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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Us a fresh show. It's Kiki's Court.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
All right, son, Kiy King, All rise, the honorable Judge
Kiky is here.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Take it away please, all right, let's.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Get into the courtroom, it says, hey, Kei key. My
husband and I relocated with our kids to the Northwest
Suburbs about two years ago. Since our move, we've gotten
really close with our neighbors. They are a young couple
with small kids like us, and we have a lot
in common. Two weeks ago, my husband and I took
our kids to Disney World for our summer vacation. While
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we were gone, we had a contractor working in our
home to renovate our kitchen. This particular contractor came highly
recommended by our neighbors, so we trusted that everything would
be fine while we were gone. Well, I noticed on
my ring camera that my neighbor's wife kept coming over
to my house during the middle of the day. I
assumed that she was just being a good neighbor and
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keeping an eye on the contractor. Well, to my husband
and I surprise, we caught some audio on the ring
camera of her and the contractor making out and talking
about hooking up again.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
We were shook.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Now, my husband wants to send the footage to her husband,
but I don't want to ruin their marriage, especially for
their kids. My husband has his mind made up, so
is he wrong if he reveals this information to her husband?
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Humm, oh my god?
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Well your cats to be more careful. Okay, Well what
do you Thinkkiki? Well, I think that you know. Usually
I say stay out of marry people's business. We don't
know what they're set up is. However, in this case,
if you're hooking up with the contractor at my house
while your husband is at work, and you're so sloppy
that you're caught on my ring camera still talking and
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canoodling with this man, I'm absolutely telling I'm absolutely sitting
the footage over to you. I'll put you and your
husband in a group text say hey, I don't know
what's going on, but this is what my ring camera caught.
Just want to put it out there because my husband
and I are not going to be guilty with you
exactly is the prime YEA, So no, girl, you you
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put in a fresh out constitution. You have to cheat responsibly.
This is not cheating responsibly. This is sloppy and a mess.
So girl, whatever, happens, happens, but I would definitely let
my husband reveal the information because I would want somebody
to tell me.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Man. Yeah, same.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
You know, I'm really, like truly weighing this because I
tend to want to stay out of that kind of stuff.
I tend to want to stay out of the cheating stuff.
I just I don't know, Like I don't know again,
Like what if there's a arrangement there, like you.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Sat all damn.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
This all arrangement I've never heard of before, never seen
one before, but I keep hearing about it.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Fred, Okay, we you know what I'm about to prove
you on right this second. Because the fact that you
you claim to not have heard about married people who
also hook up with other people, and it's condoned eight five.
It's called non monogamy, and it happens all the time.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Okay, fair, it does, but in my home when the
guy's supposed to be working, right, I mean.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
People get freaky.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
They get freaky in model homes, they get people trying
to get it in wherever they can get it in. Okay,
So the real question here is not about nominogamy. It's
simply if you know someone's cheating. Do you tell? Do
you tell their spouse exactly or do you keep it
to yourself? And you're all saying that you get involved
this time.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
I have to I have to get involved this time.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I just I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
You wouldn't want somebody to tell you, say, you're the
hard working husband at work doing your radio show, nobody
can hear, but your wife is at home.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Well, I mean at this point, somebody probably I don't
have a wife, but you know, someone probably is screwing
her because what else could go wrong? Oh no, I
mean they can't hear my show. Please, someone's sleeping with
my non wife. It's probably the guy who should be
fixing the show about it and didn't tell you.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
You're so mad, I think you do.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I think the reason we're off the air half the
time is because management, instead of doing their jobs, is
actually screwing my non wife in the in the room
with all the wires. That's what I think is going on.
To be honest with you, I oh, man, I just
when it comes to people cheating, You're right. I would
want to know.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
I would. I would want to know. I would, I would.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I just tend to want to stay out of people's
intimate business like that's I don't want to I don't
want to be involved because I also don't want to
get get it turned on me somehow. You know, I'm
like trying to do the right thing and tell you
what's going on. And then it's like, oh, no, he's
a liar. But I guess in this case there's there's proof.
But I don't want this stuff to blow up.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
I don't know, but you guys are all saying definitively,
if you know that your neighbor's wife is cheating, you're
going to her husband and you're telling her.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
And see, you make it sound very simple and cut
and dry. However, if I know that they're cheating, that's
I probably wouldn't say anything. But you're cheating in my
house with the contractor that I'm paying supposed to be
doing a job. I have to blow this up because why,
I mean, the disrespect.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
I think I get it.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
I think if anything, I start with her, I start
with her and I go, hey, look, because I've actually
we talked about on the air.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
A couple years ago.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
My mom had a friend and who came to her
and said, hey, look so and So I know that
these people that I like, the husband is having an affair.
