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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Fred Show is on. It's Stay or Go.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Diego is here, Diego? Good morning, Good morning, Diego. So
it's group therapy and you get what you pay for,
which in this case it's free. So just keep that
in mind before you make any like life altering decisions.
But what's going on with this is your girlfriend we're
talking about today?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
So what's going on?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Well, me and my girlfriend have been together for like
two years, and honestly, I've been contemplating proposing.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Okay, wow, you want to do that? You want to
do that? Is that the whole? Is that the whole?
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Call?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Well no, I say, you know, you can live a
very nice life without somebody else. But no, that's not
that's not the dilemma. Right, you're thinking about proposing. I'm
very happy for you that you found someone. Yes, okay,
well yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
But the thing is I'm Mexican and my parents they
don't really speak English, and my older sisters don't really
speak English either.
Speaker 5 (01:04):
So I was having a conversation.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
With my girlfriend, the one I'm thinking about proposing to,
and not the other.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Girlfriend, right, yeah, as opposed to the others. Yeah, I
can see how this is a dilemma. Already. So you're
talking to your girlfriend about this.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Well, I was encouraging her to learn Spanish so she
can like communicate with my family and you know, if
when we take trips to Mexico in the future that
I'm thinking of, you know, that she would be able
to to talk to my you know, my mom and
and and.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
All of that.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
But she said no, like she wasn't even open to
it at all, Like she didn't say, oh, uh maybe,
or or yeah, I could you know, learn a little bit,
Like she was just like, no, she doesn't have time
to learn another language, and you know, just saying that
my family should be, you know, able to learn English
(02:01):
as well, like you know, I've learned English.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
So so that's her solution. Her thing is, I realize
I'm potentially marrying into a family who speaks another language primarily.
And her official position is I have no interest in
ever understanding anything they're saying about because I honestly, selfishly
I think I would want to learn whatever language as
(02:25):
best as I could, so I could realize, no, if
you were talking about me, yes, number one, I want
to know if I'm sitting at the table, you know,
and y'all saying like this dude is a chump, and
I don't know why you're marrying him, and look, you
don't even speak our language. And then then what I
would love to be able to do in my fantasy
is go row rare country, oh you know, and then
(02:45):
and then tell them what I think. But look at
this Jason Brown. I mean he's been on dua lipa
now for what a year?
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Yeah? Well more than that. I started in twenty twenty, okay,
so four five years five?
Speaker 6 (02:57):
Have you ever broken your streak?
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Yeah, there's some freezing, is like if I'm too any
created one night, But that's okay, it doesn't.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
You've learned a lot, like you're really really good. Yeah,
it wouldn't be that hard for this woman to learn
some I mean, I think it would be endearing if
she'd learn some stuff. I mean, I don't think you're
asking her to be fluent, are you?
Speaker 1 (03:17):
No?
Speaker 3 (03:17):
I mean, and and yeah, that's that's how I feel.
I mean, honestly, I'm just turned off by her response.
And that's when I started questioning thing. I don't know
if I'm asking too much here, just learning something not
at all?
Speaker 7 (03:30):
Of course, and my like, for example, my stepdad did
not speak any Polish, but my mom is Polish. My
grandma doesn't say anything in English besides hello.
Speaker 6 (03:39):
So when when she came here, I.
Speaker 7 (03:41):
Mean grandma saying hello, so like it's the cutest thing ever.
But like when she was here, when she would come visit,
and you know, they would have to like eat at
the table together, like he would try, and I think
I was like, he didn't do well, but he tried.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Was the point?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Yes, right, And it probably went a long way to
this woman who is like, Wow, this dude cares enough
exactly try and you know, figure something out.
Speaker 7 (04:04):
Plus, like, if you guys have kids, I'm curious, diego,
are you guys going to teach them Spanish or do
you want to?
