April 1, 2025 • 17 mins
Isabel is conflicted with her fiancé after she hears that his ex was at his bachelor party. When she confronted her fiancé about his ex being and the party he first denied it and then ended up coming clean. Although he says there's nothing to worry about, Isabel still finds this behavior bizarre. Find out what Fred and the crew have to say!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Show is on. It's stay or go? Why not?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
You know what?
Speaker 1 (00:04):
Why not?
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Come on?
Speaker 1 (00:06):
It's all good, It's all good, all right, stay or go.
Let's debate some relationship drama we got. Is it bel Hi?
Is it Bell? How are you Hi? I'm good? How
are you Isabelle? Do you have anything unrelated you'd like
to you just bring up right now completely you have
any Do you have any stock tips or you know
who's gonna win the Final four? Anything else? Just completely
off topic.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
Nothing off the top of my head, to be honest.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Okay, there you go, no problem. That's good. So you
are getting married in two months. Congratulations by the way,
thank you. And a couple of weeks ago, your fiance's
friends throw him a bachelor party, which you know, pretty
common before people get married. The friends get together, the guys, girls, whatever,
go off to their deal. That was me explaining to
(00:51):
you what a bachelor party is. In case you didn't know,
a girlfriend of one of the guys who was at
the party told you something about the party after the fact.
So what happened?
Speaker 4 (01:04):
Yeah, So, like you said, I'm getting married in two months,
and it was like two weeks ago. My fiance's friend
they threw him a bachelor party great, and a girlfriend
of one of the guys who was at the party
let it flip that, like, my fiance actually ended up
running into his ex at the party, And at first
(01:26):
I asked him about it, and he lied, like straight
up live, and he did eventually admit to running into her,
but then said that nothing happened and that he didn't
want to upset me so close to the wedding, and so,
(01:46):
like I asked some of the guys who were there,
and they all they all also said that nothing happened
and that was like no big deal, of course, you know,
And I don't know. I guess I'm just wondering, like
why my fiance lied if nothing actually happened.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
First of all, what is his ex doing in his
bachelor party? Like why would that happen?
Speaker 4 (02:08):
That's what I was wondering, Like they were a tough
golf I mean, maybe they just ran into her. But
also at the same time, like I know, they went
went and did some other stuff. I don't know exactly
everything that they did, but that's what I was told.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Where they live and so is his next a stripper?
Is that? Is that what happened? They went to the
strip club and then the ex was there. I mean,
because I don't I don't understand why an X would
be showing up to a bachelor parties. First of all,
it's supposed to be uh, you know, typically it's it's
all dudes and all girls, and so I don't know
why this person just just happened to come rolling up.
And second of all, the other issue I have with
this is and probably the main issue, is the lie,
(02:47):
because first of all, what is she doing there? And
second of all, if she is there, why are we
lying about it if we don't have anything to be
concerned about, because she shouldn't have been there, and then
we lied. I don't like it exactly.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
That's how I feel like it would have been one
thing if it was just like, oh yeah, you know,
like I she was there and it was, you know,
this total coincidence. We said high and that's it, like
it would It's the energy around the lie and the
fact that like it's I feel weird around everyone when
I've asked about it, and it kind of feels like
(03:22):
there's a lot more to the story than it was
just like a random chance meeting. Like it felt kind
of like Oh, you're all in on this, and I
you're telling me kind of the same story, and so
I don't know. I guess like I'm just really at
a point where I'm just not quite sure what to do, because,
(03:44):
like I said, you know, I'm getting married to this guy,
you know, in a couple of months, and I don't
feel like he's being totally honest with me about something
that seems to be like a really big deal.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Because I feel like what happens is something very benign
that he could have just told you, because Okay, so
he went to top Golf, and they probably went to
bars and restaurants or whatever, so there's you know, if
it was around here and the ex lives around here,
then sure there's an opportunity for them to run into
each other if it's like a popular place. But at
the same time, that could have been a benign Oh yeah,
(04:16):
we ran into her, Hey, what's going on? Whatever, and
everybody knew her because my friends knew her and whatever,
and it was a bachelor party. But then as soon
as you lie about it, it takes what could have
been a benign experience and now makes it suspect because
if it weren't suspect, then you would just say I
ran into se and so end of story. And why
are the friends talking about it with their girlfriends and stuff?
