Just The Highlights! 09/24/24

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It's the Fresh Show. This is what's trending. Why are
we talking about pooping? We were just talking about it
on the radio. Yeah, came out there another Sometimes sometimes

(00:26):
this show makes me want to cry and laugh. I
don't know. Yeah, well, who says I'm messmoking right now? Kiki,
don't tell me about last week it was it was
bear Mace in the studio, and this week it's me
just straight up chainsmoking. I mean whatever, who cares? It
makes my voice deeper, It gets me closer to my

(00:47):
goal of being a movie trailer announcer. Let me see
here in case you were wondering, Uh, the poop smoothie
recipe Kara care of our friend Bellamine one banana coke
like cream yogurt and apparently has to be Trader Joe's.
So if you expect to poop, don't go anywhere else.
Yeah it's never been so I'll never poop again.

Speaker 2 (01:08):
I guess.

Speaker 1 (01:09):
Uh, frozen mango and pineapple and your milk of choice.
Thank me later. Well, I mean, that's it's just a
It's just a dairy bomb, that's all that is. I mean,
coconut cream yogurt. Why is it gonna be coconut. I
don't know how about it? Give me ice cream and
then I'm fine. And next red wine for me? Red wine?

Speaker 3 (01:32):
Really yeah, that's like the only thing that causes me
is shoes.

Speaker 1 (01:37):
Have you hachi? Have you have your had?

Speaker 4 (01:52):
It always works for mettle.

Speaker 1 (01:54):
Well, but have you ever had habachi while smoking a camel?

Speaker 5 (01:57):
Oh?

Speaker 4 (01:58):
My god?

Speaker 1 (02:00):
Drinking coconut cream smoothies from Bella? I don't think I'm
gonna eat anything she brings in anymore because I feel
like it's just gonna give me some sort of explosion.
That apple tart it was wrong.

Speaker 4 (02:11):
I had it was amazing.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
I haven't had any kind of tart. Where were the tarts? Where?
Where's I for the tar?

Speaker 4 (02:17):
In Vegas?

Speaker 1 (02:18):
Vegas? Eating cigarettes? Apparently? Yeah?

Speaker 6 (02:25):
On her Instagram bio, she's a deviled egg connoisseur. I'm
still waiting for these deviled eggs for me too. All right, well, well,
Bella just set up a little food stand. If you
went to the office, we would appreciate it. Trending stories
this morning x X will soon make your public posts visible.

(02:48):
Two accounts that you've blocked so Elon Musk confirmed these
changes on Monday. Don't even blocked accounts will still not
be able to engage with the users who will block them,
but they will be able to see their posts. The
block function will block that account from engaged with, but
not block seeing the actual post. Okay, the clan again.

Speaker 4 (03:09):
I'm over it at this point.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
So if you if you're new of the show, Jason
Rod was blocked by a shanty on Twitter X Twitter X.
We don't know why we think it was. It must
have been some kind of confusion because there's no way
that you would have disrespected her artistry. There's no way.
So what do you think happened?

Speaker 7 (03:29):
I don't know, but I'm checking now just to make
sure that she hasn't unblocked me.

Speaker 4 (03:35):
No, I'm still blocked.

Speaker 1 (03:38):
How could if used and blocked you like how?

Speaker 7 (03:41):
I don't know, Like how would a Chanta even notice
me to see my messages to block me?

Speaker 1 (03:45):
That's wild? Well, you're blocked, but I guess you will
be able to read her, her exes, her tweets in
case you're wondering about them, So I know you're excited.

Speaker 8 (03:55):
The whole purpose of block, Like Elon, you're doing it wrong.

Speaker 4 (04:00):
Everything he does on Twitter, Yes, and.

Speaker 7 (04:03):
Actually unfollowed him because like it, I think it automatically
makes you follow. But I unfollowed him and it still
shows up his tweet are still in my feet.

Speaker 1 (04:12):
That's how my feet is. Like, it's it's people. I
don't even know. I was saying, right, yeah, I know, yeah, yeah,
Wait a minute. Is Elon Musk the new Tom?

Speaker 9 (04:21):
Yes?