Speaker 6 (04:09):
I'm assuming yes, But what do you guys want to do?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Absolutely, I mean I we haven't talked about kids really
to be honest, but I obviously would want any children, yeah,
to be able to speak both languages.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Here, I would think, and that would look good not
only to your family the effort at least, but then
also the buy in on your culture and your upbringing
and your family for the kids that you guys might
have at some point, because you know, again, what if
they're looking at mom and Mom's like I don't know
what they're saying and I don't care, well, then what
is their incentive to learn?
Speaker 8 (04:45):
You know?
Speaker 2 (04:46):
If Mom's at least trying. I just I feel like
I feel like this is something that's not that hard
to say. I'll try, right, you know, Like again, no
one's asking you to be a Spanish professor in a
year or something. You know, no one's asking you to
like go work at Telemoon, deliver the news every night
or whatever to to you know, native Spanish speakers, Like
I don't know, dieg, let me take some phone calls
(05:08):
on this, and I would love to know what people
have to say if they've been through this before.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
But I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I'm just going around the room here, I gotta say,
do we all agree? Like I think it's kind of
messed up?
Speaker 6 (05:16):
I think so.
Speaker 7 (05:17):
And another thing too, is like not only like great
is it effort, but like I feel like there's no
there's nothing bat will come out of this for learning
another language. Relli's trying to and like the only thing
I would say on the flip side is maybe because
I suffer with this in my Spanish is like I'm.
Speaker 6 (05:30):
Shy because I'm gonna say words wrong.
Speaker 7 (05:33):
Right, So if I conversate with you and you know
you're obviously flu when you're saying this, I might feel
a little silly because I'm like, oh, I can't say
that word correctly. It comes off like, you know, I
don't have the accent. But you know what I learned
from my mom. My mom did to speak English coming
into this country. And guess what, every day she still
gets up and tries, you know, and she speaks obviously
way better English today than thirty years ago, but you know,
she still says words wrong.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
And that's okay.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
You are Polish in Mexican, correct, And I mean, and
I don't want to tell you story, but I would
say that the Polish aspect of your life was more
embraced simply because that was the presence, right, because your
mom was around.
Speaker 6 (06:08):
So I only grew up with my mother right then,
so that.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Was sort of the emphasis, right, was the Polish learning
Polish and whatever. And then you decided to sort of
like explore the other part of this on your own,
and then you wind up marrying into in a Hispanic family.
So now it's like, and I know, that you have
some insecurity about this too, don't you like, Cause it's like, well,
this is part of me, but I don't really know
anything about it and I'm trying to learn. But yet
(06:31):
these people this is like what they know. And so yeah,
and so you kind of I'm sure you feel like
a little left out.
Speaker 7 (06:36):
Yeah, well, thank you for acknowledging that, because that is
like a huge thing for me personally as as a
mixed person. But also, I know a lot of even
Mexican Americans go through that. Who you know, we're born
here who don't speak Spanish because they weren't taught that
whatever reason that might be, right, Your parents didn't want
to teach you, and they had their reasons.
Speaker 6 (06:51):
So I can't blame a lot of people.
Speaker 7 (06:52):
But a lot of times it's like your own community too,
coming after you, right, it's like, oh, you're an Osamo kid.
It's like, yeah, I am. Because I wasn't taught that
by a parent. That's something that was out of my control.
So as an adult, you know, what is in my
control is picking up Dualipa like Jason, yeah, and learning
you know, And I was always surrounded by Spanish speakers
in high school, like my high school was ninety percent
Hispanic speaking, you know, her Spanish speaking, so Hispanic you
(07:13):
know students. So I was able to like kind of
pick that up a little bit too. So like that,
I know I'm lucky for but I still struggle with it.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I want to be the odd person out either. I mean,
let's just okay, So let's say this woman Diego doesn't
care about your culture, he doesn't care about your language,
doesn't care about your family or or ingratiating herself with them.
