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September 11, 2025 53 mins

Meet Traver Boehm: Founder of the UNcivilized men's movement, former bodyguard to billionaires, TEDx speaker, and licensed acupuncturist who has spent 77 cumulative days in complete darkness retreats. After hitting rock bottom following divorce and business loss, Traver transformed his pain into purpose - spending 28 days in pitch-black isolation that fundamentally changed his relationship with death and masculinity. Now, after completing an unprecedented 49-day darkness sit, his new book "28 Days in Darkness" chronicles these profound journeys into the depths of the human psyche.


What You'll Discover:

  • Why complete darkness strips away every coping mechanism you rely on daily
  • How Traver's mind "broke" around day 9 - and why this was necessary medicine
  • The difference between 3-day, 28-day, and 49-day darkness experiences
  • What pre-verbal trauma looks like when it surfaces after 6 weeks of isolation
  • Why grief became Traver's greatest teacher (and how to surrender to it)
  • The moment he thought he had died - and what death actually felt like
  • Essential skills needed before attempting any darkness retreat
  • How to create intimacy with yourself in just 20 minutes weekly


Traver's journey from rock bottom to spiritual breakthrough reveals that our deepest healing often requires venturing into territories our minds desperately want to avoid. His unflinching honesty about the physical and psychological challenges - from hallucinations to pre-verbal trauma surfacing after weeks of isolation - offers both a sobering reality check and profound inspiration. This conversation will challenge your assumptions about what it means to truly know yourself and why the path to freedom might require temporary surrender of everything you think you control. Listen to discover how one man's extreme practice became a roadmap for accessing the untouchable depths of the human soul.


Connect with Traver:


Instagram: @traverboehm

Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com/


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Legal Disclaimer: The information and opinions discussed in this podcast are for educational and entertainment purposes only. The host and guests are not medical or mental health professionals, and their advice should not be a substitute for seeking professional help. Any action taken based on the information presented is strictly at your own risk. The podcast host and their guests shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss, damage, or injury caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by information shared in this podcast. Consult your physician before making any changes to your mental health treatment or lifestyle.



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