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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Take it away.

Speaker 2 (00:00):
Thank you so much, dear blog. So I have a
I guess like a two question etiquette question. I made
no sense two parts A two question etiquette question. Okay, good,
two parts. So my first question is, okay, if you
don't attend an event, right or like whatever some of
you're invited to, you do you? Then if you can't attend,

(00:23):
which obviously I get it, life happens, do you send
a gift instead?

Speaker 1 (00:27):
Like?

Speaker 3 (00:27):
Do you?

Speaker 1 (00:27):
I say yes?

Speaker 4 (00:28):
I say yes too.

Speaker 2 (00:29):
And I had somebody fighting me saying that we shouldn't
do that, and I'm like, but I'm not going to
something and I want to send a gift.

Speaker 4 (00:35):
It's for a child to top on. Who's fighting you? Right,
I'm like, bro, like it's my friend. But I'm like,
why are we doing that? You know which one? And
I was like why why? Why are we again? Why
are we debating this?

Speaker 2 (00:45):
Like if I'm not going, which I can't make it
because I have another obligation, I also want to send
a gift, So I feel like you should. I mean,
it's not required, but it's the right, maybe the nicer
right thing.

Speaker 4 (00:54):
To do, especial. Yeah, and you were invited? Yes, So Okay,
we're we're all line with especially.

Speaker 1 (00:59):
If it's for a kid.

Speaker 5 (01:00):
Like if you get invited and you can't go and
it's for a kid, how much does it really cost
to just sanatoy over or something? You know, we're not
talking about like a you know, a Tiffany vase, you
know we're talking about it or not, you know whatever,
something from Amazon or just some gesture, right.

Speaker 2 (01:16):
Just something exactly it's for a kid, Like it's yeah,
I think it's the nice right thing to do.

Speaker 4 (01:21):
Okay, so we're aligned. I love that.

Speaker 2 (01:22):
So my next part of the question is I I
did this, so I'm guilty of it.

Speaker 4 (01:27):
When you sent an invitation out right, do.

Speaker 2 (01:29):
You put RSVP on there like typically people do right,
like make sure to RSVP? Yes, okay, okay, I realized
that for my baptism, but just passed. I didn't put
that part, but I did it on purpose because I
assumed it's a backyard party, so like you're gonna come by,
you swing by, you don't swing by. But then my
mom was like, well, you still kind of need to

(01:51):
know as far as like food and like what we're
gonna do chairs, like how many you need? Who's coming
kind of almost right, And I didn't think of it
that way. I thought of it as like, well, it's
not like a banquet hall where you're you're paying per
plate or you need like a certain amount of space,
because the backyard is going to say the same size
as no matter who comes, how many people about food wise?

Speaker 4 (02:08):
You Okay, So I didn't think of that.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
So I'm thinking, like, well, I forgot to put that
on there, I guess technically even though I knew I didn't,
But like, have you guys ever forgot to.

Speaker 4 (02:16):
Like put something on your invitation? Am I the only person?

Speaker 1 (02:20):
How many people? How many people did you invite to
the baptism?

Speaker 4 (02:23):
I want to say roughly seventy roughly, and.

Speaker 1 (02:26):
How many showed up?

Speaker 4 (02:28):
Maybe fifty fifty?

Speaker 5 (02:30):
Yeah, that's pretty good. I don't know, maybe something like that.
I guess i'd put our SVP, but like it's pretty intimate,
and I feel like most people who you invite are
going to attend. But I mean a wedding or something
where you're intentionally over inviting, hoping that half the people
come back, or you know, three quarters of the people,
or you know a quarter of the people can't come.
I think and when you're paying, as you mentioned, per person.

(02:52):
I think that's really important. But I don't know. I
don't know if I would necessarily even care about our
SVPs for like a backyard party, if it was if
it was a relatively relatively limited number of people and
I expected that most would show up, you know what
I mean, Because like, I don't know that I want
to deal with all the people coming back telling me this,
that and the other thing. I might just send it
out and say come or don't come, and then I
would plan for the majority of the people to show up.

Speaker 4 (03:15):
Yeah, and that's what you did pretty much.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
But then I kind of get like a little nervous
when it comes to food and stuff. Use I'd rather
over by the food than under by the food, but
like I get nervous, and I don't know, I feel
like at this point, RSVP, even if it's for like
I don't know, come to my barbecue tomorrow night, like
just RVP.

Speaker 6 (03:30):
Have an art yeah pee, Well they have those services
now that you literally just send it out via email
and they'll respond. But Pauline and my friend through a
bridal shower for another friend. She did everything planned the
whole thing forgot to send out the inte. Yeah, ma'am
was yes, and so she was scrambling when she realized
and like people had plans and stuff, but can you
imagine so it could be worse?

