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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Ever been left waiting by the phone.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
It's the Fred Show. Hey, Zara, good morning, welcome to
the program. How are you?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Hey, good morning? I'm okay, all right, Maybe I'll better
after we think get me some answer.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Yeah, maybe. So what's going on with this guy Eddie?
How did you guys meet? Tell us about any dates
that you've been on, and then what's going on now?
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
So we met on an app.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Then we talked a little bit and exchange numbers and
he asked me out. We've just been on the one date.
We went to dinner and it was great. You know,
I had a great time, and so I'm just pretty
bummed that he ended up ghosting me.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Okay, okay, I mean you look back on this date,
you thought it was a really good date. No hiccups,
no weird sort of dead spots in the conversation or
no strange topics. I mean, really, like overall, you thought
it was a good date. You thought you'd see that,
you thought you see him.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
A yeah. From my perspective, I can't think of anything
like you said, you know, no dead silences, no weird
topics came up like it was. I can't think of
any good reason for him to just completely ghost me.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah, and you did mention your email that you're a
single mom, and so I mean, I think when someone's
you probably had to get a babysitter or fine childcare,
and maybe you had to plan a little bit differently.
I mean, it can be a lot to date as
a single mom.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I know.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
So you mentioned that you were sort of I don't know,
you're kind of put out by somebody who, like, hey,
I thought we had a good time and I kind
of had to jump through a bunch of hoops to
go out with you, and now you're not calling me.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
That's exactly it is. It is really hard as a
single mom, so like, first of all, just find the time,
and exactly I had to line up a babysitter and
pay for a babysitter, and so it's just kind of, yeah,
I really felt like my time was wasted, like I
could have just been at home spending time with my kids.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
So it just feels a bigger waste.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
I got a PA, and.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
He doesn't owe you anything as a single mom, but
he could be considerate of the fact that, you know,
it was a little bit more effort for you, and
so maybe some better communication or or at least now
you're just being honest, just sitting here thinking, Okay, this
was a bigger waste of my time and resources than
it would have been otherwise.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You're just being honest.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
Yeah, I mean exactly.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
It is different when you don't have kids, and you
know you have more free time and everything. But yeah,
to schedule this and make it happen, it was a lot,
and like I could have joying time with my kids.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Yeah, okay, fair enough. Well let's call this guy now,
good luck Zara?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
All right, thank you?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Hello?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Hi is his Eddie? Yeah, hey Eddie, good morning. My
name is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show, the
Morning radio Show. The whole crew is here, and I
have to tell you that we are on the radio
right now. I would need your permission to continue with
the call. That does that mean we can tell yes?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
No?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Sure, okay, Well, thank you.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
This is unusual.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
It is unusual. I'll give you that we're calling on
behalf of a woman named Zara.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
You guys met on one of the apps, and I
guess you went out recently. Wow, this guy's as a
matter of fact, Okay, so you remember her then?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Yes, okay, I remember.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
So what happened because she called us and said she
liked you a lot and was hoping to see you again,
and you've ghosted her. I mean, is that true that
you ghost well, are you ghosting her?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yes? Absolutely? Yeah, yeah, okay, exactly what happened. Okay.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
So we went on the date and we was great.
We were having a good conversation.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Great. It comes to around the.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
End of the meal, I head to the bathroom and
I come back and then the waiter brings the bill
and it's a lot more than I thought it was gonna,
you know, look it over. I called him over and
I asked him, Hey, why is my bill so much?
And he's like, well, she, while you were in the bathroom,
added three entrees and an appetizer to go.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
I was like, okay, she was hungry. She was a
hungry lady. Yeah, I mean I assumed she ate. She
ate on the date too, write yes.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
She ate.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
We had, you know, two appetizers even and a dessert,
so I mean, she was full. But it seemed like
she a home for her.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Oh wait a minute, whoa who is the food for
for her kids? So she was taking it home for
her kids?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Okay, okay, and she didn't tell you she was going
to do this or offer to pay, or I mean,
she didn't even give you a note. She just tried
to sneak it in there.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
She was right, she was.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
Sneaky about it and did it while I was.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Out in the bathroom. Huh.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
And you don't feel obligated to feed her children on
a date that you went on with her.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
I mean, listen, I understand she got a babysitter. They're
not cheap, but I'm sure it was cheaper than the
meal that they got.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Like, I appreciate all that, but yeah, it's not my kids.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
And she just kind of did it without asking. Let
me bring sorry and I forgot you mentioned miss, I'm
very forgetful. Sorry you left out the part where you
ordered several meals to take home without asking about it,
because I mean, did you know he was going to
pay and you didn't seem to say anything when the
bill came.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
No, I mean he.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Asked me on a date, I would expect he's going
to pay. I think that's just kind of typical that
the guy days, especially.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
When he's for you, right, I mean, he asked you
on a date and he paid for you.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
That was the plan.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
I don't know that he necessarily signed up to pay
for your whole family to eat.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Those aren't his kids.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
No, I mean I guess that they're not his kids.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
But I mean he knew I have kids.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
You know, I'm a single mom.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
So he's supposed to so so part of him asking
out asking you out on a date is him also
providing a dinner for your family at home.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
I would have I would have rather than to the date, right,
I didn't even need these kids or pay the babysitus.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
No, No, that's that's no, that's too much. That's way
too much. You want to know. I'm surprised you didn't
get anything for the babysitter either.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Yeah, the baby, I mean she needed to she needs sustenance, right, Yeah,
I mean, really is this standard for you?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Zar like you think that?