I know it, but I don't know what to do
because like I feel like if I go to her
and blow up their marriage, then somehow it can get
spun around on me, like, oh, it's not happening, and
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why is this person meddling?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
And then you know, in the back of it, even.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Though you were doing the right thing, you still ruined
somebody's marriage or you know, you didn't they did it,
but like you were still involved in the demise of
a marriage. Right, So the advice my mom and I
came up with was you go to him and you
go hey, look, and in this case go to her
be like, I have this footage. I don't know what
you're doing, but one, it shouldn't be in my home.
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Don't do this stuff in my life house whatever you're doing.
And second of all, I don't know if it's condoned
or whatever, but like you need to I like that.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I need you to what.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
I need an explanation from you, and I need to
know that he either knows or he's gonna know, or
I'm gonna tell him because I need you to handle
your business or I'm gonna tell him, because why do
I have to look this guy in the eye every
day when I go to get my newspaper or whatever,
or my mail or whatever. Why do I have to
be the one who knows the thing he doesn't know.
That's an unfair burden you're putting on me, and you're
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doing it at my house.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I didn't ask for that. Handle it. Hm.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Then what if she doesn't handle it, because I don't
know many cheaters that would handle.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
It, then then maybe you have to handle it. You
have a time limit, I'd say you, actually by next week.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I need you to do something about this. I need
you to do something. I need to know that he
knows or whatever you're going to do, end it whatever. Yeah,
but like ultimately that's what you gotta do, right.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
What about you know when we get into relationships, people
usually like well, well back in the day used to
put like on Facebook in a relationship, right, so you
kind you have a new man or now you just
like post him or post her your new girlfriend. And
why can't people who do this then let us know,
like we are in an open marriage. This is all
be avoided because then I would know, you know what
I'm saying, like, it's all in the open. Am I
wrong for that? For wanting to know?
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Yeah, I'm no id all this, but.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
I think that's this woman probably doesn't know that she
was caught, and so in going to her and being like, hey, look,
I'm uncomfortable with it, first of all, with the fact
that you're doing this in my house. Second of all
that I now know this, that would be the chance
for her to go, well, I'm actually in an open situation,
and that could be a lie.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
But then at least, hey, you did your part.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
But you open in my house right way exactly my hours. Yeah,
hooking up you in my new kitchen.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah, well that's that's the thing. Yeah, you want to
do this stuff, do this stuff somewhere else. Don't do
this in you know, don't do this stuff in front
of me. I had another friend that his co worker.
They traveled together for work. His coworker was actively cheating
on the road, like they'd go to another town to
do their job, and this dude's girlfriend would always be
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in the other But the thing was, my friend also
socialized with this guy's wife. Finally, he had to have
a conversation with the guy and He's like, look, I
don't know what your situation is. I don't know if
this is allowed or not allowed or whatever. I don't
know if everyone's on the up and up, you know,
with the knowledge of this. Yeah, but don't do it
in front of me. Like, if you want to do it,
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then you need to be more discreet because you're involving me.
I'm now culpable. I am watching you do this. I
know it's happening. And then I go to dinner with
you and your wife and so if it's ever revealed
and that you are cheating, and then she finds out
that the whole time I knew. Well, now, somehow I'm
a jackass and I didn't even do it. So, like,
you need to be less sloppy, honestly, right, I think
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that's fair to say. I think that's how you handle it.
You go to the source and say you fix this
or I will because it's messed up. I don't want
to have to be involved with with your shenanigans.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Hey kJ, good morning, good morning, how are you kJ? Great?
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Thank you for attempting to listen to this whatever we're doing.
What do you think? So?
Speaker 5 (09:02):
I think kind of like what you guys, should I
think so, why should confront her and be like, hey,
I kind of caught this, but kind of give an
ultimatum and be like, either you tell him or we're
sending this over to him, because I think it's so
messed up that she did this in their house and
they recommended.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
The contractor Yeah, and something tells me that this is
not one of those non monogamous situations, because I don't
know why you're sneaking around in your neighbor's house. I mean,
if this is a situation where it's sanctioned in your marriage,
you can look up other people that I don't know
why you'd have to do it there, Like, you could
do it almost anywhere at that point, because it would be,
you know, common knowledge.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
But you're sneaking around in my house.
