Waiting By The Phone: The Curious Man

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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Ever been left waiting by the phone? It's the Fred Show.
Hey Chase, good morning, Welcome to the show.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
How are you hey, guys, Yeah, good morning, good morning.

Speaker 1 (00:12):
So what's going on with with Jill? What's happening with Jill?
Why don't you tell us? It's waiting by the phone?
So we're trying to figure out if you've been ghosted,
which it looks like maybe you have been. But we
got to know how did you, guys meet? Tell us
about dates that you've been on and any kind of
communication you've had and where things are sure. So I
met Hill on Bumble.

Speaker 2 (00:30):
And we met up for a few drinks soon after.
You know, the conversation was great there, and we kind
of took it to the next level of the actually
meeting in person, and you know, I was pretty assertive
and kind of got right to it as far as
asking her out, and we had a great time. The
conversation was great, it flowed. You know, we both like
travel and checking out new restaurants, you know, and it

(00:53):
seems like we had a lot in common. It was
definitely chemistry and you know, at the end of the day,
we been made out before she got her uber and
before she went home, you know.

Speaker 1 (01:05):
But it wasn't let me just tout this up.

Speaker 2 (01:06):
It wasn't just like hey me kischen in a cheap
good night. This was a sexy makeout.

Speaker 1 (01:10):
Oh yeah, against wall.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
Took her to like there was a wall another restaurant
and like up against the wall something we seen movies
like like heavy making out just like all over each other.
It was sexy and there's really no other word to
say about it. Wow, And obviously you do something like that.
I couldn't wait to see her again, and I reached
out a few times, but she's missing.

Speaker 1 (01:36):
I don't know what the heck happened.

Speaker 2 (01:38):
And she even unmatched me on the on the app,
and she may have even blocked me because I can't
even search her anymore. So I want to know what
the hell happened, because we had a great night.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
I don't know what happened. Yeah, I mean that I
have had that happen before, where like a date goes
so well, it's like a little spicy, and then like things,
it's just weird. A it's like why why he was Yeah,
I was one sliding down the wall, which is weird
because I'm six or five, so like most girls had
to climb me to begin with. But yeah, I know
it was strange journey. Yeah, I know, he really was.

(02:08):
I think I was sliding down the walk and I
was trying to hold her up, trying to get acromatic
with it. But anyway, that's the private story. That's just
for me to know, and you never know. So let's
call this woman Jill. All jokes aside. It's frustrating when
you go on a great date and then you don't
hear from the person again, and it's like, why, you know,

(02:30):
everything went so well and there was so much chemistry,
Why don't I have to go back on the dating
apps and start all over again. So let's call her Chase.
We'll see if we can figure out what's going on,
and hopefully we can straighten things out and set you
guys up on another date that we pay for. Sound good? Yeah,
let's see what's up? Part two of Waiting at the Phone.
After this song, Ben Timboon back in two minutes on
the French show Don't Move bensim boone. The French show

(02:51):
is on. Shelley has the Entertainer Report and a tiebreaker
nine one hundred bucks in the showdown. Both in ten minutes. Hey, Chase, Yeah,
all right, welcome back. Let's call it Jill. You met
on an app, you went out, you had a great time,
The date got sexy, there was chemistry, they got a
little spicy. There was a bit of a steamy scene
at the end of the day, up against the wall,
you say, and some making out and all this stuff

(03:14):
is good, except you haven't heard from this woman since then,
and you want to know what's up.

Speaker 2 (03:18):
That's right, Like she completely went and I'm like, all right,
did something happened?

Speaker 1 (03:21):
What's going on here? So you have no idea? All right,
let's call her now? Good luck, Chase. Hello, Hi is
this Jill? Yes, Hi, Jill, Good morning. My name is Fred.
I'm calling for the Fred Show of the morning radio show,
and I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now and I would need your permission

(03:42):
to continue with the call. Can which have for just
a second? Would you mind?

Speaker 2 (03:47):
Sure?

Speaker 3 (03:48):
I know it?

Speaker 1 (03:49):
Well, thank you, thank you very much. I know it's
kind of shocking, but if you listen, then you probably
know about waiting by the phone, and believe it or not,
you're on it. And this guy, Chase reached out to
us said, he met you and you guys out recently.
Do you remember hanging out with him?

Speaker 3 (04:04):
I do remember him.

Speaker 1 (04:05):
Okay, So what happened because he told us really about
a successful date and then he liked you a lot,
was hoping to see you again. But he believes that
not only are you ignoring him now and ghosting him,
but you've blocked him and unfollowed him and all these
unmatched with him and all these different things. So is
that true? I mean, what's happening?

