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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Why are you forced to bring a man home earlier
than you'd like to any context here?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Yes, dear, so, I I want to go.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
To my cabin and my parents will be there and
the man will be with me.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Why can't you just go another weekend?
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Because they're up.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
There every weekend in the summer. They don't give up
any weekends up there. That's right, they paid for it,
so I don't really get to say, so, yeah, I'm
bringing a boy home for the first time in ten
years later, see.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
What I'm talking about? And how long have you guys
been seeing one another?
Speaker 3 (00:33):
A couple of months? Probably?
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Oh, that's that's it's quick.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Yeah, that's a strong that is fast to.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Bring me home.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
No, it did take years, but that's not for lack
of invitation.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
And she never brought me I've no for almost a decades.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
We did, and you met my grandma.
Speaker 6 (00:51):
Is he allowed to stay at the cabin or has
he got to stay somewhere else?
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Yes, it's fifty he's in the same room. You'll make
him say there?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Oh, I mean, like, come on, now, that's the interesting
question I'd love to hear from everybody. You can text
and call the same number eight five five five three five,
because my parents up until not mom my mom.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
I think it was.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I don't know if it was my mom or my dad.
To be honest, I think it was my mom. But
up until not that long ago, and I'm forty years old,
and up until I don't know, my late thirties, maybe
even earlier, maybe later than that, I wasn't really supposed
to have people staying in my room. I wasn't really
supposed to have like, you know, female guests in my
family home. I really was like I wasn't. In fact,
(01:36):
in college, I had a girlfriend come back. It was
that's a horror story. It wasn't even my idea. It
was my mom's idea.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Oh I remember that.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
Yeah, yeah, my mom.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Tells the story and she doesn't tell the right version,
but it was the whole thing was her idea. I
dated a girl in college. I was a freshman, she
was a junior, and I chased after this girl. She
finally went for it, and when she went for it,
she fell hard. And we'd been dating for like a month,
and she lived. I was going to college in Dallas.
She lived in Oklahoma City. It was like a three
hour drive. She was like a wonderful girl by the way,
(02:04):
very nice girl. But she's like, hey, you want to
come back to my house this weekend, you know, like
I don't know, my parents will cook and and I'm
like yeah, because I've been living in a dorm for
a while now and I don't know how long, a
couple month, few months. I'm like, hell yeah, I don't
want to sleep with his bed anymore. And like whatever,
so we go back. We had to sleep in sepate
rooms and her parents like fawned over me all weekend.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
It was wonderful.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
And then I don't know, A month goes by and
I'm like, I'm gonna break up with this girl before Christmas.
I'm gonna break up with her, Like I don't I'm
gonna go home for Christmas break it's a month.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
I just I'm about to join a fraternity. Like it's
just not I don't know, I'm gonna break up with
this girl, Like it's just I'm going to So I
told my mom I'm gonna break up with this girl.
And she said, but but it's polite. She invited you
to her to she invited you to her home. You
have to invite her two hours. I'm like, Mom, we're
not going to be together much longer. She didn't do
(02:56):
anything wrong. I just am eighteen and a moron, so like,
I don't, I'm just done. She's like, no, invite her here,
and I'll take care of it like you have to.
Though it's just the right thing to hear life with her. No,
take care of her entertainment. Because the other thing was
that was the Christmas break that I started learning how
to fly.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
And I only learned.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I went to college in Dallas and my folks are
in Scottsdale, so I only learned. I could only take
lessons when I was in Arizona. So I took two
lessons a day every day for like twenty days that
I was home. And I'm like, mine, I'm not gonna
have time to do this. Nope, Nope, invite her. So
I did, and my mom entertained her. Basically, they went
to the spa. They went and to this, I had
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lunch at this and that other thing. Because my mom said,
and I said to this, I'm like, I'm not around
for this visit. And so now the story is that
my mom had to bail me out, that she had
to do all the work with its trip that she
had to break up with their for me, which she
didn't do. And if you recall that Christmas, she gave
me a greeting card with a gift and said that
(04:01):
there was a very special note inside. And up until
literally up until last year, I couldn't bring myself to
open the letter because I thought she wrote in there
that she loved me and I broke up with her
before I opened it, and so I for almost how
long has that been? Twenty years, I've been like, oh
my god, in this letter is going to be that
(04:22):
she loved me and I broke up with her.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
I'm terrible. I'm an awful person.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I never opened up the letter until and she did
not say that it was a very nice letter. But
she did not say that, but I was scared.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
Anyway. My question is did your parents.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Try and enforce some form of like antiquated rules.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
You know, no, you'd have girls in your room? Yeah, overnight? Yeah? Really,
I knew what we were doing from the earliest age.
