Just The Highlights! 09/10/24

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's the Fred Show. This is what's trending. Man sad news.
James Earld Jones passed away ninety three years old. Mostly
widely known as the Star Well the Voice I guess,
one of the stars of Star Wars. He was the
voice of Darth Vader, who passed away at the age
of ninety three. This home, surrounded by family. He discovers

(00:21):
his love for acting in the fifties, when he attended
the University of Michigan. Sorry, Kaitlin. He then moved on
to New York and worked as a janitor while attending
the American Theater Wing. He made his Broadway debut in
nineteen fifty eight, won two Tony Awards in sixty nine
and eighty seven. You know he never won. He got

(00:41):
an honorary Academy Award in twenty twelve, but he won
an Emmy, Grammy, Oscar and a Tony, but he never
won an Academy Award. He got the honorary one, but
he never won it. Per se, which is crazy to me.
Here he is that's a Is it on a second?
It's only four seconds? I don't If I trust this,
I'm gonna click on it.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
Probably interested I am your father.

Speaker 1 (01:03):
No, it's supposedly him talking about having a stutter growing up,
which is amazing to think about. But I don't I
don't know, and I don't think that's the right clip.
I'm not gonna click on him. But yeah, everyone heard
his voice before. It's very sadasa. Yes, that's what I'm
sad about. The sand lot. Yeah yeah, field of dreams, Yeah,
field of dreams. So he was in a bunch of stuff.
So he passed away. So all right in America? Yeah?

(01:25):
Oh yeah, yes, that's right. Of yes, yes, any wore
that that came with the with the actual like tiger
head on it. Oh yeah, walked into the barbershop. You're
late for the Christmas passible? Oh my god, yes, of course. Uh.
Space guys. Space Ex's latest mission a bold and risky

(01:47):
trek into Earth's Van Allen radiation belt. Of course, you
know that the Van Allen radiation Belt. It's very one
trying to go. A four person civilian crew launched this
morning at five three Eastern. It's dubbed Polaris Dawn. It
lifts it off. The launch comes after several weather delays
in late August and earlier this morning. Further Complicating the

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launch prospects was the fact that the space X needed
to ensure that there are calm waters and winds for
the crew's return. Timing is critical. The mission will have
only enough life support for five or six days in
space because carrying out a spacewalk will create a drain
and auxygen supplies. So it's the first commercial spacewalk. Cool
and four men and women boom up there. They're gonna wave.

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The butchers today are.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
Putting more up there.

Speaker 3 (02:34):
Can we just get them there?

Speaker 1 (02:36):
They're gonna cruise U. Yeah, we ain't got rumin the back.
Sorry for that.

Speaker 3 (02:47):
We should send more.

Speaker 1 (02:49):
Yeah, and they get space walk their ass right up
to them and be like, hey, wild you know, if
we didn't spacewalk, we'd haven't enough oxygen for you. But
we are spacewalking, baby, So it's sorry. That is messed up.
Bunching Sunita up there going what you messing around the billions?
So walk and you you can't come through for five minutes.

(03:12):
Pick us up.

Speaker 3 (03:13):
I hate it.

Speaker 1 (03:13):
Here, hang on his seatbelt. It's going on. If you've
been wondering what's going on with Princess Kate, Princess Katherine,
the Princess of Wales. She has completed chemotherapy and is
doing what I can to stay cancer free. Do we
ever really know what happened exactly? I mean, she had cancer,

(03:33):
we know that, but she disappeared for a while, remember
all that, and people thought maybe she was dead and
they weren't telling anybody, or maybe it was like a
double and then we were seeing her and then weren't
seeing her.

Speaker 4 (03:44):
I think they just tried to hide it, and they
did an awful job.

Speaker 1 (03:48):
Yeah, it was really bad. And then they were like
putting out old pictures and saying they were new. And
then of course the internet always wins, and they were
analyzing it and all of them. But she underwent major
abdominal surgery shortly after Christmas had Apparently she's doing much better.
Eight hundred million dollars, guys, tonight is the night I
decided to hold off. I didn't buy a ticket on Friday.

(04:09):
I decided to hold off. I wasn't feeling it, right,
I'm feeling it. I'm feeling it now. Eight hundred million
dollars is the Mega millions jackpot for tonight. I'm not
gonna tell you what the odds are to win. Does
it matter? The odds are not that good for you
because I'm going to win. But if you want to

(04:29):
contribute to my retirement fund, that's fine. Go on and
buy as many tickets as you want. I will not
forget about you when I win eight hundred million dollars.

Speaker 2 (04:37):
What's the first thing you're gonna buy?

Speaker 1 (04:39):
What is the first thing? I'm gonna buy a car
to drive away from this place? No, I don't know, nord, sir.
I'm gonna buy the radio station. Fire some people who
I'm gonna do. You all are safe. You're all getting
raises too. You're all gonna get raises from twelve dollars
an hour to fifteen dollars now actual actual minimum wage. Now,

(05:03):
don't worry. I got you. I got you.

Speaker 5 (05:05):
What was it?

Speaker 1 (05:05):
What would be the first thing you would buy?

Speaker 6 (05:07):
Oh?

Speaker 7 (05:08):
I would probably build my dream house. Okay, for some reason,
I'm going to build a house. TikTok and man, I
want to build a house. Okay, all right, well there
you go. I mean, do you imagine like huge, reasonable sized?

Speaker 2 (05:20):
It's pretty huge?

Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, pretty well?

Speaker 1 (05:23):
What does it need to have in it? That's gonna
Why does it need to be so big.

