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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's the Fresh show. This is what's trending. I pushed
around the button. We're still there.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Yeah, okay, it wasn't man right now, I'm just pushing
all the buttons to see which one it is.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
That's how we figure it out, though.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
No, I mean, and I'm doing a power cycle on
my brain. Yeah, I'm in power cycle.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
A bunch of texts this morning eight five, five, five, nine,
one one oh three five. Nice body referring to me
Jake chill at home. I think his voice is kind
of high. Maybe that's what it is, his voice. Maybe
his voice and his body don't match. Or maybe the
voice is what gives short to me. Okay, because he
does kind of have a softer, higher voice.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Yeah, he's a good actor.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Though agreed about Jake g I was listening all morning.
Did Shelley win the show down yesterday?
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
You didn't hear that part? That's the part that gets
us all the ratings. No, wonder. Maybe I also want
to say that the malfunction was strategically timed. They wait
till the most critical part of the show to start
screwing around with stuff. But that's nothing, that's nothing, rare
yea these guys love to do like software updates, Like
let's do a software It's seven thirty in the morning.
(01:02):
What's happening and there's nothing happening at the radio station
seven thirty in the morning, is there No, No, we'll
just do it two in the morning. Nah, right in
the middle of the Fred Show.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Let's do it.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
We're gonna need to just take everything down and put
it back up. But we're not really sure what's gonna
happen when it comes back. But that's the perfect time
to do itb A Tours, I'm telling you when no
one's listening because it's only.
Speaker 5 (01:21):
Happening on one side too, Like.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Oh no, it doesn't happen any other show in the
middle of it. Just stars.
Speaker 6 (01:27):
No.
Speaker 5 (01:27):
I'm just say like our listeners in Raleigh, they heard
everything like perfectly fine, thank god, it's only here we
complains the most.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
I mean, it's a miracle that place is put together
with duct tape.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
That's the truth. The radio station in Raleigh.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
I'm God, bless them, God bless Trevor and Berger and
all those guys. But honestly, like the last time I
was there, I soldered stuff myself.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I had a blowtords out. I was moving walls around.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I was, I was, They're like, hey, the microwave doesn't work,
and I'm like, okay, I power cycled back.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
I mean it was like.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
They're like, yeah, in order to get in order to
get on the radio, you got to hold these two
wires together. From nineteen seventy like Marconi himself worked at them.
The radio was invented at that place. It's it's God
bless them. I mean, it's it's truly like a pawn
shop from nineteen seventy eight. Yeah, anyway, holding us down. No, No,
(02:31):
it's we love we love them. We love those guys.
What are some other texts? Oh, all the teachers going
back to work broke the radio. I certainly hope that's
what happened.
Speaker 6 (02:38):
Imagine.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I certainly hope that they were the capacity of the
listenership was so high that it just didn't know what
to do. That's really what we're looking for these days anyway.
So just no, just know that it matters. And we
had this conversation before all the teachers and moms and
kids went off first summer, we had this conversation. We
(02:59):
had family meeting and we said, guys, look if you
like this show and you want us to keep doing it,
don't don't have it, don't stop listening for the summer.
So there's like heart palpitations and meetings and you know,
I got Big Daddy Bob calling me, going where did
everybody go?
Speaker 7 (03:14):
You know?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
And I'm like, I don't know, I don't know. And
now everyone's back apparently, so it's good. I hope everyone
else enjoyed their minor time at the top, but nope,
we're taking it back right everyone, Our.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Rightful spot is the top.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
Right right if they can hear this right right.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
In the meantime, they're playing polka music back. Also, I
need to give a shout out this morning to I
got nice message from our tour Simonis, who's a radio
host in Lisbon, Portugal at AFM.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Apparently this is what he said.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
He said, Hi Fred, Today I was left alone by
my two co hosts and it feels like everyone else
in the building went on vacation, same same our tour,
so it's just me and the mic. So to feel
less alone and connect with my overseas peers, I decided
to link up with radio hosts from all over the
world who were on the air at the moment with
that said, I would love to get a hello from
you for my show. You can text it to me here. Well, hello,
(04:11):
our tour in the beautiful city of Lisbon. It's a
nice place and you're a nice guy. Yeah, and he's there,
so good, good morning man.
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Here and was waiting for the second part where he's
going to ask you for like a thousand dollars exactly.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Wait a minute, book, I did buy a MacBook from him?
Are you saying it's not real? I gave him my
social Security number and routing information.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (04:44):
He said that I was a descendant of I'm a
portuge I'm a Portuguese prince is what he said, and
which everyone can see when they look at me. And
he said that I was going to inherit eighty seven
gazillion gold balloons. Wait a minute, are you saying that
our tour is lying to me? No, that's impossible.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Gouts.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
We have controversy and what's trending this morning? I should
play the Olympic music and Jason, I'm sure you have
something to say about this. But we thought the Olympic
stuff was over. But USA Gymnastics said Monday that it's
appealed to restore gymnast Jordan Childs bronze medal, and the
floor exercise has been turned down. The Federation was informed
by the Court of Arbitration for Sports that the rules
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do not allow for an award to be reconsidered even
when conclusive new evidence is presented. The news comes a
little more than a week after the actual floor exercise
competition itself, or a late inquiry by her coaches first
triggered the saga that played out in the day's sense.
So in the last routine of the floor exercise final,
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she got a score of thirteen point six to sixty six,
which included a deduction of one tenth of a point
for an improper slip split leap known as I'm not
even a tourjit full yet. Of course, obviously, that score
put her fifth behind two other gymnasts who had scores
of thirteen point seven. But then the coaches from USA
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Gymnastics formally appealed that specific deduction and the judges agreed.
Her score then went up, which then made her eligible
for a bronze medal. The Romanians then said that the
last minute reversal was unfair, and ultimately that's been upheld,
So you gotta ship that thing back.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Sorry about that, good luck getting it back right. Got'd
be like find it, come find it, come.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
Take it right.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Getting yourself that sucks anyway. And it looked like they
had and they had video that this wasn't correct.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Right, So you can appeal it one way but not
the other apparently, So she just doesn't get a say
in it.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
And that sucks that you have to give the medal back.
But then do you sort of just always know that
you want it? I mean I realized that's probably not
as good as you know.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Like your first solo medal. This is all the drama
around it, like crappy is that?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Yeah? That does kind of suck.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
A four point four magnitude earthquake hit southern California yesterday afternoon,
sending shit waves that were felt across the region. It
was about twelve twenty two point five miles south southeast
of Highland Park, near LA's Chinatown neighborhood. People felt the shaking.
Aaron Rodgers is trending today. He apparently regrets telling reporters
in twenty twenty one that he had been immunized. That's
(07:19):
the quote against the coronavirus, you know as soon to
be published unauthorized biography. He told an author, Ian O'Connor
that while his claim to immunization was the crux of
his appeal, he would handle the situation differently today. If
there's one thing that I wish I could have done different,
it's that, because it's the only thing that critics could
hit me with. So this is a guy who said, well,
(07:41):
I guess he tested positive for COVID as an unvaccinated player.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
He was sidelined, but he had said that he was immunized.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
But what that really meant was that he wanted homeopathic
treatment regimen that would then qualify as a vaccination.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
NFL said no.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
But before that, he had said that he was immunized,
So that's what he really wanted, was some sort of
you know, alternative, and they said no to that, and
he took a lot of heat for him. A proposed rule,
a federal rule, would make it easier to cancel subscriptions,
which is amazing because if you've ever noticed, it's very
easy to sign up for stuff and it can be
(08:19):
exorbitantly difficult.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Oh my goodness, have you ever tried to cancel a gym?
Or VECA membership. I'm a letter.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
You got to have a notarized letter with your grandmother's blood. Yeah,
you got to hand it to him too, Like you
can't even there. It's crazy. But yeah, they'll take your
credit card and you're in the gym in about four seconds.
Speaker 8 (08:38):
Right.
Speaker 6 (08:39):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
So the Biden administration, if they get their way, the
answer would be that it's like a one to two thing,
very simple. The administration is going to work through the
FTC and FCC to ask companies to make it as
easy as possible to cancel subscriptions as it is to
sign up for them in the first place. For a
lot of services, it takes one or two clicks on
your phone to sign up. It should take one or
two clicks on your phone to end this service. The
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new regulations were announced yesterday, but we'll take anywhere from
weeks to months to go into effect. There's a rage
that's trending. I didn't realize this, Americans owning miniature farm animals.
Do you know any want who done this? Cow's goats, donkeys,
and other tiny farm animals.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (09:19):
Rob Derd did it back on with his little mini horse.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
I'm surprised.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
She had time with all of his MTV shows to
do anything. It was part of the show.
Speaker 5 (09:27):
It was Robin big yeah, Rip big yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
I'm just curious.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
By the way, if you've got a second eight five
five five one three five Bellhamine, don't click on anything
but the phone.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
I swear to God. By the way, I do not
think it's her fault.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
I just love every time I see her in the
hallway to blame it on her, because it's just my career.
It's not you know, it's not a big deal. It's
just my livelihood. I mean, she's got she's got twenty
more years to live than me. But that's okay. It's fine.
When I'm unemployed. I'll make sure her coffee is super
super hot when I serve it to her.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Ops.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Anyway, I want to, though, if you would, who has
the most obscure or has had the most obscure pet,
because I'm sort of amazed at what people are willing
to keep in their homes. But yeah, miniature cows, goats, donkeys,
and other tiny farm animals have grown in popularity since
the COVID nineteen pandemic. Also, people raising chickens in their
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backyard for fresh eggs, which I guess that's cool. One
farmer said, a lot of people don't have access to
several acres, but if they have an acre plot, they
can have a miniature cow or a few miniature goats.
