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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's the Fresh Show. This is what's trending. Have you
ever or do you know I'm sure none of you
have ever done this, but do you know anybody who's
ever said something about someone that they first started seeing,
only for them to later marry the person or be
(00:20):
with them for a long time and you realize that
what they said was something that they probably wish they'd
never said. For example, I knew a guy, good buddy
of mine. The first couple of times you went out
with his girlfriend at the time, he was like, yeah,
she's okay looking, but she's so rich. I stood up
(00:43):
in their wedding, by the way, and obviously, like things change,
you know you, I mean I know that in time,
obviously you you develop an affection for someone and there
are things about them. Come on, I mean you have
to have heard of people who were friends for a
(01:04):
long time and there was no romantic interest and then
the romantic interest grew, yeah or whatever, but I always.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Thought they were hot though. I feel like I always
think my friend was attractive.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
You know, is that true? Because I feel like sometimes
where there's not attraction, there's affection, and then the attraction
grows once you get like have you met you've never
dated anybody who when you first met them you were like, nah,
I mean you didn't think of it that way, and
then as you got to know them, because I know
it can go the other way. I know, you can
(01:33):
meet a hot person and they can talk themselves out
of being hot quickly, you know, because they're ignorant or
right dumb or whatever. You know. But I think it
can go the other way. Right where you meet someone
and at first you don't, you don't think about it
romantically because you're not necessarily sexually attracted to them, But
then as you get to know them, you realize, like, wow,
(01:53):
I am becoming attracted to you. I think that happens
a lot, doesn't it.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Oh, go ahead, geek, No, it is a lot, especially
when you get rich.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Well, like when you go from being broke to rich.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I could, like you real I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I think I can always tell if someone's like attractive
or not, like I think that they want to hook
up with them. Park comes later, obviously, but I can
always tell you look good.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Your face is symmetrical. I like what you got gone.
You're welcome. I love it when you talk about me
like that, right, you guys are all hot. I know that.
And old Hollywood. You know, that's that's what they say,
the hottest morning show. That's what I heard. That's the fact.
That's what that lady. She also says, God, yeah, girl
(02:40):
friend just told me that she would never date me
when we first started talking. I can see why she
would have said that. Yeah, yeah, that's not the first time.
We actually like you, and you threw up all over
the bar the first time you met, which may have
may have played a role in why she said that,
you know, but what change that may her to change
(03:00):
her mind?
Speaker 3 (03:01):
So look at me, Come on now, I am looking.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Everything is like a challenge to me. You know what
I'm saying. I pursued and pursuit grind it up on
it from behind.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Let me tell you, yeah, you know, came up from behind,
little grinding action.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Did you grind before or after? Did you a good
kissing on the neck with puke breast? That's right before? Like,
I need a water. I went to the bar, get
a water. And then she's like, yeah, I'll be he back. Okay,
But here's the thing. I think you're a good looking guy.
I do, And I'm not just saying that. Because you're
my brother. I think you're a good looking guy. But
(03:39):
what I will say about you is the Rufio that
I know at the radio station and that I first met,
and the Ruffeo that I see around your family, around
your dad, around your wife and and Ashland is a
different guy. And I can understand why somebody who maybe
meets you and and by the way, now that you're
on the morning show for a long time, we really
(04:00):
get to know who you are. Like I think a
lot of people believe that, but I mean, you know,
the rufio guy was doing a crazy night to show
whatever and the dude who's at home with his kid
and his wife. There are two different people. And so
this is that's my point, right, is sometimes you got
to really get to know somebody and then you're like, Okay,
I see you differently now. And I bring this up
because of a story today. A New Jersey woman was
(04:22):
devastated to find old messages on her husband's phone from
when they first met, where he told a friend he
thought she was ugly. No, so this one's name is Jane.
She checked her husband's phone with his permission last month,
and she found a string of messages from the start
of their relationship, bragging to his friend and this is
(04:43):
a quote about an ugly chick that wanted him so bad.
