Not every uncomfortable feeling in a relationship is a warning sign. Sometimes it’s about growth, not danger.
In this episode of This Complex Life, I explore how to tell the difference between genuine red flags and the emotional discomfort that comes with learning, stretching, and getting close to someone. From conflict to communication styles to how we ask for space, not everything unfamiliar is unsafe.
We talk about the moments that feel uncertain and how to pause before labelling something as toxic or dangerous. This episode is for anyone who’s been unsure whether to lean in or walk away.
Key takeaways
- Disagreements aren’t always gaslighting
- Shutting down isn’t always manipulation
- Conflict is normal, repair matters more than perfection
- Forgetfulness and time-blindness aren’t proof someone doesn’t care
- Some people regulate through space, that doesn’t mean disconnection
- Emotional awkwardness may be about past conditioning, not coldness
- Differences in pace or processing styles aren’t red flags
- Discomfort is not always danger, sometimes it’s growth
Resources
Want to rebuild connection in your relationship?
Check out Relationship Refresh: https://marievakakis.com.au/courses/relationship-refresh/
Connected Teens
https://marievakakis.com.au/connected-teens/
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https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/
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