I wouldn't want to be sitting in the room and
having no idea what my kids and everybody else talking about.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
I don't know that.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
So even if it's selfish, I guess I would make
the effort so that I wasn't shunned. But let me
take some calls Diego. I have the radio on a
good luck thanks for calling dump her. Yeah, I think
she's I don't like it. It seems very selfish. I mean, again,
you're not asking her. It's not like you're saying I
need you to go. I need you to be fluent,
I need you to know past participle, and I need
(07:59):
you to be I need you know all the irregulars
and the yeah, because again, I took Spanish for twelve years,
and I can tell with a little bit of if
I go to Mexico, you know, and I sort of
hear it a little bit, I can tell you what's
happening right now. Okay, I can tell you what's happening
right now. Do not ask me what happened yesterday. Don't
ask me what's gonna happen tomorrow. Don't do that.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
I don't know what used to happen. What I know
is what's right in front of me.
Speaker 8 (08:27):
Do you not?
Speaker 1 (08:30):
No, don't ask me that. Hello, Bridges, Bridget, how you
doing it?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Is?
Speaker 4 (08:38):
For good morning?
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Let me go, thanks for calling, and thank you so
Diego just called. If you just tuning in, And he's
thinking about marrying this woman, but his whole family speaks
Spanish primarily, and he's like, hey, would you would you
learn some words so maybe you can, I don't know,
make them feel comfortable, make them feel like you care
kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
And she said, no, I won't do it. What do
you think?
Speaker 4 (09:00):
Yeah, I think it's time to go. When somebody shows
you who they are and the effort they're willing to
put in or not put in. Believe them the first time.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Yeah, yeah, what I've seen videos on TikTok of like
men or women learning entire speeches in another language to recite,
Like they'll take a year worth of classes to learn
how to give their wedding speech at the wedding in
the native language. And even though it's not good or
they stumble all over it or they're nervous or whatever,
(09:28):
it's like I've seen. You know, the people who it's
affecting are the people who it's being done for, Like
they they're so emotional because like this dude cared enough
to go take Russian you know what I'm saying, like
or something really difficult to be able to do this
for me on this day.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
I think it really goes along.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
The way to show that you care about somebody's family. Yes,
he's not asking for much, he's asking just to try.
Like you said, he's not asking for Telemundo level speaking, no,
asking for trying.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I agree. Thank you, Richie, have a great day. Thanks
for listening. Thank you you too, appreciate you.
Speaker 6 (09:58):
That's the other point.
Speaker 7 (09:58):
And also, did you like someone kind of this in
And I thought it was a valid point. It's like, yeah,
like the language is part of your culture, but like
there's more to that, like if they do have kids
or whatever, right, and like she's gonna be around like
the family like like that that's the culture is a lifestyle,
you know what I mean. So like the food, the music,
all of that, it all ties into the language. So
I think it's all important if you're gonna marry to
that family to embrace all of it.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Mah tech Well, and we know people well Vellahamine didn't
become she didn't. She didn't become Jewish for her husband,
but it was a part of him, and she did
it for herself and for him. Yeah, you know, but
like I know people who have gone all the way
they've they've become Jewish, they've become you know, Christians, are
born again or whatever it is because they knew how
(10:40):
important that was to their partner. And he's not asking
for that. He's asking you to like get on YouTube
and learn a couple of words. Hey, angel, how you doing,
good morning? Thanks for Colin. What do you think?
Speaker 9 (10:53):
Well, I think you know, as a Mexican, you needs
to he needs to let her go. I mean, you're not,
it's just kind of making a little effort. I just said,
you know, she's not gonna make a speech, do a
speech or something like that. It just kind of have
something to stay with his family and she's not willing
(11:13):
to make that. So but did you know she's dating
him in the first place, she knows his backphone. I
mean she's not. She's getting into so she needs she
needs to let her go.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
I'm serious.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
And the whole like they should learned English stuff.
Speaker 9 (11:28):
It's like I know, and I bet she's ditting all
the Mexican food, right, so.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Language she likes some of it and I like the
other parts of it. That's how this works.
Speaker 6 (11:44):
I think it's exactly.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
It's for me.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
It's not even the fact that she didn't come to
this conclusion on her own. It's the hard no, which uh,
which I think Tory is about to talk about to
thank you so much for Colin have a great day.