Speaker 3 (04:23):
Yeah, I mean it was a that is true. Yeah,
we had a really great date, like one of the
best days I've ever had. And yeah, honestly, I you.

Speaker 4 (04:39):
Know felt at the time like he was somebody that
I couldn't even you know, get really serious with.

Speaker 3 (04:46):
And after the date, I went to brunch a friend
of mine, a really good friend of mine, and I
was talking of the date, talking about Chase, and my
friend asked to of course see the picture, and you know,
looked at it a couple of times, zoomed in. Uh,

(05:11):
but was really sure that he had matched with Chase
on Grinder and that they had also been chatting, which
was a bit of a surprise.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
Okay, so your male friend wants to hear about your
date and you know, yeah, I mean I think when
people first meet each other and get excited, your friends
are like, well, let me see this person, you know,
get a visual. And this dude's like, I know him.
I've been chatting with him on a on grinder, which
is an app for well, for gay people, right, I mean, yes, yeah,

(05:47):
well I didn't want to. I don't want to like general,
I mean, it only is it is it? I mean
it's targeted for gay people, right, that's fair to say. Yeah, yeah,
I want to make sure I get the terminology correct here.
I'm not trying to you know, So that would be
you got it from what what what you thought he
was into? Maybe?

Speaker 3 (06:06):
Yeah, No, I mean we all live in pretty close proctivity,
so it is entirely possible that it is, you know,
one hundred percent real. Chase never said anything about that,
never said he was by never said he was you know,

(06:27):
on grinder, on you know, multiple apps.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
Okay, So as far as you were concerned, Chase like
girls like Chase like girls, he liked you, and that
was as that was your assumption. That was as much
as you knew about his interests.

Speaker 3 (06:43):
Yes, and yeah, so I.

Speaker 1 (06:47):
Was very thrown Okay, okay, well here here to tell
us what what's really going on? I forgot to mention
I'm very forgetful. Chase is here and bring him out,
like Mary, Chase, what's going on? What's going is that
you on grinder too? Are you on? Are you on
various apps for various interests?

Speaker 2 (07:08):
Okay, so yes, I'm on Grinder. And by the way,
I have no problem saying that I'm on Grinder. You
know what's the problem with that? I am by curious,
No big deal. I do like women and at times
I experiment with men. I will likely marry a woman,
so eventually I just like to kind of have fun.

(07:28):
And so what's the big deal. It's not really a problem.
I don't think it's a case. You don't think that.
You don't think that's something that I'm asking. I really
don't actually don't know the etiquett or the answer. But
you don't think that's something that she should know? Is hey,
just heads up, like I'm I like a lot of
different things, and so you know this, this could happen
this very thing, you know, after the first date. No,
you know, maybe down the road it could come up,

(07:50):
but I don't think right away, you know, addressing that,
I don't think it's.

Speaker 1 (07:53):
A big deal. Jason as a sexy gay man on
the show. Do you believe that somebody who's by curious
or buy or on multiple apps for different interests, do
you believe that they should disclose that they like different things.
I don't think they have to upfront. Okay, if it
comes up organically, they can, But I mean, you know,
it's not like if you go on a date, you
automatically like I'm only straight and no that's valid. No,

(08:16):
that's valid, that's valid. I'm awkward and not necessary. But Jill,
that's what you that's what you want. Like if he's
on a if he's on a quote unquote straight person app,
then you want there to be like an asterisk that
says like disclaimer, I also like male parts too. I mean, like,
I don't know, I'm not making fun of you, I'm
just is that the expectation that someone should sit down
and make it very clear what their interests are if

(08:37):
it's not direct or if it's not obvious, I.

Speaker 3 (08:39):
Mean, maybe not what parts you like.

Speaker 1 (08:44):
But well yeah, maybe you wouldn't say it the way
I did. But you know, like another kind of way.

Speaker 3 (08:50):
I mean maybe my typical first date is different, but
I mean Chase and I talked about like what you're
looking for, and you know, I I Am not really
looking for somebody who's experimenting right now. I'm I'm looking to,

(09:13):
you know, hopefully be in a serious relationship with the
man who likes women and has has has no more
curiosity left in him. Is what I'm looking for.

Speaker 4 (09:24):
And that was what I assumed, clearly wrongly, the Chase
is preventing and for for me to find out heah,
my like peer friend who was also chatting with him,
just really true me for a loop.

