a privileged nigga talking. This is crazy. Yes,
because you get choice. So the fact is that you
like you get the choices. You got married, you're good,
you got it bad. This is before this, nigga. If
you were struggling, you were getting women, you would not
be like, yeah, I'm just going to pick anybody to
have sex with.

Speaker 2 (48:28):
No, you still want what you want.

Speaker 5 (48:31):
I wasn't really going after bitches when I was struggling, though.

Speaker 2 (48:34):
What was you doing? Trying to work, trying to get
some money. Yeah that's it.

Speaker 5 (48:39):
But if somebody, if I'm like at work and somebody
hits on me, I'm I'm definitely taking a bait.

Speaker 2 (48:45):
It was never a point.

Speaker 6 (48:46):
In my life where I'm like, I'm gonna take some
time off of going after women. Get my life to you,
I'm gonna do.

Speaker 3 (48:54):
Everything I can figure out how to get women. That's
the main goal is to figure out how or.

Speaker 2 (49:00):
What do they like.

Speaker 3 (49:02):
They like niggas with this type of hair, we get
that type of hair, they like with this kind of car,
getting card.

Speaker 6 (49:08):
Seeing this conversation on the internet a lot like you know,
men shouldn't date until they got their ship together, and
I'm like together.

Speaker 5 (49:14):
But like I'm talking, there was a point where I
was working at this.

Speaker 2 (49:21):
Print shop.

Speaker 5 (49:23):
I ain't get paid in two weeks because the ship
was going out of business.

Speaker 2 (49:26):
I had.

Speaker 5 (49:26):
That was my only job. I still have bills to pay,
I had car nos, I had everything. I'm talking about
that kind of struggle. I'm not talking about, oh, like
I'm not making six figures or something. I'm not talking
talking about that kind of success. I'm talking about I
was really down bad. My last pairs of shoes had
fucking holes in them. They're talking back to me, I'm
talking about that down.

Speaker 2 (49:44):
There, and your dicks.

Speaker 6 (49:46):
Calling something up like I'm still calling something tonight.

Speaker 5 (49:53):
I had nothing, I wasn't thinking about that.

Speaker 2 (49:55):
Yeah, niggas never had a hole at the bottom, ye sneaker,
He don't know, damn yes, the.

Speaker 3 (50:01):
Somebody could have Bobby Nobody. Yeah, you wasn't interested in
girls with the like I can't let it go. You
just keep your feet flat. But I wasn't approaching women.
I wasn't going to try to back bitches. But if
they try to talk to me, definitely, I'm taking that.

Speaker 2 (50:17):
You mean to your pursuit. You wasn't in pursuing women,
not at all. I'm all I was always in pursuit
all the time. What was your dickstol works.

Speaker 3 (50:27):
That's surprising, that's amazing. Shout out to that. Yeah, shout
out to that. I think you reach for the bell.
But thank you, thank you for that.

Speaker 2 (50:35):
It is surprising. I can't believe it myself.

Speaker 3 (50:42):
I think the issue which was talking about that is
women teach us not to tell them the truth and
then blame us for lying. Yeah yeah, when and they like,
well why stay with her? Because I love you? But
I also don't like arguing. I don't like the disappointment
and that you get from my truth. Do you agree

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with this? Do you agree with this? Anybody, I hear
a bunch of yeses.

Speaker 5 (51:07):
Yeah, I'm trying to see I can see the I
can see why it's true.

Speaker 2 (51:12):
Yeah, do you think that it's a question?

Speaker 3 (51:16):
Okay, do y'all think that every woman that does not
allow you to tell her the truth in a way
that's gracious, that you should leave her?

Speaker 6 (51:25):
I think there's levels to it, because I think that,
like we talked about, like to some extent, you're not
gonna be keeping a buck with anybody, you know what
I mean. There's always gonna be some levels of like,
all right, I shouldn't share that with any human being,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (51:42):
That's at least for me.

Speaker 6 (51:43):
I think yesterday was kind of echoing the scene you
would I would love to walk into a situation and
do that, but eventually you're gonna have to scale it back.

Speaker 2 (51:50):
There's nothing wrong with easing into it.

Speaker 6 (51:52):
So it really depends on like, is it a big
ticket item that you can't share that, you know what
I mean? Or is it just something small, you know
what I mean? Just gotta figure out what you're non
negotiables or and shit like that.

Speaker 4 (52:04):
And sometimes it's not about not sharing it. Sometimes it's
just figuring out how to repackage it.

