An ongoing series of Executive Coaching Tips designed to help you be perceived in the workplace the way you want to be perceived.
A toxic boss destroys psychological safety on her team. One of her direct reports talks to his coach about how to survive. And how to keep his own team safe.
Core ideas in the episode:
Concerned his introversion makes him less effective, a corporate vice president asks for coaching – from an extrovert! Together, the coach and client explore ways to assure his introversion is a strength.
Myers Briggs Type Indicator assesses four preferences. One is Introversion and Extroversion. Download a free sample of the profile report here.
The six tools unpacked in this episode are:
A leader with a direct report who is, she says, the most defensive person she’s ever known, devotes an entire coaching session to gathering tools to help her cope.
All the tools and ideas and scripts in this episode are in an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here.
To work on “deserving” dive into The Four Agreements.
Dig into more tools for managing defensive people in our podcast library in these ...
Still traumatized over an angry explosion she’d aimed at an abusive leader years before, a leader asks her coach to help her access healthy assertion to use during moments of conflict.
Where are you on the assertion scale? Our assessments will tell you.
In the episode, ASSERTION got divided into two skills:
AWARENESS and EXPRESSION.
The four-step script to build healthy ASSERTION is:
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Convinced that participants need to engage in order to learn, a leader is discouraged after the cheerless rollout of her online learning program. She turns to her coach for help facilitating virtual groups.
Tools in this episode:
Tone-setting at the opening:
Knowing she’s never been good with people, a leader seeks coaching to her deepen relationships in ways she can tolerate.
Two ways to deepen workplace relationships:
Matching & Curiosity
4 Ways to Match:
Express Curiosity by Asking Deep Questions
A leader is losing credibility with her senior leaders. Her boss thinks she can turn it around by learning the sorting tool that transformed him as a communicator, so he brings in the coach who taught him.
Sorting & Labeling! The grandaddy of all communication tools. If you can sort and label you will sound like a leader.
The four steps in Sorting & Labeling:
A leader was given one goal for his coaching: improve how he answered questions. Knowing he struggled with this not only at work, but at home, he asked his coach for tools.
Our free PDF shows the two scripts: one for closed-ended questions, one for open-ended. Download it here.
Don’t assume you know why people ask what they ask. You don’t. Ever.
The closed-ended script:
A leader suddenly hears how harshly she speaks to herself. Wanting help, she turns to her coach who gives her tools to build a practice of self-esteem.
The three self-esteem practices are:
Download our free Feeling Words Grid.
A coaching client wonders what elements need to be present for someone to appear ‘executive.’ Two executive coaches ponder this question and come up with five elements they deem essential.
Categories in the archive to explore:
Perception – How You’re Perceived
Six episodes to dive into:
189 - Don’t Take Anything Personally
A senior leader, upset about having flubbed her reply to ‘Tell us about yourself’ during a high-stakes interview, talks with her coach about how to prepare for what she considers to be an incredibly stupid question.
Categories in the archive to explore:
Six episodes to dive into:
A chief officer had known for years he was an over talker. His CEO, desperate for improvement, gave him a coach. This episode highlights their first coaching conversation.
Two mindsets from this episode:
Ask yourself: “What is my point exactly?” and “Why is this something they need to know?”
Ask yourself: “Do...
A vice-president gets kudos for likability but knocks for her inability to listen. With her coach, she talks about listening repeatedly. This episode features one of those conversations.
The 3 listening mindsets:
Download the free multi-page learning tool about listening here.
This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast archive:
Battling perfectionism and anxiety, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a tool that helps her tame her terrors.
This episode dovetails with many ideas in last month’s episode about Coaching versus Therapy.
Tom talks about his own bout with anxiety and a near career-ending attack of nervousness in this episode from April.
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mastering-nerves/
Pixar’s Inside Out 2 has a powerful dep...
Tired of feeling like a fraud, a leader searches for help down different paths. She and her coach talk about how coaching is, and is not, like therapy.
The leader in this episode wrestles with feelings of being a fraud. Tom talks about three resources to help manage that feeling:
“The Executive Impostor” Episode #176 of “The Look & Sound of Leadership”
Self-Esteem at Work by Nathaniel Branden & Warren Bennis
A leader and her coach discuss a three-step model for turning upward feedback into a learning conversation that might allow the boss to hear the message.
This month’s coaching conversation explores whether feedback should be given upwards in the first place. If so, are there ways to deliver the feedback effectively?
Download the free “Giving Upward Feedback” PDF.
In the commentary, Tom tells a story about the Marshmallow T...
Knowing she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals, an ambitious leader asks her coach what a good networking conversation actually sounds like.
Resources for Building Your Networking Skills
Leverage the latest algorithm on LinkedIn with this research report.
Coaching For Leaders podcast: “How to Grow Your Professional Network”
Coaching For Leaders podcast: “Executive Presence with Your Elevator Speech”
10 Ru...
An ambitious leader knows she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals. But, to her, networking feels slimy, so she asks her coach for help.
Some core concepts from this episode:
Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned.
Tom’s Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves:
Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0
Email Tom and tell him he’s crazy here.
For ...
Angry at himself for continually putting others’ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try.
Be in touch with Tom here.
Listen to Tom’s conversations with Neha on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast here and here.
Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.
G.W. Bailey’s imdb page is here.
This e...
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