Speaker 2 (05:26):
I need my own chambers.

Speaker 1 (05:28):
Chambers.

Speaker 2 (05:28):
Yeah, I need chambers like where I can do my
judge thing. And then a chamber.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
Well too medieval even medieval stuff, thinking, yeah, is that
what you Timothy do? Y'all rush up like yeah, get
like swords and shields and stuff and leg Yeah. Every

(05:56):
time we talk about medieval times, I'm reminded of the
time the one time I was asked to go to
one of those things and like I was the honorary
I don't know what I was, like the mayor town, Yeah,
whatever I want. I got to like preside over the
I was like the king. I was the king for
the day or like an assistant king or something, and
I got to like sit on the throne and whatever.

(06:16):
And so we're backstage and and like there's a handler
explaining to me what I'm going to be doing, and
like the cash members are back there, and I'm like, hey,
nice to meet you. I'm Steve or you know whatever.
I'm speaking here. I'm friend, I'm speking this guy to
be like I'm Steve. I'm a plumber during the week
and I'm doing this on the weekend. Oh no, no,
we never broke character. We never broke character. It was

(06:36):
I am Gwendoline and I'm just like looking at it,
I'm like okay, like I'm Fred, you know, nice to
have you in my kingdom to die and we're like
backstage and like, dude, we don't have to do this
right now, like we could just be normal. Nope, we
did not break character. None of them did.

Speaker 2 (06:56):
That's awesome the entire time, top tier acting.

Speaker 3 (06:58):
That's my favorite South Park episode.

Speaker 4 (06:59):
There at like a place like that and someone needs
to call nine get in an ambulance.

Speaker 3 (07:03):
I think someone's injured or something. They're like a phone.

Speaker 1 (07:05):
We don't have a phone, you know, like Rick for
a wheel, Like yeah, you know, they just they wouldn't
like they wouldn't. I'm just I really I appreciated the
commitment of the craft, but I was just expecting I'm Stacy,
I work in Hooters or whatever, like you know, I
am one of the daughter of the Kingdom, you know,

(07:25):
the generation of Yeah, right, Like what is going on?
You can stop that? Okay, So you need chambers? What
else you need?

Speaker 7 (07:37):
I really want like soft cloths, drawers, like I'm really
upsessed with I.

Speaker 1 (07:42):
Think you can have those in your current house.

Speaker 7 (07:43):
No, I have them, but I want like a lot
of them, Like I want, I want a wall of
just soft clothes.

Speaker 1 (07:50):
You're gonna win eight hundred million dollars and you're gonna
get a bunch of soft clothed.

Speaker 7 (07:53):
Drawers and a champagne button, except I wanted to bring
me g in a vodka, so like a button when
I'm in my closet upstairs, my glamor room, then they
can shoot me up.

Speaker 2 (08:02):
Simbaka.

Speaker 1 (08:03):
Okay, okay, wow.

Speaker 2 (08:04):
I'm not shooting you up, you know.

Speaker 3 (08:06):
Yeah, bring it to you and you'll drink it like
a bank thing.

Speaker 1 (08:10):
She's sinking like a like a dumb waiter.

Speaker 4 (08:12):
Yeah, I shouldn't want hurt people to think she would
wants to be shot up with Jim.

Speaker 3 (08:16):
Yeah, although that would go to your butchering past.

Speaker 1 (08:18):
So maybe oh oh, I don't know if everybody took
it there, but yeah, okay, yeah, I'm not high, but
that's right. Yeah, So good luck with all the all
of that. Hopefully it works out for you with your
with your gin bidet or whatever your has called.

Speaker 8 (08:34):
So so Kaitlyn doesn't have to go buy a ticket,
or should she still go buy a ticket?

Speaker 2 (08:39):
What are you talking about? For the Megan. No, should
she still go buy a ticket?

Speaker 3 (08:42):
No, she's not not today.

Speaker 1 (08:45):
Why am I missing the joke? What's the joke he
wants me to do?

Speaker 4 (08:48):
He wants me to try to order one?

Speaker 7 (08:52):
Oh yeah, you guys keep doing that to my boy, roof.

Speaker 1 (08:57):
I forgot about that, Diddy, I forgot about that. I
forgot about that joke. I mean, I'm the guy that
tell the same jokes over and over again, so I'm
surprised I couldn't remember that.

Speaker 3 (09:04):
It's our that we ask.

Speaker 1 (09:06):
Cayleen had a bit of a bit of a struggle
with the purchasing of the lottery ticket. It was very
stressful for her.

Speaker 3 (09:11):
I can't play to this day because I don't know
how to do it.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
Cal No, step in, step it my bodega. Step in.
I'm standing there, I'm in character, are you? And I'm
behind the lottery machine? What would you like to buy?

Speaker 2 (09:26):
Hi?

Speaker 1 (09:27):
Welcome to my store?

Speaker 3 (09:28):
Hi on, okay? Can I please have?

Speaker 1 (09:31):
This? Is real?

Speaker 3 (09:32):
By the way, No, I really can't do this.

Speaker 1 (09:34):
No, I want you to really do it? How you
would do it? This is yeah? How are you how
you doing? I'm good, I'm Steve.

Speaker 3 (09:41):
Oh I didn't ask.

Speaker 1 (09:47):
On the weekend, would you like, can.

Speaker 4 (09:50):
I please have no turkey like today? I know that's
my usual, but can I please have one Mega million's
ticket ticket to the Mega millions?

Speaker 3 (10:00):
Yeah? But I want the multiplier. I want the multiplier
on one of them that.