Oh my god, Oh my god, Oh my god. Hey man,
but hey, is this only a male thing? I don't
think it's only a male thing. You guys do it
to agreement. We do it as well.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
But I always say, we're all a little me to
somebody like, it's okay, why are you looking up with
someone you think is ugly?
Speaker 1 (05:03):
I'll never understand that. Well, he goes on. It gets worse.
I mean, if you thought that was cringey, it gets worse.
He went on to describe how he had to make
out with her a little bit just to keep her happy.
Oh my god. Now I have a bigger problem with
the way he's not necessarily with the fact that he's
not attracted to her at this at this moment, I
(05:24):
have a bigger problem with the way he's talking about
it to his friend. Now. You know, if you're really
close to somebody, sometimes you talk with that person in
a way that you would never ever really you know,
sometimes your your inner monologue comes out with inner monologue
comes out with people who you really like and trust
in a way that you would never really talk to someone.
But I mean, oh my god, anyway, that was six
years ago. Now they're married and she saw this and
(05:46):
she's devastated. So what do you do? I'm curious from
you guys. Of course you can text her call eight
five five five nine one one three five, But I mean,
what do you do you hold that against that person
now six years later? Or is it just like I know,
ever should have seen that. I never should have seen that.
There was no investment, there was no emotional attachment. Obviously
(06:06):
he's changed his mind and he values me and we're
married and whatever else. Or are you like, no, no, no,
I can't believe that's how we started. I'm out. I
hate you. Oh god, that would be real hard for
me to get over.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Really, yes, but you want, like I want the ugly part,
Like it wouldn't matter if he was like, oh, she's
all over me. She wanted I had to make out
with her, like that's all fine, whatever, But like the
ugly part would just crush me.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Oh, it wouldn't bother me. I'd be like I won.
Maybe you locked in, did you? Yeah? With the guy
that talks like that about women?
Speaker 3 (06:39):
He probably was just talking. I wouldn't take it that
like it's a text.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
I talk so much stuff.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
I think that's why I'm like, you know me so
much stuff right now, She's.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Like these ugly co hosts for I don't mean it.
You know what I'm saying, just radio in the car radio.
I love. It's a little joking joke. So Dad, this
is a funny joke.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Look, my family makes fun of me all the time
because when I was single, for like five minutes, I
literally told everybody the family, like I'm praying that my
next man is.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Ugly, he a little slow. He only want me, he
only thinks about me.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
No other girls want him, and so they they bring
that up all the time with big sim like she
literally prayed for you.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
She said you were going to be very adorable. He is,
but like he doesn't like he can't take that personal.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
I was just not a humble dad, joky joke specifically
right at least you guys have seen.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
No one's even introduced me to this ugly man.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I mean, Fred, you will meet him at the wedding
if there's everyone.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Why do you hold that on me of all people?
And I'm sure he's an amazing human being. I'm not
saying he's ugly. I'm only just repeating what you just said.
But I don't think he's ugly. A little joky joke.
It gets worse what he said, I met this ugly
chick at the grocery store where she worked. Yes, it's
(08:12):
kind of funny to say it out loud to me.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Yeah when it's not yeah right right, when you're not
involved this kind of.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I met this ugly chicken, and then I met this
ugly chicken at the grocery store, and she would do
that thing, literally anything for me. See, that's what I'm
a problem with, Like why are you the hot stuff
over here? Like I'm storing my body at you all day?
Like I sing something counter like, I don't understand why
she was doing that at the grocery store. She gave
(08:43):
him extra samples of the of the cold cuts when
she said yeah. But now, by the way, not only
they have three kids. I guess together too. But here's
the thing, So she finds it. She says something to him,
and he reveals that it was all about him and
not about her. Apparently, he says, I think you're beautiful.
(09:06):
He felt bad about himself at the time, and he
wanted to make himself feel better. He says, I'm hurt
by it. I don't know if I can move on
by it. He calls me beautiful. Now I don't believe him.
My confidence is not. I have ugly duckley ugly duckling syndrome.
