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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Order us a fresh show. Its courting, all right, the
honorable is here. Uh take it away, Okay.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Let's get into that here at this one says, hey,
KIKEI my name is Anthony. I just turned twenty one,
and I recently decided to leave my four year university
and move back home to try a trade school. I
thought my mom would be really disappointed, but surprisingly, she
was very supportive of my decision. My mom divorced my
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stepdad a few months ago, and he left her to
raise my six year old twin sisters alone. Since I've
been back home, I've been helping babysit my sisters and
it's been working out great for my mom and saving
her a lot of money. Well, we just ran into
our first issue because after being unemployed for months, I
was excited to tell my mom that I landed a
job with a great company. To my surprise, my mom
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never said congratulations, but instead said, oh great, Now, who's
gonna watch the girls?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Now? I feel horrible.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I start the job in two weeks and I am
now considering just declining the offer to stay home and
help my mom. She's been very rude and short with
me since I told her about the opportunity. But in
my defense, I am not the father of her kids.
This should not be my responsibility. What should I do?
This is her son, This is her son that's apparently
supposed to be keeping track of these kids. Wow, mom's off,
(01:27):
I mean, And now how much how much financial support
does she provided the son?
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Well, he's living in her house. He moved home from college,
living in her.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
House, paying for school too. Well, did you mention them?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
He was supposed to start a trade school. But it
looks like he just lent is supposed to pay for
that though, do we know? I'm okay, yeah, huh.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
I mean, but he has every right to go start
a life for himself, doesn't he.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
That's what I say, I think, Anthony, in my opinion,
you are right, this is not your responsibility. You're being
a good big brother by helping your mom is obviously
helping you. You're living in her house at this point point.
But I just I feel like parents who should always
set their kids up for success. And I know she's
in a tough spot right now with the stepdad running
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off and leaving her with the girls, But like SIS,
you have to find other options.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
It's not his burden to take care of his sisters.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Yeah, she's got to hold the stepdad.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Okay, yeah, you gotta hold somebody accountable because it's not
Anthony's responsibility. And I know how that may feel to him,
Like now he's not He's like maybe I'll just stay
home and help her, you know, Like you want to
help your parents in every way that you can't you can,
but their children are not your responsibility. I had people
in high school, friends in high school who were the
shout out to all the older siblings, like, if you're
the whole sibling, if you're the oldest in your family,
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you are the strongest soldier. Because let me just tell you,
your parents had you nine times out of ten. They
don't know what they were doing. You know, you were
the experimental child and now you getting therapy. Yeah, the
responsibility of your siblings. Like my sister raised me, but
literally that was because my mom was like dead, you know,
she didn't have a choice. I just ended up on
her doorstep and she was an angel and took me in.
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But at the end of the day, I was not
her responsibility. That I was really my father's responsibility. So like,
if you're able to help your parents by all means
help your parents, but you can't. You can't guilt trip
your son to take care of his sisters.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
That's not right. Mm.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
And it sounds like he's been helping out a lot
as it is. Yeah, so it's not like he hasn't
tried to step up, right, But he has every right
to go off and you know, do what he needs
to do to start his own life and grow his
own family and do his own thing. And I'm sure
he can still help out a little bit, but I mean, ultimately,
what's he supposed to do? Be their caregiver forever and
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they never create a life for himself.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Right.
Speaker 5 (03:40):
It's hard because I feel like in a lot of
cultures too, the parents will make you feel guilty for
even leaving. You know, who's going to take care of
the rest of the kids, Who's going to take care
of me? You know, like like the parent will say,
you know, like mom and dad, they're getting older.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
So I think that it's a really tough spot that she's.
Speaker 5 (03:56):
In, like you said, Kiki, but you know, he's got
a what does it flap his wings spreading.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
Out that house wings like Nellie said, drop down, get
your right.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
He has to do what he's got to do.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
But to friend's point, who was paying for school and
he was in school? And who was was going to
pay for the school he was going to go to?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
But guess what did I have you? Or did you
have me?