Speaker 2 (52:10):
Repackage it? What do you mean by that?

Speaker 4 (52:12):
Because sometimes like as a truth, like I think like
you're trying to say trum like when you're trying to
deliver something. It's like you know, when you kind of
just sit back for a second and just think about it,
It's like, Yo, my initiale thought that could have landed badly,
But once I think about it, maybe repackage it, say
it in a different way.

Speaker 2 (52:28):
So I still get my point off.

Speaker 4 (52:29):
I get my feelings off, but it's not landing in
the way that's hurtful.

Speaker 2 (52:36):
Usually I get a better result from that. I have
gotten better results from that. Are you what world do
you live in? Yesterday? The truth is what world talking about?

Speaker 3 (52:45):
No, seriously, I want to know, because no, I want
to Yo, do you mind telling the truth to us?

Speaker 2 (52:52):
Because what are you talking about? You think that I'm lying? No,
I know you're not. You might be lying to yourself.
You might not even be purposely lying to me, but
that's what the clips. You might be lying to yourself
thinking that this is what you do. When I have
been I speak to you, you know this is not
this is not fair. When do you repackage. I repackaged

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all the time, and you repackage with more of your
non accountability.

Speaker 4 (53:18):
No, bro, let's see, this is the thing you don't
know me in a relationship. You've never seen in a relationship.
You have never been.

Speaker 2 (53:24):
Seen in a relationship. No, okay, when put me on
not relating the people dealing with the relationship with another person,
tell me when you're god, you got it. Okay, So you're.

Speaker 4 (53:37):
Seeing me in a different states, so yes, and where
I'm at here.

Speaker 2 (53:42):
Yeah, it's different. When you don't have.

Speaker 3 (53:47):
A connection to somebody, you might go through these things
that I'm talking about, But when you do have a
deeper connection, more to lose more feelings, you find a
way to not go through the things I'm talking about.
It's what you're saying, the things that I've seen you exhibit.
Do you only go through those things with the people
you don't really care about, but the people you really

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do care about know somehow you miraculously get past that.

Speaker 4 (54:14):
Yeah, bro, I've been in relationships for five years, three years,
four years, Like you think that just happens just because
what is the other person?

Speaker 2 (54:23):
They just they just were so great They de ellogate
talking about the truth. It's documented, but I don't have
to have to liae for trying to give me the
I'm like, what do you think it's truth?

Speaker 3 (54:39):
Okay, I'll leave it alone. Yeah, you got it, you
got it. Oh, I don't want to play this one.

Speaker 8 (54:47):
Some men don't want to be faithful, then why would
they agree to being in a committed monogamous relationship. Former
NBA star and media personality Matt Barnes was on the
Truth after Dark podcast and he was asked as exact question.
Although he didn't answer it in any specific or certain terms,
what I feel like he was alluding to was that

(55:07):
men and women value sex differently. And yes, we've heard
this before, but I think if I could take a
stab at what he may have meant been the underbelly
of exactly what he may get to that men in
general do not have a problem with monogamy. And in fact,
I think that some men think that they actually are
practicing monogamy. And this is even if they do decide

(55:28):
to have sex outside of their relationship. And I know
that sounds counterintuitive.

Speaker 2 (55:31):
But just follow me.

Speaker 8 (55:32):
For men, it is less about the sexual act and
the sexual exclusivity to just you as their women, and
more about their devotion, loyalty, and commitment to provide and
be there for you.

Speaker 2 (55:45):
As a partner.

Speaker 8 (55:46):
Now, I'm not a man, never been a man. I
don't know what it's like to be a man. So
I don't know if that's exactly what he meant, but
based on what he didn't say, trying to piece the
puzzle together, it seems like that's what he was suggesting.
He also alluded to the two imitations that many men
face that are in high profile careers, positions, social circles,
and even sometimes the average god. So this is the thing, ladies,

(56:08):
I'm just saying, you know, when men are being this
vulnerable and they are willing to share in what they
feel or what they think about these kind of topics.
I know that sometimes we want to turn our ears off,
but I think that that's irresponsible. When they are talking,
we need to listen, even if it's not what we
want to hear. The major takeaway as women that I
feel that we need to embark on is having these

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kind of conversations with our partners openly and honestly.

Speaker 2 (56:33):
Things like explain to me what she was saying. I
wanted to go into.

Speaker 3 (56:43):
Non monogamy and the reasons why men get into monogamous
relationships even if a part of them doesn't necessarily want
to be monogamous.