That's about as far as I can go with that, toy, Hello, toy,
We're on the same page here, Like why the hard
(12:06):
no is so fast?
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Like not even let me think about that?
Speaker 10 (12:11):
Right?
Speaker 11 (12:12):
And I teach in a primary a school where people
primarily speak Spanish, and I'm not fluent, and I feel
so uncomfortable where I'm trying to learn Spanish. So at
least I have like an idea and I can try.
And so it's so bizarre that you would just be
in a family where you would have no idea how
to communicate with them.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Yeah, I still think it's asking for much. Thank you, Tory,
have a great day, you too, Glad you called. Thank
you for listening. Miguel, good morning, Good morning. How I
love your shoe, Hey man, thank you so much, you say, go.
Speaker 8 (12:44):
Yeah, so, I mean I'm in the same song of relationship.
I'm Mexican and my wife is white. You know. When
we started dating and she came out on the family,
they do speak English, but you know, a lot of
the conversation does go to Spanish. She tried to pick
it up. She's doing to do a linga to uh,
to try to learn just what thought he would be asked,
it's the effort that you want to put in the relationship.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Yeah, hard.
Speaker 8 (13:06):
No, I don't want to put any effort into it
and just doesn't want.
Speaker 7 (13:09):
To be a part of it.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Yeah, I don't think it's that hard. Thank you.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Miguel. Have a great day and good for her. Yes, yeah,
take care. Hey, Liz, Hi Lives good morning, Hi, good morning, Hey,
so you've been this has happened to you, like this
story is somebody that he resonates with you?
Speaker 4 (13:24):
Yes?
Speaker 9 (13:25):
I dated someone for a couple of years.
Speaker 12 (13:29):
He did not want to learn any Spanish at all,
and it just became too too hard.
Speaker 9 (13:35):
It strained our relationship my parents.
Speaker 12 (13:38):
I'm Mexican, my parents speak Spanish as a first language,
and he every time he would come over to the house,
he would have me translate what my parents were seeing.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
And it's like, you can't learn anything, like you can't
greet them, or I don't know, learn basic sense like
not you're not willing to do anything.
Speaker 12 (13:59):
Yeah, he just didn't want to learn. So I'm like,
you know what, this is not gonna work. You're not
putting an effort here showing me you do not care.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
I agree with you. Thank you, Liz, have a good day. Okay,
now this is going to be fun. One more. Anna.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Hi Anna, Hi, good morning Anna.
Speaker 10 (14:15):
I'm calling radio show.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Well oh my gosh, I aim higher call a better one. No,
So you know you know Polish because of somebody.
Speaker 10 (14:26):
Well, no, well let me okay, let me elaborate. So
mine black, and of course my son is too. But
my son his partner is Polish. And so I have
a black and Polish grandson. I'm very young, but my
son and I are making the effort to learn Polish
(14:47):
on behalf of my grandson. That's awesome side of the family.
His other grandmother only speaks Polish. You cannot understand a
word of her English. So we want to be able
to all communicate. She is, she's watching his other grandmother
(15:08):
is watching Chesame Street to try to learn English.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
See, this is how it should be. It's just so sweet.
She's trying. You're trying, and again, no one's asking you
to be fluent.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Say something to her.
Speaker 7 (15:20):
Let's see about Joan.
Speaker 10 (15:22):
I'm trying a complete blank right now.
Speaker 6 (15:26):
No, Anna, you know you're a bat jaw. You know
that right, You're a grandma.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
You're about jes Yes, don't call her that.
Speaker 10 (15:33):
She wants him to call her yes, and and he
can of course call me that too. But I just
think that that is I mean, you guys have said
it already. It's very selfish and self tenator of her.
Not to be willing to share that with him and
his family, and of course what an impact I would
have on their kids. So I just you know, my
(15:54):
grandson just came to mind when I heard you guys
talking about this.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
Well, Anna, I commend you and thank you for you
call any time. Okay, we'll do all right, have a
good day. The Entertainment Reports next seven hundred and fifty
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Speaker 2 (00:03):
Diego is here, Diego? Good morning, Good morning, Diego. So
it's group therapy and you get what you pay for,
which in this case it's free. So just keep that
in mind before you make any like life altering decisions.