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yes, because he owns the place you're required to follow him. Yeah,
I'm not, I'm not interested. Men's brains shrink by eight
pm every single day. Apparently eight pm is a thing.
Men's brains rise and fallen. Volume is hormones, EBB and
flow throughout the day. A study that scanned at twenty

(04:43):
six year old man's brain forty times over thirty days
indicated that the man's brain shrunk by eight pm before
resetting overnight. This is some researchers at the University of California,
Santa Barbara. They say the cycle is growing and shrinking.
It concides with rising and fall levels of steroid hormones testosterone, cortisol,

(05:04):
and astradiol estradiol astradiol. I'm sure I didn't say that right.
That'd be a really bad doctor for a lot of reasons.
But I was, oh, boy, not the astradiol Yeah, you
got good relationship. That's the problem too. It's not how
you say it. Yeah, you're right, But are doctors writing
anything anymore? I thought they just like typed it and
then on the app. Now right, they just google whatever

(05:26):
it is and then off it goes. Women's hormones also flunctual,
fluctuate daily, but not as pronounced, and the menstrual cycle
simultaneously drives longer term shifts and hormones. But I guess
your brains stay the same size, but men's our brains
they shift bigger and smaller all the time. So and
Spanish police and arrest but we could have told you that. Yeah,

(05:50):
don't talk to me after eight pm or apparently before
ten am. That's why. That's why they put sports on
that night. You know what I'm saying. So you just
watch them just mindless, Yeah, okay. Spanish have arrested five
people accused of scamming two women out of three hundred
and sixty one thousand dollars by posing his Brad Pitt online.
The suspects made contact with the women on an Internet

(06:10):
page for fans of the actor and led them to
believe that they had a sentimental relationship with him, posing
his pit the members of the gang that allegedly encouraged
the women to invest in various projects that didn't exist.
One woman was defrauded of one hundred and ninety four
thousand dollars another one hundred and sixty seven grand. Now
this is sad, of course, because they're taking advantage of people,

(06:33):
but like, I mean, really, Brad Pitt's in a message
board for fans asking for donations for projects, Like I mean,
I mean, come on, you know, like, at what point
are we like that's probably not happening. Or I mean
maybe they were old or something, or maybe they don't
have friends. I'm not sure, but like it makes me sad.
But at the same time, I can't remember the last

(06:55):
time that I contributed to an actor's GoFundMe, But it's
very rare. I very rarely sent anybody message money from
message boards, maybe only once a week and after eight
pm is the obvious time. So police rated five homes
as part of their operations, seizing several mobile phones, bank cards, computers,

(07:16):
and a diary in which the phrases used by the
fraudsters to deceive their victims were written down. They were
able to get almost one hundred thousand dollars back. But
I don't know. Have you ever believed that you were
talking to anyone famous online? You sold us a laptop?

Speaker 6 (07:30):
Do you remember that that's true.

Speaker 1 (07:33):
I was shocked to the number of people that my
ex got hacked, I don't know, several months ago, and
the hacker was trying to sell a MacBook on there.
And when I finally got it back, you know, the
account back, I was very surprised, excuse me, the number
of people who were trying to buy this laptop. Like
I'm like, guys, well, I mean no, I don't even

(07:56):
think everything was spelled correctly, Like I mean, I will
at least spell thing is correctly when I'm trying to
sell my my my whares on my Twitter. I mean,
but I was. I was very like saddened actually by
the number of people who were going to be taking
advantage of by this guy, including.

Speaker 6 (08:12):
Like my Jess's uncle's Facebook got hacked and he was
the person was posting, Hey, I have Taylor Swift tickets
in Indianapolis. Everything was spelled wrong on this thing, but
the dude got like at least over one thousand dollars
from like three people.

Speaker 1 (08:25):
Yeah. Remember my uncle thought he was in a relationship.

Speaker 7 (08:28):
Yeah, oh my god, so much dramas always, But my
uncle definitely thinks he's dating Shan.

Speaker 1 (08:35):
Yeah yeah, Now is he sending her money?

Speaker 2 (08:38):
I think so?

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Yep. And I was like, well, what did she say?

Speaker 2 (08:41):
Uncle?

Speaker 8 (08:42):
He was like, well, she says she can't wait to
see me when I come in New Jersey. I was like,
New Jersey, don't even live in New Jersey. What are
you talking about?

Speaker 4 (08:49):
But he was.

Speaker 6 (08:50):
Convinced, tell your uncle putting the good word for Jason
Brown over here.

