Just The Highlights! 09/03/2024

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Frend Show is on. It's stay or go. All right,
I've been here. Good morning, I even welcome to the program.
How are you?

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Thank Good morning? I'm going all right?

Speaker 3 (00:10):
I mean, what's going on with your girlfriend? Little group
therapy here, Let's let's hear about it, and then we're
gonna talk about you behind your back?

Speaker 1 (00:19):
Great? Yeah, I know, exciting, right, aren't you glad you called?

Speaker 3 (00:23):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (00:23):
Totally so all right, I'll be honest, nothing like crazy,
but I do think it's something that I just need
to get other people's advice on people that are like unbiased.

Speaker 1 (00:34):
I don't know, I'm biased.

Speaker 3 (00:35):
I mean, I'm I'm I'm team Ive and I think
I haven't heard the story yet, but I feel like
I'm team Ivan.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
But go ahead, please, we'll see.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
Thanks. So, my girlfriend I have been dating for about
five years now. We both met out of college, and
we both did the bartending things until we met. So
we're both bartending at this just as you know, chet
little bar or whatever. But when we were, you know,
like I said, fresh out of college, and I always
kind of assumed that we would move on to these things.

(01:02):
So since then, I've got a new job in finance.
You know, started like building up the savings and everything else.
And she has been five years now and she's still
working for the same same bar. I guess my question
is is, like, I'm I've kind of felt that there's

(01:23):
this like difference and like this resentment and this like
separation because I always thought that like that was just
a stepping stone job for us both. I mean that's
when we first got together. That's just what I assumed.
And she's still still working there, and I, yeah, am
I crazy for feeling that way?

Speaker 3 (01:43):
Like, Okay, so you five years ago you met in
a bar working there, and you're thinking, Okay, you know,
this is what we're doing now until we can get
to the next step in our lives, which you have.

Speaker 1 (01:55):
What have you moved on to do? What are you
doing now?

Speaker 2 (01:58):
So I'm I'm just working in you know, making significantly
more money now.

Speaker 3 (02:04):
So all right, And she's still doing that thing and
so at the bar, that thing being serving people during
she's the bartender. So you've discussed this with her and
she's like, well, no, no, I'm happy, like it is what
it is. I make good money and I'm happy and
so be it exactly.

Speaker 2 (02:19):
Yeah, And like you know, but we want to save
for vacations and we want to go and do fun
things and you know, kind of like start the next
phase of our life. And she's just still kind of
just content with.

Speaker 1 (02:31):
What she does. Okay, but is she making good money?

Speaker 3 (02:33):
Is my question, because here's the thing I was actually
just having this conversation with a professional.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
Observer.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
She's worked at a high end restaurant and she makes
a fair amount of money doing this, and she's good
at it, and she has regular customers. She would be
doing it for a long time, and it's a coveted
spot in a big time restaurant. I realize it's not
necessarily what you're talking about here, but she is making
good money, good enough money that she really can't afford
to leave it. She would like to leave it, she
would like to do something else, but she's making six

(03:03):
figures and she can't make six figures necessarily doing whatever
it is that she went to college for, whatever she's
trained to do.

Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yeah, I mean she's not. She's definitely not not making
six figures. And it's I don't know, I mean, it's
more so she does like it, but it's just like
I said, I thought this was always kind of like
a like a time like a a placeholder yeah, a
placeholder job for some like bigger aspiration. And that's the
thing is, like, really it's not even so much about

(03:33):
the money aspect of it, like because I'm doing pretty
well now and like I just want her to have
like some goals and aspirations outside of this one thing
she's been doing all this time. Like I can't imagine,
I don't like just saying at that same job the
entire time.

Speaker 3 (03:49):
So well, then I'm sure something similar to what my
my family went through with my sister and her husband
now is that they met in the ball It's basically
the same story, and it wasn't necessarily about the money,
and it wasn't even about the job. It was about
the lifestyle. And everybody agreed on that, including him, by

(04:09):
the way. That it was like this dude worked in
a dive bar and he made good money and whatever paid,
you know, contributed and all the rest of it. But
like he went to work at five pm and came
home at four in the morning, and it wasn't that
he was up to anything, but that wasn't really sustainable
for them, you know, they didn't spend as much time
together unless they were working together. You know, that wasn't

(04:31):
really the life that she envisioned for them together, having
a family and whatever. So he went and got you know,
accredited in doing some computer programming stuff, and now he
has a nine to five. I think he loves and
he's excelling and doing great. But that was up to him,
that was his decision to make. It required a little coaxing,
but I think he's happy with what he decided to do.

(04:51):
I mean, I think what it comes down to is,
I mean, do you do you love her any less?
Do you see any less of a future with her
simply because that's the she wants to do.

Speaker 2 (05:02):
Well, that's kind of yeah, it's kind of a dilemma
because you know, we're five years now, Like people are
definitely asking about proposal and everything else, and I gotta
say that, like, I don't know, I'm a little turned
off at the fact that she doesn't want to do
anything else or like, you know, find the next phase
of her life. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (05:19):
So Ivan, you would you would like her to have
a job like yours, like that you would think differently
of her if she went to sort of a more
traditional job rather than the one that she's doing.

Speaker 2 (05:33):
And honestly, like it doesn't even have to be bad,
it just needs to be something new, so like, you know,
kind of break the mold. And I don't know, it
just feels like we're just like stuck in this like
mindless loop of the same thing every you know. So, yeah,
something something different, something.

Speaker 3 (05:52):
Okay, All right, Well let me take some phone calls
on this and to see what people have to say.
But I wish you luck Ivan, Thanks eight five one
three five. So this dude's girlfriend is pretty contempt being
a bartender, and he thought that was just a phase,
and she doesn't seem to want to move on from that,
and he's wondering, look, is this something. Is this, you know,

(06:14):
indicative of ambition or is she just too comfortable? Or
does she want to challenge herself? I mean, I'm being
nice about it. It could also just be he doesn't
want a date a career bartender, which it sounds like
that has more to do with it than anything.