Speaker 6 (04:52):
Yeah, from and yeah whatever friends like from girlfriends to
to random what was.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
It really, you used me to random girl at the
club or something, bring her back to the house.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Yeah, we're also going to take them.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Really, and your parents were just like down the hall
door close whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:10):
I mean, well my mom was at work. She worked
overnight as a nurse and that helped him. And my
dad was already sleeping because he worked early in the mornings,
and you know, we're just yeah right, And we never
had the never had like the rules or never had
even the birds.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
And the bees talk were It was just like it
was just.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
My parents can't be the only ones that tried to
instill some for or enforce some sort of morality.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
I don't even know if it's morality.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
It is kind of an antiquated I mean, I think
it was more about respect. I think it was more like,
you're not bringing random girls and doing stuff in our house,
like that's disrespectful.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I mean, my sister's room is right across from me
at home, so like, out of respect that I have
for my parents, I never put them in that position anyways,
Like I you know, but the.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Cabin is like different. I'm thirty two. You know they're
guys gonna do.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
It in the cabin. One question, is it your parents?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
No, I haven't thought about it. Probably not. I mean
I don't know, we'll see I guess it's like.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I think everybody was asking, like everybody in their in
their mind was wondering, like, are you guys, you're going
to be in close proximity?
Speaker 4 (06:15):
Are you still going to try and do it?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
I don't know. I mean we'll have his dog with us.
I don't know. I haven't blamed not the bad dog. No, No,
he's not coming. No, I got to show chance some
love to No. No, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
I haven't thought about it. If we're going to do
it or not. Probably probably not. But like someone said,
I'm forty years old. It wasn't until I was married,
which was in my early thirties, that I was allowed
to have somebody in the same room with me sleeping.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Now they don't care, like.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
You've don't yet.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
My mom like asked me last week, like are you
sure you're not a lesbian? Like my mom's like ready
to like throw a wedding.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
I think that's where my mom is. Honestly, I think
it's a couple of things.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I think it's like, look, if I want him to
come home, like if they want like I think my mom,
I think, and if she were awake i'd but I
think my mom is like, if I want him to
come home and visit us at the frequency that I do,
then I'm going to have to like unless, because the
thing is, I'm at the point out where I should
probably buy like my own house there or something, you know,
to have my own space. And I think she knows
if I did that, then there would be a whole
(07:13):
I'd see her a whole lot less. So I think
current thing is like, forget it. You're I mean, you're
damn near middle aged. I know that you're doing this
stuff like you're on the other end of the house.
You know, you're on the west wing and they're on
the east wing or whatever. So it's like chess whatever.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
I've never heard Sean Vaughan answer so quickly in my life.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
I literally was like, do you guys care if I
bring this dude to the cabin that I'm seeing And
he was like yes, Like they were so cool. Like
my mom a month ago was like, you know, we
have like a wedding fund. I'm like, girl, so yeah, yeah, yeah,
I mean she's a saver. I don't know how much
is in there. I wanted to say, can I just
get the money.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Yeah, I'm not really interested in Yeah, we'll just go
to the courthouse.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
Just give me the chat, or.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Just not get married and just give me the chat,
right that too?
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Yeah, my money, I'm the only boy. I got away
with a lot. Somebody check said, I can't say the
same for my sisters. No, it was the other way.
My sister got away with everything.
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Oh yes, plus for me my I mean, I have
an older brother that was doing way worse things than
I was.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
So they're just like whatever. Hard to believe. Hey, Caaitylen,
are you gonna hate Kaylan? Are you going to make
a man out of that boy at the cabin?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Make a man? Well, he is still a virgin, so
I'm not sure.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
I wanted to be special for you. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Well the cab, I would like to.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
The picturesque cabin with your parents in the background.
Speaker 5 (08:29):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
That's that makes me real horny.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
We had to sit in the living room the whole time.
Somebody said, in the living room, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
Sleep right overnight, we just sat, I.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Guess so all night long. Hey Jessica, good morning, how
you doing.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
Hey morning guys, So what is what was it like?
Speaker 1 (08:48):
This is your boyfriend's parents who were like this, or
are your parents too?
Speaker 7 (08:51):
Yeah, so it's both sets of parents just happened to
be pretty traditional. So it's, uh, it's pretty locked down
when we travel together or go places together. But there
are certain occasions and even one set of parents seems
like they seem to be coming around, like sometimes they'll
just kind of let us, you know, like they turn
(09:12):
another turn, another.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
Cheek turn the other ways. Yeah, I see, it's still
like this, how old are you? I'm twenty eight, Okay,
so that's old.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Enough that like everybody knows what you guys do. You
guys live together.
Speaker 7 (09:27):
We don't live together, so that also probably doesn't help
the you know.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Understanding of like sleeping in the same room. But you know,
I also, I.
Speaker 8 (09:38):
Don't know, I kinda I kind of.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Like and respect that about like our parents.
