April 15, 2025 • 10 mins
Christine is confused why her date won't call her back after a fun date.. Could it be because she used the "M word". Find out why she got ghosted!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show.
Hi Christina, good morning, how are you?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Good morning?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
You know I'm doing okay, just you know, just a
little confused in my dating life.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
I guess, right right, Okay, Well that's what we're here for.
Why don't you tell us about this guy Alex? How
did you meet? I want to hear about any dates
that you've been on, and then you know what's happening
right now.
Speaker 3 (00:25):
So I met this guy Alex on Hinge and you know,
after we matched, we did talk for a few days
until he finally asked me out, you know, for drinks,
and that actually turned into dinner, which was you know,
which was nice.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
You know.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
For some reason though, Alex kind of stopped responding to me,
and I don't really know if I have any more
energy for any.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
More first dates.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
So I guess I'm calling because I you know, i'd
like you to figure out what's going on with this one.
I really don't know.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Okay, So you really thought everything went really well and
I always ask these questions, but you know, you look
back on the date, the conversation was good, you thought
there was chemistry, You felt like, you know, the back
and forth was going on, and the whole thing nothing awkward, nothing,
nothing weird.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Yeah, I mean I really thought back to the entire
like date night, The conversations.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Were easy and breezy.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
You know, we laughed a little bit here and there,
food and drinks for good and you know, overall, I
just felt like we enjoyed each other's company. So that's
why I'm kind of sitting over here like, well, why
are you leaving me on read?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
You know what I mean? Yeah? Yeah, And look, I
say this all the time about the dating apps because
I've been on and off them forever. When you meet
someone and you feel a certain kind of way, you know,
and they and they feel it feels different from the
other matches and there's actual chemistry, cause that's something you
can't gauge on the dating apps, right, is if there's
going to be in person chemistry. So when you go
out with someone and then you sense that, then you
(01:44):
know you you were hoping that goes someplace exactly.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Yeah, you know, this entire dating world on the apps
has really just turned a lot of us off to
the concept of even dating and being in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yeah, well, let's call this guy Alex, You're gonna be
on the phone at the same time. We're going to
ask these questions for you if we can get a
hold of him, and you know, the hope is always
is that we can figure out what's up, straighten it out,
set you guys up on another date, and then we'll
pay for that.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
All right, that sounds good on my end.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Let's find out what's up. In Part two of Waiting
at the Phone after Sabrina Carpenter, we're back in two
minutes on The Fred Show. He's the Fread Show. Good morning,
thanks for having us on the radio. On the iHeart
app live and anytime search for The Fred Show on demand. Christina, Yeah, okay,
let's call Alex. You guys met on one of the
dating apps. You went in a date. You felt like
the chemistry was good, the back and forth was good,
(02:31):
You were attracted to him, you got the vibe he
was into you. The problem is you haven't heard from
this guy since that date, and it's bugging you. You've
been thinking a lot about it, and you want to
know what happened, what was going on?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Yeah, exactly, I just don't like the last Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Let's call him now. Good luck. Hello. Hi is this Alex?
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Yeah, this is Alec Alex.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Hi, good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling for
the Freend's Show, the morning radio show. I have to
tell you that we are on the radio right now.
I would need your permission to Yeah, I need you
permission to continue with the call. Is that cool? Foot
chat for just a second?
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Oh yeah, that's cool?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Okay, Well, thank you. We're calling on behalf of a
woman who reached out to us. Her name is Christina,
and I guess you recently went on a date after
matching on one of the apps. Do you remember her? Oh?
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yeah, I remember?
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Okay, good, So what happened? Because she just got done
telling us that she liked you and was attracted to
you and thought the date went well and all these things,
but says she hasn't heard from you since then. You
haven't called her, texted it or responded or anything like that.
