Just The Highlights! 10/01/24

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's the Fresh show. This is what's trending. A bunch
of texts about work. I'm a nurse. What's a break?
I believe it? I believe it. Let me see here,
someone of my job takes naps on the toilet when
he doesn't have any work to do. Damn. Like again,
I'm not trying to hang out in there though, even
if I'm not working. It's like I I think I'd

(00:22):
rather work. I work for a utility company, and when
we go to people's houses, we take our sweet time,
so an hour job becomes two hours. But my question
is do you are you charging somebody for two hour?
I guess you're charging the utility company for two hours,
But like, am I paying for two hours as a customer?
I hope not? Probably not. I know people that work

(00:44):
in certain government jobs where it's like they go on
a call or something, it's like this, this is gonna
take a while.

Speaker 2 (00:51):
You know.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
It's like I'm out here, so we're gonna walk around
for a while. We're gonna look at everything like we're
really gonna maybe there's nothing going on here, but I
got to justify this visit. So we're gonn to take
a little walk walk you walking around? Can you pull
all the permits? Let's take a look at that too.
And it's so annoying for you know, the people who
own the business. But it's also like this, I guess
this is how you're evaluated if you're effective. Is how
much time it takes? You know, how long you're out

(01:13):
doing what? And maybe you don't want to mess with people,
but it's like, well, I don't have that much to do,
so I'm getting paid for it. Because that's the way
the model works is I got to work eight hours
a day, so I gotta come up with eight hours
of stuff to do every single day. I work for Chase.
If you finished early, you have to stay until clockout
time or leave and use PTO for the rest. See

(01:34):
that's a bad deal. Yeah, you know, if if you
get all your stuff done and you're really efficient, then
you should Shouldn't you be rewarded for that? I guess No,
I don't know. I don't.

Speaker 2 (01:46):
I don't know Chase like that, But I don't know
what job you're leaving early, like if you finish your work,
Like if you're a teller, aren't you there for the
whole thing?

Speaker 1 (01:54):
You give your shit yeah, I gave all the money away.
I'm out of money. I don't have any money. I
talk to all the people. I talked to everybody. There's
no one left that story. So I left security. I'm
the security guard, Chase. I get done early. I'm out
of here. What Yeah, my drawers out of money. What
do you want me to do? Something? You work till well,

(02:16):
then you got Jason who's working like twenty seven hours
a day. I mean, I feel like the guy's never
not working somehow. Yeah, but wouldn't you say in some
ways that's my choice, Like you could probably put it
down at some point, but you just that you you
just don't want to.

Speaker 3 (02:28):
Yeah, I could, But like the problem with me is
like if I'm like, it's like I don't know'slock at
night and I'm like, oh, like, I just do this
because if I think about it, then tomorrow then I
have to do it on top of everything else I
have to do, and it all just like stockpiles. Right
then I'll just like rolls downhill to the next day.
So I'm like, I'm just going to get this done.
But then, yeah, it's not good because then I'm working

(02:49):
till nine pm.

Speaker 1 (02:50):
That's not good. That's how I am with email, Like
in the little bubbles, like it's just I just got
to make them go away, like because that means there's
something to do. I mean, there's something left over to do.
And if I don't do it because I don't like
the bubbles, then I either do it or make the
bubble go away and don't do it. You see what
I'm saying. So like it, I may as well just
respond to the email because otherwise if I if I
make the bubble go away, then I'll never remember. Oh so,

(03:13):
so the email is the biggest gimmick. Email is the
biggest trap out there because you know, remember like in
the early two thousands, maybe some of you don't, but
like before email was on every phone all the time.
It was like kind of a special thing if you
had a BlackBerry and you had email or whatever. But
like if somebody emailed you, they you had to be

(03:34):
near a computer to email to respond, and everybody knew that.
So like there was a very good chance that if
I wrote you an email, I wasn't going to get
a reply until tomorrow because maybe you weren't near a computer,
maybe you were traveling, maybe you were on the road.
Maybe you were, you know, living your life or whatever.
But now I know you got it, Like I know
if I send you and I didn't realize there are
rules around here, like no emails after five, which is
total bs. But I mean it's like, I know you

(03:57):
got the emails. So now I'm now I'm like, why
didn't you respond to it?

Speaker 4 (04:02):
Right?

Speaker 1 (04:03):
Come annoy it? Well what's that business hours? Well I know,
but you got it, so it's in your hand, so
right back.

Speaker 5 (04:07):
I know.