Speaker 6 (09:41):
I think she should give her like a week, be
like if you don't tell him, then we will and
send that over to the husband.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I like that, kid, Jay, Thank you, have a good day,
you too, Love you, guys, I love you too. Hey
brook Brook, You're you're voting not a monogamous here. You
think that she's this is what they do.
Speaker 7 (09:57):
So no, I'm saying that if you are nominal domists
that it's not a big deal if someone confronts you
about it. I've been confronted about it before, and I'd
much rather someone be like, hey, so are you cheating?
And I go no, so that you don't think I'm
a home wrecker.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Okay, So let me be clear. I want to know
more about you, Brooks. So you're married, I am. You're married,
and you hook up with other men women? Both everything?
I mean, what is the deal? Yes?
Speaker 8 (10:23):
Both.
Speaker 7 (10:24):
So I'm married and I also have a long term partner.
My husband also has a long term partner, and we
are also free to hook up with other people.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Oh wow, And so you've had people in your life
see you out there doing this and you have to
be like who wha? Like, we don't advertise it because
we don't have to. But by the way, it's okay.
Yes see I get that because there's still a stigma.
I mean, look, I think a lot of people are
still not comfortable or think that it's foreign, and I'm
telling you it is not foreign. You know people who
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are doing this and they're just not telling you because
they're afraid to be judged.
Speaker 7 (10:57):
Many more people are now monogamous than you think they are.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
I know, I know people that you know who we're
doing this? Yeah, who do tell? Wow? Yeah, I'm just
saying no, no, I never will.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I'm not doing that. I never will. But what I'm
saying is you can't dangle that well. I'm going to
My point is it's happening everywhere. It's just not I
feel like we're ten years ahead of it being just commonplace.
I think people are afraid to be judged. I can
see that that's true, brook I mean, is there part
of you that's there you.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Go about it? Yeah, we don't judge. Just so you know. No,
I'm just a little jealous. I'm not part of it.
Thank you, Brooky. I can't be. I'm just sounds like
I could. I think it's it's cool, totally, that's your thing.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
I just don't know how much time you have got
a husband, she's got a partner. Then she's hooking up,
Like I don't even have time to like wash my
butt half the time during the day.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I'm like, you're going to.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Hook up multile people. You should watch you, but watch it.
You should wash your button because you watch her, But no,
I do too. I'm thinking she probably does I don't
know that for a fact, I love it. I honestly,
I can't do it, Like I've even hated people who
I was the accessory, and I just I can't like
even if it's all in the up and up, Like
it's just weird for me to share certain levels of
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intimacy with you and know that you're just going to
go home and go to bed with your husband after that.
I don't know, there's nothing wrong with it, Like, if
that's what you want to do with your life, that's fine.
But for me, even if it's a one time deal
or two weeks or a month or forever, like can
we go one at a time here? Like do we
have to be sort of just mixing everybody's stuff to go?
Speaker 1 (12:30):
I don't like. I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
I don't for me, but it's it's just because that's
not within my comfort level.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
But I don't judge anybody who does it.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I just don't know that I think that's what's going
on here, because why are we sneaking around in neighbor's
kitchens if that's what's happening, right, So, Jessica, you have
the same arrangement.
Speaker 8 (12:48):
Good morning, Good morning, I don't have the famous day
hab going on. But yes, my husband and I participate
in bdism and something that that's his rock souce is
when I text him and say, oh, honey, I've got
another man in our marital bed.
Speaker 9 (13:03):
Like it's completely consensual. We use protection. You know, we're
not trying to have a baby or anything. I can't
have baby, so it would be fine if we weren't
using condoms, but you know, studs and the like. But no,
it's totally fine, Like it works for us. He thinks
it's hot and you know, whole sometimes from work and
we'll just go at it again like rabbits. And I'm
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sorry that you guys don't feel like that's on the
up and out and it's not for you. But it's
not for everyone, and that's fine ing anyone who doesn't
like it. It's just you know, I don't like that
they're sleeping in the neighbor's kitchen. I'll give you that, right,
you know, at least I do it in my own
home or a part or a hotel room.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Well, let me let me just be I'm sorrying to you,
just to be clear on one thing before Kiki talks.
No one here thinks it's not on the up and up.
