Stay Or Go: Nudes From The Coworker

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
That show is on, it's stay or go? All right,
Bethany is here? Always hit us up. Fred Show Radio
on Instagram, Fredshowradio dot Com on maybe you could have
the honor of being on stairgo Bethany? Do you feel
like it's an honor?

Speaker 2 (00:17):
I wish I didn't have to be here, I say, I.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
Don't know if it's an honor, but yeah, anyway, So
what's going on in your relationship? Obviously, the first thing
you would do is call a radio program, but most
more specifically this one, because we have the most esteemed
group of panelists representing all demographics. There's no way that
your problem can't be solved right now. Please take it away,

(00:41):
let's solve it.

Speaker 3 (00:42):
I hope.

Speaker 2 (00:43):
So this is my last resort. So I was looking
for a photo on my husband's phone and a text
came through from his coworker that it takes a lot
to shock me, but I was absolutely stunned. His female
co worker sent him a nude and I could not

(01:03):
could not, sorry I did. I confronted him and he
said he was shocked too, and then he looked. He
let me look through his entire phone in the entire
text thread with her and there was nothing suspicious, but like,
I trust him, I really want to believe him, But
I just don't understand why a coworker would feel so

(01:26):
comfortable sending something like that.

Speaker 1 (01:28):
I just got a text from Kiki hol I would
say that you brought up an excellent point because he
can't necessarily control what he receives, right, But the fact

(01:50):
that she felt so comfortable to send that means that
there was more than likely some form of setup. That's
where my brain goes, because when I first heard about
this story in our pre show meeting, because that was
the funniest thing I've said all day, because there is
no presearch meeting now. When I heard this was coming
on this morning, I thought about this. I'm like, well,

(02:10):
I can't be responsible for what I receive. If I
opened my phone and there's a picture there that I
didn't ask for, that would be surprising. And I don't
know why my partner could get mad at me if
I had one. That being said, why would ninety nine
percent of people send me that picture because they either
have sent me that before, or because there's been some
form of pre picture sending communication, or because there's a

(02:32):
level of comfort there that might be beyond that of
a normal coworker relationship. So that's where my head goes immediately.

Speaker 2 (02:40):
Bethany, Yeah, I mean I don't understand how, Like I
want to let it go, but I'm having a really
hard time. I just don't know what else I can do.
Like I didn't find anything else in their text, and
he's never done anything shady, but this is just really
weird and I can't let it go.

Speaker 3 (03:01):
So I need I need advice.

Speaker 4 (03:03):
Girl, did you call her?

Speaker 3 (03:06):
No? No?

Speaker 5 (03:08):
Right, that's the mistake number one. He would have been
a first time right then and there. Okay, all three of.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
Us and talk to me.

Speaker 5 (03:20):
Because how did you I mean, because he can lie
and say, you know, this was a mistake. Maybe she
meant to send it to Ted and she actually said
there's a fred I don't know right.

Speaker 2 (03:32):
Think about that, Like, I trust him so much that
I can't even think about her. It was like, what
is your deal, buddy.

Speaker 6 (03:39):
Sis, We've learned, We've learned in previous uh, in things
that you got to check the other sources like the
iPad check. You know what I'm saying. There there's a check,
the computer, there's there's monopoly app.

Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yes, yes, yes, she takes seven or eight for that,
because the thing, the fact of the matter is you
got to look at you got to look at all
the sources. I can't tell you how many times the
iPad gets people because they forget that that's connected to
the Apple idea or whatever it is. So everything unless

(04:15):
you've turned that off, everything that goes to your phone
goes to your iPad, And so people think they're being slick,
you know, and they're like, well, I raise it from
my iPhone, but then there's a family iPad and then whoops.
The other thing you got to do is go look
in his camera roll because unless you turn that off,
every picture that comes to his text goes automatically to
the camera roll. Now that one surprised me at time
or two. Hey look at this picture of my niece.
Oh I forgot about this one, not that picture.

Speaker 7 (04:38):
So there's no world where she just shot or shot
for the first time. I mean, dude, do it all
the time?

Speaker 8 (04:43):
Ude?

Speaker 1 (04:44):
Yes, I've amazed that a number of guys that just
send pictures. I can honestly tell you, I'll go to
jug if it's not true. I've never I've never sent
a nude because I'm not going out like that. Plus
I don't think that it's photogenic. But nonetheless, I'm amazed
at the number of people who have to told me
just that that man will lead with the most disgusting things,
and the amount of crap I've gotten for some of

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the stuff I've said on dating apps or whatever. And
then I see the stuff that you guys get and
when you were on the dating apps prior, and I'm
just and my other friends and I'm like, men are ruthless, right,
And I've.

