Macro vs. Micro People Pleasing

Happy Wednesday. 😊 I had this interesting epiphany a few weeks ago in a conversation with a friend of mine and thought, yup, we need to talk about that on ​The Transforming Anxiety Podcast​.

I think most of us can find ourselves somewhere on the spectrum of *people pleasers*. It's pretty ingrained in us from a young age that making the people around us happy means: we get attention, we get approval, we get love.

And through a variety of reasons, we make this mean different things:

• If I live my life in ways people want and expect, they will like me
• If I do what I'm supposed to do, they will like me
• If I always say "yes," they will like me
• If I am selfless and available, they will like me
• If I prioritize their wants / needs, they will like me

We all run theme and variations of this stuff in our minds. It's like the calculus of belonging...

​I want to look at a really specific aspect of people pleasing today and that is: how it shows up on a macro level and how that differs from micro-level people pleasing​. Same thing, but different lenses.

And when we see BOTH, we can recognize this behavior for what it is...

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