Speaker 2 (06:28):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (06:29):
Yeah, someone takes that and they're basically asking is he
more concerned about the title of her job, which I
think some people for some reason think bartender is I
don't know, but beneath them or something, you know what
I mean.

Speaker 5 (06:38):
Is that service industry or a server. But yeah, those
people make a lot of money and we need bartender
and we need you, honey, We need you.

Speaker 1 (06:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (06:46):
Yeah, I mean I don't know. I guess I also
don't know about her background. I mean, how much is
she spent on college? Did she spend on college? As
that matter? Is she These are all things I probably
should have asked it, But you know, does she have ambition?
She's just afraid to take this step?

Speaker 2 (07:00):
You know?

Speaker 3 (07:01):
But I think he's calling us because maybe a lot
of those things are unknown. It's like she just is
just gonna keep doing this and doesn't seem to want
to make any adjustment, and it's bothering him.

Speaker 6 (07:11):
She got a job, she's got a job for five
years now, that's a solid job.

Speaker 7 (07:16):
Why if she's happy there, if she's content, if she
likes a job, why would you make her leave just
because she's a bartender?

Speaker 6 (07:22):
And that's not up to your standards anymore.

Speaker 7 (07:24):
I mean, this guy's just assuming that she wants to
do something else with her life.

Speaker 6 (07:30):
Why why would you do that.

Speaker 3 (07:31):
If she does and she's not doing it because she's
just setting her ways. That's one thing. I don't know
if that's a reason to leave somebody, but I mean,
I don't.

Speaker 5 (07:40):
Think it's about the job.

Speaker 8 (07:41):
But I could understand if someone doesn't have any other
goals or aspirations in their life at all, Like if
they're like, I'm good, I'm gonna rock with the way
things are all around forever, you know, whether it be
like Okay, I want to say the same job, but I,
you know, in ten years, want to take this trip,
or I want to save for this, or I want
to you know, go back to school for.

Speaker 5 (08:01):
I don't know.

Speaker 8 (08:01):
I just feel like, okay, I'm just gonna leave everything
the exact same.

Speaker 5 (08:04):
That might turn me off a little bit.

Speaker 8 (08:06):
I don't care if you're a bartender, but you want
to do charity work?

Speaker 5 (08:09):
Do you want to like good point?

Speaker 9 (08:10):
You know?

Speaker 3 (08:11):
Yeah, Well that was my issue too with my brother
in law. He knows this, I can say it, and
he has a different perspective now, but I believe at
one point he told my grandfather, hey man, I'm just
trying to get by, like that was his mentality. I
just want to get by, like I just want to
I want to go to work. I want to pay
my bills. I just want to get by. And I
think that that was concerning for my grandfather because it's like, well,

(08:32):
I wish that you had this higher aspiration that you
were chasing after, even if you don't accomplish it. I'd
rather see you working towards something larger than yourself, or
a goal that you have for yourself, or to challenge
yourself in some way. That was kind of his point.
It wasn't don't bartender. I don't like it, because I mean,
who cares? But I also think, you know, more than

(08:53):
likely that's a job that will be there forever, and
it might be a fulfilling job and a well paying job.

Speaker 1 (08:58):
But you know, I don't know.

Speaker 3 (08:59):
I agree with you you like, maybe be a bartender,
but then like you want to be the world's greatest
I don't know whatever, Like do you have any sort
of side aspiration or project or or interest or hobby
or anything. And I think if the answers no, then
I can see why that, you know, that's not that exciting,
especially if you're working towards something you know larger in

(09:21):
your life and career.

Speaker 1 (09:22):
Julio, Hi, good morning.

Speaker 10 (09:25):
Hi, good morningswer.

Speaker 3 (09:28):
Sir Jesus, very respectful, Julia, what do you think, Well, I.

Speaker 11 (09:34):
Think the boyfriend's into finance and she loves that bartending.

Speaker 1 (09:39):
Why not open their own bar.

Speaker 11 (09:42):
That way, she's in the scene of the bar and
he could do the financing for her.

Speaker 1 (09:49):
Yeah, I guess.

Speaker 3 (09:50):
By the way I've heard, the opening a bar is
like the least fun thing that you ever. I know
several decided that they should have a bar, and they do.
They regret that.

Speaker 11 (10:00):
In my opinion, it is stressful. Don't get me wrong.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
I've worked with.

Speaker 11 (10:04):
Bars because I do private security for bars and nightclubs,
and it is a headache. But it is good money
because at the end of the night, when I see
those bartenders counting their tips and money in total, they
made from three thousand, two teny twelve thousand dollars on
the weekend a night.

Speaker 3 (10:24):
Yeah, I'm in the wrong business. Actually, yeah, I think.
I mean, I'm going to job bartending. Julio, thank you man,
have a good day.

Speaker 11 (10:31):
Yeah you too.

Speaker 1 (10:32):
I mean, honestly, that was the.

Speaker 3 (10:33):
Conversation conversation I was having with this woman. I think
she's in her early fifties, and she'd been doing this
her whole career and I can't afford to leave the industry.

Speaker 1 (10:40):
I can't.

Speaker 3 (10:40):
I can't, Like there's nothing else that pays me like this,
And I don't think she wants to do it. But
you know, who's to say that you can't have a
side hustle or that you can't I don't know, pursue
something on the side. It sounds like maybe she's not
into that idea. Hey, Jennifer, how you doing?

Speaker 12 (10:57):
Hey guys, good morning.

Speaker 1 (10:59):
Hi Jennifer. What do you think?

Speaker 3 (11:00):
So this dude's calling us because he's his girlfriend of
five years. They were bartending together, she's still bartending. He's
moved on to more of a traditional career, and she
doesn't seem to have any interest or aspiration and doing
anything else.