Speaker 2 (56:55):
Right, you are in a monogamoush somewhat situation? Am I right?
How would you classify y'all think? Just so many times?
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (57:07):
I just I just leave it under non monogamy ethical
non monogamy.

Speaker 2 (57:13):
Has that always been your vibe in your life? No?

Speaker 5 (57:18):
No, It's something I had to figure out about myself.

Speaker 3 (57:21):
So you so you were in monogamous relationships before you
were happy in monogamous relationships before happy?

Speaker 2 (57:27):
Ish? What was the difference?

Speaker 5 (57:31):
Freedom?

Speaker 2 (57:33):
You gotta give me more than one words of podcast.

Speaker 3 (57:36):
You gotta speak like you're talking to me in the
hotel room without the mics.

Speaker 5 (57:40):
Just talk with me exactly who I am, all the
king everything.

Speaker 2 (57:46):
How do you tell that to somebody? You gotta ease
into it, You gotta you know, So you need to
lie at first, No, not a lie.

Speaker 5 (57:53):
Just like, hey, how you feel about this? How do
you feel about that? Little things? See in the bedroom?
If people like, hey, you want to try something little, you.

Speaker 2 (58:03):
Wouldn't try You wouldn't try to let me go for
somebody else, but non monogamy.

Speaker 5 (58:14):
I think you just have to be pretty much open
with that because why waste her time going into it?

Speaker 2 (58:21):
Yeah, just don't waste her time. Bro mm hmm.

Speaker 5 (58:24):
It's like I said, pussy, ain't that trump.

Speaker 3 (58:27):
Over the course of the years that I've known you,
you have been known to deal with several women at
the time, several women at the time. You wound up saying,
you know what, I'm settled down, I want to be
with one person.

Speaker 2 (58:39):
I'm good. What was that choice? Like? Why? So?

Speaker 6 (58:43):
I said? You know, back in those days, I was like, man,
I love versatility, I love having different options, and you know,
I thought I was always going to be like that,
but I realized that there's always a give and take,
and I realized that the problems that come with that.

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Eventually it just wasn't worth it for me, you know
what I mean. And again, I can't stress this enough.
Now I'm at the point where like peace and peace
of mind is more important than all the other shit,
all the fun, you know what I mean, and the freedom.
Nothing against that, but it's just not as high a
priority for me anymore. And I don't even miss it

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at all.

Speaker 3 (59:28):
I don't, so you don't think he was ever really
not monogamous, you're just trying to find your person.

Speaker 6 (59:35):
I wasn't really trying to find my person.

Speaker 2 (59:38):
I never was.

Speaker 6 (59:40):
It just kind of happened, And I feel good about
that because I was never actively looking. So the fact
that I met her it means that much more to me,
you know what I mean. It's not like I was looking,
but yeah, I feel like so you know me, like
when I was casually dating, I used to always have

(01:00:00):
problems and complications because I'm the type where I want
I want to have different situationships, but I want to
treat them all like wife, you know what I mean
to an extent, like you know what I mean, just because.

Speaker 2 (01:00:13):
That's how you was.

Speaker 3 (01:00:14):
Yeah, I just he had a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday.

Speaker 2 (01:00:18):
Like that's how it was.

Speaker 5 (01:00:18):
If it only became a problem if you weren't telling
them that it was so being monogamous but still dating
around to find your person, because you know how much
time it takes to date one person for six months,
and just like you could bull these bitches to the
side and then you find out she's not the one.
Now you got to try to bring all these bitches
back like.

Speaker 2 (01:00:37):
The problem I had.

Speaker 6 (01:00:38):
You could be as honist, like you could tell them
every day you're not the only one. If your actions
aren't aligned with your words, it's a problem. Because I
realized that I was too loving, and then there were
just certain things that I would.

Speaker 2 (01:00:56):
Doing them like she was the only one, but she wasn't.

Speaker 6 (01:00:58):
Right, or like there was certain things like I wasn't
I'm not the type like I know niggas would be like,
oh you let her sleep over and shit like that,
like yeah, I was lettericks to spend the weekend with me,
have breakfast and all types of shit. So it's like
I was doing too much, you know what I mean.
They would know all my friends like Tahoe, so it's
like naturally they would feel like they had a part

(01:01:18):
in my life. And then but then they would leave,
and then I call the next one and then I'll
do the same thing over. And I loved it. The
versatility was great. I never was never bored. But when
the ship, when the ship hits the fan, it hits
the fan in a bad way.

