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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Ever been a lot of waiting by the phone. It's
the Fredshell. Hey, Jesse, good morning, welcome to the program.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
How are you hey, I'm doing good things.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Are you all right doing? Okay? What's going on with
this woman? Summer on waiting by the phone?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Here?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
You guys, tell us how you met, and then about
any dates that you've been on, and then why do
you think you're being ghosted? And how we can help.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yeah, I mean we met on Tinder and she was beautiful,
and so I, you know, I wanted to make a
good impression and it seemed to work. I got her
number and we had some drinks. It was a Friday
that that was the night that we hung out and
(00:43):
got a little tipsy after after hanging and we ended
up back at her place okay, and yeah, yeah we did.
We hooked up and I thought that was a good sign.
I thought, you know, green flag, green flag, green flag,
all across the board. And then she goes to me
like like nothing, like I even like waited a little bit,
(01:07):
you know, didn't want to, Like I didn't want to
you know, seem desperate or anything. But like now it's
just like I don't know, we had good chemistry. I
thought like not just physical, but also like I don't know,
I thought there was something more. Yeah, So it's just
surprising to me that, like it's just complete ghosting after
(01:30):
like such a good time.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
These are always the puzzling ones for me, where the
date went so well that you're back to someone's place
and stuff's going on and whatever. That that's usually all good.
So you know, it's kind of weird that then after
that you don't hear anything. And I'm sure I was
bugging you because you were probably excited about the potential
with Summer. So I'm gonna play a song. I'm gonna
come back in a couple of minutes, gonna call Summer.
You'll be on the phone. We'll ask these questions, see
(01:52):
if we can figure out what's going on. And you know,
as always, our hope is that we can straighten things
out and then set you guys up on another date.
And Pa, let's see what's up in parks to you
waiting by the phone right after Submarina Carpenter back in
two minutes. It's the Fred Show, the Carpenter, It's the
Fred Show. It's tew hundred bucks with the show is
Shelley in ten minutes. You win. After the entertainer report
that's coming up to Hey Jesse, Hey, okay, let's call Summer.
(02:15):
You guys, you met on one of the apps. You
went out, had a great date, it went back to
her place. You guys messed around, you said, but you
have not heard from her since, and you're confused because
you thought everything went really well. You want to know
what's going on. Yeah, well, let's call her now. Good luck, Jesse,
thank you?
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Hi? Is this Summer.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Yes, it is Hey Summer. Hi, good morning. My name
is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show, the Morning
radio show, and I do have to tell you that
we are on the radio right now, and I do
need your permission to continue with the call. Can we
chat for just a second your mind?
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Okay? Sure?
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Well, thank you very much. We're calling on behalf of
a dude named Jesse who reached out to us. I
guess you met him on a dating app and recently
went on a date. Do you remember Do you recall
going out with this guy? Do you remember him? Yeah? Okay,
So he told us he called us. He told us
that he really enjoyed meeting you and thought the chemistry
was there. He said that you guys did mess around
at your place after the date that was you know,
(03:15):
he didn't get too specific, but he also says that
he has not been able to get ahold of you
since the date. You're not responding to him, and he
feels like he's being left on red. So what what's
going on? Why are you ghosting him? Why?
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Well, I can't.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
I can't believe I really have to share all these
details online or you know, on the phone. This is
a little weird.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
It is a little weird, but we'd love to know
all the details. You don't have to, but we need.
Yeah you don't, you don't have to, but like you do,
you know what I mean? Like you could hang up,
but that'd be really upsetting to us. So what are
the details that you're reluctant to tell us?
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Well, I mean you don't know and judge me here,
but yeah, we met and went out for drinks and
ended up pooking up at my place and I mean
it was it was fine. But yeah, I haven't really
caught him back for a reason, which is gosh, I
can't live I have to say this. Okay, Well, when
we were in bed. After we hooked up, he went
(04:11):
to get dressed, and I noticed his boxers had a
bunch of holes and then like in the back and
kind of kind of everywhere, and it was they looked
like they were.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Hanging on by a threat.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
It was really literally kind of disturbing. Yeah, it was
kind of gross.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
So you're you were disturbed by his ripped Holy Boxer
brief or Roxes shorts. I guess in this case, like
they just looked old and worn out.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Yeah, it looked very unsanitary. I'm just like thinking, you
know about I don't know all the gross things that
happened down there, and I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Know how do you think those holes were created? Exactly like, Okay,
but y'all already hooked up.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
I said, no judgment, I'm sorry, okay.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
I was just making sure I get it. I would
be like, you can't put on your goodonies for me.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
But he already hid it.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I mean, you need to have one pair of underwear
that doesn't have holes of it. Okay, But here's my question.
You didn't apparently didn't see the underwear before the acts.
