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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, they talk better, very nasty.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show, like
you're running in our diaries, except we say to them aloud.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Kaylin, we would discuss this out the year we did.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
I'm trying to remember. Oh yeah, yeah, you're right.
Speaker 4 (00:14):
So you know what I was singing about my favorite
winning song, and it's My Love is Your Love?
Speaker 3 (00:18):
And I got distracted.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
No, that is not one that you would always hear. Yeah,
that's a hot take.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
I could listen. Yeah, I love that song.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I don't think that would be on most people's top three.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Maybe, yeah, that's true because she has the big bangers.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
I think it's I think most people will go like
the classics and then maybe it's not right, but it's okay.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
And the remix of that song, Oh Chef's Kiss, you.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Know, for like a newer generation anyway.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Yeah, you're right, you're right, because.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
There's three you get the people. Listen to the show tomorrow.
We'll do at leash an hour on this. Don't worry,
it'll be exciting. Caitlyn take it away with the blog.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Yes, dear blog.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
So I saw a TikTok the other day and then
I had a conversation about this with some of my friends,
and I never really thought of this. So to test
my theory, Paulina, if I were to walk up to
you at a bar, I'm a dude, okay, picture it,
and I said, are you single?
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Mmm?
Speaker 3 (01:08):
How would you answer? I feel like most girls do this.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
I already know the answer.
Speaker 5 (01:13):
We would first say I'm sorry, I'm not or sorry
I have a boyfriend, or sorry whatever. But right is
we say sorry or we feel bad that we have
a boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Am I wrong one hundred percent? You're right, you're not wrong.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
Or we give some sort of explanation like I'm flattered
and I love this. Apparently, according to you know, doctor whatsoever.
On TikTok, you are supposed to say one word and
no other words. You are supposed to say no because
if you say other words, that could lead to more
questions and opening and apparently that gives people the idea
that there's you're saying there's a chance.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Yes, right.
Speaker 4 (01:50):
Really, I never thought of it because I am, you know,
a people person, and I am really flattered if someone
hits on me, you know, and I don't ever want
to be there. Li's like, ell, I don't talk to
me because I do think we make men feel like
they can't approach us a lot of the time, and
I do feel bad for that, But a lot of
women apologize.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
For first of all, don't do that. A lot of
women apologize for a lot of things. I didn't realize
that's condition, and it makes me sad. Yeah, you don't
need to apology, but it's taken eight years of knowing
Paulina to get her to stop apologizing for just asking
question around here like nuts, you don't need to do that.
You don't need to apologize for being in a relationship.
I would agree though, that there there's some kindness and
some grace that should probably come with a with a
(02:29):
cold approach from a guy who's not being lecherous or
creepy or disrespectful, who's asking you out. Because I do
hear it from women all the time. I wish guys
would come up to me. The truth is, though, I
think a lot of guys have had a bad experience
going up to people and being shamed or like I
don't know, getting a root response, or people are kind
of mean. It's like, well, there's no need for that.
(02:51):
If I'm being respectful of you and asking you out.
And then you can say yes or no, and then
I need to shut the hell up as a man.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
After that, I don't get to go whoa, oh.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Then screwed because I've seen a lot of stuff where
like dudes then say crappy stuff. Right, Oh, you're too
good for no. We all need to approach us with grace,
like you need. You need to be like, you know what,
I'm seeing somebody, thank you, and I need to be
like absolutely, good luck, good luck to you. You know
that that was wonderful. I got it, you know, thanks
(03:24):
for being cool whatever it is. But like and then
that's it and then we're.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Done and now and it could go both ways.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
So what would you guys say if someone asked if
you were single at a bar?
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I would say if I were were not, I would
just say, hey, I you know I'm seeing somebody or
I'm not.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
And it would be that simple.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Okay, how do you guys answer?
Speaker 6 (03:41):
Oh and be like, yeah, my wife's right here, even
if no, I'm always with my wife.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
If someone approached you, like downstairs at just salad, yeah, well,
first of all, he would say that didn't happen because he.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Wasn't just right I McDonald's.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Yeah, I would say no, sorry, I would say, so
I'm married, okay, see you sorry?
Speaker 6 (04:02):
Right, Yeah, I would do the same thing. I would
say sorry, I'm not But I don't think it's necessarily
sorry that you have a boyfriend or a husband or whatever.
You're just sorry because it's an awkward situation and you
want it to end. That's what maybe I look at it.