Speaker 1 (11:11):
It's bothering him.

Speaker 12 (11:14):
Yeah, no, I was listening to Ivan, So I just think,
you know, after five years you're together, you're probably sharing,
like you guys said, your goals, your aspirations, what you
want to get done. I think you can do all
those things and she can remain bartending if she's happy,
let her be. If it's something that he's hung up on,

(11:34):
that's going to be his issue.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
But kind of like what was said.

Speaker 12 (11:38):
I know people who would rather bartend kind of have
work less hours, make more money, then go work in
an office.

Speaker 3 (11:46):
Yeah, and this sounds like more of a status thing
to me. But at the same time, I mean, in
this case, it's like if this dude's working I don't know,
eight to six and she's working and making this up,
you know, like like a lot of bartend's working in
the evening or at night, chance he'd never see her.
So you know, he could make that point and be like, hey,
this schedule is not exactly working, like, well, at least
want you bartend in the same hours that I'm working,

(12:07):
But then she probably wouldn't make as much money, So
I mean, you know, there's that it's the lifestyle. You
could make that point. But he didn't make that point.
He didn't call up here and say I never get
to see my girlfriend because she's bartending.

Speaker 1 (12:18):
He made it sound like I.

Speaker 3 (12:20):
Never you know, my girlfriend has no further aspiration than
to be a bartender, and that's that good enough for me.

Speaker 1 (12:26):
That's basically what I heard him say.

Speaker 12 (12:29):
That's kind of what I was waiting for, Like the
time difference I could understand, and then it'd be like, Okay, cool,
I'll do it on the weekend and you know, well,
let's pivot. But if she's happy, do you go get
a hobby?

Speaker 1 (12:42):
Yeah?

Speaker 10 (12:42):
Well if you're bothered.

Speaker 6 (12:45):
I don't know.

Speaker 12 (12:46):
I just kind of feel like there's there's so many
with the uncertainty.

Speaker 1 (12:50):
Of the world too.

Speaker 12 (12:52):
I don't know. Well, you guys, she's making good money.

Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah, yeah, no, I agree, Thank you, Jennifer. Have a
good day, you guys can And there could be more.

Speaker 3 (13:01):
There could be more here too that he's not telling us.
But like if I don't know, maybe she is hesitant
to move on because it's a risk. And it's like,
is he offering to supplement? Is he saying, hey, take
that risk, Like, go do that thing you've always wanted
to do, and I'll back you because I have a
secure job. You can always go back to the bartending.
I mean, there's a lot of things here that he
hasn't said, or is she simply just doesn't care? And

(13:23):
I can see how that. I can see how that
could be unattractive. If someone's doing something and they're you
believe they're capable of more, they have bigger dreams or
bigger aspirations and they're just not doing it because they're comfortable.
But then again, are you, as her partner encouraging her
and supporting her and enabling her to do those things
or are you just complaining?

Speaker 1 (13:41):
It would be my question.

Speaker 8 (13:42):
Yeah, I don't care about the job, but I want
to watch you grow as a person and evolve.

Speaker 3 (13:46):
I agree with that now that I agree with And
that's why I'm saying, like, if it's just I don't know,
I don't, I don't I don't want to take that risk.
Then are you are you reaching your full potential? And
then how are you as her partner helping her to
accomplish that? And maybe he's not doing anything Adriana high.

Speaker 1 (14:04):
The morning, Hey, good morning, stare Go. What do you think.

Speaker 13 (14:10):
I think that he should say? But he's afraid because
to me it sounds he said about being engaged, and
that was the key word that I heard, is he
doesn't want to be financially responsible for the both of
them in the future. So if she does decide to
quit and have kids and she doesn't have the nine
to five and the PTO build up, that's what it
sounds like to me.

Speaker 2 (14:30):
He's like, he's seen.

Speaker 13 (14:31):
All these people grow because he's a businessman now, you know,
and there's two totally different personalities that they're emerging into.

Speaker 3 (14:39):
Yeah, I guess, I guess that's true. I mean, I
guess it's not like necessarily you know, jobs where you
have retirement and to your point, I don't know vacation time.
I mean maybe she has that stuff, but a lot
of bartenders may not. Insurance and a lot of other
things that I don't know if she's a corporate bartender
or what. But like you know, she might make a
lot of money cash or whatever. But you're right, like,

(15:02):
where's the security is she's I don't know. There's a
lot of variables here. But the vibe I was getting
from Ivan was it's like do better. And I don't
know that she necessarily is doing poorly for herself, you
know what I mean. But to Calen's point, if she's
capable of what maybe she has an art degree or
she has a she could be teaching, or she could
be doing you know, starting a business, and she's just

(15:24):
not doing it because it's like I don't want to
take the risk. I'll just go to work every day
and do my thing. And I can see how that
I can I can see how that would be unattractive
at a certain point, like, come on, let's do it, let's.

Speaker 6 (15:33):
Let's do more.

Speaker 1 (15:34):
Yeah, yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 5 (15:36):
Yeah, it's true.

Speaker 1 (15:36):
Yeah, Adria, thank you. Have a good day, Tony. Tony,
you say stay, I.

Speaker 14 (15:46):
Say stay, But it really depends. You know, life is short,
and you know you got to find your passion really quickly.
So my dad was an artist, a painter, but she
just like it is now, it was hard to find
work and art. So he began working for a bank,
moved up really high in the bank, and after thirty
six years, he hated every day that he worked at

(16:07):
the bank, and he wished he would have stuck to art.

Speaker 2 (16:12):
Sorry, I was running.

Speaker 3 (16:13):
Yeah yeah, are you? Are you running a marathon currently?
Or like what's going on?

Speaker 10 (16:17):
Man?