So what happened? What's not?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Nothing too much? The day was just pretty good and
then like I don't know, she did something that made
me feel kind of weird. So basically, like throughout the
whole date, she was like at first, there was something
like a napkin she'd stick it in her purse, and
then like she was like a spoon, she's stuck it
in her purse. A menu, she's stuck it in her purse,
and like I didn't know if she was like a
kleptomaniac or something, but eventually I finally brought up to
(04:02):
her and then she's like, Oh, I'm just saving a
bunch of stuff from our first date in case we
end up getting married someday. I'm not ready to think
about marriage at all.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Yeah, so I stole them to marry you. She stole
them any in case you guys got married, and somehow
I don't know, she could like give it to your
children that you're gonna have.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Yeah, yes, you know, so they could know what the
soup special was, you know, on a first state, Like
I don't know. It just kind of spooked me, like
it wasn't a big deal, but yeah, it was just
like it seemed like she's pretty eager to, you know,
jump into marriage or something.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
So like I've heard about people doing this, by the way,
I've heard about people keeping like that, you know, the
concert ticket stub or the some sort of momento, but
they do it quietly. They're not that obvious about it,
because it's like one of those things where later then
you give it to them and it's like, oh my gosh,
that was so sweet that you collected all this stuff.
But then if it doesn't work out, they never know
you did it right. But this woman is just doing
(04:55):
it right in front of you. So someday, if you
get married, she can give you back the spoon that
she ate from.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah, I mean you'd have to ask her her train
of thought on that, but.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Yeah, all right, well, good, hey, good news because I
can Christina is here. I forgot Yeah, I forgot to
mention that part. I'm sorry. I'm very I'm often very
forgetful with these things. Christina, is this what happened? You
were saving things from the date so that you could
I don't know, like as a as a momento.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
I mean honestly, I didn't really think about that as
like a red flag on my end. Eventually, you know,
one of the first date will not say little things
just in case, you know, I mean.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
For one purpose exactly, Like so like, remember the menu here,
it is from years ago when we met. I mean,
is that a scrap book? Yeah? Right? Are you keeping
a scrap book? Are you keep. Is it like for
evidence purposes? Like, what are we doing?
Speaker 3 (05:49):
No, it's just like, you know, the relationship will move
forward eventually, someday, you know, we could be husband and
wife and it would just be nice to have see
you little mementos from our first date where you know,
things that you know our relationships get started essentially.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Okay, No, because I really have heard about this. I've
heard about guys who keep little things early on and
then later they're like, hey, look, and then they give
it to the person in some form of yeah, like
a scrap book or something, and it usually comes off
sweet if you're really into the person. But again, if
if it winds up going you know, falling flat, then
you throw this stuff away. It's like it never happened.
(06:26):
I have heard this. I've heard of guys doing it
for girls. I haven't heard it the other way around.
But you're saying, Alex that this was at first You're like,
I think she's a thief, which we've had that before.
By the way, I'm waiting by the phone where people
are stealing like the ketchup and the salt and pepper shakers,
but I guess their personal use or something. But you're
saying it just kind of freaks you out because she's
ten steps ahead of you.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Yeah, at the end of the day, like it's not
necessarily about you know, taking this stuff. It's just like,
you know, we literally just met and like somehow on
our first date, you know, the conversation gets turned to
talking about marriage. Like that's just on any first date.
I don't think you should use the M word at all.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
I would think that's probably pretty safe. Yeah, I mean, Christina,
can you see how this might have looked to somebody
who's just getting to know you, might be a little
easily spooked about the commitment thing, doesn't even know your
you know last name. I mean not, no, not really.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
I honestly I do this on every first day I
have just in case, and honestly, I like, you really
shouldn't feel so special about that. You're not the first guy.
I do that too.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
How many how many second dates do you this?