Some people see a small farm animal as a stepping
stone to owning larger animals. Others don't have the desire
to expand. Some owners of many farm animals turn their
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hobbies into side hustles like tours, breeding, and blogging about
their experiences. The challenges would include if you're thinking about
this chase and the volatile nature of prices for each
of the types of miniature farm animals, and while they
can be cute, they could also be aggressive.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Important to know that how do they.
Speaker 5 (10:57):
Is it like a you know, how do they make
a mini minichure animal?
Speaker 1 (11:00):
And they're bred that way? Right? And then they yeah,
and then they did yeah. Okay, but I'm just cured.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
I'm curious who has the most obscure You can text
her call the same number the most obscure pet, because
I mean, it's kind of amazing.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
What people are, you know, are willing to investicate? Yeah,
I had a squirrel, We had a squirrel. We had
a pet squirrel. Oh, like it actual? So how did
this come about it?
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Did you was it domesticated or did you find it
and then adopt it yourself.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
We found it in the yard and then Mike was
just working in the garage every day, and the squirrel
would just come and hang out. Like the squirrel would
come in the garage and like walk over stuff and
Mike would give him peanuts and whatever. But then he
would like, like if you came to visit, he would
like jump on you and like sit on your shoulder.
He would like do it to everybody so I could
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pet him, Yeah, you could like pet him. He would
be on your shoulder. He would like run around and
like that.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Would make me so nervous because don't they sometimes have
you know, rabies and.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Yeah I got bit ones.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Yeah, but he would do it to everybody, so like
you weren't expecting. You just showed up at my house
and then like runs a squirrel up your legs and
they're so fast, they're so fasty, but they're so soft.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Like I saw this video the other day of a woman.
I'm not sure where she was, but she was like
in a like a trench somewhere and I it wasn't
in the United States. And she's she's like in this tread,
this little thing like a rose a little river, like
a shallow river, and this like python looking black snake
just comes cruising down the river and what and like
head for her, and what does she do? Picks the
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thing up. It's not hers, like it's a wild snake.
And it had the little like the little things on
the on the neck that make it look real scary,
like a little wings, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
I had little wings on there.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Yeah, And and she just picks the thing up and
holds it close to her face and it's like, you know,
hanging out. And it didn't bite her, It didn't do anything.
But I'm just going like people are wild, Like you
don't know that guy or girl, you don't know that snake.
Speaker 9 (12:55):
My grandpa had a pet raccoon and it bit my
aunt's ear.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Yes, someone just said my brother in law had crocodile's Caitlin,
I had a raccoon as a child in our house
as a pet.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Boa constrictors crocodiles. Someone had crocodiles.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
I had an albino African claude water frog, a mini horse. Gosh, yeah,
and Massachusetts is Jason's favorite state.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
What's it called Massachusetts?
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Massot that's good and that was really good.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Thank you. It just rolled off the TA name.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
It's been ranked the best place to live in America
in twenty twenty four. According to wallet Hub, the best
state is Massachusetts. To determine the best and worst states,
they compared across fifty states, key dimensions, affordability, economy, education, health,
quality of life and safety. Florida, New Jersey, Utah, New
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Hampshire were the top five. Louisiana, New Mexico, Arkansas, Alaska,
and Nevada the worst states to live in guys.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
In case you were wondering, it's.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
National Prosecco Day and National Fila Mignon Day. P secos
little sweet, but I just put all together, you know,
have yourself a nice mimosa and then you know, grow
yourself up of flaming you on. Treat yourself, you know.
And for Caitlin, maybe a nice uh poor shop. I
don't know, because you don't like the you don't like
the cows. No, so I just I don't know what.
(14:17):
I don't know what loves the cows? Well not, she
doesn't like the flaming on the version of the cow. Yeah,
because that means not thanks champlain.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
The Fread Show is on.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
It's stay or go, It's uh zandras here. Hi Xander,
good morning, Hi, Good morning, Xandra. Tell us what's going on?
Because obviously you would call us to get our opinion
on what's happening in your life. What's going on with
your boyfriend? We're all ears.
Speaker 8 (14:47):
Yeah, No, I am calling for advice. I just kind
of need a different perspective.
Speaker 6 (14:51):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Oh, we'll give you that. Don't worry, we'll give you
a seven or eight different perspective. Go ahead, please tell
us what's going on?
Speaker 8 (14:58):
Sure, So, so recently, me and my boyfriend, we've just
for contacts, been together about a year. We got into
a pretty big fight, but we ended up making up
like a few days later, so that was fine.
Speaker 6 (15:16):
But about a month or so after the fight, and.
Speaker 8 (15:20):
This was recently, I went through his phone, which, I,
you know, to my better judgment, I guess it's I know,
it's like always a dangerous thing.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
If you're looking for something, you're gonna find it. What
did you find? What did you find?
Speaker 8 (15:41):
I ended up finding a conversation with him and his friends,
and it was during this whole fight that we were having,
and what he was saying to them I thought was
really shocking.
Speaker 6 (15:55):
He was calling me names like like the B word.
You know, I can't I don't think I can say
things on the radio.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Yeah, we's just to be safe.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Let's just not say so he was having a private
conversation with what a friend of his. Who was he
saying these things.
Speaker 6 (16:11):
To Yeah, to his friends and.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Multiple or was it a group chat or was it one?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I mean, I'm just trying to get an idea here
for like, how how widespread these comments were received.
Speaker 6 (16:23):
Yeah, I was a group chat with him and his bros.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Okay, so he's venting and he's calling you names, and
you read this and this was a month ago or
so that this all happened, and since that, if you
and again i'm not gaslighting you here, I'm just you,
if you hadn't read these text messages, then in your mind,
this problem was done and resolved and you were satisfied
with where you guys were today or yesterday or whenever
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before you read them. Right, Okay, so you read these
things and you're upset by the comments, and then what
do you do.
Speaker 5 (16:55):
Well.
Speaker 8 (16:55):
I was devastated, Like I ended up confronting him, and
then he got upset and he said, oh, it's my
fault because I never should have gone through his phone,
and I said, well, it is your fault what you said,
you know, And then he told me that he was
just heated and he was venting to his friends and
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he didn't mean anything. He wasn't actually thinking those things,
you know, all the all the stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
So now you're wondering how to deal with that because
you're not what you didn't think that he had it
in him to call you those names, or or you
think that it's a bad sign. I'm just trying to understand.
I mean, you're you're you're hurt by those words that
he used.
Speaker 8 (17:41):
Yeah, and he was saying really nasty things, like he
was saying that he never should have dated me in
the first place, you know, things that make me really
question now, like I would never even think those things
about him, let alone say them, you know.
Speaker 6 (17:57):
And now I'm like, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Well, I'd love to know what people have to think.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Obviously in this room, but at eight five five five
three five, in fact, we're going to debate this right now,
and have your radio on your iHeart app, and we're
going to talk about you behind your back. Okay, but
now we debate. So you told us a story. Now
we debate. But hey, good luck and I hope this
all works out for you.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Okay. Does anyone else have any questions?
Speaker 10 (18:21):
I do have your question for her? Does he call
you names like that to your face? Like during the
argument that I'm saying, Okay, so he's kind of quiet.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
So this guy's known to be a decent human being.
Like he's not mistreating you. He's not. He's kind to
you for the most part. I mean, people have disagreements
and squabbles and whatever else, but like you guys are
able to fight in a healthy way and then heal
from it.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
It sounds like it.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
It sounds like everything was okay until you read these
text messages, right right?
Speaker 6 (18:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Do you now one more question? Do you do you
stand by you're just I mean maybe you do now,
but if you're able to be objective, do you stand
by your decision to go through his phone to do
you know? Because in some ways I'm not excusing what
he said to you, but like a phone can be
an extension of like your brain sometimes right, Like there's
stuff that I've surged and stuff that I've said and
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you know whatever that I probably wouldn't say out loud.
It's kind of like an inner monologue just because I
think those things are because I vent and get them
off my chest to someone who's not you, who I trust,
who's also not another woman, or you know, a bunch
of other areas that would be sort of gray areas
at best. Does that make me a bad person or
does that just make me a human? You know what
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I mean? Like he wanted to get these things off
his chest. They were mean things. People say mean things
when they're angry that they don't mean. I would say
that His response to you probably should have been I
was really angry and I said a bunch of stuff
I don't mean, and I'm sorry. But he was probably
more focused on the fact that you went through his
phone behind his back and found this stuff, which is
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an invasion of privacy and fairness. Now again, you found it,
so I guess it can be addressed. But I mean,
you never would have known this happened, and you just
said that you don't have any sort of character issue
with this guy. So what if he'd said those things
and you never you never knew about it, then you
just move on with your life and everything's okay, right, Well, yeah, because.
Speaker 6 (20:18):
I wouldn't have known.
Speaker 8 (20:19):
But I mean, I want to know the truth about
what my boyfriend thinks about me.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
But you've never said anything in a heated argument. I'm
not defending him saying derogatory things about you.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
I'm not.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
But what I am defending is people's right to get
angry and react, and it doesn't make their reaction right,
it doesn't make the words right.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
But he should have apologized.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Again though the only reason you know is because you
kind of betrayed him. And again, not gaslighting you, but
like that shouldn't have happened either. That's an invasion of privacy.
I should have a right to event to my friends
and work through an issue, because in some ways that's healthy,
right because then you're getting that stuff off your chest,
you're not directing it at the person you're angry with,
and then you go solve the problem, which it sounds
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like they were able to do and communicate and move
forward in a healthy way. You cannot tell me people
in this room. People call and you cannot tell me
that you have not said something about someone else to
someone else and then realize after the fact that I
should I never would have said that to that person.
