Many of us grow up hearing that we “shouldn’t rock the boat”, “open a can of worms”, and that we should simply “sweep it under the rug”. In my not-so-humble opinion, these are all idioms for “shut the eff up and suffer in silence”. These are seemingly noble encouragements for us to keep putting everyone else in front of ourselves and keep people-pleasing our pretty little asses off.
Unfortunately, when we chronically stifle our voice, we are sending a subconscious message to our mind that we simply don’t matter as much as everyone else. Taking care of the other person’s emotions is FAR MORE important than your own. So no wonder you’ve been struggling with self-worth!
Here’s where it can get complicated: If you consider yourself someone who has a strong core value around honesty, integrity, or authenticity, yet you constantly shape-shift in order to please others, you aren’t really honoring your own value. And I’m guessing that if you are looking to attract new friendships and relationships rooted in honesty and integrity, you aren’t looking for folks blowing smoke up your ass… to people-please you. So… you should probably BE the person you are looking to attract.
In this week’s show, I break down two major ways people-pleasing shows up in our world and how to know if it’s serving you (yes, that’s actually a thing) or if it’s stealing your joy. Be sure to grab your freebie worksheets that accompany this episode because you’ll be learning all about the connection between your core values and your people-pleasing behavior and how to stand in your personal power.
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This episode is part of a limited, 6-part podcast series teaching you all the tools and strategies you need to kick your confidence and self-worth into high gear. I’ve also created detailed (and #gorge) worksheets to accompany each episode in the series to aid you in cementing all your ah-ha moments and anchor in lasting change.
Recent scientific studies have shown that taking pen to paper helps the brain retain information substantially more than listening alone. Get ready to set powerful boundaries (without guilt), contend with fear and worry like a boss, kick imposter complex to the curb, and finally believe you are ‘enough’ already. So clickety-click RIGHT HERE and grab your free worksheets!
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