You're saying me, no, okay, But then in the process
of hooking up, with him, did you notice anything unsanitary,
like any strange smell, holes or I mean, did he
appear to be put together and sort of clean, you know,
other than the the old underwear. Okay, so yeah, there's
(05:31):
a chance there's a hole in my sock that I'm
wearing right now. There is a chance of it on
the bottom. I'm not I can't confirm or deny, but
I'm saying like it just because there are holes in
underwear does not mean that the person is unclean, right,
that might have been his lucky underwear, like he knew,
you know, look, let me ask him because he's here.
Jesse's been very quiet, But Jesse, what's up with the
(05:53):
holes in the underwear? Like why don't we get just get,
you know, a new underwear that's a little more presentable.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
I'm I'm honestly like shocked that that's what that that's
what she said. I'm a little bit floored. I'll be
real like like I I I They're just like old boxes.
It was laundry day. I threw him on. I didn't
expect that we were gonna hook up, and you know,
(06:18):
things went well. I don't know, I don't know what
to tell you. I'm I'm surprised that that's that's the
hang up here. I thought everything was going good this summer.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I mean, I guess there could be reservations, Like I
don't know what else in your life have you not
replaced that? What does your house look like?
Speaker 2 (06:37):
You know?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I guess I guess you could go there, But I
don't know that. I think he's unclean. They could be far.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
That's too far. That's straight up too far. I like,
like from going from like having like Holy boxers to
not being clean. That's a stretch. I don't know. That
seems like a stretch for me, Jeffy.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
It just tells me you don't like take care of
yourselfing I cried in what you wear, how you present yourself?
That was our first date.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
I was cute.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
I had nice underwar on.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Like yeah, I guess I do think about that, like
you did have to underwear on and like what's it?
Speaker 2 (07:13):
What's it? Like? What's it mean? If I don't like
for the first time, like we mean like that you
mean it's the first it's the first encounter.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Yeah, I mean are you cheap? Like are you do
you not? I don't know, but I mean the clothes
he was wearing were presentable obviously, right, I mean summer.
I mean, look, everything led to a point where there
were no clothes, So everything leading up to you seeing
that gave you every indication that this is a guy
that you would like, and so he has holes in
his underwear, and so we can never talk to him again.
(07:42):
Apparently like it.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
I cannot see it.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
I don't blame you. Really, you would just qualify a
man with holes in his underwear.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
Absolutely at least have the decency to like kick it
under the bat or something to hide it, like get
rid of the evidence.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
But he eventually has to put him back on to leave.
Oh yeah, especially not to see that.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Okay, I'll admit it.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I have had holes in my underwear before, like that's
normal for women.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
However, I would never let a man see that, not
even my husband.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
I mean, are we asking too much for just one
pair of underwear for a date without holes?
Speaker 3 (08:13):
God?
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Okay, but we must remember it all led to the
point where there was no clothing, including the clothing with holes,
so everything was going to the communication was good, obviously,
he was presentable from the exterior, He was put together,
he was clean, he showered. I mean there were no issues. Wow, Well,
I'm just.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Saying like it with a guy who doesn't shower for
three days, right, choice, that's true.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
We don't know that all the underwear is this way.
Like maybe he maybe that was just the last pair.
We've all been there, we've all been down to the
last pair. We're like, oh boy, he.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Commando, right like I laundry day. Okay, well.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
We got another issue. Yeah, Hey, he's frustrated. He liked
the girl and he's upset. He's upset because he's being
out disqualified because of his holy underwear. All right, look, Summer,
let's say that we use part of the budget for
this date and we get the man some new shonies, Yeah,
(09:18):
some new fruit of the loom. We send the guy
over to Tommy John or whatever, get him some nice fancy,
some nice fancy boxer briefs. Then, Summer, would you give
him another chance? Or is it just too late?
Speaker 4 (09:28):
Yeah, it's too late. It's just I'm not his mom,
and I already feel like we're momming him with the boxes,
saying like you should be like grown a doll, and no,
you shouldn't be wearing Holly underwear on a first date.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Well, that's a good point. I'm not asking for a lot.
I mean, I hear you. I'm just I'm trying to
I'm really trying to see the good of this. But
I understand you. This is your expectation. I think it's fair.
But anyway, I'm sorry, Jesse. We can't fix this one
for you.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
No. I I found through this, through this chat that
I don't think it's skipped for me either.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
But underw away, Let's just get some new underwear. Let's
make sure we don't have holes in our underwear. We
are grown ups. I mean, it's it's an easy thing
to do, right, Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yes, that's I'll get new underwear.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Thank you, good of us. We did our good deed today.
