March 4, 2025 • 7 mins
Paulina is upset after her friend isn't invited to an event because her friend isn't married and this is a married couple only event.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, they talk better than they excited.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Men. These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show.
It's like running in our diaries, except we say him
a loud we call him blogs.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Paulina, Yes, take it away.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Oh thank you so much, dear blog.
Speaker 4 (00:14):
So I know, Fred, You've talked about this like many
of times here and I've heard, you know, stories, But
to bec completely honest, I've never had like I've never
seen it happen to a friend. It's happened to me,
but I was like, oh, I see it happen to people.
Maybe it's like one of those like fairy tale things
where like it might happen, and like, I don't know,
it didn't really like hit me until my best friend
mentioned the other day. He goes, oh, yeah, you know,
(00:37):
I was gonna go out with and I won't name them,
but I was gonna go out this couple, a married
couple newly married, because like I think there are maybe
five six months in he was no longer invited to
something that he I guess maybe assumed he was invited to.
I guess they made plans like prior and I guess
he had asked like kind of like another friend, what's
up with that, you know, why wasn't I invited?
Speaker 3 (00:58):
And it was a mary couple's only kind of event.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Yeah, and I was.
Speaker 4 (01:03):
About to go in there swinging and nothing to do
with me. But I was so upset about that for
so many reasons. And I'm a married person. I'm a
married couple over here, and I would never even in
my mind, like ever think of doing that to somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah, that's the thing. No, it's a real thing.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
As a single guy, I think there are couples events
that take place, and I don't take it personally. While
it's hard kind of not to, but I think I
don't get invited because I would be like the odd
man out. You know, I'd be like the third or fifth,
or tenth or whatever wheel, or I guess tenth wouldn't
make sense, you know, I'd be the eleventh wheel.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
But like, I just don't understand. Like, to me, my
friends first of all are my people. But if my
friends can't come out with me and my husband and
like have a good time or whatever, like, are we
really friends?
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Like that has nothing to do.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
I don't care if you're married single, if you're seeing
eighteen different men, Like I don't care if you're like
to play a player, like I don't care what your
status is, like that has nothing to do with me
wanting to invite you to my event or my dinner
whatever it is, like, that's the place that you know
what I mean?
Speaker 5 (02:01):
Like, why are we treating marriage like it's some sort
of elite club that like you need a membership too,
like a chill Like you decided to do that, and
that's great for you. But a friend is a friend,
like you need new friends. If people are doing that too,
that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
It's so mean.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
And I saw like this TikTok, and I don't know
this girl was talking about. I guess why married couples
do this. Yeah, I'm very curious. I am one, mind you,
but I.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Never never thought of it this way.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
I guess it's married couples want to be around married
couples because a it's the relatability part.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
But I guess like it's a secure kind of thing.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
So it's like I would invite a single person, which
is really I brought flag on your marriage, in my opinion,
because what you're afraid that single person's gonna meddle in
your relationship.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
And gonna come.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
I know that yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Saw a video.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I thought it was just because it was like it's
couples and then a random dude, yes.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Or I saw like not even marriage, but like if
like a couple that's dating does that. I was like, ma'am, what,
like you don't want your homegirl around your man like that?
Speaker 3 (02:59):
That's a whole conversation.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I don't know if that, I don't know if I
agree with that. The other thing, this happens a lot
too with and I've said this before over the years,
but it happens with with people with kids too, Like
my friends, all of my friends, like in one particular
friend group, we all used to be single. Now everyone
but me is married, and everybody but me as a kid.
And I find out that, like they hang out a lot,
(03:22):
but they hang out at you know, the kid's birthday party,
which is at the play place you know or whatever.
And it's like, well, we didn't invite you because we
didn't think you wanted to go to a play place
on a Saturday with a bunch of screaming kids. And
they're right, I don't. But at the same time, if
that's the only way I'm going to see a lot
of these people, then I guess I probably would go exactly,
you know, but that's more of like a lifestyle thing,
(03:44):
I guess. But but yeah, I think that people with
kids hang out with people with kids a lot, and
I think that that couples don't necessarily invite like a
third person to hang out with them, and I think
so we miss out on stuff single people.
Speaker 5 (03:57):
When I was single, my friends like love because they
wanted to pick my brain about dating and like, you know,
talk all the things, which I mean, single people don't
always love when married people are.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Like, I'm living vicariously through you. But I mean, I
don't know that just that would hurt me.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
But yeah, I've gone on vacations though, like trips, weekend
trips and stuff where I'm the like a married couple
on me. I love it, no, and it's fine, I mean,
you know, but it's funny because the wife will in
this case argued all weekend like I think I'm the
third wheel because basically this is like you two wanted
to go out and do something, but you couldn't get
even't think you get away with it unless I came.
(04:33):
And then I guess for me, I don't necessarily want
to invite someone to go on a trip with all
my friends unless the relationship kind of is going someplace.