Speaker 1 (06:20):
I mean, I'm just curious, like you think that if
you're asked out that then that essentially means that everybody
gets dinner, like in the whole family.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
I mean, if I'm not home to feed them because
I'm on this date that you asked me to come on.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
And again, but you agreed to go on.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
But yeah, and I because I affected he would be
a gentleman and pay for it, and here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
You need pay for it. Well, that's the thing. He
did wind up paying for everything.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Another confrontational guy or a monster. I wasn't going to
be like, no, we're not giving these kids food, like,
but it.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Was a little bit, was a little comfortable.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
And the fact that you didn't tell him that you
were doing it is also a little sneaky.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
I mean, in fairness, I don't.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Like that either, being called sneaky. I mean the waiter
came by, why didn't keep to the bathroom that he's
been sitting at the table? I would have done it
right in front of them.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
I mean, like I've gone to dinner with my friends
who have kids, and at the end of the meal,
they'll say, Hey, I need to take something home for
so and so. Can you make that separate or I'll
pay for the whole thing because I'm adding stuff onto it,
Like I'm not necessarily expected to buy dinner even from
my own friends kids who I know and would buy
dinner for.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
But you don't.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
You'd barely know this guy and he doesn't even know them,
And he also didn't know he was doing that. I
mean that probably added what sixty bucks to the digital Yeah,
I mean so at least it's a conversation like, hey,
I got to bring some food hot for the kids,
and then he can decide then if he wants to
pay for it or not. But it sounds like you
just kind of assume without without asking.
Speaker 5 (07:58):
No.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
I absolutely, and I assume if you ask me on
the date, then you're going to take care of check.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
I think that's so. Then should he pay their tuition
as well? Or like should he have paid for the baby?
Like should he have paid for the babysitter?
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Is?
Speaker 1 (08:12):
It's an interesting question why didn't you ask him? Why
didn't you bill.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Him for that?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
But yeah, that would be nice too, because that's coming
out of my pocket.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
I don't know.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
You seem like a I mean, you're probably a great mom,
but you seem like a band mom in a situation
because like normally, when you have a babysitter and you
drop your kids are being watched, you give them money.
It's like here, here's money for food, here's money for pizza.
Buy the kids something to eat. You don't go out
and be like, hey, I might come back to some
dinner I might not.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
It depends on what this guy says. Maybe this was
bonus dinner. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Do you think that if you take out a single
parent as a man, if I take out a single mom,
am I obligated to cover all the costs involved with
everything that's happening back home as well?
Speaker 5 (09:01):
You're not obligated. It's very nice of you if you do,
but you're not obligated. But my girl here sounds like
a city girl. And she was just trying to run
up that bill on this nice young man and it
didn't work. And girl try to get on somebody else
because he's.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Not the one. Okay, Boddy, you will That's what is
in the city, just trying it. What a dance? Can't spot?
Who's paying for? Why is this man paying out? Wouldn't
be surprised if his two days too?
Speaker 3 (09:33):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Okay not you guys, Yeah, what's wrong with that? You're
on your own with that one.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
There would be nothing wrong with that. Nothing would change.
Eddie's not obligated to pay to feed these children back home.
That being said, I will ask Eddie maybe she won't
do that again. Sounds like she will, But you know,
would you go out with her again. Okay, not gonna
do it all. Hey, Zara, look, just may work with somebody,
and I wish you well. I do think it's kind
(10:05):
of a lot to ask if somebody off the you know,
from the start, And I also think it's something you
might maybe if you'd said something to him, then he
would have wanted to help you or impress you, and
then he would have said that it was okay.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
But you didn't ask. You just did it.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Yeah, I mean, it's whatever.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
If he wants to be cheap like that, then I
don't need to if you want to be cheap like that.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Okay, all right, I'm not going to work out Eddie Zara.
Best of luck to both of you. Thank you for
your time.