That's wonderful summer. Thank you for your time, Jesse, you
as well. Best have luck to both of you.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
A
Ever been a lot of waiting by the phone. It's
the Fredshell. Hey, Jesse, good morning, welcome to the program.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
How are you hey, I'm doing good things.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Are you all right doing? Okay? What's going on with
this woman? Summer on waiting by the phone?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Here?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
You guys, tell us how you met, and then about
any dates that you've been on, and then why do
you think you're being ghosted? And how we can help.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yeah, I mean we met on Tinder and she was beautiful,
and so I, you know, I wanted to make a
good impression and it seemed to work. I got her
number and we had some drinks. It was a Friday
that that was the night that we hung out and
(00:43):
got a little tipsy after after hanging and we ended
up back at her place okay, and yeah, yeah we did.
We hooked up and I thought that was a good sign.
I thought, you know, green flag, green flag, green flag,
all across the board. And then she goes to me
like like nothing, like I even like waited a little bit,
(01:07):
you know, didn't want to, Like I didn't want to
you know, seem desperate or anything. But like now it's
just like I don't know, we had good chemistry. I
thought like not just physical, but also like I don't know,
I thought there was something more. Yeah, So it's just
surprising to me that, like it's just complete ghosting after
(01:30):
like such a good time.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
These are always the puzzling ones for me, where the
date went so well that you're back to someone's place
and stuff's going on and whatever. That that's usually all good.
So you know, it's kind of weird that then after
that you don't hear anything. And I'm sure I was
bugging you because you were probably excited about the potential
with Summer. So I'm gonna play a song. I'm gonna
come back in a couple of minutes, gonna call Summer.
You'll be on the phone. We'll ask these questions, see
(01:52):
if we can figure out what's going on. And you know,
as always, our hope is that we can straighten things
out and then set you guys up on another date.
And Pa, let's see what's up in parks to you
waiting by the phone right after Submarina Carpenter back in
two minutes. It's the Fred Show, the Carpenter, It's the
Fred Show. It's tew hundred bucks with the show is
Shelley in ten minutes. You win. After the entertainer report
that's coming up to Hey Jesse, Hey, okay, let's call Summer.
(02:15):
You guys, you met on one of the apps. You
went out, had a great date, it went back to
her place. You guys messed around, you said, but you
have not heard from her since, and you're confused because
you thought everything went really well. You want to know
what's going on. Yeah, well, let's call her now. Good luck, Jesse,
thank you?
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Hi? Is this Summer.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Yes, it is Hey Summer. Hi, good morning. My name
is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show, the Morning
radio show, and I do have to tell you that
we are on the radio right now, and I do
need your permission to continue with the call. Can we
chat for just a second your mind?
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Okay? Sure?
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Well, thank you very much. We're calling on behalf of
a dude named Jesse who reached out to us. I
guess you met him on a dating app and recently
went on a date. Do you remember Do you recall
going out with this guy? Do you remember him? Yeah? Okay,
So he told us he called us. He told us
that he really enjoyed meeting you and thought the chemistry
was there. He said that you guys did mess around
at your place after the date that was you know,
(03:15):
he didn't get too specific, but he also says that
he has not been able to get ahold of you
since the date. You're not responding to him, and he
feels like he's being left on red. So what what's
going on? Why are you ghosting him? Why?
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Well, I can't.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
I can't believe I really have to share all these
details online or you know, on the phone. This is
a little weird.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
It is a little weird, but we'd love to know
all the details. You don't have to, but we need.
Yeah you don't, you don't have to, but like you do,
you know what I mean? Like you could hang up,
but that'd be really upsetting to us. So what are
the details that you're reluctant to tell us?
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Well, I mean you don't know and judge me here,
but yeah, we met and went out for drinks and
ended up pooking up at my place and I mean
it was it was fine. But yeah, I haven't really
caught him back for a reason, which is gosh, I
can't live I have to say this. Okay, Well, when
we were in bed. After we hooked up, he went
(04:11):
to get dressed, and I noticed his boxers had a
bunch of holes and then like in the back and
kind of kind of everywhere, and it was they looked
like they were.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Hanging on by a threat.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
It was really literally kind of disturbing. Yeah, it was
kind of gross.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
So you're you were disturbed by his ripped Holy Boxer
brief or Roxes shorts. I guess in this case, like
they just looked old and worn out.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Yeah, it looked very unsanitary. I'm just like thinking, you
know about I don't know all the gross things that
happened down there, and I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Know how do you think those holes were created? Exactly like, Okay,
but y'all already hooked up.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
I said, no judgment, I'm sorry, okay.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
I was just making sure I get it. I would
be like, you can't put on your goodonies for me.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
But he already hid it.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I mean, you need to have one pair of underwear
that doesn't have holes of it. Okay, But here's my question.
You didn't apparently didn't see the underwear before the acts.
