March 4, 2025 • 32 mins
Listen to Fred's Biggest Stories of the day which includes: the health risk of tattoos, Chipotle weighing their proteins, and the Mega Millions Jackpot! Plus, listen to the latest Stay or Go where Haley discusses her financial issues about her husband.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Fread's show is on Fred's Biggest Stories.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Of the Day.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
By the way, the texture did mean germophobic Jesus confusing
talk to text while driving at a stop flight. Sorry,
I was like, wait a minute, now, hold on a minute.
I'm a lot of things, but I'm not fat. But
then again, nothing on the text surprises me anymore. But
then it was it was the last sentence that qualified
it for me. Can you imagine the nastiness? No, I
(00:27):
think I would have a problem at a place like
that because I just think, I, you know, when you
know what everyone's doing there, how could you possibly keep
that clean? I don't know how could you?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
But you're okay with a hotel room. You can let
go at a hotel room, but not a naked water park.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Well, yeah, because I feel like, for whatever reason, I've
just programmed myself to just let go in the hotel
room because where else are you going to stay? You
know what I mean? Like, I don't have to go
to a a nasty water park like Kiki. I don't
have to do that, but I have to, say, in
a hotel and so I just figure, you know, it
is what it it is. But yeah, if you don't
(01:04):
don't make me think too much about it. I don't
want to think too much about them. Top stories at
the day. More than fifty five million people across the
central and southern US are at risk of severe weather
today as a violent storm sweeps across the country. In
New Orleans, officials rushed to reschedule Marty Grass events and
shortened parade routes to avoid ferocious wins. According to the AP,
(01:25):
forecasts show the storm will intensify as it moves east
in the hours ahead, threatening the lower Mississippi River Valley
with strong tornadoes. That'd be bad if you were at
Marty gra and it was too windy. But then again,
most people will, you know, take their shirt off anyway,
So I just wouldn't want to get slapped in a
face with beads or something. Just under eighteen point one
million people turned in or tuned in rather to ABC's
(01:47):
telecasts of the ninety seventh Academy Awards, a seven percent
decreased from decreased rather from last year's broadcast. Guys, I
think this is it. The Powerball and Mega Millions jackpots
have risen. America's two biggest lottery games are soaring. There
was no grand prize winner in last night's Powerball drawing,
pushing that jack pop to two hundred and ninety five
million dollars ahead of the next drawing tomorrow. Ahead of that,
(02:09):
there'll be another chance to strike it rich with mega millions.
Tonight's drawing stands at two hundred and fifteen million dollars
with a cash option just shine of one hundred and
one million bucks. I don't want to be greedy. I
can live on that. I can make it work, you know.
I mean the billion dollars would have been nicer, But
I can figure out the problem is one hundred and one.
(02:30):
We've done all the math on this a million times,
but one hundred and one million winds up being like
forty million after it's all said and done, because they
take so much, you know, in tax and then whatever
else you get tax. I think twice on him. So
but still I think I could make for the rest
of my life when I have left, you know, a
good probably fifteen twenty years. I could make the forty
million work. Oh yes, Oh, you know, I'm only planning.
(02:52):
I'm only planning to get to like the mid sixty Yeah. Wait,
hold on, what, Yeah, I'm only planning to get to
the mid too late, maybe middle sixties, maybe seventy at best.
And then if I run out of money, then I
guess I don't know what I'll do, but I'll figure
something out. But yeah, no, I could live on that
forty million bucks invests, you know, invest some of it,
you know, put in the stock never mind, I don't
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know what the hell I'm talking about. You know, put
in the stock market, flip it, reverse it, you know.
I don't know what I would do, but yeah, I
think I can make that work. Tattoos. How many people
with tattoos? Kiki has tattoo? A tattoo? Who else in the.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Room has tattoosa?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Okay, So I'm worried about you guys because using data
from they said twin pairs, researchers have found signs that
tattoo inc may increase the risk of skin and lymphoma cancers.
It's because tattoo ink accumulates in the lymph nodes, which
are a crucial part of the immune system, helping to
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fight infections and filter harmful substances from the body. The
researchers are really concerned and the tattoo ink may trigger
chronic inflammation in the lymph nodes, which over time could
lead to abnormal cell growth and an increased risk of cancer.
I'm assuming this is are people who have a lot
of tattoos, like the woman that who saw the guy
(04:15):
at the naked place that just call in a minute ago.
That's got you know, he's run out of places, so
now he's got tattoos on his you know, nether region.
But yeah, I would I would have guessed it would
require a lot of ink to get caught up in there.
But I'm worried about you. I know that came when
you were thinking about extending the tattoos like to the
neck and face area, and I just I'm worried about
you doing that.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
That's okay.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
I've peed in a frat bathroom, so I have a
great immune system.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Yeah about you know what. Forget about what I said
about living a seventy I lived in a frat house.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
You're good.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Oh, I'm solid, man, I'll probably live to be two hundred.
Give me some tattoos, man, let's do it. And I
respect people who enjoy tattoos and have them. I just
I think there are certain areas where I wonder, like
the neck area. I mean, that's gotta hurt, like a
tattoo on your throat, like right there. Actually, well, I
(05:08):
just I would think that would be extremely painful. But
then you're like, ooh, he can like handle that pain.
Speaker 5 (05:13):
It has to be paid for. I have one right
behind my ear and it was the worst. Yeah, it's
just bone there.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
It was terrible. Wow.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Oh wow, I see a music note you. I saw it.
Dude getting a tattoo one time. My cousin is a
tattoo artist. I guess he's He's one of those people
that I call a cousin, even though we're not related
at all. You have any of those, Oh yeah, my
dad's best friends. I guess it's I guess it's my
dad's cousin's kid. I don't even really know, but so
(05:40):
I guess we're related somehow, way way down the line.
Except I was adopted, so we're pretending. But this dude's
a tattoo artist. And I went there to Brooklyn where
he was doing tattoos at the time, and a guy
was getting uh he was finishing like a piece on
his back and it took weeks and weeks and weeks.
Every Saturday, he would come in and the dude was
crying like he's a big guy, very strong, like big dude,
(06:02):
and there were tears streaming down his face as they
did parts of his back. Oh, because I guess it
was that painful, which makes me wonder, why is that
worth it right if it hurts that much? But I'm
not sure. Chipotlet fans are very upset because apparently now
they are weighing the meat in front of you before
(06:22):
they put it in your burrito or your bowl. No
more of this like scoop and maybe you know a
little extra no no, no, now, I guess we're weighing it,
which I understand why people don't love that, because it
feels like you're being I guess nickeled and dimed in
some ways. But a lot of places do this. A
lot of places weigh the meat or the protein or
whatever it is before they give it to you. I'm
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trying to think of another example, but it's not uncommon.
If you go to like a barbecue restaurant, I think
they usually weigh it. If you go to a lot
of other places, you know, if you go to Whole
Foods and you get stuff off the salad bar or whatever,
they weigh that, and the more it weighs, the more
it costs. So I guess I don't really know. It
feels kind of cheap. But at the same time, I
don't think it's uncommon. A lot of places have preportion
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stuff that they wait out ahead of time. So I mean,
but they have an actual scale in this example, and
it's on little Chipotle bar and they like put your
bowl on the thing and then they pour it in
there until it's got the right number and then they
move on.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Oh that's ridiculous, I mean, but I think a lot
of people do it.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Why are you mad?
Speaker 5 (07:20):
I would rather them just preportion it because you not
like it Already takes a long time to get through
a Chipotle line because you you always got.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Somebody who doesn't know what they want.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
And I have different boats for ten years.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
Yeah, so can you imagine now every time I want
to scoop of this, now you gotta wait.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
They put it on there, like just pretty pat.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
One piece out to bring it a graham down or whatever.