Speaker 3 (04:08):
It's about delayed delivery for me, And I feel so
bad because like someone that I work with very close,
labor day was off yesterday, so like I delayed deliver
stuff to him at eight am today, so he's back
right today, he's back. So I just know his inbox
at eight am is gonna be like Jason.

Speaker 6 (04:24):
It's all going to hit it.

Speaker 1 (04:25):
Hasn't her inbox right right? Yes?

Speaker 6 (04:28):
Or there in box?

Speaker 1 (04:30):
Yes? I see, I see, Yeah, I don't know. I
just I send the email. I just don't expect a
response because if I don't, I don't do all that
delayed delivery stuff Like I'll just hit send and if
it's after five o'clock, I don't necessarily expect you to respond.
But what I've realized is some people, if it's after
five o'clock, they just don't think they have to respond
at all. No, I've written emails to certain people that

(04:52):
work for our company that if well that actually I've
written a number of emails to people during business hours.
They just don't think they have to respond. But you know,
that's okay. It's almost like I may think it's a
therapy session or something like. No, this was a dialogue,
this was a two way thing. There was an answer
required there. But anyway, it's okay. The thing is if
you answer my question, I make up the answer and
then I just do what I want. So maybe maybe
these people just know that why are you asking the question?

(05:14):
Like you're asking me a question, but you're gonna do
what you want anyway, So why am I going to respond?
Maybe that's what it is. I'm not sure. Guys, Entertainment Tonight,
Entertainment Tonight the VP debate. Who is going to be
glued to their TV watching JD Van's take on Tim Walls.

Speaker 7 (05:29):
Everybody, Yes, yeah, I want to watch I actually want
to watch this one.

Speaker 6 (05:32):
Yeah, I already heard of some of the other ones.

Speaker 1 (05:34):
You know, yeah, heard of some of the other ones.

Speaker 7 (05:37):
Yeah, Like, I mean, Trump has already been president, So
I was like, I know what I'm going to get
with that.

Speaker 6 (05:41):
You know what I mean? Yeah, this is the one
that I want us to I'm curious.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
Maybe you should watch for Kamala then for sure, to
see what you're gonna get from her.

Speaker 6 (05:49):
I did.

Speaker 7 (05:49):
I'm just saying I'm more interested in this one because
I don't know much about them. I just want to
see these two, like square up a little. Kamala is
in office, Trump was in office for these two.

Speaker 6 (05:57):
They're new to me. Yeah, you know, I don't know
her especially. Oh, I can't wait.

Speaker 1 (06:02):
There was also a Verizon outage yesterday and my phone
was on SOS all day and then to the point
where I was checking to see if I paid my bill.
I was like, what the hell's going on? It's just
like an insufficient fund situation, Like what's going on? But
turned out it was just some kind of an outage
that was connected to the hurricane, which, by the way, unfortunately,

(06:23):
the death toll from Hurricane Helene is up to at
least one hundred and thirty people across six states in
North Carolina, South Carolina, Georgia, Florida, Tennessee, and Virginia. Six
hundred people still accounted unaccounted for rather in Asheville, North Carolina,
as the city suffers from washed out roads and bridges,
sell service outages in Black House. Extensive damage to roads

(06:43):
and infrastructure has isolated many remote communities and prevents a
crew from breaching residents with vital supplies. Some sad news
this morning as well. Pete Rose and to Kemba Matemba
legends in their own right. Pete Rose, of course, for
baseball rear hits leader who was blocked from the Hall
of Fame for gambling on the game has died.

Speaker 8 (07:05):
Now.

Speaker 1 (07:05):
Granted, you can gamble on all these games in the
Major League Baseball and all these other leagues make money
on that, but I guess as a player, you're not
supposed to do it. Nonetheless, he was eighty three years old.
A lot of people think he should have been in
the Hall of Fame, and maybe now he will be,
but he won't.

Speaker 2 (07:20):
See it, which is which would be so sad. That
they'll let him in posthumously, which is going to be
so sad.

Speaker 1 (07:27):
Nice word Rufio posthumously, but well, done. Thank you. Thanks,
that was really good happen to Ron Santo.

Speaker 2 (07:33):
Ron Santo got in posthumously, which was sad as well.

Speaker 1 (07:37):
You're doubling down on that word, Like I mean, I don't.

Speaker 6 (07:39):
Know, a little bit hard to say.