Because I do think if as a dude, if I
say to a woman i'm dating, let's go on a
trip first of all, or let's all go to dinner
with my friends, then I think what we're saying there is, oh, well,
(04:54):
let me introduce you to my friends because I'm serious
about you.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
And if I'm not, then I don't think that's fair.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
Agree, good point, Good point, But you should still be
invited to the dinners, to the kids' birthday parties.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Listen.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
As a married person was a child, I hate when
people treat it like jail or prison where they can't
see their friends anymore or want to invite other friends.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Like that's me is so weird.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Like yesterday my husband he went out with his friends
for his friend's birthday and he was like pacing the house.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I'm like, what time are you leaving? What time are
you leaving?
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And I'm like, you know what's crazy too, is that
your friends are single. I guess maybe in relationships technically,
but they're like single and no kids and you're the
guy that's married with kids and yet your ass is
going out more than they do. Like that's to me crazy,
like maybe it's just me and like the kind of
wife that I am, because I am okay with it,
because I also.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
I one thing about me is I love my alone time.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
I I love being alone and I also love going
out with my friends, and like that's something I'm not
giving up, Like I'm just I'm sorry, I'm not. Don't
get me wrong. You know, if my kid needs me,
of course, like my daughter will be.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
One year old, I need some alone time right now.
So if you get sent for yourself.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Yeah, I mean he's a margarita, so I'll be back.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
But yeah, exactly, I'm kind of I just look at
it like this is crazy, Like this isn't whatever, This
isn't a present, Like you can go out with your
friends and you should invite all of your friends.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I'm also not sure as much if if I don't
get invited to stuff, and I do think the couples
and the kids thing is valid, but I'm also the
guy that wants to be invited to everything, but may
or may not go. And I don't say that I'm
going to go and then not show up. I just
mean I tend I'm like you, I like my alone
time a lot, and I get in these modes where
I don't, you know, on the weekend or whatever, I
(06:31):
just don't really want to do anything. And so I
think that's part of it too, is that I probably
stop getting invited to stuff because people just assume that
I wouldn't go. And I guess I would like the option,
you know, I would like my friends to continue giving
me the option, yeah, to go or not go. But
I also wouldn't blame them. Like if I invited someone
to something five times and they didn't go, I'd probably
(06:53):
stop calling them, not because I don't like them, but
because I just assume Fred's not coming.
Speaker 5 (06:58):
Yeah, that's where you lose me if people say, know enough,
I'm not inviting anymore.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Sorry, good point. It hurts my need.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I need to be invited.
Speaker 5 (07:07):
Okay, Okay, I know, but it's it's like the people
that are doing the inviting, like some people take it
personally and it hurts their feelings, so then they stopped.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Well, you should not.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Take it personally because I'm me and I'm a introvert
that can pretend sometimes. No, don't take it personally. Just
make sure you invite me please The Entertainment Report is
next
Yeah, they talk better than they excited.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Men. These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show.
It's like running in our diaries, except we say him
a loud we call him blogs.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Paulina, Yes, take it away.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Oh thank you so much, dear blog.
Speaker 4 (00:14):
So I know, Fred, You've talked about this like many
of times here and I've heard, you know, stories, But
to bec completely honest, I've never had like I've never
seen it happen to a friend. It's happened to me,
but I was like, oh, I see it happen to people.
Maybe it's like one of those like fairy tale things
where like it might happen, and like, I don't know,
it didn't really like hit me until my best friend
mentioned the other day. He goes, oh, yeah, you know,
(00:37):
I was gonna go out with and I won't name them,
but I was gonna go out this couple, a married
couple newly married, because like I think there are maybe
five six months in he was no longer invited to
something that he I guess maybe assumed he was invited to.
I guess they made plans like prior and I guess
he had asked like kind of like another friend, what's
up with that, you know, why wasn't I invited?
Speaker 3 (00:58):
And it was a mary couple's only kind of event.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Yeah, and I was.
Speaker 4 (01:03):
About to go in there swinging and nothing to do
with me. But I was so upset about that for
so many reasons. And I'm a married person. I'm a
married couple over here, and I would never even in
my mind, like ever think of doing that to somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah, that's the thing. No, it's a real thing.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
As a single guy, I think there are couples events
that take place, and I don't take it personally. While
it's hard kind of not to, but I think I
don't get invited because I would be like the odd
man out. You know, I'd be like the third or fifth,
or tenth or whatever wheel, or I guess tenth wouldn't
make sense, you know, I'd be the eleventh wheel.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
But like, I just don't understand. Like, to me, my
friends first of all are my people. But if my
friends can't come out with me and my husband and
like have a good time or whatever, like, are we
really friends?
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Like that has nothing to do.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
I don't care if you're married single, if you're seeing
eighteen different men, Like I don't care if you're like
to play a player, like I don't care what your
status is, like that has nothing to do with me
wanting to invite you to my event or my dinner
whatever it is, like, that's the place that you know
what I mean?