I don't have time for this.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
I would like to know who at this point in
America doesn't know how to order at Chipotle, Like I
feel like you know, it's the same thing. It's not
knowing what your order at McDonald's is. I'm like, come on, guys,
like this, we've been if you've been living here for
a year or two years, you've been. You got to
know these things, like this is the kind of stuff.
This is survival. You know. It's like, you gotta know.
You gotta know what you how to order a Chipotle.
(08:04):
You gotta know what your order McDonald's is. I mean,
who's going into McDonald's and going, man, I don't know,
you know, you standing there staring at the menu.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
When you're inside.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
I feel like people judge off of how the meat
looks currently, right, So if you see that the steak
looks a little bit more fresher than the chicken, and
you're like, okay, you know what, I'll just have the
steak today. Or if the rice is like, you're not
as fresh as the other rice, you want to switch
it the beans.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
I'm like, lady, please, just come on.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
You know it's a good point. Oh yeah, Like if
they just made the steak or the chicken and they're
pouring it in there right now, or they're replacing the thing,
I might be more likely to get that. That's a
good point. But I still we're not standing there scratching
our you know, chin going. Man, I don't know veggiees
or tofu. Maybe today it's gonna be the carnitas. Man,
(08:51):
I don't really know. And then you just take it forever.
I don't. That's unacceptable.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Yeah, Or when they have like five things that they're
like ordering five different bowls for five different people, reading
out the phonem like there's an app you pre order it.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
So you're not doing this. We live in a society.
We live in a society, and yeah, now's not the time.
The other day, I was some place I was at,
like a sandwich place, and the person in front of me,
right in front of me. Now granted the order was
already in progress, so I really couldn't complain, but she
was ordering seven sandwiches, so like it was her job
to go get the sandwiches for the office or whatever. Now, again,
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if we had walked in at the same time and
that woman had been like, okay, I have seven sandwich order, No,
what you do is you say to the guy, hey,
is it just you? And you go yeah, just me?
You go right ahead because you only have one sandwich,
so you just take a no. So I couldn't really
complain because again we were like mid order, but I
had to stand there while they made seven sandwiches for
this lady and I just needed one, just one little sandwich.
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But we live in a society, people, and you need
to know what you're doing at the Chipotle line before
you get in the Chipotle line. And did we did
the story yesterday? Cale On? Did you do the story
about the the little boy who called nine one one
for the donuts?
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Oh you did that.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yeah, but you can do it again because it's you.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
I'm not I'm not going to do it. You know.
If you want to hear that one, go to the
iHeart appen and Canlin did an excellent job apparently with
that story. And I don't remember it's National Sun's Day.
It's Fat Tuesday. It's oh I always mess this up.
Potch potch poki. Yes, I've only been saying this for
it's a it's a uh Polish thing, right, and he's
a European thing. I've only been saying this for fourteen
(10:26):
years and when I learned what it was. But it's
like a like a dumpling filled with kind of anything, right,
sweet savory doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Yeah, like a donut like filled with just jelly or scream.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Cheese, whatever you want. So I will be having a
lot of those today.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
But it's spelled p A c z K I yes,
so so it's punchki Polish people love the.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
Letter Z like we we just it's like they have
us in a choke hold with the letter Z. So
thing when you see that, it'd.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Be like A, you sound like A, so like the
c Z makes like a chi mmmm yep yep it
yep punchk say punk punchki.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Well, then what is the A?
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Do so the A technically like kind of like in Spanish?
You know how there's an accent across letters like A.
So we have an accent that would make the A
it's like at the very bottom and make it a
little a little upside down. What is it like a
question mark?
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Almost?
Speaker 3 (11:13):
And that A turns into own so punchky punch.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Okay, Wow, that was quite the education. Thank you. I
appreciate that I'm a few days behind them. I do
a leap on that. So sorry. Yeah, I've decided to
be fluent and Polish because I think that's going to
come in really handy. Well, it actually kind of would
in Chicago. But Pun Day, National Huggage I Day, and
National Pancake Day today as well. The Entertainment Report Kailin
has that next we'll get to blogs, our audio journals
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and stay or Go some group therapy on the show.
In about twenty minutes, Fred Show, The Thread Show is on.
It's stay or Go. All right, Haley is here for
some relationship advice. Good morning, Haley, welcome, Hey, good morning, Haley.
What's going on? Fill us in with everything here? Because
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you know, again, the right thing to do when you're
in a predicament in your relationship is to call the
radio show. And I joke about that all the time,
except you've got a bunch of different perspectives here. You've
got seventeen people on this show, so surely someone will
give you advice. It's that's worthwhile. Probably not me, but
maybe somebody else. Go ahead.
Speaker 6 (12:16):
Yeah, Okay, Well, I've been married to my husband for
about three years and we don't have any kids. We
both work full time and we make like okay money,
but we don't have any like substantial savings or you know,
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money saved up.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Do you okayln sixty six dollars for a bachelor party.
Speaker 6 (12:42):
No, it's not me.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Show, because I was going to handle this right now
myself and shame you publicly. I was going to stone
you in the square until you right exactly. Okay, So
all right, I'm sorry. Continue, Yeah, okay.
Speaker 6 (12:58):
So recently has been Sam brought up the fact that,
like we should start saving more, and I agree, like
that makes sense, we should have, you know, savings put away.
So we decided we were gonna like stop it, stop
unnecessary spindhu, stop boring takeout, and just like even pause.
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We normally have regular date nights, and we haven't been
doing those for like the last couple of months now.
So then here's where the problem comes in a little bit,
after we have this conversation about savings beside to cut back,
my husband comes home with a brand new sixty thousand
dollars truck.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Oh no he didn't. Oh wow, Oh no he didn't.
Speaker 6 (13:44):
So I'm extremely pissed that he didn't talk to me
before making such a big urshes.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
And then.
Speaker 6 (13:58):
I'm also just hurt that I was also saving. I
was also putting in to this and apparently we don't
even have enough money for him to take me our
usual date night. But then he can go buy that's
huguely expensive.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
New car, and you could argue, I mean, he could say, well,
it's not that much more than a car I had
before or whatever. But if you're trying to save money,
you know it developed like a nestag or some savings
or whatever, then pay the car off that you've got,
as opposed to starting the clock over again, and then
you can use the excess to save, you know. So
for the people saying well, I don't know, I mean,
(14:35):
maybe it didn't cost that much more, maybe he got
a good deal or whatever, my thing would be pay that.
You know, if in fact you're trying to save, then
don't go out and go spend more money, you know,
for the foreseeable future five years however long. The loan
is like, pay the car off that you have, and
then you've got extra cats to save. But no, that's
not what he wanted to do, and he didn't talk
(14:57):
to you about this. He just went and did it.
Speaker 6 (15:00):
Right, So now I'm like, well, or are we just
savings so he could go buy the truck now?
Speaker 7 (15:07):
Right?
Speaker 6 (15:08):
He peeped me into this. I don't.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
I don't know what did you What did he say
to you when I'm sure you said, oh, because I
don't even care if you're saving or if you have
if you're making a conscious effort to do this. I mean,
I would imagine I'm not in a relationship, but if
I would imagine if I were in a relationship where
finances were involved, that that would be something, especially if
there wasn't a lot of extra money and we were
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making a conscious effort to say but I would imagine
that's not something that you just go do on your
own without talking to someone, Like if you're co mingling funds,
I probably don't go buy a sixty thousand dollars car
without consulting with you first. But so what what does
he say for himself?
Speaker 6 (15:46):
Yeah, so we have a joint account. This was not
you know, you can't argue with his money. He can
do it or he wants like, we put him to
the same account and he just went and spent the money.
And I told him this was not okay, obviously, just
sixteen thousand dollars without talking to me, And he really
didn't have a good answer. He's just like, well, you
(16:08):
can't control me. And you know I needed a new
car and you knew that, which I didn't. I don't
think he did need a new car, but whatever, this
is his reasoning.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
And were like the wheels falling off the thing, like
does someone steal the engine? Like what what I mean?
