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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, my name is Josh
and I'm your push coach.
I'm a failed rockstar turnedseven figure life coach.
I've trained over 40,000coaches and entrepreneurs since
I got started back in 2014.
I currently run my own lifecoach certification for those
who wanna learn the powerfultools of transforming lives
using the psychology of truecoaching.
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On this show, we're gonnaexplore business from a
different perspective.
I combine high energy withpsychology to teach you business
in a totally different way.
If you're tired of being toldto just show up and do the work,
or just believe more or justtrust the compound effect, this
podcast will take you on a deepdive to help you understand what
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is actually holding you andyour clients back from doing the
work.
Once you understand thepsychology of performance, we
can build powerful messagingthat will attract the right
people who finally show up anddo the work.
If you're ready to be apowerful leader and build your
legacy, let's dive in.
What's up?
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My friends?
My name is Josh, I am your pushcoach and, as I'm recording
this live, we are winding downthe year, about to jump into a
brand new year.
I'm so freaking pumped for ifyou happen to be listening to
this before New Year's Day, Iknow it's a small chance, but if
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you are, I am hosting a reallypowerful workshop on New Year's
Day, teaching you how to buildyour six figure plan for 2025.
So, if you happen to belistening to this before New
Year's Day hits, check the linksin the description.
It's a pay what you wantworkshop, which is really cool.
You can pay as little as adollar, as much as a million
dollars, and be a part of thislive event.
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Guys, there's nothing in theworld like being with a group of
powerful people and settingyour goals and creating a
roadmap together.
As a life and performance coach,this is something that I work
with all of my clients on iscreating this roadmap to your
success, and every roadmap looksa little bit different, friends
.
This is so important.
Every single person is on adifferent journey, a different
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skills, different strengths,different things that they're
working with, different thingsthey're working against.
So if you're not building likea custom roadmap, you're
probably just following someoneelse's path, and I love this old
quote that I've heard manytimes.
I don't even know where itoriginated, but basically it
says some people climb theladder only to realize the
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ladder was on the wrong house,and it's really, really, really
important that you're not justclimbing to climb, that you're
not just following to follow,but that you're actually on the
path to where you want to begoing in your life and your
business.
So if you're able to grab that,would love to see you on life
for that.
But today let's talk a littlebit about emotional intelligence
.
This is something I actuallyspoke on in one of my groups
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this afternoon.
That I think is such a powerfuland misunderstood thing.
So if you've never heard ofemotional intelligence probably
most of you have there's areally great book about it,
called Emotional Intelligence,and it kind of lays out the
difference between what theycall IQ or what society calls IQ
, and what they call EQ.
So IQ is just the way yourbrain naturally works, collects
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information, remembers things,and some people have a high IQ,
some people have a low IQ, andthe reality is traditional
schooling makes IQ a really bigdeal, like it's really important
, but the reality is based onsome studies.
This book says that people whohave a higher IQ are only like 5
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to 10% more likely to end upcreating success in life.
That's not very good chances.
So having a higher IQ doesn'tnecessarily help you create more
success, and when I say success, I'm talking about your career.
I'm also talking about yourhealth and your relationship.
So we're not just talking aboutmaking more money.
We're talking about literallyhaving a more productive life.
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Okay, but what it says is thatpeople who have a higher EQ or
emotional intelligence, are like60 to 80% more likely to have
better careers, have happierrelationships and better health.
That's a really big difference.
Here's the other really coolthing your IQ is something
you're pretty much born with.
There's not really anything youcan do to change that.
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Your EQ is something thatanyone can develop.
Here's why I believe emotionalintelligence is so important,
because we as humans areemotional creatures.
But what almost no one hastaught us in our life is what
these emotions even mean, whatthey represent, what they
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actually do and this is one ofthe things that we teach on in
our life coach certification isthat most of the things that we
teach on in our life coachcertification is that most of
the time, we're very, very awareof our emotions, but we really
have no freaking clue where theycame from, what triggered them,
and what most people doespecially in business but this
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really happens in all areas oflife is people are reacting and
responding to the way they feelinstead of responding with what
they want, and so what canhappen?
I'll give you an example.
