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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Had I ever been left waiting by the phone. It's
the Fred Show. Kennedy, good morning, Hi, good morning, Welcome
to the show. Waiting by the phone. So let's hear
about Brian. Tell us how you met, about any days
that you've been on, and what's happening right now and
how we can help.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I met Brian on Hinge, and you know, he really
stood out for my other matches because I felt like
we really had a connection, Like first of all, a
connection through the profile, like we had similar interest and
just like you know, also the conversation that we had
on the app, you know, through messaging. Yeah, I felt
(00:42):
like we really had something. And so you know, I
got really excited when he eventually asked me out, you know,
to go out for drinks, and so we did. We
went out and we had.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
A really great time, and well, at least I did,
and I thought that he did as well. But I
guess I was wrong in thinking that she enjoyed it
because he hasn't. He hasn't you know, texted or called
me at all since.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Okay, all right, now here's the question. Do you I mean,
obviously you do, or at least you'd like to know more,
But when you go out with somebody one time, do
you expect that they're gonna call you and say, hey,
I'm not interested in seeing you anymore.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Yeah, if they don't want to see me again, I
think that.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
The things to do would be it doesn't have to
be a phone call.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
It could be a text message to say that, you know,
like they don't think it's gonna work out, or they're.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Just not interested, or they didn't feel a connection.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I mean, I've done that too to people in the past,
because I don't think ghosting is just not it's not
good because it doesn't provide any closure, and like it's
so quick just to send a text message and be like, hey,
you know, I appreciate your time, Like, you know, it
was nice that we went out, but it's just not
(02:10):
gonna works up a lot of time and energy.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Yeah, adult mature thing to do. Except in this case, though,
you look back on this date and the pre conversation
and all that, and you're like this, this was great,
Like you left thinking he's gonna call me, we're gonna
go out again. We're really getting somewhere.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
Here, Yeah exactly.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Okay, all right, well let's see if we can get
Brian on the phone, and we'll ask questions. You'll be
on the phone as well. At some point. You're welcome
to jumping on the call, but let's try and get
some info for you first, and hopefully whatever's going on,
we could straighten out and set you guys up on
another date and pay for that.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Okay, okay, yeah, that would be great.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
All right, gonna play one song. We'll be right back.
Hang on, stay here, let's find out what's going on.
In part two of Waiting at a Phone, we're back
in two minutes after Miguel Fred's show. Miguel the Fred
Show is on the radio and the iHeart app anytime
search but a Fred's Show on demand. Hey Kennedy, Yeah, okay,
let's call Brian. You guys meant on Hinge. You felt
an instant connection over all the other matches, and you
(03:08):
guys chatted and that went well, and then you met
and had drinks and you thought that was great. Except
now this guy is not reaching out to you, not
responding to you. He's ghosting you. You want to know why.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah, I definitely want to know why.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Okay, let's call him now. Good luck, Kennedy. Thanks, Hello,
Hi is this Brian. Yeah, this is Brian, Brian, good morning.
It's Fred from the Frend's show. The whole crew is
here started bothering, but I do have to tell you
(03:43):
that we are on the radio right now and I
would need your permission to continue with the calls. That
okay if we chat for just a little bit, Yeah, okay, sure,
thank you very much. I won't take up too much
of your time. But we're actually calling on behalf of
a woman named Kennedy who says that she met you
one Hinge and you guys went went out for drinks.
Do you remember her?
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Yeah, I do remember that.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Unfortunately, unfortunately you remember that we talked to Kennedy and
she said she liked you and felt connection with you
and chemistry and was hoping to see you again for
another date. You're saying, unfortunately, So what happened? What is
she not telling us?
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Uh?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
You know, we were when we talked on Hinge. Everything
seemed really cool. She does seem nice, but it's like
she was very, very rude. She answered like a zoom
call in the middle of our date. I mean, like
the first date. That's kind of crazy to me.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
What do you mean a zoom call, like like she
like a FaceTime or she actually conducted a zoom meeting
on your She did.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Like a whole work meeting right in front of me
and during our date for like fifteen minutes. I was like, wow,
that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
So over here like drink and James, the laptop comes
out of the bag and opens that She's like it,
puts in the AirPods, hold on one second, and takes
an entire meeting.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
Yeah, it's crazy. I was like, Okay, that's that's just insane.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Well, what's the problem. I mean, I guess I know
it sounds like something you would do. That is absolutely
something I do. But let me okay, let me bring
Kennedy in here. Kennedy, why are we taking I forgot
too mention of the Kennedy's here. I'm sorry, I always
forget that part. Kennedy. Why are we taking zoom meetings
in the middle of a date.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Well, I'm just a very busy woman, like and you know,
I have to work. And I mean it was five
pm when we met, and so what what did you expect,
Brian when you schedule drinks at that time?
