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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Coming. Yeah, they talk better than excited.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
These are the radio blogs on The Fresh Show running
in our diaries, except we say them a loud We
call the blogs. You leaving this one, all right, Paulina, Yes, peaky.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Oh, I like that.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
I like peaky speaky.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
All right, take it away, guys, all right, dear blog,
I just want to send this out to all of
the kids who are raising their parents. Okay, it is
very hard out here for us.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
All right.
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Helena is the lady that raised me, my big sister,
but she's like a mom, and I'm just starting to realize, like,
as we both get older, this thing is not.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Going to work.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
Somebody got to be in control, and I feel like
it should be me.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Okay, because you want to reclaim I think so.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Yeah, because when I give clear direction, I need her
to follow direction, but she just does not listen. And
I'm like, how do how's supposed to work? For instance,
my yard and my house has been a hot mess
all summer. Okay, I got things to do, tiktoks to make.
I'm not a yard girl, so what as long as
the grass is cut, we good.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Yeah, but she was. It was not to her liking.
So I'm like okay.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
She's like, you needed to get this yard together. You
need to get this I'm like okay, okay. So one
day last week she just decides I'm on my way
to come get your yard together. And I'm like, no, no, no,
no no, I don't need to do that, Like, you know,
you need to be rash. You have other things you
need to focus on. She's like, oh, I'm up down
the street. I'll be there in a minute. I'm like,
oh God. So she comes and she completely takes over
(01:33):
the yard. She got my nephew out there helping her.
It looks beautiful from you know what it was. Fast
forward to a couple of days later, this lady has
gotten bidden by some poisonous bug in my yard.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yes, And I'm just like okay.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
So then she doesn't even tell me that this has happened.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
She she's just got all these this rash on her
never said a word to me. I have to find
out everything for my sister in law. That's a whole
nother story. So when I finally find out that something's wrong,
I call her.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
She's like, yeah, by what are you doing?
Speaker 4 (02:06):
Oh mom, I'm at the er.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
What ma'am?
Speaker 1 (02:09):
You didn't think I needed to know this. It's your yard,
it's my life, it's not even just my yard. But
books back there.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Yeah, she knows I'm not going back there, so she's
not worried about it. But it's like, why are you
at the er and you have not run this past me?
That is insane. Then I'm like, okay, we go through
the whole er thing. She gets her prescription or whatever.
I'm like, you need to rest, like you need to
be at home. You don't need to be your grandkids.
Just rest and heal. I'm looking at her location yesterday.
This lady is all around town. She's a oh Brooks,
(02:38):
she just dreaded. The little car just drives. So I
just want to say, you know, it's very hard raising
your pace.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
It sounds like my mom too, Yes, and I know
every like you guys can relate. Your mom is this
way MARTA's is?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I can Your mom and my mom, uh, Martha very similar.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Your mom's a little more stoic.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
My mom's a little small smiley, but the stubbornness and
then the steadfastness is no different.
Speaker 5 (03:02):
Yeah, those who could run a small country, a large country,
a large country, no one hundred percent. My mom growing
up has always been like that. And I now that
I'm an adult and I'm raising my own child, I
feel like Marta. I'm also raising Marta likes to do
what Marta likes to do, and you cannot change her mind.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Is no, there's no other way.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Recently she she didn't like fall fall, but she kind
of had like a little incident with the cooler and
she's like, look what happened at your baptism And she
lifted her shirt up.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Her whole arm.
Speaker 5 (03:30):
Is bruised, and I was like, mo, why are you
not asking for help? She's like, well, it was really
heavy and this and that. I'm like, ask for help.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
She was, yes she was.
Speaker 6 (03:39):
And then she just went on like a secret trip
and didn't like tell you where she yea on her location,
like yeah, she took a bus to somewhere.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
She won't tell me where she went. I like these grandparents,
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (03:51):
She won't tell me these I call grandparents because she's
a grandma's and my daughter are out of control, like absolutely,
we are raising them. And then she about her location
on me when she's mad, like she doesn't care.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
I love my mom, so much.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
I owe her for everything and that will never change
and she will never not be my mom. But there
is something in my dad same way. But there is
something that happens, and my sister and I are realizing
it more and more. You're never going to be equal
to them. But there does come a point where you're
old enough, and it happened a while ago, but it's
certainly not there's no shortage of this where like your
(04:26):
perspective is tantamount to theirs. Like you're old enough to
see the same things they're seeing. You're old enough to
know enough to know that what they're doing is not right.
