In this insightful episode, I sit down with Lisa McFarlane, one of the UK and Ireland's top relationship coaches, to discuss the significance of personal transformation in the context of relationships.
They talk deeply about the concept of being a whole person in a relationship, the breakdown and breakthrough cycle, and the need for common sense in navigating relationships.
Key Insights:
- Becoming a Whole Person: Lisa shares her journey into relationship coaching and emphasises the importance of being a whole person. She discusses the need for individuals to work on themselves before entering or improving their relationships.
- Breakdown and Breakthrough Cycle: We explore the concept of the breakdown and breakthrough cycle, where conflicts or challenges in a relationship can lead to growth and transformation if approached with the right mindset.
- Common Sense in Relationships: Lisa stresses the importance of applying common sense principles in relationships, such as effective communication, understanding each other's needs, and resolving conflicts healthily.
- Codependency and Self-Care: The discussion touches on the dynamics of codependency and the importance of filling one's own cup before being able to show up in a relationship fully.
- Communication and Conflict Resolution: Lisa and Jay address the challenges of compartmentalisation and the need for emotional connection and understanding in relationships. They emphasise the significance of communication, sulking, and healthy conflict resolution.
- Advice for Dating Later in Life: Lisa provides valuable advice for individuals re-entering the dating scene later in life, highlighting the importance of self-love and finding a partner who has also done the work on themselves.
Chapters
00:00 The Journey into Relationship Coaching and Personal Transformation
03:38 Being a Whole Person in a Relationship
10:38 Understanding Codependency and Filling Your Own Cup
22:26 Navigating Conflict and Avoiding Sulking
27:41 Striving for Healthy Conflict Resolution and Emotional Connection
29:35 Love Languages and Self-Affirmation
34:48 Sweating the Small Stuff and Prioritizing the Little Things
41:03 Love, Trust, and Giving Someone the Power to Destroy You
44:05 Investing Time and Quality in Your Relationship
48:20 Daily Signals of Love and Care
52:25 Dating Advice for Individuals Re-entering the Dating Scene
57:29 Conclusion
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