Waiting by the Phone: Fill out the Survey

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
I've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the
Fred Show. Hey Sanna, good morning, Welcome to the program.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
How are you. I'm doing well, how are you doing?

Speaker 1 (00:12):
Okay, So we're looking into this situation here with a
guy named Jesse.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
So how did you meet Jesse?

Speaker 1 (00:18):
Tell us about any dates you've been on, and then
why you think maybe you're being ghosted?

Speaker 3 (00:22):
Okay? Yeah, So we actually met on Hinge. I've been
on a bunch of the dating apps and everything. I've
had the best luck with him. So that's where Jesse
and I met. We honestly had like a really good
first date. And I know that he also had a
lot of fun too, because like in the middle of
dinner and even towards the end of dinner, he kept
talking about like what we could do for our next date,

(00:46):
and I don't know, I was really excited. It seemed
like he was really excited. And then he just out
of blues doctorsponing to me, and I've texted him several
times and I'm just kind of like really annoyed because
I mean, I thought we had a great time. I
have no idea I didn't do anything. So I'm just thinking,
if you guys can help me figure out what happened.

Speaker 1 (01:08):
Right right, because you got to go on, you know,
usually a bunch of dates on these dating apps to
find somebody, and you got to chat with a bunch
of people. And it's a lot of work. The dating
apps a lot of work if you've been on them before.
And so when you finally meet somebody, it's like, this
is great, I can't wait. I said this all the time,
and then you get your hopes up. You don't hear
from them. It's annoying. You want to know why, you
want to answers. So that's where we come in. We're

(01:28):
gonna call Jesse in just a second. You'll be on
the phone. We're gonna ask some questions on your behalf,
and at some point you're welcome to jump in on
the call and hopefully we can straighten all this out
and then set you up on another date that we
pay for.

Speaker 2 (01:39):
Sound good, Shannon, that sounds great, Thank you. Let's see
what's going on.

Speaker 1 (01:42):
I'm gonna call this guy next after Sabrina Carpenter back
in two minutes on the fread Show. Sabrina Carpenter is
the frend Show. Hey, Shannon, Yeah, all right, welcome back.
Let's call this guy Jesse. You met on Hinge, one
of the dating apps, and you went on a date.
You thought the date was super successful, you had a
good time, conversation was good, you had dinner, you he

(02:03):
was even talking about what the second date might look like.
So you're walking away from this going this is great.
This guy's gonna call me, We're gonna go out again.
Maybe this is going someplace, except he has not called you,
and you want to know why exactly. Yep, all right,
let's see if we can find some answers. Good luck, Shannon,
thank you. Hello. Hi is this Jesse, Yes, Jesse, Hey Jess, Jesse,

(02:29):
Good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling for the
Fred's Show, the morning radio show, and I have to
tell you that we are on the radio right now.
I would need your permission to continue with the call.
Can we chat for just a second?

Speaker 2 (02:38):
Do you mind?

Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (02:43):
Yeah? Okay?

Speaker 1 (02:44):
Good?

Speaker 2 (02:44):
Well, thank you.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
I know it's a little bit strange. She gelt, you know,
kind of You can hang up anytime, but we're calling
on behalf of a woman you met on Hinge, one
of the dating apps.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
Her name is Shannon. Do you remember Shannon? Yes, I
do remember Sharon.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
Okay, I've been doing long enough to know that the
laugh means something. But you know, she reached out to us,
had nice things to say about you. You know, she
said that that she'd match with you, and you chatted
and you went on a date and had dinner and
talked about a second date. And this is all good stuff,
except she says that you haven't called her since the date.

Speaker 3 (03:18):
Why oh, all right?

Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (03:23):
I did like Shannon at first, and I enjoyed our days,
but I'm gonna say afterwards, there's some like weirdness. Afterwards,
I got a text from Shannon that was written. It
read like an automated message.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
It was something like it was very weird. It was like, Hi,
great meeting you.

Speaker 4 (03:45):
As you know, the dating game is hard and an
effort to hold myself accountable and be better. I would
love if you could fill out a quick survey about
how I did on the date.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
Stop it like, stop it serious?

Speaker 1 (03:59):
Was it like? Was it like a wink or like
a QR cony right.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
Survey? Monkey, monkey, I swear to you. Also, there were categories.

Speaker 4 (04:12):
There were categories in the survey. There was like conversation, outfit, smell,
is there chemistry and like rate each of them like
you know, one to five stars and then apt to comment.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
And it was so so weird. I can't believe it.

Speaker 3 (04:28):
I can't believe what I was reading.

Speaker 1 (04:30):
It's like we changed to something and I leave when
they like, you know, please fill out this two minute
surveyor and receive five dollars off next time, really.

Speaker 3 (04:38):
Exactly like a business.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
Did you do it? No, they did not do it,
but I filled.

Speaker 4 (04:46):
I mean, Shannon's great, I know you're still there.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
Look how many did you go? I guess you've heard
this before. I didn't tell you was here, so I guess.
I guess you know a little bit about it out.

Speaker 3 (04:56):
I figured it out.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
It's hard to believe that most people don't.

Speaker 1 (04:58):
But but anyways, I need to see you high Shannon, Jesse, Shannon,
you guys know each other. I guess there's no real
surprise on this one.

Speaker 4 (05:05):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:06):
I mean, I'm just honestly like trying to just be
better and I just want some I don't know, criticism
or something. If clearly you're not going to call me back.
I mean, I don't think you should be hating on
someone that's like trying to better themselves, right, you like this?