Speaker 7 (08:53):
Right, yeah, or Fred on Air will unblocked.

Speaker 8 (08:57):
Fred your account still has Jason block.

Speaker 7 (09:02):
I tried to fight the bad guys. I was going
to meet up with them and beat them out. Yeah, yes,
the way you engaged with the hackers, Yeah you can
probably they're probably it's probably in your DMS if you check.
But yeah, I was DM with the hackers. I was like, yeah, sure,
lets me meet me at this corner. I'll buy the
laptop from then I was going to beat them up.

Speaker 1 (09:22):
No, actually, Jason, the hackers didn't block you. That was me.
I figured as much.

Speaker 10 (09:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:27):
I talked to said, are you gonna are gonna support
me or not. I'm like, OK, you stand with a shanty,
I get it. Yeah, I mean obviously, come on, come on, man.
It is National Punctuation Day and I have a degree
in English, and I still don't know how to use
most punctuations. So let's just be honest. Does anyone really
know how to properly use the semicolon? I mean, unless

(09:49):
you're a teacher. Really, I just guess where I should
put it where it looks good, or like the difference
between a colon and a dash, which I think be
somewhat interchangeable. But again, I don't really know. I feel
like I should know a lot more things because I
have a college degree in English. I should probably be

(10:10):
able to spell better. I should probably have better grammar,
I should probably know how to use punctuation properly, but
I don't. So sorry, Mom, thanks for the money that
you spent on that. But we celebrate today National Punctuation Day.
The Entertainment Report is next up to Billihihilation in two minutes.
Fred Show, The Fread Show is on. It's stay or

(10:31):
go all right, Daniel is here. You can always hit
U stup by the way on Fredshow Radio dot Com.
Freendshow Radio on Instagram, v fread Show, TikTok all the Places, Daniel,
good morning, Good morning, Good morning, Fred Daniel. What's going
on with this woman who you've been dating? We're all ears.
We can't wait to give you the advice that will

(10:52):
clearly set you on the right path. Well, I can't
promise you that, actually, but anyway, don't go ahead, tell
us what's going on?

Speaker 10 (11:00):
No, you're fine.

Speaker 2 (11:02):
So I originally started dating this girl.

Speaker 1 (11:05):
She right now.

Speaker 2 (11:06):
She seems awesome, she's similar interest. We agree on very
important issues more superficially. She's very attractive, you know. But
there's one thing about her that to me feels like
a red flag, and that she's never been in a.

Speaker 1 (11:26):
Relationship never never never.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
Like she's okay, she's she's not like a virgin or anything.
She's definitely like.

Speaker 1 (11:36):
Dated people, but none of those ever led.

Speaker 2 (11:39):
Into anything deeper in just like like there was always
like a reason, like the guy treated her poorly or
she just didn't like the guy, And that leaves me
a little anxious about going further with her. Is this
I don't know, does this sound like enough of her
red flag to anybody else?

Speaker 1 (12:00):
That's what I was gonna Daniel, you sound like you're
in maybe your I don't know, late twenties, early thirty
something like that. I assume she's the same age. Yeah, yeah, okay,
never in a relationship, but she's done other stuff, so
she's had, you know, I don't know a different interaction
with man. Just never do you think it's a commitment thing?

(12:20):
I mean, is there is that any component you just
or simply she's just never met the right guy kind
of as you described, Yeah.

Speaker 2 (12:28):
Like she's it was always someone treated her poorly, never
met the right guy. I just I'm this little word
before I go like invest myself deeper emotionally, like if
someone's if she's like flaky, you know, that's what I'm
worried about.

Speaker 1 (12:44):
Huh Okay, all right, Well, I'd love to take calls
on this eight five five three five. You can call
and text the same number. You guys have any questions
for Daniel before we talk about him behind his back.

Speaker 8 (12:56):
I mean, I'm just gonna assume she's of age, you know,
because that's.

Speaker 1 (13:01):
Well, I mean, yeah, I asked that question she in
her twenties or thirties, and he said yes, So yeah, no,
she's not seventeen. This isn't like a ditty freako party
or whatever. It's yeah, we're not having we're not having
a freak off over here, at least I don't think so.
So she's of age. But otherwise you get the impression

(13:21):
that she's like a well rounded sort of I don't know,
grounded individual, Like you get the impression that she's flaky.
She's flaky in other ways.