Speaker 7 (09:44):
I think I might be the same way.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
I don't know, So yeah, I would have a hard
time I think if I had a young son or
a teenage son teenage daughter being like sure, just our
house can be the bang house, Like no it can't,
Like no, it cannot. And I realize it's probably happening,
but like, I don't know, there's something about it almost
feels like you're enabling it, and I don't necessarily want
to do that. I mean, come on, man, I mean
(10:07):
not that I was doing anything in high school, but
I had to sneak around.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
Okay, so you figure it out. Yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Yeah also oh well yeah except not really but yeah,
but thank you, Jessic.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
I have a good day. I love you.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
But no, I did want to ask you guys if
you had any ideas, because I do want to mess
with them a little bit and like tell him like, hey,
you know, like something like on TikTok, Like you know,
he can't eat dinner unless he says like the you.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Know, the.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Yeah, you know what I mean, Like he's really uncomfortable,
just to like see if they'll do it, like just
to make him comfortable.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
So if anyone has any ideas on how to mess
with them, and you know, like he's his family's a
little odd, like they have different.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
Traditions, you should mess with him. You guys should do something.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
Well, I'll do a double.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
You know, I think you should.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
You should tell your parents, like you do some sort
of weird seance before eat or something and then just
not tell him.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Yeah. Yeah, we couldn't scare him. That's fine.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
No, I like that.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
I mean, I don't think he'd be surprised he's met you. Yeah,
same with my Like, I don't think anybody would be
surprised if my mom was way over the top.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
So she is, Hey, Nancy, how you doing?
Speaker 6 (11:18):
I am good?
Speaker 8 (11:18):
How are you this morning?
Speaker 4 (11:19):
Very well?
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Thank you for calling, Thank you for listening. What's your story?
Speaker 7 (11:23):
Okay?
Speaker 8 (11:24):
So I was living in Minnesota and I was like
fifty five years old, and I.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
Was, where are you loving, Nancy? Where are you living?
Speaker 9 (11:34):
Are you going to make fun of the way?
Speaker 4 (11:35):
I said? You would not. I actually wouldn't. I just
didn't hear it broke up a little bit. What was it? Oh, Minnesota? Okay?
Well you said a different you, a different Nancy. I
liked you.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Break You just said a different Minnesota. You live in
Minnesota anyway, So what happened in Minnesota?
Speaker 4 (11:52):
Nancy? Okay?
Speaker 3 (11:54):
So we were on a motorcycle trip to go to
the Harley Fest in in Wisconsin.
Speaker 7 (11:59):
Where wherever it was.
Speaker 8 (12:02):
Anyways, we stopped at my mom's and we stayed overnight.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
And she she said we have to sleep in separate rooms,
and she actually put a little bell on.
Speaker 8 (12:11):
One of the jewels, but she was here if it opened.
Speaker 4 (12:14):
Oh my god, wow? And how old were you?
Speaker 8 (12:18):
Like fifty five?
Speaker 4 (12:19):
Oh god? Did you have kids?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
She's like this, yes, yes, we're grown.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
See mom, bad news.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
I did it.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
Oh wow, okay, Nancy, that's wild. Thank you. Have a
great day.
Speaker 8 (12:37):
You guys have a great day.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
Wow listening, I'm glad you called. Good morning, Julie. How
you doing.
Speaker 3 (12:42):
I'm good.
Speaker 5 (12:42):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Hey, Julie? What's your story?
Speaker 8 (12:46):
So I am the youngest, So I got away with
a lot more. And since I was the youngest, I
was like the only one home with my parents, like
my sisters were away at college or have already been married.
Speaker 6 (13:00):
So my I got.
Speaker 8 (13:02):
Into a lot of trouble just because I was a rebel.
But I got away with a lot, a lot, a.
Speaker 4 (13:09):
Lot, Like what like what did you get away with?
Speaker 8 (13:13):
So like I would this is horrible, but like I
would be given like a time to come home. And
this was back when like you had like footphones. So
if I was running late, I would change the time
on my phone to be like two or three minutes
before I needed to be home, and then like when
I would get home i'd like tell my mom like.
Speaker 7 (13:33):
Yeah, I'm home, but I was really like sometimes an
hour half hour late.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
But when I heard.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
My phone, it was wrong with it right. That never
would have worked with my parents.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
They were not playing twelve a clock, not twelve oh one. Yeah,
not twelve o five, twelve a clock, and somebody was
standing there at the door if it was twelve oh one.
Oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah yeah. But I didn't have
a flip phones or that, or I wasn't smart enough
to think of that idea. So I did just go
change all the clocks in the house before I go out.
Speaker 4 (14:08):
For the night.
Speaker 5 (14:08):
You know you could?
Speaker 4 (14:11):
Yeah, thank you, Julie, have a good one.