Speaker 1 (05:21):
You want you want to fill out a survey after
a date kicking.

Speaker 5 (05:24):
I would not be offended by this, and it's been
you know. I think this is good because he can
be honest. It's a safe space. She can know so space.
She sent the link to someone and then a survey
comes back. She knows exactly who it's fro saying like,
it's not like he has conversations with her. He can
he can say whatever he wants on the survey. She
can seek it or work on it for her next day.

(05:46):
Jason's not met at this either.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
And I'm survey after its day. It's funny. I think
it's hurted.

Speaker 4 (05:53):
I'm you gotta be a little more self aware.

Speaker 1 (05:56):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (05:56):
It feels so like clinical, like a doctor's officer.

Speaker 2 (05:59):
That's yes, but I mean it's sweet. It's not the
worst thing we've heard on waiting by the phone. But
I wouldn't love you like a give herd actor, like
and I signed up for a trip to Bermuda. Yeah,
time share, I would do that. Yeah, hold on, send
it to me, Shannon.

Speaker 1 (06:15):
Have you ever had anybody right back and like roast you,
like give you bad scores well, either people like.

Speaker 3 (06:21):
Don't respond or when I do get responses, I mean,
it gives me I'm able to like reflect on what
they say, and then I'm hoping that, like each shake,
its better and better with like whoever I'm seeing. So
I just I don't see where the issue is.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
To be honest, I do have some questions.

Speaker 1 (06:36):
I want to do it, but some areas like what
just some areas, you know, some some of the extracurricular
activities that happened in dating. I would love to know
what my score is, love to know if I'm scoring high.
But I can tell you I get roasted for that.
If I sent you a post.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
How hard did I hit it?

Speaker 3 (06:56):
Right?

Speaker 2 (06:56):
Okay?

Speaker 1 (06:56):
Well, I'm just curious that you didn't fill it out. Jesse,
what would you give her one to ten on conversation?
I mean, she did ask. I'm not this is not
something I'm like. She wanted to know. So what would
you give her? One to ten?

Speaker 4 (07:09):
I would one to ten?

Speaker 3 (07:11):
I would say.

Speaker 1 (07:11):
Eight, that's pretty good, okay, outfit? What would you give
these are her questions? One to ten for the outfit
on the date.

Speaker 4 (07:17):
This feels so weird, I gotta say, But I'm serious.
If I was doing it, I would give you all
high marks. But the fact that you sent a survey
afterward is so weird. It throws me off completely.

Speaker 1 (07:28):
Like, isn't it fair to assume, Shannon. I'm sorry to
interrupt you, Jesse, but isn't fair to assume Shannon that
if he calls you again that you did Okay, I
mean yes, But.

Speaker 3 (07:37):
At the same time, like, I don't know, if he
doesn't like my outfit or something like that, at least
I can improve it for the next time if it's
something I'm comfortable with, Like I'm trying to do everything
that he wants me to do. If I don't feel
comfortable with it, but I just feel like it'll make
the relationship better if if like we're upfront from the
very beginning.

Speaker 1 (07:53):
I mean, we work in a qualitative environment. Okay, everything
is about a survey or a research project around here,
and I would be interested to know if there's something
I'm doing that's just blatantly bad. But at this point
in my life, it's probably not going to change. So
I find that people either think they either like me
or they think I'm doing something blatantly bad. It's no

(08:13):
I'm serious. It's one of the other like I either,
so I don't need a survey for that. You either
come back for more or you run the other way.

Speaker 2 (08:19):
Right excluse like you'll figure out if someone likes you
like Usain Bolt.

Speaker 1 (08:23):
The other way is what people do, or they come
back because they're lens for punishment. I don't need a
survey for that. But Jesse, would you consider I mean,
she she seems to care. I do think it's thoughtful
that she's concerned about, you know, if you're into it.
I do think it's kind of unsexy and there's something
that you would want to like, just see where it goes.
But as an overthinker, I can appreciate that, you know,

(08:45):
wanting the data.

Speaker 2 (08:48):
Would you give her another chance? We'll pay for it.

Speaker 4 (08:50):
I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 (08:51):
No, Oh my god, no, no, I'm sorry. It's just
too weird for me. Okay, oh, Kicky, let me ask
you this.

Speaker 1 (08:58):
If you got a bad review, Let's say you went
on a date with somebody you sent them a survey Monkey,
which is just a ridiculous thing to say in itself.
You got a bad review, would you change anything about
your approach moving forward?

Speaker 2 (09:10):
Really?

Speaker 4 (09:11):
Yes?

Speaker 5 (09:12):
If it needs changing, you know, but it is to
me to figure that out. But I just don't see
the harm in Bro. She sent the cute little survey.
You know, she wants to go with you, like it's.

Speaker 1 (09:26):
Of all the things that we've heard over the years.
This is not the worst, Shannon, But I get this
sort of non organic, unsexy aspect to it. So I
don't know if I don't know, but Shannon, he's not
going to go out with you again. I wish you
the best. And Jesse, thank you for answering the phone.
Good luck to you as well. Thank you, thank you,
thank you, Shannon, thank you.

Speaker 3 (09:48):
And Jasie, I want to you can still fill out
the survey.

Speaker 2 (09:51):
Oh my god, more categories.

Speaker 5 (09:54):
So I just know just for her files, that was
just part one.

Speaker 1 (09:59):
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