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April 23, 2025 35 mins

What if one partner wants to work on the relationship and the other isn’t sure they want to stay?

In this episode, I talk with therapist Anne Carter about discernment counselling, a structured and supportive process for couples where one or both partners are ambivalent about staying together.

We explore what makes this approach different from traditional couples therapy and how it helps couples make intentional, informed decisions,with whether that’s to repair the relationship or separate with clarity and respect.

Key takeaways:

  • What discernment counselling is and who it’s for
  • The difference between traditional couples therapy and discernment counselling
  • What often brings couples to this crossroads
  • The three pathways couples might take after discernment counselling
  • How to recognise if discernment counselling is right for your relationship
  • Why ambivalence needs space, not pressure to shift
  • What therapists should consider when working with mixed agenda couples

If you’re feeling stuck in your relationship or navigating mixed intentions about staying or leaving, check out this episode. Whether you’re the one leaning out or leaning in, this conversation offers thoughtful insight into what comes next and how to move forward with clarity.

Resources:


Contact Anne Carter, Certified Gottman Therapist and Certified Discernment Counsellor.

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