Speaker 2 (13:29):
Uh not really, It's just I mean, this is the
only thing that's really come up that's like set up
like a red flag type of alarm for me. But
I mean, I mean, I'm just I've never experienced anyone
that's never been in any form of like a deeper relationship.

Speaker 1 (13:44):
Like hmm okay, all right, this one kind of has
me a little bit stuffed. Thank you, Daniel, have a
great deal. Have the radio and we're gonna talk about
you behind your back now, Okay, appreciate it. Okay, good yeah,
good talk yeah eight five five five three five. I
don't have to really think this is a problem. I mean,
I haven't been in that many super long term relationships.

(14:05):
Are she's never been in a relationship, okay, right, I mean,
I don't I don't necessarily think that's I mean, look
like if you that's like a for me, that'd be
like a super trusted like like are you gonna be
with me or you're just gonna you know, be with
me for two weeks or whatever, Like I.

Speaker 4 (14:22):
Would have concerns, right exactly.

Speaker 8 (14:24):
Really yeah, yeah, I'm the concern I've never cheated on anybody.

Speaker 1 (14:27):
I'm You've never seen with you.

Speaker 8 (14:30):
It's like it's like when you applied for a job
and they want you to have all this work history, like, bro,
just graduated college, give me a chance.

Speaker 4 (14:36):
Thirties is like if.

Speaker 1 (14:39):
You look at my situation, I went to small high school, no,
I mean really didn't date that much, went to college,
dated a little bit, and then I got you know,
a super career focused and moved around a whole bunch.
So like, I don't know, it just wasn't there wasn't
really the occasion necessarily, nor do I think I met
the right person and it wasn't my priority. You know.
That's another thing is everybody, I feel everyone in the
world assumes that you're supposed to date one person consistently

(15:02):
for a long time. You're supposed to be everyone's supposed
to be parted up. Everyone's supposed to be in a
long term relationship everyone. That's what everyone's supposed to do,
because that's what most people do. But maybe this woman
just hasn't that just hasn't been a priority for her.

Speaker 3 (15:14):
Yeah, and no judgment on her, but I'm just saying
for me, if I was, you know, going on a
date with someone, I would be a little bit concerned.
If you're in your thirties and you haven't been able
to hold down a relationship.

Speaker 6 (15:25):
Especially if you're looking for someone to be in a
relationship with and this person's like, I've never been in
a relationship.

Speaker 1 (15:31):
That's like why not? Like well, also, you're saying hold
down a relationship. I mean, like, again, that's a choice
that she might be making. It's it's not that she
I mean, yes, she could be a cheater, she could
be someone who's incapable of commitment, she could be flaky.
She could also just be somebody who hasn't met the
right person, just hasn't felt strongly enough.

Speaker 4 (15:51):
I gotta hear why, Like I want to.

Speaker 11 (15:53):
I would ask her if I was dating her and
be like why, you know, just curious having you been
in a long term or a serious relationship, like was
it by choice? Like is it where you're moving? Were
you in school? Were you like prioritizing other things?

Speaker 3 (16:04):
Right, There's also other issues that come with someone who
hasn't been in prior relationships, like communication tends to be
an issue you don't really know how to argue sometimes.
I mean, there's I think there'd be other issues that
would I mean, I don't know, just for me, it
would be a concern. I wouldn't stop dating someone, but
it would definitely be a concern.

Speaker 1 (16:21):
I mean, I guess I would also look at her friendships.
Does she have a does she have long term friendships,
does she you know, outside of romantic relationships, Because if
she can, if she can carry on, you know, relationships
from high school or growing up or or else, you know,
then she's capable of it. She's just made the decision
to prioritize other things. And I don't necessarily think that's

(16:42):
a problem. Hey Mallory, good morning, Good morning, Hi Mallorie.
So this this guy's concerned because he met a woman
that he likes a lot. She's just never and she's
in her late twenties, early thirties. He implied, she's never
been in a relationship romantically, and he's not sure if
that should be a red flag or now what do
you think.

Speaker 9 (17:00):
Well, I'm thirty six and I'm in my first long
term relationship. We've been together for four years, and prior
to him, I'd only had kind of short term things,
and it really came down to just not being with
the right person and kind of having a little bit
lower self esteem and so only really entertaining those guys

(17:21):
that really weren't worth my time and just kind of
telling them to hit the road staffs. And that's really
what it came down to.