Speaker 2 (01:01:34):
Really problem hit the fan.

Speaker 6 (01:01:38):
I've had too many instances and it's like I just
wasn't I'm not proud of who I was. It was
never intentional, but you know, it's like, you know, it's
no way, it's no way to live. I never like,
I wasn't out there like disrespecting ladies, but you know
what I mean, Like you have to be gentle with

(01:01:58):
a woman's heart, you know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (01:02:00):
And I wasn't. So you know I.

Speaker 6 (01:02:03):
Realized now, like yeah, versatility and all that ship, having
all these options, it's fun, but at what price, you
know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (01:02:11):
So fuck these because they're not gentle.

Speaker 3 (01:02:15):
I was about to go to you, yes and ask
you about it, but they're not fucking gentle. Right, I'm
on Twitter today, Right, I got a person that I.

Speaker 2 (01:02:22):
Like talking to on Twitter.

Speaker 3 (01:02:23):
She's cool shit, right, She's told she's asked us on Twitter.

Speaker 2 (01:02:27):
She's like, is it fellas? Would you feel a way
if you tried to holler at a chick and she
told you she's not interested in you, but she's interested
in your friend, would y'all feel with no, no, at all?

Speaker 6 (01:02:45):
I'm all right that I wouldn't like I mean, I mean,
I feel like your ego might hurt a little bit.

Speaker 2 (01:02:55):
My ego would be absolutely bruised. You rude bitch. Don't
find the way.

Speaker 3 (01:02:59):
You can't screenshot this nigga and put him in Google
images or something.

Speaker 2 (01:03:03):
Why are you fucking asking me for my friend? I'm
telling you, you know how much, you know how much
it took for me to try to bag you, to
come up with the right words to finally make my move,
and you just slapped my hand away and point, hey,
go get your friend for me right now.

Speaker 5 (01:03:20):
But you gotta flip it. You gotta be easy, like damn.
That hurt my ego a little bit, but I got you, girl.
Come on, it's not gonna hurt you. You don't care
for this woman, so it's not gonna hurt you that that.

Speaker 2 (01:03:31):
Hurt my egoft my ego. Come on, I'm gonna introduce you.
I got to introduce your ris. Go bag him yourself.
You got.

Speaker 3 (01:03:44):
It's not hate, but it's not hate on him. No,
I'm probably hating in some way, but not on my friend.
I just why are you asking me right now? I'm
trying to bag you. You want me to go get
somebody else to bag you?

Speaker 2 (01:03:58):
What the fuck? Why they hate? If the situation? Well,
I'm a whole person. You got any friends here? Hit
me with one of your friends to swap it. If
the situation in the rat, we could swap it out.
If the situation was reversed, that would be you be
a foul nigga for that. If S came to you'd
be like, what about? What about man stands everywhere? A

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couple of standards everywhere.

Speaker 3 (01:04:25):
I'm allowed to have feelings and know you can bag
them yourself.

Speaker 2 (01:04:28):
I'm not gonna be like, yo, you can't talk to
what what? What kind of bit should we turn it down? Though?
Like she gotta be like hit for us to really
turn her down. What if her friend is really just
turned down batties every day, he's turned down cheeks all
the time. I remember, Yo, it's she said, hate me
because I turned them down and they thought it was
going to be easy. And they still hate me to

(01:04:48):
this day.

Speaker 3 (01:04:50):
Because but I already knew me and your personality ain't
gonna work out. I was gonna say, and I don't
like the people you be around, y'all mixing, messy, and.

Speaker 5 (01:04:58):
If you're talking to me, you might be trying to hit.
I think a woman that's trying to talk to you first,
they probably try to.

Speaker 2 (01:05:02):
Hit, so so all pussy and good pussy definitely agree
with that. I'm not just I'm just because you got one,
don't mean I need it. Keep it.

Speaker 5 (01:05:10):
You know, because you're talking about personality. What personality you
gotta do is smashing.

Speaker 2 (01:05:14):
If I already dick sexfl fuck your dick will fuck
some shut up.

Speaker 3 (01:05:19):
My dick has literally only worked one time with my wife,
the only time it's been.

Speaker 2 (01:05:25):
Every other situation has gone down in flames. I'm talking about.

Speaker 3 (01:05:31):
I have many fires all over the globe like that.

Speaker 2 (01:05:35):
I've fucked up situations with my dick. Why would I
if I already know this is not gonna work out,
I'm really not that interested. Why would I do that?