I don't know if it's on the up and up
with these folks, Like, I don't know if in this
this doesn't sound like a situation where everything is transparent.
But again, if that's what you want to do, and
you guys and you guys are consensing adults, and everyone's
on the same page, everyone feels good about it, well
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then do it. Like by all means, but it wouldn't
work for me. I think I'm just too jealous and
I think too much, Like it wouldn't turn me on
if I'm dating you, Jessica, it is the exact opposite.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Of a turn on. He's running out of here.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
My main part will retract into my body. If you're like, oh,
I'm hooking up with some other guy, I'll be like,
oh my god.
Speaker 9 (14:24):
Like for me, it's so dramatic.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, no, I am no, Jessica, Like, I just I
know my limitations. It doesn't work for me, but I
mean it does work for a lot of other people.
And in fact, the crazy thing is, I think in
some ways it saved people. I think it's ended people's marriages,
and I think it saves people's marriages because there are
people out there who would probably get divorced otherwise. But
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they still like each other and they love each other,
and they have a family, and they have an identity
and they have a life. So they stick with each
other and their proclivities. They find a way to fulfill
themselves in other ways. And if everyone's on the same
page with.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
That, then.
Speaker 9 (15:02):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Okay, drop Jessica dropped the mic. She's like, that's it. Hey,
thank you so much. Have a good day you too.
Uh see, look we got Marissa. Hi, Marissa, how you
doing good? How are you Marissa? Good morning. So just
to recap here in Keiki's court and make sure I
get this right, there's a woman who's having work done
in her house left town, had her neighborhood kind of overseeing.
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It turns out that her neighbor's hooking up with the
contractor and she caught it on the ring camera and
she doesn't know what to do with this information.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
What do you think?
Speaker 6 (15:35):
Yeah, so I think Fred, it's it's two separate things here,
because I understand your point of not wanting to get
involved in other people's business. But if there was a
type of arrangement like this, keep it in your own house.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
I agree with that.
Speaker 6 (15:47):
I'm a person that I'm paying to get my work done.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
Yep.
Speaker 6 (15:51):
But also going back to the point, I don't think
you confront the husband. You have to confront the person
who's doing it directly, because this happened to me. I
found out that someone really close to me was cheating,
and I confronted them directly and I was like, hey,
I know, knock it off. You need to tell them,
And if you don't tell them by this point, then
I'm going to tell them because they deserve to have
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a choice in the matter.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (16:14):
I think because of that situation, you got to go
directly to the person.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Marisa, I like the strategy. I think, Kiki you like
it too, Judge, Kiky, I like the strategy of going
to the culprit and being like, you need what is
the deal? I need you to handle this and keep
it out of my house. Because you go to the
other person, then it gives it gives the culprit in
this case, the opportunity to spin it.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
You know, you know you have proof.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
It's like, I don't know, I just I think you're
leaving yourself exposed, it's like, tell the person involved to
be less sloppy.
Speaker 6 (16:45):
Yeah, And in addition, I don't care why you're doing it.
I don't need to know.
Speaker 9 (16:48):
That's not my business, but.
Speaker 6 (16:50):
You need to know let other people know, and that
you're hurting other people involved because of what you're doing.
So knock it off and go to the person own it.
Speaker 8 (16:58):
And move on.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Yeah, Like, if you tell me one thing, why do
I have to live with your you know, infidelity? Why
do I have to Why do I have to keep
your secret? Why do I have to look at your
husband and wonder if he knows or if I'm the
only one that knows, and if he's ever going to
find out. And then I could pull into it because
it was happening in my house almost like I sanctioned it,
and then if yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 6 (17:19):
That's what happened to me. Unfortunately, like this situation unfortunately
happened with my parents and my one my parents who
was doing it asked me to keep that secret, and
I was like, you can't put that on me with
my other parent as well, so I know it's not
the same because that's family versus neighborly, but still you
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don't want to be involved in that situation when you
shouldn't have to be.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
I agree, I agree, Thank you, Marissa. Yeah, I have
a good day.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Yeah, I love you too. Case closed. Another situation was
alf Tiki you did it?
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
I love how people are like man, I'm impressed with
your advice for once. Frett I am right way more
than I get. I mean, at least eighty percent of
the time, and the twenty percent of the time I'm wrong.
I'm never going to admit it, but eighty twenty that's
not bad.