Speaker 1 (10:08):
Do they have that on Mega million? I thought it
was powerable? I see I don't know they have it
on the Mega million. Here's the good news. You don't
even have to do this. If you walk in and
just have twenty dollars in your hand, they already know.
Like today, they already.

Speaker 3 (10:19):
Know, like what can I get this?

Speaker 1 (10:21):
Well, you just give it like they everybody's getting the
same thing. So you don't even have to tell them.
You can just be like quick pick and handing the
money and they'll just and they'll just hand you.

Speaker 3 (10:30):
Oh they decide my number.

Speaker 2 (10:31):
The machine.

Speaker 1 (10:32):
The machine does not the man behind the thing. He's
not like maybe this one.

Speaker 3 (10:38):
I don't know what numbers should I do?

Speaker 1 (10:40):
See? Did you let the machine do it? I guess?

Speaker 4 (10:43):
Oh quick, okay, one ticket to the Mega millions.

Speaker 1 (10:45):
Oh boy, this is just walking with me a.

Speaker 3 (10:47):
Multiplier and a quick pick.

Speaker 1 (10:49):
You'll be fine. And the iPhone announcement yesterday new iPhone
is coming, iPhone sixteen special chips with AI and I
don't know, I don't know how much difference.

Speaker 2 (11:00):
They're bringing the home button back.

Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah, well they have to because the phone's got to
look different now, because if it doesn't look different, then
it's not a status symbol anymore. Because if you remember,
every iPhone was very different when they first started coming out,
So like if you had a really old one, if
you had an iPhone two and everybody else had the five,
it was very apparent that you were stuck at least
eight months earlier than that. And so now then now

(11:23):
they come out, they don't change anything really, They just
make you think they changed it, and it looks the same.
So if they put the button back on, well then
that means that all. So you've got the new one,
you know what I mean, because it's got to be
a status symbol. It can't just be because this in
the fit, you wouldn't know this one and the other
the latest version. You would not know which one it was.
You would not know that I had thrown my phone

(11:44):
across the room and destroyed it into a million pieces.
There was only one little corner of it left and
I went to the store and I said, I just
need a new phone. They were like, well, we can
take the old one. I'm like, but you can't. They're like, no, no, no,
what did you drop it? Like you know, yeah I did,
and it's like what's left of it? I'm like nothing,

(12:04):
Just give me a new phone. They're like, really, you
want to pay off you. I'm like, just give me
a new phone. And other one's destroyed. I threw it
asking questions. Yeah, exactly. Also the I Pod Pro too.
We'll be able to function as a hearing aid with
an upcoming software update as well. So there's that. It's

(12:25):
national answ on a log Day, National TV Dinner Day,
National Swap Ideas Day, and people are asking for a
recap of the sports scores, your predictions do we have that.

Speaker 2 (12:36):
I'd have to get it ready.

Speaker 1 (12:36):
Okay, we're gonna get it ready. He'd have to do it. Yeah.
I don't know what the hell were you doing yesterday
with Kiki's Court. I guess you weren't doing any sort
of talent of anything. So get that for us. The
Fred Show is on. It's stay or go Hi, Ry Brian, Brian, Brian,
what it's like you were sure, well I wasn't. I

(12:59):
had to click over. Make sure I don't memorize every third.
I mean, I know most of the thirteen people's listen
to our show's name because my mom is one of them.
I know her name, and like your dad and your
mom Martha, Yeah, Danita Westloup, Tom So, yeah, I can
name most of them. Hi, Brian, how you doing? I'm
all right?

Speaker 9 (13:19):
How are you guys?

Speaker 1 (13:20):
I'm sorry that I don't know your social Security number
and blood type, but I'm sure Rufio will figure it out.
What's going on with you? Bro? What's happening in this
is about your wife?

Speaker 9 (13:29):
Yeah, we've been going to kind of a rough patch
for a while now, and I'm just trying to get
some advice about that.

Speaker 1 (13:38):
You know what, You have come to the right place
because we give incredible advice. Some people in this room
their advice they follow it in their real life and
then things go really well. Other people, like me, I
give great advice. I just am sort of a disaster personally,
So let me fix your life though, please, by all means,
tell us what's going on.

Speaker 10 (13:57):
Yeah?

Speaker 9 (13:58):
So, like I said, we've been going through a rough patch.
Everything kind of seems to turn into a fight. Nowadays,
it doesn't matter, you know what we're talking about. I've
been seeing a therapist for a little while that's been helping.

Speaker 1 (14:10):
Me out a lot.

Speaker 9 (14:10):
I'm a lot calmer, I'm able to just be in
the moment more. But she's resisting. She doesn't want to
go to couple's counseling. I mentioned that, I mentioned maybe
just going to therapy on her own, so it's not
like in front of me. She says she doesn't need
it and she can work it out, that we can

(14:31):
work it out, and we're not trying hard enough.

Speaker 1 (14:34):
Huh, So you guys are not getting along. You can't
solve it yourselves. You're doing the work on your end.
Is she going? Is she at least going to therapy
on her you're not going together, but is she going
on her end?

Speaker 9 (14:48):
No, she says she doesn't need it, that we can
work it out on our own.

Speaker 1 (14:53):
As far as like, she's not going with you, because
I have to tell you if things are not going well,
and you did we get some married in the room,
so you guys can are nearly married in Jason's case,
if things are not going well common law, if there
was such a thing.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
Oh, I wish this was a common law state.

Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah, there was such a thing. Then you own half
of thems, right exactly, and he owns half of you,
which is a bunch of debts. So right, But if
you're in a relationship, you're married, and it's not going
well and no one, no one has any solutions for
how to make it better. I think therapy is a
good one, or you know, if you're religious, maybe you

(15:29):
go to church. I don't know, some form of like mediation.
But if if no one has any ideas, then I don't.
I don't know how hard anybody's trying or how much
anybody really wants to be there, because that requires some
self awareness and it requires some compromise.

Speaker 2 (15:44):
You know.

Speaker 1 (15:44):
It sounds like she doesn't think you're doing anything wrong.
Sounds like she thinks the problem is all you. So
if you just go to therapy and work on it
will get better. And you're saying, no, I have needs
that are being met too, Yeah, absolutely.

Speaker 9 (15:57):
Like if it feels like she doesn't want to even
want things out as much as I do, like she
she doesn't want to put in the work, Like we're
just in the slump and that's just the way it's
going to be.

Speaker 2 (16:07):
Do you think she would agree things are not going well?

Speaker 9 (16:11):
Yeah, we talk about it all the time, like okay,
we're fighting constantly.

Speaker 1 (16:14):
Okay, So then have you tried going to her and saying, hey, look,
this isn't working. I'm suggesting couples therapy. You're saying no,
So what is your suggestion? Like, what do you think
we should do to make this better? Have you tried that? Yeah?

Speaker 9 (16:29):
She says we can go on a vacation for a
few days. I'm trying to stay, you know, get away
from all all of our problems. But I'm like, they'll
be here when we get back. It's going to be
a fake thing.

Speaker 1 (16:42):
But let's go on vacation. Yeah, that's almost as good
as things are going terribly. Let's have a child, Yeah,
that's next, which is what people Unfortunately a lot of
people do that, and it's like somehow that adding that
stress of another life will u We'll solve all the problems.

Speaker 2 (16:57):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (16:58):
I don't know, Brian. We're gonna talk about you behind
your back and take some phone calls and have the
radio on and I'm sorry going through to sight all.
Wish you the very best man. Thank you yeah, eight, five, five, five,
nine one one oh three five you can call and
text the same number. All right, married people, First, what
do you think, Paulina? If you're having trouble in your
marriage and you're suggesting therapy, and in this case, Javier

(17:21):
is saying, no way, I won't go. I'm not going.
I know we have problems, but I'm not going to
do anything about it. What do you do?

Speaker 10 (17:27):
So first, I'm really proud of Brian because I feel
like I don't really hear of a lot of men
being the ones to kind of, you know, suggest therapy
and be the one who wants to do it.

Speaker 2 (17:36):
So I love that for them.

Speaker 10 (17:38):
But I have been in Brian's shoes where my husband,
Javier did not want to go to therapy. We have
not done couple's therapy. It's not off the table. I
still want to do it. But I want people to
understand that it's not a sign of weakness. It doesn't
mean that your marriage is like that, you're not going
with this marriage thing.

Speaker 2 (17:54):
It just someone's going to.

Speaker 3 (17:55):
Provide tools to help you guys, get through your issues.

Speaker 1 (17:57):
Yes, I would argue it's a sign of strength. Are
you for strength? That's what I hear a lot of
people and culturally or otherwise, I was gonna say gender
based or whatever it is, there are people that just
have this opinion that it's like voodoo magic and that
it's work.

Speaker 10 (18:12):
And I'm I'm married to a Mexican man, and I
think culturally, I think that's something that's just not ever
talked about or for for him too, like that's not
he's not about that life. And I've told him before
and I didn't mean to like weaponize it, but I'm like,
I really think therapy would help you and me because
I have a therapist and she told me that for
us to continue doing this together, we can go to
a couple's therapy. We'll find another therapist. It doesn't have

(18:33):
to be mine because she'll.

Speaker 1 (18:34):
In fact, you should find you should find a neutral therapist.
You should not go to.

Speaker 3 (18:38):
Yours exactly or his or his exactly.

Speaker 10 (18:40):
So I was like, we'll find somebody neutral that I
have not spoken to, and we can do this together.

Speaker 3 (18:45):
It's not off the table.

Speaker 10 (18:45):
We have a daughter now, so I want us to
be in the best damn shape ever when it comes
to like, you know, being mentally good for us to
be able to raise her well. So for me, I'm
still working on it, and I know he's open to it,
he's not shut me down, but we haven't gotten there yet.

Speaker 1 (19:00):
I think for some people it's a pride thing. It's
like to go into a room and tell a stranger
about everything that's not working. You know you're having. It's
a kind of vulnerability and a level of exposure that
a lot of people are not comfortable with, and that
that makes sense. I understand that, But I know someone
else is going through something very similar right now where
it's just not working, and they would both tell you
independently it's not working. But yet he refuses. He will

(19:20):
not accept help. He will not there's no mediation. It
doesn't matter if he picks a therapist, it doesn't matter
if they go to a church, it doesn't matter any
of them. He won't do it. And it's like, then,
my thing is if you're if you're not going to
do anything to make it better, then I don't even
know what they're doing right because nothing's going to change

(19:40):
unless that unless he in this case, just I guess,
caves on everything that he has an issue with, which
is not sustainable either.

Speaker 2 (19:49):
What would you do I'm a big advocate for therapy.

Speaker 7 (19:52):
Yeah, I think he should absolutely or she should absolutely
go to therapy to say her marriage, Like, your partner
is still there, Your partner is still willing to fight,
They want to help you guys get over this hump,
like they still the desire to be together is still there.
And if that is the case, then you both parties
should be willing to do whatever it takes to get
it right right.