Speaker 1 (07:41):
It is a little bit hard to say. It's hard
for me to say. And I think I don't think
I would dare say it three times in a row
because I'm pretty sure by the third time it would
be b B, babe BB and Hall of Famer to
Kemy Matembo has passed away of brain cancer very young,
at the age of fifty eight. Seven foot to native
of the Democratic Republic of Congo was known for three things,

(08:03):
in particular his ability to block shots, his signature finger
wag after blocking the shots, and his humanitarian work in Africa.
Also fun fact, he spoke nine languages. Wow. Played for
a bunch of teams over eighteen years. The Nuggets, the Hawks,
the seventy six Ers, the New Jersey and NBA team Jason.

Speaker 3 (08:22):
Oh, the New Jersey Nuts. It is the right, Yeah,
not to be confused with the New York Giants of
that's football, yes, but we're talking about basketball.

Speaker 1 (08:37):
Oh, New York. The I don't know, dude, the Nickerbockers.

Speaker 6 (08:44):
Yeah, the Knicks. Oh is that?

Speaker 1 (08:46):
What is that? What Nicks is short for? Wait?

Speaker 6 (08:50):
New Jersey is now the other own team.

Speaker 1 (08:53):
They moved to Brooklyn, the Brooklyn Nets, I know that,
but they were then called the New Jersey Nets. I
did not know that.

Speaker 2 (08:58):
Yeart and then James yeah part on them. They moved
them to Brooklyn. See you guys, I'm out of here,
I see. And then uh, he played for the Houston
NBA team of course, Jason. You know the Houston NBA Horses,
the Houston Horses. Yeah, he played for them too. Yeah,
held the Rockets as well.

Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah, he was a very when I was a ball boy,
when I was eighth grade for the in eighth grade
for the Phoenix sense he was a very nice guy. Uh,
I just remember him being very nice guy with his
with his finger wag though if you see, if you know,
you know, he'd block a shot and he'd go, you know,
he can't see me doing it, but I would do it.

Speaker 2 (09:34):
No, no, no, And it wasn't that guygo commercial doing
the same thing.

Speaker 1 (09:38):
Yeah. A guy has gone viral after bidding on a
autographed tailor Swift guitar. And then by the way, I
should I should warn you that this this, uh, this
story has traumatic images for some people in the room.
You were discretion as advice. Okay, there were a couple
of people in the room who need to be you know,

(09:58):
sheltered from this story. But in that Kaylin Jason, take
your headphones off, you know, and counted thirty. Okay, everything's
gonna be okay. But a guy's gone viral forbidding on
an autographed Taylor Swift guitar and then smashing it the
moment that he got it. This guy announced to the
front of the room of the Allis County Wild Game
dinner just outside of Texas on Sunday that he was
going to pay four thousand dollars for the guitar and

(10:20):
he was going to take ownership and he was going
to go rogue and he smashed it. Hell, I'm not
really sure why he proved he did that. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (10:31):
Well he tried to say, it really didn't work in
the beginning.

Speaker 1 (10:35):
It's a nonprofit group that supports an agricultural education for
local youth and the money went to their charity. The
instrument had been donated to the auction by a third party.
It was not intended to be demolished, okay, but the
new owner made the decision to do what he wanted
with it, and he chose the aggressive beating of the guitar.
Take that, Taylor, I'm sure you learned your lesson against

(10:57):
the Ellis County Wild Game Dinner. Don't you come around
here no more? God ridiculous four thousand dollars to basically
just light it on fire. I mean, it's National Taco Tuesday,
National Taco Tuesday job everywhere, guys whoa National Fire Pup
Day recognizing the canine firefighters that have long been members

(11:19):
of fire departments across the country. National Green City Day
to highlight the progress and the innovation cities are making
to become more sustainable. And National Black Dog Day. Very specific,
but it's a National Black Dog of Day today as well.
The entertainer of Portstext's two minutes Fresh show, The Fresh
Show is on. It's Stay or go all right. Beth
is here. Hi, Beth, good morning, Welcome to the show.

(11:42):
How are you okay?

Speaker 6 (11:45):
How are you doing?

Speaker 1 (11:46):
Beth? Doing great? What's going on with your husband? We
got to hear all about this? Some group therapy actually
going on right now.

Speaker 9 (11:52):
Yeah, good, I need it. I'm sure I'm like a
lot of women out there.

Speaker 1 (11:57):
But.

Speaker 9 (11:59):
I I am not happy because it's football season and
I lose my husband during football season.

Speaker 1 (12:09):
So I need some advice here.