(04:38):
Like if it was it was a benign, you know,
sort of passing fleeting moment, then why why is it
being discussed? I don't like that. It's a lie.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
It handle this all women, we're blessed with.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
This gift is called intuition, right, and it's something that
happens in your stomach where you get a little bubble
guts when you know your man and it's lying to you.
So I know you feel this, girl, I know you
felt this when you ask him the first time and
he lied, You can feel that something is not right.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
And if you're going into.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
Marriage where he's already lying to you and like straight
up boldly in your face, where there's cameras and social media,
you can clearly find out if he actually ran into
this ex he's not even lying, he's not even telling
good lies. I think you guys need to definitely have
a deep conversation, some counseling, pre marital counseling before you
get married, because lying at this stage in your relationship
(05:30):
when you're supposed to be the happiest ever and getting
ready to take your nuptials.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
That's a big red flag for me here.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Have you ever doubt of him before? I mean, has
he ever done anything that's given you pause? Has he
ever cheated? Or have you ever caught him in a lie?
I just don't get it. I mean, I understand that
exes are sort of it's kind of a tenuous topic.
I get that, like talking about ex'es and running into
exes can make people insecure and whatever, and so you
maybe avoid some of that stuff if it's really just
(05:58):
sort of passive. But I mean, if everybody saw this
and it was nothing, then I don't know why he
doesn't just say something. I mean, if it was enough
that it was enough that one of the guys at
the bachelor party went home and told his girl, and
that his girl told you, then there was something more
than just a oh hey, run it right, right, right right.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Well.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
The thing is is that, like i've known him, our
relationship has gone really quickly. I've known him for like
a year and a half. We got engaged like a
half year in and so it's been a pretty long engagement.
But that's also been like the vast majority of our relationship.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
And so the thing is is.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
That I, you know, I'm still learning about him, like
it's really it's been a long time, but it hasn't
been that long. And so I know that like he has,
you know, a little bit of questionable past from you know,
different times of his life. Like I get it, you know,
we all do to some degree, but this is really,
I guess giving.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Me big pause.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
But at the same time time, we have two hundred
and fifty people coming that have confirmed, which is crazy,
like who can how many whose wedding actually has that
many people actually confirm two months out? And also like
it's it's not cheap, like weddings aren't cheap, Like we're
spending a lot of money. We've already spent a lot
(07:19):
of money, and so I feel like this huge pressure
is like on top of all of it.
Speaker 6 (07:25):
Yeah, yeah, I hear you, girl, But like cut I
don't want to say cut your wedding, like you know
what I mean, or to cancel your wedding, but you
need to really think about this because a lifelong commitment
is going to cost you a lot more mentally, physically, emotionally,
then you know what I mean, cutting off you're a
two hundred and fifty person wedding truly true.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Yeah, I agree with that. I mean, you hear this
sometimes you hear people say like, wow, something bad happened,
but we're already you know, we've already invested X y Z.
It's like, well, it's going to be a lot more
expensive if you marry someone and then have to divorce
them when your intuition told you not to get married.
But I'm not saying that this this necessarily reaches that
point because we don't really know. But I don't I
(08:05):
don't like the fact that even if it was obfuscation,
even if it was like smoking mirrors a little bit,
I don't like it because I think he could have
just copped to it and then you don't have to
hear about it from somebody else, and then we're not
even having this conversation. But yes, well I'm gonna take
some phone calls, let me see what people have to say,
and you can have the radio on and we wish
you the very best of luck. Okay, thank you so much.