You're messaging back and forthwith someone that's going so
well, everything is goingawesome and amazing, and then,
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out of nowhere, you send thedetails to this person for
buying your product or joining aprogram or whatever that is,
and out of nowhere, they justcompletely ghost you.
How does that make you feel Inthat moment?
Most people feel like and Iliterally asked people on the
call today how do you feel?
And people said undeserving,unworthy.
I feel upset, I feel frustrated.
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I question if I said somethingwrong.
I question if I did somethingwrong and everything was about
self.
What is wrong with me?
What did I do wrong?
Some of it was worth, some of itwas strategy, but the reality
is everyone had what I wouldconsider an overreaction.
Okay, we're all going to reactto things in life.
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That that's very human, butemotions often cause us to
overreact.
We take something that is alevel one or two problem and
accidentally turn it into alevel eight, nine or 10 problem.
I don't know about you, but Iwould personally rather wake up
and solve level one and twoproblems than level nine and 10
problems.
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But here's the thing ouremotions cause us to overreact
in a way that makes everythingfeel like an 8, 9, or 10 problem
, which means we are literallyspending every single day
over-exhausting ourselves to tryto fix problems, because we're
over-complicating everythingthat is happening, because we
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are overreacting based on ouremotions versus responding based
on our logic, our character,our integrity, our values.
In fact, saying that someoneghosted you is literally an
overreaction, because thereality is they just didn't
respond yet.
They just didn't respond yet.
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That's the only fact.
The only fact that we'redealing with is we messaged them
and they haven't responded yet.
So when we say someone ghostedus, that is its own overreaction
that makes us the victim, as ifthis person did something bad
or wrong to us, when in reality,maybe they just got busy, when
in reality, maybe they heard theinformation and they're just
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not interested.
And maybe you didn't sayanything wrong at all.
They're just not interested andthey don't like to say no to
people.
So they just didn't respond andthat's.
That's not a big deal.
It's really not, but we make ita big deal, and one of the
reasons we make things a bigdeal is because of our own
insecurities and fears thatwe're not good enough.
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We're not doing good enough, wedon't have enough, and we're
looking unconsciously for sometype of outward confirmation of
what we already believe inwardly.
And so what happens?
This is something we teach inour life coach.
Certification is that when wedon't know how to process these
emotions and work through them,we spend our whole life
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overreacting to things that haveabsolutely nothing to do with
us, instead of controlling thethings that do have something to
do with us.
When we process things properly, we're able to respond instead
of react, and we talked abouthow there's two ways that most
people respond.
Most people either run away wecall this buffering in our
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program you find things to dothat distract you or that give
you the fulfillment you werehoping that would give you.
So a lot of people will goclean.
They'll go clean their housewhy?
Because maybe you couldn't makea sale, but you can control
cleaning your kitchen and thenfeel like you did something
positive and feel good aboutyourself.
In other words, you werelooking for outward affirmation.
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Okay, now some people will dothe opposite.
Some people be like not me,josh.
You know what I do when someonedoesn't respond, I just go
message 20 more people.
And I always think this isfunny, because people always
think that this is like the, thebetter way to respond.
Respond like they'll put ontheir hard work badge and see
like, see I just, I alwaysrespond positively, I just fight
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through it.
And what I think is funny aboutthis is that our society has
taught us so much about being ahard worker, being disciplined
and showing up no matter whatthat we somehow think it's a
positive response to constantlyfight.
So we have our fight or flightmode.
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This is our safety mechanism inour brain.
Okay, if you're actually indanger, it's a very positive
response to either run away orfight.
Obviously, it's not, you know,super smart to fight a
saber-toothed tiger, but hey, ifyou got no other choice.
But the problem is when weaccidentally find ourselves in a
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constant state of fight.
Sometimes we accidentally thinkthis is good work ethic, when
in reality it's someone who isoverly aggressive and it's like
the person who goes to the gymfour hours a day instead of one
hour a day, in other words, well, my body still doesn't look the
way I want it to look, so I'mjust going to spend another two
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hours here and try to fix ittoday.
That's not a positive response,either Fighting or flighting if
a fight or flight mechanism orbrain, neither one is a healthy
way to live.