Speaker 4 (04:18):
I had you.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I'm the parent.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
It's my responsibility to pay for your schooling. You're not
doing me a favor by supporting me through school. That's
that's what your job as a parent. You're not doing
me any favors. I'm sorry, I look at it that way,
like it's a you know, every parent is not able
to do it, but you are my parent, and so
if anybody's going to get me through school, it should
be you.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Yeah, there does come a point I think where you
do have to be I'm not gonna say it's full
circle moment, but there's definitely a time in life where
you have to be supportive of your parents because maybe
they're too old to care for them so or at
least at least watch over them.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
But like, we are so far away from that, and
I hate when the parents try and and my mom
and dad didn't do this, and my adopted dad, I
didn't do this. But when they try and flip it
on you, like somehow as a kid you have you
have like equal obligation. It's like, no, I have an
obligation to be your son or daughter, and I have
an obligation and then go out and make the best
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life I can for myself based on the way that
you've set me up, or to do better than I've done.
Speaker 4 (05:20):
That's another thing.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Who's to say he doesn't go out get this, you know,
training and get a job and then he's able to
help out even more. Not that that's his burden, but
like again, you know, he's going out and try and
make a life for himself. He's trying to create a
career and a life and all these things. If he
stays in the house and watches his siblings all day,
then he's never going to have the opportunity to do that.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
And that's not fair.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
And he didn't make those kids.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
He did not.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
And so if you're going to get on anybody, it
should be the stepdad for being negligent, not the son
who has been trying all this time. It is now
like hey, I'm twenty one, let's go out and do something. Yeah, yeah,
eight five five five three five you guys at the
jury on Keicky's court along with us.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
It's so sad.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
I feel I really do feel bad for the mom
because I know she's in a tough spot. But like
I just hate when parents put their burdens on their children,
you know, it's just not fair.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
Or when they try to tell you, like all I've
done for you, it's like you're on Perry.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
What do you think sposed to do? I was gonna
wait my own butt. I didn't ask to be here,
thank you.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
Yeah, I mean there's definitely I think.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
You want to be grateful, you know, you want to
be helpful, of course, but you also they created you,
they brought you in and now you you know, there's
a time when you go out into the world and
then make a life for yourself. Yes, and yeah, maybe
someday full circle, it comes back years and years and
years from now where you kind of maybe go back
and help them in their later years, but not now,
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and not with the kids that you didn't make in
the relationship that's defunct. That she probably needs to go
find that guy and say where's the money for the babysitters?
Speaker 4 (06:50):
Or why aren't you involved?
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Right?
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Because yeah, I agree that's a whole other court case.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Come on there, Yeah, child sporty daddy, where is he?
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You can call intact the same number eight five five
five one one three five going through somebody's text my boyfriend.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
This is from Cassandra.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
My boyfriend's the oldest of four with two having a
twelve and thirteen year old age gap. He doesn't want
kids now because he had to take care of them
and change diapers as a teenager. He had to help
financially everything. It completely ruined his desire for a family.
He needs to take a job and start his career.
It's not fair. And yeah, it's not fair for the
mom to guilt him. School is irrelevant. Mom is responsible
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for kids, not the siblings. Mom is wrong.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Wait a minute, school is irrelevant.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
To pay for school.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Your parents do not need to pay for college. Last
born does more than you will ever know or think.
Firstborn may help with the young kids, but try taking
care of your older, aging, dying parents, because that is
the last born job.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Oh, they're saying, the baby of the family always gets
stuck with the parents.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
Maybe I mean maybe, yeah, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
My younger brother's definitely taken on all.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
The Yeah, does my sister expect me to do this
because she has kids. Probably I hey Caitlin, Hi, Hey,
good boys, you heard Keiky's court.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
What do you think it is?
Speaker 6 (08:13):
This is such a generational thought. It is not the
child's responsibility to raise their children. They are still a child,
they are still their parents' child. So at the end
of the day, regardless of you know, if you have
your younger siblings, of course you know you're going to
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want to help out. You're going to want to hopefully
want to be there for your siblings. But it's not
that kid's responsibility to raise them. They have their own
lives to make. We want better for our children. We
want our children to have better than we had. And
if we keep putting this generational well, I brought you
into this world, and how are you going to help me?
