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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Never been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fredshell Adam,
good morning, welcome to the program.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
How are you. I'm doing all right?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
How are you doing?
Speaker 4 (00:12):
Man?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Doing okay? What's going on with this woman, Kristin? I
got to know how you met, about any dates that
you've been on and where things are now? In waiting
by the phone because you feel like maybe she's ghosting you?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Right, Yeah, I mean, so me and Kristin had met
by the pool at our gym one weekend, and I
mean we were both just kind of hanging out with
friends and so like both we were both in the
pool and we just kind of started talking and so
like I was like, I really wanted this conversation to
keep going, So I asked her out and she said yes,
So she gave me your number, and so like we
(00:45):
texted for a little bit, and then we decided that
we wanted to take it further. So we met up
for drinks and then like drinks that week ended up
doing really really well, and so like even before the date,
like our artechts were getting super super thirty and I
mean even even a little I say, to a certain point,
and so like and then when we met we had
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like just this in person chemistry that didn't disappoint, and
it was going really really good. Like I mean I
was even late to work the next day because like
we had ended up having so much late night fun.
Oh but okay, but I'm all right, all right, But
I mean ever since that day, like I just haven't
heard from her, and I don't know what's going on.
(01:27):
Things were going well. She agreed that things were going well,
and I mean, I don't know what happened.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Yeah, it's always kind of crazy when this happens, because
it's like everything was going so well. I mean the
way you describe it, all this chemistry and all this
sort of you know, fun stuff going on at nine,
you late to work, I mean, this is all this
all sounds great, except for whatever reason, something must have happened.
And now I assume you've texted, You've called Kristen, you've
(01:52):
you know, carry your pigeons and smoke signals and everything.
I mean, she's not responding to anything.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Yeah, I mean I.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Didn't like send her an over abundant, like desperate amount
of text but like I did a couple of check
in texts. The even tried to call her one night
and on like one of the nights we had like
that I knew Stu free because that was the night
that she has a preset schedule with work, and so
like those were usually the nights we would like to
talk over the phone. And so like I tried to
call her one night and she just didn't pick up,
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And so I don't want to be like a stalker
and keep texting her.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
And yeah, we don't know what they did, right, but.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
I just kind of want to know what's going on,
Like we're going really really well and then nothing.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, it makes sense. So we're going to play a song.
Come back in a couple of minutes. We'll call Kristen.
You'll be on the phone, Adam. We're going to ask
these questions for you. And the hope is that maybe
she's been busy or who knows what's going on, but
you know, hopefully we can straighten this out and then
get you guys.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Back on tracks. Have you on another date and pay
for it? Sound good?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Let's find out what's going on? Part two Waiting about
the phone after Shaboozzi back in two minutes on The
Fred Show. Stay right there, Shaboozzi, it's The Fred Show.
Good morning, thanks for having us on the radio and
the iHeart app anytime search for The Fred Show on demand. Adam,
All right, let's call Kristin. You guys, you met at
the gym, right, You met at the gym, and you're
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at the pool right with with your friends, and you
hit it off and we're chatting and everything went well,
exchange numbers, texted, you know, things kind of got there
was a lot of flirtation going on. They got a
little spicy, kicky, They got a little spicy by his uh,
by his description. And you guys have gone out and
had a great time. And then all of a sudden
radio silence. Kristin is not responding to you like she
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normally would. It appears that you're being ghosted. You want
to know why. Okay, let's call Kristin now. Good luck
at him.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
I appreciate it, but thanks. Hi. Is this Kristin?
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Ye?
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Hey, Kristin, good morning.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
My name is Fredam calling for The Fred Show, the
morning radio show, and I have to tell you that
we are on the radio right now, and I do
need your permission to continue with the call. Is it
okay if we chat for a second.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
I guess I guess, I guess that's yes.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Okay, well, thank you. We're calling out behalf of a
guy named Adam. I guess you met him at the
at the pool and you hung out a couple of times,
and uh, I guess you guys went on some dates
and stuff like that. Do you remember meeting this guy
and going out with him?