Us a fresh show. It's Kiki's Court.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
All right, son, Kiy King, All rise, the honorable Judge
Kiky is here.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Take it away please, all right, let's.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Get into the courtroom, it says, hey, Kei key. My
husband and I relocated with our kids to the Northwest
Suburbs about two years ago. Since our move, we've gotten
really close with our neighbors. They are a young couple
with small kids like us, and we have a lot
in common. Two weeks ago, my husband and I took
our kids to Disney World for our summer vacation. While
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we were gone, we had a contractor working in our
home to renovate our kitchen. This particular contractor came highly
recommended by our neighbors, so we trusted that everything would
be fine while we were gone. Well, I noticed on
my ring camera that my neighbor's wife kept coming over
to my house during the middle of the day. I
assumed that she was just being a good neighbor and
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keeping an eye on the contractor. Well, to my husband
and I surprise, we caught some audio on the ring
camera of her and the contractor making out and talking
about hooking up again.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
We were shook.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Now, my husband wants to send the footage to her husband,
but I don't want to ruin their marriage, especially for
their kids. My husband has his mind made up, so
is he wrong if he reveals this information to her husband?
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Humm, oh my god?
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Well your cats to be more careful. Okay, Well what
do you Thinkkiki? Well, I think that you know. Usually
I say stay out of marry people's business. We don't
know what they're set up is. However, in this case,
if you're hooking up with the contractor at my house
while your husband is at work, and you're so sloppy
that you're caught on my ring camera still talking and
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canoodling with this man, I'm absolutely telling I'm absolutely sitting
the footage over to you. I'll put you and your
husband in a group text say hey, I don't know
what's going on, but this is what my ring camera caught.
Just want to put it out there because my husband
and I are not going to be guilty with you
exactly is the prime YEA, So no, girl, you you
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put in a fresh out constitution. You have to cheat responsibly.
This is not cheating responsibly. This is sloppy and a mess.
So girl, whatever, happens, happens, but I would definitely let
my husband reveal the information because I would want somebody
to tell me.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Man. Yeah, same.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
You know, I'm really, like truly weighing this because I
tend to want to stay out of that kind of stuff.
I tend to want to stay out of the cheating stuff.
I just I don't know, Like I don't know again,
Like what if there's a arrangement there, like you.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Sat all damn.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
This all arrangement I've never heard of before, never seen
one before, but I keep hearing about it.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Fred, Okay, we you know what I'm about to prove
you on right this second. Because the fact that you
you claim to not have heard about married people who
also hook up with other people, and it's condoned eight five.
It's called non monogamy, and it happens all the time.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Okay, fair, it does, but in my home when the
guy's supposed to be working, right, I mean.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
People get freaky.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
They get freaky in model homes, they get people trying
to get it in wherever they can get it in. Okay,
So the real question here is not about nominogamy. It's
simply if you know someone's cheating. Do you tell? Do
you tell their spouse exactly or do you keep it
to yourself? And you're all saying that you get involved
this time.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
I have to I have to get involved this time.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I just I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
You wouldn't want somebody to tell you, say, you're the
hard working husband at work doing your radio show, nobody
can hear, but your wife is at home.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Well, I mean at this point, somebody probably I don't
have a wife, but you know, someone probably is screwing
her because what else could go wrong? Oh no, I
mean they can't hear my show. Please, someone's sleeping with
my non wife. It's probably the guy who should be
fixing the show about it and didn't tell you.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
You're so mad, I think you do.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I think the reason we're off the air half the
time is because management, instead of doing their jobs, is
actually screwing my non wife in the in the room
with all the wires. That's what I think is going on.
To be honest with you, I oh, man, I just
when it comes to people cheating, You're right. I would
want to know.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
I would. I would want to know. I would, I would.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I just tend to want to stay out of people's
intimate business like that's I don't want to I don't
want to be involved because I also don't want to
get get it turned on me somehow. You know, I'm
like trying to do the right thing and tell you
what's going on. And then it's like, oh, no, he's
a liar. But I guess in this case there's there's proof.
But I don't want this stuff to blow up.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
I don't know, but you guys are all saying definitively,
if you know that your neighbor's wife is cheating, you're
going to her husband and you're telling her.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
And see, you make it sound very simple and cut
and dry. However, if I know that they're cheating, that's
I probably wouldn't say anything. But you're cheating in my
house with the contractor that I'm paying supposed to be
doing a job. I have to blow this up because why,
I mean, the disrespect.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
I think I get it.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
I think if anything, I start with her, I start
with her and I go, hey, look, because I've actually
we talked about on the air.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
A couple years ago.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
My mom had a friend and who came to her
and said, hey, look so and So I know that
these people that I like, the husband is having an affair.