(08:28):
Eight five five five one three five. So just to
recap here, this woman is getting married soon. Her fiance
had a bachelor party at the bachelor party, she finds
out from one of the I guess one of the
girlfriends and one of the guys that was there that
he quote unquote ran into his ex. So if if
that wasn't that big of a deal, then I don't
(08:49):
know why it is that this has to come up
after the fact. That being said, it's possible as being
blown out of proportion too, because he he's not necessarily
obligated to go through the entire list of people that
he ran into, you know, out in public, because it's
very well possible that if he had his bachelor party
in the same general area where they dated, then that
(09:11):
he might see that person, like you know what I mean,
he doesn't really have any control over that. And it's
not as though she said did you see your ex?
And he said, well, I guess did she ask him?
And then he said no, yeah he did. He did, yeah,
And I couldn't remember. I couldn't remember if it was
because I had the intention's made of a nat if
she had said that she asked and he said no,
(09:32):
or he just he just didn't tell her that it happened.
So that's yeah, So he allowed to her face and
a lot of people in the text. Most people in
the text just saying you got to run and and
don't worry about the fact that you have money invested
in a wedding because as I mentioned, uh, you know,
divorces in breaking up are expensive too. What do you
guys think?
Speaker 6 (09:50):
Yeah, I feel like somebody almost like not even set
them up, but I feel like one of their friends
maybe like made this happen. I know I'm reaching here,
but like I feel like one of the odds a running.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Into your acts.
Speaker 6 (09:59):
I know you're saying I feel in the same city
you might, but then like, why are you of course
lying about it number one, But I feel like this
was almost like a pre planned thing.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (10:07):
Yeah, it's given very much pre planned by him. I
feel like sometimes men before they get.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Married, yeah, I like always yeah, we.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Love, we love to reach, but I mean that is
they reach. We don't have any I think.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
He'll set this up.
Speaker 5 (10:23):
I think he was caught hanging out with his ex
and his bachelor friends saw it or whatever. Because sometimes
men like to go back in their old.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Spots before they commit.
Speaker 5 (10:33):
They like to spend the block one more time, just
to see what's out there, just to check it or
they commit I've had this, you know, I know people
who have had this experience where you know, I'm getting
I'm gonna. I'm gonna get married soon, you know, but
I still want to see what's good with me and
you before I get married.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
That's insane, but men do it.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
So yeah, but why would you do that in public?
Like why would you do that so blatantly in front
of a bunch of other people? Like, if that's what
you're trying to do, you could accomplish that without anybody knowing.
Because yeah, but but again, if I'm doing something nefarious,
I guess I can do it without without everybody knowing.
I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna have ten of my
(11:11):
best friends there and be like, oh, look I invited
so and so so I can smash before I get
married to Isabelle.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
But see's why I think a friend, maybe the.
Speaker 6 (11:19):
Best man, was involved and orchestrated this whole thing, because
then it's.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Like I'm off the hook. Hey, you know Jimmy did that.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
I didn't invite her.
Speaker 7 (11:25):
Jimmy did, even though he still lies. Messy, Jimmy, damn
it messy as Jimmy. It's always Jimmy and little Friends.
Hey Alice, Good morning, Alice. How are you my good morning?
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I feel like I'm talking to celebrities. Well you should
aim higher if you consider as celebrities. We're just well
you guys.
Speaker 8 (11:45):
Don't know this, but you're my best friends every morning.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
So hey, you know what, thank you and you are
ours and we're very grateful for you. What uh what
do you think here? Stay or go with this situation
with the bachelor party?
Speaker 8 (11:56):
Oh god, I think I think it's I.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Think she should stay.
Speaker 8 (12:01):
I just have this feeling that maybe his friends kind
of set this up as like some sort of like
Frank or something, be like, oh, we should totally have
is like X come around and she'll just pop up,
and like, I don't know, and maybe that's why he
was Maybe his ex does mean a little bit more
to him than Isabelle thinks, and maybe his bachelor friends
(12:26):
we're like, oh, we should totally just have her show
up and it'll be so funny.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Hmm. Yeah, I don't know. I don't think a good
friend would necessarily set that up as a joke, because
then it yes this scenario.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
But I also, yes, real, yes, I know, I agree and.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Alice, I appreciate you so much for listening. Have a
great day. Thanks for calling you too.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Yeah, I I just I don't know. I think the
fact because you got to remember, one of these dudes
went home and told somebody it was enough of a
story to tell the other some other people about this
such that it could and then it was enough it
weighed enough on somebody to then go and tell her.