Speaker 11 (21:21):
I shouldn't have said it at all. Yeah, I'm the
queen of low blows. You guys know that, so I
might have to say this one out. But I feel
like as long as he apologizes and owns it and says, like, listen,
I'm sorry that I said that, and he doesn't do
it again, I think that's where I'm at because I
think if you're really sorry, then you're going to change
your behavior.
Speaker 12 (21:37):
I'm going through the phone. I'm not mad at that.
I know that's really unpopular. I'm not mad at that idea.
I know, I know you hate it. I don't hate it,
And don't people have a right to be angry and
say things they don't mean? And again, yeah, I don't
know this guy, and I wasn't there for that. I
wasn't there for the confrontation, Sandra. But do you think
maybe he was just more stunned that he was caught
because you went through his stuff without him knowing.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Do you think maybe he.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Would have apologized if if you had found out a
different way.
Speaker 6 (22:03):
I mean, how else would I have found out?
Speaker 7 (22:06):
Well?
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Okay, And do you think the relationship would have suffered
or would you have thought anything differently of him if
you didn't know that he said those things?
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Probably not, Yeah, I.
Speaker 8 (22:14):
Mean I would have been living in blissful ignorance, like
if I didn't know this. But the fact of the
matter is, like we could say all day long, oh what.
Speaker 6 (22:22):
If this with this? But this is a situation.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
But people have a right to scrrupt, don't they. Yes,
But I think and self correct.
Speaker 10 (22:31):
I think the issue is more so like you're disrespecting
me to another group of people, Like I would almost
prefer that he had said this in the argument to
her and they could have worked out their issues there.
But you're literally disrespecting me to a whole other group
of people, taking our fight to a whole other level,
involving other people. And you're feeling this way about me.
I'm your partner, I'm your spouse. You should be able
(22:52):
to get that off your chest to me.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
Yeah, But there's in any relationship, there's a certain group
of people on my side and her side that I
just assume when things aren't going well that there's communication
going on there, and in fact, in some ways I
might argue beyond even what he said and the fact
that you found it, I would I might argue that
it's it might be unfair for him to say a
lot of these things if he expects the relationship to
(23:14):
be resolved because depending on the you know, depth of
what he said. Now these people, you know, now that
they've gotten back together, things are working out, and now
everyone's going to get together again, and like people are,
you know, their thoughts are clouded, right, which is why
it can be tough to to really go in on
the person you're dating with friends because like maybe your version,
(23:34):
your your heated version, your emotional version, is not exactly
how it happened, and you're getting it off your chest
and you're feeling better and you're venting. But then whatever
you said is now something that weighs on people's minds.
And then when you call him and go, I got
back together with him, now they're thinking only of the
I don't know. It can be, it can be convoluted.
But at the same time, who else do you go to?
Speaker 10 (23:52):
Who else do you go to?
Speaker 2 (23:55):
You have a right to communicate to other people in
a way that can be forgiven.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
You have a right.
Speaker 10 (24:00):
Now you've tainted our relationship to everybody else, and the
same way you just explained, Like with my brothers, I
don't go to them about every time Big Tim pisses
me off, because they're not going to forget that me
and him to be fine in five minutes.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
They're not going to forget.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
I don't go to my sister either, But I do
have friends that have heard everything, and I know those people.
I know who to go to, and they're able to moderate.
Those people are able to go okay, because look, I've
got buddies who invented about their wives to me, and
I'm friends with their wives. But I'm able to stay
in my mind, Okay, Well you were my friend first,
and you're upset, and so I'm just gonna hear you
(24:34):
because you want to be heard right now. I'm not
internalizing that. And I think you know they the next
day they wake up or two days later, a week
or a month, they go, I don't feel that way anymore,
and then they're able to communicate in a helpful way
because they got it off their chest.
Speaker 10 (24:46):
Yeah, but as your partner, if I see this communication,
then now my feelings have changed towards you, because now
I feel betrayed. You're having this discussion with somebody else
about our relationship when you haven't even approached me that way.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Fair enough, fair enough, Exandra. Right now, I'm going to
let you go have a great morning, and thank you
so much for calling.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Good luck.
Speaker 6 (25:04):
Thank you. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
I don't know, Jay, what do you think.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
I don't like going through the phone, that is not
unless I need to do unblock myself.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
But she wouldn't have known about this, and she admitted
that this sort of stuff does not permeate into their relationship.
It's not like he's calling her names and abusing her
and being admits that that's not how he operates.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Yeah, I don't know. I'm very big on like, I'm
very open.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
I have to talk things out, so like everyone around me,
Like I'm sure you've heard me say things about Mike
and I get into an argument or whatever, it's not
really fair because I think it does.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
Change your view of him.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
But I also think like people that really know me know,
like like you said, Fred, like I'm angry. I'm just
like you know, I wouldn't stay with someone if he
was like fundamentally a bad person, right, So like, I
don't know, but it is unfair to the other person.
So I see your point, Kiki, where it's like, you know,
it's not fair to bring other people in and they're
looking at you all crazy, because like Mike and I
(26:00):
went through a very hard time and I never thought
my parents were ever going to like forgive, Like I
thought it was like a done relationship with them, and
and you know, we worked through it, talked through it.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
They're good.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
But like you know, it's times like that where it's
like it could have went the other way and now
you're tarnishing how your significant other looks to people that
are important to you.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
So that's a very slip.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
There are a ton of variables here, but I will
I think I've pointed most of them out. But I
also think you're right about the parents, Like, once my
mom has made a decision, once I've involved her in
something bad and she's made a decision, it is admittedly
going to be very difficult, which is why I don't
involve certain people in my life unless I'm very positive
(26:42):
about the way that I feel. Because you know, my
mom and my sister are not people to flippantly vent
to because they're just not because they're not going to forget.
But some of my friends are. They can hear it
and go okay, all right, And then if I make
the judgment call to then go back to that person
or forgive them or word it out, well, then they
do too, because I did. Right now, There's only so
(27:03):
many times you can do that, and when it starts
to get into really abusive stuff or really really bad stuff,
I think there is an expiration day on people's patients. Oh,
but like you have a right to vent, you have
a right to say things you don't mean and say
that you're sorry.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Hey, Veronica, good morning. What do you think?
Speaker 6 (27:20):
Good morning?
Speaker 13 (27:21):
I am coming from a sentiment of place now. I
was married for twenty years to my late husband. We
lost him in twenty nineteen.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
I'm sorry for your lost sir.
Speaker 13 (27:31):
Yeah, he's battling cancer.
Speaker 6 (27:33):
But we were together through our high school years.
Speaker 13 (27:35):
We got married I was twenty three, and so I'm
very well versed in this type of situation. There were
a lot of things that I would vent to my sister,
to my friends about during an argument that I would.
Speaker 6 (27:48):
Never say or disrespect him to his face.
Speaker 13 (27:50):
Did I really mean them at the time, Maybe, but
I wouldn't. I didn't really mean them, Like I didn't
really hate him.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
I didn't really you know.
Speaker 13 (27:59):
The things that I would say to my sister or
my friends are not things that I would typically say
to his face. And then like we always had healthy arguments,
we never you know, he was never abusive. He never
called me out of my name to my face, at
least that I know of. But I mean, I did
that and I didn't really mean that. And it's like
I would never tell this girl. I would tell this
(28:19):
girl that it's you know, you said, Fred, you have
a right to vent? And did she have a right
to go through his phone?
Speaker 14 (28:25):
No?
Speaker 13 (28:25):
I never, Ever, in the twenty years that my husband
and I were married, I never he never gave me
the reason to have to go through his phone, because,
like she said, he doesn't disrespect her to her face.
He doesn't like abuse her and do stuff like that.
But maybe quietly he did to his friends, but I
never knew about it, and it was okay because I
did it too. So I think, like you said, Fred,
I think a lot of people they have the right
(28:46):
to vent. And do you really mean those things. Maybe
in the moment and the heat of the moment, yeah,
but I would never ever do that to his face.
Speaker 7 (28:54):
And I think she's she's.
Speaker 13 (28:56):
Not overreacting, but she had a right to feel the
way she does. But I'm telling you, coming from the
place that I've been and losing my husband, I would
I just wish couples would be more forgiving and not
so quick to just call it quits all the time nowadays.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
You know, Veronica Well said thank you have a great
day here too. There are just so few circumstances where
I think going through the phone is a good idea.
I mean, and yeah, you know, there's what do they
call that. I can't think of the term right now,
But it's like you were looking for something, you found it,
so you feel justified, and it's like, okay, was a
(29:33):
confirmation bias.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
It's I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
There's so few circumstances where I think you are justified
in going through people's stuff behind their back. And again,
I know people who are like, well, I did it
and I found out he was cheating or I found
out she was cheating, So I'm justified maybe, But how
about all the times that people do it they don't
find anything, or they find something benign, or they find
something that they didn't need to I mean, trust me,
I've had conversations about loved ones to people, and I've
(29:58):
said things that I regret saying and that I would
never say if I weren't angry. But I'd rather say
it to someone else and have them go all right, now,
let's like, Okay, you said it, now, let's talk about it.
Then say it to the person, because that could end everything.
That I might say something in the heat of the
moment that I'm never forgiven for. It's why I don't
get into big fights with people very often, because what
(30:20):
happens is the big fights they turn into you know,
do they turn into something about something else, and before
long you're not even fighting about the thing you were
fighting about anymore. Now you're just hurting each other, and
you got to undo all that before you can solve
the actual problem. Anna, how you doing? Good morning?
Speaker 6 (30:37):
All right?
Speaker 7 (30:38):
Hi, good morning are you guys?
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Thanks for carling, Thanks for listening. What do you want
to say?
