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Speaker 1 (00:00):
They talk better than they These are the radio blogs
on the Fred Show.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm friend, you get what you get, period ship, You
get what I give you. That's it, Kiki. Yeah, they
get what you give them.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Like right now your blog audio journal, like for writing
in our diaries.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Take it away, dear blog.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
So I need some advice because I'm noticing that I
always judge people when they say it's so hard to
make friends as an adult.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I was like, what how you know?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Until I actually have started trying to make friends as
an adult, it is kind of weird. It's awkward, and
you know, as a person who walks into every situation
with the like I want to be besties. Like I
come into every situation like yes, it's best friend, let's
do it. Yes, friend, And some people just don't want
to be your friend, and it's like you know what
(00:54):
you what am I supposed to do with that?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
It's so like, because you want to be your friend.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Well it's not like one person in particular, but it's like, Okay,
it's a new group that I'm getting involved with at church,
and like it's a bunch of new people coming together.
None of us know each other from like past. We
have no past history together. Everybody's just coming together, and
so I'm noticing that, Like I feel like I'm putting
an effort in to be a friend, but I'm not
necessarily getting that back exactly from certain people. And it's like,
(01:22):
I don't know what. We don't have any history, so
like what what's not to enjoy?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
But you know, just because I think I'm a good
time doesn't mean that other people. I gotta think that
I'm a good time. But as an adult, like, how
do you truly make friends with somebody if you don't
have like we don't have to work together, you don't
have to talk to one another.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I think it is hard to make friends as a girl. Yeah,
well you do it at church. I hear you do
it like in sports leagues, join like a sports league. Okay,
that kind of thing. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
But like, if you're in.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Any situation where you don't have to talk or don't
have to interact with somebody, how do you truly build
a relationship Because I feel like a lot of our
relationships in my Locke speak for me, are work related.
A lot of my friends we've met through this journey
of work or a lot of friends I've met from
high school or from college, and it's like, okay, outside
of that, what real friends have I just met along
(02:11):
the way? And how do you become friends with somebody
if they don't see.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
I feel like the majority of my good friends here
we're all friends before and I just injected myself and
their friend group because we all did charity work together. Okay,
and now I call them my friends, but they're really
they were friends like for twenty years before me. Yeah,
so I'm the outsider, okay, but then I just now
they're my friends.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
But it's hard.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
No, it's hard because people, I think as you grow up,
you know, people they get married, they have kids, and
families in the circles become they become focus and other stuff,
and it can be harder to schedule times to meet
with new people and out with new people, and so
you wind up hanging out with the same folks. And yeah, no,
I think it's because when you're younger and you're in
school or you know whatever, I don't know, and everyone's
(02:55):
single and sort of and there aren't children involved, I
think people can are more flex and you're right, now,
it's hard to figure out, like who wants to hang
out with me?
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Right?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
And what are we going to do?
Speaker 3 (03:06):
I'm a low maintenance friend, Like I don't need you
to call me every day. I don't need to go
We don't need to go out all the time. But like,
I just want to know what's not to like, what
are you not liking? I don't know am I doing it?
Speaker 2 (03:18):
You know?
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Like tell me if it's something that I'm doing or
somebody told you or it's just weird. And I'm just
like I cannot think for the life of me why
this person is not excited to be friends.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
He probably, you think.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
So I find that as the guy, as the man
who is single with no children, I don't get invited
to a lot of stuff because people are like, well
it's couples and so you would would be the odd
man out. Or it's couples and kids and you don't
have either, So like, do you really want to come
(03:52):
to my kids, you.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Know, third birthday party?
Speaker 2 (03:55):
And no, not really, but like if it's the only
way that I'm going to see all you guys, then yeah,
then I want to go. But I think what happens is,
you know, people move away and they h and live.
Lives change, and if yours doesn't change along with them,
then you kind of wind up getting excluded. And I
don't think it's on purpose. I hate that, it's just
it just is though. But you're the You have a
(04:16):
husband and a kid, so you're going to get included
in a lot of that stuff and I don't.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
But I better be included in girls' night and single
ladies hitting the street night. Like I still want to
do everything that you know, the old me would do
as well, because I cherish my friendships like I do
water them. It's hard, it's hard work, but to me,
it's like super important because like all my friends are
on different levels.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Everybody's different, living in it for different life.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
I think you're going to find the ways you get older,
there's less and less of the just lose fun socializing.