Speaker 3 (16:17):
But that's amazing because when I run, I can't speak.
So that's good that you're able to do both.

Speaker 2 (16:24):
Okay, Yes, you know he needs to find her passion.

Speaker 1 (16:27):
He wishes with the other thing.

Speaker 14 (16:31):
Yeah, I mean, if she really loves spartending, whether she's
making good money or not, that's the that's the thing.
She said stay, And you know he needs to be
supportive and happy with that.

Speaker 3 (16:43):
Okay, Tony man like deep breaths and it's like the fibulator,
like raise your hand if you need help or you know.

Speaker 14 (16:50):
It was it was that last sprint when you guys
picked up.

Speaker 3 (16:53):
So sorry you look at this guy. I'm just like,
now Tony wraps it up to Tony's Chelsea keep the
heart beat him.

Speaker 11 (17:09):
Yes, Hi, how are you hey?

Speaker 1 (17:10):
Good morning.

Speaker 3 (17:11):
So you are a former bartender, so what's your perspective.

Speaker 15 (17:15):
My perspective is I can honestly agree with him.

Speaker 12 (17:18):
If they're sitting there.

Speaker 15 (17:19):
Trying to make light plans right now. They want to
go out and do things.

Speaker 1 (17:23):
They want to go on.

Speaker 2 (17:23):
Vacations and stuff like that.

Speaker 15 (17:25):
Bartending isn't really a job where the income is always consistent.

Speaker 2 (17:31):
It's supply and demand.

Speaker 15 (17:34):
It's not like a nine to five where you go
in and you have a set income and you know
how much you're making and you can sit there and
make plans with your partner about going.

Speaker 6 (17:40):
And doing these things.

Speaker 15 (17:41):
Because if the money's not there, the money's not there
and you end up not being able to do those things.

Speaker 12 (17:46):
So it's really hard.

Speaker 10 (17:47):
I mean, yes, you get the.

Speaker 15 (17:48):
Freedom of your own schedule and everything. That's why I
always suggest the people.

Speaker 14 (17:52):
Delivery share food to.

Speaker 2 (17:54):
Be specific, not to be with people.

Speaker 15 (17:56):
But I do delivery share on the side now instead
of bartending for my extra because it's just so much
easier and so much more on demand. But yeah, you
and doing bartending isn't it's the money's.

Speaker 2 (18:08):
Not there sometimes and it's really hard to make those.

Speaker 1 (18:10):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Chelsea, have a good day.

Speaker 3 (18:14):
I will say for all the hard time that you know, Colin,
my brother in law got for being a bartender. He
my mom certainly has him making margarita's and shots all
of that. I mean, it comes in very handy. It's
a great part of it's very good at it, I
will say. So, I'm like, Mom, remember when you complained
about this? Now you're like placing orders.

Speaker 9 (18:33):
Ever been left waiting by the phone.

Speaker 3 (18:37):
It's the Fred Show, Evan, good morning, welcome to the show.

Speaker 1 (18:39):
How are you? I'm doing all right? Okay, all right, No,
that's that's honest. That's honest. Even that's I mean again,
when the people are like I'm great, you know, it's
like anything I just had ghosted, like how are you
so great? But this guy is just distraught. I'm distraught.

Speaker 3 (18:54):
Evan as well, because the last one that we did,
the last time we visited waiting by the phone, it
was a woman who prove perform CPR on a rat,
which I never really thought i'd see the day.

Speaker 1 (19:04):
So what do you have for me today? Man? Like,
what do you do? Yeah? What? Yeah?

Speaker 6 (19:10):
Right?

Speaker 1 (19:10):
What on earth could you have done?

Speaker 3 (19:12):
And we've done this for long over a decade, and
we've heard some things about, you know, people doing favors
to get babysitters and target drug parking lot and deals
and and uh, you know, people lying about being famous
and I mean all kinds of stuff. But Evan, I
don't know what happened with this woman. Jen tell us
kind of the backstory.

Speaker 16 (19:33):
Yeah, I mean I definitely don't have any roadent mouth
to mouth or anything like that.

Speaker 1 (19:37):
But okay, we're off to a great start. Yeah yeah, yeah,
so at least got that. I.

Speaker 16 (19:43):
Uh so, I met Jen on the apps and uh,
I invited her to progras some drinks and I thought
we hit it off. We're talking flirting a little bit,
you know, the rapport is there, like it's it's good,
and I thought we had a good time.

Speaker 1 (19:59):
We had fun.

Speaker 16 (20:00):
I tried reaching out to her and she was just
cold and then eventually go city. So I just want
to know what's up, Like, what's what's going on? I
hope it's not too boring, but you know, it's just
kind of.

Speaker 3 (20:15):
No boy's okay, No boring's okay. If we walked past
all the rats on the streets, we're off to a
good start here. So let's uh, let's I'm gonna play
a song and come back in a couple of minutes.

Speaker 1 (20:24):
We'll call it gen.

Speaker 3 (20:25):
You'll be on the phone and we're gonna see if
we can reach her and ask some questions for you,
and at some point you're welcome to jump in on
the call after we get you some info. And the
hope here is that we can straighten this out and
set you guys up on another day, which we have done,
not very many times, but we have. We have managed
to do it. We'd love to do it for you
today and you know, hopefully things work out. So can
you hang on for a second, Yeah, of course, let's

(20:46):
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app Andy Time search for a Fred's Show on demand. Hey, Eaven, Yeah,
let's call Jen. You guys met and went out. You
thought you had a great date, except you have not
heard from Jen since then. I guess you did a

(21:08):
little bit, you said, but then it faded away. So
she kind of breadcrumbed you and then faded away, and
now you.

Speaker 1 (21:15):
Don't know what's going on. You haven't heard from her
at all. You want to know why?

Speaker 16 (21:18):
Yeah, I mean, I mean, it'd be awesome if we
could go out again. But more than anything, I mean,
I just really want to know what's up.