Speaker 7 (30:43):
So? I've been in a sixteen year plus relationship with
my current fyance and we have this agreement that you know,
when we have arguments between him and I only if
I need advice or anything like that. I don't really
go up to friends or family and about it because
(31:04):
I think personally, when it comes to relationships, is between you,
you and the spouse or your partner. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
No, because that was the other point that we were making,
is we're kind of going back and forth here at
different scenarios. Is you know it is it can be
unfair to involve you know, your your inner circle because
you know, if you're just temporarily mad, or you have
some personal opinions, or you suspect some things and then
maybe they're not true. Your friends don't forget that stuff.
Speaker 4 (31:28):
Nope.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
And there does come a time and maybe it's not
the first time or the second or the tenth, but
there does come a time where people are getting a
little tired of hearing about the stuff that's going on
that you're not doing anything about or that you know
what I mean, Like, there's only so many times you
can go to the well before people are like, I
love you and I'll support you, but I can't hear
this stuff anymore because it's like, yeah, if it's all true,
then do something. Handle your business right y.
Speaker 7 (31:52):
Yeah, because I've had friends who come to me for
advice for relationships, which I don't mind. You know, I
don't mind doing.
Speaker 6 (31:58):
That for you. But at the end of it's your decision.
Speaker 13 (32:01):
You decide what you want to do with your relationship.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Yeah, you come to me fifty times and tell me
that your spouse is the enemy. At some point, I'm
gonna be like, there's a theme here, and it's only
so many times. There's only so many times I can
support you here. I'm not not your friend, I don't
not love you, but like, if all that's true, then
you got to handle this.
Speaker 7 (32:18):
Yeah, And then they come tell me they're going to
break up with them, and then like at a weekend
party and I see him with her, I'm like, what happened?
Speaker 1 (32:27):
That can be hard?
Speaker 8 (32:28):
Broken up?
Speaker 1 (32:29):
That can be hard because if you're.
Speaker 7 (32:30):
A friend, I don't want to judge the guy either.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Yeah, and thank you, Anna, thank you for calling. If
you're a friend, then you oftentimes take on the weight
of your friend's dilemma. And like, how many times do
I have to to bear you know, the herd and
the you know what I mean? How many times do
I have to like be in the trenches with you before.
It's like, all right, are you gonna do something about this? Hey, Elizabeth, Hi, Hi,
(32:55):
good morning, stay or go? This woman called us She
went through her boyfriend's phone out after a few weeks
after a fight.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
Yeah, can you hear me?
Speaker 14 (33:05):
Okay, yeah, hold on, Elizabeth, hold on.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
Let me do my job real quick. So I'm just
recapping here. She went through her boyfriend's phone a few months,
a few weeks after a fight, only to find that
he had been venting to his friends in a very
negative way about her. And now she's she has access
to this information. She's upset. What do you think, Elizabeth.
Speaker 15 (33:24):
I think they need to take a breath and just
give themselves, you know, a little bit of space. But
I don't think that either one of them should go necessarily.
And you know, I was hearing somebody else that was awful.
A widow. I'm a widow. She looked back at things
with a whole different view when the person's not there anymore,
(33:46):
and things in the heat of the moment, in the
acute situation, you need to explode. But overall that doesn't
mean that.
Speaker 6 (33:53):
You hate that.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Yeah, I agree, I agree with you.
Speaker 15 (33:56):
At the same time, with the text messages. She's also
a person, and if she in the moment was getting
a vibe that something wasn't right, it's killing you to
not try and figure.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
Out what that is.
Speaker 8 (34:08):
So I don't blame her.
Speaker 15 (34:09):
I don't like the idea, but I don't blame her
for going to a text message.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
I feel like if she'd never read that stuff, she
never would have known. And she wasn't you know, we
asked the question. She wasn't even getting the vibe like
things were okay. So they had moved past it, you know,
And so people make mistakes, people say things they don't mean,
they move on, they cope.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
And now she's sort of.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
Re regurgitating an old fight that he's that everyone had
moved past. So don't I don't know about this, but Elizabeth,
I'm sorry for your loss, and thank you for Sharon.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
Have a great day. Thank you, Love you guys, love
you too. I don't Christina, Hi, good morning.
Speaker 4 (34:48):
Hi, good morning everyone, Hey welcome.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
What do you want to say about stair ago?
Speaker 4 (34:52):
Oh man, what a drama filled morning?
Speaker 7 (34:55):
This is?
Speaker 13 (34:56):
Well.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
I think we're saying hold on for the record, Christine,
I think we've stayed on the I think we've stayed
on the air the whole hour, so that's less drama
than we've been experiencing.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
Okay, yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (35:08):
All I want to comment you is, I know the
type of behavior that she was doing, just going through
his phone and whatnot. When I would argue with my
boyfriend when I was much younger, I was just looking
for a reason to be above him and keep fighting
with him. And so I honestly believe that she was
looking for a reason to continue the argument, and the
fact that the trust is now broken, I don't think
(35:30):
that she felt secure in this relationship. The fact that
she's already hurting her own feelings going through his phone,
invading his privacy, like, it's just very mature in my opinion,
if you felt very secure and loved in your relationship,
regardless of you know, the fight, then you wouldn't be
going through your partner's phone. And well, I know very
(35:50):
well she's probably saying the same thing to her friends
about him.
Speaker 6 (35:53):
She just hasn't been caught.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
Oh well, and again, Christian, I can only speak to
my perspective of what I would do, But I'm a
highly imperfect person. I've said any number of things in
my life to other people about someone that I am
so glad I never said to them, I got it
off my chest. I said it. I regret it. It's
over and it was better that I I.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
In fact, don't you.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Have people in your life who are like calm, Like
when you're upset with that person, call me, like my
therapist has said to me before, Like when I'm in
relationships out, yeah, call me.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Don't say it to that.
Speaker 4 (36:24):
We're all done, You're like, you know what, I'm going
back to loving my partner. Yeah, but it's just a
sheer fact that the privacy was invaded. And I can't
imagine if she was in his shoes and if he
went through her phone and saw like her girlfriend's conversations,
if he were Roboto and say, oh look what you said.
Now let me get mad at you, even though we
haven't gone past the first fight yet.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
Yeah, I hear you. Thank you, Christina.
Speaker 14 (36:45):
Have a good day. By America. Jesus, Well, we're trying,
but this is by America. I mean to I want
to hear about this. This is passport gate. Yes, okay,
go ahead.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
Deer blog, so we are.
Speaker 6 (37:00):
I don't know what you want to call it.
Speaker 9 (37:02):
Three or four days out from going to Greece. My
boyfriend and I so leaving the country, which requires a passport.
Speaker 6 (37:09):
Okay, three days out.
Speaker 9 (37:11):
We received his passport yesterday.
Speaker 1 (37:16):
Oh my god.
Speaker 9 (37:17):
Now my whole thing is like, don't you misplace it?
Like I told him, even if we break up in
the future, I will text you every time it's time
to renew, because no one should ever have to go
through this again.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
Which so we have it. So we're armed, We're ready,
We're armed of the passport.
Speaker 2 (37:33):
We had to call presidential contacts. I mean, it really
got serious. I called the embassy. Yeah, I mean I
got involved in this.
Speaker 9 (37:40):
You did, And I'm very appreciative of you, very worried.
I mean, if anyone has any questions, I now know
how to do all of this. The funny part is
is that we're also doing an ATV tour while we're there,
and they are adamant that we need a valid license.
And I just realized right before my birthday that my
license was about to expire. So yesterday I also received
my brain knew lost.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
Oh you fail to mention that part. You felt to
mention that we were waiting on something for Kailin.
Speaker 9 (38:06):
Too well, because I just found out because we did
our consultation with the lady who planned our trip, which
was very nice because I want it at work obviously,
so there was a fancy travel agent. But you know,
I just found out that I would need a I
thought in Greece they'd be like, no, girl, right, take
this ATV you know. So now we are good to go.
We are armed with the passport. But this whole game
of waiting until you're fourteen days out from your trip,
(38:28):
it's not for the faint of heart renew your passports
even if you don't know if you're going anywhere, because
you might end up dating someone who wants to take
you to Grease.
Speaker 6 (38:35):
That's my word for the day.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
And in this case, you're the one taking him to me.
Speaker 2 (38:40):
You're flewing him, is what he He's getting flowed out, failure,
blued out by you. How are you saying, yeah, flewt out. Yeah,
you don't say it, but you do say it right.
Speaker 9 (38:52):
And Paulina brought up today, She's like, in every argument
that you ever have for the rest of time, you
can say, remember when I brought you to Grease, I
took you.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Asked Greece.
Speaker 11 (39:00):
Right, this man better never pick a fight, never question
her ever, like nothing like like peace, peaceful life over here,
moving forward.
Speaker 9 (39:09):
Right, because that could have taken a lot of people,
right once in a lifetime.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
You certainly could have. And you too, you took no
passport having bearded man. Yeah, I tried it, but not
anymore because he has a passport.
Speaker 7 (39:20):
Right.
Speaker 6 (39:20):
Shaved years off my life's life, just one, this one.
Speaker 2 (39:23):
Yeah, I mean, you didn't ask me to get involved,
but I finally had to get involved because a nervous,
disgruntled Kaylin is not Yeah, it's not the No, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
We all have our thing.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
No one likes to be around me when I'm pissed
off either, but like it was a frenetic, nervous energy.
We we had to call in the reinforcement.
Speaker 6 (39:42):
Yeah, because what was I gonna do?
Speaker 9 (39:43):
Tell our boss who like organized this whole you know,
raffle or whatever. Sorry, can't go you know, or take
a random We'll.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
Tell your boyfriend. I owe someone of the United Nations
a favor.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
Now. So it's like, you know, honestly, like it's this
is a big deal and I don't know I may
need Yes, I mean need him to come through it.
At some point.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
It's the frend Show.