So he doesn't have a legitimate argument for that, then No.
Speaker 6 (16:26):
You guys mentioned numerous times that he would like to
get a truck, but we've never talked in detail about
going to get one.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
Anytime.
Speaker 6 (16:34):
It was like, yeah, okay, yeah maybe someday, Yeah, maybe
when you need a new car or something. I had
no idea he was going to go do it right.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
Wow, that's crazy though, to say you can't control me
or tell me what to do, sir, we are married.
It's not about controlling you. It's about literally talking things over.
It's a huge purchase and a really big deal and
where is my date night?
Speaker 5 (16:54):
Well?
Speaker 1 (16:54):
He does he show this kind of behavior normally? Like
is he typically someone who only thinks of himself or
is this kind of a rare occurrence.
Speaker 6 (17:05):
No, I was really surprised. I mean normally he doesn't
really normally spend a lot of money. I do most
of the shopping things and I talked to him if
I'm gonna make a big purchase, I don't think he's
ever you know, probably laid a big purchase by himself.
So no, this was really random.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
So what are you gonna do? I mean, I know
you're calling us to get feedback, but I mean, is
this something where you're you're like, this was so inconsiderate,
Like we're cutting corners here and not focusing on things
that like, I don't know, trips together or date nights
or just little things, you know, and eating out and
just small luxuries. We're cutting back on this stuff so
(17:45):
that you can have a car. That's not what we
talked about. Like maybe if you'd agreed to that, Hey
I need a new car. You know my car isn't reliable,
I got to get to work whatever. Okay, well we'll
cut back on stuff so that you can you know,
accomplish that. That's a reasonable conversation. I'm sure happens in
relationships all time, or hey we need a new air
conditioner or whatever it is. But in this case, he
just went and did this that talking to you, I mean,
(18:08):
is it something where you're thinking, I don't even know
if I want to be with this.
Speaker 6 (18:10):
Guy, I mean honestly, yeah, because it's like I said,
we we don't make a ton of money. Like a
sixty thousand dollars truck is not something I would have
ever even considered. It's just way too much. So now
he's crippling us financially just because he wanted a truck
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and didn't give me any opportunity to weigh in, Like
this is going to affect us financially for literally years
the comp as long as he's making these car payments.
And I don't think it's fair to me. So I
don't get to ever get take out, go out and
get coffee, have date nights or whatever so that I
can support this truck.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
I don't blame you, Hayley, I don't, but eight five
nine one three five you can context the same number.
I feel like this is a pretty relatable story because
I do know in relationships where people are sharing thoughts,
you know, sometimes people have different priorities and disagree with
how the money should be spent. And I do think
that's the kind of thing that you want to establish
before you marry somebody or get into a relationship where
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you're co mingling funds. Do you guys have the same
philosophy about money that The challenging thing here is it
sounds like you do, and it sounds like normally he
does the right thing, or at least thus far, but
in this case, he definitely didn't. And I really don't
know what you do. I mean, I guess you could
divorce the guy, leave him whatever, but I don't really
know how you rectify this because he did it already.
(19:35):
This is kind of like that SNL skit, remember the
the SNL like the fake Lexus commercial where the guy
was like, look, honey, I bought you Alexis you know
it's December to remember or whatever, and she's like, we're broke,
and he's like, but it was a low apor It's
like APR like. And then it turns out that you know,
his wife's messing around with the neighbor and he borrowed
(19:56):
the money to get it in there. And it's if
you haven't seen it, I'm sure it's on TikTok or
YouTube or whatever. But this sounds to me like, but
at least that car was for her, this car is
for him. So I guess what prevents him from saying
you know what? I now? I want a new watch
or and now I want this or that, because I guess,
I just I don't know how you correct this behavior.
I guess is where I'm going.
Speaker 6 (20:19):
Yeah, and well, I mean it's not like you can
just go return the truck as soon as he drove
it off the lot. It's appreciated in value. There's I'm
just concerned, like I said, that now we're going to
be in a bad spot financially for literally years.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
Maybe he set you guys back, And it's not like
you can go buy a new car and say, well, fine,
you got one, I got one, because then that just
exacerbates the problem. Now you've just got more debt, so
you can't even really make it even per se.
Speaker 6 (20:47):
Yeah, there's really That's that's the stressful thing is there's
really nothing I can do to fix this. So it's
just like, this is this the life I want? Do
I want to have to?
Speaker 1 (20:58):
You know?
Speaker 6 (20:58):
Because like I said, we were cutting out basically any
little luxuries to quote unquote save aka apparently afford this truck.
So it's just do I want to have to live
like that until this thing is stayed off?
Speaker 1 (21:10):
Haley, I'm gonna take some phone calls keep the radio
or the iHeart app on it. Unlet's see what people say,
cause I do think there are people that can relate
to this, and I'd be curious to hear how they
handle it. But thank you for calling. Good luck.
Speaker 6 (21:20):
Hey, thanks?
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Yeah. So eight five five one three five Haley's calling
stare Go because they were consciously they had decided as
a couple consciously to save money. So they had some
savings and they had agreed how they were going to
do that, and they were going to cut back on
a bunch of stuff they did that, you know, date
nights and things that probably would make them closer as
a couple, things that they enjoyed doing together. And then
this guy goes out and buys a new car, brand
(21:42):
new car, without consulting here, And it's like, wait a minute,
I thought we were saving and it's not even like
we were. We were having to cut back on luxuries
in order to do this, and then you go do that.
Micah him Michael, good morning, Good morning, Hia, good morning,
thanks for calling, Thanks for listening. You've been through this.
Speaker 6 (22:01):
Yeah, oh what happened?
Speaker 3 (22:03):
Yeah, So.
Speaker 8 (22:05):
My then boyfriend, I mean I got engaged like a
month and a half ago. But my boyfriend at the
time we lived together, his car got stolen, so maybe
a little bit of a different situation. But we he
went out and got a Mustang, like a nice, like
very expensive must It was giving like midlife crisis like scenario,
(22:30):
and it was a payment that like I knew, was
stretching him and like we hadn't fully combined our finances yet,
but we're on our way there. And I said to
him multiple multiple times, like this is not a smart idea.
You know, this is not a smart idea. He went
and did it anyway, fast forward, he proposed as Then
(22:52):
I was like, all right, we got to talk about
the Mustang. And he actually he he lives, you know,
because we talked it out, you know, and I was like, look,
we've got to pay for a wedding coming up, like
we have other priorities. He traded it in for something
that was a lower payment.
Speaker 6 (23:07):
That he was still happy in.
Speaker 8 (23:09):
And so my point is like, yes, I've just been
through this, but like I think, listening to the scenario,
like it's her reaction to be like should I leave him?
Sounds like this didn't happen like in a vacuum like
this this wasn't the first time that she's he's given
her reason to like question, like first of all, just
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being considerate of.
Speaker 6 (23:30):
Her trust to like all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 8 (23:34):
So I think if there was a really solid foundation
of trust and communication, this wouldn't be like a stay
or go question. But it sounds like there may be,
isn't that And so therefore, like a huge event like this,
I don't know, I just think it is that to
be evaluated, like and she.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Well, oh well, he cut off your phone now to
pay for the Mustang? And what happens? Oh Michael, you
went away? Wait, oh now you're back again. Oh no,
you you cut out because I think your I think
your husband's trying to cut off your cell phone, uh,
to pay for a water ski a jet ski. But
what so, do you feel like he learned from that?
And do you feel like you know the behavior has
(24:16):
been adjusted, like it won't happen again?
Speaker 8 (24:19):
Oh yeah, oh yeah, Like granted his dog had just died,
seasonal depression was hitting hard, So I think the Mustang
was like a product of a lot of other things.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Okay, but no, we're we've.