Speaker 1 (21:24):
Yeah, that makes sense. Well, let's call her right now.
Good luck, Evan. Awesome, Thanks guys. Hello, Hi is this
Jen Ry? Yeah, hey Jane, good morning. My name is Fred.

Speaker 3 (21:39):
I'm calling from the Fred's Show, the morning radio show,
and I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now, and I would need your permission
to continue with the call. Can which out for just
a minute, You can hang up.

Speaker 1 (21:48):
Anytime, okay, Yeah, okay, by well, thank you very much.

Speaker 3 (21:54):
We're calling on behalf of a guy named Evan who
reached out to us and told us that he had
met you on one of the abs and you he
thought you had a good date, going for drinks and stuff,
and he thought things were maybe going to go someplace,
but says, you've kind of faded away and now you're
You're Mia and he doesn't know what's going on. He
feels like he's being ghosted. What's going on? Jen?

Speaker 17 (22:15):
Oh?

Speaker 10 (22:15):
Yeah? So yeah, and then I went out and he
was great actually, and I liked him. I actually like
him now even still, but I just really can't get
over this one thing.

Speaker 1 (22:31):
What is the one thing?

Speaker 10 (22:32):
Well, I'm not sure if he told you, guys, but
so after our date, we went back to his place
to hang out, and when we got there, I saw
that he had a dog. It was actually a huge dog,
a Rottweiler, a huge Rotwiler. Okay, and yeah, Unfortunately, when

(22:54):
I was little, I got attacked by a dog and
ever since I have been absolutely just terrified dogs, Like
all dogs, I cannot be around them. I don't want
to be around them, and so this is just non
negotiable for me. And you know, during the date when
we were at his place, I tried to hide it

(23:14):
and be cool and everything, but I was really like
just absolutely terrified.

Speaker 2 (23:19):
The whole time.

Speaker 10 (23:20):
I was really terrified. And yeah, yeah, throughout the night,
the dog was like jumping on me and barking and
at one point even nipped at me. And when I
tried to walk to the bathroom, and it was yeah,
it was really really bad, really scary for me. And yeah,
I just wouldn't be able to do it again. I mean,

(23:42):
I didn't want to make a big scene about it,
but I really can absolutely never date someone who has
a dog, And I really can't ask someone to change
their life like that, you know, give up their pets.

Speaker 3 (23:55):
Yeah, on a first date. Hey, that dogs, you gotta go.
I mean, that's not happening obviously exactly. And I'm sorry
that you had that experience. But let me bring Evan
in because I've had to mention that Evan is here.
And I feel bad about this, Evan because now you're
hearing that your dog scared her and you had no
way of knowing that. But Jen, why not just say

(24:16):
to him? Why not just tell him this, like you're
not asking him to get rid of the dog. You
simply would just communicate with him like, hey, look, this
isn't going to work. Out because I'm definitely afraid of
big dogs and I don't think that's going to change.

Speaker 10 (24:28):
Yeah, I just felt bad about saying something like that.

Speaker 1 (24:32):
So, but you don't feel bad to me to shame you.

Speaker 10 (24:35):
But it's fizzled out. I just I thought it'd be
better if things fizzled out way.

Speaker 1 (24:40):
You don't feel bad about ghosting him though, And Evan,
what I mean do you want to say anything about this?
I mean, hey, what's up?

Speaker 2 (24:47):
Jen?

Speaker 16 (24:48):
I well, look, I had no idea, and look I
would I would have I can put him away. I
would put him. I wouldn't put him away if I
knew if you would have just told me. Yeah, but
you're not gonna be able to put him away forever.
Like I mean, you obviously love your I hope you
love your dog. And your dog's not going anywhere. No,

(25:10):
my dog's not going anymore. I love him, but like
at the same time too, like you know, like that
would assume over time you could get to know he
He's a sweet dog. I mean, if you if you
get to know him, I mean, even if you don't
know me, he's never anyone or.

Speaker 1 (25:24):
Anything like that. And I would just assume over time
you know well, and I know ja none of us
are professionals. I know that he's not. I'm not.

Speaker 3 (25:31):
But like, would you can if you liked him, would
you consider maybe like easing into it, like you know,
maybe go to a park and hang out with him
and hang out with the dog and see if you know,
in a more open space you feel comfortable and maybe
the dog becomes comfortable with you and it could help
you with your fear. I hate to see this if
you like him, I hate to see this go poorly

(25:51):
because of it.

Speaker 10 (25:53):
No, I unfortunately, I really can't do that because, like
I said, I'm just absolutely terrified of dogs, have in
for pretty much my whole life ever since I was little,
and was it talked by.

Speaker 2 (26:04):
One like it's so it's just there's just.

Speaker 10 (26:07):
No way this is going to work. And even it's
like on the dates, Evan, if you if you put
him away, like it would not have made a difference.
I mean, just knowing that the dog was in the
house would have made me like really scared and really nervous. Anyway,
all right, well, I'm mortally there's just absolutely no way
that this can work.

Speaker 3 (26:27):
That's too bad. I'm sure this is truly like I
couldn't date a woman who had a cat. I like cats,
I'm allergic to them. Like, and there's no you can
barely you can't like permanently decat a house like it,
you know, get all the hair and everything else.

Speaker 1 (26:40):
You can't. It can't be done.

Speaker 3 (26:41):
And I love them, but like, I don't know that
I could live with someone or stay in their house
all the time. So I understand what you're saying for you.
For me, it's like a health thing. For you, it's
a you know, it's fear. And hey, Ivan, I'm sorry, man,
it's not going to work out.

Speaker 16 (26:55):
Yeah you went.

Speaker 1 (26:56):
I guess, Yeah, I guess so, But I love you.
Get good.