Our children are never going.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
To do better than us.
Speaker 6 (08:54):
It's just a constant generational cycle that's going to keep repeating.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
That's so true.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
I'm sure it's hard because she doesn't have a lot
of options and she trusts her son and all the
rest of it. But like he has every right to
go out. I've said it one hundred times in this segment.
He has every right to go out and create for himself,
and who knows, maybe someday he's able and maybe he's
able to help out a little bit, and maybe someday,
you know, it comes full circle once he creates a
life for himself. But like again, he's got to be
able to do that. Yep, yeah, thank you, have a
(09:22):
great job. He's got to take the job, Tony, Tony,
he's got to take the job.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Right, Yes, take the job.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
It's hard to find good jobs down here, and it's
it's not his responsibility to it as the kids.
Speaker 7 (09:34):
He can help the mom with the girls, but he
has to take that job.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Yeah, I think so too, And I don't know what
mom's going to do. But again, where's the deadbeat dad?
Speaker 4 (09:43):
He don't.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Yeah, they got to figure that out. But don't turn
down the job to babysit.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
Yeah, it's gonna be an awkward household. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
And then like yeah, because now, like holidays are coming
up and if the mom is acting weird, she's been
very short with him in Ruin ever since he broke
the news.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
That is not right. That's your key.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
The mom is the grown up, the kid is the kids. Yes, yeah,
thank you should be excited job. You're right, Hey, Tony,
have a great day. Thank you for listening. Thanks time
a going my Thanks for being part of the thirteen.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
We love you. Hey, Margot, good morning, Good morning missus.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
Margot from Humble Park, Okay. And a single mom of
four kids who are now twenty three, twenty two, and
I have twins that are nineteenth and I did it
all on my own.
Speaker 7 (10:35):
You know, there's many programs for the mom to get
here before she starts work doing work, So she shouldn't
put the burden on her son to give up a
good job to become a babysitter.
Speaker 6 (10:49):
It doesn't work that way.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
And you live this life and you managed to make
it work. And I'm sure you want your kids out
there now that they're growing up. I'm sure you want
them out there creating lives of their own and finding
success of their own. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (11:01):
And I'm still paying for my daughter's school. She took
the music engineering and she graduated already in the payment
is more than a cardinal. Well here, I am still
tipping away in You're.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Doing amazing well.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Good for you. Yes, and thank you for calling him
for sharre And have a great day, Margo. Thanks for
listening to so you don't have to pay for this entertainment.
This is free, so you know, I mean, and you
can tell that it's free when you listen to it, exactly. So, Cassie,
do you know in the text a minute ago, Yes,
you texted me. So it's your boyfriend then, who basically
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you feel like he doesn't even want a family now
because he puts so much energy into raising his younger siblings.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (11:48):
So, I mean he you know, his mom is around
and everything like that, and she she was like a
nanny and stuff, and he had a step Dawn and everything.
And he actually has two step brothers too, so he's
the oldest of six technically. But yeah, so his two
youngest siblings are twelve and thirteen years younger. And so,
I mean he was a thirteen year old boy changing
diapers at you know, midnight, helping out and doing all
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of these things, and financially as well. I mean, he
had to move back after college and you know, helped
out and with the house bills and the driving around
and this and that and everything and so and still
to this day he is the one that everyone goes to,
like she is always the one. So now he's kind
of at that point where he's like, I don't want kids,
I want my freedom. I didn't get it.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
He feels like he's already raised kids.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
Yeah, it's like he already did this and that.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Yeah, and it's almost like reversed, right because as a
teenager he was doing this and now that he's a
grown up, he doesn't want to do it anymore. But
I'm sure you wanted to do it because you probably
want to get married and have a family, right, I.
Speaker 7 (12:47):
Mean, yeah, it's definitely been a topic because we're actually
ten years apart, so I mean he's in his late
thirties now and I'm you know, in my late twenties,
and so it's definitely been a topic of like, okay,
so you know, is this a make it, break it
kind of deal because I haven't reached that point yet
where I've made that decision. But he's like a hard
like absolutely not not happening, and you know.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
So definitely, yeah, you don't. You can have your own
damn segment have the same time tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
That's got to be hard, that's got to be So
when do you then, when do you, Cassie make the decision?