Speaker 8 (14:13):
You're welcome you too.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
By key, did you ever get away with any shenanigans
with your sister?
Speaker 3 (14:19):
I gotta.
Speaker 9 (14:19):
I don't know if I got away with it or
she just didn't have the energy to like to tell
me she knew. I feel like she knew everything I
was into, and I thought maybe I was being sneaky,
but I feel like she the whole time she knew everything.
But I grew up in the house with all brothers,
so I was the only girl, and they got away
with everything like she would help them hide girls from
there from her husband. So she'd be like, oh, yeah,
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his girlfriend went home and she's like hiding in the
attic like she would know. But for me, it was like, oh,
you you can't do this, you can't go here, you
can't do that.
Speaker 4 (14:49):
Whatever.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
But so my boyfriend, he was the only.
Speaker 9 (14:52):
Boy at his house, so he got away with everything,
so I would just go to his house.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
Oh yeah, yeah. There were always those girls.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
I remember that, like whose parents were I don't know absent,
like when I was in high school, whether it was
because because we went to the small school, so we
would like source girls from the uh, from the private
girls school, the Catholic girls school or whatever, but we
everybody knew like the party house, because especially at the
private school, there were parents that were just never around
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and they had like people to watch their kids. And
then sometimes those people didn't really care. So everybody knew
the house. It would stock with liquor and the parents
were never home. Everybody knew that house, yeah, and we
were always there. But yeah, I just I'm like, if
I'm those parents, I'm just like, do you just not care?
Speaker 5 (15:36):
Do you?
Speaker 1 (15:36):
I mean, you got to know what's happening in your
home when you're gone.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
In my experience, those parents were the ones who wanted
to like relive their own high school. Like my friend
Lindy's mom would be down there like having a cocktail
with us, like tell me about the bull, you know,
like she was really hot, and like I just felt
like she kind of wanted to be reliving some weird
part of her past.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
I guess I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
That's how it was with parents' weekend at my college,
and I was just my buddy just went to parents'
weekend for his son, right okay, and he was telling
me that, like, you know, a bunch of these guys
they went to that college and now they're rich and
so like they're going to they're taking their kids to
the same bar and they're like everybody free drinks, Like
I'm buying everybody's tab, and they're just doing this over
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the top stuff because it's like if they get to
relive the glory, they get to go back to the
glory spot and then now like make their kids look cool.
But then there were the dads that like went to
they went harder than the kids, huh, because it's like,
oh yeah, all they wanted to do is hang out,
hang out with us, and it's like, dude, you're fifty
years old, Like it's over and you're rich, dude, so
like why are you hanging out with a bunch of teenagers.
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But it was like their chance to like revel in
the glory of the you know, of the one time
that they were cool. Hey, Rico, Hey, what's up? Hey man?
You're the middle child and you got away with a
bunch of stuff.
Speaker 5 (16:51):
Oh man built One time, I actually got home in
the morning. I thought I was like just getting uh,
going to school, and I was like, that's where I'm going.
Speaker 4 (17:02):
In the middle of the night.
Speaker 5 (17:04):
Yeah, in the middle of well, like no, at like
six in the morning, you thought that I.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Was going to getting in Oh yeah, you're exactly right.
I just woke up.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
God, Ah, Rico, thank you, have a good day, all right.
I think with my sister, she's seven and almost eight
years younger than me, and I think that you hear
this with the younger kids all the time, like that.
I think my parents were just tired, Like I think
your sister was just tired.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
She had too much going on.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
Yeah, she had a lot going on.
Speaker 9 (17:35):
And I wasn't a bad kid because I think I
knew that I could do stuff, so I didn't. I
didn't have the thirst to like go and do stuff
because I was like, I can do it. But my
friends who were like very sheltered and their moms were
very strict, they did everything and everybody yeah, yes, yeah,
And now you talk.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
To their kids when you go to them them school exactly.
Speaker 4 (17:59):
That's the hard part.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
It is like as a parent, you know, you don't
want to say, like, go do it all because you
don't really want to be that person. But you also
can't be the parent that's like, don't do anything, don't drink,
don't have sex, don't party, don't do this, don't experiment
because you know, don't because I think that.
Speaker 4 (18:14):
You're just asking for your kids to do it. So
it's got to be hard.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
I mean I'm not a parent, but it's got to
be hard to be somewhere in the middle of like,
I am not going to enable you, but I'm not
going to shun it, because if I shun it, then
I think I'm just basically telling you to go do it.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
R right.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
I think you just need to instill them with like
the tools to know how to make their own decisions
and then have trust that they will do that.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
You know, like, my parents never told me not to
do Heroin. I never did Heroin though, you know, so
I worked out just fine. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:38):
Yeah, trending stories, it's a perfect example.