She says she would have left him in the beginning,
of course, but now they've been married for a long
(09:27):
time and whatever. But he apparently was like, look this,
and I believe it that it was more about his
state of mind than it was about what he really
thought of her not to I'm not saying it's right
what he said, but I mean, I think it's fair
to say that you could. You could. I don't know
seven years ago he could be like, oh, yeah, she
(09:47):
wants because you're trying to convince yourself that you're somebody
who wants to be that somebody wants right that she
wants me. I have no issue with I can't I did. Yeah,
Oh what you're doing going seven years back in some time.
That's why I won't look at his phone. Why did
he give permission?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Like, I'm so confused by this whole couple.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Don't do it. Listen one time, I did look back, okay,
and I will never do it again. No, I am
back before twenty.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Whence you see something you don't want to see, You'll
never get that phone again.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Yes, there's so much context though that that is so
much changes over the course of seven years. I don't
trust me if I get married tomorrow to somebody, I
don't want to look at it anything I wrote to
anybody or anything, because it doesn't really apply now. Granted
we're talking about the same person, but I mean, I
don't know. Here's the real question, though, is can you
(10:39):
move on from it? Like you guys in this room,
could you move on from the I think I probably
could seven years later. I think I could probably look
back and say you didn't really know me, you had
no investment in me, and and to someone's I think
Kekey's point, I won You know what I mean, You
thought I was nothing and and you married me. So
(11:01):
what really? What did I say about you? You know
what I mean? If I'm gonna get upset about it,
I guess it means that you know, I don't know.
I could probably get I'm not saying I wouldn't hurt
my feelings but it doesn't really apply anymore. I don't know,
someone calls me ugly, right, Like, my looks don't change
(11:22):
when I'm in that, Like, what are you gonna do, Hotter?
I'm not getting bad. If you thought I was, that
was my prime. Yeah, I'm uglier. I'm sadder than I was.
I never let it go, you know. Okay, all right,
well there you go, and now everyone's divorced.
It's the Fresh Show. This is what's trending. Have you
ever or do you know I'm sure none of you
have ever done this, but do you know anybody who's
ever said something about someone that they first started seeing,
only for them to later marry the person or be
(00:20):
with them for a long time and you realize that
what they said was something that they probably wish they'd
never said. For example, I knew a guy, good buddy
of mine. The first couple of times you went out
with his girlfriend at the time, he was like, yeah,
she's okay looking, but she's so rich. I stood up
(00:43):
in their wedding, by the way, and obviously, like things change,
you know you, I mean I know that in time,
obviously you you develop an affection for someone and there
are things about them. Come on, I mean you have
to have heard of people who were friends for a
(01:04):
long time and there was no romantic interest and then
the romantic interest grew, yeah or whatever, but I always.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Thought they were hot though. I feel like I always
think my friend was attractive.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
You know, is that true? Because I feel like sometimes
where there's not attraction, there's affection, and then the attraction
grows once you get like have you met you've never
dated anybody who when you first met them you were like, nah,
I mean you didn't think of it that way, and
then as you got to know them, because I know
it can go the other way. I know, you can
(01:33):
meet a hot person and they can talk themselves out
of being hot quickly, you know, because they're ignorant or
right dumb or whatever. You know. But I think it
can go the other way. Right where you meet someone
and at first you don't, you don't think about it
romantically because you're not necessarily sexually attracted to them, But
then as you get to know them, you realize, like, wow,
(01:53):
I am becoming attracted to you. I think that happens
a lot, doesn't it.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Oh, go ahead, geek, No, it is a lot, especially
when you get rich.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Well, like when you go from being broke to rich.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I could, like you real I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
I think I can always tell if someone's like attractive
or not, like I think that they want to hook
up with them. Park comes later, obviously, but I can
always tell you look good.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Your face is symmetrical. I like what you got gone.
You're welcome. I love it when you talk about me
like that, right, you guys are all hot. I know that.