Speaker 8 (24:31):
Got like some great communication going. And yes, I think
he learned his lessons.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Well. Good Hey Michah, I'm glad and thank you for calling.
Have a good day.
Speaker 8 (24:40):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
I love you guys, thank you for listening to love
you too. This is why I say all the time
and again, and the guy who is not in a relationship,
it never is, gives the relationship advice. But I do
think it's so important that when people get together that
they're on the same page about you know, saving or whatever,
because I think those are habits that are really hard
to change. You know, people who are just used to
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just buying stuff and worrying about it later, and you know,
get with somebody who's really financially conscious and saves a lot.
You know. I feel like this is the kind of
thing that you could run into. Sarah, Hey, good morning,
good morning. Hi. What do you think star go?
Speaker 3 (25:17):
I think she should go?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
Why?
Speaker 4 (25:21):
Because I think when somebody when you sit down and
have a conversation and you come to an agreement and
then they go ahead and do completely opposite of what
you actually sat and talked about, it's going to continue
to happen.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Yeah, that was my question to her, is what prevents
this from happening again? He already did it once and
that was a big purchase. That's a lot of money.
Speaker 4 (25:41):
Well, and not only that, it's like, okay, well she
stayed this time, right, And it doesn't even have to
be with money. It can be anything in a relationship, right.
So I just feel like once it's like okay, I
got that wiggle room in. Yeah, she's mad, but she'll
get over it. Cool, we can move on. So unless
they actually go, when they work work on their communication
with somebody else, I don't think it's going to change.
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I think this could be the start of a much
bigger issue. And finances in a marriage are huge.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
And communication, Yeah, I would agree with you. Thank you, Sarah.
Speaker 4 (26:13):
Yes, thanks, have a great day.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Yeah you too, thank you. Well, here we go this.
I knew this was coming. Hi Jen, Hi, how are
you Agan? Good morning? So this woman called us stay
or go and they were she's married, and they were
in this relationship and they talked about saving they needed
money in the bank and they didn't have any, and
they were cutting back on all kinds of things. And
then dude goes down and buys a brand new sixty
(26:35):
thousand dollars car and she's like, wait a minute, I'm
not going to Starbucks, we're not going on date nights,
we're not taking trips together. We decided this together. And
then you go on and spend a bunch of money.
Speaker 9 (26:45):
What do you think, why, all of a sudden is
he changing his character. She said that this is totally
out of the ordinary for him and their marriage, and
normally it sounds like, you know, they have pretty good communication.
And then all of a sudden he goes and does
this behind her back to me is a clearcut sign
that something else is going on, especially the fingerpointing. You're
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trying to control me. I've been there, done that, I've
seen it, and I've had.
Speaker 7 (27:11):
Somebody do it to me.
Speaker 9 (27:12):
As soon as they start pointing the finger and making
you the enemy like you're trying to do something to
hold them back, there's something else going on underneath there.
So might not have gone as far as like actually meeting,
but talking internet. You know, she needs a chin his phone,
she needs to do something for sure.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
Check. So he's cheating. You're saying, he's at least emotionally cheating.
And the new girl's like, I don't like your car.
You better get a brand new truck or else. And then.
Speaker 6 (27:40):
The other girl.
Speaker 9 (27:41):
Yeah, I don't even think it's the other girl telling
him that. I think it's just his ego of like,
I can do what I want and this is almost
a catalyst of Hey, this might kiss her off, but
who cares. A husband doesn't do that. You know, he
knows their situation, he knows what he told her. He's
either trying to start something or he feels in play
buy something else and now feels the sense of like
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entitlement that he can do this and nobody's going to
tell him what to do. And as soon as that turn,
there's something else underneath that's interesting.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
Thank you so much, Jen, have a good day, no problem.
And Zach, you've listening. Pauline, I don't you said it before,
so I don't. I'm not calling you out, but I
know that you've mentioned that you and Hobby have pretty
different financial pass and attitudes about spending. Uh, and you
guys have kind of gotten it together. But I mean,
how do you how do you do it? And you've
been together for a while now, I mean does it
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come up?
Speaker 3 (28:32):
Well, it's more like how does Hobby do it?
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Because I am the one, like you said, that buys
and then thinks about it later.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
Yeah, yesterday I bought a new vacuum.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Didn't need it, but in my head, I was like,
I need I'll figure out later. And him and I
bump heads a lot because he's trying to be the
one that saves and is responsible and he wants me
to get on board with.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
That, and it is hard. It is like we've cut.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Things out too just because I'm like, I don't wanna,
I don't know. I want to be more financially stable,
but also I want to be more financially responsible and
teach my.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
Daughter the same thing. And I'm I'm on with that.
But here's the thing. If I came home with a
brand new drug or he.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Did without consulting and it's all about talking to each other,
and he took away my hooters or my muddy.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
School's dates, then I would be they'd be hell to.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Pay because like, at the end of the day, I
look at it as like, okay, so priority to you
was getting this new car. You didn't talk to me
about it, but you wanted this car. Like I look
at underneath what's going on, Like, you know, is he
acting out?
Speaker 3 (29:21):
Is he trying to show me something?
Speaker 2 (29:23):
Is he trying to show me I'm the big man
in the house, like I don't know, there's something underneath.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
That it's super inconsiderate to do that. And don't take
away her mana East ghost man, not the seafood, not them.
Speaker 3 (29:33):
I love my date night.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Absolutely not Hey Jane, Jane, are you Jane your Jane?
Well it says Jane, you mind if I call you
Jane anyway? So Jean Jane still be it Bellahamine whatever,
God bless her. So she's going fast. What you've been
through this sadly and what's your experience.
Speaker 7 (29:58):
I just had a miscarriage and my vacuum now, thank you.
But what had happened was he when he took the
money to go by himself a vehicle, not a vehicle
but a full wheeler. And then later on down the
road he did something similar than once that I didn't
know about. And the thing once that got me that
she said, the big red, huge red flag was when
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she said he was like, you can't control me, you know,
I'm you know this, I'm going to do what I want.
That is manipulation. That is a big time red flag manipulation.
And without some type of therapy and him addressing his issues,
but what he's doing to her isn't fair. So by
trying to gaslighter, that's basically a way of saying, I
know what I did was wrong, but now I'm going
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to put it on you. So this is a grown
man that doesn't even want to be accountable. And you know,
maybe he's never done anything like this before, but maybe
now he's starting to show who he really is, because
we're not talking about a vacuum, you know, we're talking
about sixty thousand dollars that is going to be able
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to hurt their ability to have a date night either,
just the little stuff and he just didn't care, you know,
and that is not the sign of an emotionally mature
around a person. And you know, she has to ask herself,
do I want to, you know, try and see if
he's going to start being accountable. But with what he
said to her, I don't think he's anywhere near ready.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
But I didn't tell you I got Yeah, I got it.
And he should be more thoughtful about what you're going
through and not adding that extra stress and stead he's
he's thinking about himself. Hey, Jeene Jane, thank you, have
a good day.
Speaker 7 (31:40):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
Thank you for calling, Thank you for listening. Geen Jane
love you. Yeah, and I think she should divorce him,
take take half the money and then go buy yourself
like a cyber truck or something.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
Yes, I like it.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
You know, just something obnoxious, get it wrapped with pictures
of his face on it. There's you know, dollar bills
or I'm not sure, you know, just something new, something outrageous.
Speaker 5 (31:58):
Right, But this is why you always need AEPHR account
on the side that he doesn't know about.
Speaker 3 (32:02):
You're not They're not ready to that conversation. They're not
red cree they read.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
So let me just be clear, like she should extort
money from them, and that's better them.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
You think I'm kidding.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
It makes perfect sense. Yeah, No, you guys are on it.
I don't even know why. We just say that twenty
minutes ago and end the segment. Kiki is up next.
