March 4, 2025 • 9 mins
Kaelin is a maid of honor in her best friends wedding so she has been in charge of planning the bachelorette party. Amongst all the planning she has been asking the other bridesmaids to help pay for portions of the party and she can't get one of them to pay their fair share.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, they talk better than they excited. Tell me.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show, like
running in our diaries, except we say them aloud.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
We call them blogs Kalin's got.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
One go Yes, thank you, dear blog. So one of
my greatest fears in life is asking people for money
that they rightfully owe me. But somehow I have put
myself in situations endlessly where I need to ask people
for money. Like I always be asking people for money.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
So you ask people for money that owe me money,
it is like, you wait, what do you mean?
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Give me an example.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
So, like, I I'm very uncomfortable asking for money for myself.
But you know, I like ride for my people harder
than I'll ever ride for myself.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
So if someone owes Jason money, I'll show up to
the house with a bath. I'm like, hey up. But
if someone owes me money, I'm like, oh, it's okay.
I'll discover it.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
You know, I don't know why. And so it's just
very uncomfortable for me. And currently the situation that I'm
dealing with. I spoke about it the other day on
the show. I am planning this bachelorette party for one
of my best friends weekend rather.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I am her maid of honor.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
And of course, like I'm planning this weekend, so I
need to put my card down for a lot of things. Fine,
no problem, I'm a grown woman. I'm happy to do it.
I want everyone to have fun. However, a lot of people.
Actually one specific person, I won't even say that.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I'll say there's one specific.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Person who I have been trying to get sixty six
dollars from for what feels like an eternity, and I've
now asked three separate times. I don't know if there's
like a new way that I can ask, if there's
like a song and dance number, But each time it's
very difficult for me. Like I want to tear my
skin off, I want to walk into oncoming traffic. I
(01:47):
don't like asking for money. But also, like I make
it so clear in all the messages, Hey message me privately,
like I get it. Times are really tough. I can
work with you. We can do payment plans if you
just let me know.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
With people. Are you a credit union? Like what?
Speaker 3 (02:03):
No?
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Like?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
No, No, everybody knows the etiquette. Everybody knows the etiquette.
You are planning, you are fronting, and and everybody knows
that if you if you owe money, you need to
pay the money now, not later. And if you're agreeing
to go on a bachelorette party to Maine or wherever
the hell you guys are going lobster hunting or whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
You do, then that is what we're doing, lobster catching
or whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Then then you then you got to know that's going
to cost money and you have to be prepared to
pay for it. And if you don't have the money
to go on the trip, then you have to say
I can't go, so that people aren't becoming the bank
and you're becoming the bank. You know what I'm saying,
because you you front all this stuff and then you
go back and ask people to pay you. Do you
want me to call this this person and say that
I'm the collection agency.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Let's call him right now on here. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
And it's like if it's one of my friends that
are in the group, like I'll be like girl, girl
like side, like I know you have the money, like
come on, please, you're just ignoring my text. But it
is not one of my close friends. And so that's
what's making it so difficult. And uh, she's very important
to the bride, so I and I don't want to
involve the bride.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Like I'm not going to be like a tattletale. But
it's getting a little sick.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I mean, sixty six dollars and there's gonna be other
payments that are going to be more than sixty six dollars,
much more.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
And I'm like, ladies, please, like I hate this. I
hate this the whole like shaking my cup thing for
the money that's so like.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
Kills me, Like I'm tired of it.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Like, let's be big girls. What if you did this
starting to reupt you, Pauline? What if you do this, Kitlin?
What if you were to say the remaining amount of money,
what if you were to estimate, like the remaining amount
of money everyone's going to win?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Is this thing next month? This month?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
It is the last weekend in May, and I assume
there's more.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
There's going to be more expense, right, there certainly will be. Yes,
how much do you think everyone's gonna wind up owing total?
Five hundred bucks a thousand bucks apiece? Like, how much
do you think it's going to cost total by the
time you're done.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
I'm not sure.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
But the reason that I was trying to separate it
is so that it doesn't seem so much and that
you know, with someone we can use this paycheck for
this payment and another paycheck for another payment. I don't
want to like put it all into a bundle and
like ask people for that. I don't know, I just
feel like that's harder to do than like asking for
little payments along the way.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
I kind of feel like what my buddy did.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
He's actually he's a lawyer, so of course he was
he was thinking ahead. Yeah, he's a smart guy. But
what he did, and and granted he has some dough
but like on the bachelor party I went to recently,
and it was the first grown up bachelor party I
had been to, but he wanted all the points for
not only like the Marriott points or Hilton or whatever
(04:47):
it was, but he wanted the credit card points, like
the Miles. So he fronted all of the hotel rooms
on his credit card, which was a lot. I mean,
I think I don't know how much it was. It was,
I mean we're talking thousands of dollars of course. Yeah,
and then he put everything on his card, the whole weekend, everything,
and then he sent us all a bill basically, and
was like, you each owe me this much and I
(05:08):
need it in two weeks or less or whatever. And
so I get that that's a lot, but you don't
have to pay the credit card. I don't know how
long your credit card has before there's interest on it.