Speaker 1 (05:33):
That sounds like you were in a date with me. Actually,
so at five o'clock day? Why'd you have to go
at five? I mean, why couldn't you have said I
got a meeting at whatever time and then it's later.
I mean, why wasn't there better communication?
Speaker 4 (05:46):
That's why I would have asked. I mean, that's why
I felt it was rude, because nobody told me.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Yeah, but you said five o'clock. Why did you say?
Why are we having you know, I mean, unless you're
me and you get up at your grandpa and you
get up at three thirty, why are we going out
at five o'clock?
Speaker 4 (06:00):
I thought she'd be that would work by then.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Well, you know, because I'm really busy, and I also,
besides work, I have a social life too, So I
was gonna already had planned to meet with my friends
later in the day, like later in the evening, so
and yeah, I had a zoom meeting that I had
to do for work at five.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
So okay, So you were trying to go on a
date and see your friends that night, so you had
to pack all that in. So it's kind of your
fault then. So I mean you're saying, he scheduled at
five o'clock, but you scheduled at five o'clock.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Yeah, I agree. He offered five pm, and I agreed
to it because, you know, I was really excited.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
To meet him.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
I really wanted to meet him. And like I said,
I'm just really busy, I mean just throughout the whole week.
It wasn't just this one day. So I had to really,
you know, fit him into my schedule. But like I
wanted to, you know, I wanted to spend time with him.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
And that's what you did.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
You spend time with him.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
But you also handle business.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
And she's a hustler.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
That's what hustlers do.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
You work in sales, but you're not out here saving line.
It's not that important.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
We're done at like one o'clock around here. Anyway, She's
trying to be efficient over here. Look, if I if
I'm dating you, if we're together and I know you better,
and I'm not trying to make a first impression, it's
a first date. If I got to take a work call,
my boss calls someone like that, then I answered the phone,
I might excuse myself. But like on a first date.
(07:33):
I mean, this is the this is the part that
people like. Clearly when they call this segment, they don't
think about you're making a first impression, like this is
the first time you're going to meet somebody, and it's like, yo,
I don't Oh, whatever story that was, I don't care.
I don't want to hear about your niece. I'm going
to take a zoom call now. It's not a good look.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
That's exactly what I would have said.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I have a job and I have to work, you know,
it's important to me.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
I have to make money, you.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Know, except the date. Then they come up with another time,
you know, like go after or go another day, or
don't commit to seeing your friends. I don't think it's
that unreasonable to give somebody an hour, hour and a
half at minimum of your undivided attention on a first meeting.
I don't think that's too much to ask.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
Yeah, because it was almost like a median I mean,
I felt like I felt like a dummy sitting there
sis in my drink while you're taking this zoom call.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Yeah, I don't blame you. Look, is there any chance
that if Kennedy reconsiders this, you know, but maybe realizes
that this was not this pretty rude and if we
pay for another date and she leaves the laptop at home,
would you consider another day with her or no, that
was just poor judgment, you know.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
I mean, at this point, it's exactly like you said.
I felt like it was very bad first impression, and
I think it's just going to be something else every time.
So no, I'm not I'm not interested, Kennedy.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean, I understand you're a busy person, but if
the meetings have five thirty, just once you meet at six?
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Yeah, I mean, like I said, I just do my
schedule extremely busy, and there's there's just like a lot
going on, so a limited amount of time.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Maybe this whole date should have been over Zoom. Maybe
you're too busy to date, you know, maybe you need
to focus on your career right now. I don't know.