Speaker 3 (07:31):
I mean, depending on the guy, I you know, you
a little bit here and there. I wouldn't say, like
my rate is one hundred percent overall.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
But who is? How many menus do you have? I
mean do you even have to look up? You know,
like what's there anymore. I'm just careing. I'm just wondering.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
No, No, I mean again, I would say I just
date the normal amount. And I really don't think it's
a huge deal that I like to keep things from
you know, things that can potentially matter to meet down
in the future. And yeah, I'm out on second dates.
And honestly, this is the first time that anyone has
(08:08):
actually said anything to me about, you know, taking the
mentors from our first game. So Alex, you're you're starting
to feel like you're really special here.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
But one I know, yeah, I don't know that we
need to necessarily diss the man. I mean, you know,
this is what you chose to do, and and you
announced it, and the guy spooked, and he has a
right to that. I mean, that's not uncommon early on
in relationships that people if you're already indicating a level
of seriousness, that that person isn't necessarily prepared to, you know,
(08:43):
accept because they don't know you that well. So I
don't know if it's the taking of the men you
per se. I think it's the fact that you're like, well,
we might get married some days, Walkie. I mean, we're
halfway through the date. I don't. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
There's so many restaurants out there though, that are like missing,
right right.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, a lot of places wonder where there's spoons and
silver were went this economy? Yeah, okay, look, so I'll
ask the question, Alex. I think I know the answer,
but I'm required to ask you. Would you like to
go out with Christina again if she leaves all of
the restaurant's items at the restaurant?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
No, like after this awkwardness, and like I think it
says the best. You know, we go our separate way.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Thank you, dude, Seriously, you are not special, so you
have to stop.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
We you know, we we were clear he was special
when we did all this other stuff, but then about
halfway through the call, he became unspecial, right, Yeah, I was.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Special enough to steal a spoon for come.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
On, she does that for everyone. Okay, yeah, no, and
it's it's petty. That's petty theft or something that's a
misdemeanor at least okay that.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
She may not be Superman, but I'm spoonman, baby.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yeah, I don't know. I don't know spoon man. I'm
not sure about that one. But Christina, get that on
the app schoon Man's taken. I guess I don't know.
That was weird, all right. Anyway, good luck for both
of you guys. Thank you for your time,
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show.
Hi Christina, good morning, how are you?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Good morning?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
You know I'm doing okay, just you know, just a
little confused in my dating life.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
I guess, right right, Okay, Well that's what we're here for.
Why don't you tell us about this guy Alex? How
did you meet? I want to hear about any dates
that you've been on, and then you know what's happening
right now.
Speaker 3 (00:25):
So I met this guy Alex on Hinge and you know,
after we matched, we did talk for a few days
until he finally asked me out, you know, for drinks,
and that actually turned into dinner, which was you know,
which was nice.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
You know.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
For some reason though, Alex kind of stopped responding to me,
and I don't really know if I have any more
energy for any.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
More first dates.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
So I guess I'm calling because I you know, i'd
like you to figure out what's going on with this one.
I really don't know.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Okay, So you really thought everything went really well and
I always ask these questions, but you know, you look
back on the date, the conversation was good, you thought
there was chemistry, You felt like, you know, the back
and forth was going on, and the whole thing nothing awkward, nothing,
nothing weird.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Yeah, I mean I really thought back to the entire
like date night, The conversations.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Were easy and breezy.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
You know, we laughed a little bit here and there,
food and drinks for good and you know, overall, I
just felt like we enjoyed each other's company. So that's
why I'm kind of sitting over here like, well, why
are you leaving me on read?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
You know what I mean? Yeah? Yeah, And look, I
say this all the time about the dating apps because
I've been on and off them forever. When you meet
someone and you feel a certain kind of way, you know,
and they and they feel it feels different from the
other matches and there's actual chemistry, cause that's something you
can't gauge on the dating apps, right, is if there's
going to be in person chemistry. So when you go
out with someone and then you sense that, then you
(01:44):
know you you were hoping that goes someplace exactly.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Yeah, you know, this entire dating world on the apps
has really just turned a lot of us off to
the concept of even dating and being in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yeah, well, let's call this guy Alex, You're gonna be
on the phone at the same time. We're going to
ask these questions for you if we can get a
hold of him, and you know, the hope is always
is that we can figure out what's up, straighten it out,
set you guys up on another date, and then we'll
pay for that.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
All right, that sounds good on my end.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Let's find out what's up. In Part two of Waiting
at the Phone after Sabrina Carpenter, we're back in two
minutes on The Fred Show. He's the Fread Show. Good morning,
thanks for having us on the radio. On the iHeart
app live and anytime search for The Fred Show on demand. Christina, Yeah, okay,
let's call Alex. You guys met on one of the
dating apps. You went in a date. You felt like
the chemistry was good, the back and forth was good,
(02:31):
You were attracted to him, you got the vibe he
was into you. The problem is you haven't heard from
this guy since that date, and it's bugging you. You've
been thinking a lot about it, and you want to
know what happened, what was going on?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Yeah, exactly, I just don't like the last Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Let's call him now. Good luck. Hello. Hi is this Alex?