But my thing would be, I think you should just say, hey, everybody,
I think it's you don't have to pay me till
the end. But I'm guessing it's going to be about
one thousand dollars a piece. I'm making this up, and
that's going to be due within two weeks of the
(05:30):
end of it. And then just charge everything to your
card and that way it's one time, one bill, and
you're not chasing everybody down for money. And then if
you want and everyone's going to pay you, and if
there's someone who doesn't, then you can go to the
bride after the fact, after she's aware of how much
everything costs, and be like, yo, you know low Lucy
over here, you ow a friend from college, low Lucy
(05:52):
over here, try not to pay me, and I'm going
to send her to collections if you don't. But I
guess it's just easier than trying to scrounge money out
of someone. A bunch of it just less work for you.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Yeah, I just feel like my thing is it shouldn't
have to be. It's difficult.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
I think it's like extremely disrespectful if I'm being completely serious,
like I could not rest. I can't rest if I
know someone money, like I literally will think about it
until I send it. And I think it's just hurts
me that I've been so like communicative about being willing
to work with people because I love my friend. I
want her to have fun, and I think, you know, yes,
I could put it all into one bill, but I
(06:25):
think I'd still run into the same issue. And for me,
I don't ever want to involve the bride. I think
it would make her very uncomfortable to know what we're
spending on her. It would be nice for her to know,
but you know, she's not paying for basically anything.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
I just don't know how else to do it because
time we're staying on the text, they're saying, don't front money,
and I get that. I get that, but I also
don't know how else to do it in an organized way.
And unfortunately, if you're the planner, I just I don't
know how else to do it?
Speaker 5 (06:53):
I like a girl's group right now for this trip
that I'm going on. Huh, and the you know, the organizer, which,
like the U of the group, has been very transparent
in the group chat dummy chat about what's old.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Right.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
So here's my suggestion is to get in the group chat,
put hey, I've received money from Alison key key Paulina's
Jason right, and then be like I'm still missing money.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
From put her.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Say wait a minute, the only person he left out
was me. Well, I paid, I paid you.
Speaker 5 (07:26):
Friend still owes me sixty six dollars and put it
all in a group chat. Yes, people, I'm telling you, girl,
you gotta do it. Should I just say it's for
bookkeeping purposes? Girls?
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Just putting it here for everybody to see. Shouldn't I
message her? Primary person you got to put you would
six dollars. I don't play it by my money.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
I don't like I don't like that a friend that
is gonna be like, hey, I'll pay because I won't
ever ask you for money. I'll just talk about you
for twenty years. Don't you'll pay me back sixty six?
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Good?
Speaker 5 (08:01):
But in this case, I really think you have to
put her on blast in front of the other girls
because she looks crazy being how close she is to
the bride too. I know who she is to the bride.
That's insane that that you're the problem. You should not
be the problem.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Oh, there's an app.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
There's an app calt Why Yeah, I was just about
to bring that up.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
There is an app.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
But that's more helpful if like, multiple people are paying
for stuff. If it's just one person, then it's it's
just you pay that one person.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
I just think it sounds like you're going to have
an organizational nightmare if it's yeah, every week, hey I
need this much and this much and this much and
this much, and it all adds up to whatever it is.
And again it's messed up that you would have to
front or the other thing you could do I guess
is say, hey, I estimate this trip is going to
cost fifteen a thousand dollars a person or whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Everybody owes me a.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
G and then I will give you an accurate accounting
of how much we spent in the end, and if
there's leftover, then everybody, I'll give everybody money back or whatever.
Because that way, at least you're working off of and
the money that's alllready there, as opposed to you having
to front all this cash and then become a debt collector,
because I just think it's a big pain in the butt.
And if you if it's sixty bucks here and eighty
(09:09):
bucks here, and then you're gonna start justifying in your mind.
All right, I'm gonna let this sixty six go because
I still got to go get them for two fifty
for the hotels or whatever. And I just feel like
before long you're gonna have everyone's gonna owe you a
little bit because people forgot or they're not paying, or
they don't they don't want to.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Just what a pain.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Yeah, but like the crazy, I gotta say, everybody, raise
your hand if you pay me mark, Yes, I'm a
count of three. Raise your hand if you pay the money.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Oh god, Okay, okay, Honestly, you need to have an
intervention with the chief ass who's not paying you, right girl,
and record it and put it on TikTok Live and
everybody can see this is the person, this is the
cheap skates.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
I'll just talk about it on the radio or when
I think, yeah, you.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Just accomplished the same thing. Yeah, you're right, stay or go.