Read show
The Fread's show is on Fred's Biggest Stories.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Of the Day.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
By the way, the texture did mean germophobic Jesus confusing
talk to text while driving at a stop flight. Sorry,
I was like, wait a minute, now, hold on a minute.
I'm a lot of things, but I'm not fat. But
then again, nothing on the text surprises me anymore. But
then it was it was the last sentence that qualified
it for me. Can you imagine the nastiness? No, I
(00:27):
think I would have a problem at a place like
that because I just think, I, you know, when you
know what everyone's doing there, how could you possibly keep
that clean? I don't know how could you?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
But you're okay with a hotel room. You can let
go at a hotel room, but not a naked water park.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Well, yeah, because I feel like, for whatever reason, I've
just programmed myself to just let go in the hotel
room because where else are you going to stay? You
know what I mean? Like, I don't have to go
to a a nasty water park like Kiki. I don't
have to do that, but I have to, say, in
a hotel and so I just figure, you know, it
is what it it is. But yeah, if you don't
(01:04):
don't make me think too much about it. I don't
want to think too much about them. Top stories at
the day. More than fifty five million people across the
central and southern US are at risk of severe weather
today as a violent storm sweeps across the country. In
New Orleans, officials rushed to reschedule Marty Grass events and
shortened parade routes to avoid ferocious wins. According to the AP,
(01:25):
forecasts show the storm will intensify as it moves east
in the hours ahead, threatening the lower Mississippi River Valley
with strong tornadoes. That'd be bad if you were at
Marty gra and it was too windy. But then again,
most people will, you know, take their shirt off anyway,
So I just wouldn't want to get slapped in a
face with beads or something. Just under eighteen point one
million people turned in or tuned in rather to ABC's
(01:47):
telecasts of the ninety seventh Academy Awards, a seven percent
decreased from decreased rather from last year's broadcast. Guys, I
think this is it. The Powerball and Mega Millions jackpots
have risen. America's two biggest lottery games are soaring. There
was no grand prize winner in last night's Powerball drawing,
pushing that jack pop to two hundred and ninety five
million dollars ahead of the next drawing tomorrow. Ahead of that,
(02:09):
there'll be another chance to strike it rich with mega millions.
Tonight's drawing stands at two hundred and fifteen million dollars
with a cash option just shine of one hundred and
one million bucks. I don't want to be greedy. I
can live on that. I can make it work, you know.
I mean the billion dollars would have been nicer, But
I can figure out the problem is one hundred and one.
(02:30):
We've done all the math on this a million times,
but one hundred and one million winds up being like
forty million after it's all said and done, because they
take so much, you know, in tax and then whatever
else you get tax. I think twice on him. So
but still I think I could make for the rest
of my life when I have left, you know, a
good probably fifteen twenty years. I could make the forty
million work. Oh yes, Oh, you know, I'm only planning.
(02:52):
I'm only planning to get to like the mid sixty Yeah. Wait,
hold on, what, Yeah, I'm only planning to get to
the mid too late, maybe middle sixties, maybe seventy at best.
And then if I run out of money, then I
guess I don't know what I'll do, but I'll figure
something out. But yeah, no, I could live on that
forty million bucks invests, you know, invest some of it,
you know, put in the stock never mind, I don't
(03:13):
know what the hell I'm talking about. You know, put
in the stock market, flip it, reverse it, you know.
I don't know what I would do, but yeah, I
think I can make that work. Tattoos. How many people
with tattoos? Kiki has tattoo? A tattoo? Who else in the.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Room has tattoosa?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Okay, So I'm worried about you guys because using data
from they said twin pairs, researchers have found signs that
tattoo inc may increase the risk of skin and lymphoma cancers.
It's because tattoo ink accumulates in the lymph nodes, which
are a crucial part of the immune system, helping to
(03:54):
fight infections and filter harmful substances from the body. The
researchers are really concerned and the tattoo ink may trigger
chronic inflammation in the lymph nodes, which over time could
lead to abnormal cell growth and an increased risk of cancer.
I'm assuming this is are people who have a lot
of tattoos, like the woman that who saw the guy
(04:15):
at the naked place that just call in a minute ago.
That's got you know, he's run out of places, so
now he's got tattoos on his you know, nether region.
But yeah, I would I would have guessed it would
require a lot of ink to get caught up in there.
But I'm worried about you. I know that came when
you were thinking about extending the tattoos like to the
neck and face area, and I just I'm worried about
you doing that.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
That's okay.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
I've peed in a frat bathroom, so I have a
great immune system.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Yeah about you know what. Forget about what I said
about living a seventy I lived in a frat house.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
You're good.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Oh, I'm solid, man, I'll probably live to be two hundred.
Give me some tattoos, man, let's do it. And I
respect people who enjoy tattoos and have them. I just
I think there are certain areas where I wonder, like
the neck area. I mean, that's gotta hurt, like a
tattoo on your throat, like right there. Actually, well, I
(05:08):
just I would think that would be extremely painful. But
then you're like, ooh, he can like handle that pain.
Speaker 5 (05:13):
It has to be paid for. I have one right
behind my ear and it was the worst. Yeah, it's
just bone there.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
It was terrible. Wow.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Oh wow, I see a music note you. I saw it.
Dude getting a tattoo one time. My cousin is a
tattoo artist. I guess he's He's one of those people
that I call a cousin, even though we're not related
at all. You have any of those, Oh yeah, my
dad's best friends. I guess it's I guess it's my
dad's cousin's kid. I don't even really know, but so
(05:40):
I guess we're related somehow, way way down the line.
Except I was adopted, so we're pretending. But this dude's
a tattoo artist. And I went there to Brooklyn where
he was doing tattoos at the time, and a guy
was getting uh he was finishing like a piece on
his back and it took weeks and weeks and weeks.
Every Saturday, he would come in and the dude was
crying like he's a big guy, very strong, like big dude,
(06:02):
and there were tears streaming down his face as they
did parts of his back. Oh, because I guess it
was that painful, which makes me wonder, why is that
worth it right if it hurts that much? But I'm
not sure. Chipotlet fans are very upset because apparently now
they are weighing the meat in front of you before
(06:22):
they put it in your burrito or your bowl. No
more of this like scoop and maybe you know a
little extra no no, no, now, I guess we're weighing it,
which I understand why people don't love that, because it
feels like you're being I guess nickeled and dimed in
some ways. But a lot of places do this. A
lot of places weigh the meat or the protein or
whatever it is before they give it to you. I'm
(06:44):
trying to think of another example, but it's not uncommon.
If you go to like a barbecue restaurant, I think
they usually weigh it. If you go to a lot
of other places, you know, if you go to Whole
Foods and you get stuff off the salad bar or whatever,
they weigh that, and the more it weighs, the more
it costs. So I guess I don't really know. It
feels kind of cheap. But at the same time, I
don't think it's uncommon. A lot of places have preportion
(07:04):
stuff that they wait out ahead of time. So I mean,
but they have an actual scale in this example, and
it's on little Chipotle bar and they like put your
bowl on the thing and then they pour it in
there until it's got the right number and then they
move on.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Oh that's ridiculous, I mean, but I think a lot
of people do it.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Why are you mad?
Speaker 5 (07:20):
I would rather them just preportion it because you not
like it Already takes a long time to get through
a Chipotle line because you you always got.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Somebody who doesn't know what they want.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
And I have different boats for ten years.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
Yeah, so can you imagine now every time I want
to scoop of this, now you gotta wait.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
They put it on there, like just pretty pat.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
One piece out to bring it a graham down or whatever.
I don't have time for this.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
I would like to know who at this point in
America doesn't know how to order at Chipotle, Like I
feel like you know, it's the same thing. It's not
knowing what your order at McDonald's is. I'm like, come on, guys,
like this, we've been if you've been living here for
a year or two years, you've been. You got to
know these things, like this is the kind of stuff.