Speaker 3 (27:00):
You got a cool ass dog, so you know what. Cool,
It's all good. And Jen, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (27:04):
Talking to work for you. And I'm sorry like your drama,
but I wish you the best of what. Thank you
for your time.

Speaker 10 (27:08):
Oh, thank you.

Speaker 1 (27:09):
The Entertainer Report with Caleb's up next in two minutes.
We'll do trending stories, headlines you start to Tuesday, and
the Superhero fun fact all next Fread Show. It's the
Fread Show. Do you have what it takes to battles?

Speaker 5 (27:23):
You're definitely gonna be Callina's battle. Not today.

Speaker 1 (27:28):
People are throwing off, They're like, what day is here?
Kelly's out today? Helleena's filling in with her game. Sing
your song.

Speaker 2 (27:36):
Now.

Speaker 4 (27:36):
I'm thrown off cuz of all the days off, but
it's all good. I'm refreshed, Daddy weet, I get this bag,
you know it's and I'm gonna win this game two
days in a row. Hey, Hey, Hey, Hey, thanks Yi bday.

Speaker 1 (27:54):
Kelly. Hi Kelly, how are you?

Speaker 12 (27:57):
How are you?

Speaker 1 (27:58):
Kelly? Welcome? Tell us about you.

Speaker 12 (28:02):
I'm the first gay teacher on my way to work, and.

Speaker 15 (28:05):
I just found out that Bella and I are from
kind of the same hometownty area, so that's super.

Speaker 1 (28:09):
Fast from the Bay. You guys are from the Bay area.

Speaker 12 (28:14):
The area, and Jason, she knew my area, so we're
both from northern California.

Speaker 1 (28:18):
Yeah, okay, all right, Kelly.

Speaker 3 (28:20):
Well, I'm glad you guys were able to connect, and
you know, maybe you guys can have a nice picnic
or something one day, or you know, get together over
drinks and talk about it.

Speaker 1 (28:29):
But let's play the game.

Speaker 3 (28:30):
It's five questions general knowledge Against Paulina. You're gonna have
to do it two days.

Speaker 2 (28:33):
In a row.

Speaker 1 (28:33):
But let's let's see how it goes.

Speaker 5 (28:35):
Let's say that's good luck, Kelly.

Speaker 3 (28:38):
Helena, Audiosmia Miga. All right, here we go. Question number one, Kelly,
which state isn't oh?

Speaker 1 (28:45):
Come on? That is? Who could have known you were
gonna call? Which state is known as the Golden State?
Who is on though you asked one hundred dollars? Bill Benjamin?

Speaker 3 (28:59):
How many collars are in a rainbow? In which state
is area fifty one located? And what are animals without backbones?

Speaker 1 (29:13):
Known as? This should be good? I know, you know,
but yeah, I can't wait to see what pone.

Speaker 3 (29:19):
Okay, you got a four, and you're very very close,
very very close to a five, but you got a four.
Hold on, hold on, we can't get Polina any advantage here?

Speaker 1 (29:31):
Are you ready?

Speaker 5 (29:31):
I think?

Speaker 16 (29:32):
So?

Speaker 1 (29:32):
Okay, here we go.

Speaker 2 (29:33):
Here we go.

Speaker 3 (29:34):
Question number one, Polina, Which state is known as the
Golden State?

Speaker 5 (29:38):
Golden state is California?

Speaker 1 (29:39):
It is who is on the US one hundred dollars?
Bill Jefferson? That is wrong, Benjamin Franklin. By the way,
you know, yeah, I really don't know.

Speaker 3 (29:52):
Kelly is absolutely an elementary school teacher like from every
part of Kelly is element. She's hearing you on, she's
going yea in the tone and every.

Speaker 5 (30:00):
I need this in my life.

Speaker 3 (30:01):
How many colors are in a rainbow? You look at
the encouragement from the competition.

Speaker 1 (30:08):
My god, Kelly, in which state is area fifty one located?

Speaker 5 (30:13):
Oh, Nevada?

Speaker 1 (30:15):
That is right.

Speaker 6 (30:16):
We need this, We need this.

Speaker 3 (30:18):
And you gotta get this because the tie goes to Paulina.
What are animals without backbones.

Speaker 5 (30:24):
Known as reptiles?

Speaker 1 (30:29):
Invertebrates? Us?

Speaker 7 (30:32):
Yeah, jemmy fish, amphibious, yeahs invertebrates.

Speaker 10 (30:38):
Invertebrates give it?

Speaker 1 (30:40):
Oh yeah, jellyfish, jellyfish. I don't know if jellyfish have
a bad jolly fish they are, but they're not.

Speaker 5 (30:49):
Oh yeah, that's right.

Speaker 1 (30:50):
Gotch Wow. Okay, well we've learned a lot here, yeah,
we have. But what we really learned is that Kelly
is the winner. I mean, this game is right up
your alley. By the way, The is are about first
grade level questions.

Speaker 15 (31:03):
You know, I almost think you guys are rainbow song.

Speaker 3 (31:05):
So oh yeah, oh yeah, let's ROYGBIV got bad memories?
Every signs class average.

Speaker 6 (31:16):
Red and yellow.

Speaker 7 (31:18):
Yeah exactly, I forgot as some things that all the time.

Speaker 3 (31:22):
Okay, uh, Kelly, hang on one second, how you win,
have a great day, good.

Speaker 15 (31:28):
Job, Thanks guys, I have a good one.

Speaker 3 (31:30):
Good job, thank you, Thank you, have a good day
at school. Thank you for listening. I don't think that
one doesn't counted against you. That's a bonus one. So
well we'll go okay against it. Could it could or
it couldn't. It's up to you, guys. I don't really know. Yeah,
you know, it lives up to its name.

Speaker 1 (31:44):
It counts.

Speaker 5 (31:44):
Never mind, if I came back, I.