You're old enough and smart enough and experience enough in
life to realize some of the things they say just
aren't true. And also you have a different life experience
that might be a little more connected than theirs, and
(04:49):
so like you try and help, but they don't necessarily
want to hear it because you're still their kids. They
still see you as the little kid, you know, riding
the bike with the training wheels. But yet there is
kind of a role reversal that happens. Yes, yeah, and
it's twofold because they don't want it to happen and
(05:09):
I don't want it to happen like I want mom
and dad to be mom and dad forever. I don't
want them to be fragile. I don't want them to
not know more than me. I don't want them to
not be the figures they've.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Always and they are.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
But you know what I mean, it's a very strange
thing that starts to happen where it's like what are
you doing?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Like mom?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Like stop? You know what I mean? Like like slow down?
Like everything I mean, like you know, or hey, you
know my mom will do something. I'll like, Mom, you
can't do that. She Wait, you mean I can't do that?
Why so hard on me? I'm not hard on you.
I'm just telling you it's different out here. It's different,
and you don't have to like it, but it's just different.
(05:51):
And I'm telling you this because I love you and
because I don't want you to walk into a buzz
saw that I know one hundred percent you don't mean
to walk into because that's not who you are. But
I can totally relate to this. And you're not going
to stop them.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
You're not going to stop them.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
What does someone just say stop? Coming from both a
mother and a grandmother. We don't need to be told
what to do and not to do. It's frustrating, yes see,
but I that's that's the response that you get. And
I understand that there's a there's a certain lease that
you have to give. And my sister is not very
good at this, and I think she would admit, you know,
because well that's also because we're talking about two of
(06:27):
the exact same individuals. My mom and my sister are
the same person. But like it's the kids trying to
help and then the parents still trying to be parents.
But I think from this woman's man or whoever just
texted us, had stop you Also, I feel like have
to sort of accept your shortcomings too.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Like it and I don't mean that as a negative,
but it's like, you don't need to go as hard
as you did when we were kids. You don't need
to be everything for everybody, because now it's time for
us to be that for you too. Like it's a transition, yes,
And so that's I don't I think most kids are
coming after their parents critically. I feel like what they're
doing is saying you don't have to you know, you
(07:06):
don't have to do everything for us anymore. Now we
need to start doing some things for you, and let
us let us write these like don't come mow my lawn,
you know what I mean, Like let my lawn suck,
because look what happened. You were trying to help me
and now and then you don't want me to know
about it, and then you're still out helping all these
other people.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
And it's amazing that it's amazing. But at the same time, yeah.
Speaker 6 (07:29):
Please, I mean, I would lose my nana and she
wouldn't have her phone on her and I would have
to call every bar I know she frequents to find her.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
I'm not even the post malone.
Speaker 6 (07:39):
Anyway, Like you need your phone and you need to
not be going places all the time.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Didn't she call you one day and say, I'm sitting
next to a guy who looks homeless and he says
he's famous.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
But I'm really not sure it.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Was the call.
Speaker 6 (07:50):
Yeah, she called and she said I just had drinks
with the loveliest man.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
He was lovely, but he had, you know, described his appearance.
Speaker 6 (07:56):
And then I looked up the schedule for the place
that she said he was performing, said, Nana, you were
sitting with post Malone and she's like, I showed her
a picture and yeah, yeah, and she said all the
women at this bar are acting like he has something
they can catch, you know, because of his appearance. He
wasn't that big at the time, but she said she
walked him to a super and told him not to
(08:18):
be nervous because she knows the owner of that venue
and he'll be just fine.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
And it was freaking Postmo. He's like, not nervous.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Yeah, wow, yeah, that's a good story.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Yeah anyway, but yeah, she's wild.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
So we love these people. We're grateful for them.