(13:09):
So this was not just a you know, hey, peace sign,
nice to see you, you know what I mean? Like this,
someone knew something and told someone something that weighed on
them so much that they had to go tell her.
Speaker 9 (13:20):
So why, I mean, could have just spen it in passing,
like you know, they bumped in each other and they
said hi, and it was part of a story. And
then you know, her friend ran with it and went
and told her and now you know it got blown up.
But it's the lying for me that's the biggest issue.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
And I am guilty.
Speaker 9 (13:39):
I think you know of not telling someone something because
you didn't want to hurt their feelings, But this is
a perfect example of how that goes awry. Right, Like
it's a really inopportune time to be dealing with a
lie like this.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Yep, yeah, yeah, it's a bad sign. Latronia, is it?
Latronia high? Hey, Hey, what do you think stre Go?
She need to go? Okay? Why?
Speaker 3 (14:08):
Well, he lied about it. He could have just told
her before everybody else told her, And I mean, what
was there to hide?
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Yeah? Why is this being talked about? That's That's what
I'm That's what I'm thinking about. Thank you, Latronia. I'm
glad you called. Have a good day you too. That's
where I'm at. I'm like, why are we talking about
this if it's just some chance encounter?
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (14:30):
John, how you doing? How are you doing? John? What
do you think is there? Go?
Speaker 3 (14:36):
I'm gonna say stay, I'm gonna have the guys at
bachelor parties act up. And it's kind of a written
rule or unwritten rule too, after a bachelor party, you
kind of keep everything within the guys. And I think
I think that. I think the guy I've I've came
(14:57):
home to my wife before and kind of filled some
beans and uh, you know, just some silly you know
kind of what went on, and uh, you know, it's
in my opinion, the guy, uh really could just come
out and kind of squash it and say nothing happened.
If nothing really happened, But there is at every wedding
(15:19):
that I've been to, including my own, you have your
bachelor party where all the guys at the party are
looking at each other with a half smirk on your
face because you know you kind.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Of kind of silly stuff. Would you repeat that was
so silly that you shouldn't have repeated?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Yeah, what kind of violence of guy code are you
RESPONSI what's silly?
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Well, that's I mean, that's kind of the That's kind
of my point is that the guy could come out
and squash it if there is something that got kind
of brought up. But uh, that's it's.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Just boys being boys.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
And if bachelor parties get goofy, and I think that
that's kind of it could get.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
It.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
It's real simple if, in my opinion, the girl who's
got this conflict just needs to come out and just
sit down on them and say, listen, tell me, you know,
tell me what happened, because it's getting to this big
big at this point, you gotta you gotta lay it
all up there, all right, By John? I mean, well
(16:20):
I hope they stay.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Boys will be boys, Boy, boys will be boys. John
thank you, have a good day. So hey, you know what,
it got a little goofy according to John, who wasn't there,
by the way, he has no idea, but he got
a little goofy and guys will be guys. I like
he was there.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I felt like he was lying to me right there.
A lot of word.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
Salad, ladies. I'm so sorry on behalf of my gender.
Boys will be boys though, So sorry.
Speaker 6 (16:42):
Don't you dare have smirk to your friend as I'm
walking down the aisle.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
We got real silly.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Oh you know what. I've been to a lot of
bachelor parties and I can honestly tell you, I can
honestly tell you one hundred I've probably been to twenty
bachelor bad ten ten bachelor parties, and I've never seen
anything that was so bad that I was like, oh
my god. I mean maybe a strip club or something
like that, but like nothing, no infidelity, no cheating, no lying,
(17:12):
no nothing. I didn't see anything where I was like,
I'm not sure if I could live with this. And
you know what I mean, I didn't go to the
wedding and I just had my hands, you know, on
my face, going oh no, don't do it.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
I'd like to do that, like that makes me feel better.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
So I don't know, like I don't know what kind
of bachelor party John's going through over here, but hey,
you know what, it gets a little silly at these things,
and you know the entertainment reports, Next friend Show,
Show is on. It's stay or go? Why not?