Speaker 6 (01:05:44):
And it's a small world, it's a small city. Like
you might run into you again. Your personality could be
could cause problems in the future, you know what I mean?
You pop up again at another party, like, should here
you go again? I should have never smashed.

Speaker 2 (01:05:58):
You never had that feeling? You should have never sm
you never had that.

Speaker 5 (01:06:02):
Yeah, but like if I run into you again, I'm
I'm gonna I'm gonna say, what was that?

Speaker 2 (01:06:05):
What was that? I should have never smashed? Feeling about
what happened? It was just trash. That was it. Oh
the pussy was gone.

Speaker 5 (01:06:12):
Wasn't a personality, It wasn't in your car, never got
kid ship like that.

Speaker 2 (01:06:17):
I've had several cars keid, windows broken.

Speaker 3 (01:06:21):
I got to fight with one in the club, remember
dash Mm hmm, Well I didn't fight him. Definitely poor
drink champagne on her and I think got through an
ice bucket. I want anger issues, anger shoes.

Speaker 2 (01:06:40):
But I was mad because she sucked him after she
fucked me the next week. I wasn't mad. I was
mad that she wouldn't trying to my other friend too, like,
all right, you leave me for my man, and I

(01:07:00):
didn't want to mess with it no more. It was cool, right,
I messed with my man. Cool? Cool. But then the
week after she sent the boy the man's left. I'm like, yet,
what you think this is for the street? My ego was,
My ego was super broken in me. I've been I've
been playing at the train next.

Speaker 6 (01:07:17):
The funny shit is I was just thinking about this
the other day because I'm like and all all of
our years of being out, we never bumped heads because
we didn't attract the same type of woman.

Speaker 2 (01:07:26):
But this one, like everybody. You really just going after
the crew, like that's not back in the day, I
said that, and.

Speaker 3 (01:07:34):
She actually wound up years later she I wound up
becoming cool with her and she.

Speaker 2 (01:07:38):
Was actually a good person. She was a cool person.
I think that was just her like she was mad.
She was mad cool later later mat in life and
we could have been friends. Why can't trust to be
friends now?

Speaker 3 (01:07:55):
But at the time, my ego was, you don't realize
how much happens because of the ego as a man,
your ego, ego.

Speaker 2 (01:08:02):
You don't have ego because you're short. I have ego much,
but still start with a file.

Speaker 3 (01:08:11):
Yeah, I mean when I'm at the high five you're
not the load say five because you can't really say
when people actually you can't really say your height, like
you got to be like what you mean?

Speaker 2 (01:08:26):
Yes, today you consider yourself to be monogamous. I'm actually
on a journey to figure that out right now? What
is that here? Everything? What is the journey? Yeah? You know,
you know you have no idea. Wait for him to
make his his He's got a whole thing going up.

Speaker 5 (01:08:49):
At the party and sit and watch all y'all do
what Just watch because y'all the way y'all be talking
about on the other ship, Yeah, party, what you talking about?

Speaker 2 (01:09:02):
What you mean you would have watched what how yesterday moved?
Because like the way you the way you talk about him,
I don't want.

Speaker 4 (01:09:10):
To see what he really and you see, Drew, this
is why I tell him all the time his narratives
is important because he says ship and did people.

Speaker 2 (01:09:17):
Be like he'd be, he'd be wilding out. I know
what moves you want to watch? Yesterday? Do move? What
are you talking about? You saying you want to see
my bag? Drew, like we're back like with slute? What what?
What bag is he talking about? Yes, we're talking about Yeah,
I think the riz bag. I think that's what like

(01:09:38):
bagging a chicken. A regular. We're not talking about play party.

Speaker 5 (01:09:40):
Any party, any party, play party, regular party.

Speaker 2 (01:09:45):
The way you be doing the narrative, I'm like, okay.

Speaker 3 (01:09:48):
Let me let me see as far as what just
any But you don't ever, I don't have risen parties
I'm talking about Okay, whenever you're talking about, yes, you
don't go into details, so I don't know the whole stories.
I was like, all right, I got this nigga is hilarious. No,
he's hilarious. This nigg is a bag. I don't see
I'm not going.

Speaker 2 (01:10:08):
That's what I said. I need to see it. I'm
not gonna see this. That's hate. You're not gonnaut on
a good ship, but on the ship that How do
you know I was gonna say something good. I just
said you was jokes. You think that's good stuff? You
want me to say it ahead because you're gonna hate me.

Speaker 6 (01:10:25):
After you said you don't have Riz at parties.