Speaker 9 (12:10):
He's had tickets like his whole life, and it's just
that thing where every Sunday during football season he gets
up early, he tailgates, He's gone like the entire day.
And I don't know, even if I liked football, it's
not like I could go with him because we have kids.

Speaker 3 (12:29):
But I need some advice how to handle this.

Speaker 9 (12:33):
I feel like if the roles are reversed and I
was going out drinking with my friends on like every
Saturday during the summer, he would look at me like
I was cravy.

Speaker 6 (12:43):
So I just do that.

Speaker 1 (12:45):
Why do you come up with some form of compromise.
I'm not saying that you're not right to find it
annoying but to you, but I mean, like, why not
come up with some form of compromise. Why don't you say, hey,
I want to do this.

Speaker 9 (12:59):
I feel like I don't. I just I don't know.
It just feels i'd rather he just chill out a
little bit and maybe go like half the time as
opposed to being like full out every time.

Speaker 2 (13:11):
We don't know, Come on, now, what do you mean
he's had You said, he's had these tickets since he
was for forever, since he was a kid or whatever
it is you knew going into this relationship what things get.

Speaker 6 (13:24):
Married and says you know, but this is something.

Speaker 1 (13:26):
As he well knows. He looking look at roof being
all big time. Oh you know what you tell you
don't what you tell the little lady over here that
this is what I'm gonna do. We just did a
story a couple of days ago about how you you
got tricked into not even tricked. It was well, you're
welcome to come, but what that meant is your ass
is coming and you went, so you know how it goes.

Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah, but I mean this is this is totally different,
like he's had these tickets forever.

Speaker 1 (13:52):
Like if you have season tickets or something.

Speaker 2 (13:54):
You not like for like it's it is like you
literally pay for it and so you don't want to go.

Speaker 6 (14:00):
I mean, like his life is different now and that's
just the reality of it.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
But this is something that this is something that he's
had before before they were even together.

Speaker 1 (14:07):
So like some things they don't have to change like
it does.

Speaker 2 (14:09):
I mean, let him have his thing like he's he
has like some passion for it.

Speaker 1 (14:15):
You know what I'm saying. Let him do his stuff. Well,
I used to stay out till four in the morning,
get the club and hook up with bottle girls.

Speaker 6 (14:21):
Like this, he's going passion.

Speaker 1 (14:23):
He's going tickets to the bottle girls forever. Stop now
like he's going to like it's only going to the
home games. It's not like he's going to every road game.

Speaker 6 (14:34):
But leaving in the morning drinking all day, probably after.

Speaker 2 (14:38):
Knew that going into this, this is what this is
a this is his hobby.

Speaker 1 (14:42):
This is what he's done for his whole life. You
want to know as you this go ahead quick.

Speaker 10 (14:47):
I was gonna say the reason why she can't do
the same when it comes to like I don't know
every Sunday she'll be brunching in the summer, is because I.

Speaker 6 (14:53):
Guarantee she's a default parent.

Speaker 10 (14:55):
So her doing that every Sunday or Saturday whatever, it
requires more work to get ready, to get the kids, babysitters,
all of that.

Speaker 6 (15:02):
So it's for her it's not even worth it. So
he is lucky. He can even do that? Does that
make sense?

Speaker 1 (15:06):
And where this This is where.

Speaker 2 (15:07):
Frick comes in and says, you know, there's got to
be some kind of compromise, like is Saturday's heurday or whatever?

Speaker 1 (15:13):
You know, Saturdays are for the girls. Whatever. Let me ask,
Let me ask my question, Let me ask my questions, Rufio,
thank you, Beth. Is he a good father overall, like
outside of the whatever seventeen weeks or how many weeks
the NFL season is now? I mean, dude, is this
guy doing a good job? Yes?

Speaker 9 (15:32):
I can't even Yes, he's a great dad. He's a
great dad, six days of the week.

Speaker 4 (15:37):
Great.

Speaker 3 (15:37):
I gotta say he's great.

Speaker 1 (15:39):
Okay, so he's a good dad. It's not you know whatever,
ten home games, nine home games, whatever it is. He's
been doing it forever with his family, with his family, brothers, sister.
I don't know who all goes to this thing. I
don't know why you can't go necessarily. Why can't you
hire a babysitter and then you guys go together occasionally
at least.

Speaker 9 (16:00):
I mean, listen, you're making it sound better than it feels.
But I mean I hear you like that?

Speaker 1 (16:07):
Does sound like a good solution.

Speaker 3 (16:09):
It feels like a lot of work.