There's and it takes a little more effort to make
it happen. I mean, try and plan something on this show.
And we're all friends, and we all like each other
and we want to hang out with each other, but
try and try and find one day that all of
us can do the same thing at the same time.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
It's impossible. That's very true. So it's really hard to do,
and I think that is a factor. It is hard.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I mean, as a forty year old man, there aren't
a lot of other forty year old men out there
that are just like chilling that are and I don't
plan very well. So like Friday at five o'clock, I
know the group of guys and where they're going to be.
I know where to find them. But it's the same guys,
and they're guys who are just like me, single with
nothing else to do. But if I try and call
one of my married buddies at Friday at four o'clock
and go, what are you doing, They're like, y'all see
the month right when?
Speaker 1 (05:22):
I can?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
You know clear with my wife? You know, how about
how about six fridays from now? I'm like, I don't
say fridays from that might be will still come up.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
And exactly you got to cut your grass like this?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah you found you found this too, though, haven't your roof? Fine? Yeah?
I don't have any friends.
Speaker 5 (05:36):
I have like one or two friends, and then you guys, Oh,
I mean I just have my family are my friends?
Speaker 2 (05:43):
You know what I'm saying. It's just I think people's
prayer I don't think it's personal. I think it's just
life is hard and it takes a lot of effort.
And when you're working and you have kids and you
have other you know, projects and other things going on,
then you, I don't know, maybe you're just like it's
just one more thing you have to do.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
And I don't think it's personal.
Speaker 5 (06:00):
Yeah no, yeah, I mean everyone's everyone's lives are different people.
You know, something's changed, and some people just stay the
same and you just go. You just that friendship runs
its course and sometimes it's done. Wow, have you tried
talking to that person? Likes something in common with the
person you're talking I'll.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Try to bring up conversation and it's just like it's
not clicking.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
It's just not clicking. And I'm like, I love making friends.
I don't get on that they got that bumble thing.
I'm not that desperate, not friends walking on for friends.
She don't have Big Tim as a friend. Yeah, what
is he exactly? He's my man in my roommate. You
(06:42):
pay half the bills? Is the entertainer report? Is next
friend show?
They talk better than they These are the radio blogs
on the Fred Show.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm friend, you get what you get, period ship, You
get what I give you. That's it, Kiki. Yeah, they
get what you give them.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Like right now your blog audio journal, like for writing
in our diaries.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Take it away, dear blog.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
So I need some advice because I'm noticing that I
always judge people when they say it's so hard to
make friends as an adult.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I was like, what how you know?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Until I actually have started trying to make friends as
an adult, it is kind of weird. It's awkward, and
you know, as a person who walks into every situation
with the like I want to be besties. Like I
come into every situation like yes, it's best friend, let's
do it. Yes, friend, And some people just don't want
to be your friend, and it's like you know what
(00:54):
you what am I supposed to do with that?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
It's so like, because you want to be your friend.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Well it's not like one person in particular, but it's like, Okay,
it's a new group that I'm getting involved with at church,
and like it's a bunch of new people coming together.
None of us know each other from like past. We
have no past history together. Everybody's just coming together, and
so I'm noticing that, Like I feel like I'm putting
an effort in to be a friend, but I'm not
necessarily getting that back exactly from certain people. And it's like,
(01:22):
I don't know what. We don't have any history, so
like what what's not to enjoy?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
But you know, just because I think I'm a good
time doesn't mean that other people. I gotta think that
I'm a good time. But as an adult, like, how
do you truly make friends with somebody if you don't
have like we don't have to work together, you don't
have to talk to one another.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I think it is hard to make friends as a girl. Yeah,
well you do it at church. I hear you do
it like in sports leagues, join like a sports league. Okay,
that kind of thing. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
But like, if you're in.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Any situation where you don't have to talk or don't
have to interact with somebody, how do you truly build
a relationship Because I feel like a lot of our
relationships in my Locke speak for me, are work related.