Speaker 5 (02:01):
Like, why are we treating marriage like it's some sort
of elite club that like you need a membership too,
like a chill Like you decided to do that, and
that's great for you. But a friend is a friend,
like you need new friends. If people are doing that too,
that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
It's so mean.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
And I saw like this TikTok, and I don't know
this girl was talking about. I guess why married couples
do this. Yeah, I'm very curious. I am one, mind you,
but I.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Never never thought of it this way.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
I guess it's married couples want to be around married
couples because a it's the relatability part.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
But I guess like it's a secure kind of thing.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
So it's like I would invite a single person, which
is really I brought flag on your marriage, in my opinion,
because what you're afraid that single person's gonna meddle in
your relationship.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
And gonna come.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
I know that yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Saw a video.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I thought it was just because it was like it's
couples and then a random dude, yes.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Or I saw like not even marriage, but like if
like a couple that's dating does that. I was like, ma'am, what,
like you don't want your homegirl around your man like that?
Speaker 3 (02:59):
That's a whole conversation.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I don't know if that, I don't know if I
agree with that. The other thing, this happens a lot
too with and I've said this before over the years,
but it happens with with people with kids too, Like
my friends, all of my friends, like in one particular
friend group, we all used to be single. Now everyone
but me is married, and everybody but me as a kid.
And I find out that, like they hang out a lot,
(03:22):
but they hang out at you know, the kid's birthday party,
which is at the play place you know or whatever.
And it's like, well, we didn't invite you because we
didn't think you wanted to go to a play place
on a Saturday with a bunch of screaming kids. And
they're right, I don't. But at the same time, if
that's the only way I'm going to see a lot
of these people, then I guess I probably would go exactly,
you know, but that's more of like a lifestyle thing,
(03:44):
I guess. But but yeah, I think that people with
kids hang out with people with kids a lot, and
I think that that couples don't necessarily invite like a
third person to hang out with them, and I think
so we miss out on stuff single people.
Speaker 5 (03:57):
When I was single, my friends like love because they
wanted to pick my brain about dating and like, you know,
talk all the things, which I mean, single people don't
always love when married people are.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Like, I'm living vicariously through you. But I mean, I
don't know that just that would hurt me.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
But yeah, I've gone on vacations though, like trips, weekend
trips and stuff where I'm the like a married couple
on me. I love it, no, and it's fine, I mean,
you know, but it's funny because the wife will in
this case argued all weekend like I think I'm the
third wheel because basically this is like you two wanted
to go out and do something, but you couldn't get
even't think you get away with it unless I came.
(04:33):
And then I guess for me, I don't necessarily want
to invite someone to go on a trip with all
my friends unless the relationship kind of is going someplace.
Because I do think if as a dude, if I
say to a woman i'm dating, let's go on a
trip first of all, or let's all go to dinner
with my friends, then I think what we're saying there is, oh, well,
(04:54):
let me introduce you to my friends because I'm serious
about you.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
And if I'm not, then I don't think that's fair.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
Agree, good point, Good point, But you should still be
invited to the dinners, to the kids' birthday parties.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Listen.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
As a married person was a child, I hate when
people treat it like jail or prison where they can't
see their friends anymore or want to invite other friends.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Like that's me is so weird.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Like yesterday my husband he went out with his friends
for his friend's birthday and he was like pacing the house.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I'm like, what time are you leaving? What time are
you leaving?
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And I'm like, you know what's crazy too, is that
your friends are single. I guess maybe in relationships technically,
but they're like single and no kids and you're the
guy that's married with kids and yet your ass is
going out more than they do. Like that's to me crazy,
like maybe it's just me and like the kind of
wife that I am, because I am okay with it,
because I also.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
I one thing about me is I love my alone time.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
I I love being alone and I also love going
out with my friends, and like that's something I'm not
giving up, Like I'm just I'm sorry, I'm not. Don't
get me wrong. You know, if my kid needs me,
of course, like my daughter will be.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
One year old, I need some alone time right now.
So if you get sent for yourself.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Yeah, I mean he's a margarita, so I'll be back.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
But yeah, exactly, I'm kind of I just look at
it like this is crazy, Like this isn't whatever, This
isn't a present, Like you can go out with your
friends and you should invite all of your friends.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I'm also not sure as much if if I don't
get invited to stuff, and I do think the couples
and the kids thing is valid, but I'm also the
guy that wants to be invited to everything, but may
or may not go. And I don't say that I'm
going to go and then not show up. I just
mean I tend I'm like you, I like my alone
time a lot, and I get in these modes where
I don't, you know, on the weekend or whatever, I
(06:31):
just don't really want to do anything. And so I
think that's part of it too, is that I probably
stop getting invited to stuff because people just assume that
I wouldn't go. And I guess I would like the option,
you know, I would like my friends to continue giving
me the option, yeah, to go or not go. But
I also wouldn't blame them. Like if I invited someone
to something five times and they didn't go, I'd probably
(06:53):
stop calling them, not because I don't like them, but
because I just assume Fred's not coming.
Speaker 5 (06:58):
Yeah, that's where you lose me if people say, know enough,
I'm not inviting anymore.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Sorry, good point. It hurts my need.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I need to be invited.
Speaker 5 (07:07):
Okay, Okay, I know, but it's it's like the people
that are doing the inviting, like some people take it
personally and it hurts their feelings, so then they stopped.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Well, you should not.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Take it personally because I'm me and I'm a introvert
that can pretend sometimes. No, don't take it personally. Just
make sure you invite me please The Entertainment Report is
next
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