Why are you forced to bring a man home earlier
than you'd like to any context here?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Yes, dear, so, I I want to go.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
To my cabin and my parents will be there and
the man will be with me.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Why can't you just go another weekend?
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Because they're up.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
There every weekend in the summer. They don't give up
any weekends up there. That's right, they paid for it,
so I don't really get to say, so, yeah, I'm
bringing a boy home for the first time in ten
years later, see.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
What I'm talking about? And how long have you guys
been seeing one another?
Speaker 3 (00:33):
A couple of months? Probably?
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Oh, that's that's it's quick.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Yeah, that's a strong that is fast to.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Bring me home.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
No, it did take years, but that's not for lack
of invitation.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
And she never brought me I've no for almost a decades.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
We did, and you met my grandma.
Speaker 6 (00:51):
Is he allowed to stay at the cabin or has
he got to stay somewhere else?
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Yes, it's fifty he's in the same room. You'll make
him say there?
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Oh, I mean, like, come on, now, that's the interesting
question I'd love to hear from everybody. You can text
and call the same number eight five five five three five,
because my parents up until not mom my mom.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
I think it was.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I don't know if it was my mom or my dad.
To be honest, I think it was my mom. But
up until not that long ago, and I'm forty years old,
and up until I don't know, my late thirties, maybe
even earlier, maybe later than that, I wasn't really supposed
to have people staying in my room. I wasn't really
supposed to have like, you know, female guests in my
family home. I really was like I wasn't. In fact,
(01:36):
in college, I had a girlfriend come back. It was
that's a horror story. It wasn't even my idea. It
was my mom's idea.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Oh I remember that.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
Yeah, yeah, my mom.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Tells the story and she doesn't tell the right version,
but it was the whole thing was her idea. I
dated a girl in college. I was a freshman, she
was a junior, and I chased after this girl. She
finally went for it, and when she went for it,
she fell hard. And we'd been dating for like a month,
and she lived. I was going to college in Dallas.
She lived in Oklahoma City. It was like a three
hour drive. She was like a wonderful girl by the way,
(02:04):
very nice girl. But she's like, hey, you want to
come back to my house this weekend, you know, like
I don't know, my parents will cook and and I'm
like yeah, because I've been living in a dorm for
a while now and I don't know how long, a
couple month, few months. I'm like, hell yeah, I don't
want to sleep with his bed anymore. And like whatever,
so we go back. We had to sleep in sepate
rooms and her parents like fawned over me all weekend.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
It was wonderful.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
And then I don't know, A month goes by and
I'm like, I'm gonna break up with this girl before Christmas.
I'm gonna break up with her, Like I don't I'm
gonna go home for Christmas break it's a month.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
I just I'm about to join a fraternity. Like it's
just not I don't know, I'm gonna break up with
this girl, Like it's just I'm going to So I
told my mom I'm gonna break up with this girl.
And she said, but but it's polite. She invited you
to her to she invited you to her home. You
have to invite her two hours. I'm like, Mom, we're
not going to be together much longer. She didn't do
(02:56):
anything wrong. I just am eighteen and a moron, so like,
I don't, I'm just done. She's like, no, invite her here,
and I'll take care of it like you have to.
Though it's just the right thing to hear life with her. No,
take care of her entertainment. Because the other thing was
that was the Christmas break that I started learning how
to fly.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
And I only learned.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I went to college in Dallas and my folks are
in Scottsdale, so I only learned. I could only take
lessons when I was in Arizona. So I took two
lessons a day every day for like twenty days that
I was home. And I'm like, mine, I'm not gonna
have time to do this. Nope, Nope, invite her. So
I did, and my mom entertained her. Basically, they went
to the spa. They went and to this, I had
(03:38):
lunch at this and that other thing. Because my mom said,
and I said to this, I'm like, I'm not around
for this visit. And so now the story is that
my mom had to bail me out, that she had
to do all the work with its trip that she
had to break up with their for me, which she
didn't do. And if you recall that Christmas, she gave
me a greeting card with a gift and said that
(04:01):
there was a very special note inside. And up until
literally up until last year, I couldn't bring myself to
open the letter because I thought she wrote in there
that she loved me and I broke up with her
before I opened it, and so I for almost how
long has that been? Twenty years, I've been like, oh
my god, in this letter is going to be that
(04:22):
she loved me and I broke up with her.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
I'm terrible. I'm an awful person.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
I never opened up the letter until and she did
not say that it was a very nice letter. But
she did not say that, but I was scared.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
Anyway. My question is did your parents.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Try and enforce some form of like antiquated rules.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
You know, no, you'd have girls in your room? Yeah, overnight? Yeah? Really,
I knew what we were doing from the earliest age.