In two minutes of Just Sabrina fred Show,
Yeah, they talk better than they excited. Tell me.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show, like
running in our diaries, except we say them aloud.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
We call them blogs Kalin's got.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
One go Yes, thank you, dear blog. So one of
my greatest fears in life is asking people for money
that they rightfully owe me. But somehow I have put
myself in situations endlessly where I need to ask people
for money. Like I always be asking people for money.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
So you ask people for money that owe me money,
it is like, you wait, what do you mean?
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Give me an example.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
So, like, I I'm very uncomfortable asking for money for myself.
But you know, I like ride for my people harder
than I'll ever ride for myself.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
So if someone owes Jason money, I'll show up to
the house with a bath. I'm like, hey up. But
if someone owes me money, I'm like, oh, it's okay.
I'll discover it.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
You know, I don't know why. And so it's just
very uncomfortable for me. And currently the situation that I'm
dealing with. I spoke about it the other day on
the show. I am planning this bachelorette party for one
of my best friends weekend rather.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I am her maid of honor.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
And of course, like I'm planning this weekend, so I
need to put my card down for a lot of things. Fine,
no problem, I'm a grown woman. I'm happy to do it.
I want everyone to have fun. However, a lot of people.
Actually one specific person, I won't even say that.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I'll say there's one specific.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Person who I have been trying to get sixty six
dollars from for what feels like an eternity, and I've
now asked three separate times. I don't know if there's
like a new way that I can ask, if there's
like a song and dance number, But each time it's
very difficult for me. Like I want to tear my
skin off, I want to walk into oncoming traffic. I
(01:47):
don't like asking for money. But also, like I make
it so clear in all the messages, Hey message me privately,
like I get it. Times are really tough. I can
work with you. We can do payment plans if you
just let me know.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
With people. Are you a credit union? Like what?
Speaker 3 (02:03):
No?
Speaker 1 (02:03):
Like?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
No, No, everybody knows the etiquette. Everybody knows the etiquette.
You are planning, you are fronting, and and everybody knows
that if you if you owe money, you need to
pay the money now, not later. And if you're agreeing
to go on a bachelorette party to Maine or wherever
the hell you guys are going lobster hunting or whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
You do, then that is what we're doing, lobster catching
or whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Then then you then you got to know that's going
to cost money and you have to be prepared to
pay for it. And if you don't have the money
to go on the trip, then you have to say
I can't go, so that people aren't becoming the bank
and you're becoming the bank. You know what I'm saying,
because you you front all this stuff and then you
go back and ask people to pay you. Do you
want me to call this this person and say that
I'm the collection agency.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Let's call him right now on here. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
And it's like if it's one of my friends that
are in the group, like I'll be like girl, girl
like side, like I know you have the money, like
come on, please, you're just ignoring my text. But it
is not one of my close friends. And so that's
what's making it so difficult. And uh, she's very important
to the bride, so I and I don't want to
involve the bride.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Like I'm not going to be like a tattletale. But
it's getting a little sick.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I mean, sixty six dollars and there's gonna be other
payments that are going to be more than sixty six dollars,
much more.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
And I'm like, ladies, please, like I hate this. I
hate this the whole like shaking my cup thing for
the money that's so like.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
Kills me, Like I'm tired of it.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Like, let's be big girls. What if you did this
starting to reupt you, Pauline? What if you do this, Kitlin?
What if you were to say the remaining amount of money,
what if you were to estimate, like the remaining amount
of money everyone's going to win?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Is this thing next month? This month?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
It is the last weekend in May, and I assume
there's more.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
There's going to be more expense, right, there certainly will be. Yes,
how much do you think everyone's gonna wind up owing total?
Five hundred bucks a thousand bucks apiece? Like, how much
do you think it's going to cost total by the
time you're done.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
I'm not sure.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
But the reason that I was trying to separate it
is so that it doesn't seem so much and that
you know, with someone we can use this paycheck for
this payment and another paycheck for another payment. I don't
want to like put it all into a bundle and
like ask people for that. I don't know, I just
feel like that's harder to do than like asking for
little payments along the way.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
I kind of feel like what my buddy did.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
He's actually he's a lawyer, so of course he was
he was thinking ahead. Yeah, he's a smart guy. But
what he did, and and granted he has some dough
but like on the bachelor party I went to recently,
and it was the first grown up bachelor party I
had been to, but he wanted all the points for
not only like the Marriott points or Hilton or whatever
(04:47):
it was, but he wanted the credit card points, like
the Miles. So he fronted all of the hotel rooms
on his credit card, which was a lot. I mean,
I think I don't know how much it was. It was,
I mean we're talking thousands of dollars of course. Yeah,
and then he put everything on his card, the whole weekend, everything,
and then he sent us all a bill basically, and
was like, you each owe me this much and I
(05:08):
need it in two weeks or less or whatever. And
so I get that that's a lot, but you don't
have to pay the credit card. I don't know how
long your credit card has before there's interest on it.