Speaker 5 (10:33):
Thank
Ever been left waiting by the phone.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
It's the Fred Show. Hey, Zara, good morning, welcome to
the program. How are you?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Hey, good morning? I'm okay, all right, Maybe I'll better
after we think get me some answer.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Yeah, maybe. So what's going on with this guy Eddie?
How did you guys meet? Tell us about any dates
that you've been on, and then what's going on now?
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
So we met on an app.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Then we talked a little bit and exchange numbers and
he asked me out. We've just been on the one date.
We went to dinner and it was great. You know,
I had a great time, and so I'm just pretty
bummed that he ended up ghosting me.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Okay, okay, I mean you look back on this date,
you thought it was a really good date. No hiccups,
no weird sort of dead spots in the conversation or
no strange topics. I mean, really, like overall, you thought
it was a good date. You thought you'd see that,
you thought you see him.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
A yeah. From my perspective, I can't think of anything
like you said, you know, no dead silences, no weird
topics came up like it was. I can't think of
any good reason for him to just completely ghost me.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah, and you did mention your email that you're a
single mom, and so I mean, I think when someone's
you probably had to get a babysitter or fine childcare,
and maybe you had to plan a little bit differently.
I mean, it can be a lot to date as
a single mom.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I know.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
So you mentioned that you were sort of I don't know,
you're kind of put out by somebody who, like, hey,
I thought we had a good time and I kind
of had to jump through a bunch of hoops to
go out with you, and now you're not calling me.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
That's exactly it is. It is really hard as a
single mom, so like, first of all, just find the time,
and exactly I had to line up a babysitter and
pay for a babysitter, and so it's just kind of, yeah,
I really felt like my time was wasted, like I
could have just been at home spending time with my kids.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
So it just feels a bigger waste.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
I got a PA, and.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
He doesn't owe you anything as a single mom, but
he could be considerate of the fact that, you know,
it was a little bit more effort for you, and
so maybe some better communication or or at least now
you're just being honest, just sitting here thinking, Okay, this
was a bigger waste of my time and resources than
it would have been otherwise.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You're just being honest.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
Yeah, I mean exactly.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
It is different when you don't have kids, and you
know you have more free time and everything. But yeah,
to schedule this and make it happen, it was a lot,
and like I could have joying time with my kids.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Yeah, okay, fair enough. Well let's call this guy now,
good luck Zara?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
All right, thank you?
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Hello?
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Hi is his Eddie? Yeah, hey Eddie, good morning. My
name is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show, the
Morning radio Show. The whole crew is here, and I
have to tell you that we are on the radio
right now. I would need your permission to continue with
the call. That does that mean we can tell yes?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
No?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Sure, okay, Well, thank you.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
This is unusual.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
It is unusual. I'll give you that we're calling on
behalf of a woman named Zara.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
You guys met on one of the apps, and I
guess you went out recently. Wow, this guy's as a
matter of fact, Okay, so you remember her then?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Yes, okay, I remember.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
So what happened because she called us and said she
liked you a lot and was hoping to see you again,
and you've ghosted her. I mean, is that true that
you ghost well, are you ghosting her?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yes? Absolutely? Yeah, yeah, okay, exactly what happened. Okay.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
So we went on the date and we was great.
We were having a good conversation.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Great. It comes to around the.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
End of the meal, I head to the bathroom and
I come back and then the waiter brings the bill
and it's a lot more than I thought it was gonna,
you know, look it over. I called him over and
I asked him, Hey, why is my bill so much?
And he's like, well, she, while you were in the bathroom,
added three entrees and an appetizer to go.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
I was like, okay, she was hungry. She was a
hungry lady. Yeah, I mean I assumed she ate. She
ate on the date too, write yes.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
She ate.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
We had, you know, two appetizers even and a dessert,
so I mean, she was full. But it seemed like
she a home for her.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Oh wait a minute, whoa who is the food for
for her kids? So she was taking it home for
her kids?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Okay, okay, and she didn't tell you she was going
to do this or offer to pay, or I mean,
she didn't even give you a note. She just tried
to sneak it in there.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
She was right, she was.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
Sneaky about it and did it while I was.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Out in the bathroom. Huh.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
And you don't feel obligated to feed her children on
a date that you went on with her.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
I mean, listen, I understand she got a babysitter. They're
not cheap, but I'm sure it was cheaper than the
meal that they got.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Like, I appreciate all that, but yeah, it's not my kids.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
And she just kind of did it without asking. Let
me bring sorry and I forgot you mentioned miss, I'm
very forgetful. Sorry you left out the part where you
ordered several meals to take home without asking about it,
because I mean, did you know he was going to
pay and you didn't seem to say anything when the
bill came.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
No, I mean he.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Asked me on a date, I would expect he's going
to pay. I think that's just kind of typical that
the guy days, especially.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
When he's for you, right, I mean, he asked you
on a date and he paid for you.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
That was the plan.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
I don't know that he necessarily signed up to pay
for your whole family to eat.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Those aren't his kids.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
No, I mean I guess that they're not his kids.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
But I mean he knew I have kids.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
You know, I'm a single mom.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
So he's supposed to so so part of him asking
out asking you out on a date is him also
providing a dinner for your family at home.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
I would have I would have rather than to the date, right,
I didn't even need these kids or pay the babysitus.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
No, No, that's that's no, that's too much. That's way
too much. You want to know. I'm surprised you didn't
get anything for the babysitter either.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Yeah, the baby, I mean she needed to she needs sustenance, right, Yeah,
I mean, really is this standard for you?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Zar like you think that?
