May 7, 2023 • 14 mins
This week while Suze is in school herself, we present highlights of an episode called “The Six Most Valuable Words in Life.” This was originally published on March 17, 2019.
What do you think the six most valuable words in life are? How do they relate to Women and Money? In this episode, Suze shares a personal story about learning from particular life experiences.
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Music (00:00):
Music In.
Suze (00:29):
May 7th 2023 welcome everybody to Suze School. But I
have an announcement for Suze School, which is Suze decided
to go to Suze School. So starting last Monday, all
(00:49):
last week and it will go until Wednesday of next week.
This coming week, actually.
I have gone to school and I am learning from
the brightest, most intelligent, most successful finance people in the
(01:09):
world about every single aspect of the economy
because there's no way that I can continue to educate you,
answer your questions correctly. If in fact, I feel like
I don't know everything that I need to know to
(01:29):
be able to do so. And we live in incredibly
complicated times right now. But the truth of the matter
is we've always lived in complicated times and we've always
found a solution financially speaking to what has been going on
and we will do so
this time as well. But to find that solution and
(01:52):
should we do this, should we do that? It's important,
at least for somebody like me to hear the ideas
and the concepts that the brightest economists in the world
are offering. So I am not going to really be
here today. Now, what's going to happen, however, is Robert,
(02:16):
it is up to you to choose which episode that
you want to play for everybody to listen to.
So until Thursday, when you will be able to hear,
Ask KT and Suze Anything... Robert take it away.
Robert (02:35):
Thank you very much, Suze. Hi, everyone. We're gonna go
back right now to March of 2019 for some highlights
from an episode called The Six Most Valuable Words in Life.
Enjoy
Suze (02:51):
As I've been going through all the emails and I've
been going through a lot of emails, I've noticed that
you sometimes have a problem of being able to tell
those that are closest to you what is on your mind.
And it eats at you and it eats at you
(03:12):
and it prevents you from being a strong, smart and
secure woman.
And it's really important that when you think something that
you're able to say it, even if you've done something wrong,
it is really important for you to admit that you
made a mistake because sometimes it's you, it's not others,
(03:36):
it's you. And then I started to realize that you
tell me so much personal stuff about you
and what you're going through and what you're thinking and
you become so vulnerable with me.
And I also want to become vulnerable with you because
I am you in many ways. And I know you
(04:00):
look at me and you think I'm this strong woman
and this powerful woman. But even I make mistakes and
it's through our mistakes that we make, that I make
that I grow to be even a stronger woman.
And in life, if I were to think about the
(04:21):
six most powerful words that I could ever say
they would be these words, I admit that I was wrong.
So many times, we hold on to our opinion, we
defend what we've done. We just refuse to acknowledge that
(04:43):
maybe just, maybe we made a mistake and just simply saying,
I admit that I was wrong. I'm sorry, I admit
that I was wrong.
So today's podcast is about the six most important words
you can ever say, which happens to be
(05:06):
that I was wrong.
It was one week ago yesterday
and I went to an art opening that was a
benefit for an organization, a nonprofit in South Florida.
And this organization deals with children of foster care, teaching
(05:28):
them how to be strong, loving them, being there for them.
And my sister in law who is an extraordinary artist.
In fact, for 25 years now, or something like that,
she has been teaching people, mainly women how to paint
and how to envision their lives as being an artist
(05:50):
when they thought they never even could draw a straight line,
let alone paint and to find your own power in painting.
And Lynn, by the goodness of her heart started to
teach these kids one at a time, maybe three would come,
six would come but would teach these kids how to paint.
(06:12):
Many of them never had held a brush before. Many
of them had never done anything like that before. And
last year when she did this, they all exhibited their
artwork and it was fabulous and I was there and
the kids sold their artwork and, and money was raised
and I got up and I spoke and I have
(06:34):
to admit I was so eloquent,
I gave the kids hope or I wanted to, at
least as to that your past doesn't determine your future.
And I talked to them about my past and how
it didn't matter where I came from... what I was,
all that matters is where I am going and what
I wanted to be. So I was into this organization
(06:57):
and this year we go, all these people had come
to not only see the kids' artwork, but to see
Lynn's artwork as well. There were like 135 pieces, if
somebody purchased it, proceeds would go to her program. And
I was watching and I was there and it started
(07:19):
at six o'clock
and now it's 6:30 now it's seven now it's 7:15...
It's starting to end. I see people are leaving and
I'm getting anxious.