I'm like, I'm sorry that I have to do this
year because it's gonna be very awkward for me to say.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
No, I'm not like that's what I'm saying. Sorry.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
Apparently sorry is like making people feel like, oh, like
maybe it's not you know, is it a good relationship?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Are you?
Speaker 4 (04:27):
How are things? How long has it been? Like it
opens the door for more questioning. Apparently, so you just
don't know, right, I don't know. I don't know about
the sorry. I don't know, But I don't know that
it's to me that it would send that message.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
But like I think it does.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I think if anything, it's like sorry for you. You
could spin it in a lot of different ways, depending how
it's like, oh yeah, no, I mean I look, I
don't see it that way. But I guess somebody could
see it as like antagonistic in some ways, like sorry,
you know, sorry for you. I'm seeing somebody. The answer
is either or no. And I think there's a nice
way to be like, oh, yeah, I am seeing somebody.
(05:04):
I don't think you have to say you're sorry. But
like I am seeing somebody, why do men keep going?
Then they'll be like, oh.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
It's a challenge.
Speaker 6 (05:11):
It's a challenge to men because they want to do
what they want what they can't have, And it's always
a challenge to.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Men to be like I could, I don't care. I
think that's to a certain extent that can be true.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
You can't score yikes.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Yeah, thank you, Yeah, but I won't tell you.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
And this is it's not great, But I know, I
know why it was instilled in me as a young person.
It was more of a confidence thing than anything. But
like I remember people in my life, men in my life,
good good men used to say to me if they're
not married, is there's still a chance. And they didn't
mean it like cheat or get someone, you know, dissuade
(05:53):
someone from being in a relationship, or steal them away.
I think it was more like don't give up, you
know what I mean, Or like, don't write somebody off
because they have a boyfriend, because boyfriends and girlfriends don't
always stick around forever. And I think so it's like,
if if you're interested in somebody and they're seeing somebody
that don't be an a hole about it because and
don't necessarily write them off as a friend or something,
(06:14):
because it does sometimes happen where they're seeing someone at
the time, and if you're cool about it and you're
not like a prick and you're not creepy, then who knows.
Sometimes it comes back around where that person does become
available if they're married.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
That's different, right, like says you're single until you're married.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
But like, yeah, I don't think that the invitation is
to then just never take no for an answer. But
I think it's also like, well, just make sure you're
an idiot about how you respond to that, because you
never know, maybe you'll have a shot someday. I think
what's more interesting to me in this day and age
is how people respond to whether they're married or not.
People tend to have various responses to that, and I
(06:53):
often think you can tell the status you can get
an idea subliminably of what they're subliminally of what they're
trying to say.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Either way they answer that question.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Can you think of one that was like weird or
what they would say?
Speaker 2 (07:04):
I mean, I think when people are like, there's a
way to answer that question that that leaves no doubt
in somebody's mind whether you're happy or unhappy in your marriage.
That doesn't necessarily mean that I get to poach you,
but I mean, I think it's I feel like that
that's a wild card these days. You know what it'll
(07:25):
be like, you know, hey, are you married? Like well, yeah,
you know, or I mean technically or whatever.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Whatever.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
It's just like before, it's like sometimes that answer, that answer,
that answer can be more problematic because what as a man,
as a single man, sometimes what I'm trying to decipher
is are you giving me an ind like are you
telling me that you you don't want to be married anymore?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Like?
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Are you telling me that you want me to flirt
with you? Are you?
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Are you telling me without telling me that you're not
happily married or that you're out of your marriage or whatever. Yeah,
I think that's where it can be a little blurry
sometimes it's like, well, what are you saying to me?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
That's crazy?
Speaker 2 (08:02):
And and and I will say those answers are are
more indirect than ever. I've gotten some wild I've gotten
some wild responses to like, well, technically, like I've gotten
that one a lot. So you're married, like technically how
long you've been married? Well?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Wow? But oh wow.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Anytime it like the tone goes like that, it's like,
are you telling me that? Are you like waving the
white flag? Are you are you asking me to engage
or disengage? I don't really know?
Speaker 4 (08:28):
Or yeah, we need to see a signature on divorce
papers these days.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
Okay that that part, that part, yes, Yeah, that's excellent.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
So, yeah, that's excellent. What a great Uh has some
great insight? Kaylea. Thank you should be one. But you know,
all of a sudden this turned into an NBR segment.