Speaker 1 (20:12):
But it sounds like, you know, in some cases, it's like, well,
the problem is all his, And I think if you're
in a relationship and you're saying the problem is entirely
on someone else, I think that shows a tremendous lack
of self awareness because the problem is never one hundred
rarely one hundred percent on one side. It may not
be fifty to fifty all the time, but it's never

(20:34):
always somebody else's fault. There's gotta be something that you
could do in response or get out or leave if
it really is. If the person is that much of
a monster, then I don't know what you're doing there.
Then then what's the point And you can't fix it
or work towards it, then what why even there?

Speaker 7 (20:49):
True but as a couple, I just feel like you
got to be willing. Even if you believe in your
mind that it's all the other person, you're still in
a relationship, so you need to be willing to help
help them work through their issue.

Speaker 1 (21:00):
I also think sometimes when people won't go to therapy,
it's because they know that they're going to be told
they're doing things wrong and they can't handle that.

Speaker 2 (21:07):
True, that's a good point. I agree.

Speaker 1 (21:09):
It's like they don't they don't want to go because
someone might hold them accountable for something, you know, and
they it might turn out that there are things that
they could do better too, and they don't want to
hear it from a stranger. That's really yeah, and that's
that's fair, and that's really that's really honest. So it's it's.

Speaker 8 (21:27):
Been brought up in our marriage that you know, we've
gotten to the point where it's just like, well, fight
and it's like a big fight.

Speaker 2 (21:33):
And then she'll be like, you need we need therapy
like this, you know whatever.

Speaker 8 (21:36):
And I am one that, like I advocate to anybody
else to go to Like for me, I feel like
it I don't know, like it's it's a pride thing.
It's a it's a cultural thing, like I feel like,
I don't know, but it's so you don't.

Speaker 1 (21:50):
Want to go in there and have them say, hey,
you know what, Rufio, like you should do this, this
and this differently, and you don't really want to hear
it from somebody. Yes, do you think though that I mean,
I'm sure they would have things for jests too, But
do you think that if you could get past that,
that hearing it or at least working through it with
somebody who's trained to sort of extract information from her

(22:10):
and extract information from you and then sort of because
it's not even necessarily they're going to sit there and
judge you. You know, in a lot of ways, it's
about communication techniques. It's like you're going to say this,
and you're going to say that, and as opposed to
having this impast where you both go to your corners, right,
you know, it would be the professional who would then say, okay,
are you hearing this from both sides? And you know
what I mean, Like, there's there's obviously a technique to

(22:31):
all this. It's not necessarily they're going to tell you
that you're a terrible husher. I know it yeah, I don't.
I just don't know.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
I don't.

Speaker 8 (22:40):
The financial aspect of it also, right, So it's it's
there's so many issues, but like obviously Just and I
work through our issues and then we're good. But like
sometimes it does come up, and I'm always the one
that be like, like, I don't want to do it interesting.

Speaker 4 (22:58):
So before things get you know what I mean, Like
you can go when things are good so that things
don't get back.

Speaker 3 (23:03):
You know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (23:03):
I know people who have gone when they're engaged like that, like, oh,
I think you should. Things are going great, I mean great,
great enough that you just got engaged, but they're going
ahead of time, Like it's almost you know, propylactically preemptively,
because you're right, we're not fighting yet, but like, let's
maybe get ahead of it and discover some things about
ourselves and our communication techniques and whatever else before it

(23:24):
gets to that point.

Speaker 3 (23:24):
It's honest, it's very scary to go from that.

Speaker 1 (23:26):
No, and that is super honest. I'm proud of you
for saying that. You know, I don't know, I think
it could. You know, I'm always going to advocate for it.
I'm always going to advocate for therapy because it's helped
me so much.

Speaker 3 (23:36):
And my mom's a therapist, you know what I mean.

Speaker 4 (23:37):
It's just making that call and like talking to someone new.

Speaker 3 (23:40):
And I grew up with a therapist, so yeah, I
get it.

Speaker 1 (23:43):
Yeah, Hey Megan, Right, Hi Megan. So just let me
recap here stare go someone just tuning in. Brian called.
He and his wife are having issues in their relationship
and they fight all the time and they acknowledge that
there are issues. He's saying, hey, let's go to a
couple's therapies. She's saying I'm not going, and so he's
wondering what do I do? What does he do? Well?

Speaker 11 (24:05):
I was in a very similar situation as Brian about
two and a half years ago. I wanted to go
to a couple of counseling. I was seeing a therapist
on my own, and my then husband said, nope, I'm
totally fine. There's nothing wrong with me. If we go
to a couple of counseling, the counselor is going to
pick on you because you have all the issues, you
have all the problems. So he refused to go, and

(24:28):
now we are two and a half years divorced. So
there's only so much you can do. So much you
can say. Is she doesn't want to work on it,
then yeah, she admits that there's problems, but the whole
vacation thing trying to run away again, problems are going
to be there when you get back.

Speaker 1 (24:44):
And I think it's interesting really in the case I'm
thinking of where it's like, well, then is friend of
mine for a long time, like, we'll go to him
as what does he suggest then, And the only thing
that he seems to suggest is that she should change
everything about who she is and everything that she's doing.
That is not sustainable, that is not realistic. And even
if she did all of that, that's not true to her.
That's not a compromise, that's not being heard, that's not

(25:05):
being self aware or accountable. It's not gonna work. So,
you know, if you're worried about going to so and
so therapist or so and sow, then you pick it. Fine,
you go find somebody. Then you know, you go find
a professional and not your buddy, like someone who's logo,
your licensed, you know, who's independent. But thank you, Megan,
and I I'm sorry to hear about that outcome, but

(25:26):
I hope I hope, you know, moving forward, it was
a good thing.