You gotta start this, you gotta do this. Now, come on,
get up there, show the kids artwork. Tell everybody to
buy the paintings so that the money can help the kids.
(07:42):
And I was watching people leave and I was getting
so anxious about it because I was so passionate about this.
Sometimes passion isn't a good thing.
And
the two women who run the program spoke,
but in my opinion, it was like, no, no, tell
everybody more, tell everybody why they had to participate in this.
(08:05):
But that wasn't their way. They did it the way
they wanted to do it. Not how Suzie Ormn thought
they should do it. And then Lynn spoke
and spoke about the kids and it was so eloquent,
it was so fabulous, but still I wanted somebody up
there simply to say, come on, come on, we can
all do this. We can all give money to this organization.
(08:27):
We can do it by buying artwork by doing whatever donating.
But nobody came out right and said that.
And again, my passion was growing. Plus anger, I have
to know a little anger because I wanted them to
say that
and then it was over
(08:48):
and I knew I could feel that they wanted me
the money lady to go up there and say something.
And that's when I made probably one of the biggest
mistakes I've made in a long time
because when I went up there, I had so much
passion and like I said, anger, I didn't present in
(09:09):
the right way
I presented in a way and said things that, that
just didn't come across the way that it should have
come across.
And I could tell that that had happened and I
could tell that I hurt Lynn, my sister-in-law a lot
because nobody said anything. I could just see that for
(09:32):
that moment. I was so inappropriate
and it was over and we went home. All right.
And now it's bugging me in a way that I
haven't been bugged about something in a long, long time.
And I'm sitting with it and I'm like, I need
to say something.
(09:53):
I need to call Lynn. I need to write Lynn,
but I need to say I'm sorry to the kids.
I wish I could say I was sorry to everybody
who came and maybe nobody even noticed it. Maybe it
was just in how I perceived it, but it was
making me crazy.
But even Suze Orman, I was afraid to say something.
(10:13):
I didn't know what to say. I didn't know how
to express how sorry I was about being so wrong.
And then just yesterday,
it took me one week from the day of the
event
to write Lynn an email
not justifying my actions because you know, when you justify something,
(10:37):
who cares if you did something wrong, just admit that
you did something wrong. And of course, I said I
was sorry, but I also told her that I admitted
that I was wrong.
And I said that from my heart.
And then for the first time
(10:57):
in over a week, Lynn who always writes me, wrote
me back and says, thank you so much for saying this.
We'll talk about it tomorrow. Just know I love you.
Just know I love you. I stared at that email
and I said, wow, great.
But then the next emotion came up and that emotion was,
(11:20):
oh my God, Lynn's gonna come over today. She's gonna
come over today right after I'm recording this. And what
am I gonna say to her? And she's gonna talk
to me?
And that fear is still in me. Now, what does
all of this have to do with women and money?
(11:44):
Obviously, the event was to raise money
for the past week,
the fact that I wasn't able to talk about this
and I still have this fear and I still feel
bad about it.
And I know after I talk to Lynn, I won't
feel bad anymore,
but it's almost paralyzed me.
(12:05):
It's paralyzed me. I haven't been happy. I haven't felt strong.
I haven't felt secure. I haven't taken the actions that
Suze Orman normally takes.
And yes, even though I have to go and I
have to give this talk and I can do this
inside of me inside of me. I feel less than
something happened to my self-worth just because I made that
(12:28):
little mistake. Now, obviously that self-worth will come back, I
will overcome this. Trust me. It's not that big of
a deal. But do you all understand what my mind
has done to what I did?
And again, aren't sure if we talked to the people
that were there, they would look at me and go. Huh?
Oh Yeah. It was a little awkward what you said, Suze.
(12:51):
But they went on, they're not thinking about it anymore.
They don't, they're not dwelling in it. I'm the one
who's dwelling in it
and because I'm dwelling in it, it's keeping me from
being a powerful woman that I was born to be.
What are you dwelling in? What are you thinking about?
What are you? You know, just obsessing about that. Maybe
(13:14):
nobody else is thinking about, are you thinking that others
are thinking something about you and that's rendering you powerless?
Do you need to say something to somebody and you're
just afraid to do it
just because you were wrong and it means so much
to you and, and you don't know what to do.
So I wanted this podcast to be about you, about
(13:36):
me
about saying what's on our mind and not being afraid
and being able to say, I admit that I was
wrong
and boy, do I know that I was wrong?
But after you say it, eventually you will recover from it.