Like I mean, ultimatums never work, really, I mean, when
do you decide if this relationship is for you if
you have those goals and he maybe doesn't.
Speaker 7 (13:33):
I mean to be honest, like, I absolutely love him,
and that's really to me. It could. It could be
either way for me, Like, if it happened, great, If not,
that's okay. I'm personally not like a huge kids person,
but I also know that that's different when you have
your own, so like, I think that's a whole that's
a whole different thing. But I love him more than
that's really important to me, so I think that ultimately
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I'd rather just do with him than anything.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
So well, well, thank you for sharing. I'm sure that's hard,
but we appreciate it and have a great day.
Speaker 4 (14:02):
Thank you you too. Yeah, we'll see him stair go
here pretty soon.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Yeah, that's a shout out to her forgiving him grace,
Like she understands that he's been through the trauma of
raising kids and now he doesn't want any.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Yeah, I just and I'm sure you know, they'll figure
it out. But I hope that she never comes later
to resent him, I know, because she sort of. I mean, kids,
we all make sacrifices, right, Like, you know, if we
love somebody enough, then we give up things. They give
up things and whatever. But that one is the one
that seems to sort of linger because I know people
who have met and said, okay, find no kids, and
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they agree on that because one's really hardcore in one corner,
ones in the other, and it tends to resurface. It
tends to resurface years later once the relationship is intact,
and it can cause resentment on both sides because it's like, wait, minute,
we agreed on this. I told you it was okay
if you needed to go. But we agreed on this,
and then now here we are again. Yeah, and people
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change their minds. But like, I don't know, but he
needs to take that job.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Right, Anthony, take the joboo, and we're gonna get mam,
gonna get it together.
Speaker 7 (15:01):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Well, I'm glad you got right too. If we've been
making this man wait a month for this decision.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
I'm sorry, Anthony. Hopefully you took the job and go
to school
Speaker 4 (15:11):
To Malan Strawberry
Order us a fresh show. Its courting, all right, the
honorable is here. Uh take it away, Okay.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Let's get into that here at this one says, hey,
KIKEI my name is Anthony. I just turned twenty one,
and I recently decided to leave my four year university
and move back home to try a trade school. I
thought my mom would be really disappointed, but surprisingly, she
was very supportive of my decision. My mom divorced my
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stepdad a few months ago, and he left her to
raise my six year old twin sisters alone. Since I've
been back home, I've been helping babysit my sisters and
it's been working out great for my mom and saving
her a lot of money. Well, we just ran into
our first issue because after being unemployed for months, I
was excited to tell my mom that I landed a
job with a great company. To my surprise, my mom
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never said congratulations, but instead said, oh great, Now, who's
gonna watch the girls?
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Now? I feel horrible.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I start the job in two weeks and I am
now considering just declining the offer to stay home and
help my mom. She's been very rude and short with
me since I told her about the opportunity. But in
my defense, I am not the father of her kids.
This should not be my responsibility. What should I do?
This is her son, This is her son that's apparently
supposed to be keeping track of these kids. Wow, mom's off,
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I mean, And now how much how much financial support
does she provided the son?
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Well, he's living in her house. He moved home from college,
living in her.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
House, paying for school too. Well, did you mention them?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
He was supposed to start a trade school. But it
looks like he just lent is supposed to pay for
that though, do we know? I'm okay, yeah, huh.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
I mean, but he has every right to go start
a life for himself, doesn't he.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
That's what I say, I think, Anthony, in my opinion,
you are right, this is not your responsibility. You're being
a good big brother by helping your mom is obviously
helping you. You're living in her house at this point point.