Speaker 6 (04:52):
Yeah, from and yeah whatever friends like from girlfriends to
to random what was.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
It really, you used me to random girl at the
club or something, bring her back to the house.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Yeah, we're also going to take them.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Really, and your parents were just like down the hall
door close whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:10):
I mean, well my mom was at work. She worked
overnight as a nurse and that helped him. And my
dad was already sleeping because he worked early in the mornings,
and you know, we're just yeah right, And we never
had the never had like the rules or never had
even the birds.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
And the bees talk were It was just like it
was just.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
My parents can't be the only ones that tried to
instill some for or enforce some sort of morality.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
I don't even know if it's morality.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
It is kind of an antiquated I mean, I think
it was more about respect. I think it was more like,
you're not bringing random girls and doing stuff in our house,
like that's disrespectful.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I mean, my sister's room is right across from me
at home, so like, out of respect that I have
for my parents, I never put them in that position anyways,
Like I you know, but the.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Cabin is like different. I'm thirty two. You know they're
guys gonna do.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
It in the cabin. One question, is it your parents?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
No, I haven't thought about it. Probably not. I mean
I don't know, we'll see I guess it's like.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I think everybody was asking, like everybody in their in
their mind was wondering, like, are you guys, you're going
to be in close proximity?
Speaker 4 (06:15):
Are you still going to try and do it?
Speaker 3 (06:17):
I don't know. I mean we'll have his dog with us.
I don't know. I haven't blamed not the bad dog. No, No,
he's not coming. No, I got to show chance some
love to No. No, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
I haven't thought about it. If we're going to do
it or not. Probably probably not. But like someone said,
I'm forty years old. It wasn't until I was married,
which was in my early thirties, that I was allowed
to have somebody in the same room with me sleeping.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Now they don't care, like.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
You've don't yet.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
My mom like asked me last week, like are you
sure you're not a lesbian? Like my mom's like ready
to like throw a wedding.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
I think that's where my mom is. Honestly, I think
it's a couple of things.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I think it's like, look, if I want him to
come home, like if they want like I think my mom,
I think, and if she were awake i'd but I
think my mom is like, if I want him to
come home and visit us at the frequency that I do,
then I'm going to have to like unless, because the
thing is, I'm at the point out where I should
probably buy like my own house there or something, you know,
to have my own space. And I think she knows
if I did that, then there would be a whole
(07:13):
I'd see her a whole lot less. So I think
current thing is like, forget it. You're I mean, you're
damn near middle aged. I know that you're doing this
stuff like you're on the other end of the house.
You know, you're on the west wing and they're on
the east wing or whatever. So it's like chess whatever.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
I've never heard Sean Vaughan answer so quickly in my life.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
I literally was like, do you guys care if I
bring this dude to the cabin that I'm seeing And
he was like yes, Like they were so cool. Like
my mom a month ago was like, you know, we
have like a wedding fund. I'm like, girl, so yeah, yeah, yeah,
I mean she's a saver. I don't know how much
is in there. I wanted to say, can I just
get the money.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Yeah, I'm not really interested in Yeah, we'll just go
to the courthouse.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
Just give me the chat, or.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Just not get married and just give me the chat,
right that too?
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Yeah, my money, I'm the only boy. I got away
with a lot. Somebody check said, I can't say the
same for my sisters. No, it was the other way.
My sister got away with everything.
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Oh yes, plus for me my I mean, I have
an older brother that was doing way worse things than
I was.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
So they're just like whatever. Hard to believe. Hey, Caaitylen,
are you gonna hate Kaylan? Are you going to make
a man out of that boy at the cabin?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Make a man? Well, he is still a virgin, so
I'm not sure.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
I wanted to be special for you. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Well the cab, I would like to.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
The picturesque cabin with your parents in the background.
Speaker 5 (08:29):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
That's that makes me real horny.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
We had to sit in the living room the whole time.
Somebody said, in the living room, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
Sleep right overnight, we just sat, I.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Guess so all night long. Hey Jessica, good morning, how
you doing.
Speaker 4 (08:45):
Hey morning guys, So what is what was it like?
Speaker 1 (08:48):
This is your boyfriend's parents who were like this, or
are your parents too?
Speaker 7 (08:51):
Yeah, so it's both sets of parents just happened to
be pretty traditional. So it's, uh, it's pretty locked down
when we travel together or go places together. But there
are certain occasions and even one set of parents seems
like they seem to be coming around, like sometimes they'll
just kind of let us, you know, like they turn
(09:12):
another turn, another.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
Cheek turn the other ways. Yeah, I see, it's still
like this, how old are you? I'm twenty eight, Okay,
so that's old.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Enough that like everybody knows what you guys do. You
guys live together.
Speaker 7 (09:27):
We don't live together, so that also probably doesn't help
the you know.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Understanding of like sleeping in the same room. But you know,
I also, I.
Speaker 8 (09:38):
Don't know, I kinda I kind of.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Like and respect that about like our parents.