Speaker 2 (00:04):
You know what?
Speaker 1 (00:04):
Why not?
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Come on?
Speaker 1 (00:06):
It's all good, It's all good, all right, stay or go.
Let's debate some relationship drama we got. Is it bel Hi?
Is it Bell? How are you Hi? I'm good? How
are you Isabelle? Do you have anything unrelated you'd like
to you just bring up right now completely you have
any Do you have any stock tips or you know
who's gonna win the Final four? Anything else? Just completely
off topic.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
Nothing off the top of my head, to be honest.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Okay, there you go, no problem. That's good. So you
are getting married in two months. Congratulations by the way,
thank you. And a couple of weeks ago, your fiance's
friends throw him a bachelor party, which you know, pretty
common before people get married. The friends get together, the guys, girls, whatever,
go off to their deal. That was me explaining to
(00:51):
you what a bachelor party is. In case you didn't know,
a girlfriend of one of the guys who was at
the party told you something about the party after the fact.
So what happened?
Speaker 4 (01:04):
Yeah, So, like you said, I'm getting married in two months,
and it was like two weeks ago. My fiance's friend
they threw him a bachelor party great, and a girlfriend
of one of the guys who was at the party
let it flip that, like, my fiance actually ended up
running into his ex at the party, And at first
(01:26):
I asked him about it, and he lied, like straight
up live, and he did eventually admit to running into her,
but then said that nothing happened and that he didn't
want to upset me so close to the wedding, and so,
(01:46):
like I asked some of the guys who were there,
and they all they all also said that nothing happened
and that was like no big deal, of course, you know,
And I don't know. I guess I'm just wondering, like
why my fiance lied if nothing actually happened.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
First of all, what is his ex doing in his
bachelor party? Like why would that happen?
Speaker 4 (02:08):
That's what I was wondering, Like they were a tough
golf I mean, maybe they just ran into her. But
also at the same time, like I know, they went
went and did some other stuff. I don't know exactly
everything that they did, but that's what I was told.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Where they live and so is his next a stripper?
Is that? Is that what happened? They went to the
strip club and then the ex was there. I mean,
because I don't I don't understand why an X would
be showing up to a bachelor parties. First of all,
it's supposed to be uh, you know, typically it's it's
all dudes and all girls, and so I don't know
why this person just just happened to come rolling up.
And second of all, the other issue I have with
this is and probably the main issue, is the lie,
(02:47):
because first of all, what is she doing there? And
second of all, if she is there, why are we
lying about it if we don't have anything to be
concerned about, because she shouldn't have been there, and then
we lied. I don't like it exactly.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
That's how I feel like it would have been one
thing if it was just like, oh yeah, you know,
like I she was there and it was, you know,
this total coincidence. We said high and that's it, like
it would It's the energy around the lie and the
fact that like it's I feel weird around everyone when
I've asked about it, and it kind of feels like
(03:22):
there's a lot more to the story than it was
just like a random chance meeting. Like it felt kind
of like Oh, you're all in on this, and I
you're telling me kind of the same story, and so
I don't know. I guess like I'm just really at
a point where I'm just not quite sure what to do, because,
(03:44):
like I said, you know, I'm getting married to this guy,
you know, in a couple of months, and I don't
feel like he's being totally honest with me about something
that seems to be like a really big deal.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Because I feel like what happens is something very benign
that he could have just told you, because Okay, so
he went to top Golf, and they probably went to
bars and restaurants or whatever, so there's you know, if
it was around here and the ex lives around here,
then sure there's an opportunity for them to run into
each other if it's like a popular place. But at
the same time, that could have been a benign Oh yeah,
(04:16):
we ran into her, Hey, what's going on? Whatever, and
everybody knew her because my friends knew her and whatever,
and it was a bachelor party. But then as soon
as you lie about it, it takes what could have
been a benign experience and now makes it suspect because
if it weren't suspect, then you would just say I
ran into se and so end of story. And why
are the friends talking about it with their girlfriends and stuff?