Speaker 2 (01:10:28):
No, really, that's a lie. I haven't part with you.
You don't think in a party versus.

Speaker 3 (01:10:36):
I don't think I've ever bagged the chick in the
Maybe if we've gone to say, you and me right
over the years, were going to one hundred parties, I
bag two girls, the ones that like.

Speaker 2 (01:10:46):
Me, bag me, okay, right, the chicks that like you.
They walk up to you, you start talking, this guy cool.
You know I can play from here, chicks that I like,
chicks that I find interesting. I'm the worst. I'm all
real and just that. Zero risk, zero risk.

Speaker 3 (01:11:03):
I've seen niggas like say Loon walk up to a
chick from nowhere. Riz are out next thing he got
at the bar.

Speaker 2 (01:11:11):
He don't even drink.

Speaker 3 (01:11:11):
He talking out of that. He bags one thing and
it's nothing. He's just walking through the party. Just whatever,
do me. I'll be like, it's just not it's not
a good look and start doing that. Yeah, the angry eyes.

Speaker 2 (01:11:27):
Yeah no, I'm not.

Speaker 3 (01:11:28):
I'm not good at it. I'm not good at posing.
If you bag me, if we talk somewhere else. I'm
better at meeting us Starbucks. I'm better at meeting you ship.
Somebody might be on the train. I'm way better at
that than in a social setting.

Speaker 2 (01:11:42):
When you're wearing your girls and music is loud and
it's just too much pressure.

Speaker 6 (01:11:48):
He still always impressed me with that, like you could
we could be anyway. You hop out a car and
talk to walking down the street, Like, what do you
say to a chick that's walking on the block. At
least in a social environment, their guard is down there there.

Speaker 2 (01:12:00):
Had to socialize and potentially way better hopping out of cars.

Speaker 4 (01:12:03):
You know how they say, Nicks, some niggas is good
on the blacktops, some niggas good in the gym.

Speaker 2 (01:12:07):
Which one is the blacktop? Black? I think, yeah, it's
the like on the on the gold crazy.

Speaker 3 (01:12:14):
I'm actually was way better in street ball than I
was in organized Yeah, I can see that I was
way better at street ball going crazy then the minute
like it's the referee and.

Speaker 2 (01:12:27):
Yeah I was great and I was great. Jobs. Why
do you do that? Why do you do that? To
find his way? Give me back in the show. You
could never do too many short jokes with this niggas.
He's like, all right, bet facts at jab or all right,
I got a bunch of board villers, Let's go. What

(01:12:49):
did I talk? What was the last one? Why do
men get in relationships monogamy? I don't know what this is.
Let me see, I love my husband.

Speaker 9 (01:12:59):
I don't trust my husband, and he knows that every
man is one stupid mistake away from exploding his whole life.

Speaker 2 (01:13:06):
Don't you think that every woman is also one's Mike?

Speaker 9 (01:13:09):
I think we cheat, but we meant to do it,
like we'll have premeditated affairs. We've already been in love
with him for eighteen months. I think a respectable husband
and bother can leave the house one day with good
intentions a.

Speaker 8 (01:13:21):
Brand new person they didn't know existed, slip.

Speaker 2 (01:13:24):
Into a sex worker. You know, like I just don't
trust them, any of them.

Speaker 3 (01:13:27):
Interesting.

Speaker 9 (01:13:28):
I think twenty years from now, having a dick will
qualify you for disability insurance.

Speaker 2 (01:13:34):
I'm in a good marriage.

Speaker 9 (01:13:35):
I don't know how I landed on that, and I
tell people I'm in my fifth and final year of marriage.

Speaker 4 (01:13:41):
Are you Yeah?

Speaker 9 (01:13:42):
Maybe I see a bit. When we were younger, he
did so. He was my high school boyfriend. Yeah, and
he split up with me at the prom.

Speaker 2 (01:13:50):
And I didn't even think someone could break your heart
aware of the dr but he did it to the
song Lady in Red, and he kissed other girls. She
was a child, you know, he was like seventeen. Still
it's forever. But I do believe I haven't let him forget.
They need a new thing, so white people.

Speaker 5 (01:14:14):
What she thinks a random, sporadic hookup is worse than
a eighteen months planned out he meditated.

Speaker 2 (01:14:22):
That's crazy, Yo's all right, Damn, I ain't even peep
that well. She said I could be in love with
him for eighteen months. It's premeditated. She planned this shit
for eighteen months. One thing she was saying is worse.
She's just saying that she doesn't trust.