Speaker 4 (04:14):
Yep?
Speaker 2 (04:14):
I sure?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Okay, so he described to us a minute ago what
he thought was, you know, this this great story about
meeting and all the chemistry you guys had, the dates
you've been on. But he says he can't get a
hold of you now, So what's going on with that?
Why are we ignoring Adam?
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Okay, listen, Adam is awesome. Okay, he's attractive, he's charming,
he's confident, he has great energy.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Okay, what's the butt? Like, where's the problem?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I want to go out with it? So we did.
We did go out.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Okay, just sex was amazing, but.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Okay, so still interesting yet to say, Okay, all right, just.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
Just wait for he's leaving my place and you know,
he's talking about, you know, meeting up again, and he
just casually slips in that you know, oh, he just
has to work it around, you know, like his kids
swim schedule, which okay, yeah cool, he's got kids, fine,
and his wife's work schedule.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Oh huh.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
How do you think I felt having just had this
amazing night with this man and all of a sudden
learning that he has a wife.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Okay, so hold up.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
So you guys, you met, you talked, you hooked up,
you went on dates, you did a way. He never
mentioned that he was married. And then like in passing,
he's like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, maybe tomorrow, but if
my wife can pick up the kids.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Crows it out there like it's nothing.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
And you didn't know anything about this. You didn't know
there was a wife.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
I knew nothing about it. I would have never gone
out with him.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
That's a detail. I had known that he had a wife.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Be helpful to know. Let me bring Adam in. I
forgot to mention Kristin that Adam is here. I'm very forgetful. Also,
you're married, Adam, and that that's just a not important
to know.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
I mean, I'm sorry, I mean, did I forget to
mention that?
Speaker 4 (06:04):
I mean, yeah, yeah, you forgot to mention that.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
No, I'm non monogamous and my wife has agreed to
everything to an open relationship. She doesn't want to live
that life, and so she says that I'm I'm available
to do whatever I would like because she would like
me to be happy in that respect, but she just
doesn't want to know about it.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
So she doesn't want to know about it. Like really, I'm.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Sorry that sounds shady, okay, and that would be interesting
is to see because I mean, honestly, madam, what you're
describing is not.
Speaker 4 (06:39):
I don't believe that.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I I don't believe that.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Okay, hold on, christ in one second, what are you describing?
I have heard of existing before whereas.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
I have to.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
But the wife actually like agrees and like she's available
to like talk to, you know, potential partners.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
It's like they don't believe.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Quite a few she's she's wanted to be doing it.
But at the same time, it's Adam, you got it.
I'm trying to rupt you, but you got to disclose
that the other person involved in this needs to have
all the information because maybe, like in this case, Kristin
is not comfortable with this arrangement even if it's above
board in your house exactly, and.
Speaker 4 (07:18):
I mean if it is about board. Why can't I
talk to her?
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I have time to you know, with this kind.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Of a lifestyle, and they're always allowed to talk to
the spouse and get it verified. That's all I'm asking for, Like,
if this is above board, the only way I could
participate in this is if I got to talk to
your wife and she said, yay, verily, she can do.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
This, Okay. The only way I'm in this, Adam, I can.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
To her about like a verification thing, Like that's not problem.
I'm not trying to find anything. Like she just was
very like, she just very much said she doesn't want
to know about it if I'm being involved with another person.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
But I mean, that's you.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
But let me ask let me ask this guy. So
so Adam, let's see Adam, Kristen. Let's say that Adam's
telling the truth. I'm just going to give him the
benefit of the house, and he is telling the truth.
You're saying that if you could talk to her and verify,
you might be interested. But my question to Adam and
to you, Kristin, is are you not upset or concerned
about how this might define the relationship, Because even if
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it's okay, Adam, what's the likelihood you leave your wife?