Speaker 11 (25:29):
Oh no, that's okay. I'm not sorry at all.

Speaker 1 (25:32):
Fair enough, thank you. Someone said, did Fred to say prophylactically?
Look it up. It's not just condoms. I didn't just
tell people to wear condoms. There's another meaning for the words. Yeah,
that's interesting. I actually how you do it. Every time
I say prophilectically, people are like, he just had condoms?
I did? I didn't, Hi, Ashley, what do you want

(25:52):
to say? So?

Speaker 5 (25:54):
I was saying go only because I went through literally
the same exact thing. But I have two experiences wanting
of somebody I was with wanting to go to therapy.
The first time it happened, I was engaged. I was
so mentally checked out of that relationship. She was actually
the one that wanted to go to therapy, and I

(26:15):
was one hundred percent like how Brian's wife is acting,
didn't want to go, blamed all the problems on her
or whatever. Yeah, it wasn't great in that relationship, but
he need us to say that relationship ended after we
were engaged, never got married. I am happily married. Now
we kind of hit a little bit of a rough
patch my wife suggested therapy, and I, you know, I

(26:39):
love her so much and I was absolutely one hundred
percent on it with going to therapy with her.

Speaker 3 (26:45):
I let her choose who we went to.

Speaker 5 (26:47):
We've been seeing the same therapist for a couple months
now and it's actually been going amazing and it's been helping.
So I'm saying, oh, only because if she wanted to go,
if she loved him and wanted to fix it.

Speaker 9 (26:58):
She would go to therapy.

Speaker 1 (26:59):
Yeah. Well, Ashley, thank you for sharing that. And I'm
glad that it sounds like maybe you learned from the
last situation and didn't make the same mistake twice. So
good for you. All right, thank you, Thank you, Ashley,
have a good day. She's like, good, I got friend's approval,
so I can move on with life now. I don't
care what you think. Hey, Kendall, Hi, good.

Speaker 12 (27:16):
Morning, Hey, good morning guys.

Speaker 6 (27:19):
Hi.

Speaker 1 (27:19):
Are you I go doing great? Stay?

Speaker 2 (27:21):
Go?

Speaker 1 (27:22):
What do you think?

Speaker 5 (27:24):
So?

Speaker 12 (27:25):
I would say to try to stay And I only
say this, and I have to kind of backstory slightly.
I started therapy way back in the day when I
was eighteen or nineteen, and I had a father that
didn't advocate for therapy and told me I just needed
to try harder.

Speaker 9 (27:40):
So it was really.

Speaker 12 (27:40):
Difficult to accept the help just on my own, going
I needed something else. So it's the one thing that
I've learned. And I'm happily married now we're solely wed
for going on three years. But with me doing the
therapy on my own, it's actually helped my perspective on
how I can make it with my husband. And yes,

(28:03):
it's hard to get someone to do something they don't
want to do. You can't force that. But by being
able to go, okay, well this is how I feel,
and to kind of pull the therapy card on them,
it does kind of help that communication with each other.
And I also feel there's that stereotype of, for whatever reason,
the generation before us think if you're in therapy, there's

(28:27):
something wrong with you. But again, as you all were saying,
it's very admirable to admit, hey, I need to work
on this, I need the help, we need the help,
and if it takes one person to just work a
little harder to kind of open that door for his
significant other, then that might be what happens.

Speaker 11 (28:44):
And if it.

Speaker 12 (28:44):
Doesn't, then there might be another discussion. But it's just
communication needs to go both ways. Yeah, yeah, I'm a
coal advocate for therapy.

Speaker 1 (28:54):
Well, and Kenda, I'm glad you've had your having success
and you're happy and everything's going well, and thank you
for listening for calling you have a great day. And
I know there are a lot of different barriers to
entry for therapy. Maybe it's expense, maybe it's a stigma,
maybe it's you know, I don't know, misunderstanding or whatever,
a lack of vulnerability. But I have to tell you,

(29:14):
as someone who has gone to therapy consistently for ten years,
I almost resent people in my life who refuse to
do it, especially if they want to sit back and
make comments about me or about a relationship. It's like,
wait a minute. But and in some ways I have
to even rain it in a little bit because I
become like it's almost the elitist. It's like, wait a minute,

(29:34):
I'm doing the work like I every week, and how
hard is it? I mean, I sit there and I
go and I bear my soul to this woman and
then she tells me what she thinks or whatever. But
it's like, but you're not even willing to do that
for yourself. But yet you're gonna tell me what you
think about me. It's like, that's I don't like that.
I think it's very telling when you're doing the work
and somebody else won't do the work and will continue

(29:56):
to point fingers at you. Also, I've also known people
to web and therapy too, but that's a whole different conversation.
I think, I don't know. I think what happens in
the confines of your therapy, you have to keep in
mind is for you. And like you can tell your
therapist whatever you want. You can you can tell your
therapist any story you want, and they can give you

(30:16):
the advice based in the story you told. Then you
can use that against somebody else. Doesn't make it doesn't
mean it's true. It doesn't mean you were telling the
story accurately or that. And that's another thing too. It's like,
if you're going to go in and tell your therapist
a bunch of bs so that they can tell you
that your partner's an idiot, well that's not going to
help anything. So you're what you're wasting everybody's time at
that point, Like you got to go into this thing
willing to say here, here are here are my issues?

(30:38):
That I have with the other person, and here are
the issues they have with me. You know, you've got
to be willing to do that, otherwise it won't work.
Is it a a met yep?