This is survival. You know. It's like, you gotta know.
You gotta know what you how to order a Chipotle.
(08:04):
You gotta know what your order McDonald's is. I mean,
who's going into McDonald's and going, man, I don't know,
you know, you standing there staring at the menu.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
When you're inside.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
I feel like people judge off of how the meat
looks currently, right, So if you see that the steak
looks a little bit more fresher than the chicken, and
you're like, okay, you know what, I'll just have the
steak today. Or if the rice is like, you're not
as fresh as the other rice, you want to switch
it the beans.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
I'm like, lady, please, just come on.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
You know it's a good point. Oh yeah, Like if
they just made the steak or the chicken and they're
pouring it in there right now, or they're replacing the thing,
I might be more likely to get that. That's a
good point. But I still we're not standing there scratching
our you know, chin going. Man, I don't know veggiees
or tofu. Maybe today it's gonna be the carnitas. Man,
(08:51):
I don't really know. And then you just take it forever.
I don't. That's unacceptable.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Yeah, Or when they have like five things that they're
like ordering five different bowls for five different people, reading
out the phonem like there's an app you pre order it.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
So you're not doing this. We live in a society.
We live in a society, and yeah, now's not the time.
The other day, I was some place I was at,
like a sandwich place, and the person in front of me,
right in front of me. Now granted the order was
already in progress, so I really couldn't complain, but she
was ordering seven sandwiches, so like it was her job
to go get the sandwiches for the office or whatever. Now, again,
(09:26):
if we had walked in at the same time and
that woman had been like, okay, I have seven sandwich order, No,
what you do is you say to the guy, hey,
is it just you? And you go yeah, just me?
You go right ahead because you only have one sandwich,
so you just take a no. So I couldn't really
complain because again we were like mid order, but I
had to stand there while they made seven sandwiches for
this lady and I just needed one, just one little sandwich.
(09:49):
But we live in a society, people, and you need
to know what you're doing at the Chipotle line before
you get in the Chipotle line. And did we did
the story yesterday? Cale On? Did you do the story
about the the little boy who called nine one one
for the donuts?
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Oh you did that.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yeah, but you can do it again because it's you.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
I'm not I'm not going to do it. You know.
If you want to hear that one, go to the
iHeart appen and Canlin did an excellent job apparently with
that story. And I don't remember it's National Sun's Day.
It's Fat Tuesday. It's oh I always mess this up.
Potch potch poki. Yes, I've only been saying this for
it's a it's a uh Polish thing, right, and he's
a European thing. I've only been saying this for fourteen
(10:26):
years and when I learned what it was. But it's
like a like a dumpling filled with kind of anything, right,
sweet savory doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Yeah, like a donut like filled with just jelly or scream.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Cheese, whatever you want. So I will be having a
lot of those today.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
But it's spelled p A c z K I yes,
so so it's punchki Polish people love the.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
Letter Z like we we just it's like they have
us in a choke hold with the letter Z. So
thing when you see that, it'd.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
Be like A, you sound like A, so like the
c Z makes like a chi mmmm yep yep it
yep punchk say punk punchki.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Well, then what is the A?
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Do so the A technically like kind of like in Spanish?
You know how there's an accent across letters like A.
So we have an accent that would make the A
it's like at the very bottom and make it a
little a little upside down. What is it like a
question mark?
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Almost?
Speaker 3 (11:13):
And that A turns into own so punchky punch.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Okay, Wow, that was quite the education. Thank you. I
appreciate that I'm a few days behind them. I do
a leap on that. So sorry. Yeah, I've decided to
be fluent and Polish because I think that's going to
come in really handy. Well, it actually kind of would
in Chicago. But Pun Day, National Huggage I Day, and
National Pancake Day today as well. The Entertainment Report Kailin
has that next we'll get to blogs, our audio journals
(11:39):
and stay or Go some group therapy on the show.
In about twenty minutes, Fred Show, The Thread Show is on.
It's stay or Go. All right, Haley is here for
some relationship advice. Good morning, Haley, welcome, Hey, good morning, Haley.
What's going on? Fill us in with everything here? Because
(12:00):
you know, again, the right thing to do when you're
in a predicament in your relationship is to call the
radio show. And I joke about that all the time,
except you've got a bunch of different perspectives here. You've
got seventeen people on this show, so surely someone will
give you advice. It's that's worthwhile. Probably not me, but
maybe somebody else. Go ahead.
Speaker 6 (12:16):
Yeah, Okay, Well, I've been married to my husband for
about three years and we don't have any kids. We
both work full time and we make like okay money,
but we don't have any like substantial savings or you know,
(12:38):
money saved up.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Do you okayln sixty six dollars for a bachelor party.
Speaker 6 (12:42):
No, it's not me.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Show, because I was going to handle this right now
myself and shame you publicly. I was going to stone
you in the square until you right exactly. Okay, So
all right, I'm sorry. Continue, Yeah, okay.
Speaker 6 (12:58):
So recently has been Sam brought up the fact that,
like we should start saving more, and I agree, like
that makes sense, we should have, you know, savings put away.
So we decided we were gonna like stop it, stop
unnecessary spindhu, stop boring takeout, and just like even pause.
(13:20):
We normally have regular date nights, and we haven't been
doing those for like the last couple of months now.
So then here's where the problem comes in a little bit,
after we have this conversation about savings beside to cut back,
my husband comes home with a brand new sixty thousand
dollars truck.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Oh no he didn't. Oh wow, Oh no he didn't.
Speaker 6 (13:44):
So I'm extremely pissed that he didn't talk to me
before making such a big urshes.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
And then.
Speaker 6 (13:58):
I'm also just hurt that I was also saving. I
was also putting in to this and apparently we don't
even have enough money for him to take me our
usual date night. But then he can go buy that's
huguely expensive.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
New car, and you could argue, I mean, he could say, well,
it's not that much more than a car I had
before or whatever. But if you're trying to save money,
you know it developed like a nestag or some savings
or whatever, then pay the car off that you've got,
as opposed to starting the clock over again, and then
you can use the excess to save, you know. So
for the people saying well, I don't know, I mean,
(14:35):
maybe it didn't cost that much more, maybe he got
a good deal or whatever, my thing would be pay that.
You know, if in fact you're trying to save, then
don't go out and go spend more money, you know,
for the foreseeable future five years however long. The loan
is like, pay the car off that you have, and
then you've got extra cats to save. But no, that's
not what he wanted to do, and he didn't talk
(14:57):
to you about this. He just went and did it.
Speaker 6 (15:00):
Right, So now I'm like, well, or are we just
savings so he could go buy the truck now?
Speaker 7 (15:07):
Right?
Speaker 6 (15:08):
He peeped me into this. I don't.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
I don't know what did you What did he say
to you when I'm sure you said, oh, because I
don't even care if you're saving or if you have
if you're making a conscious effort to do this. I mean,
I would imagine I'm not in a relationship, but if
I would imagine if I were in a relationship where
finances were involved, that that would be something, especially if
there wasn't a lot of extra money and we were
(15:32):
making a conscious effort to say but I would imagine
that's not something that you just go do on your
own without talking to someone, Like if you're co mingling funds,
I probably don't go buy a sixty thousand dollars car
without consulting with you first. But so what what does
he say for himself?
Speaker 6 (15:46):
Yeah, so we have a joint account. This was not
you know, you can't argue with his money. He can
do it or he wants like, we put him to
the same account and he just went and spent the money.
And I told him this was not okay, obviously, just
sixteen thousand dollars without talking to me, And he really
didn't have a good answer. He's just like, well, you
(16:08):
can't control me. And you know I needed a new
car and you knew that, which I didn't. I don't
think he did need a new car, but whatever, this
is his reasoning.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
And were like the wheels falling off the thing, like
does someone steal the engine? Like what what I mean?