Speaker 9 (16:10):
We have three kids, Like it's just a deal. But
now that I'm like saying it out loud, I feel
like that sounds fair. It's one of them.

Speaker 1 (16:21):
I'm not trying to make you feel that about you know,
your needs, of your requests, or or you know the
fact that you guys are in a relationship now and
have kids and have to do things together. I'm not
I'm not suggesting that. I'm not asking you to backtrack
on on what you called. I guess I'm just wondering
if there's not a compromise where everybody, Yeah, you know,
you're not gonna get everything you want. He won't get
everything he wants. But like I mean, if he's a

(16:44):
great dad, doesn't I say something in itself about yeah, is.

Speaker 9 (16:50):
There a where like I get a couple of those days.
But like I hear you like that that just makes
both parents busy one day though, and I want it
to be like the opposite.

Speaker 6 (16:59):
I would look at you funny if you did the
same thing one hundred percent. Yeah, that's just what goes
with it. And also to you, I guarantee you if
you go out to brunja. Whatever you do for the
whole day.

Speaker 10 (17:07):
I'm talking like, from morning till night, you're gonna get
blown up by your husband one hundred times.

Speaker 6 (17:11):
Where are the bottles? Where's this?

Speaker 10 (17:12):
Where's the formula? Where's extra diapers? I can't find this because.

Speaker 2 (17:16):
I'm a wife and father and I do daddy duties
all day, all weekend.

Speaker 1 (17:21):
I'm not calling my wife.

Speaker 6 (17:23):
Majority of men, I will say to hold on.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
Now, hold on. Not every guy is a complete dumbassy.
I will say that God, like my brother in law,
for all the crap I've given him, is an extremely
capable father. Now, my sister will tell you that she
does everything better. And I love my sister, but I'm
not sure if that's true. That's what she thinks. But
he does a great job. And so I don't know

(17:48):
that it necessarily means just because you're not what And
by the way, maybe this is a complex that he's developed.
I'm not saying this is your fault, Bath or Paulineair, whomever,
but maybe he's like, look, I'm not gonna do it anyway,
So I'm gonna go to my football game and you
watch the kids, and that's what we're doing. Because he's
of the mindset that no matter what he does, he
won't be right anyway.

Speaker 6 (18:07):
Yeah, no one does it better.

Speaker 10 (18:09):
I just I know how this game goes because I
live it and I understand it. That's why I'm more
comforty with my baby sometimes going to my mom's because
I feel like she won't be blowing me up. It'll
be a little less stress free. I'm not saying all
men are like this. I'm just saying from what I see,
especially on TikTok and social media, I'm not the only
one who thinks this way.

Speaker 6 (18:25):
Or lives this life.

Speaker 1 (18:26):
I mean, rufio. When when Ess goes to work every
day and you have you know, you guys swap right.
You work in the morning and then you come home
and then essentially she goes to work and you watch
the kids. You're not calling her every five minutes asking
her how to do it? Right, No, I mean you're asleep,
So it's not like, oh, no, I'm kidding. I'm kidding.

Speaker 2 (18:45):
Yeah, no, I'm kidding. Yeah, I got two kids. I
take care of a newborn, I take I take Ash
into school. It's and you do, and you do a
great job with that. But I'm just saying I know
how this goes for a lot of people. Unfortunately, not
that you can't just I can't assume. And every dad's
the same. They don't know what they're doing, but it
happens a lot, it does. But you know, there are
really good dads out there.

Speaker 10 (19:05):
One hundred percent I have. I have a good husband
and a good dad. I want to be very clear,
but I'll call my mom first.

Speaker 7 (19:10):
Even if Dad Tex questions, it doesn't make them a
bad dad, right saying that boom aneriot. It's just different
from others, even scientifically it is. It feels different. Period
eight point five three five.

Speaker 1 (19:21):
You can context to say number Beth, I'm gonna take
some phone calls and we're gonna talk about you behind
your back. But good luck with this. Have the radio
on and and thank you for calling her for sharing.
We appreciate you.

Speaker 9 (19:31):
Thank you, Bob.

Speaker 1 (19:34):
Here's Bob sucked Bob, Hi.

Speaker 4 (19:36):
Bob, what's up guys, Bob.

Speaker 1 (19:39):
So, just to recap here, Beth calls this because her
husband has season tickets to football and he goes every
week and he has basically his whole life, and so
I don't know, seven eight nine Sundays whatever, it is
a year. He's gone for the day and he's out
drinking and having a good time. She's at home with
three kids. Sounds like she's kind of over it and

(20:00):
want us to know, you know, how to how to
manage this. What would you say?