Speaker 4 (03:53):
But wow, yeah, how do.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
You do that? How do you forget to find anybody?

Speaker 6 (03:57):
I feel like she took like too much, she had
too much on her plate and took too much on
and was planning a wedding of her own and it
just yeah, I don't know, but there's she forgot one
big step?

Speaker 1 (04:07):
Are they still I guess the other thing?

Speaker 4 (04:08):
Oh yes, they yeah, it kind of.

Speaker 5 (04:12):
You're talking to all the people anyway who are going
to be attending, So maybe I could see how that
would slip your mind, because it's like, well, everybody who's
you know, if it's a bridal shower. I guess like
most people who are coming, I know, right, so they
know to come. So I guess I could see how
that one step might get left out. But then I mean,
wouldn't there be enough people hitting you up going hey,

(04:34):
what day was it again? Or like where is it again?
To where you're like, oh, whoops, I forgot to formally
announce that to everyone.

Speaker 6 (04:41):
Yeah, I mean like the close friends and family did know,
like you said, but there were friends and stuff that
already had plans like we're out of town. Yeah yeah,
they were long so off that career.

Speaker 5 (04:52):
Okay, all right, so send the gift and rsv P boom.

Speaker 1 (04:57):
That's the moral of the story. Those are your etiquate
answers right there.

Speaker 5 (05:00):
Etiquette ANSWER's courtesy of a bunch of people who don't
always have the best etiquette there, dear blog, So I
am a I was in Vegas with Jason for I
her radio music festival of the weekend, big success as always,
and it was streamed on Hulu. It was on the radio.
Uh and I'm sure that. Can you watch it on
Hulu now or is it a couple of days away?

(05:23):
And I to her, we can watch on Hulu again
if you missed it. But always a great time. What
was your job and what did you do?

Speaker 1 (05:27):
Friend? I had no job, no job whatsoever.

Speaker 5 (05:30):
I officially had zero responsibility, shot out to Elizabeth Fazzio.
I had nothing to do, not one thing. So I
walked around, I schmoosed some people and that's what I did.
And I well, and of course hung out with with
Dualipa and you know, I am her muse. I gave
her inspiration for her performance. Uh so there was that.
But I also did a little gambling, and I have

(05:51):
a I have a healthy relationship with gambling. I would
say my grandmother, my an Irish Catholic, she's Catholic. Grandmother
was a big gambler. Here's a woman who you know,
she enjoyed her her cocktails, and she enjoyed her her gambling,
which I think a lot of fine Catholic people do.
But we would go to the casino together. That would

(06:13):
be fun. Like she taught me how to do math
by playing blackjack. I mean like it was. You know,
she's a gambler and I used to win. I used
to win more than I lost. And then she passed
away a couple of years ago, and I haven't been
able to win a damn thing in a casino since
she died. And I'm wondering, first of all, did my
luck die with my nana? Like should I just retire
from gambling? Like is it possible? I've just lost my mojo?

(06:36):
Like she was my good luck charm. She's gone, and
so I should just stop altogether. And I mean, like
in a casino like blackjack, don't. I don't sports bad.
I don't except for on Jason's picks, of course. I
don't know. I don't know, Like I just I don't
really do the slots. No, But I'm just wondering, like,
do you think maybe I would think it would get
better once she was in heaven and she had a

(06:58):
little more pole, you know, Now she's in heaven and
she's like she could actually manipulate the cards if she
wants to. But now I'm is it her way of
saying like, dude, it's over, Like stop stop gambling, it's stop.

Speaker 1 (07:09):
Like you're not gonna win. What do you think?

Speaker 3 (07:12):
Do you talk to your nana before you go to
the casino, like all right, Nana, this is it.

Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yeah, we're gonna we're gonna do this.

Speaker 5 (07:17):
Yeah. And then I'm getting my ass kicked at the
blackshack table and I'm like, Nana, like, what are we
doing here? Like we're like we're winners, you know, and
but we weren't winning. The other thing is my friend
who was who was gambling with me, and he's a
true degenerate, an actual degenerate human being. He said that
he believes the blackjack dealers should offer a little more compassion.

(07:39):
He would like more compassion from the blackjack dealers and
if you ever played blackjack before, like he wants them
to take the money and go, oh sorry, better luck
next time, or you'll get him next time. Like he
was really upset. He wanted them to be a little
more emotional than they were. And I'm wondering He's like,
would you want that from your from your your gambling

(07:59):
dealer or do you want them to not say anything
to you at all? Because like I think, I think
if a blackjack dealer were saying they were sorry to
me every time they took my money, it would be
like when you call the insurance company and you're like,
I'm having this problem and they give you the fake sympathy,
you know, and they're like, oh, I hate when that
happens in my life. Let me handle this for you now,

(08:21):
you know, reading off the screen, you know, it's it's
that fake empathy. I feel like that's how I would
feel if a blackjack dealer apologized to me every time
I took my money away. You know, I think I
would be like, you're just saying that, but I don't
believe you.