Speaker 3 (01:14:37):
That's demonic, though it is eighteen months of consistent talking
to somebody, calling them planning, like you really falling for.

Speaker 2 (01:14:47):
This person like you, that's horrible. It is versus me
going to the club and get my dicksuck in the bathroom.

Speaker 6 (01:14:52):
Like oh shit, I just got I just cheat it
because with the you know, you're getting your dicksuck in
the bathroom. She ain't see that coming. She's like, Yo,
everything is perfect, You're the perfect dude. Everything is straight.
You're getting everything that you need, You're satisfied at home,
and you're still liable to go do that. So I
can understand her like her fear of that, because it's
like there's nothing I could do about it, at least

(01:15:13):
as a man. If you're providing what your woman needs
for the most part, you probably don't have to worry
about her having an eighteen month secret affair.

Speaker 2 (01:15:23):
That's not true. Except for the most part, that's not true.
It's not true.

Speaker 3 (01:15:28):
Familiarity right, people will have a whole fling going at
work and it's not. It just hasn't matured yet because
there's no reason for her.

Speaker 2 (01:15:38):
To do it.

Speaker 6 (01:15:38):
People or women. I'm talking about women, you're talking about
women with a man. With a man too, right, But
don't women typically do that when there's something when there's
a void.

Speaker 4 (01:15:50):
Well, I find that even when there's not a void,
women do that, but they do it in a way
where they'll acknowledge the situation, right, so they'll know, like, Okay,
I might want to fuck him, he wants to fuck me,
but I'm gonna just keep it all nice. I'm not
going to go too hard. But when I want it activated,
I can impress. I can hit that red button at

(01:16:12):
any time. So they just keep a bunch of red
buttons in the top bag for the red button. Yeah,
I mean is that's Little's term of back pocket nigga.

Speaker 2 (01:16:23):
Basically, what y'are telling me is that not cheating. That definitely, definitely.

Speaker 3 (01:16:28):
Definite having somebody around you that you know, keeping somebody
around you that you know wants to be and you
know you would be giving the opportunity if you this
relationship does not knowing that it can happen like that.
That's what I'm saying. That's the red button. Knowing that
I don't have none of that in my life. I
know there's a bunch of chicks that I can fuck,
I don't keep them around. I don't think about it.

(01:16:51):
There is no storage, there's no call away. I have
nothing like that in my life, nothing like that in
my life, because I already know the minute I do that,
ship is already on the down line.

Speaker 2 (01:17:01):
The minute I do that.

Speaker 3 (01:17:02):
It's almost like, and I said this on Twitter, the
minute you start playing the cheat. The minute you cheat
one time, that's like going to the bathroom when you're
drunk for the first time. Once you break the seal,
it's over. You're going to keep going back to the bathroom.
You're gonna keep going back to the bathrooms.

Speaker 2 (01:17:17):
It's already over. You know what I'm saying. Then you
start creating issues at home just to justify the cheat,
to justify the cheat and justify your You understand what
I'm saying. And so I don't entertain none of it.
And I agree.

Speaker 6 (01:17:32):
So at this point in my life, I don't have
any of that either. But at once here's the thing,
and it's the dangerous part about being in a relationship
that has like turmoil. When we were in our phase
when we were like breaking up, get back together, having
arguments on the fence, and I'm like, I don't know
if I could do this. That's when just naturally survival mode,

(01:17:53):
you start to imagine your life being single again, what
would I do?

Speaker 2 (01:17:58):
Would I date? Am I gonna be so? A bit
like who what? Element? That's just a brief thought and
everything more. I don't think I've ever heard a man
say that before he heard a man say celibation. It's
a brief thought.

Speaker 6 (01:18:10):
I'm just saying, right, But you you think about it,
You think about your options, and you think about what
would life be like, and naturally like all right, well,
especially for me, like if I'm gonna if it's like
a depressing situation where you're going to argument, your relationship
might be doomed, You're like, fuck, you try to make
yourself feel better, all right, Okay, what's the other side

(01:18:31):
of this? Look like, what are the positives in this?
You might think of, damn, there's somebody that I might
have had my eye on. Okay, Now I can maybe
pursue that versus once you pass that phase, Like I said,
now I'm in a more secure position in my relationship
where that's off the table. We're not thinking about breaking up.
So I'm with Tahold now like I don't have that.
But at one point relationship you had thoughts of like,

(01:18:54):
all right, well what would it what would my life
be like?