Speaker 9 (40:05):
Thank you,
It's the Fresh show. This is what's trending. I pushed
around the button. We're still there.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Yeah, okay, it wasn't man right now, I'm just pushing
all the buttons to see which one it is.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
That's how we figure it out, though.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
No, I mean, and I'm doing a power cycle on
my brain. Yeah, I'm in power cycle.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
A bunch of texts this morning eight five, five, five, nine,
one one oh three five. Nice body referring to me
Jake chill at home. I think his voice is kind
of high. Maybe that's what it is, his voice. Maybe
his voice and his body don't match. Or maybe the
voice is what gives short to me. Okay, because he
does kind of have a softer, higher voice.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Yeah, he's a good actor.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Though agreed about Jake g I was listening all morning.
Did Shelley win the show down yesterday?
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
You didn't hear that part? That's the part that gets
us all the ratings. No, wonder. Maybe I also want
to say that the malfunction was strategically timed. They wait
till the most critical part of the show to start
screwing around with stuff. But that's nothing, that's nothing, rare
yea these guys love to do like software updates, Like
let's do a software It's seven thirty in the morning.
(01:02):
What's happening and there's nothing happening at the radio station
seven thirty in the morning, is there No, No, we'll
just do it two in the morning. Nah, right in
the middle of the Fred Show.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Let's do it.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
We're gonna need to just take everything down and put
it back up. But we're not really sure what's gonna
happen when it comes back. But that's the perfect time
to do itb A Tours, I'm telling you when no
one's listening because it's only.
Speaker 5 (01:21):
Happening on one side too, Like.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Oh no, it doesn't happen any other show in the
middle of it. Just stars.
Speaker 6 (01:27):
No.
Speaker 5 (01:27):
I'm just say like our listeners in Raleigh, they heard
everything like perfectly fine, thank god, it's only here we
complains the most.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
I mean, it's a miracle that place is put together
with duct tape.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
That's the truth. The radio station in Raleigh.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
I'm God, bless them, God bless Trevor and Berger and
all those guys. But honestly, like the last time I
was there, I soldered stuff myself.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I had a blowtords out. I was moving walls around.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I was, I was, They're like, hey, the microwave doesn't work,
and I'm like, okay, I power cycled back.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
I mean it was like.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
They're like, yeah, in order to get in order to
get on the radio, you got to hold these two
wires together. From nineteen seventy like Marconi himself worked at them.
The radio was invented at that place. It's it's God
bless them. I mean, it's it's truly like a pawn
shop from nineteen seventy eight. Yeah, anyway, holding us down. No, No,
(02:31):
it's we love we love them. We love those guys.
What are some other texts? Oh, all the teachers going
back to work broke the radio. I certainly hope that's
what happened.
Speaker 6 (02:38):
Imagine.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I certainly hope that they were the capacity of the
listenership was so high that it just didn't know what
to do. That's really what we're looking for these days anyway.
So just no, just know that it matters. And we
had this conversation before all the teachers and moms and
kids went off first summer, we had this conversation. We
(02:59):
had family meeting and we said, guys, look if you
like this show and you want us to keep doing it,
don't don't have it, don't stop listening for the summer.
So there's like heart palpitations and meetings and you know,
I got Big Daddy Bob calling me, going where did
everybody go?
Speaker 7 (03:14):
You know?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
And I'm like, I don't know, I don't know. And
now everyone's back apparently, so it's good. I hope everyone
else enjoyed their minor time at the top, but nope,
we're taking it back right everyone, Our.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Rightful spot is the top.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
Right right if they can hear this right right.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
In the meantime, they're playing polka music back. Also, I
need to give a shout out this morning to I
got nice message from our tour Simonis, who's a radio
host in Lisbon, Portugal at AFM.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Apparently this is what he said.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
He said, Hi Fred, Today I was left alone by
my two co hosts and it feels like everyone else
in the building went on vacation, same same our tour,
so it's just me and the mic. So to feel
less alone and connect with my overseas peers, I decided
to link up with radio hosts from all over the
world who were on the air at the moment with
that said, I would love to get a hello from
you for my show. You can text it to me here. Well, hello,
(04:11):
our tour in the beautiful city of Lisbon. It's a
nice place and you're a nice guy. Yeah, and he's there,
so good, good morning man.
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Here and was waiting for the second part where he's
going to ask you for like a thousand dollars exactly.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Wait a minute, book, I did buy a MacBook from him?
Are you saying it's not real? I gave him my
social Security number and routing information.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
What do you mean?
Speaker 2 (04:44):
He said that I was a descendant of I'm a
portuge I'm a Portuguese prince is what he said, and
which everyone can see when they look at me. And
he said that I was going to inherit eighty seven
gazillion gold balloons. Wait a minute, are you saying that
our tour is lying to me? No, that's impossible.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Gouts.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
We have controversy and what's trending this morning? I should
play the Olympic music and Jason, I'm sure you have
something to say about this. But we thought the Olympic
stuff was over. But USA Gymnastics said Monday that it's
appealed to restore gymnast Jordan Childs bronze medal, and the
floor exercise has been turned down. The Federation was informed
by the Court of Arbitration for Sports that the rules
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do not allow for an award to be reconsidered even
when conclusive new evidence is presented. The news comes a
little more than a week after the actual floor exercise
competition itself, or a late inquiry by her coaches first
triggered the saga that played out in the day's sense.
So in the last routine of the floor exercise final,
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she got a score of thirteen point six to sixty six,
which included a deduction of one tenth of a point
for an improper slip split leap known as I'm not
even a tourjit full yet. Of course, obviously, that score
put her fifth behind two other gymnasts who had scores
of thirteen point seven. But then the coaches from USA
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Gymnastics formally appealed that specific deduction and the judges agreed.
Her score then went up, which then made her eligible
for a bronze medal. The Romanians then said that the
last minute reversal was unfair, and ultimately that's been upheld,
So you gotta ship that thing back.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Sorry about that, good luck getting it back right. Got'd
be like find it, come find it, come.
Speaker 6 (06:30):
Take it right.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Getting yourself that sucks anyway. And it looked like they
had and they had video that this wasn't correct.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Right, So you can appeal it one way but not
the other apparently, So she just doesn't get a say
in it.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
And that sucks that you have to give the medal back.
But then do you sort of just always know that
you want it? I mean I realized that's probably not
as good as you know.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Like your first solo medal. This is all the drama
around it, like crappy is that?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Yeah? That does kind of suck.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
A four point four magnitude earthquake hit southern California yesterday afternoon,
sending shit waves that were felt across the region. It
was about twelve twenty two point five miles south southeast
of Highland Park, near LA's Chinatown neighborhood. People felt the shaking.
Aaron Rodgers is trending today. He apparently regrets telling reporters
in twenty twenty one that he had been immunized. That's
(07:19):
the quote against the coronavirus, you know as soon to
be published unauthorized biography. He told an author, Ian O'Connor
that while his claim to immunization was the crux of
his appeal, he would handle the situation differently today. If
there's one thing that I wish I could have done different,
it's that, because it's the only thing that critics could
hit me with. So this is a guy who said, well,
(07:41):
I guess he tested positive for COVID as an unvaccinated player.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
He was sidelined, but he had said that he was immunized.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
But what that really meant was that he wanted homeopathic
treatment regimen that would then qualify as a vaccination.
Speaker 1 (07:55):
NFL said no.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
But before that, he had said that he was immunized,
So that's what he really wanted, was some sort of
you know, alternative, and they said no to that, and
he took a lot of heat for him. A proposed rule,
a federal rule, would make it easier to cancel subscriptions,
which is amazing because if you've ever noticed, it's very
easy to sign up for stuff and it can be
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exorbitantly difficult.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Oh my goodness, have you ever tried to cancel a gym?
Or VECA membership. I'm a letter.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
You got to have a notarized letter with your grandmother's blood. Yeah,
you got to hand it to him too, Like you
can't even there. It's crazy. But yeah, they'll take your
credit card and you're in the gym in about four seconds.
Speaker 8 (08:38):
Right.
Speaker 6 (08:39):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
So the Biden administration, if they get their way, the
answer would be that it's like a one to two thing,
very simple. The administration is going to work through the
FTC and FCC to ask companies to make it as
easy as possible to cancel subscriptions as it is to
sign up for them in the first place. For a
lot of services, it takes one or two clicks on
your phone to sign up. It should take one or
two clicks on your phone to end this service. The
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new regulations were announced yesterday, but we'll take anywhere from
weeks to months to go into effect. There's a rage
that's trending. I didn't realize this, Americans owning miniature farm animals.
Do you know any want who done this? Cow's goats, donkeys,
and other tiny farm animals.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (09:19):
Rob Derd did it back on with his little mini horse.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
I'm surprised.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
She had time with all of his MTV shows to
do anything. It was part of the show.
Speaker 5 (09:27):
It was Robin big yeah, Rip big yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
I'm just curious.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
By the way, if you've got a second eight five
five five one three five Bellhamine, don't click on anything
but the phone.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
I swear to God. By the way, I do not
think it's her fault.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
I just love every time I see her in the
hallway to blame it on her, because it's just my career.
It's not you know, it's not a big deal. It's
just my livelihood. I mean, she's got she's got twenty
more years to live than me. But that's okay. It's fine.
When I'm unemployed. I'll make sure her coffee is super
super hot when I serve it to her.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Ops.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Anyway, I want to, though, if you would, who has
the most obscure or has had the most obscure pet,
because I'm sort of amazed at what people are willing
to keep in their homes. But yeah, miniature cows, goats, donkeys,
and other tiny farm animals have grown in popularity since
the COVID nineteen pandemic. Also, people raising chickens in their
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backyard for fresh eggs, which I guess that's cool. One
farmer said, a lot of people don't have access to
several acres, but if they have an acre plot, they
can have a miniature cow or a few miniature goats.