(04:38):
Like if it was it was a benign, you know,
sort of passing fleeting moment, then why why is it
being discussed? I don't like that. It's a lie.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
It handle this all women, we're blessed with.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
This gift is called intuition, right, and it's something that
happens in your stomach where you get a little bubble
guts when you know your man and it's lying to you.
So I know you feel this, girl, I know you
felt this when you ask him the first time and
he lied, You can feel that something is not right.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
And if you're going into.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
Marriage where he's already lying to you and like straight
up boldly in your face, where there's cameras and social media,
you can clearly find out if he actually ran into
this ex he's not even lying, he's not even telling
good lies. I think you guys need to definitely have
a deep conversation, some counseling, pre marital counseling before you
get married, because lying at this stage in your relationship
(05:30):
when you're supposed to be the happiest ever and getting
ready to take your nuptials.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
That's a big red flag for me here.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Have you ever doubt of him before? I mean, has
he ever done anything that's given you pause? Has he
ever cheated? Or have you ever caught him in a lie?
I just don't get it. I mean, I understand that
exes are sort of it's kind of a tenuous topic.
I get that, like talking about ex'es and running into
exes can make people insecure and whatever, and so you
maybe avoid some of that stuff if it's really just
(05:58):
sort of passive. But I mean, if everybody saw this
and it was nothing, then I don't know why he
doesn't just say something. I mean, if it was enough
that it was enough that one of the guys at
the bachelor party went home and told his girl, and
that his girl told you, then there was something more
than just a oh hey, run it right, right, right right.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Well.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
The thing is is that, like i've known him, our
relationship has gone really quickly. I've known him for like
a year and a half. We got engaged like a
half year in and so it's been a pretty long engagement.
But that's also been like the vast majority of our relationship.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
And so the thing is is.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
That I, you know, I'm still learning about him, like
it's really it's been a long time, but it hasn't
been that long. And so I know that like he has,
you know, a little bit of questionable past from you know,
different times of his life. Like I get it, you know,
we all do to some degree, but this is really,
I guess giving.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Me big pause.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
But at the same time time, we have two hundred
and fifty people coming that have confirmed, which is crazy,
like who can how many whose wedding actually has that
many people actually confirm two months out? And also like
it's it's not cheap, like weddings aren't cheap, Like we're
spending a lot of money. We've already spent a lot
(07:19):
of money, and so I feel like this huge pressure
is like on top of all of it.
Speaker 6 (07:25):
Yeah, yeah, I hear you, girl, But like cut I
don't want to say cut your wedding, like you know
what I mean, or to cancel your wedding, but you
need to really think about this because a lifelong commitment
is going to cost you a lot more mentally, physically, emotionally,
then you know what I mean, cutting off you're a
two hundred and fifty person wedding truly true.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Yeah, I agree with that. I mean, you hear this
sometimes you hear people say like, wow, something bad happened,
but we're already you know, we've already invested X y Z.
It's like, well, it's going to be a lot more
expensive if you marry someone and then have to divorce
them when your intuition told you not to get married.
But I'm not saying that this this necessarily reaches that
point because we don't really know. But I don't I
(08:05):
don't like the fact that even if it was obfuscation,
even if it was like smoking mirrors a little bit,
I don't like it because I think he could have
just copped to it and then you don't have to
hear about it from somebody else, and then we're not
even having this conversation. But yes, well I'm gonna take
some phone calls, let me see what people have to say,
and you can have the radio on and we wish
you the very best of luck. Okay, thank you so much.
(08:28):
Eight five five five one three five. So just to
recap here, this woman is getting married soon. Her fiance
had a bachelor party at the bachelor party, she finds
out from one of the I guess one of the
girlfriends and one of the guys that was there that
he quote unquote ran into his ex. So if if
that wasn't that big of a deal, then I don't
(08:49):
know why it is that this has to come up
after the fact. That being said, it's possible as being
blown out of proportion too, because he he's not necessarily
obligated to go through the entire list of people that
he ran into, you know, out in public, because it's
very well possible that if he had his bachelor party
in the same general area where they dated, then that
(09:11):
he might see that person, like you know what I mean,
he doesn't really have any control over that. And it's
not as though she said did you see your ex?