Speaker 1 (17:31):
Yeah, I think that makes sense. And this guy made
you feel comfortable and this guy, it all just kind
of came together for you. It clicked the guy you're
with now, yes, yes, yeah, see, I don't know, I mean,
and it's going well. You haven't had any issue with
commitment or you guys are able to communicate well and
all those things. It all kind of came together.

Speaker 9 (17:52):
Yes, we communicate well, we're able to talk through arguments,
not that we've had many. We're living together now, we
bought a house together, the engagement ring is coming. So yeah,
we're doing really well.

Speaker 1 (18:07):
Yeah, well, Kiki thinks the same thing, So just be careful.
What's that was? Rush? Hopefully he's living in your house,
you know, just make sure, Hey, does this man live
with you, Mallory or do you live with that? You
know what I mean?

Speaker 10 (18:23):
God the house?

Speaker 1 (18:26):
Okay, technicality, technicality, you have a good day.

Speaker 10 (18:32):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (18:33):
I also think that a guy would be like accused
of having commitment issues if he had never been in
a relationship by that age.

Speaker 4 (18:38):
I think it would be a different I don't know.

Speaker 3 (18:40):
I think people would treat it differently, which I don't
know if that's fair or not, but I don't know
that's true.

Speaker 1 (18:46):
I get a hard time all the time. I mean,
people are constantly. I feel like I'm not judged constantly. Yeah,
well get judge harder. Yeah maybe maybe so maybe that's true.
You know, I get judged all the time. It's like, well,
there must be something wrong with you. There must be
you know, you must not be able to you must,
you must have peter Pan syndrome. You must be capable

(19:07):
of commitment. You must, And it's like people have I'm
telling you, people have the hardest time in general understanding
that some people choose this life. Some people choose the
life I am living. And it is so hard for
people to understand because I think the convention is you
meet someone, you date them long for you meet multiple people,
or one person you date for a long time, you
get married, you have kids, and you're you're partnered, and

(19:30):
I don't know, it's just that's never been a priority
to me.

Speaker 4 (19:33):
If I'm relationships, I've seen one too.

Speaker 3 (19:35):
Yeah, well, well I have that in last very long
but okay, I'm okay with that.

Speaker 1 (19:40):
And one of them was a god awful human being,
and then some of the other ones were, you know,
maybe not not great choices, but.

Speaker 4 (19:46):
Still it's a learning. I'd be okay with that. You've
had too, I've seen.

Speaker 1 (19:49):
Them right back to bed.

Speaker 4 (19:50):
Yeah, yeah, you came here real hot, pandemic what.

Speaker 1 (19:55):
And for the record, not everybody who's been with me,
I'm sure has amazing things to say. But at least
I don't think they would say that I didn't cheat
on him. I don't have commitment issues. I'm not a
god awful human being, so I got that going for me,
those things, But I mean again, it's like it's really
mind Oh my god, you're forty three years old. You
you've never been married, like basically, what's wrong with you?
And it's like, well, I don't know, maybe nothing, maybe

(20:15):
a lot of things. The things that are wrong with
me might not have anything to do with the fact
that I've chosen, you know, to prioritize myself.

Speaker 4 (20:22):
And marriage thing doesn't bother me at all. I think
that's fine.

Speaker 1 (20:25):
Hey, Maggie, good morning, Good morning. How are you, meg? Hey,
good morning, Thank you for calling and for listening. Why
don't you want to say this guy, Daniel, he's been
dating somebody for white likes her, but she's never been
in a relationship.

Speaker 10 (20:36):
But he's worried about it, so I think he should
say I have a thirty.

Speaker 9 (20:42):
Three year old cousin who has never been in a relationship,
and she would be devastated if that's why someone.

Speaker 1 (20:48):
Wants Now, why do you think this Your cousin has
never been in a like, how would you describe to
us your thoughts why? Yeah, okay, okay.

Speaker 10 (21:00):
I mean it would just be down and be.

Speaker 2 (21:03):
Like, oh, she's shy.

Speaker 1 (21:04):
She finally sounds found someone she liked, and then just
because she didn't find the right person in the past,
is now her reason shouldn't get the next person. But
if if she did meet somebody, you wouldn't you wouldn't
think that they need to be concerned about her lack
of relationship history. No, okay, fair enough.