Speaker 13 (30:48):
Different?

Speaker 2 (30:48):
How you doing?

Speaker 1 (30:49):
Hey? Good morning? Hi stairgo what do you do?

Speaker 13 (30:53):
So?

Speaker 1 (30:54):
One of my.

Speaker 13 (30:54):
Mentas say, is a relationship beat spousal anything. It's always
one hundred hundred, not fifty to fifty. So I believe
at times when we as a spouse and I'm myself married,
we tend to see that, okay, what can we do
together fifty fifty putting in the relationship. I think somehow
that dogma fails, and I think I'm just trying to

(31:17):
change the frame from going to couples therapy as a
question point to more of how could Brian solve this issue?
There are I'm from India and what I've seen is
back in India, unlike in Western cultures, a couple.

Speaker 1 (31:32):
Therapy is not a big, big thing over there.

Speaker 13 (31:35):
Over there, typically we seek advice from elders, and obviously
it could change something over here in a similar respect
looking but seeking advice from somebody who has gone through
those ups and downs in the journey is definitely very helpful.
And one of the advice that I think that can
help Brian would be that there's an event by totally Robbins.

(32:00):
He calls it as a date with Destiny, in which
there's a specific segment around relationships. So instead of if
this spouse is not ready to go for a couple therapy,
it's set up that same thing, but he opens the
door for your own opening, uh and changes a vantage
point to see the relationship itself and with the more
than so many people. I'm not advocate it event, but

(32:21):
I understand say some of those things, some of those
intations are definitely required. It could be in any shape
and form have been luck and best.

Speaker 2 (32:30):
That's a good point.

Speaker 1 (32:31):
Yeah, yeah it is. And thank you have a great day.
I'm glad you called them.

Speaker 7 (32:35):
He may not have a therapist, but like he mentioned,
going to other couples who have been through it already
or confiding in like Elders.

Speaker 2 (32:43):
I know for Timothy and.

Speaker 7 (32:44):
I like, our therapist is my brother and his wife.
Like we both go to them when there's an issue
and we've had them you know, come to us with
things and it kind of like it helps. You know,
it's not therapy, but you should have an outlet that
you can trust that's non biased, that can help you
get it by.

Speaker 1 (33:00):
And that's good that it's your people, but but you
both feel in this case like like like they're able
to be impartial rights because that's another thing is about
the therapy is you could go to your sister and
be like, big Tim's an idiot for all these reasons
and not talk about any of the you know, maybe
culpability that you have, right, maybe it's not fifty to fifty,
maybe it's seventy thirty, maybe it's sixty forty, whatever it is,

(33:22):
but it's you know, if you go to the Homer
and you tell the Homer everything's terrible, then they're going
to be they're gonna.

Speaker 2 (33:28):
Tell you're right, right, Like if I go to my sister,
they're going to enable you.

Speaker 7 (33:31):
There's absolutely like my she's like, Kiki's right, I don't
care what I was talking about. But my brothers will
actually called me out on my stuff too, So that's good.

Speaker 2 (33:38):
That kind of couple or friendship that you can go
to is helpful.

Speaker 1 (33:41):
To because everyone's got that person that can go to
who's going to gas them up no matter what. And
it's just not that may not be helpful, you know,
because because they may just be gassing you up, but
you may be dead ass wrong.

Speaker 10 (33:53):
Oh yeah, No, anyone tells me I'm wrong, but I
asked them. I'm like, be honest, especially my mom.

Speaker 1 (33:57):
Because it doesn't do you any good for people just
to tell you that you're right all the time when
maybe you're not.

Speaker 10 (34:02):
Nope, literally like, roast me, drill me, Like tell me
what you gotta tell me? No, like like like tell me,
be honest, roast me.

Speaker 1 (34:10):
Drill me. I think it's a song in it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, if.

Speaker 10 (34:14):
You want to drill me.

Speaker 1 (34:17):
What were the other two tea push me.

Speaker 2 (34:23):
Topic?

Speaker 1 (34:23):
Yeah, I know it's coming up in just a minute,
the entertainment Report and she'll be Shelly both next friends. Yeah,
they talk better than they say. These are the radio
blogs on the Fred Show, by for running in our diaries,
except we saying them aloud. We call them blogs. Paulina, Yes, ready.

Speaker 2 (34:40):
I am go.

Speaker 3 (34:41):
Thank you so much, dear blog. I had a little.

Speaker 10 (34:45):
Situation, was it two days ago at the house. And
one thing about me. I love a sale, Okay, I
love clearance. I love to buy baby clothes on clearance
because babies will wear it for five minutes and then
they grow out of it.

Speaker 3 (34:57):
That's just how it goes.

Speaker 10 (34:59):
So I bought a shirt, right it was unclearance the
shirt happens to say something that Hobby saw and was
like freaked out for I could tell for a good
like thirty and thirty minutes. I didn't say anything, but
I can tell his mood change and everything, and I
was like, what's going on. So the shirt that baby
gd she was wearing said little sister.

Speaker 7 (35:20):
Oh my god, little sister.

Speaker 3 (35:24):
I'm sorry, big sister.

Speaker 1 (35:25):
Sorry, little sister. I would be like, where's the big sister. See,
by the way, the big sister shirt, that's that's how
that's the picture that Polly, she was wearing that shirt
to announce that a baby sister was coming.