What's the likelihood you wind up committed to Kristin in
a relationship like without? I mean, Kristin, do you want
to be a third member of a dynamically sign up
for that? When you meet a guy or you me
when you guys start talking and no one discloses this
sort of open relationship thing.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I mean in your mind, it's it's not make it
for me right?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
So, Adam, if you fall in love with Kristin, well,
are you going to leave your wife?
Speaker 2 (08:42):
I mean that's pretty unlikely.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
But I mean also, Kristen said that she didn't want kids,
so I mean, I don't know what's to stop us
from justinuing this, Like.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Oh my god, oh take it.
Speaker 4 (08:52):
It'll make me feel like I'm a cheater. I'm a
cheater for the entire length of our relationship. How do
I introduce you to people?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Then?
Speaker 2 (09:00):
What's going to But like, I just want to trying
to figure out is okay? So let's say it's all
on the up and up?
Speaker 1 (09:06):
I mean, is that just so that you know you
haven't been cheating and then you're gonna dump this guy?
Or like if she says yeah, it's true, I let
him do it, then are you okay with those terms?
Because he just said he's not leaving his wife, So basically,
now you can accept that you're.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Going to be if there's no chance of him leaving
his wife.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
And I'm just like.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
Some weird little secret or some shit like that. Yeah,
I'm probably not interested, honestly, Like I just I don't
think I can live with that.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
I can't live that way right.
Speaker 5 (09:32):
On your head, Kiki, what because this is insane? Like
he's insane. This is insane. Like you if your wife
gave you the green light to do whatever you want
to do, do it. But why bring in people unknowingly
like come up to her, Hey, I have a wife.
You don't tell somebody after the fact. I think you
gotta lay that out for me.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
I think, Adam, you know that a lot of people
are gonna say no to this situation, and you didn't
want Kristin to say no, so you just didn't tell her.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
That's what I lied.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
So he's freaking lied.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Can accept that?
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Right?
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Do we have an accountable person on It's impossible.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
I was just going to say that I feel I
know these things happen for you, and I have bumped
heads many of times.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
About this because you don't believe it happens, but it does.
It does, it does.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
But can the men or the women whoever's doing this,
can they have like a sign permission slip so.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
That we know what's because you know what's giving right, you.
Speaker 5 (10:25):
Certificate right FaceTime, your wife right now.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
I need her to agree right now. It's a lot
of let's get on a zoom call.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
It is a strange thing, and like I get it, it
works for people, and there are people who want no
strengths and the rest of it. But but I do
think you got to you gotta lead with it, Adam,
Like you've got to tell people, hey, I'm in an
open relationship, like I got a wife and kids, and
that's not going to change because everything changes now for Kristen.
Because maybe she didn't want to be an accessory. Maybe
she didn't want to be just you know the side thing.
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Maybe she wants you to all to herself and she
has every right to make that decision. But if she
doesn't know, then look here we are.
Speaker 4 (11:07):
It's just really disrespectful, is really what it comes down to.
It's incredibly disrespectful and it puts the other person in
a place where they feel dirty, and just yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
Have you ever had this problem before, Adam? I mean
I assume we've been doing this for a little while.
Like if you had this issue, where when do you
normally lead with it? You normally tell people a friend
or no.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
I mean usually to kind of gauge how things go first.
But I think because she doesn't want to be involved,
I think a good idea would probably be just to
get her to, like make theifcation video that I can
keep on my phone so that.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Way, Hi, why please, you are about to have sex
with you? And I am okay with you. I don't
want to know.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Please use protection and why you're at it? A few
things he likes are the airline safety video. Okay, I
don't know, man, Adam, I don't It's not gonna work out. Kristin, Hey,
thank you for your time, and I'm sorry that you
know this happened to you and I wish you the
best of Adam.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Good luck out there to you as well.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Thank you, thanks man, I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
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