Some people see a small farm animal as a stepping
stone to owning larger animals. Others don't have the desire
to expand. Some owners of many farm animals turn their
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hobbies into side hustles like tours, breeding, and blogging about
their experiences. The challenges would include if you're thinking about
this chase and the volatile nature of prices for each
of the types of miniature farm animals, and while they
can be cute, they could also be aggressive.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Important to know that how do they.
Speaker 5 (10:57):
Is it like a you know, how do they make
a mini minichure animal?
Speaker 1 (11:00):
And they're bred that way? Right? And then they yeah,
and then they did yeah. Okay, but I'm just cured.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
I'm curious who has the most obscure You can text
her call the same number the most obscure pet, because
I mean, it's kind of amazing.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
What people are, you know, are willing to investicate? Yeah,
I had a squirrel, We had a squirrel. We had
a pet squirrel. Oh, like it actual? So how did
this come about it?
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Did you was it domesticated or did you find it
and then adopt it yourself.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
We found it in the yard and then Mike was
just working in the garage every day, and the squirrel
would just come and hang out. Like the squirrel would
come in the garage and like walk over stuff and
Mike would give him peanuts and whatever. But then he
would like, like if you came to visit, he would
like jump on you and like sit on your shoulder.
He would like do it to everybody so I could
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pet him, Yeah, you could like pet him. He would
be on your shoulder. He would like run around and
like that.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Would make me so nervous because don't they sometimes have
you know, rabies and.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Yeah I got bit ones.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Yeah, but he would do it to everybody, so like
you weren't expecting. You just showed up at my house
and then like runs a squirrel up your legs and
they're so fast, they're so fasty, but they're so soft.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Like I saw this video the other day of a woman.
I'm not sure where she was, but she was like
in a like a trench somewhere and I it wasn't
in the United States. And she's she's like in this tread,
this little thing like a rose a little river, like
a shallow river, and this like python looking black snake
just comes cruising down the river and what and like
head for her, and what does she do? Picks the
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thing up. It's not hers, like it's a wild snake.
And it had the little like the little things on
the on the neck that make it look real scary,
like a little wings, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
I had little wings on there.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Yeah, And and she just picks the thing up and
holds it close to her face and it's like, you know,
hanging out. And it didn't bite her, It didn't do anything.
But I'm just going like people are wild, Like you
don't know that guy or girl, you don't know that snake.
Speaker 9 (12:55):
My grandpa had a pet raccoon and it bit my
aunt's ear.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Yes, someone just said my brother in law had crocodile's Caitlin,
I had a raccoon as a child in our house
as a pet.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Boa constrictors crocodiles. Someone had crocodiles.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
I had an albino African claude water frog, a mini horse. Gosh, yeah,
and Massachusetts is Jason's favorite state.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
What's it called Massachusetts?
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Massot that's good and that was really good.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Thank you. It just rolled off the TA name.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
It's been ranked the best place to live in America
in twenty twenty four. According to wallet Hub, the best
state is Massachusetts. To determine the best and worst states,
they compared across fifty states, key dimensions, affordability, economy, education, health,
quality of life and safety. Florida, New Jersey, Utah, New
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Hampshire were the top five. Louisiana, New Mexico, Arkansas, Alaska,
and Nevada the worst states to live in guys.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
In case you were wondering, it's.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
National Prosecco Day and National Fila Mignon Day. P secos
little sweet, but I just put all together, you know,
have yourself a nice mimosa and then you know, grow
yourself up of flaming you on. Treat yourself, you know.
And for Caitlin, maybe a nice uh poor shop. I
don't know, because you don't like the you don't like
the cows. No, so I just I don't know what.
(14:17):
I don't know what loves the cows? Well not, she
doesn't like the flaming on the version of the cow. Yeah,
because that means not thanks champlain.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
The Fread Show is on.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
It's stay or go, It's uh zandras here. Hi Xander,
good morning, Hi, Good morning, Xandra. Tell us what's going on?
Because obviously you would call us to get our opinion
on what's happening in your life. What's going on with
your boyfriend? We're all ears.
Speaker 8 (14:47):
Yeah, No, I am calling for advice. I just kind
of need a different perspective.
Speaker 6 (14:51):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Oh, we'll give you that. Don't worry, we'll give you
a seven or eight different perspective. Go ahead, please tell
us what's going on?
Speaker 8 (14:58):
Sure, So, so recently, me and my boyfriend, we've just
for contacts, been together about a year. We got into
a pretty big fight, but we ended up making up
like a few days later, so that was fine.
Speaker 6 (15:16):
But about a month or so after the fight, and.
Speaker 8 (15:20):
This was recently, I went through his phone, which, I,
you know, to my better judgment, I guess it's I know,
it's like always a dangerous thing.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
If you're looking for something, you're gonna find it. What
did you find? What did you find?
Speaker 8 (15:41):
I ended up finding a conversation with him and his friends,
and it was during this whole fight that we were having,
and what he was saying to them I thought was
really shocking.
Speaker 6 (15:55):
He was calling me names like like the B word.
You know, I can't I don't think I can say
things on the radio.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Yeah, we's just to be safe.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Let's just not say so he was having a private
conversation with what a friend of his. Who was he
saying these things.
Speaker 6 (16:11):
To Yeah, to his friends and.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Multiple or was it a group chat or was it one?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I mean, I'm just trying to get an idea here
for like, how how widespread these comments were received.
Speaker 6 (16:23):
Yeah, I was a group chat with him and his bros.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Okay, so he's venting and he's calling you names, and
you read this and this was a month ago or
so that this all happened, and since that, if you
and again i'm not gaslighting you here, I'm just you,
if you hadn't read these text messages, then in your mind,
this problem was done and resolved and you were satisfied
with where you guys were today or yesterday or whenever
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before you read them. Right, Okay, so you read these
things and you're upset by the comments, and then what
do you do.
Speaker 5 (16:55):
Well.
Speaker 8 (16:55):
I was devastated, Like I ended up confronting him, and
then he got upset and he said, oh, it's my
fault because I never should have gone through his phone,
and I said, well, it is your fault what you said,
you know, And then he told me that he was
just heated and he was venting to his friends and
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he didn't mean anything. He wasn't actually thinking those things,
you know, all the all the stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
So now you're wondering how to deal with that because
you're not what you didn't think that he had it
in him to call you those names, or or you
think that it's a bad sign. I'm just trying to understand.
I mean, you're you're you're hurt by those words that
he used.
Speaker 8 (17:41):
Yeah, and he was saying really nasty things, like he
was saying that he never should have dated me in
the first place, you know, things that make me really
question now, like I would never even think those things
about him, let alone say them, you know.
Speaker 6 (17:57):
And now I'm like, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Well, I'd love to know what people have to think.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Obviously in this room, but at eight five five five
three five, in fact, we're going to debate this right now,
and have your radio on your iHeart app, and we're
going to talk about you behind your back. Okay, but
now we debate. So you told us a story. Now
we debate. But hey, good luck and I hope this
all works out for you.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Okay. Does anyone else have any questions?
Speaker 10 (18:21):
I do have your question for her? Does he call
you names like that to your face? Like during the
argument that I'm saying, Okay, so he's kind of quiet.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
So this guy's known to be a decent human being.
Like he's not mistreating you. He's not. He's kind to
you for the most part. I mean, people have disagreements
and squabbles and whatever else, but like you guys are
able to fight in a healthy way and then heal
from it.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
It sounds like it.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
It sounds like everything was okay until you read these
text messages, right right?
Speaker 6 (18:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Do you now one more question? Do you do you
stand by you're just I mean maybe you do now,
but if you're able to be objective, do you stand
by your decision to go through his phone to do
you know? Because in some ways I'm not excusing what
he said to you, but like a phone can be
an extension of like your brain sometimes right, Like there's
stuff that I've surged and stuff that I've said and
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you know whatever that I probably wouldn't say out loud.
It's kind of like an inner monologue just because I
think those things are because I vent and get them
off my chest to someone who's not you, who I trust,
who's also not another woman, or you know, a bunch
of other areas that would be sort of gray areas
at best. Does that make me a bad person or
does that just make me a human? You know what
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I mean? Like he wanted to get these things off
his chest. They were mean things. People say mean things
when they're angry that they don't mean. I would say
that His response to you probably should have been I
was really angry and I said a bunch of stuff
I don't mean, and I'm sorry. But he was probably
more focused on the fact that you went through his
phone behind his back and found this stuff, which is
(19:54):
an invasion of privacy and fairness. Now again, you found it,
so I guess it can be addressed. But I mean,
you never would have known this happened, and you just
said that you don't have any sort of character issue
with this guy. So what if he'd said those things
and you never you never knew about it, then you
just move on with your life and everything's okay, right, Well, yeah, because.
Speaker 6 (20:18):
I wouldn't have known.
Speaker 8 (20:19):
But I mean, I want to know the truth about
what my boyfriend thinks about me.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
But you've never said anything in a heated argument. I'm
not defending him saying derogatory things about you.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
I'm not.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
But what I am defending is people's right to get
angry and react, and it doesn't make their reaction right,
it doesn't make the words right.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
But he should have apologized.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Again though the only reason you know is because you
kind of betrayed him. And again, not gaslighting you, but
like that shouldn't have happened either. That's an invasion of privacy.
I should have a right to event to my friends
and work through an issue, because in some ways that's healthy,
right because then you're getting that stuff off your chest,
you're not directing it at the person you're angry with,
and then you go solve the problem, which it sounds
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like they were able to do and communicate and move
forward in a healthy way. You cannot tell me people
in this room. People call and you cannot tell me
that you have not said something about someone else to
someone else and then realize after the fact that I
should I never would have said that to that person.