Speaker 6 (08:30):
But yes, yes, when I get old Bellican white, I'm
letting her wipe my boy.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Like she can do whatever for me. I'm not going
to fight her same. I've earned it. Yeah, Like.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
And you know what, even a really good point, and
I have just just kind of say, I feel like
maybe it's because we're different generations. Like you said, like, mommy,
you can't do that anymore. And I think that's what
we argue about a lot, right, especially raising a kid. Right,
my mom thinks we can you know, do this and
you know, leave the doors unlocked, all these things that I.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Wouldn't do anymore.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
So now I'm thinking, so we kind of are raising
our parents, just in a different generation.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
It is a form of race.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
So it's a weird role reversal that happens, because I
saw it with my mom and my grandmother and my grandfather.
It's like they raise you and then you're kind of
equal for a while, and then you kind of raised them,
or not raise them, but you kind of care for them,
and then the cycle starts again.
Speaker 6 (09:16):
It's an honor though, Like it was my honor to
take care of my grandpa when he was dying, you know, because.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
He took care of me, you know, I was. I
thought that was a very sweet.
Speaker 6 (09:24):
But the psychology for them, I could understand why it
would be very difficult.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
But it's like you raised my parents, raised us to
be strong, opinionated, self serving individuals, and then when we
do that sometimes they're like annoying. I'm like, but I'm you,
you created this, so like we have to I guess
we have to have patience with one another.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
But well, I hope, I hope Helena is good. Yeah,
I mean she's gonna be good.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
But I got some yardwork on on my condo, My
high rising.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
We'll come redecorate your whole house.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
I got the plants that need watering. Oh god, oh god,
don't show her my house. I don't know what she'd
do with that. Before long i'd come back, the whole
thing would be redesigned, new paint, everything. Really, maybe it's disaffected. Yeah,
well i'd start. I'd started with a new mattress, for sure.
Let's do waiting by the phone. It's new in next
front show
Coming. Yeah, they talk better than excited.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
These are the radio blogs on The Fresh Show running
in our diaries, except we say them a loud We
call the blogs. You leaving this one, all right, Paulina, Yes, peaky.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Oh, I like that.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
I like peaky speaky.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
All right, take it away, guys, all right, dear blog,
I just want to send this out to all of
the kids who are raising their parents. Okay, it is
very hard out here for us.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
All right.
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Helena is the lady that raised me, my big sister,
but she's like a mom, and I'm just starting to realize, like,
as we both get older, this thing is not.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Going to work.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
Somebody got to be in control, and I feel like
it should be me.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Okay, because you want to reclaim I think so.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Yeah, because when I give clear direction, I need her
to follow direction, but she just does not listen. And
I'm like, how do how's supposed to work? For instance,
my yard and my house has been a hot mess
all summer. Okay, I got things to do, tiktoks to make.
I'm not a yard girl, so what as long as
the grass is cut, we good.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Yeah, but she was. It was not to her liking.
So I'm like okay.
Speaker 4 (01:13):
She's like, you needed to get this yard together. You
need to get this I'm like okay, okay. So one
day last week she just decides I'm on my way
to come get your yard together. And I'm like, no, no, no,
no no, I don't need to do that, Like, you know,
you need to be rash. You have other things you
need to focus on. She's like, oh, I'm up down
the street. I'll be there in a minute. I'm like,
oh God. So she comes and she completely takes over
(01:33):
the yard. She got my nephew out there helping her.
It looks beautiful from you know what it was. Fast
forward to a couple of days later, this lady has
gotten bidden by some poisonous bug in my yard.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Yes, And I'm just like okay.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
So then she doesn't even tell me that this has happened.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
She she's just got all these this rash on her
never said a word to me. I have to find
out everything for my sister in law. That's a whole
nother story. So when I finally find out that something's wrong,
I call her.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
She's like, yeah, by what are you doing?
Speaker 4 (02:06):
Oh mom, I'm at the er.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
What ma'am?