But I just I feel like parents who should always
set their kids up for success. And I know she's
in a tough spot right now with the stepdad running
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off and leaving her with the girls, But like SIS,
you have to find other options.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
It's not his burden to take care of his sisters.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Yeah, she's got to hold the stepdad.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Okay, yeah, you gotta hold somebody accountable because it's not
Anthony's responsibility. And I know how that may feel to him,
Like now he's not He's like maybe I'll just stay
home and help her, you know, Like you want to
help your parents in every way that you can't you can,
but their children are not your responsibility. I had people
in high school, friends in high school who were the
shout out to all the older siblings, like, if you're
the whole sibling, if you're the oldest in your family,
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you are the strongest soldier. Because let me just tell you,
your parents had you nine times out of ten. They
don't know what they were doing. You know, you were
the experimental child and now you getting therapy. Yeah, the
responsibility of your siblings. Like my sister raised me, but
literally that was because my mom was like dead, you know,
she didn't have a choice. I just ended up on
her doorstep and she was an angel and took me in.
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But at the end of the day, I was not
her responsibility. That I was really my father's responsibility. So like,
if you're able to help your parents by all means
help your parents, but you can't. You can't guilt trip
your son to take care of his sisters.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
That's not right. Mm.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
And it sounds like he's been helping out a lot
as it is. Yeah, so it's not like he hasn't
tried to step up, right, But he has every right
to go off and you know, do what he needs
to do to start his own life and grow his
own family and do his own thing. And I'm sure
he can still help out a little bit, but I mean, ultimately,
what's he supposed to do? Be their caregiver forever and
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they never create a life for himself.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Right.
Speaker 5 (03:40):
It's hard because I feel like in a lot of
cultures too, the parents will make you feel guilty for
even leaving. You know, who's going to take care of
the rest of the kids, Who's going to take care
of me? You know, like like the parent will say,
you know, like mom and dad, they're getting older.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
So I think that it's a really tough spot that she's.
Speaker 5 (03:56):
In, like you said, Kiki, but you know, he's got
a what does it flap his wings spreading.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
Out that house wings like Nellie said, drop down, get
your right.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
He has to do what he's got to do.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
But to friend's point, who was paying for school and
he was in school? And who was was going to
pay for the school he was going to go to?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
But guess what did I have you? Or did you
have me?
Speaker 4 (04:18):
I had you.
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I'm the parent.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
It's my responsibility to pay for your schooling. You're not
doing me a favor by supporting me through school. That's
that's what your job as a parent. You're not doing
me any favors. I'm sorry, I look at it that way,
like it's a you know, every parent is not able
to do it, but you are my parent, and so
if anybody's going to get me through school, it should
be you.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Yeah, there does come a point I think where you
do have to be I'm not gonna say it's full
circle moment, but there's definitely a time in life where
you have to be supportive of your parents because maybe
they're too old to care for them so or at
least at least watch over them.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
But like, we are so far away from that, and
I hate when the parents try and and my mom
and dad didn't do this, and my adopted dad, I
didn't do this. But when they try and flip it
on you, like somehow as a kid you have you
have like equal obligation. It's like, no, I have an
obligation to be your son or daughter, and I have
an obligation and then go out and make the best
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life I can for myself based on the way that
you've set me up, or to do better than I've done.
Speaker 4 (05:20):
That's another thing.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Who's to say he doesn't go out get this, you know,
training and get a job and then he's able to
help out even more. Not that that's his burden, but
like again, you know, he's going out and try and
make a life for himself. He's trying to create a
career and a life and all these things. If he
stays in the house and watches his siblings all day,
then he's never going to have the opportunity to do that.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
And that's not fair.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
And he didn't make those kids.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
He did not.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
And so if you're going to get on anybody, it
should be the stepdad for being negligent, not the son
who has been trying all this time. It is now
like hey, I'm twenty one, let's go out and do something. Yeah, yeah,
eight five five five three five you guys at the
jury on Keicky's court along with us.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
It's so sad.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
I feel I really do feel bad for the mom
because I know she's in a tough spot. But like
I just hate when parents put their burdens on their children,
you know, it's just not fair.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
Or when they try to tell you, like all I've
done for you, it's like you're on Perry.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
What do you think sposed to do? I was gonna
wait my own butt. I didn't ask to be here,
thank you.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
Yeah, I mean there's definitely I think.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
You want to be grateful, you know, you want to
be helpful, of course, but you also they created you,
they brought you in and now you you know, there's
a time when you go out into the world and
then make a life for yourself. Yes, and yeah, maybe
someday full circle, it comes back years and years and
years from now where you kind of maybe go back
and help them in their later years, but not now,
(06:40):
and not with the kids that you didn't make in
the relationship that's defunct. That she probably needs to go
find that guy and say where's the money for the babysitters?