I'm like, thank you, Kevin Roberts. Everyone back to you,
all right. Next on the program, The Entertainment Report. I
don't know why I had a difficult time getting out
of that one, but anyway, let's push the button more.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Fredshaw Next,
Yeah, they talk better, very nasty.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show, like
you're running in our diaries, except we say to them aloud.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Kaylin, we would discuss this out the year we did.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
I'm trying to remember. Oh yeah, yeah, you're right.
Speaker 4 (00:14):
So you know what I was singing about my favorite
winning song, and it's My Love is Your Love?
Speaker 3 (00:18):
And I got distracted.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
No, that is not one that you would always hear. Yeah,
that's a hot take.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
I could listen. Yeah, I love that song.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I don't think that would be on most people's top three.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Maybe, yeah, that's true because she has the big bangers.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
I think it's I think most people will go like
the classics and then maybe it's not right, but it's okay.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
And the remix of that song, Oh Chef's Kiss, you.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Know, for like a newer generation anyway.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Yeah, you're right, you're right, because.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
There's three you get the people. Listen to the show tomorrow.
We'll do at leash an hour on this. Don't worry,
it'll be exciting. Caitlyn take it away with the blog.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Yes, dear blog.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
So I saw a TikTok the other day and then
I had a conversation about this with some of my friends,
and I never really thought of this. So to test
my theory, Paulina, if I were to walk up to
you at a bar, I'm a dude, okay, picture it,
and I said, are you single?
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Mmm?
Speaker 3 (01:08):
How would you answer? I feel like most girls do this.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
I already know the answer.
Speaker 5 (01:13):
We would first say I'm sorry, I'm not or sorry
I have a boyfriend, or sorry whatever. But right is
we say sorry or we feel bad that we have
a boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Am I wrong one hundred percent? You're right, you're not wrong.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
Or we give some sort of explanation like I'm flattered
and I love this. Apparently, according to you know, doctor whatsoever.
On TikTok, you are supposed to say one word and
no other words. You are supposed to say no because
if you say other words, that could lead to more
questions and opening and apparently that gives people the idea
that there's you're saying there's a chance.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Yes, right.
Speaker 4 (01:50):
Really, I never thought of it because I am, you know,
a people person, and I am really flattered if someone
hits on me, you know, and I don't ever want
to be there. Li's like, ell, I don't talk to
me because I do think we make men feel like
they can't approach us a lot of the time, and
I do feel bad for that, But a lot of
women apologize.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
For first of all, don't do that. A lot of
women apologize for a lot of things. I didn't realize
that's condition, and it makes me sad. Yeah, you don't
need to apology, but it's taken eight years of knowing
Paulina to get her to stop apologizing for just asking
question around here like nuts, you don't need to do that.
You don't need to apologize for being in a relationship.
I would agree though, that there there's some kindness and
some grace that should probably come with a with a
(02:29):
cold approach from a guy who's not being lecherous or
creepy or disrespectful, who's asking you out. Because I do
hear it from women all the time. I wish guys
would come up to me. The truth is, though, I
think a lot of guys have had a bad experience
going up to people and being shamed or like I
don't know, getting a root response, or people are kind
of mean. It's like, well, there's no need for that.
(02:51):
If I'm being respectful of you and asking you out.
And then you can say yes or no, and then
I need to shut the hell up as a man.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
After that, I don't get to go whoa, oh.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Then screwed because I've seen a lot of stuff where
like dudes then say crappy stuff. Right, Oh, you're too
good for no. We all need to approach us with grace,
like you need. You need to be like, you know what,
I'm seeing somebody, thank you, and I need to be
like absolutely, good luck, good luck to you. You know
that that was wonderful. I got it, you know, thanks
(03:24):
for being cool whatever it is. But like and then
that's it and then we're.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Done and now and it could go both ways.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
So what would you guys say if someone asked if
you were single at a bar?
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I would say if I were were not, I would
just say, hey, I you know I'm seeing somebody or
I'm not.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
And it would be that simple.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Okay, how do you guys answer?
Speaker 6 (03:41):
Oh and be like, yeah, my wife's right here, even
if no, I'm always with my wife.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
If someone approached you, like downstairs at just salad, yeah, well,
first of all, he would say that didn't happen because he.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Wasn't just right I McDonald's.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Yeah, I would say no, sorry, I would say, so
I'm married, okay, see you sorry?
Speaker 6 (04:02):
Right, Yeah, I would do the same thing. I would
say sorry, I'm not But I don't think it's necessarily
sorry that you have a boyfriend or a husband or whatever.
You're just sorry because it's an awkward situation and you
want it to end. That's what maybe I look at it.