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Yeah, this is Alec Alex.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Hi, good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling for
the Freend's Show, the morning radio show. I have to
tell you that we are on the radio right now.
I would need your permission to Yeah, I need you
permission to continue with the call. Is that cool? Foot
chat for just a second?
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Oh yeah, that's cool?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Okay, Well, thank you. We're calling on behalf of a
woman who reached out to us. Her name is Christina,
and I guess you recently went on a date after
matching on one of the apps. Do you remember her? Oh?
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yeah, I remember?
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Okay, good, So what happened? Because she just got done
telling us that she liked you and was attracted to
you and thought the date went well and all these things,
but says she hasn't heard from you since then. You
haven't called her, texted it or responded or anything like that.
So what happened? What's not?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Nothing too much? The day was just pretty good and
then like I don't know, she did something that made
me feel kind of weird. So basically, like throughout the
whole date, she was like at first, there was something
like a napkin she'd stick it in her purse, and
then like she was like a spoon, she's stuck it
in her purse. A menu, she's stuck it in her purse,
and like I didn't know if she was like a
kleptomaniac or something, but eventually I finally brought up to
(04:02):
her and then she's like, Oh, I'm just saving a
bunch of stuff from our first date in case we
end up getting married someday. I'm not ready to think
about marriage at all.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Yeah, so I stole them to marry you. She stole
them any in case you guys got married, and somehow
I don't know, she could like give it to your
children that you're gonna have.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Yeah, yes, you know, so they could know what the
soup special was, you know, on a first state, Like
I don't know. It just kind of spooked me, like
it wasn't a big deal, but yeah, it was just
like it seemed like she's pretty eager to, you know,
jump into marriage or something.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
So like I've heard about people doing this, by the way,
I've heard about people keeping like that, you know, the
concert ticket stub or the some sort of momento, but
they do it quietly. They're not that obvious about it,
because it's like one of those things where later then
you give it to them and it's like, oh my gosh,
that was so sweet that you collected all this stuff.
But then if it doesn't work out, they never know
you did it right. But this woman is just doing
(04:55):
it right in front of you. So someday, if you
get married, she can give you back the spoon that
she ate from.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah, I mean you'd have to ask her her train
of thought on that, but.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Yeah, all right, well, good, hey, good news because I
can Christina is here. I forgot Yeah, I forgot to
mention that part. I'm sorry. I'm very I'm often very
forgetful with these things. Christina, is this what happened? You
were saving things from the date so that you could
I don't know, like as a as a momento.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
I mean honestly, I didn't really think about that as
like a red flag on my end. Eventually, you know,
one of the first date will not say little things
just in case, you know, I mean.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
For one purpose exactly, Like so like, remember the menu here,
it is from years ago when we met. I mean,
is that a scrap book? Yeah? Right? Are you keeping
a scrap book? Are you keep. Is it like for
evidence purposes? Like, what are we doing?