Speaker 3 (31:46):
Changed my mind. It counts good news stories. A new
waiting metaphone. We were off yesterday, so a new waiting
metaphone today will do fun fact trending stories. The entertainmer reported,
So more.

Speaker 1 (31:57):
Fred show next right here, She's got to wait. Fred's
show is on now hot This morning show, guys, good morning,
and he she will say. September third, the French Show
is not Hi, Caitlin, Hello There, Rufie, Hello, Hi, Calleen, Hiki,

(32:17):
good morning. Chubis and Jason are out back tomorrow. Bellamine
is your big Sabrina Carpenter announcement is happening on this
show Friday seven, fifty five. She reached out to us.

Speaker 3 (32:31):
She was like, I say, you dedicate yourself to me,
and we said, I've given myself to you, Sabrina I have.

Speaker 1 (32:39):
I've given myself to Sabrina. I have. I have done that.

Speaker 3 (32:42):
After I heard taste, I said, or bedcam, I said,
you know, let's do it. Bed cam sounds kind of
like something you don't want to get, like I got
that bedcam, you know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (32:50):
But like bed cam, you do want the bed right.

Speaker 3 (32:53):
But bed camp sounds like bedstores or bed you know,
I don't know. Yeah, somebody would need an ointment for yes,
right right, or some form of salve.

Speaker 1 (33:03):
I agree. Also, Caitlin h, I guess Rufio too. You guys.

Speaker 3 (33:09):
Involved yourself in a heated debate on the on the
interwebs about pizza.

Speaker 5 (33:16):
Oh yeah, because our.

Speaker 3 (33:17):
Old friend aid with viral for saying that chicago Ins
don't refer to thin crust pizza as tavern style, even
though I think Chicagoans some Chicagoans do, because I wouldn't
know that it was called taverns style unless I learned
that here.

Speaker 1 (33:32):
However, I don't call it that.

Speaker 3 (33:35):
I also will point out to anyone who Wills because
I am officially after fourteen years, I am in Chicago,
and I will point out that when people talk about
Chicago pizza that people who live That's the one thing
I will say, people who live in Chicago do not
consistently eat Chicago style pizza.

Speaker 1 (33:50):
I will. I will go down with the ship on
that one. Visitors and the families in town.

Speaker 3 (33:56):
I'm not saying I won't eat it if it's there.
I won't say that. I'm like, oh, you know, every
now to get maybe once or twice a year. I'm
not like because it's delicious. I like a cast role.

Speaker 5 (34:03):
Yeah I do too.

Speaker 3 (34:06):
But I think people think, like, oh, Chicago pizza, Like
you guys just roll up, you know, and just get
a slice of it. It's impossible. Weighs seven pounds. I
can't even carry it, so it's not like New York.
But you guys contend that Chicagoans do not call it
tavern style.

Speaker 1 (34:21):
That's what you guys, That was your no.

Speaker 8 (34:23):
I contend that they do the only time I've ever
heard it is here from Pauline and Rufia.

Speaker 4 (34:27):
So when I saw Abe Cannon, who's almost as like
neighborhood as I am, say that.

Speaker 5 (34:31):
I was like, bro, I.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
Tag you, Oh, I thought you were disputing it.

Speaker 4 (34:35):
No, no, no, I'm saying that. I call it tavern style,
so my not yet. Okay that growing up?

Speaker 1 (34:39):
Okay? Good?

Speaker 5 (34:40):
I said it here, agreed. I think Caylen heard it
from us.

Speaker 3 (34:42):
Okay, good, so we all agree to you. I didn't
want to get in on it because I just didn't
want to get it.

Speaker 8 (34:45):
But Abe said, no one you know someone's not from
Chicago if you hear them say tete.

Speaker 3 (34:50):
And I don't agree with that because of what I
said earlier. I wouldn't even know what's called that.

Speaker 5 (34:55):
I've never heard that in my life.

Speaker 1 (34:56):
You've never heard tavern stead.

Speaker 5 (34:58):
I've never called it that, So I would agree with Ape.

Speaker 17 (35:01):
Sorry, yeah, but you but you've heard it. I've heard
it from this room. Honestly, I've never heard that.

Speaker 13 (35:09):
Wow.

Speaker 8 (35:10):
See when I I have never heard it until I
got here. Yeah, because I don't, we don't say that.

Speaker 3 (35:14):
And I love me some, Abe, I just I didn't
really want to smoke, you know, not from a ape really,
but like from you know, the like.

Speaker 1 (35:20):
The plots, the slot whatever, the meat eating people that
He's got a whole fan club of people that sandwiches.

Speaker 8 (35:29):
Also that I said, I don't have a dog in
this fight, but I know two people who do.

Speaker 5 (35:32):
I tagged him in one and two.

Speaker 1 (35:33):
It was nice of you, but I don't know.

Speaker 5 (35:36):
There were the.

Speaker 4 (35:36):
Comments to it, and like the meme, I think Chicago
History shout Out reposted it and everybody was agreeing with them.

Speaker 5 (35:42):
But I was, like, I've been calling it tavern.

Speaker 4 (35:44):
I'm from Chicago, I'm in the same neighborhood as Abe, Like,
it made no sense to me.

Speaker 3 (35:48):
The only reason I would call it taversal is because
I thought that's what people who grew up here called it,
and it's a differentiate.

Speaker 17 (35:55):
But anyway, teammate, I'm sorry. I just I've never heard
I mean, yeah, we don't. I've never heard anybody, nobody
in my life calls it tavern style other.

Speaker 5 (36:03):
Than you guys.

Speaker 17 (36:04):
I didn't know that, okay, And even from childhood Rufel too,
you called the tavern style.

Speaker 7 (36:10):
That's so how I knew it is, Okay, pizza, right,
it's a thin crushed with cutting squares, right, And.

Speaker 3 (36:16):
I thought that the square thing was also a component'
a tavern style.