I'm like, I'm sorry that I have to do this
year because it's gonna be very awkward for me to say.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
No, I'm not like that's what I'm saying. Sorry.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
Apparently sorry is like making people feel like, oh, like
maybe it's not you know, is it a good relationship?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Are you?
Speaker 4 (04:27):
How are things? How long has it been? Like it
opens the door for more questioning. Apparently, so you just
don't know, right, I don't know. I don't know about
the sorry. I don't know, But I don't know that
it's to me that it would send that message.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
But like I think it does.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I think if anything, it's like sorry for you. You
could spin it in a lot of different ways, depending how
it's like, oh yeah, no, I mean I look, I
don't see it that way. But I guess somebody could
see it as like antagonistic in some ways, like sorry,
you know, sorry for you. I'm seeing somebody. The answer
is either or no. And I think there's a nice
way to be like, oh, yeah, I am seeing somebody.
(05:04):
I don't think you have to say you're sorry. But
like I am seeing somebody, why do men keep going?
Then they'll be like, oh.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
It's a challenge.
Speaker 6 (05:11):
It's a challenge to men because they want to do
what they want what they can't have, And it's always
a challenge to.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Men to be like I could, I don't care. I
think that's to a certain extent that can be true.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
You can't score yikes.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Yeah, thank you, Yeah, but I won't tell you.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
And this is it's not great, But I know, I
know why it was instilled in me as a young person.
It was more of a confidence thing than anything. But
like I remember people in my life, men in my life,
good good men used to say to me if they're
not married, is there's still a chance. And they didn't
mean it like cheat or get someone, you know, dissuade
(05:53):
someone from being in a relationship, or steal them away.
I think it was more like don't give up, you
know what I mean, Or like, don't write somebody off
because they have a boyfriend, because boyfriends and girlfriends don't
always stick around forever. And I think so it's like,
if if you're interested in somebody and they're seeing somebody
that don't be an a hole about it because and
don't necessarily write them off as a friend or something,
(06:14):
because it does sometimes happen where they're seeing someone at
the time, and if you're cool about it and you're
not like a prick and you're not creepy, then who knows.
Sometimes it comes back around where that person does become
available if they're married.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
That's different, right, like says you're single until you're married.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
But like, yeah, I don't think that the invitation is
to then just never take no for an answer. But
I think it's also like, well, just make sure you're
an idiot about how you respond to that, because you
never know, maybe you'll have a shot someday. I think
what's more interesting to me in this day and age
is how people respond to whether they're married or not.
People tend to have various responses to that, and I
(06:53):
often think you can tell the status you can get
an idea subliminably of what they're subliminally of what they're
trying to say.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Either way they answer that question.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Can you think of one that was like weird or
what they would say?
Speaker 2 (07:04):
I mean, I think when people are like, there's a
way to answer that question that that leaves no doubt
in somebody's mind whether you're happy or unhappy in your marriage.
That doesn't necessarily mean that I get to poach you,
but I mean, I think it's I feel like that
that's a wild card these days. You know what it'll
(07:25):
be like, you know, hey, are you married? Like well, yeah,
you know, or I mean technically or whatever.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Whatever.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
It's just like before, it's like sometimes that answer, that answer,
that answer can be more problematic because what as a man,
as a single man, sometimes what I'm trying to decipher
is are you giving me an ind like are you
telling me that you you don't want to be married anymore?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Like?
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Are you telling me that you want me to flirt
with you? Are you?
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Are you telling me without telling me that you're not
happily married or that you're out of your marriage or whatever. Yeah,
I think that's where it can be a little blurry
sometimes it's like, well, what are you saying to me?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
That's crazy?
Speaker 2 (08:02):
And and and I will say those answers are are
more indirect than ever. I've gotten some wild I've gotten
some wild responses to like, well, technically, like I've gotten
that one a lot. So you're married, like technically how
long you've been married? Well?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Wow? But oh wow.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Anytime it like the tone goes like that, it's like,
are you telling me that? Are you like waving the
white flag? Are you are you asking me to engage
or disengage? I don't really know?
Speaker 4 (08:28):
Or yeah, we need to see a signature on divorce
papers these days.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
Okay that that part, that part, yes, Yeah, that's excellent.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
So, yeah, that's excellent. What a great Uh has some
great insight? Kaylea. Thank you should be one. But you know,
all of a sudden this turned into an NBR segment.
I'm like, thank you, Kevin Roberts. Everyone back to you,
all right. Next on the program, The Entertainment Report. I
don't know why I had a difficult time getting out
of that one, but anyway, let's push the button more.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
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