The Look & Sound of Leadership

The Look & Sound of Leadership

An ongoing series of Executive Coaching Tips designed to help you be perceived in the workplace the way you want to be perceived.

Episodes

August 3, 2022 19 min

What’s helpful to say when you’re in an argument? How can you prepare to have an argument? This month’s coaching conversation dives deeper into the topic of “Conflict” which began last month. This episode has scripts and concepts for mastering The Conflict Conversation. 

We’ve created another PDF to support your leadership development. It’s a feedback model detailing actions and intentions for you. If you’re serious about your leade...

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Conflict is inevitable, but most of us were never taught skills to help us find our way through the dark corridors of this house called “Conflict.” This month’s coaching conversation illuminates predictable patterns and practical tools to navigate successfully through Conflict House. 

If you’re looking to develop your executive presence, our latest PDF is for you. It talks about the four factors every executive needs to be effective...

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June 8, 2022 20 min

A leader, often reticent to speak up on her own behalf, learns tools to help her ask for what she wants without worrying she’ll incite a battle.

This month we’ve created another free PDF for you in our Tools bin. This one is to help you use video playback to achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library in these three categories:


Assertiveness

Communication Skills

Managing Yourself


Rela...

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May 4, 2022 23 min

Kindness is killing a leader’s ability to set and hold effective boundaries. She works with her coach to find her voice and along the way discovers an empowering image about boundaries.

We’ve put lots of free PDFs in our Tools bin to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Assertiveness

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Five related episodes you might listen to are...

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April 6, 2022 19 min

A worried leader seeks help finding balance between going with the flow and giving himself a larger voice.

Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Assertiveness

Managing Yourself

Relationship Building


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

21Eliminating Distractions

59  Focus in the Face of Distractions 

30Self-Knowl...

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A missed promotion prompts a leader to complain to her CEO. The CEO responds by getting her a coach, which results in explorations of authenticity, self-awareness and self-management.

Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Managing Yourself

Perception - How You Perceive Yourself

Perception - How You’re Perceived


Seven rel...

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February 2, 2022 16 min

A leader, ashamed of hurtful words she spoke to a colleague, explores what happened with her coach. She learns seven techniques for keeping herself from future emotional hijacks.      

Download a free PDF about the seven steps to help you stop emotional hijacks here.


This episode is tagged in five categories in the Podcast Library:    

  • Managing Yourself
  • Perception - How You Perceive Yourself
  • Perception - How You’re Perceived
  • Personal Gro...
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    January 5, 2022 19 min

    A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about the second goal: be responsive in the moment.

    This episode is tagged in four categories in the Podcast Library:

  • Communication Skills
  • Executive Presence
  • Presentation Skills 
  • Self-Talk

  • Six related episodes you might listen to are: 

    #214 How to Turn Data Into Stories

    #160Prepping L...

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    December 1, 2021 20 min

    A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about telling a better story. 

    There are four tools in the episode:

    1. Grab our list of questions   [please link to the PDF]

    2. Build a puzzle for your listeners

    3. Create a hero in jeopardy

    4. Work with a partner – cautiously!


    This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podca...

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    November 3, 2021 24 min

    Worried that working remotely has disconnected her team, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a powerful tool.

    Being able to lead your team in growth exercises is a critical leadership skill. This episode is full of tips and guidance for strengthening that muscle.

    Tom strongly endorses the Liberating Structures website. Lots of amazing free resources there.

    He also recommends a conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching for ...

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    October 6, 2021 22 min

    A no-nonsense leader is asked to add coaching to her list of duties. She turns to the coach who’d coached her for a quick immersion course. 

    Coaching your people requires a shift in thinking and a specific set of behaviors. These ideas are captured in a PDF about the GROW model. It’s available to you for free here.

    This month we are offering three free mini-courses. Come join us!

    Demystifying Workplace Conflict

    Understanding Yourself a...

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    September 1, 2021 24 min

    Frustrated at not showing up the way she wants to, a leader, in conversation with her coach, explores ways to integrate her values into her behavior.

    To show up as more of whatever you want to be, ask yourself: 

  • What would be different if I were a little braver right now?
  • What would a brave person do right now?
  • What would I think, or what would I feel, if I were my bravest self right now?
  • How is my self-talk helping how I show up?
  • How is...
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    August 4, 2021 22 min

    In this episode, a leader feels she lacks courage. She engages her coach in a conversation about how to use self-awareness and self-management as tools to help her become a little bolder.

    The self-talk scripts discussed in this episode, plus the four-box process Tom described, are available to you in a PDF. You can request it in an email to Tom here or you can download the PDF here.

    Other resources mentioned in this episode:

    Last mont...

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    June 30, 2021 26 min

    Self-awareness, like any muscle, can be built through discipline.In this episode, a leader learns two exercises to help build awareness of her thoughts and feelings.

    The two exercises discussed in this episode are detailed in a PDF that we’d love to send you. Send us an email and we’ll send back the PDF. The PDF also contains the Feeling Words Grid.

    Other resources mentioned in this episode:

     E.Q. Applied by Justin Bariso – a helpful,...

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    June 2, 2021 21 min

    A new leader worries about having to become a dictator in order to meet her goals. She and her coach explore the challenges inherent in trying to be a truly democratic leader.

    Core concepts in this episode:

  • When pressured, many leaders revert to giving orders.
  • People need time to feel safe speaking up to a new leader.
  • A democratic leader doesn’t have to give everyone their way, just give everyone their say.
  • When listening to ideas, just...
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    May 5, 2021 25 min

    A leader, initially described to his coach as clueless, confronts a hard truth about himself. In the process, he gains a four-step tool to guide him through tough conversations.

    Core Concepts in this episode:
    To convey a tough message and maintain a positive relationship:
    1. Start with a full-stop. Act, don’t RE-act. Identify why this conversation is important.

    2. Express intention. Say why you’re having the conversation and what y...

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    March 31, 2021 27 min

    This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to make feedback more palatable. The secret: sort the feedback you receive into three distinct categories.

    Many ideas in this episode and last month’s episode are explained more fully in the book: ‘Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well – even when it is off base, unfair, poorly delivered and, frankly, you’re not in the mood.’

    Related episodes are:

    ...

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    March 3, 2021 22 min

    This month’s coaching conversation follows a client as he works to shrink his blind spot through feedback. He and Tom discuss lowering the barriers that stop us all from taking in feedback.

    In the episode Tom mentions “Thanks for the Feedback” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen.

    Tom also mentioned the PDF showing The Johari Window.

     

    Related episodes are:

    Feedback

    Leadership

    Managing Yourself

    Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

    ...

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    February 3, 2021 27 min

    This month’s coaching conversation features a leader too talented to lose but too troublesome to keep. Tom talks with him about blind spots and how he might reduce his.

    PDFs for you:
    The Johari Window

    Who’s Coachable

    Win an hour of free coaching with Tom. Complete our survey.

    The full archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

    Related Archive Categories:
    Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

    Self-Talk

    Managing Yourself

    Pe...

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    January 22, 2021 17 min

    In this special episode, Tom tells a story of being onstage one night in front of a packed theatre audience when the show most definitely did NOT go on. He also shares the lesson he learned from that calamity — a lesson he has subsequently shared with the hundreds of leaders he’s coached who need confidence as presenters.

     

    The archive of all the past episodes is available at:

    http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

     

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