Speaker 4 (06:50):
Or why aren't you involved?
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Right?
Speaker 4 (06:52):
Because yeah, I agree that's a whole other court case.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Come on there, Yeah, child sporty daddy, where is he?
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You can call intact the same number eight five five
five one one three five going through somebody's text my boyfriend.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
This is from Cassandra.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
My boyfriend's the oldest of four with two having a
twelve and thirteen year old age gap. He doesn't want
kids now because he had to take care of them
and change diapers as a teenager. He had to help
financially everything. It completely ruined his desire for a family.
He needs to take a job and start his career.
It's not fair. And yeah, it's not fair for the
mom to guilt him. School is irrelevant. Mom is responsible
(07:32):
for kids, not the siblings. Mom is wrong.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Wait a minute, school is irrelevant.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
To pay for school.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Your parents do not need to pay for college. Last
born does more than you will ever know or think.
Firstborn may help with the young kids, but try taking
care of your older, aging, dying parents, because that is
the last born job.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Oh, they're saying, the baby of the family always gets
stuck with the parents.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
Maybe I mean maybe, yeah, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
My younger brother's definitely taken on all.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
The Yeah, does my sister expect me to do this
because she has kids. Probably I hey Caitlin, Hi, Hey,
good boys, you heard Keiky's court.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
What do you think it is?
Speaker 6 (08:13):
This is such a generational thought. It is not the
child's responsibility to raise their children. They are still a child,
they are still their parents' child. So at the end
of the day, regardless of you know, if you have
your younger siblings, of course you know you're going to
(08:34):
want to help out. You're going to want to hopefully
want to be there for your siblings. But it's not
that kid's responsibility to raise them. They have their own
lives to make. We want better for our children. We
want our children to have better than we had. And
if we keep putting this generational well, I brought you
into this world, and how are you going to help me?
Our children are never going.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
To do better than us.
Speaker 6 (08:54):
It's just a constant generational cycle that's going to keep repeating.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
That's so true.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
I'm sure it's hard because she doesn't have a lot
of options and she trusts her son and all the
rest of it. But like he has every right to
go out. I've said it one hundred times in this segment.
He has every right to go out and create for himself,
and who knows, maybe someday he's able and maybe he's
able to help out a little bit, and maybe someday,
you know, it comes full circle once he creates a
life for himself. But like again, he's got to be
able to do that. Yep, yeah, thank you, have a
(09:22):
great job. He's got to take the job, Tony, Tony,
he's got to take the job.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Right, Yes, take the job.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
It's hard to find good jobs down here, and it's
it's not his responsibility to it as the kids.
Speaker 7 (09:34):
He can help the mom with the girls, but he
has to take that job.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Yeah, I think so too, And I don't know what
mom's going to do. But again, where's the deadbeat dad?
Speaker 4 (09:43):
He don't.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Yeah, they got to figure that out. But don't turn
down the job to babysit.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
Yeah, it's gonna be an awkward household. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
And then like yeah, because now, like holidays are coming
up and if the mom is acting weird, she's been
very short with him in Ruin ever since he broke
the news.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
That is not right. That's your key.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
The mom is the grown up, the kid is the kids. Yes, yeah,
thank you should be excited job. You're right, Hey, Tony,
have a great day. Thank you for listening. Thanks time
a going my Thanks for being part of the thirteen.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
We love you. Hey, Margot, good morning, Good morning missus.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
Margot from Humble Park, Okay. And a single mom of
four kids who are now twenty three, twenty two, and
I have twins that are nineteenth and I did it
all on my own.
Speaker 7 (10:35):
You know, there's many programs for the mom to get
here before she starts work doing work, So she shouldn't
put the burden on her son to give up a
good job to become a babysitter.