Speaker 1 (02:09):
You didn't think I needed to know this. It's your yard,
it's my life, it's not even just my yard. But
books back there.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Yeah, she knows I'm not going back there, so she's
not worried about it. But it's like, why are you
at the er and you have not run this past me?
That is insane. Then I'm like, okay, we go through
the whole er thing. She gets her prescription or whatever.
I'm like, you need to rest, like you need to
be at home. You don't need to be your grandkids.
Just rest and heal. I'm looking at her location yesterday.
This lady is all around town. She's a oh Brooks,
(02:38):
she just dreaded. The little car just drives. So I
just want to say, you know, it's very hard raising
your pace.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
It sounds like my mom too, Yes, and I know
every like you guys can relate. Your mom is this
way MARTA's is?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I can Your mom and my mom, uh, Martha very similar.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Your mom's a little more stoic.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
My mom's a little small smiley, but the stubbornness and
then the steadfastness is no different.
Speaker 5 (03:02):
Yeah, those who could run a small country, a large country,
a large country, no one hundred percent. My mom growing
up has always been like that. And I now that
I'm an adult and I'm raising my own child, I
feel like Marta. I'm also raising Marta likes to do
what Marta likes to do, and you cannot change her mind.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Is no, there's no other way.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Recently she she didn't like fall fall, but she kind
of had like a little incident with the cooler and
she's like, look what happened at your baptism And she
lifted her shirt up.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Her whole arm.
Speaker 5 (03:30):
Is bruised, and I was like, mo, why are you
not asking for help? She's like, well, it was really
heavy and this and that. I'm like, ask for help.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
She was, yes she was.
Speaker 6 (03:39):
And then she just went on like a secret trip
and didn't like tell you where she yea on her location,
like yeah, she took a bus to somewhere.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
She won't tell me where she went. I like these grandparents,
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (03:51):
She won't tell me these I call grandparents because she's
a grandma's and my daughter are out of control, like absolutely,
we are raising them. And then she about her location
on me when she's mad, like she doesn't care.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
I love my mom, so much.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
I owe her for everything and that will never change
and she will never not be my mom. But there
is something in my dad same way. But there is
something that happens, and my sister and I are realizing
it more and more. You're never going to be equal
to them. But there does come a point where you're
old enough, and it happened a while ago, but it's
certainly not there's no shortage of this where like your
(04:26):
perspective is tantamount to theirs. Like you're old enough to
see the same things they're seeing. You're old enough to
know enough to know that what they're doing is not right.
You're old enough and smart enough and experience enough in
life to realize some of the things they say just
aren't true. And also you have a different life experience
that might be a little more connected than theirs, and
(04:49):
so like you try and help, but they don't necessarily
want to hear it because you're still their kids. They
still see you as the little kid, you know, riding
the bike with the training wheels. But yet there is
kind of a role reversal that happens. Yes, yeah, and
it's twofold because they don't want it to happen and
(05:09):
I don't want it to happen like I want mom
and dad to be mom and dad forever. I don't
want them to be fragile. I don't want them to
not know more than me. I don't want them to
not be the figures they've.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Always and they are.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
But you know what I mean, it's a very strange
thing that starts to happen where it's like what are
you doing?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Like mom?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Like stop? You know what I mean? Like like slow down?
Like everything I mean, like you know, or hey, you
know my mom will do something. I'll like, Mom, you
can't do that. She Wait, you mean I can't do that?
Why so hard on me? I'm not hard on you.
I'm just telling you it's different out here. It's different,
and you don't have to like it, but it's just different.
(05:51):
And I'm telling you this because I love you and
because I don't want you to walk into a buzz
saw that I know one hundred percent you don't mean
to walk into because that's not who you are. But
I can totally relate to this. And you're not going
to stop them.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
You're not going to stop them.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
What does someone just say stop? Coming from both a
mother and a grandmother. We don't need to be told
what to do and not to do. It's frustrating, yes see,
but I that's that's the response that you get. And
I understand that there's a there's a certain lease that
you have to give. And my sister is not very
good at this, and I think she would admit, you know,
because well that's also because we're talking about two of
(06:27):
the exact same individuals. My mom and my sister are
the same person. But like it's the kids trying to
help and then the parents still trying to be parents.