Speaker 2 (21:31):
Yeah she's a little sheltered.

Speaker 10 (21:32):
But you know, I think everybody's got problems in life
and good and bad.

Speaker 6 (21:40):
And trying to hook your cousin up with friend is
what's going on.

Speaker 1 (21:43):
I wouldn't say you're doing a great job, Maggie. We
gotta sell a little better.

Speaker 2 (21:52):
You know.

Speaker 1 (21:52):
When I say to you, like what's wrong with her?
You're like, I mean anytime you say tell me about
this person and they go, Maggie, would you date your cousin?

Speaker 10 (22:11):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (22:14):
Okay, I love you, matg you have a good day.
I'm like, Maggie, what's the problem with this person? It's like,
I mean she's shot, right, I mean, I mean, anytime
anyone has ever described is I don't know that's a
good thing. Hey, Julie, good morning, welcome to the show.

(22:36):
How are you.

Speaker 10 (22:38):
I'm doing great? Hi? Fred? How are you?

Speaker 2 (22:40):
Hi?

Speaker 1 (22:40):
Julie, thank you for listening, for calling. So the person
who has not been in a really any relationships in
this case, no, I mean, do you look at that
and say red flag, I can't do it? Or do
you say maybe.

Speaker 10 (22:52):
Yeah, yeah, give her a chance? Why why? I mean,
you got a good thing going? Why not? I mean,
and I say that because I am. I am happily
married thirteen years and when I started dating my husband, now,
I hadn't been in a relationship and I was like

(23:13):
thirty six, and you know, I had friends, I had
a social life, I had a career, but I just
hadn't found the right guy. And I you know, I
didn't have a lot of self confidence, so that was
probably my biggest thing. But I mean I was a
normal person, and I am a good communicator. So like
all these red black things like, I mean, give her

(23:34):
a chance. Not everybody prioritizes the same and not everybody
has the same experiences, So like why just discounter.

Speaker 1 (23:42):
Yeah, yeah, it makes sense.

Speaker 10 (23:43):
Thank you to You're married, thirty You're good.

Speaker 1 (23:47):
So Daniel, look there is it's possible. You know, it's
possible that there's there's helpe out there. Thank you, have
a good day you too. I will say this much
for the like the people who are always you know,
the people that are always in a relationship, like they're
always in a relationship like they can't be alone. I

(24:07):
think the opposite can be true too. And I will say,
if I fall into any sort of red flag category,
it's that I've just become so familiar with being on
my own and doing my own thing, and you know,
kind of putting myself first. And I say, you could
argue that it's selfish, but I mean, it's not selfish
because I'm not. It's not like there's someone else in
my life who is getting ignored because I'm putting my
needs first. I'm just choosing to put myself first. I

(24:30):
think you can become so familiar with that life that
it does become hard to figure out how you would
incorporate someone else and how you would go fifty to
fifty the same way that people. You know, there are
people out there who can't imagine being alone.

Speaker 3 (24:43):
Fred I would also have hesitation if somebody has never
had a period of being single. It's the same thing
if someone could not seem to be alone. I would
also have hesitation, because I think that's so important.

Speaker 1 (24:56):
J Loo, I think that's I think that's valid. Yeah,
I think it's valin. But I also think, you know,
look for some people the awakening happens at eighteen, sixteen,
twenty five, you know whatever. For me, I'm only now,
literally at forty years old, I'm only now beginning to
sort of say, you know what, I can see it
like it makes sense to me. And the truth is,
I know that's late, But if it had happened earlier,

(25:18):
I maybe wouldn't It wouldn't have worked because I hadn't
come to that conclusion on my own. And some people
come to it earlier, some people come to it later.
I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing. I mean,
you know, a lot of questions we didn't ask what's
she in school? You know, what was she? You know,
building up a career? Was she?

Speaker 10 (25:34):
You know?

Speaker 1 (25:35):
Is there trauma? Is she working on herself? Is she
you know, There's a million different things. But again, I
think the convention seems to be, well, you know, you
meet someone, you date them for a long time, it
works out, it doesn't, then you move on to the
next one. And yet, you know, it's easy for people
to look at situations that aren't like that and then
decide that it's a problem somehow because it's not like

(25:56):
what they're used to. Uh Rachel Hi Rachel, Good morning.

Speaker 10 (26:00):
Good morning.