Speaker 4 (20:06):
Well, you got she's got to do exactly what my
wife did with me when it comes to my golfing
with my buddies. She sat me down. I had to
come to Jesus moment. She said, are you an individual
or are you a team in this thing of arts?
I was like, WHOA. So that I really thought about it,
I was like, you know what, she's taking care of
the kids a lot while I'm working, and I was like, oh,
the guys want to go play around the golf, let's go.
She's like, no, get your ass home and be a dad.

(20:29):
And it worked. So that's what she needs to do,
you know. I mean, because again, either you're a teammate
because that's what husbands and wives are, or you're an
individual doing your own thing on your own terms, and
that's when it doesn't work.

Speaker 1 (20:42):
So Bob, there's no will. He goes to these games,
you know, on Sundays, and again I'm not minimizing her
at all. I'm not minimizing her complaint. But like in
a big picture, she says he's a great dad. She says,
she does a good job. There's no world in which
he goes to these games. And then she they compromises,
she gets to do something else.

Speaker 4 (21:04):
Well, I mean, it's like my wife wants to go
do something. I tell her go, like you go to
that concert with your girls, go to dinner, go to
that long weekend. I got, I got the girls, you
know what I mean. And that's just the way it's
got to be. It's give and take, you know what
I mean. It can't be you know, if I'm working
seventy hours a week and then oh, I go play golf.
Is an all day thing. For those of my fellow

(21:25):
golfers out there, it's not a three hour game. It's
an all day extravaganza. And then you're going to have
some beverages afterwards.

Speaker 1 (21:31):
So yeah, no, Bob, No, it's not an all day
it's not.

Speaker 2 (21:35):
It's oh things if I play golf with I'm allowed
to play golf.

Speaker 1 (21:40):
I play golf and I go home. I don't. I
don't sit there like you got to play with.

Speaker 2 (21:44):
Us then communicate to you, Bob, because you're taking all days.

Speaker 6 (21:51):
It's all day.

Speaker 1 (21:55):
Customer, Bobby, You're okay, We appreciate your calling. Bob's ever
gonna listen again. Thanks for whatever doing, Bob, You sundicap.

Speaker 2 (22:15):
I'm drinking all day and that I'm going to eat
lunch with my boys, no play golf and get your body.

Speaker 1 (22:19):
Then get your ass home and take care of the kids.
I like it. Granted, that sounds like a lot more
like you know, every Sunday, or I suppose every Sunday
when the weather's nice, versus a few Sundays during football.
I mean, I do feel like in the grand scheme
of things, there is a compromise to be hot here
that you know, we're not talking about hey all weekend.

(22:39):
Every weekend, I'm gone all the time, and you got
to watch the kids, and I'm not ever gonna do
anything else. I mean, if this guy were a loser
and a bad dad and negligent in other ways, and
then he also didn't care about Sundays, but she said, hey,
he's a good dad, he does a great job, and
this is the compromise, and he's been doing it forever.
I just I think they got to talk about it.

(23:00):
What it sounds like, it doesn't like. There's a whole
lot of a whole lot of talking going on. Hey, Jeffrey,
good morning.

Speaker 2 (23:06):
Hey, how you doing?

Speaker 1 (23:07):
Hey man, what do you want to say? Welcome?

Speaker 5 (23:10):
You know what, I got a bunch of friends who
goes through this with their with their wives.

Speaker 4 (23:16):
This is what I think a couple of things.

Speaker 5 (23:17):
I think that women know before they get married what
their husband's creature. Husbands go through on Sundays, and they're
fine with it when they're dating. What happens is that
what they get married, they try to change. They try
to change what their husbands are doing. I got a
bunch of friends who went through that. And secondly, things

(23:39):
have changed now. Men are much more hands on. I'm
a husband and my father, uh and I do a
lot more. I've probably basically raised my kids a lot
more than my wife does because she goes out and
I'm an entrepreneur. I'm able to do a lot more,
be able to be their hands on. I do a
lot more things hands on with my kids versusly what
my wife does.

Speaker 1 (23:59):
And so things have changed now. And Jeffrey, thank you man,
I appreciate you. Calling, have a great day, thanks for
listening to I hear what you're saying, Pauline. I do,
and I think a lot of people can agree with you,
because I think you guys tend to take the reins and.