Speaker 10 (35:42):
Yes, that's very common and really cute, but it wasn't
cute in my house because I only want one kid.
He only wants one kid. We would like I don't
think I would tell him that way, but I think
he thought I did. Like that was me coming out
to him to the world, and like, you know, we
got on a baby literally to underdo like is cute
and all, but my personal hell personally, I don't know

(36:03):
if I could do. I'm not built for this, but
like even just two period would be really hard for me.

Speaker 3 (36:07):
But I was like.

Speaker 2 (36:08):
No, no, no, no no.

Speaker 10 (36:09):
Because you'd mentioned it. He was like, are you gonna
like tell me something? And I got kind of scared.
I was like, oh, tell you what, like binding to
the shirt.

Speaker 3 (36:14):
And he's like, we gonna say anything, and like you
brought her out of the her nap with this. I
was like, no, we're not big sisters.

Speaker 7 (36:21):
It's so funny because you told us that you were
pregnant with T shirts.

Speaker 2 (36:25):
Remember, yes, yeah, I don't want to wear it.

Speaker 1 (36:28):
Oh my god, your T shirts. But if you love
the T shirts, could you have bought another clearance shirt?
It hap to be that one.

Speaker 10 (36:34):
I mean, I love a clearance item because they're gonna wear.

Speaker 3 (36:37):
It for literally, you guys know what it meant, like
big sister, Like, yes, you know what I mean? Do
you know what a big sister is? Even though you
are one guys?

Speaker 10 (36:44):
Yes, I just wanted the shirt because it's like one
of those onesies she's in her face where she has
to wear the long sleep onesies because the sleepsack the
arms are out now she's rolling, she's on her stomach.

Speaker 3 (36:54):
So that's the whole like premise of this.

Speaker 1 (36:56):
I don't care what it says. It's just it's just
a shirt.

Speaker 10 (36:58):
It's just suret she's gonna wear for one more month,
and it's going to go right to the donation, like
you know what I mean, we move on.

Speaker 1 (37:03):
For somebody who's announcing it. It'll be perfect for an announcement.

Speaker 10 (37:08):
So yeah, I don't know if anyone else had a
scare because that was mine.

Speaker 3 (37:10):
Well I guess his scare.

Speaker 1 (37:11):
Oh my god. He's pretty calm about it, though.

Speaker 10 (37:14):
He was, but I could tell he was like quiet,
and he was just probably waiting if I was going
to say something or pop up a balloons or something.

Speaker 3 (37:19):
I don't know what he thought.

Speaker 10 (37:20):
But also I have a IOE you, So I'm like,
we're definitely not getting preggers.

Speaker 2 (37:24):
You got to I owe you, I got to iow you.

Speaker 1 (37:26):
Yeah. Well, I mean, you know, it's pretty full proof.
But every now and.

Speaker 2 (37:30):
Again, I know, I get scared.

Speaker 1 (37:31):
I get really every now and again.

Speaker 2 (37:33):
His face would have been priceless. Yeah, tell me thinking back,
like did we.

Speaker 1 (37:41):
So? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (37:41):
For thirty minutes that Yeah.

Speaker 1 (37:43):
You could have put that kid in a Green Bay
Packer's wednesdaie and it probably would have had less of
a reaction than that. You got something to tell me,
Oh my god, my bad, Jason. Yes, two blogs in
a row.

Speaker 3 (37:56):
Thank you, dear blog.

Speaker 6 (37:57):
So if you follow me on Instagram, I posted video
Sunday Nights of my washing machine and it was full
of SuDS. And the reason for that is Mike woke
up on Sunday morning and just felt that the washer
was dirty, so he decided to inspect it, take a
look at And I immediately take offense to this because

(38:18):
I'm always the one that is supposed to like clean
and make sure everything is like tidy. So he gets,
you know, this big bad attitude when he feels that
he needs to tackle something to clean. Now, this man
hasn't done a load of laundry in probably fourteen years
since I met him, so he you know, does a
couple of things to it. Still, you know, it's dirty,
it's dirty, okay, cool. For some reason, he decides that

(38:39):
it's a good idea to just dump every cleaning product
you can think of directly into the tub of the
washing machine, not through the little like you know tray
that the soap is supposed to go in.

Speaker 2 (38:51):
We're gonna dump.

Speaker 6 (38:52):
Multiple bottles of different cleaning solution in the washing machine. Okay, hey,
I'm just here. You do it better than me. So
I'm just sitting here, right you need need a whole
disc grab you there, you see it right there. I
was like, okay, he's like, Orlando Bloom can get from
this edition break the washing machine. So then I go

(39:14):
to the bathroom. He went and was sitting on the
couch and I get up and go back in the kitchen.
SuDS the whole thing, like you can't even see to
the door. I was like, uh like this is full
of Suds's like literally literally just soap. So then he
comes in he's like uh oh, so immediately opens the
door and SuDS just you know, flow out of it

(39:38):
all over the floor. So I had to get him
a picture and a big tub and he's scooping SuDS
out to the point where he's like, are you videoing this?
Because now he thinks he's gonna go viral. Right, So
now he's like, you know whatever, because if he made
the mistake, it's okay, it's funny, right right, Oh wow?
But me filled the washer with SuDS. You you know,

(40:00):
I'm on a hunger strike for two weeks, right, so
you know, but week cleared it up. It was funny, funny,
and now it's all good. So PSA, don't put soap
directly into the washer because.

Speaker 1 (40:10):
It'll just be full of wow. Because like you see
how much you put in for like a load of clothing,
it's like not a lot, right, so you start pouring
more than that in there. It's but he wouldn't know
because he's never.

Speaker 6 (40:22):
Wouldn't know, right, jazy, He wouldn't know.

Speaker 1 (40:28):
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