But I think from this woman's man or whoever just
texted us, had stop you Also, I feel like have
to sort of accept your shortcomings too.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Like it and I don't mean that as a negative,
but it's like, you don't need to go as hard
as you did when we were kids. You don't need
to be everything for everybody, because now it's time for
us to be that for you too. Like it's a transition, yes,
And so that's I don't I think most kids are
coming after their parents critically. I feel like what they're
doing is saying you don't have to you know, you
(07:06):
don't have to do everything for us anymore. Now we
need to start doing some things for you, and let
us let us write these like don't come mow my lawn,
you know what I mean, Like let my lawn suck,
because look what happened. You were trying to help me
and now and then you don't want me to know
about it, and then you're still out helping all these
other people.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
And it's amazing that it's amazing. But at the same time, yeah.
Speaker 6 (07:29):
Please, I mean, I would lose my nana and she
wouldn't have her phone on her and I would have
to call every bar I know she frequents to find her.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
I'm not even the post malone.
Speaker 6 (07:39):
Anyway, Like you need your phone and you need to
not be going places all the time.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Didn't she call you one day and say, I'm sitting
next to a guy who looks homeless and he says
he's famous.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
But I'm really not sure it.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Was the call.
Speaker 6 (07:50):
Yeah, she called and she said I just had drinks
with the loveliest man.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
He was lovely, but he had, you know, described his appearance.
Speaker 6 (07:56):
And then I looked up the schedule for the place
that she said he was performing, said, Nana, you were
sitting with post Malone and she's like, I showed her
a picture and yeah, yeah, and she said all the
women at this bar are acting like he has something
they can catch, you know, because of his appearance. He
wasn't that big at the time, but she said she
walked him to a super and told him not to
(08:18):
be nervous because she knows the owner of that venue
and he'll be just fine.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
And it was freaking Postmo. He's like, not nervous.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Yeah, wow, yeah, that's a good story.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Yeah anyway, but yeah, she's wild.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
So we love these people. We're grateful for them.
Speaker 6 (08:30):
But yes, yes, when I get old Bellican white, I'm
letting her wipe my boy.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Like she can do whatever for me. I'm not going
to fight her same. I've earned it. Yeah, Like.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
And you know what, even a really good point, and
I have just just kind of say, I feel like
maybe it's because we're different generations. Like you said, like, mommy,
you can't do that anymore. And I think that's what
we argue about a lot, right, especially raising a kid. Right,
my mom thinks we can you know, do this and
you know, leave the doors unlocked, all these things that I.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Wouldn't do anymore.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
So now I'm thinking, so we kind of are raising
our parents, just in a different generation.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
It is a form of race.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
So it's a weird role reversal that happens, because I
saw it with my mom and my grandmother and my grandfather.
It's like they raise you and then you're kind of
equal for a while, and then you kind of raised them,
or not raise them, but you kind of care for them,
and then the cycle starts again.
Speaker 6 (09:16):
It's an honor though, Like it was my honor to
take care of my grandpa when he was dying, you know, because.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
He took care of me, you know, I was. I
thought that was a very sweet.
Speaker 6 (09:24):
But the psychology for them, I could understand why it
would be very difficult.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
But it's like you raised my parents, raised us to
be strong, opinionated, self serving individuals, and then when we
do that sometimes they're like annoying. I'm like, but I'm you,
you created this, so like we have to I guess
we have to have patience with one another.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
But well, I hope, I hope Helena is good. Yeah,
I mean she's gonna be good.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
But I got some yardwork on on my condo, My
high rising.
Speaker 4 (09:56):
We'll come redecorate your whole house.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
I got the plants that need watering. Oh god, oh god,
don't show her my house. I don't know what she'd
do with that. Before long i'd come back, the whole
thing would be redesigned, new paint, everything. Really, maybe it's disaffected. Yeah,
well i'd start. I'd started with a new mattress, for sure.
Let's do waiting by the phone. It's new in next
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