Speaker 3 (05:49):
No, it's just like, you know, the relationship will move
forward eventually, someday, you know, we could be husband and
wife and it would just be nice to have see
you little mementos from our first date where you know,
things that you know our relationships get started essentially.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Okay, No, because I really have heard about this. I've
heard about guys who keep little things early on and
then later they're like, hey, look, and then they give
it to the person in some form of yeah, like
a scrap book or something, and it usually comes off
sweet if you're really into the person. But again, if
if it winds up going you know, falling flat, then
you throw this stuff away. It's like it never happened.
(06:26):
I have heard this. I've heard of guys doing it
for girls. I haven't heard it the other way around.
But you're saying, Alex that this was at first You're like,
I think she's a thief, which we've had that before.
By the way, I'm waiting by the phone where people
are stealing like the ketchup and the salt and pepper shakers,
but I guess their personal use or something. But you're
saying it just kind of freaks you out because she's
ten steps ahead of you.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Yeah, at the end of the day, like it's not
necessarily about you know, taking this stuff. It's just like,
you know, we literally just met and like somehow on
our first date, you know, the conversation gets turned to
talking about marriage. Like that's just on any first date.
I don't think you should use the M word at all.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
I would think that's probably pretty safe. Yeah, I mean, Christina,
can you see how this might have looked to somebody
who's just getting to know you, might be a little
easily spooked about the commitment thing, doesn't even know your
you know last name. I mean not, no, not really.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
I honestly I do this on every first day I
have just in case, and honestly, I like, you really
shouldn't feel so special about that. You're not the first guy.
I do that too.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
How many how many second dates do you this?
Speaker 3 (07:31):
I mean, depending on the guy, I you know, you
a little bit here and there. I wouldn't say, like
my rate is one hundred percent overall.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
But who is? How many menus do you have? I
mean do you even have to look up? You know,
like what's there anymore. I'm just careing. I'm just wondering.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
No, No, I mean again, I would say I just
date the normal amount. And I really don't think it's
a huge deal that I like to keep things from
you know, things that can potentially matter to meet down
in the future. And yeah, I'm out on second dates.
And honestly, this is the first time that anyone has
(08:08):
actually said anything to me about, you know, taking the
mentors from our first game. So Alex, you're you're starting
to feel like you're really special here.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
But one I know, yeah, I don't know that we
need to necessarily diss the man. I mean, you know,
this is what you chose to do, and and you
announced it, and the guy spooked, and he has a
right to that. I mean, that's not uncommon early on
in relationships that people if you're already indicating a level
of seriousness, that that person isn't necessarily prepared to, you know,
(08:43):
accept because they don't know you that well. So I
don't know if it's the taking of the men you
per se. I think it's the fact that you're like, well,
we might get married some days, Walkie. I mean, we're
halfway through the date. I don't. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
There's so many restaurants out there though, that are like missing,
right right.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, a lot of places wonder where there's spoons and
silver were went this economy? Yeah, okay, look, so I'll
ask the question, Alex. I think I know the answer,
but I'm required to ask you. Would you like to
go out with Christina again if she leaves all of
the restaurant's items at the restaurant?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
No, like after this awkwardness, and like I think it
says the best. You know, we go our separate way.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Thank you, dude, Seriously, you are not special, so you
have to stop.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
We you know, we we were clear he was special
when we did all this other stuff, but then about
halfway through the call, he became unspecial, right, Yeah, I was.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Special enough to steal a spoon for come.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
On, she does that for everyone. Okay, yeah, no, and
it's it's petty. That's petty theft or something that's a
misdemeanor at least okay that.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
She may not be Superman, but I'm spoonman, baby.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yeah, I don't know. I don't know spoon man. I'm
not sure about that one. But Christina, get that on
the app schoon Man's taken. I guess I don't know.
That was weird, all right. Anyway, good luck for both
of you guys. Thank you for your time,
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