Speaker 10 (24:17):
It just is, you know, the default parent thing, like
whether we want to or not, that is what we
fall into as women for the most part, unless you're
the guy, which is called apparently he's raising those kids solo.

Speaker 1 (24:28):
I want to make sure that we're not that we're
not perpetuating any kind of stigma that that men are
incapable of doing this. And you didn't say that, And
I'm not saying I I said, you didn't say that.
But I also think that there is an implication that
only mom can do it right, and with moms out there,
then dad's gonna screw it up. And I don't think
that's necessarily true. I mean, I think I think it's
also kind of I don't want to say control thing,

(24:51):
but that maternal instinct that like I need to be there,
I need to do it. And I do think that
it's a real thing. I see it with my family
where moms has a really hard time letting go and
saying I'm gonna love you know, the kid's gonna be fine.
It's not gonna get done my way, but everything's gonna
be okay, and I can go out and enjoy my day.
I think sometimes not all the time. Maybe that's a

(25:11):
little bit self fulfilling, where it's like if you just said, hobby,
handle it and you left, I think you'd be okay.
The guy's a firefighter, he's a paramedic, like you'd be okay.
But I think you have to let yourself do that,
and I think for a lot of reasons it's difficult
for women to do that.

Speaker 10 (25:27):
Sometimes one hundred percent agree what you're saying. I think
with us, it's I'm working on it. I do, you know,
go to the store now and say, hey, you know whatever,
handle it. And he does a great job, and he
watches her every morning. They're together right now, like that's
his job is to be a father. When he said home,
he's gonna watch his kid. I'm just you're right, I'm
trying to let go a little bit. And at the
end of the day, I still think that it's like
a primal thing. It's like this mental thing, like that

(25:48):
baby was attached to me so I think I'm always
gonna feel this separation anxiety from her, you know what
I mean. So if I go out for a whole day,
I'll be like, he'll be calling me, I'll be texting him,
and I don't know if it's really worth it as much.

Speaker 8 (25:59):
You know.

Speaker 1 (26:00):
Well, I guess where I'm coming from here is that
she says he's a good dad. She also says, basically,
I'm not gonna take the same days even if he'd
give them to me, because and I'm paraphrasing here, it's
just too much work and it's gonna be a mess.
He's gonna screw it up. I don't know if that's true.
I mean, she she herself said he's a great dad.
So I guess what I mean is maybe there is

(26:22):
compromise here. She's just not willing to see it. And
I think it's probably unfair or maybe unfair in some
ways to say, well, you know, yeah, he says I
can go out with my girls on Saturdays, but I
just I'm not gonna do it because he's gonna screw
everything up. It's like, well, but you said he was
a great dad, so maybe he won't. Maybe you should
take those days for yourself and have a great day,

(26:44):
and maybe this is less of a problem because there's
your compromise.

Speaker 10 (26:47):
Yeah, I think they need some form of compromise or
like every home game or whatever, let's just say, maybe
that's Sunday, there's something going on that she wants him
to be a part of. I don't know, the pumpkin
patch with Rufel or something, you know what I mean
that I feel like, then he needs to not go
to this this football game, and that's it.

Speaker 6 (27:01):
Period.

Speaker 10 (27:01):
But maybe, yeah, maybe he can't go out on you know,
every whatever game.

Speaker 6 (27:05):
If it's in town, he wants to go, that's fine.

Speaker 10 (27:08):
But if there's something else going on or she doesn't
want him to go, I think that's also okay.

Speaker 6 (27:12):
They're a family now, they're a unit.

Speaker 1 (27:14):
Yeah, Oh, I think every Sunday blanket, I'm going there's
nothing to do about it, YadA, YadA. I don't know
if that's that's certainly not the attitude to take. But again,
if he's offering compromise and she's saying no, because well
he just won't. He just won't get the job done.
She said it was a great dad, So I mean,
I guess I don't I'm a little confused about that.
Hey Courtney, good morning.

Speaker 8 (27:36):
Hi, good morning friend.

Speaker 1 (27:37):
Hi, what do you want to say? Good morning, Thanks
for calling. Thanks.

Speaker 8 (27:42):
So I think it's definitely a compromise situation. But I
really just wanted to say, rufaio, this is.

Speaker 4 (27:47):
Not about you, baby.

Speaker 8 (27:48):
You do not have to feel this defensive. You are
a good dad. You're doing a great job. This is
about their situation. And I think that there can't be
just okay, well she gets the same amount of days.
It is a different situation. He's taking it, however, many
sundays away from the family, like they need to have
a serious conversation about priorities.