Speaker 1 (26:01):
Hey, So what do you think about somebody who if
you met someone today, I don't know, late twenties, early thirties,
they've never been in a relationship, would you worry about it?

Speaker 10 (26:11):
I wouldn't.

Speaker 5 (26:11):
So I'm forty three now and I met my husband
now husband at thirty seven that I had never been
in a relationship, never bought anyone home.

Speaker 9 (26:19):
I'm going to just I was working on my career.

Speaker 5 (26:22):
I didn't want to settle, like I'd rather be by
myself and be happy than be in a relationship and
be miserable.

Speaker 1 (26:29):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I think you said it
well and you feel like everything clicked, And I mean,
do you feel like your sort of lack of experience
ever caught up to you in a negative way.

Speaker 5 (26:41):
And not that I can think of, And I think
you think the same thing.

Speaker 10 (26:43):
Like we're very open.

Speaker 5 (26:44):
We haven't had a ton of arguments, but we do
disagree and we've worked through it like grown ups. And
I think that some of it is we're both so
much further in life that we learned how to have
those relationships, not romantically, but you know, like how to
deal with other people like adults. I think that really
helped our relationship.

Speaker 1 (27:02):
To be honest, Well, let me ask you this. I
don't mean to get too personal, but you know, were
kids a priority for you? Because I think that's another
thing I think that people seem to, you know, they
expedite the process, be it good or be it bad.
If you want a family, well then you know you
oftentimes you got to find somebody else to do that with.
Not always, but I mean if kids weren't a priority,

(27:22):
well then there really wasn't probably any hurry for you.

Speaker 5 (27:25):
To be honest, they really did want kids, but I
wasn't going to have kids with somebody that I didn't
love and I didn't want.

Speaker 10 (27:32):
To deal with.

Speaker 1 (27:33):
Yeah. Yeah, And I do think people they put the kids,
they put the family, they put the a lot of
things in front of you know, maybe picking the right person.
And sometimes maybe that's why I had, you know, half
of marriages end in divorce or whatever, because it's like, well,
I want a family, and I want kids, and I
want security, and I want someone to come home to
every night. But yet the fifth thing on the list

(27:55):
is I really hope they're like the you know, ideal
person for me. And I think maybe we if we
flip that whole thing around, people might be happier. But
I don't know, what do I know. I'm forty three and.

Speaker 10 (28:07):
Singles, so I agree with you, and here I am yeah.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
Well, good Rachel, Well thank you for calling, Thanks for Sharon,
have a good day. It is am I the only
one who has like minimal I guess I am. I'm
the only one who has like minimal relationship experience in
the room. Ex Hire you, Yeah, I'm only well, I mean,
but you're married and Kiki's almost maybe.

Speaker 4 (28:27):
Something there in the long terms.

Speaker 8 (28:29):
Yeah, they are long term, but it's only two and
I don't see the issue, you know, like she just
hasn't had a lot of experience and it's not a
lot of good being out here. I mean, girl, you know,
everyone has to have a first right at some point, at.

Speaker 11 (28:43):
Some point, if it's at you know, sixteen, or if
it's at thirty six, I think that's okay. Because from
my relationships, they've all been really short. That's to the
point that I don't consider that. I'm not to be mean,
but I'm just like, looking back at it now, it's
like that was a whole lot of nothing, like it
was a relationship, but like compared to my marriage, like
was it you know what I mean?

Speaker 4 (28:59):
It hits there, but you're like, okay, you really were nothing.
I was gonna say the bad words. You are really nothing,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 11 (29:06):
So like looking back at it, my husband said about
me and be like I shouldn't have long term experience.

Speaker 3 (29:11):
I didn't for sure, But you guys have now all
been in long term relationships, which I think like today, Yeah.

Speaker 11 (29:15):
Because one man gave me that opportunity. As far as
like we are, you know, we were a match. It
worked out good for sure.

Speaker 10 (29:21):
You know.

Speaker 4 (29:22):
The other guys were good.

Speaker 1 (29:23):
Jason was having sex with women before I was.

Speaker 4 (29:27):
He's a fan, and he's.

Speaker 1 (29:28):
Younger, and he's gay. So that's you know that. We
have a lot of problems. I have a lot of problems.
Never mind, I forget everything I said. I have a
lot of problems. The entertainer of for three hundred bucks