Speaker 7 (05:15):
Gotten drunk texts from dudes I know, And if my
boyfriend were I'll be holding my phone.

Speaker 3 (05:19):
He could easily be like, what the hell is this?

Speaker 4 (05:21):
And I did nothing wrong?

Speaker 5 (05:22):
That's true, but I would also have to say, what
kind of vibe are you giving off?

Speaker 3 (05:28):
That?

Speaker 4 (05:28):
Man?

Speaker 3 (05:29):
Think I like that? I don't like that road I
don't like that.

Speaker 5 (05:33):
Road workers know I'm in a relationship and technically single,
so like we all know each other's relationship status. So
there's no world where I'm going to accidentally send rufio
or a Jason nude.

Speaker 1 (05:43):
And I wish you would, right, that doesn't stop some people,
some people, how many clueless damp people that we had
on this show over the years, by the phone at all. No,
people are not self aware. They're not and they're not
thinking of other people.

Speaker 4 (05:58):
Co workers should know your relationship STATUSY do, But.

Speaker 1 (06:01):
That doesn't necessarily mean that they don't think they're above that.
Now I'm gonna I'm gonna say that much. I agree
with a lot of things that you say, but I
think there are people out there that just think they're
above all that.

Speaker 5 (06:12):
Well, my man, co workers, I wish you would send
my man a photo. I'm coming to the job on
my way. Well, if it's your coworkers, then it'd.

Speaker 3 (06:22):
Be your gun.

Speaker 5 (06:25):
Yes, I'm showing up at the next meeting at work
and I would like to address everybody.

Speaker 1 (06:30):
Look, there is a possibility that the person was just
shooting their shot. There's also the possibility that this person
felt very comfortable. And I'm not saying it means that
there's other pictures. I'm not saying that means it's person
evens anything wrong, But there's a there's It could be
either way. It could be it was them shooting their
shot and they're clueless and they are not self aware
and they're not paying attention, or they're not taking the hint.

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It could also very well be that there's other communication
going on that led to this, that that that Bethany
should know about.

Speaker 3 (06:59):
The thing is, we don't know.

Speaker 7 (07:01):
I mean our Christmas party gets weird? Do it in
sales hit on me last year?

Speaker 1 (07:05):
Like?

Speaker 3 (07:05):
And I didn't ask for that.

Speaker 4 (07:06):
I'm not putting vibes out there. I was just trying
to get drunk.

Speaker 3 (07:08):
How how do you show up? Let me start drinking
at a holiday party? How you think you are?

Speaker 1 (07:16):
Everybody knows his number, everybody knows the sales department runs
this place.

Speaker 3 (07:20):
They do whatever they want.

Speaker 4 (07:22):
I feel so comfortable because they won't waste it. You understand, this.

Speaker 1 (07:27):
Was trying to sell himself to her right right for
the amazess hay down. Let me take some phone calls.
At least they're marketing to somebody. Let me take some
phone calls. Okay, I want you to have the radio on,
please with the iHeart ap and let's see what happens.
You need to investigation, but that's actus one more question you.
Honestly though, without this, without seeing this, you would have

(07:48):
had no reason to doubt your partner in any way.

Speaker 2 (07:53):
None, literally none.

Speaker 1 (07:55):
I feel like my gut tells me you have to
lean on that. You have to lean on the cop
evidence you have in your partner, because if you have
no evidence of anything else and you trust him and
he's never given you any indication, if you lean into this,
then I think that that's going to break the trust,
because it's very possible this guy didn't do anything. It's

(08:15):
very possible to someone just did something, tried it, and
it didn't work. That's, of course, assuming that you look
at the entire tenure of your relationship and and think
about the fact that you've never had any reason to
doubt it before. Now, if this dude's shady and you've
had you've had trust issues, and this has happened before,
or there's a pattern, then I think, you know, it

(08:36):
really does require you to look a little bit deep,
but more more, more deeper, deeper.

Speaker 4 (08:42):
More deeper.

Speaker 3 (08:42):
But I don't I don't know.

Speaker 1 (08:43):
I hate it when like something happens one time, one
thing it's possible to out of his control, and then
now you're making him pay for it, and it's possible
he did nothing. Now also I want to know how
did he handle it, what did he do? Did he
send them, did he send her something back like hey,
don't send me that, or like that's not appropriate, or
did he do anything about it?

Speaker 2 (09:02):
He said that he wanted to talk to her and
meet at the same time about what happened, because he's
not he's.

Speaker 3 (09:10):
Never I like that.

Speaker 2 (09:14):
I like that idea to do it somewhere else.