But what's going on with this is your girlfriend we're
talking about today?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
So what's going on?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Well, me and my girlfriend have been together for like
two years, and honestly, I've been contemplating proposing.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Okay, wow, you want to do that? You want to
do that? Is that the whole? Is that the whole?
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Call?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Well no, I say, you know, you can live a
very nice life without somebody else. But no, that's not
that's not the dilemma. Right, you're thinking about proposing. I'm
very happy for you that you found someone. Yes, okay,
well yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
But the thing is I'm Mexican and my parents they
don't really speak English, and my older sisters don't really
speak English either.
Speaker 5 (01:04):
So I was having a conversation.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
With my girlfriend, the one I'm thinking about proposing to,
and not the other.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Girlfriend, right, yeah, as opposed to the others. Yeah, I
can see how this is a dilemma. Already. So you're
talking to your girlfriend about this.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Well, I was encouraging her to learn Spanish so she
can like communicate with my family and you know, if
when we take trips to Mexico in the future that
I'm thinking of, you know, that she would be able
to to talk to my you know, my mom and
and and.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
All of that.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
But she said no, like she wasn't even open to
it at all, Like she didn't say, oh, uh maybe,
or or yeah, I could you know, learn a little bit,
Like she was just like, no, she doesn't have time
to learn another language, and you know, just saying that
my family should be, you know, able to learn English
(02:01):
as well, like you know, I've learned English.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
So so that's her solution. Her thing is, I realize
I'm potentially marrying into a family who speaks another language primarily.
And her official position is I have no interest in
ever understanding anything they're saying about because I honestly, selfishly
I think I would want to learn whatever language as
(02:25):
best as I could, so I could realize, no, if
you were talking about me, yes, number one, I want
to know if I'm sitting at the table, you know,
and y'all saying like this dude is a chump, and
I don't know why you're marrying him, and look, you
don't even speak our language. And then then what I
would love to be able to do in my fantasy
is go row rare country, oh you know, and then
(02:45):
and then tell them what I think. But look at
this Jason Brown. I mean he's been on dua lipa
now for what a year?
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Yeah? Well more than that. I started in twenty twenty, okay,
so four five years five?
Speaker 6 (02:57):
Have you ever broken your streak?
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Yeah, there's some freezing, is like if I'm too any
created one night, But that's okay, it doesn't.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
You've learned a lot, like you're really really good. Yeah,
it wouldn't be that hard for this woman to learn
some I mean, I think it would be endearing if
she'd learn some stuff. I mean, I don't think you're
asking her to be fluent, are you?
Speaker 1 (03:17):
No?
Speaker 3 (03:17):
I mean, and and yeah, that's that's how I feel.
I mean, honestly, I'm just turned off by her response.
And that's when I started questioning thing. I don't know
if I'm asking too much here, just learning something not
at all?
Speaker 7 (03:30):
Of course, and my like, for example, my stepdad did
not speak any Polish, but my mom is Polish. My
grandma doesn't say anything in English besides hello.
Speaker 6 (03:39):
So when when she came here, I.
Speaker 7 (03:41):
Mean grandma saying hello, so like it's the cutest thing ever.
But like when she was here, when she would come visit,
and you know, they would have to like eat at
the table together, like he would try, and I think
I was like, he didn't do well, but he tried.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Was the point?
Speaker 2 (03:56):
Yes, right, And it probably went a long way to
this woman who is like, Wow, this dude cares enough
exactly try and you know, figure something out.
Speaker 7 (04:04):
Plus, like, if you guys have kids, I'm curious, diego,
are you guys going to teach them Spanish or do
you want to?