I mean, maybe maybe you don't have enough time. You're
a very important salesperson.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
I mean, I have a lot on my plate and.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Okay, I don't know. It sounds like you're on a
zoom call with us right now. I'm sorry. Are you
doing your online trainings or something right now? At the
same time, we know all about that, all right, Look, Brian,
thanks for your time, Kennedy, best of luck to you
out there. Okay. The entertainment report with Kaylen It's up
(09:41):
next to two minutes after Sabrina Carpenter Trending stories, fun
Fact all coming up. Fred shows up,
Had I ever been left waiting by the phone. It's
the Fred Show. Kennedy, good morning, Hi, good morning, Welcome
to the show. Waiting by the phone. So let's hear
about Brian. Tell us how you met, about any days
that you've been on, and what's happening right now and
how we can help.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I met Brian on Hinge, and you know, he really
stood out for my other matches because I felt like
we really had a connection, Like first of all, a
connection through the profile, like we had similar interest and
just like you know, also the conversation that we had
on the app, you know, through messaging. Yeah, I felt
(00:42):
like we really had something. And so you know, I
got really excited when he eventually asked me out, you know,
to go out for drinks, and so we did. We
went out and we had.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
A really great time, and well, at least I did,
and I thought that he did as well. But I
guess I was wrong in thinking that she enjoyed it
because he hasn't. He hasn't you know, texted or called
me at all since.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Okay, all right, now here's the question. Do you I mean,
obviously you do, or at least you'd like to know more,
But when you go out with somebody one time, do
you expect that they're gonna call you and say, hey,
I'm not interested in seeing you anymore.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Yeah, if they don't want to see me again, I
think that.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
The things to do would be it doesn't have to
be a phone call.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
It could be a text message to say that, you know,
like they don't think it's gonna work out, or they're.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Just not interested, or they didn't feel a connection.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I mean, I've done that too to people in the past,
because I don't think ghosting is just not it's not
good because it doesn't provide any closure, and like it's
so quick just to send a text message and be like, hey,
you know, I appreciate your time, Like, you know, it
was nice that we went out, but it's just not
(02:10):
gonna works up a lot of time and energy.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Yeah, adult mature thing to do. Except in this case, though,
you look back on this date and the pre conversation
and all that, and you're like this, this was great,
Like you left thinking he's gonna call me, we're gonna
go out again. We're really getting somewhere.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
Here, Yeah exactly.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Okay, all right, well let's see if we can get
Brian on the phone, and we'll ask questions. You'll be
on the phone as well. At some point. You're welcome
to jumping on the call, but let's try and get
some info for you first, and hopefully whatever's going on,
we could straighten out and set you guys up on
another date and pay for that.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Okay, okay, yeah, that would be great.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
All right, gonna play one song. We'll be right back.
Hang on, stay here, let's find out what's going on.
In part two of Waiting at a Phone, we're back
in two minutes after Miguel Fred's show. Miguel the Fred
Show is on the radio and the iHeart app anytime
search but a Fred's Show on demand. Hey Kennedy, Yeah, okay,
let's call Brian. You guys meant on Hinge. You felt
an instant connection over all the other matches, and you
(03:08):
guys chatted and that went well, and then you met
and had drinks and you thought that was great. Except
now this guy is not reaching out to you, not
responding to you. He's ghosting you. You want to know why.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Yeah, I definitely want to know why.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Okay, let's call him now. Good luck, Kennedy. Thanks, Hello,
Hi is this Brian. Yeah, this is Brian, Brian, good morning.
It's Fred from the Frend's show. The whole crew is
here started bothering, but I do have to tell you
(03:43):
that we are on the radio right now and I
would need your permission to continue with the calls. That
okay if we chat for just a little bit, Yeah, okay, sure,
thank you very much. I won't take up too much
of your time. But we're actually calling on behalf of
a woman named Kennedy who says that she met you
one Hinge and you guys went went out for drinks.
Do you remember her?
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Yeah, I do remember that.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Unfortunately, unfortunately you remember that we talked to Kennedy and
she said she liked you and felt connection with you
and chemistry and was hoping to see you again for
another date. You're saying, unfortunately, So what happened? What is
she not telling us?
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Uh?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
You know, we were when we talked on Hinge. Everything
seemed really cool. She does seem nice, but it's like
she was very, very rude. She answered like a zoom
call in the middle of our date. I mean, like
the first date. That's kind of crazy to me.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
What do you mean a zoom call, like like she
like a FaceTime or she actually conducted a zoom meeting
on your She did.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Like a whole work meeting right in front of me
and during our date for like fifteen minutes. I was like, wow,
that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
So over here like drink and James, the laptop comes
out of the bag and opens that She's like it,
puts in the AirPods, hold on one second, and takes
an entire meeting.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
Yeah, it's crazy. I was like, Okay, that's that's just insane.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Well, what's the problem. I mean, I guess I know
it sounds like something you would do. That is absolutely
something I do. But let me okay, let me bring
Kennedy in here. Kennedy, why are we taking I forgot
too mention of the Kennedy's here. I'm sorry, I always
forget that part. Kennedy. Why are we taking zoom meetings
in the middle of a date.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Well, I'm just a very busy woman, like and you know,
I have to work. And I mean it was five
pm when we met, and so what what did you expect,
Brian when you schedule drinks at that time?