You're saying me, no, okay, But then in the process
of hooking up, with him, did you notice anything unsanitary,
like any strange smell, holes or I mean, did he
appear to be put together and sort of clean, you know,
other than the the old underwear. Okay, so yeah, there's
(05:31):
a chance there's a hole in my sock that I'm
wearing right now. There is a chance of it on
the bottom. I'm not I can't confirm or deny, but
I'm saying like it just because there are holes in
underwear does not mean that the person is unclean, right,
that might have been his lucky underwear, like he knew,
you know, look, let me ask him because he's here.
Jesse's been very quiet, But Jesse, what's up with the
(05:53):
holes in the underwear? Like why don't we get just get,
you know, a new underwear that's a little more presentable.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
I'm I'm honestly like shocked that that's what that that's
what she said. I'm a little bit floored. I'll be
real like like I I I They're just like old boxes.
It was laundry day. I threw him on. I didn't
expect that we were gonna hook up, and you know,
(06:18):
things went well. I don't know, I don't know what
to tell you. I'm I'm surprised that that's that's the
hang up here. I thought everything was going good this summer.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I mean, I guess there could be reservations, Like I
don't know what else in your life have you not
replaced that? What does your house look like?
Speaker 2 (06:37):
You know?
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I guess I guess you could go there, But I
don't know that. I think he's unclean. They could be far.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
That's too far. That's straight up too far. I like,
like from going from like having like Holy boxers to
not being clean. That's a stretch. I don't know. That
seems like a stretch for me, Jeffy.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
It just tells me you don't like take care of
yourselfing I cried in what you wear, how you present yourself?
That was our first date.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
I was cute.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
I had nice underwar on.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Like yeah, I guess I do think about that, like
you did have to underwear on and like what's it?
Speaker 2 (07:13):
What's it? Like? What's it mean? If I don't like
for the first time, like we mean like that you
mean it's the first it's the first encounter.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Yeah, I mean are you cheap? Like are you do
you not? I don't know, but I mean the clothes
he was wearing were presentable obviously, right, I mean summer.
I mean, look, everything led to a point where there
were no clothes, So everything leading up to you seeing
that gave you every indication that this is a guy
that you would like, and so he has holes in
his underwear, and so we can never talk to him again.
(07:42):
Apparently like it.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
I cannot see it.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
I don't blame you. Really, you would just qualify a
man with holes in his underwear.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
Absolutely at least have the decency to like kick it
under the bat or something to hide it, like get
rid of the evidence.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
But he eventually has to put him back on to leave.
Oh yeah, especially not to see that.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Okay, I'll admit it.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I have had holes in my underwear before, like that's
normal for women.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
However, I would never let a man see that, not
even my husband.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
I mean, are we asking too much for just one
pair of underwear for a date without holes?
Speaker 3 (08:13):
God?
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Okay, but we must remember it all led to the
point where there was no clothing, including the clothing with holes,
so everything was going to the communication was good, obviously,
he was presentable from the exterior, He was put together,
he was clean, he showered. I mean there were no issues. Wow, Well,
I'm just.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Saying like it with a guy who doesn't shower for
three days, right, choice, that's true.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
We don't know that all the underwear is this way.
Like maybe he maybe that was just the last pair.
We've all been there, we've all been down to the
last pair. We're like, oh boy, he.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Commando, right like I laundry day. Okay, well.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
We got another issue. Yeah, Hey, he's frustrated. He liked
the girl and he's upset. He's upset because he's being
out disqualified because of his holy underwear. All right, look, Summer,
let's say that we use part of the budget for
this date and we get the man some new shonies, Yeah,
(09:18):
some new fruit of the loom. We send the guy
over to Tommy John or whatever, get him some nice fancy,
some nice fancy boxer briefs. Then, Summer, would you give
him another chance? Or is it just too late?
Speaker 4 (09:28):
Yeah, it's too late. It's just I'm not his mom,
and I already feel like we're momming him with the boxes,
saying like you should be like grown a doll, and no,
you shouldn't be wearing Holly underwear on a first date.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Well, that's a good point. I'm not asking for a lot.
I mean, I hear you. I'm just I'm trying to
I'm really trying to see the good of this. But
I understand you. This is your expectation. I think it's fair.
But anyway, I'm sorry, Jesse. We can't fix this one
for you.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
No. I I found through this, through this chat that
I don't think it's skipped for me either.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
But underw away, Let's just get some new underwear. Let's
make sure we don't have holes in our underwear. We
are grown ups. I mean, it's it's an easy thing
to do, right, Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yes, that's I'll get new underwear.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Thank you, good of us. We did our good deed today.
That's wonderful summer. Thank you for your time, Jesse, you
as well. Best have luck to both of you.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
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