Speaker 6 (04:09):
I'm assuming yes, But what do you guys want to do?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Absolutely, I mean I we haven't talked about kids really
to be honest, but I obviously would want any children, yeah,
to be able to speak both languages.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Here, I would think, and that would look good not
only to your family the effort at least, but then
also the buy in on your culture and your upbringing
and your family for the kids that you guys might
have at some point, because you know, again, what if
they're looking at mom and Mom's like I don't know
what they're saying and I don't care, well, then what
is their incentive to learn?
Speaker 8 (04:45):
You know?
Speaker 2 (04:46):
If Mom's at least trying. I just I feel like
I feel like this is something that's not that hard
to say. I'll try, right, you know, Like again, no
one's asking you to be a Spanish professor in a
year or something. You know, no one's asking you to
like go work at Telemoon, deliver the news every night
or whatever to to you know, native Spanish speakers, Like
I don't know, dieg, let me take some phone calls
(05:08):
on this, and I would love to know what people
have to say if they've been through this before.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
But I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I'm just going around the room here, I gotta say,
do we all agree? Like I think it's kind of
messed up?
Speaker 6 (05:16):
I think so.
Speaker 7 (05:17):
And another thing too, is like not only like great
is it effort, but like I feel like there's no
there's nothing bat will come out of this for learning
another language. Relli's trying to and like the only thing
I would say on the flip side is maybe because
I suffer with this in my Spanish is like I'm.
Speaker 6 (05:30):
Shy because I'm gonna say words wrong.
Speaker 7 (05:33):
Right, So if I conversate with you and you know
you're obviously flu when you're saying this, I might feel
a little silly because I'm like, oh, I can't say
that word correctly. It comes off like, you know, I
don't have the accent. But you know what I learned
from my mom. My mom did to speak English coming
into this country. And guess what, every day she still
gets up and tries, you know, and she speaks obviously
way better English today than thirty years ago, but you know,
she still says words wrong.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
And that's okay.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
You are Polish in Mexican, correct, And I mean, and
I don't want to tell you story, but I would
say that the Polish aspect of your life was more
embraced simply because that was the presence, right, because your
mom was around.
Speaker 6 (06:08):
So I only grew up with my mother right then,
so that.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Was sort of the emphasis, right, was the Polish learning
Polish and whatever. And then you decided to sort of
like explore the other part of this on your own,
and then you wind up marrying into in a Hispanic family.
So now it's like, and I know, that you have
some insecurity about this too, don't you like, Cause it's like, well,
this is part of me, but I don't really know
anything about it and I'm trying to learn. But yet
(06:31):
these people this is like what they know. And so yeah,
and so you kind of I'm sure you feel like
a little left out.
Speaker 7 (06:36):
Yeah, well, thank you for acknowledging that, because that is
like a huge thing for me personally as as a
mixed person. But also, I know a lot of even
Mexican Americans go through that. Who you know, we're born
here who don't speak Spanish because they weren't taught that
whatever reason that might be, right, Your parents didn't want
to teach you, and they had their reasons.
Speaker 6 (06:51):
So I can't blame a lot of people.
Speaker 7 (06:52):
But a lot of times it's like your own community too,
coming after you, right, it's like, oh, you're an Osamo kid.
It's like, yeah, I am. Because I wasn't taught that
by a parent. That's something that was out of my control.
So as an adult, you know, what is in my
control is picking up Dualipa like Jason, yeah, and learning
you know, And I was always surrounded by Spanish speakers
in high school, like my high school was ninety percent
Hispanic speaking, you know, her Spanish speaking, so Hispanic you
(07:13):
know students. So I was able to like kind of
pick that up a little bit too. So like that,
I know I'm lucky for but I still struggle with it.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I want to be the odd person out either. I mean,
let's just okay, So let's say this woman Diego doesn't
care about your culture, he doesn't care about your language,
doesn't care about your family or or ingratiating herself with them.