Speaker 1 (09:39):
And well that is another complication. I didn't really even
think about that, I mean your friend. But maybe now
you've got to decide which one of you gets it right.
I'll be damned me and Jason have to fight over
a man. Yeah, he's not wrong. Now here you have
I don't know, Keiking. Would you have an issue with
a guy who you presumed to have have a singular

(10:01):
interest and it turns out he has, you know, a
little bit more varied interest. Yes, if you sit down
with me, I need you to say, what is it Jason. Oh,
I am straight, and I am I'm nothing else that's straight.

Speaker 2 (10:12):
Straight.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
I only like women and I will never look at
any other being. Hey, Jason, you're gonna need to work
on that. It's not convincing. I'm never convincing at all.
I didn't believe you at all. I bo profile like
bio would that be? Okay? Believe me? Yeah, you might
want to take some classes over it, like you know,

(10:33):
Second City or something. I don't know. Just work on it.
You need that it all, Like, if you want to
do it all, do it all. So I think the
new thing is maybe she should have asked him, Hey,
what all are you into? Okay, let's start out. I
will say, like, lately on these dating apps, you see
it seems more and more common you see or you

(10:53):
or you learn about after the fact, non monogamy, married people,
experimental people who are doing in this and that. And
I do kind of think it's like becoming a question
to ask a stranger on a dating app, like what
exactly are the terms here? Right? Like what are we
actually doing? And I know that's unsexy, but it's like, yeah,
I mean I think it is important to know if

(11:15):
someone's experimenting with things, and who's to say, I don't know.
Maybe it's a time where that person is I don't know, Chase,
do you really believe that you're open to a relationship
with a man or a woman. Do you believe that
you are confident in making that choice or are you
still kind of figuring it out, which is also okay.

Speaker 2 (11:32):
You know, that's a great question. Ultimately, I do feel
I'm going to marry a woman, you know, as I
sort of navigate life and see.

Speaker 1 (11:41):
What I like and don't like.

Speaker 2 (11:43):
I do like trying things, you know, to be told,
and so you know, anything could happen, honestly, And I
date and I didn't have a great date. You know,
we had a great date. So you can't, you know,
dismiss that. You know, with Jill, it was it was fantastic,
and I'm hoping to see her again and maybe if
it's more and something's there, then then I can see

(12:04):
myself getting really serious with her. And I wouldn't do
the other stuff honestly, but at the moment, I want
to try, Well.

Speaker 1 (12:10):
Who did you like better, Jill or her friend? That's
a good question. I mean, he liked Jill. It would definitely, Jill. Yeah,
and if there's wall sliding, that is the choice you
must make. But look, Jill, he sounds like a nice guy.

(12:32):
It sounds like he's figuring things out, but he does
like you, would you give another shot?

Speaker 4 (12:37):
I don't think so.

Speaker 3 (12:39):
I just and yeah, Chase, I I did have a
really nice time, but I but I do think we're
at different places.

Speaker 4 (12:48):
And may I just say two things.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
One, yes, I am absolutely going to be asking.

Speaker 4 (12:55):
More questions on my on my next first date, which, unfortunately,
will you know, probably be pretty soon.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
But also, in like the dating app world, you it's
not like when you meet somebody organically, you know, in
a you know.

Speaker 4 (13:10):
Rom com proverbial elevator, like you.

Speaker 3 (13:13):
Can list all the.

Speaker 4 (13:14):
Things you know, I'm I, you know, I am by.

Speaker 3 (13:18):
Curious, I am you know whatever, and it's I think
it's kind of good to spell it all.

Speaker 4 (13:23):
Out there at the beginning, so there's no confusion.

Speaker 1 (13:28):
Second thing, right, Oh yeah, we weren't number two? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (13:34):
Sorry. My friend, as weird as it would be for me,
is a fantastic catch, and well you would be lucky
to date him, but.

Speaker 1 (13:45):
That would be very weird. Hey, there's an endorsement right there.
I'm going to work on a questionnaire for everybody who's
on questionnaire for everyone who's on dating app, and I'll
put it out there so you guys can have it
and use it. Yes, the nutritional fact Yeah, that'll be
on me. Wow, that's a different thing. The ingredients that
would be on a case of case by case basis.

(14:06):
I can't. I can't write that for everybody. It's not
going to work out. Jill, thank you for your time.

Speaker 4 (14:11):
Cheez.

Speaker 1 (14:11):
Good luck to you out there. I appreciate the transparency
to you. Good luck out there. Let's do the Shelby
Shelley showdown time Breaker with Kelsey. Nine one hundred bucks
is the prize, the Entertainer Report, and oh we've got
a big iHeart Radio Music Festival announcement to all in
the next thirty minutes. The French Show's on.