Speaker 7 (09:44):
I think I might be the same way.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
I don't know, So yeah, I would have a hard
time I think if I had a young son or
a teenage son teenage daughter being like sure, just our
house can be the bang house, Like no it can't,
Like no, it cannot. And I realize it's probably happening,
but like, I don't know, there's something about it almost
feels like you're enabling it, and I don't necessarily want
to do that. I mean, come on, man, I mean
(10:07):
not that I was doing anything in high school, but
I had to sneak around.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
Okay, so you figure it out. Yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Yeah also oh well yeah except not really but yeah,
but thank you, Jessic.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
I have a good day. I love you.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
But no, I did want to ask you guys if
you had any ideas, because I do want to mess
with them a little bit and like tell him like, hey,
you know, like something like on TikTok, Like you know,
he can't eat dinner unless he says like the you.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Know, the.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Yeah, you know what I mean, Like he's really uncomfortable,
just to like see if they'll do it, like just
to make him comfortable.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
So if anyone has any ideas on how to mess
with them, and you know, like he's his family's a
little odd, like they have different.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
Traditions, you should mess with him. You guys should do something.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
Well, I'll do a double.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
You know, I think you should.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
You should tell your parents, like you do some sort
of weird seance before eat or something and then just
not tell him.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Yeah. Yeah, we couldn't scare him. That's fine.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
No, I like that.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
I mean, I don't think he'd be surprised he's met you. Yeah,
same with my Like, I don't think anybody would be
surprised if my mom was way over the top.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
So she is, Hey, Nancy, how you doing?
Speaker 6 (11:18):
I am good?
Speaker 8 (11:18):
How are you this morning?
Speaker 4 (11:19):
Very well?
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Thank you for calling, Thank you for listening. What's your story?
Speaker 7 (11:23):
Okay?
Speaker 8 (11:24):
So I was living in Minnesota and I was like
fifty five years old, and I.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
Was, where are you loving, Nancy? Where are you living?
Speaker 9 (11:34):
Are you going to make fun of the way?
Speaker 4 (11:35):
I said? You would not. I actually wouldn't. I just
didn't hear it broke up a little bit. What was it? Oh, Minnesota? Okay?
Well you said a different you, a different Nancy. I
liked you.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
Break You just said a different Minnesota. You live in
Minnesota anyway, So what happened in Minnesota?
Speaker 4 (11:52):
Nancy? Okay?
Speaker 3 (11:54):
So we were on a motorcycle trip to go to
the Harley Fest in in Wisconsin.
Speaker 7 (11:59):
Where wherever it was.
Speaker 8 (12:02):
Anyways, we stopped at my mom's and we stayed overnight.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
And she she said we have to sleep in separate rooms,
and she actually put a little bell on.
Speaker 8 (12:11):
One of the jewels, but she was here if it opened.
Speaker 4 (12:14):
Oh my god, wow? And how old were you?
Speaker 8 (12:18):
Like fifty five?
Speaker 4 (12:19):
Oh god? Did you have kids?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
She's like this, yes, yes, we're grown.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
See mom, bad news.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
I did it.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
Oh wow, okay, Nancy, that's wild. Thank you. Have a
great day.
Speaker 8 (12:37):
You guys have a great day.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
Wow listening, I'm glad you called. Good morning, Julie. How
you doing.
Speaker 3 (12:42):
I'm good.
Speaker 5 (12:42):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Hey, Julie? What's your story?
Speaker 8 (12:46):
So I am the youngest, So I got away with
a lot more. And since I was the youngest, I
was like the only one home with my parents, like
my sisters were away at college or have already been married.
Speaker 6 (13:00):
So my I got.
Speaker 8 (13:02):
Into a lot of trouble just because I was a rebel.
But I got away with a lot, a lot, a.
Speaker 4 (13:09):
Lot, Like what like what did you get away with?
Speaker 8 (13:13):
So like I would this is horrible, but like I
would be given like a time to come home. And
this was back when like you had like footphones. So
if I was running late, I would change the time
on my phone to be like two or three minutes
before I needed to be home, and then like when
I would get home i'd like tell my mom like.
Speaker 7 (13:33):
Yeah, I'm home, but I was really like sometimes an
hour half hour late.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
But when I heard.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
My phone, it was wrong with it right. That never
would have worked with my parents.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
They were not playing twelve a clock, not twelve oh one. Yeah,
not twelve o five, twelve a clock, and somebody was
standing there at the door if it was twelve oh one.
Oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah yeah. But I didn't have
a flip phones or that, or I wasn't smart enough
to think of that idea. So I did just go
change all the clocks in the house before I go out.
Speaker 4 (14:08):
For the night.
Speaker 5 (14:08):
You know you could?
Speaker 4 (14:11):
Yeah, thank you, Julie, have a good one.