If you take the correct actions and if you take
(13:59):
the correct actions, just make sure those actions start with
the six most valuable words in life, which are I
admit that I was wrong.
Music (14:18):
Music Out.
Music In.
Suze (00:29):
May 7th 2023 welcome everybody to Suze School. But I
have an announcement for Suze School, which is Suze decided
to go to Suze School. So starting last Monday, all
(00:49):
last week and it will go until Wednesday of next week.
This coming week, actually.
I have gone to school and I am learning from
the brightest, most intelligent, most successful finance people in the
(01:09):
world about every single aspect of the economy
because there's no way that I can continue to educate you,
answer your questions correctly. If in fact, I feel like
I don't know everything that I need to know to
(01:29):
be able to do so. And we live in incredibly
complicated times right now. But the truth of the matter
is we've always lived in complicated times and we've always
found a solution financially speaking to what has been going on
and we will do so
this time as well. But to find that solution and
(01:52):
should we do this, should we do that? It's important,
at least for somebody like me to hear the ideas
and the concepts that the brightest economists in the world
are offering. So I am not going to really be
here today. Now, what's going to happen, however, is Robert,
(02:16):
it is up to you to choose which episode that
you want to play for everybody to listen to.
So until Thursday, when you will be able to hear,
Ask KT and Suze Anything... Robert take it away.
Robert (02:35):
Thank you very much, Suze. Hi, everyone. We're gonna go
back right now to March of 2019 for some highlights
from an episode called The Six Most Valuable Words in Life.
Enjoy
Suze (02:51):
As I've been going through all the emails and I've
been going through a lot of emails, I've noticed that
you sometimes have a problem of being able to tell
those that are closest to you what is on your mind.
And it eats at you and it eats at you
(03:12):
and it prevents you from being a strong, smart and
secure woman.
And it's really important that when you think something that
you're able to say it, even if you've done something wrong,
it is really important for you to admit that you
made a mistake because sometimes it's you, it's not others,
(03:36):
it's you. And then I started to realize that you
tell me so much personal stuff about you
and what you're going through and what you're thinking and
you become so vulnerable with me.
And I also want to become vulnerable with you because
I am you in many ways. And I know you
(04:00):
look at me and you think I'm this strong woman
and this powerful woman. But even I make mistakes and
it's through our mistakes that we make, that I make
that I grow to be even a stronger woman.
And in life, if I were to think about the
(04:21):
six most powerful words that I could ever say
they would be these words, I admit that I was wrong.
So many times, we hold on to our opinion, we
defend what we've done. We just refuse to acknowledge that
(04:43):
maybe just, maybe we made a mistake and just simply saying,
I admit that I was wrong. I'm sorry, I admit
that I was wrong.
So today's podcast is about the six most important words
you can ever say, which happens to be
(05:06):
that I was wrong.
It was one week ago yesterday
and I went to an art opening that was a
benefit for an organization, a nonprofit in South Florida.
And this organization deals with children of foster care, teaching
(05:28):
them how to be strong, loving them, being there for them.
And my sister in law who is an extraordinary artist.
In fact, for 25 years now, or something like that,
she has been teaching people, mainly women how to paint
and how to envision their lives as being an artist
(05:50):
when they thought they never even could draw a straight line,
let alone paint and to find your own power in painting.
And Lynn, by the goodness of her heart started to
teach these kids one at a time, maybe three would come,
six would come but would teach these kids how to paint.
(06:12):
Many of them never had held a brush before. Many
of them had never done anything like that before. And
last year when she did this, they all exhibited their
artwork and it was fabulous and I was there and
the kids sold their artwork and, and money was raised
and I got up and I spoke and I have
(06:34):
to admit I was so eloquent,
I gave the kids hope or I wanted to, at
least as to that your past doesn't determine your future.
And I talked to them about my past and how
it didn't matter where I came from... what I was,
all that matters is where I am going and what
I wanted to be. So I was into this organization
(06:57):
and this year we go, all these people had come
to not only see the kids' artwork, but to see
Lynn's artwork as well. There were like 135 pieces, if
somebody purchased it, proceeds would go to her program. And
I was watching and I was there and it started
(07:19):
at six o'clock
and now it's 6:30 now it's seven now it's 7:15...
It's starting to end. I see people are leaving and
I'm getting anxious.
You gotta start this, you gotta do this. Now, come on,
get up there, show the kids artwork. Tell everybody to
buy the paintings so that the money can help the kids.