Speaker 2 (01:18:58):
What would I do?

Speaker 1 (01:18:59):
You?

Speaker 2 (01:18:59):
You better than me?

Speaker 3 (01:19:00):
Because every single chick that I thought I could get
with when I was in a relationship, when I broke up,
there was like psych.

Speaker 2 (01:19:10):
Just kidding. I was kidding. You're like, yo, I thought
we had a thing and we're like no, no, I
have a man. Just like oh yeah, man, kid family,
I live in fucking Arkansas. You were just here. I
broke up with my girlfriend. It's cool, Like it's they

(01:19:32):
never panned out. All of that. Women giving you attention
when you're in a relationship, they're thinking that it's gonna
be something. No, no, nigga, she does liked you because
trying to get your attention because you're in a relationship.
That ship ain't going nowhere. Trying to say she could
break that s women do it. Niggas will fuck you bitch.
The nigga that's sitting around waiting, he was a fucking yeah,

(01:19:54):
he'll be here and he's waiting patiently her for sure.

Speaker 3 (01:20:02):
Stefan Diggs asked, nigga, nigga want to be laid on
a boat with your bitch?

Speaker 2 (01:20:09):
He will treat her well too, until he don't. What
would you saying?

Speaker 5 (01:20:14):
I was about to ask, what's the longest you waited
on the chick to be?

Speaker 2 (01:20:17):
Oh? Yeah, you just how many years I remember seeing
a girl? What was it? Oh? God, when was this?

Speaker 3 (01:20:25):
Maybe two months ago? I seen this girl, another girl
that I knew, maybe since I was fourteen.

Speaker 2 (01:20:36):
I'm fifty.

Speaker 3 (01:20:38):
She's like, oh, I was like, it used to be
so mean when he was young. I was like, used
to be so fucking mean when he was young. She's like, no,
it's probably because I had a question on you.

Speaker 2 (01:20:51):
You tell me what thirty six years later? You know
what I'm saying. If I wasn't in a relationship, I
could kill just for the fact, just for the fact
you only used to like her when was like twelve
years old. Now you're telling me thirty something years later. Yeah, nigga, shit,
I waited out. I waited the fuck out. The only

(01:21:13):
thing I won't do, I promise you, is act like
I'm a friend. I will not act like i'm your friend.

Speaker 3 (01:21:20):
Even if I'm friendly with a girl and we're cool
like that, I will tell her I want to have
sex with you. I'm telling you that now I'm not
your friend. Don't look at me like that. You know
what I'm saying, I want to have sex with you.
I don't think that's ever worked, but it's my truth.

Speaker 2 (01:21:36):
Yeah. No, at least she ain't like a slimmy No, no, no.

Speaker 3 (01:21:39):
I ain't that nigga. I ain't the nigga that you
try to keep a woman around. And you know what
I'm saying, be around her hoping to sliding. Now I'm
not because I'm too inappropriate. I'm always going to be
like now, yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:21:48):
It's fat right in front of her box.

Speaker 1 (01:21:53):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:21:54):
No, I'm gonna tell her that's one time. It's a
one time for the one time. I mean, just once, ma,
just once.

Speaker 2 (01:22:02):
Man. You have a you have a turn, you have
a convert a chick. You ever get out the friend zone?
You have a chick? Do you in the friend zone? Yesterday?
Oh yeah, and you got up out of there? How
you got out the friend zone? All right, y'all we
ended that at first part right here.

Speaker 3 (01:22:17):
Tune in this Thursday to see how Yesterday gets out
of the friend zone. Oh my god, this guy is hilarious.
Gray episode with Drew Yesterday and Trauma.

Speaker 2 (01:22:34):
You guys can go over to the patrear right now,
listen to the whole episode ad free. You know, and
I know it should be annoying listening to the damn ads.
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:22:44):
In one minute, we're talking about fucking domestic violence, and
the next thing you get in the damn Walgreens commercial
or some shit every dayn ten to fifteen minutes. You
can go over the Patreon right now and get the
shit the entire episode ad free, you know what I'm saying,
and get access to the discord where we talk about
the topics and shit like that. So if not, we
will post the part two on our on Thursday, or

(01:23:09):
you can go to the patreon dot com backslast So
Shameless podcast sign up and listen to the entire episode
at once.

Speaker 2 (01:23:17):
Let's see y'alls

Speaker 1 (01:23:19):
Peace, So samous, if you know what I'm saying, so samous,
If you know what I'm saying, somous, If you know
what I'm saying, so

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