A lot of my friends we've met through this journey
of work or a lot of friends I've met from
high school or from college, and it's like, okay, outside
of that, what real friends have I just met along
(02:11):
the way? And how do you become friends with somebody
if they don't see.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
I feel like the majority of my good friends here
we're all friends before and I just injected myself and
their friend group because we all did charity work together. Okay,
and now I call them my friends, but they're really
they were friends like for twenty years before me. Yeah,
so I'm the outsider, okay, but then I just now
they're my friends.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
But it's hard.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
No, it's hard because people, I think as you grow up,
you know, people they get married, they have kids, and
families in the circles become they become focus and other stuff,
and it can be harder to schedule times to meet
with new people and out with new people, and so
you wind up hanging out with the same folks. And yeah, no,
I think it's because when you're younger and you're in
school or you know whatever, I don't know, and everyone's
(02:55):
single and sort of and there aren't children involved, I
think people can are more flex and you're right, now,
it's hard to figure out, like who wants to hang
out with me?
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Right?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
And what are we going to do?
Speaker 3 (03:06):
I'm a low maintenance friend, Like I don't need you
to call me every day. I don't need to go
We don't need to go out all the time. But like,
I just want to know what's not to like, what
are you not liking? I don't know am I doing it?
Speaker 2 (03:18):
You know?
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Like tell me if it's something that I'm doing or
somebody told you or it's just weird. And I'm just
like I cannot think for the life of me why
this person is not excited to be friends.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
He probably, you think.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
So I find that as the guy, as the man
who is single with no children, I don't get invited
to a lot of stuff because people are like, well
it's couples and so you would would be the odd
man out. Or it's couples and kids and you don't
have either, So like, do you really want to come
(03:52):
to my kids, you.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Know, third birthday party?
Speaker 2 (03:55):
And no, not really, but like if it's the only
way that I'm going to see all you guys, then yeah,
then I want to go. But I think what happens is,
you know, people move away and they h and live.
Lives change, and if yours doesn't change along with them,
then you kind of wind up getting excluded. And I
don't think it's on purpose. I hate that, it's just
it just is though. But you're the You have a
(04:16):
husband and a kid, so you're going to get included
in a lot of that stuff and I don't.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
But I better be included in girls' night and single
ladies hitting the street night. Like I still want to
do everything that you know, the old me would do
as well, because I cherish my friendships like I do
water them. It's hard, it's hard work, but to me,
it's like super important because like all my friends are
on different levels.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Everybody's different, living in it for different life.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
I think you're going to find the ways you get older,
there's less and less of the just lose fun socializing.
There's and it takes a little more effort to make
it happen. I mean, try and plan something on this show.
And we're all friends, and we all like each other
and we want to hang out with each other, but
try and try and find one day that all of
us can do the same thing at the same time.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
It's impossible. That's very true. So it's really hard to do,
and I think that is a factor. It is hard.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I mean, as a forty year old man, there aren't
a lot of other forty year old men out there
that are just like chilling that are and I don't
plan very well. So like Friday at five o'clock, I
know the group of guys and where they're going to be.
I know where to find them. But it's the same guys,
and they're guys who are just like me, single with
nothing else to do. But if I try and call
one of my married buddies at Friday at four o'clock
and go, what are you doing, They're like, y'all see
the month right when?
Speaker 1 (05:22):
I can?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
You know clear with my wife? You know, how about
how about six fridays from now? I'm like, I don't
say fridays from that might be will still come up.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
And exactly you got to cut your grass like this?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah you found you found this too, though, haven't your roof? Fine? Yeah?
I don't have any friends.
Speaker 5 (05:36):
I have like one or two friends, and then you guys, Oh,
I mean I just have my family are my friends?
Speaker 2 (05:43):
You know what I'm saying. It's just I think people's
prayer I don't think it's personal. I think it's just
life is hard and it takes a lot of effort.
And when you're working and you have kids and you
have other you know, projects and other things going on,
then you, I don't know, maybe you're just like it's
just one more thing you have to do.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
And I don't think it's personal.
Speaker 5 (06:00):
Yeah no, yeah, I mean everyone's everyone's lives are different people.
You know, something's changed, and some people just stay the
same and you just go. You just that friendship runs
its course and sometimes it's done. Wow, have you tried
talking to that person? Likes something in common with the
person you're talking I'll.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Try to bring up conversation and it's just like it's
not clicking.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
It's just not clicking. And I'm like, I love making friends.
I don't get on that they got that bumble thing.
I'm not that desperate, not friends walking on for friends.
She don't have Big Tim as a friend. Yeah, what
is he exactly? He's my man in my roommate. You
(06:42):
pay half the bills? Is the entertainer report? Is next
friend show?
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