I wouldn't want to be sitting in the room and
having no idea what my kids and everybody else talking about.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
I don't know that.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
So even if it's selfish, I guess I would make
the effort so that I wasn't shunned. But let me
take some calls Diego. I have the radio on a
good luck thanks for calling dump her. Yeah, I think
she's I don't like it. It seems very selfish. I mean, again,
you're not asking her. It's not like you're saying I
need you to go. I need you to be fluent,
I need you to know past participle, and I need
(07:59):
you to be I need you know all the irregulars
and the yeah, because again, I took Spanish for twelve years,
and I can tell with a little bit of if
I go to Mexico, you know, and I sort of
hear it a little bit, I can tell you what's
happening right now. Okay, I can tell you what's happening
right now. Do not ask me what happened yesterday. Don't
ask me what's gonna happen tomorrow. Don't do that.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
I don't know what used to happen. What I know
is what's right in front of me.
Speaker 8 (08:27):
Do you not?
Speaker 1 (08:30):
No, don't ask me that. Hello, Bridges, Bridget, how you
doing it?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Is?
Speaker 4 (08:38):
For good morning?
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Let me go, thanks for calling, and thank you so
Diego just called. If you just tuning in, And he's
thinking about marrying this woman, but his whole family speaks
Spanish primarily, and he's like, hey, would you would you
learn some words so maybe you can, I don't know,
make them feel comfortable, make them feel like you care
kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
And she said, no, I won't do it. What do
you think?
Speaker 4 (09:00):
Yeah, I think it's time to go. When somebody shows
you who they are and the effort they're willing to
put in or not put in. Believe them the first time.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Yeah, yeah, what I've seen videos on TikTok of like
men or women learning entire speeches in another language to recite,
Like they'll take a year worth of classes to learn
how to give their wedding speech at the wedding in
the native language. And even though it's not good or
they stumble all over it or they're nervous or whatever,
(09:28):
it's like I've seen. You know, the people who it's
affecting are the people who it's being done for, Like
they they're so emotional because like this dude cared enough
to go take Russian you know what I'm saying, like
or something really difficult to be able to do this
for me on this day.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
I think it really goes along.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
The way to show that you care about somebody's family. Yes,
he's not asking for much, he's asking just to try.
Like you said, he's not asking for Telemundo level speaking, no,
asking for trying.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I agree. Thank you, Richie, have a great day. Thanks
for listening. Thank you you too, appreciate you.
Speaker 6 (09:58):
That's the other point.
Speaker 7 (09:58):
And also, did you like someone kind of this in
And I thought it was a valid point. It's like, yeah,
like the language is part of your culture, but like
there's more to that, like if they do have kids
or whatever, right, and like she's gonna be around like
the family like like that that's the culture is a lifestyle,
you know what I mean. So like the food, the music,
all of that, it all ties into the language. So
I think it's all important if you're gonna marry to
that family to embrace all of it.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Mah tech Well, and we know people well Vellahamine didn't
become she didn't. She didn't become Jewish for her husband,
but it was a part of him, and she did
it for herself and for him. Yeah, you know, but
like I know people who have gone all the way
they've they've become Jewish, they've become you know, Christians, are
born again or whatever it is because they knew how
(10:40):
important that was to their partner. And he's not asking
for that. He's asking you to like get on YouTube
and learn a couple of words. Hey, angel, how you doing,
good morning? Thanks for Colin. What do you think?
Speaker 9 (10:53):
Well, I think you know, as a Mexican, you needs
to he needs to let her go. I mean, you're not,
it's just kind of making a little effort. I just said,
you know, she's not gonna make a speech, do a
speech or something like that. It just kind of have
something to stay with his family and she's not willing
(11:13):
to make that. So but did you know she's dating
him in the first place, she knows his backphone. I
mean she's not. She's getting into so she needs she
needs to let her go.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
I'm serious.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
And the whole like they should learned English stuff.
Speaker 9 (11:28):
It's like I know, and I bet she's ditting all
the Mexican food, right, so.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Language she likes some of it and I like the
other parts of it. That's how this works.
Speaker 6 (11:44):
I think it's exactly.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
It's for me.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
It's not even the fact that she didn't come to
this conclusion on her own. It's the hard no, which uh,
which I think Tory is about to talk about to
thank you so much for Colin have a great day.