And he said, well, I guess did she ask him?
And then he said no, yeah he did. He did, yeah,
And I couldn't remember. I couldn't remember if it was
because I had the intention's made of a nat if
she had said that she asked and he said no,
(09:32):
or he just he just didn't tell her that it happened.
So that's yeah, So he allowed to her face and
a lot of people in the text. Most people in
the text just saying you got to run and and
don't worry about the fact that you have money invested
in a wedding because as I mentioned, uh, you know,
divorces in breaking up are expensive too. What do you
guys think?
Speaker 6 (09:50):
Yeah, I feel like somebody almost like not even set
them up, but I feel like one of their friends
maybe like made this happen. I know I'm reaching here,
but like I feel like one of the odds a running.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Into your acts.
Speaker 6 (09:59):
I know you're saying I feel in the same city
you might, but then like, why are you of course
lying about it number one, But I feel like this
was almost like a pre planned thing.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (10:07):
Yeah, it's given very much pre planned by him. I
feel like sometimes men before they get.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Married, yeah, I like always yeah, we.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Love, we love to reach, but I mean that is
they reach. We don't have any I think.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
He'll set this up.
Speaker 5 (10:23):
I think he was caught hanging out with his ex
and his bachelor friends saw it or whatever. Because sometimes
men like to go back in their old.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Spots before they commit.
Speaker 5 (10:33):
They like to spend the block one more time, just
to see what's out there, just to check it or
they commit I've had this, you know, I know people
who have had this experience where you know, I'm getting
I'm gonna. I'm gonna get married soon, you know, but
I still want to see what's good with me and
you before I get married.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
That's insane, but men do it.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
So yeah, but why would you do that in public?
Like why would you do that so blatantly in front
of a bunch of other people? Like, if that's what
you're trying to do, you could accomplish that without anybody knowing.
Because yeah, but but again, if I'm doing something nefarious,
I guess I can do it without without everybody knowing.
I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna have ten of my
(11:11):
best friends there and be like, oh, look I invited
so and so so I can smash before I get
married to Isabelle.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
But see's why I think a friend, maybe the.
Speaker 6 (11:19):
Best man, was involved and orchestrated this whole thing, because
then it's.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Like I'm off the hook. Hey, you know Jimmy did that.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
I didn't invite her.
Speaker 7 (11:25):
Jimmy did, even though he still lies. Messy, Jimmy, damn
it messy as Jimmy. It's always Jimmy and little Friends.
Hey Alice, Good morning, Alice. How are you my good morning?
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I feel like I'm talking to celebrities. Well you should
aim higher if you consider as celebrities. We're just well
you guys.
Speaker 8 (11:45):
Don't know this, but you're my best friends every morning.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
So hey, you know what, thank you and you are
ours and we're very grateful for you. What uh what
do you think here? Stay or go with this situation
with the bachelor party?
Speaker 8 (11:56):
Oh god, I think I think it's I.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Think she should stay.
Speaker 8 (12:01):
I just have this feeling that maybe his friends kind
of set this up as like some sort of like
Frank or something, be like, oh, we should totally have
is like X come around and she'll just pop up,
and like, I don't know, and maybe that's why he
was Maybe his ex does mean a little bit more
to him than Isabelle thinks, and maybe his bachelor friends
(12:26):
we're like, oh, we should totally just have her show
up and it'll be so funny.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Hmm. Yeah, I don't know. I don't think a good
friend would necessarily set that up as a joke, because
then it yes this scenario.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
But I also, yes, real, yes, I know, I agree and.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Alice, I appreciate you so much for listening. Have a
great day. Thanks for calling you too.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Yeah, I I just I don't know. I think the
fact because you got to remember, one of these dudes
went home and told somebody it was enough of a
story to tell the other some other people about this
such that it could and then it was enough it
weighed enough on somebody to then go and tell her.