I know it, but I don't know what to do
because like I feel like if I go to her
and blow up their marriage, then somehow it can get
spun around on me, like, oh, it's not happening, and
(05:34):
why is this person meddling?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
And then you know, in the back of it, even.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Though you were doing the right thing, you still ruined
somebody's marriage or you know, you didn't they did it,
but like you were still involved in the demise of
a marriage. Right, So the advice my mom and I
came up with was you go to him and you
go hey, look, and in this case go to her
be like, I have this footage. I don't know what
you're doing, but one, it shouldn't be in my home.
(05:58):
Don't do this stuff in my life house whatever you're doing.
And second of all, I don't know if it's condoned
or whatever, but like you need to I like that.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I need you to what.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
I need an explanation from you, and I need to
know that he either knows or he's gonna know, or
I'm gonna tell him because I need you to handle
your business or I'm gonna tell him, because why do
I have to look this guy in the eye every
day when I go to get my newspaper or whatever,
or my mail or whatever. Why do I have to
be the one who knows the thing he doesn't know.
That's an unfair burden you're putting on me, and you're
(06:30):
doing it at my house.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I didn't ask for that. Handle it. Hm.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Then what if she doesn't handle it, because I don't
know many cheaters that would handle.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
It, then then maybe you have to handle it. You
have a time limit, I'd say you, actually by next week.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I need you to do something about this. I need
you to do something. I need to know that he
knows or whatever you're going to do, end it whatever. Yeah,
but like ultimately that's what you gotta do, right.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
What about you know when we get into relationships, people
usually like well, well back in the day used to
put like on Facebook in a relationship, right, so you
kind you have a new man or now you just
like post him or post her your new girlfriend. And
why can't people who do this then let us know,
like we are in an open marriage. This is all
be avoided because then I would know, you know what
I'm saying, like, it's all in the open. Am I
wrong for that? For wanting to know?
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Yeah, I'm no id all this, but.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
I think that's this woman probably doesn't know that she
was caught, and so in going to her and being like, hey, look,
I'm uncomfortable with it, first of all, with the fact
that you're doing this in my house. Second of all
that I now know this, that would be the chance
for her to go, well, I'm actually in an open situation,
and that could be a lie.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
But then at least, hey, you did your part.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
But you open in my house right way exactly my hours. Yeah,
hooking up you in my new kitchen.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah, well that's that's the thing. Yeah, you want to
do this stuff, do this stuff somewhere else. Don't do
this in you know, don't do this stuff in front
of me. I had another friend that his co worker.
They traveled together for work. His coworker was actively cheating
on the road, like they'd go to another town to
do their job, and this dude's girlfriend would always be
(07:59):
in the other But the thing was, my friend also
socialized with this guy's wife. Finally, he had to have
a conversation with the guy and He's like, look, I
don't know what your situation is. I don't know if
this is allowed or not allowed or whatever. I don't
know if everyone's on the up and up, you know,
with the knowledge of this. Yeah, but don't do it
in front of me. Like, if you want to do it,
(08:19):
then you need to be more discreet because you're involving me.
I'm now culpable. I am watching you do this. I
know it's happening. And then I go to dinner with
you and your wife and so if it's ever revealed
and that you are cheating, and then she finds out
that the whole time I knew. Well, now, somehow I'm
a jackass and I didn't even do it. So, like,
you need to be less sloppy, honestly, right, I think
(08:42):
that's fair to say. I think that's how you handle it.
You go to the source and say you fix this
or I will because it's messed up. I don't want
to have to be involved with with your shenanigans.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Hey kJ, good morning, good morning, how are you kJ? Great?
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Thank you for attempting to listen to this whatever we're doing.
What do you think? So?
Speaker 5 (09:02):
I think kind of like what you guys, should I
think so, why should confront her and be like, hey,
I kind of caught this, but kind of give an
ultimatum and be like, either you tell him or we're
sending this over to him, because I think it's so
messed up that she did this in their house and
they recommended.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
The contractor Yeah, and something tells me that this is
not one of those non monogamous situations, because I don't
know why you're sneaking around in your neighbor's house. I mean,
if this is a situation where it's sanctioned in your marriage,
you can look up other people that I don't know
why you'd have to do it there, Like, you could
do it almost anywhere at that point, because it would be,
you know, common knowledge.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
But you're sneaking around in my house.