Both of them are healthy waysto respond to actual life
threats.
But the problem that mostpeople don't understand is that
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this is our brain responds toany perceived threat, in other
words, anything that feels likeit could be danger.
We instantly go into fight orflight, and some people that are
fighters think that they'rebetter than everyone else
because they work hard and theydo what they're supposed to do.
The reality is, sometimesthey're just fighters who are
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now exhausted, who are nowhaving trouble sleeping at night
because they can't shut theirbrains down, who are now
struggling with theirrelationships, because when you
spend all day fighting, you'reabsolutely exhausted and
stressed and don't know how tohave quality time with your
family.
You see, it's two oppositesides of the spectrum and
neither one are healthy.
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The reality is, the only healthyapproach is to properly process
the emotions and then choose analigned response based on who
you are and what you want tocreate with your future.
It doesn't mean that youwouldn't maybe go message some
more people, but it means thatyou're not going to message more
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people to try to provesomething or to show something
or to make up for something.
You're just doing it becausethat's what you decided was the
right thing to do.
And when we properly processand respond, what happens is we
respond from this beautifulplace that is more from a
purpose than trying to provesomething.
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In other words, an abundantenergy instead of a scarcity
energy.
See, this person didn't messageme back, so I'm just gonna
message 20 more people.
It's kind of a scarcityresponse versus this person
didn't respond to me and youknow what?
Maybe they're just having a badday, maybe they're just having
a rough day, not a big deal.
I'm going to go message somemore people.
See the difference in theenergy there.
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One is a scarce fight prove,the other is a.
I'm just going to go do what Ibelieve is the right thing to do
.
So when you understand this, itchanges your life.
It really, really, reallyreally does.
And that's again one of thereasons I'm so freaking
passionate about the life coachcertification that I run is it
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doesn't just turn people intopowerful leaders, which it does.
It doesn't just turn peopleinto powerful mentors, which it
does.
It turns people into healthier,more resilient people who know
how to process this shit that'sbeing thrown at them every
single day and work through itwhile still maintaining a
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healthy place with their mind,with their emotions, with their
spiritual health, with theirphysical health.
It is literally, like I call it, the universal leadership tool,
but it's literally the key thatunlocks your potential and
helps you to unlock others.
So I want to challenge youtoday to ask yourself am I a
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fighter or am I a flighter, andwhat have I made that mean about
me?
And do I need to become betterat processing what is happening
to me and having a healthyresponse, instead of assuming
that I need to run away and getdistracted or assuming that I
should just punch my way througheverything that comes at me?
Neither one are healthy.
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Okay, now I would love so muchif this interests you at all I
would love so much if you wouldgo to joshcoatscom and just jump
on the wait list for our nextround of our life coach
certification, because it'scoming up in just a few weeks.
And here's what's really coolwhen you join the wait list,
you're going to get a free callwith one of our master coaches
so that you can get coached andsee what that's like and see the
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power that that can have.
And if it's awesome and you'reinterested in learning more cool
, you can learn more.
If it sucks and you're likethat was stupid cool over no big
deal, no harm, no foul.
But I would love for you tojust experience an actual
session and see what it's liketo be coached and have someone
walk you through this entireprocess of dealing with
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something that is challengingyou or holding you back in your
business right now.
Okay, I love you all so freakingmuch.
I believe in you so freakingmuch.
I'm so pumped about man.
We're working on some reallycool shit for 2025.
I'm so pumped Keep your eyesout because we're going to be
running regular events similarto the one that we just did with
the four-day leadershipchallenge, with lots of
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incredible, powerful leaders andguest speakers.
We're going to be doing more ofthose.
We're running our membershiplegacy leadership university.
We're going to be running ourlife coach certification and
then, of course, our six-figureinner circle for higher level
leaders that want to get ongoingaccess to better systems,
better marketing and a communityfull of badasses that are
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literally flying, that they canfly with.
So I love you so much, Ibelieve in you so much.
I'm so proud of you, foreverything you've accomplished,
for everything you've learned.
Please, please, please, pleaseremember everything you need is
living on the inside.
All of the resources you'llever need are right under your
nose.
I will see you soon.
Friends, happy New Year.