Unspoken Expectations in Relationships Are Hurting You Here’s Why

Ever caught yourself thinking, "They should just know what I need"? Unspoken expectations are one of the biggest sources of frustration in relationships. When our partners don’t automatically meet our needs, it can leave us feeling unheard, unloved, or even resentful. But here’s the thing—expecting someone to read your mind rarely works.

Join me, Marie Vakakis, and my guest, psychotherapist Tracy Proud, as we explore why we struggle to express our needs, how childhood experiences shape our relationship patterns, and what happens when we expect our partners to "just know."

Key Takeaways:

• Many of our expectations in relationships are shaped by early experiences, often without us realising it.
• Assuming our partners should "just know" what we need can lead to frustration and resentment.
• Open, honest communication is essential for expressing needs and strengthening connection.
• Conflict isn’t usually about the surface issue—there’s often a deeper meaning behind it.
• Understanding each other’s perspectives helps break unhealthy patterns and fosters emotional intimacy.

Resources:

• The Gottman Institute – Research-backed insights into relationship dynamics.
• Growing Yourself Up by Dr. Jenny Brown – A key resource for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their relationships through the lens of family systems theory.

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