And old Hollywood. You know, that's that's what they say,
the hottest morning show. That's what I heard. That's the fact.
That's what that lady. She also says, God, yeah, girl
(02:40):
friend just told me that she would never date me
when we first started talking. I can see why she
would have said that. Yeah, yeah, that's not the first time.
We actually like you, and you threw up all over
the bar the first time you met, which may have
may have played a role in why she said that,
you know, but what change that may her to change
(03:00):
her mind?
Speaker 3 (03:01):
So look at me, Come on now, I am looking.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Everything is like a challenge to me. You know what
I'm saying. I pursued and pursuit grind it up on
it from behind.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Let me tell you, yeah, you know, came up from behind,
little grinding action.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Did you grind before or after? Did you a good
kissing on the neck with puke breast? That's right before? Like,
I need a water. I went to the bar, get
a water. And then she's like, yeah, I'll be he back. Okay,
But here's the thing. I think you're a good looking guy.
I do, And I'm not just saying that. Because you're
my brother. I think you're a good looking guy. But
(03:39):
what I will say about you is the Rufio that
I know at the radio station and that I first met,
and the Ruffeo that I see around your family, around
your dad, around your wife and and Ashland is a
different guy. And I can understand why somebody who maybe
meets you and and by the way, now that you're
on the morning show for a long time, we really
(04:00):
get to know who you are. Like I think a
lot of people believe that, but I mean, you know,
the rufio guy was doing a crazy night to show
whatever and the dude who's at home with his kid
and his wife. There are two different people. And so
this is that's my point, right, is sometimes you got
to really get to know somebody and then you're like, Okay,
I see you differently now. And I bring this up
because of a story today. A New Jersey woman was
(04:22):
devastated to find old messages on her husband's phone from
when they first met, where he told a friend he
thought she was ugly. No, so this one's name is Jane.
She checked her husband's phone with his permission last month,
and she found a string of messages from the start
of their relationship, bragging to his friend and this is
(04:43):
a quote about an ugly chick that wanted him so bad.
Oh my god, Oh my god, Oh my god. Hey man,
but hey, is this only a male thing? I don't
think it's only a male thing. You guys do it
to agreement. We do it as well.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
But I always say, we're all a little me to
somebody like, it's okay, why are you looking up with
someone you think is ugly?
Speaker 1 (05:03):
I'll never understand that. Well, he goes on. It gets worse.
I mean, if you thought that was cringey, it gets worse.
He went on to describe how he had to make
out with her a little bit just to keep her happy.
Oh my god. Now I have a bigger problem with
the way he's not necessarily with the fact that he's
not attracted to her at this at this moment, I
(05:24):
have a bigger problem with the way he's talking about
it to his friend. Now. You know, if you're really
close to somebody, sometimes you talk with that person in
a way that you would never ever really you know,
sometimes your your inner monologue comes out with inner monologue
comes out with people who you really like and trust
in a way that you would never really talk to someone.
But I mean, oh my god, anyway, that was six
years ago. Now they're married and she saw this and
(05:46):
she's devastated. So what do you do? I'm curious from
you guys. Of course you can text her call eight
five five five nine one one three five, But I mean,
what do you do you hold that against that person
now six years later? Or is it just like I know,
ever should have seen that. I never should have seen that.
There was no investment, there was no emotional attachment. Obviously
(06:06):
he's changed his mind and he values me and we're
married and whatever else. Or are you like, no, no, no,
I can't believe that's how we started. I'm out. I
hate you. Oh god, that would be real hard for
me to get over.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Really, yes, but you want, like I want the ugly part,
Like it wouldn't matter if he was like, oh, she's
all over me. She wanted I had to make out
with her, like that's all fine, whatever, But like the
ugly part would just crush me.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Oh, it wouldn't bother me. I'd be like I won.
Maybe you locked in, did you? Yeah? With the guy
that talks like that about women?
Speaker 3 (06:39):
He probably was just talking. I wouldn't take it that
like it's a text.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
I talk so much stuff.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
I think that's why I'm like, you know me so
much stuff right now, She's.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Like these ugly co hosts for I don't mean it.