Speaker 11 (21:21):
I shouldn't have said it at all. Yeah, I'm the
queen of low blows. You guys know that, so I
might have to say this one out. But I feel
like as long as he apologizes and owns it and says, like, listen,
I'm sorry that I said that, and he doesn't do
it again, I think that's where I'm at because I
think if you're really sorry, then you're going to change
your behavior.
Speaker 12 (21:37):
I'm going through the phone. I'm not mad at that.
I know that's really unpopular. I'm not mad at that idea.
I know, I know you hate it. I don't hate it,
And don't people have a right to be angry and
say things they don't mean? And again, yeah, I don't
know this guy, and I wasn't there for that. I
wasn't there for the confrontation, Sandra. But do you think
maybe he was just more stunned that he was caught
because you went through his stuff without him knowing.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
Do you think maybe he.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Would have apologized if if you had found out a
different way.
Speaker 6 (22:03):
I mean, how else would I have found out?
Speaker 7 (22:06):
Well?
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Okay, And do you think the relationship would have suffered
or would you have thought anything differently of him if
you didn't know that he said those things?
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Probably not, Yeah, I.
Speaker 8 (22:14):
Mean I would have been living in blissful ignorance, like
if I didn't know this. But the fact of the
matter is, like we could say all day long, oh what.
Speaker 6 (22:22):
If this with this? But this is a situation.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
But people have a right to scrrupt, don't they. Yes,
But I think and self correct.
Speaker 10 (22:31):
I think the issue is more so like you're disrespecting
me to another group of people, Like I would almost
prefer that he had said this in the argument to
her and they could have worked out their issues there.
But you're literally disrespecting me to a whole other group
of people, taking our fight to a whole other level,
involving other people. And you're feeling this way about me.
I'm your partner, I'm your spouse. You should be able
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to get that off your chest to me.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
Yeah, But there's in any relationship, there's a certain group
of people on my side and her side that I
just assume when things aren't going well that there's communication
going on there, and in fact, in some ways I
might argue beyond even what he said and the fact
that you found it, I would I might argue that
it's it might be unfair for him to say a
lot of these things if he expects the relationship to
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be resolved because depending on the you know, depth of
what he said. Now these people, you know, now that
they've gotten back together, things are working out, and now
everyone's going to get together again, and like people are,
you know, their thoughts are clouded, right, which is why
it can be tough to to really go in on
the person you're dating with friends because like maybe your version,
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your your heated version, your emotional version, is not exactly
how it happened, and you're getting it off your chest
and you're feeling better and you're venting. But then whatever
you said is now something that weighs on people's minds.
And then when you call him and go, I got
back together with him, now they're thinking only of the
I don't know. It can be, it can be convoluted.
But at the same time, who else do you go to?
Speaker 10 (23:52):
Who else do you go to?
Speaker 2 (23:55):
You have a right to communicate to other people in
a way that can be forgiven.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
You have a right.
Speaker 10 (24:00):
Now you've tainted our relationship to everybody else, and the
same way you just explained, Like with my brothers, I
don't go to them about every time Big Tim pisses
me off, because they're not going to forget that me
and him to be fine in five minutes.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
They're not going to forget.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
I don't go to my sister either, But I do
have friends that have heard everything, and I know those people.
I know who to go to, and they're able to moderate.
Those people are able to go okay, because look, I've
got buddies who invented about their wives to me, and
I'm friends with their wives. But I'm able to stay
in my mind, Okay, Well you were my friend first,
and you're upset, and so I'm just gonna hear you
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because you want to be heard right now. I'm not
internalizing that. And I think you know they the next
day they wake up or two days later, a week
or a month, they go, I don't feel that way anymore,
and then they're able to communicate in a helpful way
because they got it off their chest.
Speaker 10 (24:46):
Yeah, but as your partner, if I see this communication,
then now my feelings have changed towards you, because now
I feel betrayed. You're having this discussion with somebody else
about our relationship when you haven't even approached me that way.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Fair enough, fair enough, Exandra. Right now, I'm going to
let you go have a great morning, and thank you
so much for calling.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Good luck.
Speaker 6 (25:04):
Thank you. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
I don't know, Jay, what do you think.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
I don't like going through the phone, that is not
unless I need to do unblock myself.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
But she wouldn't have known about this, and she admitted
that this sort of stuff does not permeate into their relationship.
It's not like he's calling her names and abusing her
and being admits that that's not how he operates.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Yeah, I don't know. I'm very big on like, I'm
very open.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
I have to talk things out, so like everyone around me,
Like I'm sure you've heard me say things about Mike
and I get into an argument or whatever, it's not
really fair because I think it does.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
Change your view of him.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
But I also think like people that really know me know,
like like you said, Fred, like I'm angry. I'm just
like you know, I wouldn't stay with someone if he
was like fundamentally a bad person, right, So like, I
don't know, but it is unfair to the other person.
So I see your point, Kiki, where it's like, you know,
it's not fair to bring other people in and they're
looking at you all crazy, because like Mike and I
(26:00):
went through a very hard time and I never thought
my parents were ever going to like forgive, Like I
thought it was like a done relationship with them, and
and you know, we worked through it, talked through it.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
They're good.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
But like you know, it's times like that where it's
like it could have went the other way and now
you're tarnishing how your significant other looks to people that
are important to you.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
So that's a very slip.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
There are a ton of variables here, but I will
I think I've pointed most of them out. But I
also think you're right about the parents, Like, once my
mom has made a decision, once I've involved her in
something bad and she's made a decision, it is admittedly
going to be very difficult, which is why I don't
involve certain people in my life unless I'm very positive
(26:42):
about the way that I feel. Because you know, my
mom and my sister are not people to flippantly vent
to because they're just not because they're not going to forget.
But some of my friends are. They can hear it
and go okay, all right, And then if I make
the judgment call to then go back to that person
or forgive them or word it out, well, then they
do too, because I did. Right now, There's only so
(27:03):
many times you can do that, and when it starts
to get into really abusive stuff or really really bad stuff,
I think there is an expiration day on people's patients. Oh,
but like you have a right to vent, you have
a right to say things you don't mean and say
that you're sorry.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Hey, Veronica, good morning. What do you think?
Speaker 6 (27:20):
Good morning?
Speaker 13 (27:21):
I am coming from a sentiment of place now. I
was married for twenty years to my late husband. We
lost him in twenty nineteen.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
I'm sorry for your lost sir.
Speaker 13 (27:31):
Yeah, he's battling cancer.
Speaker 6 (27:33):
But we were together through our high school years.
Speaker 13 (27:35):
We got married I was twenty three, and so I'm
very well versed in this type of situation. There were
a lot of things that I would vent to my sister,
to my friends about during an argument that I would.
Speaker 6 (27:48):
Never say or disrespect him to his face.
Speaker 13 (27:50):
Did I really mean them at the time, Maybe, but
I wouldn't. I didn't really mean them, Like I didn't
really hate him.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
I didn't really you know.
Speaker 13 (27:59):
The things that I would say to my sister or
my friends are not things that I would typically say
to his face. And then like we always had healthy arguments,
we never you know, he was never abusive. He never
called me out of my name to my face, at
least that I know of. But I mean, I did
that and I didn't really mean that. And it's like
I would never tell this girl. I would tell this
(28:19):
girl that it's you know, you said, Fred, you have
a right to vent? And did she have a right
to go through his phone?
Speaker 14 (28:25):
No?
Speaker 13 (28:25):
I never, Ever, in the twenty years that my husband
and I were married, I never he never gave me
the reason to have to go through his phone, because,
like she said, he doesn't disrespect her to her face.
He doesn't like abuse her and do stuff like that.
But maybe quietly he did to his friends, but I
never knew about it, and it was okay because I
did it too. So I think, like you said, Fred,
I think a lot of people they have the right
(28:46):
to vent. And do you really mean those things. Maybe
in the moment and the heat of the moment, yeah,
but I would never ever do that to his face.
Speaker 7 (28:54):
And I think she's she's.
Speaker 13 (28:56):
Not overreacting, but she had a right to feel the
way she does. But I'm telling you, coming from the
place that I've been and losing my husband, I would
I just wish couples would be more forgiving and not
so quick to just call it quits all the time nowadays.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
You know, Veronica Well said thank you have a great
day here too. There are just so few circumstances where
I think going through the phone is a good idea.
I mean, and yeah, you know, there's what do they
call that. I can't think of the term right now,
But it's like you were looking for something, you found it,
so you feel justified, and it's like, okay, was a
(29:33):
confirmation bias.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
It's I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
There's so few circumstances where I think you are justified
in going through people's stuff behind their back. And again,
I know people who are like, well, I did it
and I found out he was cheating or I found
out she was cheating, So I'm justified maybe, But how
about all the times that people do it they don't
find anything, or they find something benign, or they find
something that they didn't need to I mean, trust me,
I've had conversations about loved ones to people, and I've
(29:58):
said things that I regret saying and that I would
never say if I weren't angry. But I'd rather say
it to someone else and have them go all right, now,
let's like, Okay, you said it, now, let's talk about it.
Then say it to the person, because that could end everything.
That I might say something in the heat of the
moment that I'm never forgiven for. It's why I don't
get into big fights with people very often, because what
(30:20):
happens is the big fights they turn into you know,
do they turn into something about something else, and before
long you're not even fighting about the thing you were
fighting about anymore. Now you're just hurting each other, and
you got to undo all that before you can solve
the actual problem. Anna, how you doing? Good morning?
Speaker 6 (30:37):
All right?
Speaker 7 (30:38):
Hi, good morning are you guys?
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Thanks for carling, Thanks for listening. What do you want
to say?
