[EMPOWERMENT SERIES] EP#2 – DOES PEOPLE-PLEASING GO AGAINST YOUR VALUES?

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Many of us grow up hearing that we “shouldn’t rock the boat”, “open a can of worms”, and that we should simply “sweep it under the rug”. In my not-so-humble opinion, these are all idioms for “shut the eff up and suffer in silence”. These are seemingly noble encouragements for us to keep putting everyone else in front of ourselves and keep people-pleasing our pretty little asses off.

Unfortunately, when we chronically stifle our voice, we are sending a subconscious message to our mind that we simply don’t matter as much as everyone else. Taking care of the other person’s emotions is FAR MORE important than your own. So no wonder you’ve been struggling with self-worth!

Here’s where it can get complicated: If you consider yourself someone who has a strong core value around honesty, integrity, or authenticity, yet you constantly shape-shift in order to please others, you aren’t really honoring your own value. And I’m guessing that if you are looking to attract new friendships and relationships rooted in honesty and integrity, you aren’t looking for folks blowing smoke up your ass… to people-please you. So… you should probably BE the person you are looking to attract.

In this week’s show, I break down two major ways people-pleasing shows up in our world and how to know if it’s serving you (yes, that’s actually a thing) or if it’s stealing your joy. Be sure to grab your freebie worksheets that accompany this episode because you’ll be learning all about the connection between your core values and your people-pleasing behavior and how to stand in your personal power.

This pod explores:

• The real definition of people-pleasing (especially if you don’t identify as a people-pleaser)
• How being a kind, compassionate person can backfire on you and how to make sure it doesn’t
• Why you HAVE GOT TO stop saying “I feel so bad!” or “I feel so guilty!”
• My 4-question journal prompt to help you discern if you are honoring your core values… or if people-pleasing is effin’ everything up

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