Speaker 1 (06:20):
I mean, I'm just curious, like you think that if
you're asked out that then that essentially means that everybody
gets dinner, like in the whole family.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
I mean, if I'm not home to feed them because
I'm on this date that you asked me to come on.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
And again, but you agreed to go on.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
But yeah, and I because I affected he would be
a gentleman and pay for it, and here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
You need pay for it. Well, that's the thing. He
did wind up paying for everything.
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Another confrontational guy or a monster. I wasn't going to
be like, no, we're not giving these kids food, like,
but it.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Was a little bit, was a little comfortable.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
And the fact that you didn't tell him that you
were doing it is also a little sneaky.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
I mean, in fairness, I don't.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Like that either, being called sneaky. I mean the waiter
came by, why didn't keep to the bathroom that he's
been sitting at the table? I would have done it
right in front of them.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
I mean, like I've gone to dinner with my friends
who have kids, and at the end of the meal,
they'll say, Hey, I need to take something home for
so and so. Can you make that separate or I'll
pay for the whole thing because I'm adding stuff onto it,
Like I'm not necessarily expected to buy dinner even from
my own friends kids who I know and would buy
dinner for.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
But you don't.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
You'd barely know this guy and he doesn't even know them,
And he also didn't know he was doing that. I
mean that probably added what sixty bucks to the digital Yeah,
I mean so at least it's a conversation like, hey,
I got to bring some food hot for the kids,
and then he can decide then if he wants to
pay for it or not. But it sounds like you
just kind of assume without without asking.
Speaker 5 (07:58):
No.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
I absolutely, and I assume if you ask me on
the date, then you're going to take care of check.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
I think that's so. Then should he pay their tuition
as well? Or like should he have paid for the baby?
Like should he have paid for the babysitter?
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Is?
Speaker 1 (08:12):
It's an interesting question why didn't you ask him? Why
didn't you bill.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Him for that?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
But yeah, that would be nice too, because that's coming
out of my pocket.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
I don't know.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
You seem like a I mean, you're probably a great mom,
but you seem like a band mom in a situation
because like normally, when you have a babysitter and you
drop your kids are being watched, you give them money.
It's like here, here's money for food, here's money for pizza.
Buy the kids something to eat. You don't go out
and be like, hey, I might come back to some
dinner I might not.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
It depends on what this guy says. Maybe this was
bonus dinner. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Do you think that if you take out a single
parent as a man, if I take out a single mom,
am I obligated to cover all the costs involved with
everything that's happening back home as well?
Speaker 5 (09:01):
You're not obligated. It's very nice of you if you do,
but you're not obligated. But my girl here sounds like
a city girl. And she was just trying to run
up that bill on this nice young man and it
didn't work. And girl try to get on somebody else
because he's.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Not the one. Okay, Boddy, you will That's what is
in the city, just trying it. What a dance? Can't spot?
Who's paying for? Why is this man paying out? Wouldn't
be surprised if his two days too?
Speaker 3 (09:33):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Okay not you guys, Yeah, what's wrong with that? You're
on your own with that one.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
There would be nothing wrong with that. Nothing would change.
Eddie's not obligated to pay to feed these children back home.
That being said, I will ask Eddie maybe she won't
do that again. Sounds like she will, But you know,
would you go out with her again. Okay, not gonna
do it all. Hey, Zara, look, just may work with somebody,
and I wish you well. I do think it's kind
(10:05):
of a lot to ask if somebody off the you know,
from the start, And I also think it's something you
might maybe if you'd said something to him, then he
would have wanted to help you or impress you, and
then he would have said that it was okay.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
But you didn't ask. You just did it.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Yeah, I mean, it's whatever.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
If he wants to be cheap like that, then I
don't need to if you want to be cheap like that.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Okay, all right, I'm not going to work out Eddie Zara.
Best of luck to both of you. Thank you for
your time.
Speaker 5 (10:33):
Thank
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