Taking Space from People in our lives (without Guilt)

There are times when we need space and separation. It’s not abandonment.  It isn’t necessarily permanent, and it’s not selfish…it’s healthy.

I tend to default to “all or nothing” thinking when it comes to thoughts around family members close to my heart.  Especially if there’s any type of risk involved.  Conflict, relapse, health, death…etc.  My mind goes immediately to the scariest, most fatalistic, defeatist possibilities before I coach it back toward hope, calm and faith.

 

For instance…if an argument ensues and gets heated, my thoughts are often that it will be the end of the relationship, and that becomes what I believe I’m fighting for.

 

Realizing this inner process, I do know that often space is a good thing. 

 

The key is in understanding that it’s not all or nothing and doesn’t have to mean the end of everything. 

 

It doesn’t need to be forever or even span years and decades.  It can actually just be for a time.

 

Listen in to hear a recovery related perspective of taking breaks from people in our lives.

“If one person in a family or relational dynamic does work to heal, the situation is bound to improve.”

 

Let faith, hope and love rebuild the house.

Prayer:
Lord, help us in seasons of separation to call You down into the void, calm and comfort the emotions that rise and lead us to healing, wisdom, renovation, and restoration according to Your great love, mercy and kindness for each of us.
Peace to you,

Annie