So he doesn't have a legitimate argument for that, then No.
Speaker 6 (16:26):
You guys mentioned numerous times that he would like to
get a truck, but we've never talked in detail about
going to get one.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
Anytime.
Speaker 6 (16:34):
It was like, yeah, okay, yeah maybe someday, Yeah, maybe
when you need a new car or something. I had
no idea he was going to go do it right.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
Wow, that's crazy though, to say you can't control me
or tell me what to do, sir, we are married.
It's not about controlling you. It's about literally talking things over.
It's a huge purchase and a really big deal and
where is my date night?
Speaker 5 (16:54):
Well?
Speaker 1 (16:54):
He does he show this kind of behavior normally? Like
is he typically someone who only thinks of himself or
is this kind of a rare occurrence.
Speaker 6 (17:05):
No, I was really surprised. I mean normally he doesn't
really normally spend a lot of money. I do most
of the shopping things and I talked to him if
I'm gonna make a big purchase, I don't think he's
ever you know, probably laid a big purchase by himself.
So no, this was really random.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
So what are you gonna do? I mean, I know
you're calling us to get feedback, but I mean, is
this something where you're you're like, this was so inconsiderate,
Like we're cutting corners here and not focusing on things
that like, I don't know, trips together or date nights
or just little things, you know, and eating out and
just small luxuries. We're cutting back on this stuff so
(17:45):
that you can have a car. That's not what we
talked about. Like maybe if you'd agreed to that, Hey
I need a new car. You know my car isn't reliable,
I got to get to work whatever. Okay, well we'll
cut back on stuff so that you can you know,
accomplish that. That's a reasonable conversation. I'm sure happens in
relationships all time, or hey we need a new air
conditioner or whatever it is. But in this case, he
just went and did this that talking to you, I mean,
(18:08):
is it something where you're thinking, I don't even know
if I want to be with this.
Speaker 6 (18:10):
Guy, I mean honestly, yeah, because it's like I said,
we we don't make a ton of money. Like a
sixty thousand dollars truck is not something I would have
ever even considered. It's just way too much. So now
he's crippling us financially just because he wanted a truck
(18:33):
and didn't give me any opportunity to weigh in, Like
this is going to affect us financially for literally years
the comp as long as he's making these car payments.
And I don't think it's fair to me. So I
don't get to ever get take out, go out and
get coffee, have date nights or whatever so that I
can support this truck.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
I don't blame you, Hayley, I don't, but eight five
nine one three five you can context the same number.
I feel like this is a pretty relatable story because
I do know in relationships where people are sharing thoughts,
you know, sometimes people have different priorities and disagree with
how the money should be spent. And I do think
that's the kind of thing that you want to establish
before you marry somebody or get into a relationship where
(19:11):
you're co mingling funds. Do you guys have the same
philosophy about money that The challenging thing here is it
sounds like you do, and it sounds like normally he
does the right thing, or at least thus far, but
in this case, he definitely didn't. And I really don't
know what you do. I mean, I guess you could
divorce the guy, leave him whatever, but I don't really
know how you rectify this because he did it already.
(19:35):
This is kind of like that SNL skit, remember the
the SNL like the fake Lexus commercial where the guy
was like, look, honey, I bought you Alexis you know
it's December to remember or whatever, and she's like, we're broke,
and he's like, but it was a low apor It's
like APR like. And then it turns out that you know,
his wife's messing around with the neighbor and he borrowed
(19:56):
the money to get it in there. And it's if
you haven't seen it, I'm sure it's on TikTok or
YouTube or whatever. But this sounds to me like, but
at least that car was for her, this car is
for him. So I guess what prevents him from saying
you know what? I now? I want a new watch
or and now I want this or that, because I guess,
I just I don't know how you correct this behavior.
I guess is where I'm going.
Speaker 6 (20:19):
Yeah, and well, I mean it's not like you can
just go return the truck as soon as he drove
it off the lot. It's appreciated in value. There's I'm
just concerned, like I said, that now we're going to
be in a bad spot financially for literally years.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
Maybe he set you guys back, And it's not like
you can go buy a new car and say, well, fine,
you got one, I got one, because then that just
exacerbates the problem. Now you've just got more debt, so
you can't even really make it even per se.
Speaker 6 (20:47):
Yeah, there's really That's that's the stressful thing is there's
really nothing I can do to fix this. So it's
just like, this is this the life I want? Do
I want to have to?
Speaker 1 (20:58):
You know?
Speaker 6 (20:58):
Because like I said, we were cutting out basically any
little luxuries to quote unquote save aka apparently afford this truck.
So it's just do I want to have to live
like that until this thing is stayed off?
Speaker 1 (21:10):
Haley, I'm gonna take some phone calls keep the radio
or the iHeart app on it. Unlet's see what people say,
cause I do think there are people that can relate
to this, and I'd be curious to hear how they
handle it. But thank you for calling. Good luck.
Speaker 6 (21:20):
Hey, thanks?
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Yeah. So eight five five one three five Haley's calling
stare Go because they were consciously they had decided as
a couple consciously to save money. So they had some
savings and they had agreed how they were going to
do that, and they were going to cut back on
a bunch of stuff they did that, you know, date
nights and things that probably would make them closer as
a couple, things that they enjoyed doing together. And then
this guy goes out and buys a new car, brand
(21:42):
new car, without consulting here, And it's like, wait a minute,
I thought we were saving and it's not even like
we were. We were having to cut back on luxuries
in order to do this, and then you go do that.
Micah him Michael, good morning, Good morning, Hia, good morning,
thanks for calling, Thanks for listening. You've been through this.
Speaker 6 (22:01):
Yeah, oh what happened?
Speaker 3 (22:03):
Yeah, So.
Speaker 8 (22:05):
My then boyfriend, I mean I got engaged like a
month and a half ago. But my boyfriend at the
time we lived together, his car got stolen, so maybe
a little bit of a different situation. But we he
went out and got a Mustang, like a nice, like
very expensive must It was giving like midlife crisis like scenario,
(22:30):
and it was a payment that like I knew, was
stretching him and like we hadn't fully combined our finances yet,
but we're on our way there. And I said to
him multiple multiple times, like this is not a smart idea.
You know, this is not a smart idea. He went
and did it anyway, fast forward, he proposed as Then
(22:52):
I was like, all right, we got to talk about
the Mustang. And he actually he he lives, you know,
because we talked it out, you know, and I was like, look,
we've got to pay for a wedding coming up, like
we have other priorities. He traded it in for something
that was a lower payment.
Speaker 6 (23:07):
That he was still happy in.
Speaker 8 (23:09):
And so my point is like, yes, I've just been
through this, but like I think, listening to the scenario,
like it's her reaction to be like should I leave him?
Sounds like this didn't happen like in a vacuum like
this this wasn't the first time that she's he's given
her reason to like question, like first of all, just
(23:29):
being considerate of.
Speaker 6 (23:30):
Her trust to like all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 8 (23:34):
So I think if there was a really solid foundation
of trust and communication, this wouldn't be like a stay
or go question. But it sounds like there may be,
isn't that And so therefore, like a huge event like this,
I don't know, I just think it is that to
be evaluated, like and she.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Well, oh well, he cut off your phone now to
pay for the Mustang? And what happens? Oh Michael, you
went away? Wait, oh now you're back again. Oh no,
you you cut out because I think your I think
your husband's trying to cut off your cell phone, uh,
to pay for a water ski a jet ski. But
what so, do you feel like he learned from that?
And do you feel like you know the behavior has
(24:16):
been adjusted, like it won't happen again?
Speaker 8 (24:19):
Oh yeah, oh yeah, Like granted his dog had just died,
seasonal depression was hitting hard, So I think the Mustang
was like a product of a lot of other things.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Okay, but no, we're we've.