Speaker 6 (09:41):
I think she should give her like a week, be
like if you don't tell him, then we will and
send that over to the husband.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I like that, kid, Jay, Thank you, have a good day,
you too, Love you, guys, I love you too. Hey
brook Brook, You're you're voting not a monogamous here. You
think that she's this is what they do.
Speaker 7 (09:57):
So no, I'm saying that if you are nominal domists
that it's not a big deal if someone confronts you
about it. I've been confronted about it before, and I'd
much rather someone be like, hey, so are you cheating?
And I go no, so that you don't think I'm
a home wrecker.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Okay, So let me be clear. I want to know
more about you, Brooks. So you're married, I am. You're married,
and you hook up with other men women? Both everything?
I mean, what is the deal? Yes?
Speaker 8 (10:23):
Both.
Speaker 7 (10:24):
So I'm married and I also have a long term partner.
My husband also has a long term partner, and we
are also free to hook up with other people.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Oh wow, And so you've had people in your life
see you out there doing this and you have to
be like who wha? Like, we don't advertise it because
we don't have to. But by the way, it's okay.
Yes see I get that because there's still a stigma.
I mean, look, I think a lot of people are
still not comfortable or think that it's foreign, and I'm
telling you it is not foreign. You know people who
(10:53):
are doing this and they're just not telling you because
they're afraid to be judged.
Speaker 7 (10:57):
Many more people are now monogamous than you think they are.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
I know, I know people that you know who we're
doing this? Yeah, who do tell? Wow? Yeah, I'm just
saying no, no, I never will.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I'm not doing that. I never will. But what I'm
saying is you can't dangle that well. I'm going to
My point is it's happening everywhere. It's just not I
feel like we're ten years ahead of it being just commonplace.
I think people are afraid to be judged. I can
see that that's true, brook I mean, is there part
of you that's there you.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Go about it? Yeah, we don't judge. Just so you know. No,
I'm just a little jealous. I'm not part of it.
Thank you, Brooky. I can't be. I'm just sounds like
I could. I think it's it's cool, totally, that's your thing.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
I just don't know how much time you have got
a husband, she's got a partner. Then she's hooking up,
Like I don't even have time to like wash my
butt half the time during the day.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I'm like, you're going to.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Hook up multile people. You should watch you, but watch it.
You should wash your button because you watch her, But no,
I do too. I'm thinking she probably does I don't
know that for a fact, I love it. I honestly,
I can't do it, Like I've even hated people who
I was the accessory, and I just I can't like
even if it's all in the up and up, Like
it's just weird for me to share certain levels of
(12:08):
intimacy with you and know that you're just going to
go home and go to bed with your husband after that.
I don't know, there's nothing wrong with it, Like, if
that's what you want to do with your life, that's fine.
But for me, even if it's a one time deal
or two weeks or a month or forever, like can
we go one at a time here? Like do we
have to be sort of just mixing everybody's stuff to go?
Speaker 1 (12:30):
I don't like. I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
I don't for me, but it's it's just because that's
not within my comfort level.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
But I don't judge anybody who does it.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I just don't know that I think that's what's going
on here, because why are we sneaking around in neighbor's
kitchens if that's what's happening, right, So, Jessica, you have
the same arrangement.
Speaker 8 (12:48):
Good morning, Good morning, I don't have the famous day
hab going on. But yes, my husband and I participate
in bdism and something that that's his rock souce is
when I text him and say, oh, honey, I've got
another man in our marital bed.
Speaker 9 (13:03):
Like it's completely consensual. We use protection. You know, we're
not trying to have a baby or anything. I can't
have baby, so it would be fine if we weren't
using condoms, but you know, studs and the like. But no,
it's totally fine, Like it works for us. He thinks
it's hot and you know, whole sometimes from work and
we'll just go at it again like rabbits. And I'm
(13:25):
sorry that you guys don't feel like that's on the
up and out and it's not for you. But it's
not for everyone, and that's fine ing anyone who doesn't
like it. It's just you know, I don't like that
they're sleeping in the neighbor's kitchen. I'll give you that, right,
you know, at least I do it in my own
home or a part or a hotel room.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Well, let me let me just be I'm sorrying to you,
just to be clear on one thing before Kiki talks.
No one here thinks it's not on the up and up.
