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June 6, 2021 11 mins

"If I can't see your selfishness, I can't believe your generosity." Betty Martin

Many of us  have a problem expressing our desires and wants in our intimate relationships.
Why?
For men, this can stem from psychological patriarchy that deems wanting, vulnerability or need as something negative.
For others, not wanting protects us from rejection or ridicule.

But if we don't express our wants, then we become bitter, and lonely. Over time, our partner will begin to assume we don't want anything, and that we're always content- which makes us less interesting. The result? Our needs are not seen or met.

The solution?
Daring to voice our desires!

In this talk we share the different reasons why partners avoid sharing, and the costs of such elusion, through examples from our life and the clinic.
Practical tips will help you bravely articulate your desires  in your relationship.

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