You know what I'm saying, just radio in the car radio.
I love. It's a little joking joke. So Dad, this
is a funny joke.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Look, my family makes fun of me all the time
because when I was single, for like five minutes, I
literally told everybody the family, like I'm praying that my
next man is.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Ugly, he a little slow. He only want me, he
only thinks about me.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
No other girls want him, and so they they bring
that up all the time with big sim like she
literally prayed for you.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
She said you were going to be very adorable. He is,
but like he doesn't like he can't take that personal.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
I was just not a humble dad, joky joke specifically
right at least you guys have seen.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
No one's even introduced me to this ugly man.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I mean, Fred, you will meet him at the wedding
if there's everyone.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Why do you hold that on me of all people?
And I'm sure he's an amazing human being. I'm not
saying he's ugly. I'm only just repeating what you just said.
But I don't think he's ugly. A little joky joke.
It gets worse what he said, I met this ugly
chick at the grocery store where she worked. Yes, it's
(08:12):
kind of funny to say it out loud to me.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Yeah when it's not yeah right right, when you're not
involved this kind of.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I met this ugly chicken, and then I met this
ugly chicken at the grocery store, and she would do
that thing, literally anything for me. See, that's what I'm
a problem with, Like why are you the hot stuff
over here? Like I'm storing my body at you all day?
Like I sing something counter like, I don't understand why
she was doing that at the grocery store. She gave
(08:43):
him extra samples of the of the cold cuts when
she said yeah. But now, by the way, not only
they have three kids. I guess together too. But here's
the thing, So she finds it. She says something to him,
and he reveals that it was all about him and
not about her. Apparently, he says, I think you're beautiful.
(09:06):
He felt bad about himself at the time, and he
wanted to make himself feel better. He says, I'm hurt
by it. I don't know if I can move on
by it. He calls me beautiful. Now I don't believe him.
My confidence is not. I have ugly duckley ugly duckling syndrome.
She says she would have left him in the beginning,
of course, but now they've been married for a long
(09:27):
time and whatever. But he apparently was like, look this,
and I believe it that it was more about his
state of mind than it was about what he really
thought of her not to I'm not saying it's right
what he said, but I mean, I think it's fair
to say that you could. You could. I don't know
seven years ago he could be like, oh, yeah, she
(09:47):
wants because you're trying to convince yourself that you're somebody
who wants to be that somebody wants right that she
wants me. I have no issue with I can't I did. Yeah,
Oh what you're doing going seven years back in some time.
That's why I won't look at his phone. Why did
he give permission?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Like, I'm so confused by this whole couple.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Don't do it. Listen one time, I did look back, okay,
and I will never do it again. No, I am
back before twenty.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Whence you see something you don't want to see, You'll
never get that phone again.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Yes, there's so much context though that that is so
much changes over the course of seven years. I don't
trust me if I get married tomorrow to somebody, I
don't want to look at it anything I wrote to
anybody or anything, because it doesn't really apply now. Granted
we're talking about the same person, but I mean, I
don't know. Here's the real question, though, is can you
(10:39):
move on from it? Like you guys in this room,
could you move on from the I think I probably
could seven years later. I think I could probably look
back and say you didn't really know me, you had
no investment in me, and and to someone's I think
Kekey's point, I won You know what I mean, You
thought I was nothing and and you married me. So
(11:01):
what really? What did I say about you? You know
what I mean? If I'm gonna get upset about it,
I guess it means that you know, I don't know.
I could probably get I'm not saying I wouldn't hurt
my feelings but it doesn't really apply anymore. I don't know,
someone calls me ugly, right, Like, my looks don't change
(11:22):
when I'm in that, Like, what are you gonna do, Hotter?
I'm not getting bad. If you thought I was, that
was my prime. Yeah, I'm uglier. I'm sadder than I was.
I never let it go, you know. Okay, all right,
well there you go, and now everyone's divorced.
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