(07:42):
And I was watching people leave and I was getting
so anxious about it because I was so passionate about this.
Sometimes passion isn't a good thing.
And
the two women who run the program spoke,
but in my opinion, it was like, no, no, tell
everybody more, tell everybody why they had to participate in this.
(08:05):
But that wasn't their way. They did it the way
they wanted to do it. Not how Suzie Ormn thought
they should do it. And then Lynn spoke
and spoke about the kids and it was so eloquent,
it was so fabulous, but still I wanted somebody up
there simply to say, come on, come on, we can
all do this. We can all give money to this organization.
(08:27):
We can do it by buying artwork by doing whatever donating.
But nobody came out right and said that.
And again, my passion was growing. Plus anger, I have
to know a little anger because I wanted them to
say that
and then it was over
(08:48):
and I knew I could feel that they wanted me
the money lady to go up there and say something.
And that's when I made probably one of the biggest
mistakes I've made in a long time
because when I went up there, I had so much
passion and like I said, anger, I didn't present in
(09:09):
the right way
I presented in a way and said things that, that
just didn't come across the way that it should have
come across.
And I could tell that that had happened and I
could tell that I hurt Lynn, my sister-in-law a lot
because nobody said anything. I could just see that for
(09:32):
that moment. I was so inappropriate
and it was over and we went home. All right.
And now it's bugging me in a way that I
haven't been bugged about something in a long, long time.
And I'm sitting with it and I'm like, I need
to say something.
(09:53):
I need to call Lynn. I need to write Lynn,
but I need to say I'm sorry to the kids.
I wish I could say I was sorry to everybody
who came and maybe nobody even noticed it. Maybe it
was just in how I perceived it, but it was
making me crazy.
But even Suze Orman, I was afraid to say something.
(10:13):
I didn't know what to say. I didn't know how
to express how sorry I was about being so wrong.
And then just yesterday,
it took me one week from the day of the
event
to write Lynn an email
not justifying my actions because you know, when you justify something,
(10:37):
who cares if you did something wrong, just admit that
you did something wrong. And of course, I said I
was sorry, but I also told her that I admitted
that I was wrong.
And I said that from my heart.
And then for the first time
(10:57):
in over a week, Lynn who always writes me, wrote
me back and says, thank you so much for saying this.
We'll talk about it tomorrow. Just know I love you.
Just know I love you. I stared at that email
and I said, wow, great.
But then the next emotion came up and that emotion was,
(11:20):
oh my God, Lynn's gonna come over today. She's gonna
come over today right after I'm recording this. And what
am I gonna say to her? And she's gonna talk
to me?
And that fear is still in me. Now, what does
all of this have to do with women and money?
(11:44):
Obviously, the event was to raise money
for the past week,
the fact that I wasn't able to talk about this
and I still have this fear and I still feel
bad about it.
And I know after I talk to Lynn, I won't
feel bad anymore,
but it's almost paralyzed me.
(12:05):
It's paralyzed me. I haven't been happy. I haven't felt strong.
I haven't felt secure. I haven't taken the actions that
Suze Orman normally takes.
And yes, even though I have to go and I
have to give this talk and I can do this
inside of me inside of me. I feel less than
something happened to my self-worth just because I made that
(12:28):
little mistake. Now, obviously that self-worth will come back, I
will overcome this. Trust me. It's not that big of
a deal. But do you all understand what my mind
has done to what I did?
And again, aren't sure if we talked to the people
that were there, they would look at me and go. Huh?
Oh Yeah. It was a little awkward what you said, Suze.
(12:51):
But they went on, they're not thinking about it anymore.
They don't, they're not dwelling in it. I'm the one
who's dwelling in it
and because I'm dwelling in it, it's keeping me from
being a powerful woman that I was born to be.
What are you dwelling in? What are you thinking about?
What are you? You know, just obsessing about that. Maybe
(13:14):
nobody else is thinking about, are you thinking that others
are thinking something about you and that's rendering you powerless?
Do you need to say something to somebody and you're
just afraid to do it
just because you were wrong and it means so much
to you and, and you don't know what to do.
So I wanted this podcast to be about you, about
(13:36):
me
about saying what's on our mind and not being afraid
and being able to say, I admit that I was
wrong
and boy, do I know that I was wrong?
But after you say it, eventually you will recover from it.
If you take the correct actions and if you take
(13:59):
the correct actions, just make sure those actions start with
the six most valuable words in life, which are I
admit that I was wrong.
Music (14:18):
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