Speaker 8 (24:31):
Got like some great communication going. And yes, I think
he learned his lessons.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Well. Good Hey Michah, I'm glad and thank you for calling.
Have a good day.
Speaker 8 (24:40):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
I love you guys, thank you for listening to love
you too. This is why I say all the time
and again, and the guy who is not in a relationship,
it never is, gives the relationship advice. But I do
think it's so important that when people get together that
they're on the same page about you know, saving or whatever,
because I think those are habits that are really hard
to change. You know, people who are just used to
(25:01):
just buying stuff and worrying about it later, and you know,
get with somebody who's really financially conscious and saves a lot.
You know. I feel like this is the kind of
thing that you could run into. Sarah, Hey, good morning,
good morning. Hi. What do you think star go?
Speaker 3 (25:17):
I think she should go?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
Why?
Speaker 4 (25:21):
Because I think when somebody when you sit down and
have a conversation and you come to an agreement and
then they go ahead and do completely opposite of what
you actually sat and talked about, it's going to continue
to happen.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Yeah, that was my question to her, is what prevents
this from happening again? He already did it once and
that was a big purchase. That's a lot of money.
Speaker 4 (25:41):
Well, and not only that, it's like, okay, well she
stayed this time, right, And it doesn't even have to
be with money. It can be anything in a relationship, right.
So I just feel like once it's like okay, I
got that wiggle room in. Yeah, she's mad, but she'll
get over it. Cool, we can move on. So unless
they actually go, when they work work on their communication
with somebody else, I don't think it's going to change.
(26:04):
I think this could be the start of a much
bigger issue. And finances in a marriage are huge.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
And communication, Yeah, I would agree with you. Thank you, Sarah.
Speaker 4 (26:13):
Yes, thanks, have a great day.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Yeah you too, thank you. Well, here we go this.
I knew this was coming. Hi Jen, Hi, how are
you Agan? Good morning? So this woman called us stay
or go and they were she's married, and they were
in this relationship and they talked about saving they needed
money in the bank and they didn't have any, and
they were cutting back on all kinds of things. And
then dude goes down and buys a brand new sixty
(26:35):
thousand dollars car and she's like, wait a minute, I'm
not going to Starbucks, we're not going on date nights,
we're not taking trips together. We decided this together. And
then you go on and spend a bunch of money.
Speaker 9 (26:45):
What do you think, why, all of a sudden is
he changing his character. She said that this is totally
out of the ordinary for him and their marriage, and
normally it sounds like, you know, they have pretty good communication.
And then all of a sudden he goes and does
this behind her back to me is a clearcut sign
that something else is going on, especially the fingerpointing. You're
(27:07):
trying to control me. I've been there, done that, I've
seen it, and I've had.
Speaker 7 (27:11):
Somebody do it to me.
Speaker 9 (27:12):
As soon as they start pointing the finger and making
you the enemy like you're trying to do something to
hold them back, there's something else going on underneath there.
So might not have gone as far as like actually meeting,
but talking internet. You know, she needs a chin his phone,
she needs to do something for sure.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
Check. So he's cheating. You're saying, he's at least emotionally cheating.
And the new girl's like, I don't like your car.
You better get a brand new truck or else. And then.
Speaker 6 (27:40):
The other girl.
Speaker 9 (27:41):
Yeah, I don't even think it's the other girl telling
him that. I think it's just his ego of like,
I can do what I want and this is almost
a catalyst of Hey, this might kiss her off, but
who cares. A husband doesn't do that. You know, he
knows their situation, he knows what he told her. He's
either trying to start something or he feels in play
buy something else and now feels the sense of like
(28:03):
entitlement that he can do this and nobody's going to
tell him what to do. And as soon as that turn,
there's something else underneath that's interesting.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
Thank you so much, Jen, have a good day, no problem.
And Zach, you've listening. Pauline, I don't you said it before,
so I don't. I'm not calling you out, but I
know that you've mentioned that you and Hobby have pretty
different financial pass and attitudes about spending. Uh, and you
guys have kind of gotten it together. But I mean,
how do you how do you do it? And you've
been together for a while now, I mean does it
(28:31):
come up?
Speaker 3 (28:32):
Well, it's more like how does Hobby do it?
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Because I am the one, like you said, that buys
and then thinks about it later.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
Yeah, yesterday I bought a new vacuum.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Didn't need it, but in my head, I was like,
I need I'll figure out later. And him and I
bump heads a lot because he's trying to be the
one that saves and is responsible and he wants me
to get on board with.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
That, and it is hard. It is like we've cut.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Things out too just because I'm like, I don't wanna,
I don't know. I want to be more financially stable,
but also I want to be more financially responsible and
teach my.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
Daughter the same thing. And I'm I'm on with that.
But here's the thing. If I came home with a
brand new drug or he.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Did without consulting and it's all about talking to each other,
and he took away my hooters or my muddy.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
School's dates, then I would be they'd be hell to.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Pay because like, at the end of the day, I
look at it as like, okay, so priority to you
was getting this new car. You didn't talk to me
about it, but you wanted this car. Like I look
at underneath what's going on, Like, you know, is he
acting out?
Speaker 3 (29:21):
Is he trying to show me something?
Speaker 2 (29:23):
Is he trying to show me I'm the big man
in the house, like I don't know, there's something underneath.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
That it's super inconsiderate to do that. And don't take
away her mana East ghost man, not the seafood, not them.
Speaker 3 (29:33):
I love my date night.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Absolutely not Hey Jane, Jane, are you Jane your Jane?
Well it says Jane, you mind if I call you
Jane anyway? So Jean Jane still be it Bellahamine whatever,
God bless her. So she's going fast. What you've been
through this sadly and what's your experience.
Speaker 7 (29:58):
I just had a miscarriage and my vacuum now, thank you.
But what had happened was he when he took the
money to go by himself a vehicle, not a vehicle
but a full wheeler. And then later on down the
road he did something similar than once that I didn't
know about. And the thing once that got me that
she said, the big red, huge red flag was when
(30:21):
she said he was like, you can't control me, you know,
I'm you know this, I'm going to do what I want.
That is manipulation. That is a big time red flag manipulation.
And without some type of therapy and him addressing his issues,
but what he's doing to her isn't fair. So by
trying to gaslighter, that's basically a way of saying, I
know what I did was wrong, but now I'm going
(30:43):
to put it on you. So this is a grown
man that doesn't even want to be accountable. And you know,
maybe he's never done anything like this before, but maybe
now he's starting to show who he really is, because
we're not talking about a vacuum, you know, we're talking
about sixty thousand dollars that is going to be able
(31:05):
to hurt their ability to have a date night either,
just the little stuff and he just didn't care, you know,
and that is not the sign of an emotionally mature
around a person. And you know, she has to ask herself,
do I want to, you know, try and see if
he's going to start being accountable. But with what he
said to her, I don't think he's anywhere near ready.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
But I didn't tell you I got Yeah, I got it.
And he should be more thoughtful about what you're going
through and not adding that extra stress and stead he's
he's thinking about himself. Hey, Jeene Jane, thank you, have
a good day.
Speaker 7 (31:40):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
Thank you for calling, Thank you for listening. Geen Jane
love you. Yeah, and I think she should divorce him,
take take half the money and then go buy yourself
like a cyber truck or something.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
Yes, I like it.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
You know, just something obnoxious, get it wrapped with pictures
of his face on it. There's you know, dollar bills
or I'm not sure, you know, just something new, something outrageous.
Speaker 5 (31:58):
Right, But this is why you always need AEPHR account
on the side that he doesn't know about.
Speaker 3 (32:02):
You're not They're not ready to that conversation. They're not
red cree they read.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
So let me just be clear, like she should extort
money from them, and that's better them.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
You think I'm kidding.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
It makes perfect sense. Yeah, No, you guys are on it.
I don't even know why. We just say that twenty
minutes ago and end the segment. Kiki is up next.
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