Speaker 1 (09:17):
I like the idea that he's willing to talk to
her with you. I like that idea, Bethany. Actually they
get their stories.

Speaker 4 (09:23):
Exactly, show up at that next marketing meeting.

Speaker 1 (09:34):
He can gonna come with you. Have a good day, Methany.
Thank you, take some phone calls. Let me see here.
Someone said, girl, no, you can't lead on the trust
that friend's talking about and they're done.

Speaker 3 (09:49):
That trash is always the first.

Speaker 1 (09:50):
Time again though, like what if I didn't Okay, So, like,
for example, I've I've been dating for basically, been single
for twenty years. Basically I've had like six months or
eight months here and there. But the thing is, like
when I get in a new relationship, when anyone gets
in a new relationship, especially early on, for example, this
is just one example I'm thinking of. You don't send

(10:12):
a mass text out to everybody you've talked to in
the last two years or three years or ever, and go,
I'm in a relationship now, nobody reach out to me.
And so what happens is maybe one month, two month, three,
you were out here in these streets at one point, Paul,
I read when you first, when you first got with Hobby,
you were still getting hit up, probably by strays. Yes,
stray's were hitting you up out of nowhere, guys from

(10:33):
a year ago, going, you know, hang you up. But
you but you tell them now. But you say that like, hey,
I'm in a relationship now, Like I can't talk to you,
you know, like whatever, you shut it down, right, But
I've gotten in trouble for text messages I've received that
have nothing to do with the way that I've conducted
myself within an early relationship, for example.

Speaker 3 (10:54):
And I'm getting in trouble for this.

Speaker 1 (10:56):
But I didn't. I didn't do it. I didn't at
two in the morning, Hey you up. Well that was
acceptable a couple of months ago. That's no longer acceptable
because you know, hypothetically, I'm in a relationship, so I
need to either ignore it or shut it down. But
you don't need to yell at me because I didn't
do it. Right, that's a similar example.

Speaker 5 (11:15):
No, that's why when you get in a relationship, you
need to change your Facebook status.

Speaker 4 (11:18):
Okay, in a relationship that.

Speaker 3 (11:22):
Last place. Let me change my LinkedIn too.

Speaker 5 (11:26):
Yes, this is a message out to everybody. I am
in a relationship, do not text my phone at two am.

Speaker 3 (11:32):
You say it all the time.

Speaker 4 (11:33):
When you get in a serious relationship, you gonna change
your number.

Speaker 3 (11:35):
Because when I.

Speaker 1 (11:36):
Get married, I was just telling Giddy and my Giddey
in the torture or my trainer the other day. There
is no doubt when I finally get married someday, the
entire phones being just the phone is being destroyed, the
Apple ID, the phone number. We're changing everything, different area code,
We're changing everything. You will not be able. The only
people who will know how to find me are you
guys in this room and my mom.

Speaker 4 (11:56):
I mean this firm.

Speaker 7 (11:57):
A woman who says I'm waiting to meet my husband,
I'm dating someone in on single Lord Jesus helped.

Speaker 3 (12:03):
Me accord in your Facebook. There's no you don't get
on that right now.

Speaker 1 (12:07):
Mary, you know I got a photo almost send you
a two in the morning, so my left pinky.

Speaker 5 (12:16):
Everybody knows everybody I'm very clear.

Speaker 4 (12:19):
Everybody knows where I.

Speaker 1 (12:20):
Yeah, everyone knows that you're in a relationship with single.
It's very clear, clear here out of your mind. Hey, Michelle,
good morning, Welcome, good morning, Michelle.

Speaker 3 (12:31):
What are we gonna do? Stay or go?

Speaker 1 (12:32):
Just to recap here, this woman, her boyfriend received a
random photograph from a cowork A nude photograph from a coworker.
It popped up. He immediately showed it to her, gave
her his phone. She went through it, couldn't find any
evidence of anything else, and he was as surprised as
she was.

Speaker 3 (12:49):
He says, what.

Speaker 9 (12:50):
Say you, I guarantee you that she deleted a huge
thread between him and the coworker.

Speaker 4 (12:58):
How can you guarantee that, Michelle, and they've been messing around?

Speaker 3 (13:01):
How can you automatically go there?

Speaker 9 (13:05):
Well, you can go under your text messages and you
can go under at it and then it shows recently
deleted text messages, and I guarantee you there's gonna be
a huge spread a text messages between the two of
them that.

Speaker 8 (13:18):
But she he deleted.

Speaker 1 (13:19):
Now you don't know that, you're it's just your paranoia
lead you there.

Speaker 5 (13:25):
Well, she used to get out.