Speaker 7 (08:34):
I need the fake empathy, like make me feel better
about this bad decision that I'm making.

Speaker 1 (08:40):
Yes, yeah, yeah, like my friend, Yeah.

Speaker 7 (08:44):
Like make me that's all you know what I'm saying
when I order the number three a McDonald's that I
have no business eating, and then they say, like is that.

Speaker 1 (08:51):
All you know?

Speaker 7 (08:52):
You want to add anything? Like make me feel like
I'm not making a horrible.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
Decision, like wow, that is a really light order, kicking.

Speaker 3 (09:00):
You don't want a large?

Speaker 5 (09:03):
Wait, you're only getting a medium? Like come on, how
responsible of you? My god, you've changed.

Speaker 4 (09:14):
Make me feel good?

Speaker 1 (09:16):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (09:17):
Well.

Speaker 5 (09:18):
The other problem is when you go into a casino
only once a year and several of the dealers remember you.
That's that's a real problem. Like I don't yeah, like
when I sit down there, like you're the radio guy
from Chicago and I'm like, oh my god, like what.

Speaker 3 (09:31):
Right?

Speaker 5 (09:32):
Like whenever we see you walking, we get so excited.
We're like, it's gonna be a good bonus for us
this year because you're such a losers that your nana died.
You know.

Speaker 1 (09:43):
What I felt like, And I don't know why.

Speaker 5 (09:45):
I just I mean again, I viewed as entertainment, So
it's like whatever, it a winner losesn't I'm not betting
enough that I it's like I can't pay my bills
today or whatever. But I don't know. I don't know
what happened, Like I lost my mojo. I think it's
just over. I think I should quit. I think I
should just stop gambling.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
Like a keepsake of your nana that you could bring
with you the casino.

Speaker 1 (10:06):
Oh, like a ship protector for my nan whatever her ashes.

Speaker 5 (10:09):
Yeah, well I was wearing I was wearing that rosary
the whole time.

Speaker 1 (10:14):
Maybe that was part of the reason why I was losing,
because I shouldn't. You're not supposed to.

Speaker 5 (10:17):
Now you tell me you're not supposed to wear the
rosary as a fashion accessory.

Speaker 1 (10:21):
Supposedly, so you say, I don't know.

Speaker 5 (10:24):
I just I would have thought my gambling luck would
have gotten better once my nana had more power. And
now she's got the power, and she got the power
to take my money away and no empathy from the dealers.

Speaker 1 (10:34):
I don't know. I just I think it's over. I
think I should just quit.

Speaker 7 (10:36):
Yea that Mike Rufio does he just stands yeah at
the casino.

Speaker 5 (10:44):
Yes, yeah, he does do that. He like free gambles.
It's like free gambling. You know, he pretends in his
head what he would do.

Speaker 3 (10:50):
Because there's so many different games at the casino. Like
everyone knows blackjack and poker, but there's like all these
different card games.

Speaker 1 (10:58):
I'm like, how do you play this game?

Speaker 3 (11:00):
And I sit there and I watch, and I'm like,
if I had twenty dollars, I played too, but I don't.

Speaker 5 (11:05):
I tried everything. I tried roulette, I tried playing like
lucky numbers. I tried blackjacket, I tried baccarat. I tried everything.
I couldn't get anything going, nothing at all. And the
whole time, I'm just saying, why is there no sympathy.
There's no sympathy, no empathy, nothing, no one going, oh man,
that sucks better. You know next time you're gonna get them. No,
nothing at all. You don't want to know why, because

(11:25):
in their head they're like, you're never gonna get us,
You're never gonna get us, you're gonna.

Speaker 1 (11:30):
Be broke and uh and and I don't know.

Speaker 5 (11:33):
I also wonder like what must they think blackjack dealers
like the you know, they see everything every day, Like
at any point do you think they ever want.

Speaker 1 (11:41):
To be like, dude, just stop like you're a loser.

Speaker 3 (11:45):
Stop did you did your nana lose a lot too?
Maybe you're just paying back all them that she lost. No,
she never that's the thing. She never lost. She never lost.
I don't know how she never lost. She always won. Well,
there you go, you're paying back all the stuff that
she want in life.

Speaker 5 (12:01):
I guess. Anyway, more of the story is I think
I've retired. I think I've retired from my entertainment gambling.
I think it's over now, And I think I found
the Lord too good. Yes, exactly. Well, yeah, it's a
little late. You're supposed to pray before you lose you late.

Speaker 1 (12:23):
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