Speaker 2 (28:07):
I think I don't know where the defensive like defensive
like what Like I was offending you know, other dads
out there because of the statement that Paulina was making
that like the mom's better than dad, you know what
I'm saying, So like that's that's why I was getting defensive,
because not all dads are are bad.

Speaker 6 (28:26):
But I'm sure no nobody's saying that.

Speaker 8 (28:28):
It's It's just every situation is different, and I'm I'm
a mom. I'm with you, Paulina, Like it is a
different situation. Leaving the kids at home than when the
non mom partner gets to go out, and like there's
just a different level of separation. And that doesn't mean
that he's not a good dad. It's just like maybe
they need to have some practice, he needs to stay
home with the kids more whatever, to get comfortable. But

(28:51):
I just want to say, like you, it's not a
reflection on you as a dad. If we're talking about
one person maybe not being a great.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
Dad all the time, Like con thank you, I appreciate you,
have a great day.

Speaker 6 (29:02):
Yeah, you too.

Speaker 1 (29:03):
I just I get defensive over my brother in law
because again, and who knew? Who knew years ago that
I would be the guy sticking up for him. I
love my sister so much and she does a great job.
But I came from a long line of type, a
very strong, stubborn women who their way is the only way.
And I love them and I appreciate that, and I'm
used to it. I was raised by it forty three years.
My sister is one, my niece, my nieces will both

(29:25):
be women like that and they're strong and they're incredible.
But my sister will complain about the way Colin does stuff,
and he's these kids are not in peril at all.
They're spoiled rotten by this guy. He's an incredible girl.

Speaker 8 (29:39):
Dad.

Speaker 1 (29:39):
He's incredible dad. And I think some of the things
I hear about are, like, by god, there are so
many women that would love to have a guy who
takes the kids and gets them out of the house
on Saturday morning so that you can sleep in, and
takes them to the park and takes initiative and does
all these things. He's fully capable of it. Now, is
he going to do it the way she's going to
do it? No? But I think sometimes what he's combating
is that eternal instinct that you're talking about, and that's

(30:02):
not entirely fair.

Speaker 10 (30:04):
Yeah, I mean, listen, I feel like there needs to
be compromised.

Speaker 6 (30:08):
But at the end of the day, I just I
don't know. I don't know.

Speaker 10 (30:10):
I'm not saying all the other are not capable, because
they are capable. You didn't say that, you know what
I mean. It's just different. No, I know, but I'm
just echoing what we said earlier. But I don't know,
it's just different man, you know, being a.

Speaker 2 (30:19):
Woman, I'm just saying like it's I mean, it's eight
eight Sundays out of three hundred and sixty five days,
and it's not like back to back Sunday sometimes. You know,
he's only going to home games. He's not They could
be on the road for two weeks in a row
and they're together. You know what I'm saying, Yeah, every Sunday.

Speaker 10 (30:37):
And a lot of people are texting too. Sorry, they're
just texting and saying that, you know, she's so selfish
in that, But like, why are we judging like what
bothers her or like what you know doesn't work for
her family? Because I think that's not fair either. We're
all like, oh, she's so selfish, she's such a this
and that, but like they're not their family, we're not
her like that bothers her, That bothers her.

Speaker 1 (30:52):
Yeah, well, and someone texted Fred being a good dad
doesn't mean you get to ignore your family one day
a week. Okay, that's a little extreme, right, Well, I
guess I guess that's the exact point that I'm making
is I just want to be sure that and I
don't know these people, right, I mean they call the radio.
I don't know people, but I want to make sure
that he's not offering up a compromise and she's not
deciding not to take it because well, I don't know,

(31:14):
it's just it's too much work, or you know, because
maybe it's that she's just not comfortable with that, and
that's okay. But you know, just because he's gone every
Sunday during football season, every other Sunday or whatever, I
guess I don't know that that means we don't know
the other side of this, is all I'm arguing. You know,
maybe maybe there is a compromise here and she doesn't
want to take it, and he's gonna have to give

(31:36):
a little more. Maybe he doesn't get to go to
every single game. Maybe he's gonna have to give in
a little bit more than he's already giving. But I
think everyone's just assuming that one person or the other
is a bad person here, or one person or the
other is selfish, and I think, you know, maybe there's
a little bit of going on on both sides where
everyone needs to kind of rethink how this goes. Maybe

(31:56):
I don't know, I don't know these people.

Speaker 6 (31:57):
What do you think that I don't have a dance
so I can't play this game?

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