(13:09):
So this was not just a you know, hey, peace sign,
nice to see you, you know what I mean? Like this,
someone knew something and told someone something that weighed on
them so much that they had to go tell her.
Speaker 9 (13:20):
So why, I mean, could have just spen it in passing,
like you know, they bumped in each other and they
said hi, and it was part of a story. And
then you know, her friend ran with it and went
and told her and now you know it got blown up.
But it's the lying for me that's the biggest issue.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
And I am guilty.
Speaker 9 (13:39):
I think you know of not telling someone something because
you didn't want to hurt their feelings, But this is
a perfect example of how that goes awry. Right, Like
it's a really inopportune time to be dealing with a
lie like this.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Yep, yeah, yeah, it's a bad sign. Latronia, is it?
Latronia high? Hey, Hey, what do you think stre Go?
She need to go? Okay? Why?
Speaker 3 (14:08):
Well, he lied about it. He could have just told
her before everybody else told her, And I mean, what
was there to hide?
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Yeah? Why is this being talked about? That's That's what
I'm That's what I'm thinking about. Thank you, Latronia. I'm
glad you called. Have a good day you too. That's
where I'm at. I'm like, why are we talking about
this if it's just some chance encounter?
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (14:30):
John, how you doing? How are you doing? John? What
do you think is there? Go?
Speaker 3 (14:36):
I'm gonna say stay, I'm gonna have the guys at
bachelor parties act up. And it's kind of a written
rule or unwritten rule too, after a bachelor party, you
kind of keep everything within the guys. And I think
I think that. I think the guy I've I've came
(14:57):
home to my wife before and kind of filled some
beans and uh, you know, just some silly you know
kind of what went on, and uh, you know, it's
in my opinion, the guy, uh really could just come
out and kind of squash it and say nothing happened.
If nothing really happened, But there is at every wedding
(15:19):
that I've been to, including my own, you have your
bachelor party where all the guys at the party are
looking at each other with a half smirk on your
face because you know you kind.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Of kind of silly stuff. Would you repeat that was
so silly that you shouldn't have repeated?
Speaker 1 (15:34):
Yeah, what kind of violence of guy code are you
RESPONSI what's silly?
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Well, that's I mean, that's kind of the That's kind
of my point is that the guy could come out
and squash it if there is something that got kind
of brought up. But uh, that's it's.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Just boys being boys.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
And if bachelor parties get goofy, and I think that
that's kind of it could get.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
It.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
It's real simple if, in my opinion, the girl who's
got this conflict just needs to come out and just
sit down on them and say, listen, tell me, you know,
tell me what happened, because it's getting to this big
big at this point, you gotta you gotta lay it
all up there, all right, By John? I mean, well
(16:20):
I hope they stay.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Boys will be boys, Boy, boys will be boys. John
thank you, have a good day. So hey, you know what,
it got a little goofy according to John, who wasn't there,
by the way, he has no idea, but he got
a little goofy and guys will be guys. I like
he was there.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I felt like he was lying to me right there.
A lot of word.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
Salad, ladies. I'm so sorry on behalf of my gender.
Boys will be boys though, So sorry.
Speaker 6 (16:42):
Don't you dare have smirk to your friend as I'm
walking down the aisle.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
We got real silly.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Oh you know what. I've been to a lot of
bachelor parties and I can honestly tell you, I can
honestly tell you one hundred I've probably been to twenty
bachelor bad ten ten bachelor parties, and I've never seen
anything that was so bad that I was like, oh
my god. I mean maybe a strip club or something
like that, but like nothing, no infidelity, no cheating, no lying,
(17:12):
no nothing. I didn't see anything where I was like,
I'm not sure if I could live with this. And
you know what I mean, I didn't go to the
wedding and I just had my hands, you know, on
my face, going oh no, don't do it.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
I'd like to do that, like that makes me feel better.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
So I don't know, like I don't know what kind
of bachelor party John's going through over here, but hey,
you know what, it gets a little silly at these things,
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