Speaker 5 (36:21):
Yeah, right, it's got to be square.

Speaker 3 (36:23):
Yeah, But someone's just not even veto and Knicks calls
it tavern style on their menu. And that's from West
Loop Tom, another guy that I don't really want to
smoke from.

Speaker 9 (36:33):
They talk better than they find my house. He knows
he's on the radio, blogs on the Fred Western. Tom
knows where I live. Somehow he checked like, I don't
know a county record. Just I don't know what the
hell he did. The man's in my house right now.
I don't know he's taking pictures.

Speaker 1 (36:46):
I don't know how.

Speaker 3 (36:47):
I'm not sure how he does this like writing in
our diaries, except we say him aloud.

Speaker 1 (36:51):
We call them blugs rufe. Yes, he almost had to
kick your kid out.

Speaker 7 (36:55):
Oh yes, it almost happened. Yeah, So, dear blog. So
Acton's birthday is this Friday. He's gonna be five years old,
and we've been trying to plan his birthday party for him.
We're just like, you know, we're doing something not big,
just with family, and we're trying to.

Speaker 1 (37:11):
Think of a theme.

Speaker 7 (37:12):
He like, we're asking him, what's the theme of your birthday?

Speaker 6 (37:16):
And it's been switching. He loves Space Jam. He's like,
I wanted a Space Jam party.

Speaker 7 (37:21):
And then he loves these Disney shows or these Disney
movies called Descendants and Zombies. So he's like going back
and forth, and so over the weekend we asked him,
it's like, hey, your birthday is coming up. What's the theme.
And he's like, you know what, this is how he talks.
You know what, I think I want to stick with
Space Jam. And then Jess and I were like, oh god,
it's gonna be hard to find like Space Jams, yeah,

(37:42):
because he's like year old movie. And we both said
to each other, We're like, oh, we probably only find
the newer version of Space Jam. And he's just like,
Ashton goes, yeah, the one with Lebron James, and I said,
oh no.

Speaker 1 (37:55):
I was like, I was like, how do you know
Lebron James?

Speaker 7 (37:57):
And Aston said, dead in my face, said Lebron James
is the greatest basketball player ever.

Speaker 6 (38:04):
And I said, get out of my house.

Speaker 1 (38:06):
Yeah, Patrick mag get out of my house. They all
think that he said that. And I took that personally, right,
I said, I take this personally.

Speaker 6 (38:14):
I was like, no, we do not talk like that
in his house.

Speaker 1 (38:17):
It's like Michael Jordan don't like that in this house, right.

Speaker 6 (38:20):
Like Michael Jordan is the greatest basketball player ever.

Speaker 5 (38:23):
He sounds like one of the famous dads. Dude, right now.

Speaker 7 (38:26):
I was like, I've never like, I've never shown him
this new legacy Space Jam.

Speaker 6 (38:31):
He's never seen it, Like it's forbidden.

Speaker 1 (38:33):
In my house.

Speaker 7 (38:35):
But like he must have watched it because he watches
you know, YouTube, and these kids play with toys and
that's how he found out, because these kids played with
these Space Dam toys. So that's what he wants for
his birthday. It's like Lebron James toys. I'm like, bro,
this ain't happening.

Speaker 1 (38:49):
You can't let me tell you something, Okay, Uncle Fred
has a message for you. You can't speak on this
debate because you aren't even alive for the greatest of
all time? Right The only person who can say who
the greatest of all time was was was the generation
that was alive for both. The truth of the matter
is Michael Jordan is the greatest of all time. End
of story, dude. I was end of debate, my jaws

(39:11):
on the floor. I was like, this kid just said that.
In my house, this is a teachable moment. You should
have shown him the real Space Jam.

Speaker 6 (39:18):
That's the only he's seen it one hundred times. So
where's with Michael Jordan?

Speaker 5 (39:21):
And he says, Lebron is bad?

Speaker 10 (39:23):
Right?

Speaker 6 (39:23):
And I went to his closet. I took out all
of these shoes. I said, Bro, you see all these shoes.

Speaker 7 (39:27):
You see that man jumping in the air all the time,
that's Michael Jordans man.

Speaker 1 (39:31):
I'm getting fired.

Speaker 5 (39:33):
Calmed down.

Speaker 8 (39:35):
Have us buy space things like to decorate and then
basketball things and you can do an o G space.

Speaker 5 (39:40):
Jam Fred will dress up as one of.

Speaker 17 (39:42):
The he picked zombies, so we're doing it zombie.

Speaker 1 (39:50):
Sorry, this is terrible.

Speaker 3 (39:52):
I mean, growing up, my nanny used to tell me, like,
you know by Catholicism, like this is it's blind faith?

Speaker 1 (39:57):
You just you just is. And I'd be like, banana,
what about it? Just is? But what about it?

Speaker 3 (40:01):
Just is?

Speaker 1 (40:02):
It's time that he and I had that same sit down.
What but what about it?

Speaker 9 (40:05):
No?

Speaker 1 (40:05):
It just is, kid, Michael Jordan, It's just is right.

Speaker 10 (40:09):
It is.

Speaker 5 (40:10):
Leron has passed him.

Speaker 8 (40:11):
Numerically, numbers wise, it still doesn't count.

Speaker 1 (40:14):
No, not any category has he No.

Speaker 5 (40:17):
I'm not saying in every category, but there are some.

Speaker 6 (40:19):
Scoring days about it.

Speaker 7 (40:20):
Yeah, okay, so but that doesn't mean Lebron's also played
like ten more years than Jordan hass you.

Speaker 8 (40:25):
Know, facturing in Okay, I'm just asking.

Speaker 1 (40:30):
I was so old. It's just his kid, like, just
had to hold me back. This was almost the end.
We almost saw you in the news. You was shot too, Yeah,
the evening news. What was the cause of the incident
of at least I got I got Parker. Damn Kay