Speaker 7 (30:43):
So? I've been in a sixteen year plus relationship with
my current fyance and we have this agreement that you know,
when we have arguments between him and I only if
I need advice or anything like that. I don't really
go up to friends or family and about it because
(31:04):
I think personally, when it comes to relationships, is between you,
you and the spouse or your partner. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
No, because that was the other point that we were making,
is we're kind of going back and forth here at
different scenarios. Is you know it is it can be
unfair to involve you know, your your inner circle because
you know, if you're just temporarily mad, or you have
some personal opinions, or you suspect some things and then
maybe they're not true. Your friends don't forget that stuff.
Speaker 4 (31:28):
Nope.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
And there does come a time and maybe it's not
the first time or the second or the tenth, but
there does come a time where people are getting a
little tired of hearing about the stuff that's going on
that you're not doing anything about or that you know
what I mean, Like, there's only so many times you
can go to the well before people are like, I
love you and I'll support you, but I can't hear
this stuff anymore because it's like, yeah, if it's all true,
then do something. Handle your business right y.
Speaker 7 (31:52):
Yeah, because I've had friends who come to me for
advice for relationships, which I don't mind. You know, I
don't mind doing.
Speaker 6 (31:58):
That for you. But at the end of it's your decision.
Speaker 13 (32:01):
You decide what you want to do with your relationship.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Yeah, you come to me fifty times and tell me
that your spouse is the enemy. At some point, I'm
gonna be like, there's a theme here, and it's only
so many times. There's only so many times I can
support you here. I'm not not your friend, I don't
not love you, but like, if all that's true, then
you got to handle this.
Speaker 7 (32:18):
Yeah, And then they come tell me they're going to
break up with them, and then like at a weekend
party and I see him with her, I'm like, what happened?
Speaker 1 (32:27):
That can be hard?
Speaker 8 (32:28):
Broken up?
Speaker 1 (32:29):
That can be hard because if you're.
Speaker 7 (32:30):
A friend, I don't want to judge the guy either.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
Yeah, and thank you, Anna, thank you for calling. If
you're a friend, then you oftentimes take on the weight
of your friend's dilemma. And like, how many times do
I have to to bear you know, the herd and
the you know what I mean? How many times do
I have to like be in the trenches with you before.
It's like, all right, are you gonna do something about this? Hey, Elizabeth, Hi, Hi,
(32:55):
good morning, stay or go? This woman called us She
went through her boyfriend's phone out after a few weeks
after a fight.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
Yeah, can you hear me?
Speaker 14 (33:05):
Okay, yeah, hold on, Elizabeth, hold on.
Speaker 2 (33:07):
Let me do my job real quick. So I'm just
recapping here. She went through her boyfriend's phone a few months,
a few weeks after a fight, only to find that
he had been venting to his friends in a very
negative way about her. And now she's she has access
to this information. She's upset. What do you think, Elizabeth.
Speaker 15 (33:24):
I think they need to take a breath and just
give themselves, you know, a little bit of space. But
I don't think that either one of them should go necessarily.
And you know, I was hearing somebody else that was awful.
A widow. I'm a widow. She looked back at things
with a whole different view when the person's not there anymore,
(33:46):
and things in the heat of the moment, in the
acute situation, you need to explode. But overall that doesn't
mean that.
Speaker 6 (33:53):
You hate that.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Yeah, I agree, I agree with you.
Speaker 15 (33:56):
At the same time, with the text messages. She's also
a person, and if she in the moment was getting
a vibe that something wasn't right, it's killing you to
not try and figure.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
Out what that is.
Speaker 8 (34:08):
So I don't blame her.
Speaker 15 (34:09):
I don't like the idea, but I don't blame her
for going to a text message.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
I feel like if she'd never read that stuff, she
never would have known. And she wasn't you know, we
asked the question. She wasn't even getting the vibe like
things were okay. So they had moved past it, you know,
And so people make mistakes, people say things they don't mean,
they move on, they cope.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
And now she's sort of.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
Re regurgitating an old fight that he's that everyone had
moved past. So don't I don't know about this, but Elizabeth,
I'm sorry for your loss, and thank you for Sharon.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
Have a great day. Thank you, Love you guys, love
you too. I don't Christina, Hi, good morning.
Speaker 4 (34:48):
Hi, good morning everyone, Hey welcome.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
What do you want to say about stair ago?
Speaker 4 (34:52):
Oh man, what a drama filled morning?
Speaker 7 (34:55):
This is?
Speaker 13 (34:56):
Well.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
I think we're saying hold on for the record, Christine,
I think we've stayed on the I think we've stayed
on the air the whole hour, so that's less drama
than we've been experiencing.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
Okay, yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (35:08):
All I want to comment you is, I know the
type of behavior that she was doing, just going through
his phone and whatnot. When I would argue with my
boyfriend when I was much younger, I was just looking
for a reason to be above him and keep fighting
with him. And so I honestly believe that she was
looking for a reason to continue the argument, and the
fact that the trust is now broken, I don't think
(35:30):
that she felt secure in this relationship. The fact that
she's already hurting her own feelings going through his phone,
invading his privacy, like, it's just very mature in my opinion,
if you felt very secure and loved in your relationship,
regardless of you know, the fight, then you wouldn't be
going through your partner's phone. And well, I know very
(35:50):
well she's probably saying the same thing to her friends
about him.
Speaker 6 (35:53):
She just hasn't been caught.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
Oh well, and again, Christian, I can only speak to
my perspective of what I would do, But I'm a
highly imperfect person. I've said any number of things in
my life to other people about someone that I am
so glad I never said to them, I got it
off my chest. I said it. I regret it. It's
over and it was better that I I.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
In fact, don't you.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Have people in your life who are like calm, Like
when you're upset with that person, call me, like my
therapist has said to me before, Like when I'm in
relationships out, yeah, call me.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Don't say it to that.
Speaker 4 (36:24):
We're all done, You're like, you know what, I'm going
back to loving my partner. Yeah, but it's just a
sheer fact that the privacy was invaded. And I can't
imagine if she was in his shoes and if he
went through her phone and saw like her girlfriend's conversations,
if he were Roboto and say, oh look what you said.
Now let me get mad at you, even though we
haven't gone past the first fight yet.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
Yeah, I hear you. Thank you, Christina.
Speaker 14 (36:45):
Have a good day. By America. Jesus, Well, we're trying,
but this is by America. I mean to I want
to hear about this. This is passport gate. Yes, okay,
go ahead.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
Deer blog, so we are.
Speaker 6 (37:00):
I don't know what you want to call it.
Speaker 9 (37:02):
Three or four days out from going to Greece. My
boyfriend and I so leaving the country, which requires a passport.
Speaker 6 (37:09):
Okay, three days out.
Speaker 9 (37:11):
We received his passport yesterday.
Speaker 1 (37:16):
Oh my god.
Speaker 9 (37:17):
Now my whole thing is like, don't you misplace it?
Like I told him, even if we break up in
the future, I will text you every time it's time
to renew, because no one should ever have to go
through this again.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
Which so we have it. So we're armed, We're ready,
We're armed of the passport.
Speaker 2 (37:33):
We had to call presidential contacts. I mean, it really
got serious. I called the embassy. Yeah, I mean I
got involved in this.
Speaker 9 (37:40):
You did, And I'm very appreciative of you, very worried.
I mean, if anyone has any questions, I now know
how to do all of this. The funny part is
is that we're also doing an ATV tour while we're there,
and they are adamant that we need a valid license.
And I just realized right before my birthday that my
license was about to expire. So yesterday I also received
my brain knew lost.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
Oh you fail to mention that part. You felt to
mention that we were waiting on something for Kailin.
Speaker 9 (38:06):
Too well, because I just found out because we did
our consultation with the lady who planned our trip, which
was very nice because I want it at work obviously,
so there was a fancy travel agent. But you know,
I just found out that I would need a I
thought in Greece they'd be like, no, girl, right, take
this ATV you know. So now we are good to go.
We are armed with the passport. But this whole game
of waiting until you're fourteen days out from your trip,
(38:28):
it's not for the faint of heart renew your passports
even if you don't know if you're going anywhere, because
you might end up dating someone who wants to take
you to Grease.
Speaker 6 (38:35):
That's my word for the day.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
And in this case, you're the one taking him to me.
Speaker 2 (38:40):
You're flewing him, is what he He's getting flowed out, failure,
blued out by you. How are you saying, yeah, flewt out. Yeah,
you don't say it, but you do say it right.
Speaker 9 (38:52):
And Paulina brought up today, She's like, in every argument
that you ever have for the rest of time, you
can say, remember when I brought you to Grease, I
took you.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Asked Greece.
Speaker 11 (39:00):
Right, this man better never pick a fight, never question
her ever, like nothing like like peace, peaceful life over here,
moving forward.
Speaker 9 (39:09):
Right, because that could have taken a lot of people,
right once in a lifetime.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
You certainly could have. And you too, you took no
passport having bearded man. Yeah, I tried it, but not
anymore because he has a passport.
Speaker 7 (39:20):
Right.
Speaker 6 (39:20):
Shaved years off my life's life, just one, this one.
Speaker 2 (39:23):
Yeah, I mean, you didn't ask me to get involved,
but I finally had to get involved because a nervous,
disgruntled Kaylin is not Yeah, it's not the No, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
We all have our thing.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
No one likes to be around me when I'm pissed
off either, but like it was a frenetic, nervous energy.
We we had to call in the reinforcement.
Speaker 6 (39:42):
Yeah, because what was I gonna do?
Speaker 9 (39:43):
Tell our boss who like organized this whole you know,
raffle or whatever. Sorry, can't go you know, or take
a random We'll.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
Tell your boyfriend. I owe someone of the United Nations
a favor.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
Now. So it's like, you know, honestly, like it's this
is a big deal and I don't know I may
need Yes, I mean need him to come through it.
At some point.
Speaker 1 (40:03):
It's the frend Show.
Speaker 9 (40:05):
Thank you,
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