But my thing would be, I think you should just say, hey, everybody,
I think it's you don't have to pay me till
the end. But I'm guessing it's going to be about
one thousand dollars a piece. I'm making this up, and
that's going to be due within two weeks of the
(05:30):
end of it. And then just charge everything to your
card and that way it's one time, one bill, and
you're not chasing everybody down for money. And then if
you want and everyone's going to pay you, and if
there's someone who doesn't, then you can go to the
bride after the fact, after she's aware of how much
everything costs, and be like, yo, you know low Lucy
over here, you ow a friend from college, low Lucy
(05:52):
over here, try not to pay me, and I'm going
to send her to collections if you don't. But I
guess it's just easier than trying to scrounge money out
of someone. A bunch of it just less work for you.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Yeah, I just feel like my thing is it shouldn't
have to be. It's difficult.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
I think it's like extremely disrespectful if I'm being completely serious,
like I could not rest. I can't rest if I
know someone money, like I literally will think about it
until I send it. And I think it's just hurts
me that I've been so like communicative about being willing
to work with people because I love my friend. I
want her to have fun, and I think, you know, yes,
I could put it all into one bill, but I
(06:25):
think I'd still run into the same issue. And for me,
I don't ever want to involve the bride. I think
it would make her very uncomfortable to know what we're
spending on her. It would be nice for her to know,
but you know, she's not paying for basically anything.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
I just don't know how else to do it because
time we're staying on the text, they're saying, don't front money,
and I get that. I get that, but I also
don't know how else to do it in an organized way.
And unfortunately, if you're the planner, I just I don't
know how else to do it?
Speaker 5 (06:53):
I like a girl's group right now for this trip
that I'm going on. Huh, and the you know, the organizer, which,
like the U of the group, has been very transparent
in the group chat dummy chat about what's old.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Right.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
So here's my suggestion is to get in the group chat,
put hey, I've received money from Alison key key Paulina's
Jason right, and then be like I'm still missing money.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
From put her.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Say wait a minute, the only person he left out
was me. Well, I paid, I paid you.
Speaker 5 (07:26):
Friend still owes me sixty six dollars and put it
all in a group chat. Yes, people, I'm telling you, girl,
you gotta do it. Should I just say it's for
bookkeeping purposes? Girls?
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Just putting it here for everybody to see. Shouldn't I
message her? Primary person you got to put you would
six dollars. I don't play it by my money.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
I don't like I don't like that a friend that
is gonna be like, hey, I'll pay because I won't
ever ask you for money. I'll just talk about you
for twenty years. Don't you'll pay me back sixty six?
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Good?
Speaker 5 (08:01):
But in this case, I really think you have to
put her on blast in front of the other girls
because she looks crazy being how close she is to
the bride too. I know who she is to the bride.
That's insane that that you're the problem. You should not
be the problem.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Oh, there's an app.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
There's an app calt Why Yeah, I was just about
to bring that up.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
There is an app.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
But that's more helpful if like, multiple people are paying
for stuff. If it's just one person, then it's it's
just you pay that one person.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
I just think it sounds like you're going to have
an organizational nightmare if it's yeah, every week, hey I
need this much and this much and this much and
this much, and it all adds up to whatever it is.
And again it's messed up that you would have to
front or the other thing you could do I guess
is say, hey, I estimate this trip is going to
cost fifteen a thousand dollars a person or whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Everybody owes me a.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
G and then I will give you an accurate accounting
of how much we spent in the end, and if
there's leftover, then everybody, I'll give everybody money back or whatever.
Because that way, at least you're working off of and
the money that's alllready there, as opposed to you having
to front all this cash and then become a debt collector,
because I just think it's a big pain in the butt.
And if you if it's sixty bucks here and eighty
(09:09):
bucks here, and then you're gonna start justifying in your mind.
All right, I'm gonna let this sixty six go because
I still got to go get them for two fifty
for the hotels or whatever. And I just feel like
before long you're gonna have everyone's gonna owe you a
little bit because people forgot or they're not paying, or
they don't they don't want to.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Just what a pain.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Yeah, but like the crazy, I gotta say, everybody, raise
your hand if you pay me mark, Yes, I'm a
count of three. Raise your hand if you pay the money.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Oh god, Okay, okay, Honestly, you need to have an
intervention with the chief ass who's not paying you, right girl,
and record it and put it on TikTok Live and
everybody can see this is the person, this is the
cheap skates.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
I'll just talk about it on the radio or when
I think, yeah, you.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Just accomplished the same thing. Yeah, you're right, stay or go.
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