I don't know if it's on the up and up
with these folks, Like, I don't know if in this
this doesn't sound like a situation where everything is transparent.
But again, if that's what you want to do, and
you guys and you guys are consensing adults, and everyone's
on the same page, everyone feels good about it, well
(14:04):
then do it. Like by all means, but it wouldn't
work for me. I think I'm just too jealous and
I think too much, Like it wouldn't turn me on
if I'm dating you, Jessica, it is the exact opposite.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Of a turn on. He's running out of here.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
My main part will retract into my body. If you're like, oh,
I'm hooking up with some other guy, I'll be like,
oh my god.
Speaker 9 (14:24):
Like for me, it's so dramatic.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, no, I am no, Jessica, Like, I just I
know my limitations. It doesn't work for me, but I
mean it does work for a lot of other people.
And in fact, the crazy thing is, I think in
some ways it saved people. I think it's ended people's marriages,
and I think it saves people's marriages because there are
people out there who would probably get divorced otherwise. But
(14:48):
they still like each other and they love each other,
and they have a family, and they have an identity
and they have a life. So they stick with each
other and their proclivities. They find a way to fulfill
themselves in other ways. And if everyone's on the same
page with.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
That, then.
Speaker 9 (15:02):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Okay, drop Jessica dropped the mic. She's like, that's it. Hey,
thank you so much. Have a good day you too.
Uh see, look we got Marissa. Hi, Marissa, how you
doing good? How are you Marissa? Good morning. So just
to recap here in Keiki's court and make sure I
get this right, there's a woman who's having work done
in her house left town, had her neighborhood kind of overseeing.
(15:25):
It turns out that her neighbor's hooking up with the
contractor and she caught it on the ring camera and
she doesn't know what to do with this information.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
What do you think?
Speaker 6 (15:35):
Yeah, so I think Fred, it's it's two separate things here,
because I understand your point of not wanting to get
involved in other people's business. But if there was a
type of arrangement like this, keep it in your own house.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
I agree with that.
Speaker 6 (15:47):
I'm a person that I'm paying to get my work done.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
Yep.
Speaker 6 (15:51):
But also going back to the point, I don't think
you confront the husband. You have to confront the person
who's doing it directly, because this happened to me. I
found out that someone really close to me was cheating,
and I confronted them directly and I was like, hey,
I know, knock it off. You need to tell them,
And if you don't tell them by this point, then
I'm going to tell them because they deserve to have
(16:12):
a choice in the matter.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (16:14):
I think because of that situation, you got to go
directly to the person.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Marisa, I like the strategy. I think, Kiki you like
it too, Judge, Kiky, I like the strategy of going
to the culprit and being like, you need what is
the deal? I need you to handle this and keep
it out of my house. Because you go to the
other person, then it gives it gives the culprit in
this case, the opportunity to spin it.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
You know, you know you have proof.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
It's like, I don't know, I just I think you're
leaving yourself exposed, it's like, tell the person involved to
be less sloppy.
Speaker 6 (16:45):
Yeah, And in addition, I don't care why you're doing it.
I don't need to know.
Speaker 9 (16:48):
That's not my business, but.
Speaker 6 (16:50):
You need to know let other people know, and that
you're hurting other people involved because of what you're doing.
So knock it off and go to the person own it.
Speaker 8 (16:58):
And move on.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Yeah, Like, if you tell me one thing, why do
I have to live with your you know, infidelity? Why
do I have to Why do I have to keep
your secret? Why do I have to look at your
husband and wonder if he knows or if I'm the
only one that knows, and if he's ever going to
find out. And then I could pull into it because
it was happening in my house almost like I sanctioned it,
and then if yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 6 (17:19):
That's what happened to me. Unfortunately, like this situation unfortunately
happened with my parents and my one my parents who
was doing it asked me to keep that secret, and
I was like, you can't put that on me with
my other parent as well, so I know it's not
the same because that's family versus neighborly, but still you
(17:41):
don't want to be involved in that situation when you
shouldn't have to be.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
I agree, I agree, Thank you, Marissa. Yeah, I have
a good day.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Yeah, I love you too. Case closed. Another situation was
alf Tiki you did it?
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
I love how people are like man, I'm impressed with
your advice for once. Frett I am right way more
than I get. I mean, at least eighty percent of
the time, and the twenty percent of the time I'm wrong.
I'm never going to admit it, but eighty twenty that's
not bad.
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