Speaker 1 (05:33):
That sounds like you were in a date with me. Actually,
so at five o'clock day? Why'd you have to go
at five? I mean, why couldn't you have said I
got a meeting at whatever time and then it's later.
I mean, why wasn't there better communication?
Speaker 4 (05:46):
That's why I would have asked. I mean, that's why
I felt it was rude, because nobody told me.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Yeah, but you said five o'clock. Why did you say?
Why are we having you know, I mean, unless you're
me and you get up at your grandpa and you
get up at three thirty, why are we going out
at five o'clock?
Speaker 4 (06:00):
I thought she'd be that would work by then.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Well, you know, because I'm really busy, and I also,
besides work, I have a social life too, So I
was gonna already had planned to meet with my friends
later in the day, like later in the evening, so
and yeah, I had a zoom meeting that I had
to do for work at five.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
So okay, So you were trying to go on a
date and see your friends that night, so you had
to pack all that in. So it's kind of your
fault then. So I mean you're saying, he scheduled at
five o'clock, but you scheduled at five o'clock.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Yeah, I agree. He offered five pm, and I agreed
to it because, you know, I was really excited.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
To meet him.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
I really wanted to meet him. And like I said,
I'm just really busy, I mean just throughout the whole week.
It wasn't just this one day. So I had to really,
you know, fit him into my schedule. But like I
wanted to, you know, I wanted to spend time with him.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
And that's what you did.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
You spend time with him.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
But you also handle business.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
And she's a hustler.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
That's what hustlers do.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
You work in sales, but you're not out here saving line.
It's not that important.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
We're done at like one o'clock around here. Anyway, She's
trying to be efficient over here. Look, if I if
I'm dating you, if we're together and I know you better,
and I'm not trying to make a first impression, it's
a first date. If I got to take a work call,
my boss calls someone like that, then I answered the phone,
I might excuse myself. But like on a first date.
(07:33):
I mean, this is the this is the part that
people like. Clearly when they call this segment, they don't
think about you're making a first impression, like this is
the first time you're going to meet somebody, and it's like, yo,
I don't Oh, whatever story that was, I don't care.
I don't want to hear about your niece. I'm going
to take a zoom call now. It's not a good look.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
That's exactly what I would have said.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I have a job and I have to work, you know,
it's important to me.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
I have to make money, you.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Know, except the date. Then they come up with another time,
you know, like go after or go another day, or
don't commit to seeing your friends. I don't think it's
that unreasonable to give somebody an hour, hour and a
half at minimum of your undivided attention on a first meeting.
I don't think that's too much to ask.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
Yeah, because it was almost like a median I mean,
I felt like I felt like a dummy sitting there
sis in my drink while you're taking this zoom call.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Yeah, I don't blame you. Look, is there any chance
that if Kennedy reconsiders this, you know, but maybe realizes
that this was not this pretty rude and if we
pay for another date and she leaves the laptop at home,
would you consider another day with her or no, that
was just poor judgment, you know.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
I mean, at this point, it's exactly like you said.
I felt like it was very bad first impression, and
I think it's just going to be something else every time.
So no, I'm not I'm not interested, Kennedy.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean, I understand you're a busy person, but if
the meetings have five thirty, just once you meet at six?
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Yeah, I mean, like I said, I just do my
schedule extremely busy, and there's there's just like a lot
going on, so a limited amount of time.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Maybe this whole date should have been over Zoom. Maybe
you're too busy to date, you know, maybe you need
to focus on your career right now. I don't know.
I mean, maybe maybe you don't have enough time. You're
a very important salesperson.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
I mean, I have a lot on my plate and.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Okay, I don't know. It sounds like you're on a
zoom call with us right now. I'm sorry. Are you
doing your online trainings or something right now? At the
same time, we know all about that, all right, Look, Brian,
thanks for your time, Kennedy, best of luck to you
out there. Okay. The entertainment report with Kaylen It's up
(09:41):
next to two minutes after Sabrina Carpenter Trending stories, fun
Fact all coming up. Fred shows up,
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