Speaker 8 (14:13):
You're welcome you too.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
By key, did you ever get away with any shenanigans
with your sister?
Speaker 3 (14:19):
I gotta.
Speaker 9 (14:19):
I don't know if I got away with it or
she just didn't have the energy to like to tell
me she knew. I feel like she knew everything I
was into, and I thought maybe I was being sneaky,
but I feel like she the whole time she knew everything.
But I grew up in the house with all brothers,
so I was the only girl, and they got away
with everything like she would help them hide girls from
there from her husband. So she'd be like, oh, yeah,
(14:42):
his girlfriend went home and she's like hiding in the
attic like she would know. But for me, it was like, oh,
you you can't do this, you can't go here, you
can't do that.
Speaker 4 (14:49):
Whatever.
Speaker 3 (14:50):
But so my boyfriend, he was the only.
Speaker 9 (14:52):
Boy at his house, so he got away with everything,
so I would just go to his house.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
Oh yeah, yeah. There were always those girls.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
I remember that, like whose parents were I don't know absent,
like when I was in high school, whether it was
because because we went to the small school, so we
would like source girls from the uh, from the private
girls school, the Catholic girls school or whatever, but we
everybody knew like the party house, because especially at the
private school, there were parents that were just never around
(15:20):
and they had like people to watch their kids. And
then sometimes those people didn't really care. So everybody knew
the house. It would stock with liquor and the parents
were never home. Everybody knew that house, yeah, and we
were always there. But yeah, I just I'm like, if
I'm those parents, I'm just like, do you just not care?
Speaker 5 (15:36):
Do you?
Speaker 1 (15:36):
I mean, you got to know what's happening in your
home when you're gone.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
In my experience, those parents were the ones who wanted
to like relive their own high school. Like my friend
Lindy's mom would be down there like having a cocktail
with us, like tell me about the bull, you know,
like she was really hot, and like I just felt
like she kind of wanted to be reliving some weird
part of her past.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
I guess I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
That's how it was with parents' weekend at my college,
and I was just my buddy just went to parents'
weekend for his son, right okay, and he was telling
me that, like, you know, a bunch of these guys
they went to that college and now they're rich and
so like they're going to they're taking their kids to
the same bar and they're like everybody free drinks, Like
I'm buying everybody's tab, and they're just doing this over
(16:16):
the top stuff because it's like if they get to
relive the glory, they get to go back to the
glory spot and then now like make their kids look cool.
But then there were the dads that like went to
they went harder than the kids, huh, because it's like,
oh yeah, all they wanted to do is hang out,
hang out with us, and it's like, dude, you're fifty
years old, Like it's over and you're rich, dude, so
like why are you hanging out with a bunch of teenagers.
(16:37):
But it was like their chance to like revel in
the glory of the you know, of the one time
that they were cool. Hey, Rico, Hey, what's up? Hey man?
You're the middle child and you got away with a
bunch of stuff.
Speaker 5 (16:51):
Oh man built One time, I actually got home in
the morning. I thought I was like just getting uh,
going to school, and I was like, that's where I'm going.
Speaker 4 (17:02):
In the middle of the night.
Speaker 5 (17:04):
Yeah, in the middle of well, like no, at like
six in the morning, you thought that I.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Was going to getting in Oh yeah, you're exactly right.
I just woke up.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
God, Ah, Rico, thank you, have a good day, all right.
I think with my sister, she's seven and almost eight
years younger than me, and I think that you hear
this with the younger kids all the time, like that.
I think my parents were just tired, Like I think
your sister was just tired.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
She had too much going on.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
Yeah, she had a lot going on.
Speaker 9 (17:35):
And I wasn't a bad kid because I think I
knew that I could do stuff, so I didn't. I
didn't have the thirst to like go and do stuff
because I was like, I can do it. But my
friends who were like very sheltered and their moms were
very strict, they did everything and everybody yeah, yes, yeah,
And now you talk.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
To their kids when you go to them them school exactly.
Speaker 4 (17:59):
That's the hard part.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
It is like as a parent, you know, you don't
want to say, like, go do it all because you
don't really want to be that person. But you also
can't be the parent that's like, don't do anything, don't drink,
don't have sex, don't party, don't do this, don't experiment
because you know, don't because I think that.
Speaker 4 (18:14):
You're just asking for your kids to do it. So
it's got to be hard.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
I mean I'm not a parent, but it's got to
be hard to be somewhere in the middle of like,
I am not going to enable you, but I'm not
going to shun it, because if I shun it, then
I think I'm just basically telling you to go do it.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
R right.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
I think you just need to instill them with like
the tools to know how to make their own decisions
and then have trust that they will do that.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
You know, like, my parents never told me not to
do Heroin. I never did Heroin though, you know, so
I worked out just fine. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:38):
Yeah, trending stories, it's a perfect example.
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