Speaker 6 (10:49):
It doesn't work that way.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
And you live this life and you managed to make
it work. And I'm sure you want your kids out
there now that they're growing up. I'm sure you want
them out there creating lives of their own and finding
success of their own. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (11:01):
And I'm still paying for my daughter's school. She took
the music engineering and she graduated already in the payment
is more than a cardinal. Well here, I am still
tipping away in You're.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Doing amazing well.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Good for you. Yes, and thank you for calling him
for sharre And have a great day, Margo. Thanks for
listening to so you don't have to pay for this entertainment.
This is free, so you know, I mean, and you
can tell that it's free when you listen to it, exactly. So, Cassie,
do you know in the text a minute ago, Yes,
you texted me. So it's your boyfriend then, who basically
(11:41):
you feel like he doesn't even want a family now
because he puts so much energy into raising his younger siblings.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (11:48):
So, I mean he you know, his mom is around
and everything like that, and she she was like a
nanny and stuff, and he had a step Dawn and everything.
And he actually has two step brothers too, so he's
the oldest of six technically. But yeah, so his two
youngest siblings are twelve and thirteen years younger. And so,
I mean he was a thirteen year old boy changing
diapers at you know, midnight, helping out and doing all
(12:10):
of these things, and financially as well. I mean, he
had to move back after college and you know, helped
out and with the house bills and the driving around
and this and that and everything and so and still
to this day he is the one that everyone goes to,
like she is always the one. So now he's kind
of at that point where he's like, I don't want kids,
I want my freedom. I didn't get it.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
He feels like he's already raised kids.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
Yeah, it's like he already did this and that.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Yeah, and it's almost like reversed, right because as a
teenager he was doing this and now that he's a
grown up, he doesn't want to do it anymore. But
I'm sure you wanted to do it because you probably
want to get married and have a family, right, I.
Speaker 7 (12:47):
Mean, yeah, it's definitely been a topic because we're actually
ten years apart, so I mean he's in his late
thirties now and I'm you know, in my late twenties,
and so it's definitely been a topic of like, okay,
so you know, is this a make it, break it
kind of deal because I haven't reached that point yet
where I've made that decision. But he's like a hard
like absolutely not not happening, and you know.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
So definitely, yeah, you don't. You can have your own
damn segment have the same time tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
That's got to be hard, that's got to be So
when do you then, when do you, Cassie make the decision?
Like I mean, ultimatums never work, really, I mean, when
do you decide if this relationship is for you if
you have those goals and he maybe doesn't.
Speaker 7 (13:33):
I mean to be honest, like, I absolutely love him,
and that's really to me. It could. It could be
either way for me, Like, if it happened, great, If not,
that's okay. I'm personally not like a huge kids person,
but I also know that that's different when you have
your own, so like, I think that's a whole that's
a whole different thing. But I love him more than
that's really important to me, so I think that ultimately
(13:55):
I'd rather just do with him than anything.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
So well, well, thank you for sharing. I'm sure that's hard,
but we appreciate it and have a great day.
Speaker 4 (14:02):
Thank you you too. Yeah, we'll see him stair go
here pretty soon.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Yeah, that's a shout out to her forgiving him grace,
Like she understands that he's been through the trauma of
raising kids and now he doesn't want any.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Yeah, I just and I'm sure you know, they'll figure
it out. But I hope that she never comes later
to resent him, I know, because she sort of. I mean, kids,
we all make sacrifices, right, Like, you know, if we
love somebody enough, then we give up things. They give
up things and whatever. But that one is the one
that seems to sort of linger because I know people
who have met and said, okay, find no kids, and
(14:33):
they agree on that because one's really hardcore in one corner,
ones in the other, and it tends to resurface. It
tends to resurface years later once the relationship is intact,
and it can cause resentment on both sides because it's like, wait, minute,
we agreed on this. I told you it was okay
if you needed to go. But we agreed on this,
and then now here we are again. Yeah, and people
(14:53):
change their minds. But like, I don't know, but he
needs to take that job.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Right, Anthony, take the joboo, and we're gonna get mam,
gonna get it together.
Speaker 7 (15:01):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Well, I'm glad you got right too. If we've been
making this man wait a month for this decision.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
I'm sorry, Anthony. Hopefully you took the job and go
to school
Speaker 4 (15:11):
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