Speaker 1 (13:26):
Of that relationship but we don't even know.

Speaker 3 (13:32):
We don't know for sure if there's context here.

Speaker 9 (13:36):
Why would a random coworkers signed him a new picture
of her?

Speaker 3 (13:41):
Jason does it all the time. He's trying on accident, Yes,
all the time.

Speaker 4 (13:53):
And I don't want them that all.

Speaker 3 (13:56):
Right, Michelle, you have a good day. You're not wrong.

Speaker 1 (14:00):
Your status has been noted. Hold on guys. Antonia, Hi, Hi,
good morning, Hi Antonia. I just I don't I love you?

Speaker 8 (14:08):
So I just wanted to start by saying that.

Speaker 1 (14:10):
Say I love you too. But this room is crazy today,
and Kiki is she is unhinged.

Speaker 2 (14:15):
Well, I totally agree with everything you're saying, Fred, but
you know, but thank you you and.

Speaker 8 (14:24):
I do have a crazy sight.

Speaker 2 (14:25):
So I would have immediately called the girl and see
how she responded to the callback.

Speaker 1 (14:30):
And I don't think that woman wouldn't have had a
right to do that. I think she'd had every right
to make that phone call and go, hey, that's my boyfriend,
what are you doing?

Speaker 5 (14:36):
And then where she was by her husband or boyfriend,
I would have went up to him and said, call
this number back right now, let me see how she's
going to.

Speaker 4 (14:42):
Respond to you. Yeah, yeah, that is my.

Speaker 3 (14:48):
Thank Antonia, thank you. Have a good day. You too, boy.

Speaker 1 (14:52):
It is a rare day when someone texts The only
reasonable person in the room is Fred.

Speaker 3 (14:57):
Oh my god, take a picture of it? Will it? Congress?

Speaker 1 (15:02):
I'm more reasonable than I get credit for it. Very
sound of a very sound mind.

Speaker 3 (15:06):
You are. I'm just so easy sometimes.

Speaker 1 (15:08):
Andre, Hi. Actually no one's ever described me as of
sound mind.

Speaker 3 (15:11):
Andre. Hey, Hey Fred, are you doing? Hey? Welcome man?
What do you think? Well, I'm going to tell you
I'm one of the thirteen love you guys, thank you,
love you years and Kiki, you're tripping? Oh what how?
I'm telling you you're right though, I will agree with you. Okay,
she made the call, Andre, He should have the phone

(15:37):
and made the call. But listen to this. The girl
has Tim and Timothy next to each other. His name
is Tim. She sent the picture to the wrong person.

Speaker 4 (15:46):
Is that how it happened? Andre?

Speaker 1 (15:47):
Perfectly reasonable explanation from Andre, right right, right, understanding.

Speaker 7 (15:57):
I'm excellently accidentally sexted the wrong person.

Speaker 4 (16:01):
I have to people have, yea many people have just
like sending an email, and you shouldn't reply to all
I do sex over email.

Speaker 3 (16:10):
Yes, you're right, I'm possibly email sex thing.

Speaker 1 (16:13):
It's crazy. Sometimes I do it like in there too.
It's pretty expensive though, a dollar of sex.

Speaker 3 (16:24):
Have a good day.

Speaker 1 (16:27):
I mean, hey, Gene, Gene makes an interesting point.

Speaker 8 (16:30):
Go ahead, Hey, how were all doing this morning?

Speaker 1 (16:33):
Hi? Doing well great. I'm a little confused. Kiki's all
over the place.

Speaker 8 (16:38):
What a little kmfussled. Yeah, But I think personally he
shouldn't have any problem going to HR. I mean, report
it and you know, let them do the investigation. There's
your neutral party. And if he's like, oh no, I can't,
then that's like that's another you know, you know, the
mail in his coffin. But I mean if he's like, well, hey, yeah,

(17:01):
that's a great idea, let's shot it HR and let
them figure out what it is, because they need to
know why she's sending her nudy pictures.

Speaker 3 (17:07):
Out her nudy pictures.

Speaker 1 (17:10):
Yeah, I think that's what That would be an interesting
conversation at HR. So tell me about these nudy pictures
that you thank you have a good day, You're welcome
you to my former boss is a text. My former
boss accidentally sent me a nude video over breast.

Speaker 3 (17:27):
I deleted it right away. Which you what Rufio just
sent me. It's his arm.

Speaker 1 (17:31):
He's flexing, but it's like the crease in his arms.
Jackson's arm, A little ass. This looks nothing like the
pictures you normally sent me. What I normally get from
you were totally different. I'm gonna saved your camera. The

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