That's about as far as I can go with that, toy, Hello, toy,
We're on the same page here, Like why the hard
(12:06):
no is so fast?
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Like not even let me think about that?
Speaker 10 (12:11):
Right?
Speaker 11 (12:12):
And I teach in a primary a school where people
primarily speak Spanish, and I'm not fluent, and I feel
so uncomfortable where I'm trying to learn Spanish. So at
least I have like an idea and I can try.
And so it's so bizarre that you would just be
in a family where you would have no idea how
to communicate with them.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Yeah, I still think it's asking for much. Thank you, Tory,
have a great day, you too, Glad you called. Thank
you for listening. Miguel, good morning, Good morning. How I
love your shoe, Hey man, thank you so much, you say, go.
Speaker 8 (12:44):
Yeah, so, I mean I'm in the same song of relationship.
I'm Mexican and my wife is white. You know. When
we started dating and she came out on the family,
they do speak English, but you know, a lot of
the conversation does go to Spanish. She tried to pick
it up. She's doing to do a linga to uh,
to try to learn just what thought he would be asked,
it's the effort that you want to put in the relationship.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Yeah, hard.
Speaker 8 (13:06):
No, I don't want to put any effort into it
and just doesn't want.
Speaker 7 (13:09):
To be a part of it.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Yeah, I don't think it's that hard. Thank you.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Miguel. Have a great day and good for her. Yes, yeah,
take care. Hey, Liz, Hi Lives good morning, Hi, good morning, Hey,
so you've been this has happened to you, like this
story is somebody that he resonates with you?
Speaker 4 (13:24):
Yes?
Speaker 9 (13:25):
I dated someone for a couple of years.
Speaker 12 (13:29):
He did not want to learn any Spanish at all,
and it just became too too hard.
Speaker 9 (13:35):
It strained our relationship my parents.
Speaker 12 (13:38):
I'm Mexican, my parents speak Spanish as a first language,
and he every time he would come over to the house,
he would have me translate what my parents were seeing.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
And it's like, you can't learn anything, like you can't
greet them, or I don't know, learn basic sense like
not you're not willing to do anything.
Speaker 12 (13:59):
Yeah, he just didn't want to learn. So I'm like,
you know what, this is not gonna work. You're not
putting an effort here showing me you do not care.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
I agree with you. Thank you, Liz, have a good day. Okay,
now this is going to be fun. One more. Anna.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Hi Anna, Hi, good morning Anna.
Speaker 10 (14:15):
I'm calling radio show.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Well oh my gosh, I aim higher call a better one. No,
So you know you know Polish because of somebody.
Speaker 10 (14:26):
Well, no, well let me okay, let me elaborate. So
mine black, and of course my son is too. But
my son his partner is Polish. And so I have
a black and Polish grandson. I'm very young, but my
son and I are making the effort to learn Polish
(14:47):
on behalf of my grandson. That's awesome side of the family.
His other grandmother only speaks Polish. You cannot understand a
word of her English. So we want to be able
to all communicate. She is, she's watching his other grandmother
(15:08):
is watching Chesame Street to try to learn English.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
See, this is how it should be. It's just so sweet.
She's trying. You're trying, and again, no one's asking you
to be fluent.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Say something to her.
Speaker 7 (15:20):
Let's see about Joan.
Speaker 10 (15:22):
I'm trying a complete blank right now.
Speaker 6 (15:26):
No, Anna, you know you're a bat jaw. You know
that right, You're a grandma.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
You're about jes Yes, don't call her that.
Speaker 10 (15:33):
She wants him to call her yes, and and he
can of course call me that too. But I just
think that that is I mean, you guys have said
it already. It's very selfish and self tenator of her.
Not to be willing to share that with him and
his family, and of course what an impact I would
have on their kids. So I just you know, my
(15:54):
grandson just came to mind when I heard you guys
talking about this.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
Well, Anna, I commend you and thank you for you
call any time. Okay, we'll do all right, have a
good day. The Entertainment Reports next seven hundred and fifty
bucks with show by Shelley in the showdown is tough
to be, but that's good money.
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